Girl Chat: 'I Am Not My Hair'
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- Guest co-host Remy Ma sits down with the ladies of “The Real” to discuss the judgment and bias African-American women face with their natural hair. Loni Love emphasizes the importance of acceptance.
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I love Tamera’s hair, but I hate when people say that mixed curly hair is the only “good hair” when it comes to curly hair... HEALTHY hair is good hair. 4C hair is just as good and beautiful as any other hair type.
Cyann honestly, type four is my favorite hair 😍. It’s so thick and rich. But I could be biased. I don’t know. I just love how pretty it is. I think people love European genes a little too much that’s why they favor mixed hair so much 🙄😒
Mixed hair isn’t a thing tho . I hate when people say that . I know mixed race girls with 3b curls and I know mixed race girls with 4c hair . Everyone’s hair is beautiful ( unless it’s damaged ) . The phrase “ good hair “ bothers me so much .
@@angelaleaa480 I'm mixed and my hair is 4 C for sure 😘
@@angelaleaa480 damaged hair is beautiful too
@@TheSweetForever The whole conversation was saying people promote the love yourself natural thing ( as in really harass you for relaxing your hair and telling you that you hate yourself for wearing wigs) but they only like your natural if natural fits thier narrative. I have several times had HAIRDRESSERS have the INDECENCY to say , "you're mixed. Why is your hair not soft?" Because....you know....all mixed people are supposed to look alike.
everyone posting "im early"... are you really early if it's an old video? lol
😂😂 great point
J. Jo it’s not old tho? i’m confused lol
Lol 😂
You ruined it for everyone 🤣🤣🤣
last time a comment criticizing the comment section was this early, tamar was still a cohost...
"A new study" MY BEHIND! We all knew this! ALSO! I'm tired of people saying that there is bad hair (regarding texture)! Unless your hair is chemically disturbed there is no bad hair. God gave me my nappy hair and I couldn't be happier!
Jordyn Elliott preach!
Nappy is used in as a bad term to describe black women hair. Can we please reframe from using it?
Let’s use coily instead of “nappy”. I don’t think we should claim the insults from others
3 out of the 4 women Jeannie named were mixed race and also light skinned. The media have a long way to go when it comes to images of black women with their natural hair. 😔
But Tamera came through w Lupita, she knows her roots.
@@jasi7313 not denying that but she came through with only one name, one example. And Lupita has only been talked about what the last 2-3 years. Imagine 😔
@@geekchickaz yeah, I didn't dispute the fact that mixed Black women are given a lot more representation in the media.
@@geekchickaz but it's true that there aren't as many examples of dark skinned, afro haired women.
@@jasi7313 Yes. Colourism is our first fight, and one of the most important for black people in the media. But we shouldn't have to fear being natural if that's our choice. It shouldn't mean not being booked for a job as Loni and Tamera were mentioning. If you talented, then your talented. 😊
Adrienne was onto something. I think some major points were missed in this discussions.
i think Adrienne wanted to go into the deeper, psychological explanation on why people find black hair 'fascinating and un-sexy'.
I’m glad Remy said at the end what half of us were thinking... Like yes curly hair is being more accepted but most of the ones that people praise are the “mixed” girl hair types or loose ones like Tamera yet I’m sitting over here with my 4c like.... they should have done the study to compare how people perceived straight, wavy, curly, and kinky to really see what those people would think.
And I love my hair! I’m just saying ALL types should be celebrated from straight hair to tamera’s hair type to the kinkiest Afros!!
@Native Umm nope nothing wrong. I realize there are sooooo many types of 4a-4c from high to low density to tiny strands to thick strands.
Well I suppose "mixed" hair which is honestly up for discussion bc different curl patterns happen but the looser girls are only favored bc it resembles European hair...
Madison Lakes black hair comes in different types from 3b-4 c “mixed hair isn’t a thing a black girl doesn’t have to have white parent to have 3c hair there are black folks with a white parent with 4c hair lets just say hair texture and not “mixed hair “ all blackness is beautiful all hair types all shades
I remember when they did that on Tyra Banks. It was so sad
Gabriel Union, Megan Good, Brandy, Oprah, Nia Long....There are so many Beautiful black Celebs that embrace their Wonderful natural hair 👏🏾👏🏾🌱
I don’t give a damn if anyone is offended by my hair 😒. That is your problem not mine. You have deeper psychological issues to work out not me 🤷🏾♀️. Fix it boo. My hair is healthy, poppin’, and long 💁🏾♀️. All natural.
Amen
Preach girl! Preach!
