Questions Girls Are Too Afraid To Ask Guys
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‘Questions Girls Are Too Afraid To Ask Guys’
Welcome to another episode of Ask Christian Guys! Today we’re answering some hot topic questions that often don’t get asked. We’re getting honest, practical and a little awkward. Hope you find this video fun and helpful! #paulandmorgan
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Hey Fam! Comment below your thoughts and experiences on any of the questions! Did you know guys thought like this?
Part 2 please!:D
Ellyn Kličková might have to!
Loved this video so much: if you can help me with some advice down below in my comment that would be amazing💓
I'm single now but I'm sure when I'm in a relationship and see another bad chick rather than my girl, I'll just think in my mind "oh she's bad but I have my own girl and there is always gonna be someone who looks better than us. So many humans in this world.". BOOM
My thoughts: I always get anxious when the topic of porn comes up because the fact that so many guys watch it! Makes me feel a little hopeless and defeated because I don’t fully understand why guys have to do that and it makes me feel insecure...🙁 how can I get rid of this feeling?
For the young woman worried about her looks, understand that a man will have his preferences but the Lord will select his spouse if he truly submits. Any wise man of God would know how deeply the Word speaks of looks fading and charm being deceitful, run after God as fast as you can and if a Christian guy can keep up, introduce yourself.
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This. thank you!
Solid!! Love your letter to us ladies! Much appreciated & couldn’t agree more!
Cyber Console wolf you know, saying no offense after being insulting and also insulting someone’s religion and lifestyle, doesn’t make it any better
Amen🧡🌻
Ya'll mentioned how a guy might notice a girls curves and really let that lead him to some impure thoughts. I understand that that happens, but why does no one talk about the fact that girls can have the same thoughts about a guy? Like a photo of a guy without a shirt posing provocatively can lead a girl to some terrible thoughts just like a girl posting a photo wearing very little clothing can for a guy. I feel like every purity talk I was ever given was about helping the guy guard his heart. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with that, in fact its biblical, but what about my heart? I'm almost 20 and have been raised in church but I never felt like anyone explained this to me. It was all just about what I wear in relation to what guys think. Almost makes it seem like I carry the weight of a guys purity on my shoulders and that whether or not they fall into sin all depends on my actions. How is this supposed to help me keep from thinking about and doing what I shouldn't if I am so focused on keeping guys from doing the same thing? It has sort of led me to constantly worry about what guys think of me.
Alright I'll get off my soapbox now. Also totally not calling ya'll out. I love your videos so much and I realize this video was about guys anyways. Totally agree with everything you said it just made me think of this.
Totally agree!! It can be a struggle for some girls when we see an attractive guy. I was going though a rough time a couple years back (regarding a guy), and I had to learn to take every thought captive to Christ and surrender. Definitely a process, doesn't happen overnight! It can be tough, but it's worth it.
And yeah, it's not all on the girl's shoulders. Both guys and girls are responsible for their own thoughts, but also both responsible for how they dress and act toward each other. We're both tempted to sin, but we have the choice to run from it or give in to it. In other words, guys and girls have equal responsibility.
About worrying what guys think of you...I like to dress nicely and modestly but with class. Ask yourself if what you're wearing complements you and sets you apart or only draws attention to a particular part of you. And if the guy isn't meant to be your husband, then it really doesn't matter what he thinks.
Hang in there, sister!
Yesss I agree completely
I agree. We have eyes too!
Hannah Salyer I COMPLETELY agree. Modesty is not gender specific.
Hon... don’t take on that responsibility or that guilt. I know as a Christian we love guilt. But please, please don’t burden yourself with guilt.
Love this! One of the most shocking things my husband said to me (our honeymoon week) was that he actually noticed/thought my body was beautiful while we were dating/engaged (but of course never acted or spoke on it). It shocked me so much. Not that I was insecure about anything, but I never ever ever noticed once him looking at my body. He was so protective of his thoughts and our boundaries and I will always be so grateful for that.
Awe that’s so cool to hear, Rebecca! God bless you guys in your marriage❤️❤️ Thanks for the comment!
Well there would have been Biblically nothing wrong if he had. Provided you were the only woman in his life. See sex was the actual marriage in the Israelite tribes. Once a man knew a maiden she was his wife.
I have a lot of guy friends who find it annoying how us girls think they can read minds. It's hilarious because one of my friends said: "it's not like reading a book where it goes like-he gazed into her eyes and knew exactly how she was feeling- we can't know what you're feeling unless you tell us." 😆
Baahaha I can relate to that 😛
“He might be like ok this is a blessingggg” I’m loling 😂
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This has me rolling
Ikrrrr 😂 (Also your name fits perfectly in this situation hahaha)
Sometimes if the man is the one who initiates the conversation or texts you first they might stop to see if they are waisting their time and see if you are interested still. I would recommend starting the conversation every once and awhile so he doesn't have to all the time.
Shelby Channell 😊
Aggre 100% really dont have a count on how many girls i have talked to and legit stoped talking to them. As i was the only one starting every topic and the one making something happen. 9/10 i would just drop all contact and move on. Felt like a one Way traffic
What if it's the other way around? What if the girl is always initiating conversations? Is this a bad thing?
Theres truth here!
We guys learn that if the girl never texts us first then they don't want to talk to us. I hung out with a girl once and at the end of the day she said, "Next time, I'll call you." That was 9 years ago.
Do questions guys are too afraid to ask girls!
Little Darling 😁🙌
Here are some questions I have for girls:
Why don’t girls eat much on the first or first few dates?
Why don’t they just speak their minds instead of expecting them to figure out what’s wrong?
What’s the first thing girls notice in potential romantic partners?
Why do girls like going to spa, nail salon, hairdresser, etc?
Carrie 1. We don’t want to look gross even if we are eating something that isn’t messy, also we are nervous.
