Nothing will secure your decision to be a solo parent like hearing how other parents talk about their spouses. I swear some days I get home from playgroup and just go hug my husband because he's a wonderful dad and husband.
It's *wild* the stories you hear and relationships you see in hospital. It really does make you realise how many great women are in relationships with dodgy men
They give men such a bad name. My husband was wonderful, supportive and there for me the entire time. I didn't give my first son a bottle until he was 10 days old. My husband did everything so I could pump around the clock to provide the milk. I'm so grateful for him.
I cannot imagine sharing a room postpartum! I know that wasn't the point of this video but omg that just sounds horrible! I was a bleeding, leaking mess after I gave birth and if I had to share a bathroom...No just NO!
I didn't have to share a room, and I'll admit it's not for everyone (it definitely wouldn't have been my jam, I was naked 90. But some people find it really reassuring to know that no matter how your baby arrives you will be covered in bodily fluids and feel like a truck full of emotions just ran you over. I remember when my mum had her fourth I was 12, and this poor first time mum in the bed beside her couldn't figure out her latch while engorged and mum was sitting there on the bed beside her giving a practical demonstration.
I've been in these wards with both my kids and it's typically a very chill environment you're all just there to rest and recover and get to know your baby, it's literally the only time it'll be you and baby for most people. My husband went home for the night to look after our son and then came back the morning and honestly it was amazing to have that me time just me and my new baby It's not fun to share a room if course when you're feeling rubbish and then having to walk to the bathroom/ have your catheter bag on show isn't always fun but everyone's there for the same reason and mostly keep themselves to themselves, as much as a thin curtain will let them 😂
Some parents really would be better off raising their kids alone because their partner is just another child! My hospital doesn't allow overnight stays by partners so while I had a cannula hanging out of my wrist a midwife was absolutely changing the nappies. But when you are a fully physically capable adult? You made the baby, you care for the baby! My husband changed 99% of the nappies when he was at the hospital and at home on paternity leave.
Wow, I am so grateful for my husband being with me in hospital. I had an unplanned C-section and he jumped all the time to keep me from getting up (I am a terrible patient especially when high on adrenaline). He also supported me in my fight for breast feeding even though his personal opinion differed from mine, he knew this was primarily my descision and only stepped in later when I got really irrational about the entire topic. By the way in Germany there are usually 2-3 women in a room and I have never seen curtains 😮
You usually have them next to you in a plastic crib. Depending on if they're poorly or not sometimes the mum is on the ward on her own or has the baby with her part time between the ward and NICU but typically the baby is beside you in their cot. And yes they absolutely do wake everyone else up , but I learnt fast what my babys cry was so you tend to phase other people / babies out after a few seconds. If you imagine there's 6/7 rooms with upto 4/6 babies in each it gets awful chaotic on that floor. But like I say you're too tired to let someone else's baby keep you awake. Although I will say one night one of the husbands in the ward was snoring louder than I've ever heard anyone snore in my life and that did keep me awake 😴😂
Nothing will secure your decision to be a solo parent like hearing how other parents talk about their spouses. I swear some days I get home from playgroup and just go hug my husband because he's a wonderful dad and husband.
It's *wild* the stories you hear and relationships you see in hospital. It really does make you realise how many great women are in relationships with dodgy men
Gasping for air, that's horrible and reminds me of a special someone... You are saving yourself from so much head- and heartache.
They give men such a bad name. My husband was wonderful, supportive and there for me the entire time. I didn't give my first son a bottle until he was 10 days old. My husband did everything so I could pump around the clock to provide the milk. I'm so grateful for him.
That is absolutely NOT the midwife’s job! For some women a husband/boyfriend is like an extra child rather than a partner
I cannot imagine sharing a room postpartum! I know that wasn't the point of this video but omg that just sounds horrible! I was a bleeding, leaking mess after I gave birth and if I had to share a bathroom...No just NO!
I didn't have to share a room, and I'll admit it's not for everyone (it definitely wouldn't have been my jam, I was naked 90. But some people find it really reassuring to know that no matter how your baby arrives you will be covered in bodily fluids and feel like a truck full of emotions just ran you over. I remember when my mum had her fourth I was 12, and this poor first time mum in the bed beside her couldn't figure out her latch while engorged and mum was sitting there on the bed beside her giving a practical demonstration.
I've been in these wards with both my kids and it's typically a very chill environment you're all just there to rest and recover and get to know your baby, it's literally the only time it'll be you and baby for most people.
My husband went home for the night to look after our son and then came back the morning and honestly it was amazing to have that me time just me and my new baby
It's not fun to share a room if course when you're feeling rubbish and then having to walk to the bathroom/ have your catheter bag on show isn't always fun but everyone's there for the same reason and mostly keep themselves to themselves, as much as a thin curtain will let them 😂
Some parents really would be better off raising their kids alone because their partner is just another child!
My hospital doesn't allow overnight stays by partners so while I had a cannula hanging out of my wrist a midwife was absolutely changing the nappies. But when you are a fully physically capable adult? You made the baby, you care for the baby! My husband changed 99% of the nappies when he was at the hospital and at home on paternity leave.
Wow, I am so grateful for my husband being with me in hospital. I had an unplanned C-section and he jumped all the time to keep me from getting up (I am a terrible patient especially when high on adrenaline). He also supported me in my fight for breast feeding even though his personal opinion differed from mine, he knew this was primarily my descision and only stepped in later when I got really irrational about the entire topic.
By the way in Germany there are usually 2-3 women in a room and I have never seen curtains 😮
I was in for a week and all the partners seemed lovely plus they aren't allowed to stay the night.
I have a question about shared wards…. Where are the babies? Do they wake everyone up given not all newborn babies will follow the same patterns?
You usually have them next to you in a plastic crib. Depending on if they're poorly or not sometimes the mum is on the ward on her own or has the baby with her part time between the ward and NICU but typically the baby is beside you in their cot. And yes they absolutely do wake everyone else up , but I learnt fast what my babys cry was so you tend to phase other people / babies out after a few seconds. If you imagine there's 6/7 rooms with upto 4/6 babies in each it gets awful chaotic on that floor. But like I say you're too tired to let someone else's baby keep you awake.
Although I will say one night one of the husbands in the ward was snoring louder than I've ever heard anyone snore in my life and that did keep me awake 😴😂
@@ralbynb158 thank you! Home birth (assuming all is healthy and suitable for one) sounds far more up my street now hahaha
You are going to be perfectly fine and so is your son. Good job !