Akia W right. i was confused at Remy talking about she switches up her wigs not to offend people lol she’s too old to be thinking like that
Adrienne is right!
If she said some of the things about "white" hair that people say about "black" hair it would be called out as Racist.
If white ppl were slaves instead of black ppl society would be completely diffrent as well. Stop with the dumb comparisons
Dark Treasures slavery ended centuries ago, it’s no longer a thing and no longer relevant unless you’re learning about it in a history class🙄. So please stop with this NONSENSE.
It's not nonsense. Take a psychology class. It's all very basic. You are ur DNA
Dark Treasures are you trying to tell me that Bc my ancestors were slaves I’m a slave too? 🤔genuinely confused
It's ok sweety to be confused like that. The best advise I can give you is that u should go do some reading. I am not responsible for the things u know and don't know. And I do not wish to waste my time trying to enlighten u.
I've been wearing my hair natural after years of straightening it and cut it short because it was severely damaged. I prefer it short but my family want me to grow it back out and start straightening again. It's so irritating because these people are supposed to love and encourage me but spend most of our encounters talking about what's wrong with my appearance. I hurt myself so much trying to fit into the molds they created. After realizing that no one in my family embraces their natural features, I started to ignoring them. None of them have the right to judge because they're all fake. Now that I've been embracing my true self, I actually feel confident. I'm slowly learning how to love myself and its wonderful. I encourage women to embrace themselves for who they are. All hair is beautiful and deserves validation.
It's easy to feel pretty when it's fake. Think about it, if something about us isn't our true selves, and people (and us) like it about us, it's not true! Because it's not us that they (we) like. I agree with you, it's so much more rewarding when we like and love ourselves for who we really are. Let's all look the way we're supposed to!
poptartgenuis Ruiz Andrea Cohen i used to always wear my hair natural and then i moved and there are 3 other black people at my school. 3. they straighten their hair and so i used to do the same, but i have recently started using texturizers so that i keep the curl but it’s less “crazy”. that way i can ease into just showing off my fro without worrying about what other do and think. what are your honest thoughts on me using texturizers?
poptartgenuis Ruiz Black people hate their own nappy hair but yall blame da whyte manzz
I feel you 😐
It’s sad when people at my school only compliment my hair when I straightend not when it’s in my natural afro.
You do not need their validation, if you think this is beautiful, so this is beautiful, end of the story.
@@alexjames2510 wow ignorant
Y G shutup that’s how you look
I’m a white woman who appreciates seeing black women wear their natural hair (I see the comments below, and yes, this includes 4C hair) Diversity, whether your hair is straight, wavy, curly or kinky is a great thing. It’s strange to me that someone would be offended over somebody else’s natural hair that they were born with, even weirder that they might not hire the person. For me, are you the right person for the job? If yes, then I’ll take you in whatever package you come in. Your hair doesn’t do the job - you do. That’s all I’m interested in.
Agree with you! But I really find it frustrating that there's all this generalisation in the comments. I am white, and I don't give a damn about the hair on other peoples head. Wear it however you want!
Paula- wonderful. My daughter has 4a low-density curls and her white teacher told me to have her come to school every day with it like that. LOL
@@PrettyGurl12361 I'm so glad. Your daughter's teacher has the right attitude and good taste. It's so important while girls are young to uplift them and encourage their natural beauty.
@@paulaj8974 For sure !
Amen, white person here as well who doesn't give 2 damns about anyone else's hair either. I got teased for my hair being thinner, my aunt who is black got teased for hers, my Mexican friends got teased for theirs. Everyone needs to quit worrying about how other people look period. And please don't throw a whole race away for the actions of a few.
"How do we normalize curly hair?"
In my opinion theres nothing to do but be yourself because youre never going to please anyone and you should not even have to. The way i see it is those people are BORING they dont see the beauty in everything. Periodt!
As song the goes “ I Am Not My Hair , I Am Not This Skin , I Am Not YOUR EXPECTATIONS... I Am Not My Hair, I Am Not This Skin , I Am the Soul That Lives Within “... People are so damn focused on outside attributes that it makes you wonder , does the way I look really make me who I am... in a sense , yes and no... Yes in the sense that hair just like clothes can make a statement but I feel like the way your swag is set and also the attitude and vibe you put out and the words you speak also are more valuable or even just as valuable as your hair !
some dont have a soul, so there's that.
I was singing this as soon as I saw the title. I dont know who sings it though
Roxana Romero India Arie does
I was laughing when she said "I love that!" Like it's not a song 🤦🏽♀️😂
Bless her heart!
The poor world is just catching up to the message of that song.