2. Sometimes we don’t want to come off as super winey or like we complain a lot so we say we are fine even if you can tell we are upset. Other times it’s something we are mad at the other person for doing or not doing and expect them to know.
3. The way they treat their parents and how they act when we are around them and their friends. When guy is respectful towards his parents and respectful towards me when he’s around his friends he’s a keeper.
4. We like to feel pretty and it’s a way to relax
@@Alex-yd2fj YES YES YES especially 2 and 3
Little Darling Exactly, #4 is just as important as self care for guys. GOD BLESS You and Protect You.
Good video guys. For me personally yeah I might notice a girl physically eyes, hair, chest, legs, etc but then I keep it moving. What attracts me is seeing Jesus in her, you can tell there is something different about her and she "glows". The physical stuff is just a bonus when married like mentioned. The bible talks about how inner godly beauty is most important, that stuff doesn't fade.
Kevin B amen bro, thanks for sharing. That’s good, honest insight😊
FACTS
what attracts you is seeing Jesus in her? bro thats gay
She may be ugly BUT HEYYY SHE GOT THAT JESUS! 🤣🤣
Good comment!
Morgan is so joyful, Paul is honest :) Thanks for brightening my day...both of you!
Awe thank you😊❤️
For me as a girl, whenever i go to youth events, i am so like “ugh” about eating because of the boys there that im friends with so it makes me awkward, like i feel like ppl are judging me. im working on it though so i can actually eat well during those events that last 1 week and my friends like actually help me with it, like some of my male friends actually eat loads just so i dont fee weird, (bless them) So girls or guys, letting your friends know so you actually eat well will help so much!
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“Yeah Paul like it’s when I wear high heels to be the same height as him, he likes it” she was so confident. I love it haha I cracked up
Miranda S haha😁
I learn so much from you alll. Like honestly more than some Christians that is just too perfect. I love that it’s flawed and innocent at the same time. Because I myself have struggled, because I’m finding my way with Christ also, but I have made a lot of mistakes that I am ashamed of. I think for me the guilt and shame affects me more than anything else. I am trying to find favor in Christ and living as how Christ would want me to as a woman. I still want to get married but I truly don’t believe it’s for me anymore and I’m learning to be ok with that. Lol anyway just praying for me to be content with what God has in store and to be ok with the blessings I currently have. Love you guys and stay beautiful.
As someone who works in the mental health field, a lot of this is disturbing to hear. Regardless of religion- from a development standpoint, teaching young people about sexuality and romance is a delicate thing. The research shows that a person’s understanding of consent and physical boundaries starts with their early influences. Clearly there’s a young audience in mind here (using “guys and girls” instead of “men and women”, giggling, etc) and I worry when there’s insinuation that a woman is responsible for covering up to help men respect boundaries. For one, it sends the underlying message that your physical/emotional boundaries should be contingent on how much skin a person is showing. That could be an incredibly destructive mindset for a young man who’s still not solid on the idea that everybody has independent and permanent control over their own boundaries and a part of life is yielding to those always. On the flip side, there’s a real nuance necessary when it comes to the topic of if/when women should cover up as a protective measure. We talk a lot about how young women are saddled with a psychological burden when they first learn about their own vulnerability to sexual violence. It’s the idea that there could be lifelong fear or paranoia attached to a hyper-focus on preventative action. That may seem irrelevant, but here’s the issue; when you throw out a careless insinuation that a woman’s clothing have a one-to-one correlation with a man’s reaction, you’re further contributing to that confusion of trauma surrounding personal safety and victimization.
xJesssicax thank you for saying this!!!!
I love this
Hey guys! I don't agree with you on a lot of things and I have criticized you before, but I really enjoyed this video. You were calm, collected and mature. You didn't do any excessive laughing or goofiness, and I didn't feel like I was being judged or looked down upon. It's so nice to listen to you when you act like this! It's hard for me to watch your other videos, because I feel tense and anxious. I'm expecting the excessive goofiness, laughter (which really does not mix with serious topics), and sometimes even self-righteousness, so I'm expecting myself to get annoyed or frustrated. In this video, though, I felt relaxed the entire time! If you act like this, it will be much easier for people, including myself, to listen to you, and will give so much less ammunition for the hateful comments. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way, so please, act this way in your future videos! So many people will appreciate it. ~Sending love from Athens, Greece
As a happily married woman, 14 years in, and best friends with my husband, id recommend that these questions should be discussed with the person your with... COMMUNICATION is an important key in relationships. Don't assume u know how your partner feels just because this is how another persons partner says they would feel. If your in doubt, ASK to find out ! 😜
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Love this set up 😂
Hey you guys! We were just talking about you all with our friend Hannah :) Keep up the good work over on your channel, we’d love to collab sometime😊
Counting the time of dating, being girl/boyfriend and marriage its been 45 years now my parents being together. They are still soooo much in love, I totally adore them as a couple.
I remember once meeting them when I didn't expect them and they didn't except me. Not being arrogant, but I know I looked pretty that day. 🤪 So they came towards me, they both looked towards me but both didn't realize it was me. And I still remember so well, that this guy (who turned out to be my father) wouldn't throw a second glance at me and I was impressed (I was an adult then, so definitely he could have looked). Not until my mother shouted out my Name, my father looked again.
So happy for my mom and also now I know that it is possible for a man to keep his eyes and thoughts pure.🥰
You guys are so cute together as well 🥰
I think this video deserves to be another one of your top videos. :) It was well-done.
My answers to the same questions, just to add another perspective to the good one Paul gave:
Does height matter? To some guys, a little. Like Paul said though, it isn't usually a major factor. For me personally, I might be a little uncomfortable when first getting to know her if she was around 6'5" (Roughly a head taller than me.)
