ADHD Aha! | ADHD, daydreaming and shame (Dr. Kojo's story)
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- Dr. Kojo Sarfo played life on hard mode with his ADHD before getting diagnosed as an adult. ADHD treatment helped Dr. Kojo cope with his daydreaming and procrastination. But he wanted to do more. Today, he connects with millions of followers on TikTok and other social media, fighting the shame around ADHD and mental health and having conversations that build people up.
Dr. Kojo had an unexpected ADHD “aha” moment: as he was watching an Atlanta Braves baseball game and player Adam LaRoche made an error on a routine ground ball. Join a heartfelt conversation between host Laura Key and Dr. Kojo as they unearth how daydreaming is brainstorming in disguise - and why seeking treatment is the road to self-compassion.
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This episode brought me to tears. I’m 39 years old. I’ve been having very bad Pms anger issues for at least 2 years which was affecting the relationship with my 4 year old. In all the research I’ve done came across a Facebook reel about adhd and all the symptoms resounded in my head for days. This was a month ago. Next week I have a doctors appointment and I’m asking for a ADHD test. All these years I thought I was slow and that for sure I had a learning disability but spent years just coping. Thank you for all this.
This is really affirming for other inattentive/day-dreamy adult ADHD men who present more like women. I've always had the same directed-daydreaming that makes me seem spacey or ditzy that really is a strength, where my best ideas come from. Great interview.
Also tweaking your clock to 1:17pm instead of 1:15pm is some advanced ADHD coping skill and masking. Hard mode for sure.
Two great points.
I am also a man whose behaviors are mostly seen in women. Also the reason why I only got diagnosed as a 50 year old.
I also had masking behaviors specially with time blindness. I am not chronically late. I am chronically EARLY. I got to school and appointments and flights between half hour to three hours early.
Afraid to text friends back because going thru depressive episode and friends think they ghosted them. Story of my life...
I am 57 and have just been diagnosed, my life would of been completely different, I can't believe the difference xx
There was only one manufacturer that worked for me on adderall and I’m also 57 got diagnosed late. It took a year to find a place that carried that manufacturer but I feel like crying because the manufacturer changed 3:43 the adderall pill entirely. It is different shape and color. Ugh It does absolutely Nothing. Why do they always change things I just don’t get it what isn’t broken don’t fix. Pharmacy always thinks it’s you when they always change pill manufacturers etc. I give up. Nothing ever ever is consistant
I’m 43 and have been diagnosed with ADHD 3 times but I’m going to medicate for the first time tomorrow. This conversation gives me so much affirmation for what I’m going to do. I’ve lived this long, coping with it but I’m tired and I just can’t do this anymore. I’m spent. The shame I feel with this is the hardest. So I need a pill everyday to be “normal”? That’s a hard pill to swallow, pun intended, haha. I’m apprehensive to talk about my treatment with my family, even though my dad has it and my brother…anyways, I feel and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for your work. I appreciate this as a mother of 4 (22,20,18 and my youngest 5) I’m doing this for me but mostly for them. I’m doing it for all of us. Thank you for this. I’m a new sub for sure.
Found out i had Adult ADHD a few months, and it has been life changing. I was also high performing so it went untreated for years. Until finally my mind and body just came crashing and i had no choice but to get help!
Daydreaming is INTROVERSION to a point.
My “aha moment” was a post on IG about leaving half drunk glasses of water around the house. At 37!
I relate sooo much to your High School story. I also was an IB student. Had the over achiever label. I was in so many clubs and organizations.. EVERYTHING was interesting to me, and I found a way to muttle through and cope. Came out with great grades.. even into college.. but slept in class. Just. Like. You.. I was just diagnosed last year after my life literally came crashing down. After dropping out of college. Became a wife and a mom and just could not figure out how to pretend to be the put together adult anymore..This is amazing just to hear my story in you 😅🥹
He wasn't ever an "over achiever".
Laura, thank you for the work you’re doing here!
Thank you, Kojo! Thank you for sharing your story! I had a similar (but different) experience growing up! My Dad was on the side of “just try harder”, and my Mom was very willing to help me find treatment. (Was diagnosed early) My parents were divorced, so I had to pick a mindset. So… I picked my Dad’s at the time, and went all the way till 27 years old thinking I was just lazy. Praise God, my wife helped me see that maybe it was actually a real issue. Then, I started learning about how to cope and treat ADHD.. still an uphill battle daily, but getting better!
Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏
We're so glad to hear that you enjoyed the podcast! Thank you for letting us know, and for sharing your story with us.💙🎉
@@UnderstoodOrg Sure thing!! If you ever want to hear what struggles ADHD can pose from a Christian perspective, feel free to check out my channel, or we could speak more about it. I think it adds an interesting twist on the topic. Us in the ADHD community need to stay together! Thanks for the response!
I day dream quite often, I have to be careful I will do it while driving. It will become real to me as the day dream is real at the time
I really appreciate these conversations!
i enjoyed it a lot and found myself relating much to the "i thought i was having a problem because i moved around a lot as a kid" hahahah i kinda have a similar technique of dedicating a day to do "nothing" as in impulsive creative bursts or just lazying around that i wanna do, but i'm still working my way to get consistent and productive with it. really appreciate this talk! this channel deserves more audience
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What a light and kind soul, I love this guy. Great interview!
Lol when i played softball i knew i would have to be catcher because i would lose it in the outfield!
I’m so curious how many of us adhd’er(S) are the class clown? ☝️me tooo
Yep, I was . Can't remember much of my childhood, but I remember never doing any work , and me and my friend making everyone laugh and getting chucked out, lol . I am still the one who tries to make people laugh even when I am feeling like crap inside. I've only just found out 3 months ago I have it at 55. Am still like a big kid . 😆
@@foxymc01 Any advice for 22 yo suffering from this disability .😊
How can I improve my focus sir ?
This was an amazing conversation. Thanks so much for sharing this information!!!!
Glad it was helpful!
I really enjoyed this, what a lovely young man, thanks for telling your story 😉
@29:32 OMG this, exactly. I am so thankful you brought that up.
Thank you both.
I stumbled on this video yesterday just as was about to leave. I wrote down the title and, well, here I am.
I hear you about "if he just... he could do a lot better..".. And that's the whole thing: Wh wish we could.
In primary school I just knew a loit of other kids did not have to put extra effort in just being "attentive". And I never knew what is was until a few years ago. (I'm 53 now). And that's the thing: We WANT to be attentive but no matter how hard we try it's bound to fail.
I remember in class (prim. shool) we used have reading lessons. I always read ahead not paying attention to where we really were. So, then came the time it was my time to read: I used to have no clue where the rest of the class was. Unless, I strained myself`utterly. That would work.. at times ;-)
Thank you for sharing your story with us! You are absolutely not alone in these feelings.💙
Just read the book and loved it - also identified with the stomach issues you mentioned in the book - wish you had delved into that here
3Rd time listening to this Interview. amazing stuff!! Very relatable!
I think everyone should also examine their human design chart and see the direction their variables/arrows are.
Wow. I’m astonished.❤
Beautiful video and very inspiring story.
Awesome vlog ‼️💜💯
Thank you!!
Please, I need your help. My son is 11 and has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was 7 years old, but I have been ignoring the medication. For some reason, I thought it would affect this mind, and I haven't gotten anyone to give me a better understanding. please, with all due respect, if you can help. God bless you 🙏
In what way is lying on camera inspirational?
This guy is a scam artist and a wannabe Hollywood actor. Shame on this channel for even featuring such a dishonest character