Notice how Tamera included Lupita while Jeannie named only women of lighter skin. Be aware how black women are portrayed and accepted in the media. Brown skin girls with a variety of different hair textures such as 4c hair ARE beautiful !
Toni Yall cape for light skin/mixed women and call them “black” yet cry when they are the face of black women. Make your mind up
Y G i can see how you can be confused but the beautiful thing about black women is that we come in all shades. As for the light skin/mixed women comment... when you’re a dark brown girl this world makes it hard for people to see brown skin as beautiful.
I don’t agree with Remy saying just change your hair base on who you’re around. BE YOU REGARDLESS WHO YOURE AROUND.
Yeah I disagree with her also🙄🙄that made her look stupid
Spicy Truth Says a black bish with a wig 😂😂😂😂
I don’t know what remy meant exactly but sometimes you have to assimilate in society. Especially being a black woman in America, sometimes we don’t get jobs and things like that because “our hair is distracting “
So accurate .I spend half a day washing n drying my type 4c hair
Girl you are not alone
You and me both!! Wash day is an full day event for me
Remy Ma your comments are offensive. "Good hair" all hair is good hair as long as it's healthy. Choose your words wisely you are on a platform as a dark skinned black woman.
No her comment was true. Tamera Alicia keys tracee Ross her is considered I. The black community as good hair. To the world their hair is considered a political statement but Tamera hair is just curly and cute
I think she meant to call it 'good hair', of course she didn't mean that type 3 curly hair hold more value to type 4 kinky hair, that's just what the media has dubbed 'good hair'.
Afros are spunky, fashion and fun, so I guess I am defined by my hair 🤷🏾♀️😛
"smooth" hair. Loool natural hair can be smooth.
Am I nitpicking?!🤭
jami s I noticed that too 😩 whole study was biased from the jump
@@Vanessalarez37 yeah. And then that "good hair" comment.
I mean... If we can't even stop degrading our hair, how and why should we expect anyone else to?!
Yes and missing the whole point
I don't think Remy is really qualified to speak on this topic, if she still attributes "good hair" with a looser finer curl pattern and refers to her and Lonnie's kinker texture as "bad" , I have no interest in hearing her antiquated ignorant opinion.... and girl do you not really know what natural hair is? A Yaki straight is not natural hair child😑😑😑
hnicakahbic i’m not sure but i think she meant this is how society views the hair types . and when jeanie was listing natural haired women she only mentioned women with the “good hair” . she may have been trying to highlight the fact that with people with 4c hair are still cast aside. just my interpretation tho .
@@naomi141099 I respect that, everybody's entitled to their opinion/interpretation but yeah that's definitely not what she implied because Jeannie also metion Lupita Nyong'o, and thats when Remy said "no offense me and lonnie can't do that because we don't have good hair" thats when Lonnie made a face and Remy tried to clean up. I think she's aware of the discrimination but i think she perpetuates it as well.
Did Remy say offensive
Smh
@Winter Bleu I think she is somewhat ignorant based on the "good hair" comment. But not necessarily based on her comment of wearing different wigs around different people simply because of her career and the environment in Hollywood. If wearing a straight wig is going to get assist her in being cast more easily to white casting directors, which can mean more money for her family, then it's not solely in her control. It's similar to how BW wear straight styles to interviews/work because of the snide, underhanded and often harassing comments of people who don't accept our natural hair in many workplaces. At this point only one state has passed legislation against natural hair discrimination, but in the mean time, life still goes on; people have to provide for themselves and try to do the best in the present system.
@@yankeeyobaby ??
"But that's sooo wack, it's so wroooong tho" Adrienne we black we know.
issamemariheaux she always want some sort of attention even when it ain’t about her lol
I appreciate her being an ally for women with kinky hair.
@@Vanessalarez37 I guess because she has friends and family with hair like that too.
See how Jeanine talked the least in this segment? Adrienne sounded invested because she knows.
I always straightened my hair in high school into my early 20's. I didn't start wearing my natural curls until maybe 5 years ago. I'm 32 now, I love wearing my hair out and big and curly. I have a lot of coworkers of all races that are kind of fascinated when I wear my hair out and they just want to touch it. But they admire it more than look down upon it. Not all white women have an issue with our hair, it's the ignorant ones that do. But I remember getting relaxers in high school, I now proudly wear my hair out and I love it! I will not let someone tell me I should wear my hair straight, nawww. The only time I get it straightened now is when I get it cut or trimmed. So everyone out there, wear those curls and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Andrea Cohen i used to always wear my hair natural and then i moved and there are 3 other black people at my school. 3. they straighten their hair and so i used to do the same, but i have recently started using texturizers so that i keep the curl but it’s less “crazy”. that way i can ease into just showing off my fro without worrying about what other do and think. what are your honest thoughts on me using texturizers?