How are guys able to appear so calm when talking to girls? I think it depends on the guy a bit, and what you mean by "calm." Is this talking about nervousness, or just emotionally calm? For me, you can bet I'm nervous on a date. Once I know the girl well though, that's not there as much. In some stressful situations, or emotionally charged things, some of us can actually "switch off" / repress some emotion, making it seem like we're calm, and getting us through the situation. I'm sure there are social elements and things built into the way God made us that contribute as well.
Do you ever NOT like the way we look in the morning? No personal experience to answer from. I'd like to think that it wouldn't matter much, but we'll see.
How do you expect me to be groomed "down there" on the wedding night? This is going to vary some from person to person, just like if a guy was asking a girl. Culturally, people tend to lean towards little/no hair, but to me, hair is a natural part of who we are as humans. a jungle might not be best, but don't stress about it too much. If this were an engagement-stage conversation, that would be something to decide on together, and a thing where I'd want you to do what makes you comfortable.
Are guys shy to eat in front of girls? Like the "calm" question, it depends. In the past, I've gotten nervous enough to not be able to eat very well in front of people. That isn't often the case anymore. The act of eating has nothing to do with it, it's the way the guy handles stress that counts.
First thing you notice about girls? From just a looks perspective, overall shape is a thing. But everyone has a shape, and it's bound to change over time. When I want to notice something about a person, it's usually something about who they actually are. How they pray, how much they talk and what they talk about, who they hang out with. If I have an initial curiosity/attraction from looks, I'll look for ways to naturally get to know the person for who they are. Like Paul said though, sometimes that attraction is not the good kind of appreciation for beauty, and the "curves" can actually be enough to make me need some distance. There is a point where noticing physical attributes and how they are shown/covered tells me I don't need to take any further interest.
Do guys actually have deep conversations? Yes. In small groups/ groups of close friends, we do open up a bit more and discuss some heavy stuff. In a romantic relationship, I actually have to make sure I'm not starting too many serious conversations. Some guys aren't comfortable with deep conversations though, which is sad to me.
Besides prayer, how can I/we be supportive of guys struggling with porn? If it ever comes up, make it clear it's not ok, that you recognize it's hard to get out of, but that it's not something you tolerate or approve of. When possible by words and actions, remind guys that porn only shows bodies, but that every woman and every relationship is so much more than that. Treat them like brothers in Christ, and expect them to treat you as a sister. Present yourself not just as attractive bodies, but as a person that the guy has a responsibility to love and respect. There's a lot in this question, but I'll stop with that.
How often do you think about sex? As a single guy, I work to keep my thoughts off of what I have no right access to. But especially as physical pressure builds, that becomes more difficult. Some days are more difficult than others, but it depends on what else is going on. Am I in an environment where stuff is reminding me of sex? Where is my body at in terms of physical desire? Have I allowed my mind to dwell on something I saw or thought about for a bit longer than I should have? etc. The short answer is that sex comes up in the mind fairly often, but less often if I am mindful of where my thoughts are and caution is exercised with what environments I am putting myself in. Additionally, my experience is that without porn in my life, sexual thoughts have been less common.
Pretty girl:not girlfriend/wife. I'm single, but still have to control my thoughts and attitudes. I usually try to stay in a place where I can appreciate the beauty, but not focus on it. If I was married, I would do the same, but with the added step of redirecting my thoughts to my wife and mentally appreciating her too. I'd be redirecting any desire I have back to where that desire belongs: my wife. :)
100% ok with "just friends?" Like Paul said, that's dangerous territory. In my experience, that usually turns into more. It's perfectly fine to be friends, but it's never truly going to be "close friends" in the way I define that.
Ghosting if all is well? Either something major is going on in his life to take his focus away from "less urgent" things, or they aren't man enough to bring up the issue, and don't want to hurt you. Or were they serious and intentional about the relationship in the first place?
Do guys cry when they're heart-broken? I personally have at times, but it has been a very long time since it was a "sobbing cry." I'm not able to cry as much as I feel like crying on the rare occasion that I do. Most emotions are internal, but show themselves in quieter and thoughtful moods.
I generally think hairstyles where the hair is down/somewhat down are more beautiful, but I also really appreciate nice braiding. It really depends on the hairstyle.
Is it intimidating to know you're the leader/have responsibility? In ways, yes. modeling and imitating Christ's love, sacrifice, and provision in a marriage is a high standard to try to keep. Needing to make sure I am open to His leading and accepting responsibility for my failures when leading my family...Leading in prayer is a privilege, but can also have it's share of awkwardness too.
If you're so visual, why can't you tell when something is different? Usually I'd like to think I notice, but I know I miss stuff. Sometimes things are noticed, but I never say anything about it; the person is what matters, not small changes they make to their looks. But if the change has been discussed/asked about previously, I try to notice and comment on it.
What do guys do at sleepovers? Mostly watch movies, play video games, talk about trucks, guns, sports, whatever they're into. Guy sleepovers are often just fun get-togethers. Sometimes a serious talk or sharing will happen, but probably not as often as in a similar group of girls.
Situation where both guys have liked the same girl? Yes, that's happened a few times. That varies by what guys are involved. I've had one guy take me aside and encourage me to not go after one girl because he was interested in her. (competition?) Another time, I've seen potential romance cause problems between brothers. But I've generally seen guys take the same approach Paul mentioned: whoever gets her. She's the one deciding who to keep dating, and there's no point in being jerks to each other. :/
*Edit* Geez , that's a long comment...Sorry, and thanks to anyone who actually reads it. :)
Zogly haha appreciate the honesty bro! Thanks for sharing!
Love it!
Hats off to the honesty! 👏
Read it! 🙋♀️ thanks for taking the time to answer all of this. It’s encouraging to hear such integrity from a guy. Paul too. Thank you for being willing and vulnerable fo share with us, Samuel ☺️
Love this.
The ghosting thing guys do is super painful to be honest, if a guy is a christian he should at least explain why he ghosted or why he wants the friendship/relationship/dating to end, it can be very damaging to a christian girls self esteem when a christian guy ghosts!
