Complicity is all about protecting one's own psychological safety. It takes discipline to step back, consciously consider the long term implications of in/action - either in one's own poor behaviour (WILL) or bystanding when others do so. And that's one of the reasons I love being a leadership coach!!! It's a gift to help people find the courage to to act in line with what they really want to do. And to know that even brilliant jerks should not and need not be tolerated by anyone, anytime, anywhere.
I have a bully in the workplace. She is an outright bully. She talks down to people, she's passive aggressive, and embarrasses people, especially those under her, in meetings. However, she is great at her job, organized and knows her stuff. Plus, she is a department of one - her! EVERYONE knows she's a bully, and everyone also knows she wont be let go. How would you handle this?
Start looking at how you define doing their job well. How many others in your organization are also exhibiting this same behaviours, that are being modeled? There will be a cost to your business. How many of your relationships with clients are being impacted by this bullyiing behaviour?
Complicity is all about protecting one's own psychological safety. It takes discipline to step back, consciously consider the long term implications of in/action - either in one's own poor behaviour (WILL) or bystanding when others do so. And that's one of the reasons I love being a leadership coach!!! It's a gift to help people find the courage to to act in line with what they really want to do. And to know that even brilliant jerks should not and need not be tolerated by anyone, anytime, anywhere.
I really like how you discuss that the benevolence or non-profit organizations are not exempt from bullying. I was very surprised to see this.
Thanks for your comment, Nathalie!
Love the segmentation of SKILL, WILL, and INTENT. Excellent video!!
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!
I have a bully in the workplace. She is an outright bully. She talks down to people, she's passive aggressive, and embarrasses people, especially those under her, in meetings. However, she is great at her job, organized and knows her stuff. Plus, she is a department of one - her! EVERYONE knows she's a bully, and everyone also knows she wont be let go. How would you handle this?
Start tracking people who leave because of her. You'll realize she is too expensive to keep around.
Start looking at how you define doing their job well. How many others in your organization are also exhibiting this same behaviours, that are being modeled? There will be a cost to your business. How many of your relationships with clients are being impacted by this bullyiing behaviour?
Excellent insights!
Thanks for watching!