@@kasperann3264 I've never used texturizers before. It's not completely straightening your hair. In my opinion I say just go for it and wear your hair natural in a fro etc. At the end of the day that will be you making a statement saying yeah you guys are straightening your hair, but I'm doing my own thing. I'm the type of person to not do what others are doing. What do you think about going back to being natural?
Andrea Cohen well i love going out natural because i feel like i’m really embracing the culture and when i see another natural girly i feel an instant connection! but- with all that being said, at my school we get bullied by kids, teachers, just because of our HAIR. i know it happens in a lot of places too, and i could just put up with it and just stay completely natural BUT i always like to have a big group of people that really like me and ya i just wanna be liked and people like me easier when i have my texturizer in. i promise myself to stay completely natural after i finish high school, but right now, since i’m in high school with the same judgmental people, i like to keep my hair calmer. idk 😂
@@kasperann3264 To be honest, people are always going to be judgemental even when you're an adult. People who bully just don't like themselves so they have to be mean to others. And once you graduate high school majority of those people you won't see again in life so why do something that will satisfy them, when you should really satisfy yourself. And it's better to be yourself and try not to worry about what others think about your hair. If they don't like it or want to be your friend because of your hair, that's their problem ya know? You shouldn't be hanging with people like that, enjoy being your natural self!
Andrea Cohen you’re so right! thank you so much!!
Omg this convo shocks me. I'm a curl specialist hairstylist with ouidad products I've done loose waves to tight kinky hair and I LOVE NATURAL! on a daily I BEG my clients to embrace their texture 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I'm a white girl and people touch my hair all the time 😂 I guess it's because it's red and curly so it doesn't look like everybody else's.
Touching and playing with each other's hair was such a normal thing in elementary school. They were so upset about it, and it was a common thing for girls with us. Part of the frustration of adults because of easier for lice to be spread.
Loni has no excuse. She NEVER wears her natural hair EVER and its sad. Its definitely nice to wear different styles here and there because who wants to be boring, but she NEVER wears her own hair texture and its weird. Just admit you DON'T like your natural African features and stop putting up this easily recognizable facade.
In middle school when I had my black girlfriends sit behind me they would play with my hair and braid it & I would almost fall asleep in class because of them. 😂 they always were touching my hair, I LOVED IT
black people also put they're hands in each others hair to see if it's real. I straightened mine and a girl in my class did it to me. I also had a black dude at my job asked if my hair was mine just two days ago. It's sad that people feel they have to ask because they assume most black people have like no hair and if it is long then it is weave.
Exactly i usually have a fro and when i straighten it people touching my stuff(black and white) asking me if its real it gets aggy sometimes
Moo123147 my 4th grade teacher did this
Moo123147 majority black African American women do wear weave and wigs so YES they are right just embrace your natural hair 🤷🏼♀️
I dont have a problem if u touch my hair.. if you pull it obviously that hurts.. but idc if you're interested and wanna see it or ask about it or whatever
If it is my actual hair and u ask me if it is my hair.. i take it as a compliment.. that means my hair looks good then so thank u
curly hair is considered too wild and therefore unprofessionall. unfortunately
Same here I have natural curly hair and people like to touch it or sometimes they don’t want to touch it a taboo I love my natural hair and embraces what god give you girl
There's no such thing as "good hair". God created us all from head to toe. We are all perfectly made. It's a reason why. 😎
Amen
Remy Ma looks amazing. Love her look
I have naturally soft big curls and I’m not afraid to say I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! I feel when you’re more confident about it you instantly look more beautiful. And tbh when that starts to happen people pay you a lot of compliments.
there was a major point missed in this discussion. Remy touched on it a little but fact is people are gonna be more accepting of the mixed texture curls than the natural Afro-Caribbean texture. full black women are going out of there way to change the texture of their hair, trying to get that mixed race curl.
Afro Caribbean texture??
Omg it’s Fernando Idris Goldstein Lee!!!
Am I the only one noticing the sticker on remy’s glasses???
Nah, it was bothering me the entire time!
I think the way the bias will be broken is by celebrating kinkiest hair, wearing it out in your own fashion, polished w/e and if they start accepting it from the ground up, meaning the perceived worst up everything else can be caught in the net of acceptance too.
I love being natural. Been natural for I think five years. Honestly don’t know. But I love my hair. I love when little girls come up to me and compliment my hair 🤗. Makes my whole week.