Glad y’all can answer the questions that may be considered “awkward” because y’all are such good role models, love your channel!
Tarin Wittig awe thank you❤️😊
"Can we just talk about cheese?.. I don't care!" 😂😂😅
Don’t worry about haters and don’t hold back truth! Speak it freely because I know you guys are Holy Spirit-led and speak truth when God lays it on your heart to share! Keep being examples for us younger &a older people! Y’all are awesome because you honor your faith walks & take it seriously and it’s so evident!❤️ God’s using you guys! & He sees your heart on these topics! & so do we!
Awe thank you😊❤️
One of my guy friends from high school literally just told me the other day that he and the other three guys from our class growing up all liked the same girl (also in our class) and they all discovered it on the same day and just kinda laughed about it and then said they'd never tell her 😂 To this day, I don't know if she knows haha Loved getting your insight, Paul, and your honesty!!! Love you guys and keep shining
I love these car videos! They feel so candid, its like being with your friends in the parking lot and you've been at your destination for over an hour already but the conversation is just so good you haven't left the vehicle yet 💜
TheAvenueKid awe haha that actually makes us really happy to hear!
A little prayer for you:
Lord, thank You for Paul and Morgan and everything You're doing and going to do in their lives. Please protect them from any attacks of the enemy, and continually keep them in Your light. Speak Your truth over them daily and give them a hunger for Your word. Bless them with healing and wholeness in the deepest parts of their hearts, and fill them with Your peace and love. Give them grace to see and admit areas of their lives where they are not in alignment with Your Holy Spirit, and continually draw them closer to Your heart. I rebuke any shame in their lives or anything that would hinder them from surrendering things to You.
Thank You for using them to spread Your truth and joy to thousands of people across the internet. Thank You for guiding them and inspiring them in every video that they make. Thank You for protecting them from the voice of the accuser, and please put filters on their minds so that any negative feedback will be filtered into something the can be edifying (even if it's just teaching them to completely reject the feedback).
Please bless their relationship; help them to see each other how you see them, and increase their sense of humour about each other's quirks and differences. Please bless their communication and give them supernatural understanding in how they relate to each other.
Give them wisdom in how they relate to not only each other, but to their families, their friends, the strangers they meet wherever they go, and all their viewers on RUclips.
Fill them with hope, strength, and Your peace that passes all understanding.
In Jesus' name, amen
Awe thank you🙏❤️❤️
One of the best pieces of advice I ever read was in an old book about teen dating, I think it was published by Moody press. It said that a girl shouldn't rely on her physical attributes to attract a guy, because if a guy is the one God has in store for her, he'll be attracted to her not by physical appearance but by the power of the Holy Spirit working through her. And although I'm a guy and still single, I'm sure this works both ways so I don't spend a lot of time worrying about my own appearance. Of course that doesn't mean you shouldn't still bathe, comb your hair, etc....
If everyone lived by this creed the cosmetics industry would soon be bankrupt!
That’s true though. God’s plan will always prevail.
I just think it’s weird that they call women “girls” and “boys, guys” like what? We’re not in middle school lol idk maybe I’m overthinking
I guess a large part of their audience is middle-high school age
I didn't notice that detail, interesting! I wouldn't think much of it though. Tomato, tomatoe! They use the words respectfully :)
You are. Guys and girls is normal language to use. Its just easy words to use and it's common. Dont start acting like its brand new just to try to stur up some issues.
Fiona Kimble you’re overthinking 😂
I mean I'm 23 and still say guys and girls (Maybe I'm still behind)
I’m to afraid to even talk to a guy! Let alone ask him a question like that! 😭😭😭 I love this video thank you Paul and Morgan! I love you guys!
This is the most awkward video of yours, and I love it lol It's also funny how they look at each other with a mix of jealousy and frustration when each of them talk about attractive people outside of marriage lol
Emanuel de Araújo bahaha
Love the guys in the comments adding their perspectives as well! Yay for variety :) 🤩
Agreed, very insightful😊
Dara Mack this comment was so cute !
I'm starting to worry that you two are living in your car. Lol
Haha
It’s a “haha” they are screaming on the inside and realized they have been found out.
Seth Watkins 😂😂😂😂
@Libra Girl I hope your youtube name is not from a zodiac symbol. Please don't involve yourself with zodiac symbols.
heart break is different for men. Its like a hole in ur heart that is small at first but then keeps growing into this void, and everytime u remember that person it hurts.
Green Warden yeah :/
What happened to you bro?
Hey guys! Just wanted to drop in and say 1) Your videos are great! 2) Paul, I know you've been getting a lot of hate, and I bet that's been really wearing on you. I personally (without having any personal knowledge of you, of course) think you seem like a very nice guy, a considerate husband, and most importantly, a man who loves Jesus. You're speaking God's truth, which always draws hate from the world. I hope you'll continue in truth and grace, and I'm adding both of you to my prayer list, because I think you're ministering to a very hate-filled mission field. God bless you both!
So well said
Awe thanks so much, Susannah😊🙏
It’s so refreshing how casual and real you guys are!
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Brother Paul representing the guys!✊✊✊✊👏👏👏👏
I personally wouldn't compete with other guys over a girl, I'd move on tbh. I'd hate to waste time "competing" with other males(friends or not)over a female, it might just be better to move on and allow God to bring someone else into my life.👌
Thanks for the honesty😊😊
So much love here you guys! You radiate the kindness, gentleness and love of Christ. I feel so much peace and love here. It helps re-establish my hope for humankind :) thank you thank you thank you!
Awe praise God😊❤️
My high school youth group just finished up the book of Ruth learning about dating and love. (We're now going to have youth group through Zoom)
same (about the zoom thing)
Storm No Thunder oh that’s awesome!
We are doing zoom to
I know this video is focusing on the guys, but everything Morgan said about girls is true, like how we don't like to eat in front of our crush! So true!