I changed my relaxed hair to natural and keep out as much as possible. When I do my hair, I don’t do straight, I do African hairstyles. @loni ♥️
They got 3 strands of hair 😂😂😂😂😂
Watching Tamara speaking about her hair. Made me remember going through that in high school. A girl from my class called me noodles and would pull at the curls in my hair, so I had my hair straightened.
Who are the women in this study? I think when black women wear their hair natural it looks beautiful. Tamara's hair is gorgeous, when she wears it natural. ❤😊
I think they showed black women with kinky hair, like Lupita and Teyonah Parris; not biracial women with curly hair, like Tamera and Tracee Ellis Ross. Like Remy pointed out at 11:48, there is a difference between the hair types (I don't even consider curly hair "natural hair", because women with curly hair never had their hair chemically altered and made unnatural, so they never "go natural"; they just have not-flat ironed hair).
@@digthewarmth I still think natural hair is beautiful, Lupita and Teyonah Parris have beautiful hair. I wish this wasn't an issue. I'm a white girl with curly hair, so i have no idea what any of this is like. I just don't understand the people that have those opinions. I think our differences are the things that make us interesting. If we all had all the same interests, looked, sounded and behaved the exact same way, the world would be a very boring place. 😊
@@michellej.383 You have a Beautiful perspective. 🙂
Michelle Jones ma’am, she’s biracial.. not just black 🤦🏽♀️ her hair texture isn’t the typical everyday black textured hair
Sorry to say but most black men themselves prefer straight hair on black women. It's not just white men and women who prefer straight hair.
I've always adored black people's hair and always been tempted to touch it, but I never did. Black people hair is the most unique out of all the hair from other races. Dont destroy the one thing that makes you unique. If you care for it properly, it will look gorgeous and stunning
I had a friend with bone straight hair. My hair is super curly and she would pull it down and would make a sound affect that Tamera was talking about. so I would flip her hair and say swish! I grew up not liking my hair, everyone prefers straight and I remember when I got mine straightened at the salon I felt like a million bucks. But I had learned to love my curls and embrace them. I didnt know how to take care of it so I had to learn after a big chop. It looks better then ever. I really hate the term "good hair" everyone's has beautiful hair and I think the kinkyer/tighter the curls you have the more beautiful. The key is just to keep your hair moisturized (and I dont mean with just water) there are so many hair products for natural hair that strengthen your strands and really help define your natural curl patterns and the right mostuires promote hair growth. I wish people would stop fixating on our differences in a negative way! It sucks that curly isn't considered professional. Its pretty sickening to me! No one should have to feel like they have to change who they naturally are to go somewhere in life!
Adrienne is LITERALLY a white woman(she is 57% european) so why does she have to talk so bad about white women's hair being "stringy and greasy". Insulting the insulter doesn't make the situation any better ( and i know she was using it as an example, but she has said this on other occasions and it's her actual point of view.) and Adrienne CONTINUING to bring up her point at 8:45 as if we didn't know that doing that was wrong and that people don't do that to white women. Adrienne ads nothing to the conversation by screaming, IT'S NOT RIGHT!
Adrienne's natural hair is curly also
dawnarxtic Adrienne doesn’t have white people hair and white people judge black people hair all the time so it was okay for her to turn the tables to prove her point
She wasn’t insulting white people 😒. She was giving an example 🙄. That is the only thing that you took from this whole clip 🤔? To get offended.
You triggered? lmao. She has curly hair hun, sit down.
She’s 28 percent Native American
7 percent African
8 percent middle eastern
She is not white lmao
As an african american woman, I just found it funny how serious the delivery of this "study" was because no study had to be done to tell us this. People do not appreciate us in our natural state OR when we wear wigs and weave. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't.
side note that is not worth two cents, but news flash, black people have hair textures of all kinds. everyone doesn't have 4D hair. we have all kinds of colors and textures.