Does a girl’s height matter? Do guys like tall girls?
On a very basic level we associate multiple qualities with height, with the main quality being dominance. So, it seems “out of place” if a woman is taller than her partner. However, those qualities are birthed from a very naturalistic mindset since height is nothing more than just genetics. Now, would it look different in pictures if the woman was taller? Yes. Would the man probably feel a bit awkward? Perhaps. Is true love able to put those things aside? Yes. It’s really just a matter of personal preference as far as how highly or lowly you value certain physical attributes.
How are guys able to appear so calm when talking to girls?
“Appear” is the important word in this question lol. I think it depends on who he is having the conversation with, the atmosphere and setting, as well as the overall experience and confidence of the guy. I’ve been nervous before and I’ve been calm; it really varies from person to person and situation to situation.
Do you ever not like the way we look in the morning?
I’m not married so I can’t answer that question but my best guess would be that it doesn’t matter at all. I mean, we’re human beings. If you aren’t vain then it won’t matter.
How do you expect me to be groomed down there on the wedding night?
I personally don’t care. I’m more of a refined hippie so it doesn’t matter to me. I guess it depends from person to person.
Are guys shy to eat in front of girls?
If they’re nervous already then that is just an extension of that but otherwise no.
What is the first thing you notice about a girl?
Naturally the first thing you notice about someone is their physical appearance. However, there are deeper qualities that can be inferred as well, such as modesty, overall disposition, attitude, so on and so forth.
Do guys actually have deep conversations about, like, psychology, how many kids they’d like in the future, etcetera?
Most definitely. I think it depends from person to person. Some people are deep, some aren’t (or maybe they don’t know how to be). I also think the depth relating to certain topics differs between men and women. We are equal, but different.
Besides prayer, how can women be supportive of men struggling with porn?
The Holy Spirit is the only one that can help anyone overcome and be victorious over any sin. Knowing that, fasting and praying is really the main way to overcome. Also, pray if there is any error in your way that would lead him to stumble, but don’t be paranoid about it.
How often do you think about sex?
As little as possible. If you’re single, it’s like thinking about a car you don’t own and don’t have the money for, which is fantasy, and fantasy is pointless.
When I was a virgin, the allure of sex being something unknown and not experienced was used by the devil to tempt me. Now that I’m not a virgin (unfortunately), the devil uses prior sexual experiences to try to get me bogged down in the flesh or get me overcome with guilt and shame. See, when you’re married, your wife’s naked body and your experiences together are not sinful. But, apart from marriage, those images and experiences are sin and tainted by guilt, shame, and lust. We are human beings and sexual reproduction is a part of our DNA. However, we live in a sex-crazed culture so we have to be adamant to not let the world’s thoughts become our own.
When you notice a pretty girl that’s not your girlfriend or wife, what are your thoughts in that moment?
You notice that she’s pretty and then move on; simple as that. People don’t stop becoming attractive just because you’re in a relationship. If you dwell then that is where lust steps in, which is sinful.
Are guys ever 100% ok with being just friends?
I don’t think guys and girls can be close friends without one or the other having interest or romantic feelings. Can you be friends? Yes, but not close or else you risk hurting your heart moreso than helping it.
Why do they “ghost” us if everything seems to be going well?
Because they are immature in their ability to face a potentially confrontational situation and conversation. It’s easier and more convenient to “ghost” someone rather than respecting them enough to discuss feelings and future.
Do guys cry when they are heartbroken?
Most definitely. At least, they should. If you have a heart of flesh and not a heart of stone then you should feel sorrow and grief over the loss of a relationship relative to how deep you became and whether or not there is a soul tie.
Do braids and hairstyles put them off? I’ve heard that boys like it better when you have your hair down.
That’s up to personal preference. Certain hairstyles accent certain facial features and create a certain look. It’s just an expression of creativity moreso than anything else.
Is it intimidating knowing you’re called to be the leader of the relationship?
Yes, it is. But is it debilitating? No. God wouldn’t put that calling on a man if he didn’t equip him to fulfill that calling. Will it require sacrifice like Christ loved the church? Yes. Is self sacrifice always intimidating? Yes, but not impossible.
If guys are a such visual beings, how come they can never tell when something is different with their girl?
Sharpness of mind and general awareness are key in noticing anything, whether it’s at work or in your partner. It also depends on how drastically obvious it is since we aren’t you in the sense that we didn’t go through the steps to create the difference.
What do guys do at sleepovers?
I don’t think guys have sleepovers lol. If they do I’m not aware of them. I usually just have intentional conversations with whomever depending on their level of vulnerability and willingness to share.
No ones gonna read this😂😂
ekram ahmed You don’t know that. I took the time to write each one of their questions verbatim and answer with godly wisdom; certainly there is value in that!
Um I read it ✋🏾☺️super insightful thank you so much for taking the time to write this, it really helped me understand how a guy thinks and p.s. let’s refrain from saying unnecessary comments that come off hurtful or rude :) we’re here to lift each other up and not down.
Jojo Thank you for the encouragement!
I read it too
Guy here: it’s not only guys that are drawn to porn. Most women get sucked in by an ad or something similar. I added a browser extension called “ublock origin” to chrome so I never see those ads for those sites.
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I loved this! You guys are awesome, I really enjoyed watching this video. I’m a young man and is beginning to enter the world of girls, relationships, etc. Your videos answered so many questions I’ve had, and some I never even thought of! God bless you both and thank you again!
My husbands is from Iran and I told him that guys in USA like women with curves. He can’t believe women actually pay for a huge butt, so depending on the culture will depend on what a man has interest in visually.
Y’all are lit! Thanks for representing The Boys well, Paul! And even on the awkward questions!🧐👍 I appreciate you being a good Christian role-model, Paul!