Facts, and also, the comment about Michelle Obama wearing her natural hair, doesn’t really make sense because her hair does not grow out of her head like that. It’s not a bad thing tho lol just saying
@@mahlet.h i know what you mean, lol
True, i am as dark skinned red head
She’s so Lucky Ik lol , that’s not her natural hair but no ones gonna say that bc she’s Michelle Obama. But I still love her tho😂
I can definitely relate to Tamera. My hair is naturally curly and I have thick curls and my hair is big so I was very insecure on how voluminous my hair would get when it was dry as a kid. I use to drench my hair in gel and mousse to keep it down so I always had "crunchy" curls. No one thought that was really cute and my grandmother use to say I had "pelo malo" which means bad hair. She also has curls and would always straighten it and my mom has curls. My dad on the other hand, his side of the family, they have thick black straight hair and it's beautiful but they didn't find their own hair special and my dad use to say my hair was beautiful and so did his side of the family. My dad is Nicaraguan and my mom is Dominican. I use to straighten my hair all the time too and people always told me they liked my hair better straight so I kept it that way for a long time and ended up damaging it. One day I just did a big chop to regrow my hair and get my curls back because I missed them so much and ever since then I embrace my big curls and I rarely ever straighten it anymore. The last time was like last year or something. I love my hair and now I get compliments on how my hair is so beautiful all the time. ❤️ I would want my kids to learn to love their natural hair also whether it's straight or curly or wavy. It all deserves love.
Yes Loni I agree 🙌🏾
I think good hair is hair that can hold different styles, hair that doesn't smell like dogs, not thin and stringy, and don't attract BUGS.
HELLO !
yes!! Thank you for making it known. They will never understand it!
They said it because they were asked. I'm so tired of folks being asked a question and someone will take offense to their opinion as if they were sitting around discussing it first and just so happened to share it with the world. I believe people are entitled to their opinions as long as they are not pushing it on anyone else. .......
When I wore my hair straight, I used to be treated fairly at my home airport in Trinidad but since growing my locs, they treat me like a criminal now!
Bless up sistren
Lady Rootz bless
Traci Benett oh yes! Definitely.
Loni said it best 6:55
I have naturally curly hair. I remember this one time I felt so offended by my children’s daycare director. She was a young white woman. I was pregnant with my third child so I wore my hair curly for most of the time when I first met the woman. So one day I came in with my hair straight. She had the audacity to tell me she preferred my hair straight. I mean she complimented me at first on how pretty and long my hair was but that last statement should’ve been kept to herself. After I left I really thought about what she said. It really hurt my feelings. So after that I wore my hair curly up until I moved. I mean why couldn’t my hair have been preferred either way?! A Hispanic woman told me she didn’t know which she preferred on me because straight or curly, my hair was beautiful either way. Like Tam said, if I wear it straight it’s because I want too!!
I love Remy even tho she's not natural...she's about black love and confidence...love ya girlll
I hope they feeding that fish haha
I miss Adrienne’s natural curls. They were so tight and crisp in 3LW
After high school i turned my hair straight cause the hairstylists claimed it was the only way to work on it.. 10 years down the road... I'm going back to my natural super curly hair... because i have seen and learned so many ways to keep, style and mantain it through watching RUclips video..
I was tired of seeing my ends fried with years of heat just to keep it straight.. natural is beautiful too..
Sorry Remy, I know what you were saying but are we Still talking about Good and Bad hair!? If it grew outcha head it's Good Hair! Dang Spike Lee just cussed again!! Comment if you know what I'm referring to!
I have had this same conversation with my Spanish friends, they really don't get it. I also hear well you have mix hair, it gets to me sometimes but I always speak for any hair type. Love yourself beautiful people of the world no matter what type you have.
As soon as I heard them say white women said this and this, I was like oh brother we all gonna receive hate now. When i see a black person i want to be nice, smile, talk to them, be a friend, not have them think "oh she white so she must be judging my hair, my skin, her ancestors make her my enemy for what they did" I just wanna be friends please don't judge me for what some white people do or say. Guarantee you I won't judge you for not one thing either..
ALL YOU CHICKS ON THE PANEL ARE MAKING THESE HAIR COMPANIES BILLIONS OF DOLLARS. SHOUT OUT TO THE SISTER'S OUT HERE THAT ARE NATURAL. KEEP YOUR COINS, HUN!
All of the Black Women on that stage are wearing wigs yet find it weird people think their natural nappy hair is “unsexy”. They are lowkey sayin it by never wearing it natural 😂 PS Tamera is not a “black woman” shes biracial
Jeeez, my hair falling apart and thinning. My hair is smooth, curly and wavy, but I barely have any hair at all. 😒 not the best look when I gotta prep for work. I wish I could afford a nice wig.
This is so crazy to hear I’ve never judged by hair that’s so sad and ridiculous that somebody would I’ve always loved the natural curly hair 😩❤️
They out a picture of Michelle Obama other straightens and curled hair 🤦🏽♀️
i understand all these feelings but personally ever since i started being natural, all i get is compliments and alot of attention from men. Yes, there are those people that ask to touch my hair and i just say no
the study asks a white woman...???????? point blank period then its not a study once again why are you asking white people what they think about another person race hair especially when its not their type of hair to judge????? in my grandma even mother generation we were still considered slaves or less than them because of how we look why you asking a white person if they like black anything, not their place to judge or comment #supportblackbusniess
Kisha A right I'm sure the standard of pretty is looking like them.
Why talk about natural hair with a wig on😭
Did you even watch? They were talking about the discrimination and how they got to the point of wearing wigs. God damn, pay attention.🙄🙄🙄🙄
Glen Coco Black women have ugly nappy hair thats why they have to hide that nasty forest under gorgeous expensive asian womens hair 😂
Glen Coco ISS DA WHYTE MENZZ AND WOMENZZ FAULT I IZZ WEARING A WHITE AND ASIAN WOMAN HURRRRR bahahah at least buy a curly wig u self hating sheb00ns
Y G so obviously you’re a racist and uneducated. Black people CAN have good hair. To have good hair doesn’t mean you have to be mixed. So stfu before you type Idiot
Y G - are you okay? Legit like who hurt you are you going through something that you want to talk about?
So I am a white woman like awkwardly white haha but for some reason I have very thick and naturally curly hair and I’ll tell you I have had more people come up and touch my hair! Like grab it and just stare at it! Even over the counter when paying for something lol I’ve also had hairdressers get upset that they have to work on it. I’ve even had friends and family tell me it looks soo much better straight, which all made me feel terrible and hate my natural hair. Really until I met my husband and he told me how much he loves it natural I wished I had different hair. But now I love it and it’s so much easier the. Taking hours to straighten it and really just damage it! Go Natural Hair!!
I just wanna say I appreciate the topics y'all talk about, and I think it's truly important things that need to be heard. I am a white woman, and tbh I'm afraid y'all wouldn't support me watching this show because maybe you would think I'm automatically all these things white women are according to what y'all say and the stereotypes. But I'm really not, and I hope to continue watching and I really hope I can assume you guys would accept me as a fan of your show because I really do love it and I love you guys as well
There’s a fish on the table 💜🖤
It’s funny because (I’m a white girl with blonde hair) when I was in Haiti, allllllll the kids were touching, feeling and pulling MY hair lol. But part of it was they don’t see blonde hair as light as mine was very often
But it was annoying after a while because who wants someone’s fingers through their hair? I understand lonnies point of view completely! I feel bad if any girl has gone through this
i love seeing natural girls and i would LOVE to see more of them at my high school because there are maybe 4 black kids there and they all straighten their hair and do this and that to it and so me being mixed, don’t want to be the only natural girl. now i am mixed but i have 4B hair, and so i struggle a lot with maintaining my hair, and so i use texturizers. they’re like a relaxer that loosens your curls instead of takes them away. i feel like i just want some advice or encouragement on how to be comfortable with my hair when my whole school is rich white kids who have a need to judge.
There’s no problem with sharing an opinion. I think straight hair looks better ANY DAY over Afros or super curly hair, however, I would never attack anyone or make them feel bad or self conscious because of their hair.
Curly hair is hard to manage that is why a lot of people straighten it. And curly hair has fewer haircut choices compared to straight hair. And I dont know why Adrien is saying only white people have straight hair there are a lot of Latinos with straight hair. And putting your hands in peoples hair when you dont know them like that is inappropriate and rude. Black hair is probably the most difficult hair type thats why its better for it to be short or straightned.
V S Latino is not a race. The latinos with straight hair do not originate from West Africa. Asians also have straight. Only blacks have nappy hair
This has to be an older thing I'm 25 and I definitely don't think people my age and younger around me say anything bad about natural hair. Most I know including myself think it's hot.
You're totally right
Right white person here, 25 who think everyone gots some beautiful hair. And is beautiful themselves.
Amen Tamera! I would love a natural day on the Real
I used to not like my hair because of opinions like this but a couple years ago, I decided I don't give a $@*#!! I embrace my big, curly fro and heat doesn't touch my hair anymore. Haha I haven't done the wig thing. Yet...
No such thing as "good hair" in my opinion. Too each is own. It is a such thing as more manageable though.
Glad Tamera put Lupita in that list !
Yes
both our sons have long hair. my oldest has thick coarse hair and my youngest has more looser curls but still very thick. they are both Mexican and black. And it literally takes me 2 hours to wash, detangle and plat my youngest's hair. our oldest gets his hair in cornrows every two weeks. (fortunate we have a really good braider) no joke we spend so much money on hair care products
Vanessa Walker my friend who has had an Afro for years... ever since we were little wore his Afro all the way from Kindergarten through Middle School... only because the only thing he could do was grow it out , wash it , and pick it... but once we entered high school ... just to maintain and keep it healthy he decided to wear cornrows all four years and maybe every two weeks on a weekend he would take them out and wash it , pick it and then do cornrows again... and now that we’re about to go to college he decided he wants to do something new so he’s thinking about cutting it ! He loves his Afro but he wants to do something different and I’m ok with that
Vanessa Walker ...... DIY.. on RUclips. Plenty of clips for natural hair care products.