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This was so good! It would be cool if you did the same thing with questions guys are scared to ask girls and have Morgan answer them! That way girls know which areas to be more open about while seeking/maintaining a relationship too. ♥️ love you guys AND the video!!
Kayley Sims that’s a good idea😊
So that “just friends” yeah This guy I noticed him looking at me a lot following me and I know him so it wasn’t too weird but it was getting out of control and I was feeling uncomfortable so I talked to my pastor and he talked to him and the guy I am in a relationship with (my first!) I found out they were friends at one point so I talk to my boyfriend and he said it is ok and totally understood and he said to just stick close when we are together lol so yeah long story short everything is ok now just thought I would share! Hope you guys are having a good day!
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I love how honest you guys are with each other! This was an amazing video 😊
Christina D. Awe thank you!❤️
Guys 100 percent never wanna be just friends.
Some girls however, actually like being only friends with guys and will never see them as anything more.
Guys heed this advice! Always make your intentions clear with a woman as soon as possible. NEVER do the whole oh ill be nice for awhile and be friends and see where it goes! Never ever do that! happens all the time in the movies and never works in real life.
If a girl says lets just be friends or has a boyfriend, say hey Im not interested in just being friends but give me a call if you change your mind or doesnt workout with the boyfriend, id love to see you if im still single.
cause you run the risk of getting hung up on a girl for months or years who may never be available or may never see you as more than just a friend.
NEVER project your feelings on someone else!
I agree with not getting stuck on one girl. Too many guys waste months or years on a girl that will never be interested.
But there's plenty of girls I only want to be friends with. Typically guys dont hangout with lots of different women so its not as obvious. But in the same way you're not friends with all men, not all women are potential girlfriends.
This is good advice! lol Bc there's a guy at my church who likes me and I want to be friends with him (and only friends) and he's like the only person who even wants to talk to me...not to mention he's the pastor's son! Any advice?
Some guys just want to be friends. It's not like men want to be with every woman. Dont try to make it out like men only care about one thing.
Are you sure though? I like my best guy friend but idk igf he has feelings for me
@@autumnbelle9700 yes. Best thing for him is you to not be friends with him. Just try and avoid him, dont go out of your way to see him or speak to him but be friendly. If he asks you out best to be completely blunt and just say I'm not interested in you that way. Bc he obviously doesn't know much about women and if you try and let him down easy and not hurt his feelings he prob won't understand you're just not interested.
"And I will answer on behalf of all guys", no you won't. I watch you guys to pretend like I have a relationship. What you guys have is golden and other 90% of guys could care less about that. I've already accepted it.. May God continue to bless you two. Love y'all❤
I really enjoyed this video! As a girl, I have a lot of questions about relationship stuff and a lot of my questions were answered in this video! I would love it if you both could make another video like this soon, it was very helpful. Thank you! God bless you both🙏🏻💗
Brit Mito awe glad to hear that! Maybe we’ll do a part 2 :)
I love how you guys show how a male and female can interest in a healthy and fun way, and how your differences compliment each other.
I have a question: do Christian guys stand up for their female-friends? Like if one guy in the group says something about her appearance that’s inappropriate will
another guy stand up for her? Or laugh it off and not want to be a “simp”
Christy Waffle hey! Thanks for the comment :) I would hope the guy would stand up for the girl
How can you be so funny and wise at the same time?? Thanks for being you, for your honesty and humility! Keep it coming :D
Awe haha thank you😊❤️
Hi! First off thank you so much for making your videos I really really enjoy them and have learned a lot from them. I know you talk about singleness a lot and know there are a lot of people but specifically Christians out there looking for other single Christians who are also interested in pursuing an intentional relationship, but don’t always know how to meet other Christians in this season. I was wondering if y’all have ever thought about creating a platform for those people to connect? Maybe like an email list, insta page monitored by y’all, or something else I’m not sure but thought it was a neat idea :)
We’ve talked about it :)
I love the honesty and humour 😅
Oh Lord, I want a Christ centered relationship too 😊❤️
God bless you guys
You two are helping me with some questions about love dating and marriage I’ve had for years so thank you
Awe 😊🙌
Don’t feel bad about wanting her hair down, Paul 🤣 my boyfriend tells me all the time how much he likes my hair in a ponytail so I can attest to the opposite spectrum!!😊😂
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And my boyfriend tells me that he likes it down and up :)
But his big thing is that he likes it on the longer side.
I am glad God made women. Sometimes I wonder why I like them so much. It is comforting to know that God made woman for man.
Yours is a nice channel, with some very good content and a mostly valid world view.
I am a lapsed Catholic, and now a confirmed and rigorous atheist. However, I tend to agree with a lot of your prescriptions on inter-spousal relations and male-female mating behaviour (I am using the language of evolutionary theory, evolutionary osychology and anthropology, here, since I am coming at it from a non-theistic approach): Chastity, 'sex as spiritual practice' undertaken strickly within the confines of a lifelong monogamous relationship, modest dressing, saving yourself for marriage, etc.
Who does a wonderful job of providing the scientific underpinnings of what Christian (as well as many other) theologies engender and promote is the University of Toronto professor of psychology, Jordon Peterson. I do hope Morgan and Paul get to listen to his many lectures on this and other subjects, on You Tube.
Personally, I see no conflict between my atheistic world view and what P & M are proposing on this channel, and neither I suspect, does Jordon Peterson, who I know on the basis of his lectures, talks, public debates, espouses the same principles as does this channel. It appears that neither Jordon Peterson nor I require a belief in God in general, or Jesus in particular, to arrive at the same conclusion on 'rightful living' and the 'examined life' that the channel propounds.
There is just one thing that I would like to point out, and this regards an area of 'improvement', not so much for Paul, but for Morgan. But first let me provide some context.
My sense is that there is no (or at least, should not be) conflict between the theistic and non-theistic approachs as regards the importance of women developing their intellectual capabilities and their life-of-the-mind. For what I remember of my Catholic upbringing, I don't recall any proscription against this -- on the contrary women are encouraged to do so. And it is this that leaves me slightly confused when I observe Morgan's general demeanour, lack of articulation, inability to formulate ideas, etc. I find her development on this front quite stunted (yes, I know that sounds harsh, but it seems to me quite pronounced, and for whatever is is worth, I would like to offer it as feedback).
In distinction to Paul (who I find is full of original ideas and has the ability to formulate an articulation that effectively conveys those ideas, even within the confines of folksy American speech), Morgan seems mostly to trot out the same old party line, using the same old language and metaphor. It is as if she really does not contribute to discourse at all, and takes up unneccessary video footage. Again, I am sorry I am saying this, but critique can be useful, and I hope you find it so.
Morgan, to me, is reminiscent of the stereotypical ditsy all-American teenage girl who is encouraged to be slightly mindless, if only to 'fit in', and appeal to the boys who might find intellect, independent thought, etc. off putting/ not particularly sexy (which is why even, perfectly non-ditsy women will go out of their way to play dumb).
And, as I've said before, this is surprising because one would imagine that organisations and movement that promulgate and promote Christian ethos and the Christian way of life are anything but promoting of mindlessness in the female members if their flock.
In an attempt to gauge the benchmark on such matters, I checked out a couple of other channels similar to this, and found the female half of the duo very put together in the manner that we have been referencing. So, perhaps my experience of Morgan is not representative of Christian women in general.
For the sake of completeness of this note, I would add that not only does Morgan lack originality, substance (by which I mean ideas on the various sociological and theolgical dimensions that the channel purports to offer) and a fairly serious lack of articulation (and here I must bite the bullet and ask outright: why are the Americans so diffident about good verbal skills and a developed vocabulary; why is 'dumbed-down' speech so prized??), but these deficiencies are made up by flamboyant and coquettish mannerisms: Tossing of the head, side-to-side swishing of the hair, ghetto-tyoe speech pattern (cultural appropriation, anyone?) and a slack-jawedness that is intended to look cool but unfortunately is suggestive of intellectual disability. Again, I know I am being harsh, but I am telling it like it is. Additionally, if Morgan intends to be in this business of running a channel (and a channel with a certain amount of intellectual complexity that is commanded by the subject matter that is supposed to deal with -- ie., rightful living as guided by Christian theology), she needs a greater facility (and 'felicity'; there is some overlap between the meanings of the two) with a plethora of subject matter: sociology, anthropology, political science, feminist theory, philosophy, comparative religion, social psychology, evolutionary theory, college writing, and the basics of research methodology (both quant and quality; this last will assist Morgan with being able to undertake basic literature reviews).
What I am getting at here is that in order to develope intellect, an academic approach (which is needed in all walks of life) and general domain knowledge, one can either be a die-hard autodidact, or be lead through guided learning via the formal college education system. It appears Morgan has not had more than a high school education, and has been unwilling or unable to continue her education and intellectual development on her own. Paul, on the other hand, is a delight to listen to.
I will end here with the hope that Morgan sees past my plain speaking critque and resonates with enough of it to edify herself.
Cheers.
Love your honesty in each of these questions. Thank you for being such great role models for your viewers!
Christian Mama Diaries awe thank you❤️😊
Honestly Morgan’s eyebrows like what 😍 so gorgeous!
You guys are so cute, loved this!
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I also have wondered that question, if any guys feel intimidated knowing they're called to be the leader of a relationship. It is a great honor and big responsibility. The whole purpose behind marriage is a beautiful concept in itself-with Christ being to the church as the husband is to the wife, and vice versa. It truly does take work to live out both roles well, but they DEFINITELY are worth doing and above-all-else are God-glorifying.
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Question: Why would guys not care to talk to a girl or care of what she's talking about?
It seems no matter who I talk to they don't seem to care what I'm talking about. It seems like just going out there doesn't help to connect with some...It's Christian guys that I'd talk to. I'm going on 23 soon and I just don't understand why none would like to talk to me...
PrincessAlysiaMaria you are young my friend. there will come a man who pays attention.
Saame!
“ Im about to have to deliver a SHARP WORD “ 🤣🤣
I just want to say I'm happy to hear Paul say that he wouldn't force Morgan to have sex with him when she's not in the mood just because she is his wife. This is a problem in Christianity. Marital rape is RAPE. So, thank you for acknowledging bodily autonomy.
It's actually a shame that something like that has to be commended. That should be the norm and not worthy of mention. Really is a shame.
Thanks for answering these questions! Something that is interesting to me is that I'm a girl but I tend to be a more visual / logical(rather than emotional) person... I tend to think in similar ways as guys more than girls. It's just interesting.
In all seriousness, great video! Such great questions, thank you for answering mine! It really helps us get perspective on how guys can process things so that we can learn how to navigate their ways a little bit better.
Emily G awe so glad to hear that!❤️
I thought this was part 2?! 🤔 If not, I vote for making these videos on a regular basis. I could ask 20 more myself!
Bahaha glad to hear!
Addressing the what do guys notice first question... From my experience "with the boys", there is a difference between noticing an individual's physical assets and noticing a girl. I think Paul kinda alluded to this point, but an individual who constantly flaunts their physique is perceived differently from a modest individual.
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A big bless from Dominican Republic.🇩🇴
God blessed you guys. Love the way Paul is so honest answering.
i just find your channel and what a bless guys. You won't believe me how many videos i already watched.😅🙈 You help me a lot to grow in God in diferents areas of my life.
You got a place on heaven.
Keep going💗
Awe thanks Karla😊❤️ God bless
I was up until 3am last night praying about something, and I’m so glad I watched this video today. For reasons not disclosed, I NEEDED to hear some of these words from you guys, feel like a weight has been lifted. Thank you 🙏💕
I appreciate yalls realness! Thank you both for your hearts to serve us Christian singles in hopes of no longer being single. 😁💞
Height not heighth.