Our hair are the only ones point to the heavens as an antenna. I love it. #brownskingirl
I can't wait to see you in that dress
Looool this is a reeeeaallly old ep. You can probs find a picture if you search it up.
I’m sorry not trying to be offensive but as a non black woman half the things black women do to their hair confuse me. Like one minute they claim to be proud of being black but then they have another cultures hair on their head. Embrace your own hair ladies. I love my Indian hair and I could never picture having someone else’s hair on my head unless I’m bald one day lol. Why not just style and groom their own hair on their head. I might sound ignorant but it’s a confusing thing for me. I see black women slapping their hair because they can’t even scratch it. I used to think they had a headache 😭.
Mia I We can be proud black women and still prefer something different for a little while, especially if it’s just to have a protective hairstyle for awhile. we may where straight weaves and all that but we are still proud of our culture and proud of our ancestors and proud of the color of our skin. we just want to protect our hair for a little while and try something different. there’s nothing wrong with trying some new things, and that counts for hair too.
@@kasperann3264 I agree! But then would you say it's okay for non black women to wear braids or cornrows for example? They're still trying some new things for them
Its called protective styles. Many black women, including myself, find it hard to maintain it OR we just want to switch up our look...
Swetha Sankar i think it’s 100% okay for them to try new things as long as they give credit and show love for the culture they got it from. no one likes cultural appropriation, and it’s very controversial but they should be able to try things as long as they show respect.
For generations kinky, curly hair was very looked down upon by white people. As stated in the study, it was (and still is) considered unclean, nappy, unattractive... So people with natural hair were forced to straighten, perm or hide their natural hair. For some women it is very difficult to “embrace” their natural hair when the society around us disapproves of it and discriminates against it.
I’m Hispanic and I have curly hair. I’m still trying to figure out how to style it and not damage it.
My white friend always says it looks best straight, and begs to straighten it. EVEN after I style it and I’m happy with it.
Not all white Women have straight hair you know. I face those problems when people won’t touch my hair or that I didn’t like mine after a certain age.
Well majority do
Being Native American, people come up to me and my sisters grabbing onto our long black straight hair. Constantly asking what products we use and how often we straighten it. Please don’t touch peoples hair. We find it very disrespectful.
I do have to say...I find hair a very interesting thing. There's a whole culture around it and lingo around it in communities of color, that is completely impervious to me as a white woman who grew up in a small town with other white people. Not just natural hair types, but also the very common, everyday use of weaves, wigs, etc. I'm very interested, but I find that attempting to learn more about it without being rude or intrusive very difficult. Its especially weird for me - my sister has a mixed child, and she really doesn't treat his hair very well...but trying to learn can be difficult. Without the internet and these sorts of things, I wouldn't know anything.
I don't have time for this. I keep my hair Locked and natural. I am not about to change my hair that is a 4C hair naturally, I don't need to change it. All people have the right to have their own hair in a natural state if they want to. Whiteness and making people have straight hair is crazy and illogical and arrogant to force hair to be something that it is not.
Black women dont do that because we were treated like pets
I hate my natural hair. Because it's so hard to maintain. When people talk about curls and volume it's ugh please girl u don't want none of that. Trust me. I rather deal with having to wash thin hair so it won't get greasy, then to deal with my hair that is so thick and annoying to maintain. Some days it ain't all frizzy most days it is. And sure you can use special products, but still it's a pain in the butt lol.
Mel 21 i could recommend using a texturizer bc i felt the same way and after i used one i felt way more confident.
You just need to find a product that works for you. Trust me, we got the better end of the stick when it comes to hair. I’d rather have too much than not enough. :)
OMG....BANDWAGON PEOPLE. MICHELLE IS GREAT BUT BABY DOLL WEARS WEAVE TOO, LOVE.
Im white and i love seeing black woman embrace their natural hair i wish i had curls like Tamara
white men love the afro hair ...next
starz isidore The whole entire race? You wish, keep dreaming
You should love your own hair regardless if they dont like it f*ck um
I love Adrienne.
Becky doesn't like Afro hair but is always putting their hands in it because that makes since.
Glen Coco They put their hands in it because its so weird and freaky. Even your own black men don’t like that nappy head
adriennes highlighter omg