Sorry, that's a pet peeve, haha.
There is this boy who sings on my worship team at church. I have had one conversation with him, and let me tell you I made a fool of myself. I was so awkward. No doors have opened up although I’ve prayed. However there is this guy at my work who has been pursuing me relentlessly, He believes in God but he’s not really my type. He’s not creepy lol but he is convinced I am his future wife. Idk what to think or how to approach all of this. Any advice? I am opening up bc I need godly advice and you know I ended up here.
What is it about the man at work that you don’t like? What are the differences between him the guy that you do like that makes the other guy peak your interest?
@@billmiller2308 well it’s been sometime and I was very straight foward with him and set some boundaries and he has kept crossing them even after I told him and blocked him he proceeded to make multiple accounts and message me and even reached out to my mom.
@@djwafflez9354 if he doesn’t respect boundaries then he is definitely not the right one, atleast not right now. It seems like he needs to go through some maturity before he is ready for anything. I wouldn’t feel bad for not wanting him.
@@billmiller2308 thank you. Yea I knew I didn’t like him like that but a lot of people were pressuring me so now I learned what some of my boundaries are and who to listen to.
I think both of you did such a great job with these questions! It was really fun to see such a chill video, please do more like these. Kudos to Paul for answering these questions so honestly! It was kinda funny sometimes to see his reaction to what girls would do vs a boy.
Awe thank you! We plan to do more😊
Just started to watch all your videos. And I'm so blessed with your insights. God bless you both 🙏 Jesus In Me Loves You 💕
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You're a really funny couple lol, I always get a laugh watching you both. Keep up the good work. May you continue to find favor in God's eyes and in the eyes of men. 🙏
Rishado amen, thanks so much bro🙏
@@PaulandMorgan no problem!
lol Paul is so modest. I appreciate Morgan for keeping it real real haha!
Aisha Elle 😊😊
I know the topic was focusing on questions girls afraid to ask for guys(and from Paul's perspective), however ... What would Paul say the guy version of dressing too slutty is or too promiscuous for guys to dress as?
As a single guy I would like to know how women feel about headcovering and long dresses and skirts as a lifestyle. Would a lady stop wearing heels if it was a stumbling block for a guy that interest her? Or accept the guys struggle perhaps? How many ladies have the conviction to grow their hair long? How many ladies like men with beards?
Shelby Spivey that’s awesome that you believe in headcovering and modesty at such a young age. I see headcovering as a crown for a daughter of the King of the Universe, a physical symbol of a spiritual protection. One young lady I talked to on RUclips that was 16 at the time that Embraced long dresses and long skirts as a lifestyle said that she had more self-respect and self worth as a result. Her mom even started embracing long dresses and skirts shortly after and many of her friends started wearing more dresses and skirts. I am 43, and as Messianic believer I keep the sabbath and holy days. I have never even dated. I have always been afraid of being judged for my struggle with women wearing heels, but I admitted my struggle as part of having integrity as a “teacher “ of God’s Word. Tassels of Numbers 15:38-40 and Deuteronomy 22:12 was life changing for me in taking thoughts captive better. I know there are a lot of women that don’t like beards; mine is a symbol of my desire to live a covenant lifestyle.
Aw wow. This is the first time I have seen a video from Paul and Morgan. I love it a lot, especially as a Christian teen girl. And also, Morgan is so beautiful . You two are a lovely couple
Awe thanks for watching!
“Whoa, he is looking rough” 🤣🤣🤣 Re-listening to some of these older ones! 😁
Thank you very much for the video Thank God that through the web I can see from the distant Holy Land at the other end of the world to see your video.
Let's all pray for the whole world and for the Holy Land to beat Corona.
And in general for a better future
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so excited for this ! Love these kinds of videos from you guys :) Your dog is so precious btw
Cynthia Ruelas haha so glad to hear!
“Can we just talk about cheese?! 🧀 I don’t care” 😂😂🤣
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I love that you asked simple and hard questions!!! This video is so great, love y’all♥️
Glad you liked it!
WHY IS PAUL SO FUNNY I COULDNT STOP LAUGHING 💀😂
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Imagine how influencial and convincing Paul is to brainwash Morgan to make a 180 on her life and career. You have to be careful on whom you fall for, to some religious people you are nothing more than another head that gets converted for their records in church/mosque/temple or for their personal satisfaction or even to be with their version of you. This is just very selfish of Paul.
Also i can't just blame just paul here morgan could be dumb and naive as hell to fall for his submition and conversation tactics considering she is saying girls that a woman conceived after a full hysterectomy, did she ever go to school.
What on earth
I think it's unfair to judge people on this platform. They aren't vloggers so we don't get to see the inner workings of their life and even with vloggers, they don't open up as much. We're given 20 mins of them. Somebody may be having a bad day or some one can say something out of turn doesn't mean it happens on a regular basis. We just have to discern with the Holy Sprirt, who's true and who's not but leaving this type of comment isn't helpful at all. Calling names. The Bible speaks very clearly about foul language which is not only curse words. You have so much power in your tongue and also authority to back it up don't use it the wrong way. This was not a rebuke. Don't wanna cause any drama. ❤️
@Music Box I'm curious as to how you're so certain Paul was the main reason she chose to take this path in her life.
Love how raw and real this is ❤️
Thank you for making this!❤❤ Love you guys! Paul should ask Morgan some questions!
Mable Carlson awe❤️ Yes maybe so!
Thank you guys for being so open and vulnerable. ❤️👉🏼👈🏼
“Wooly mammoths” i cannot stop cracking up I’m about to cry , Morgan is so funny 😭😭
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My answer to the question that led to that quip from Morgan is a man who doesn't want any hair down there doesn't want a woman. RUN!! Prepubescent girls don't have hair and that is what a man wants if he doesn't want hair.
I don’t see any guys commenting. Very few. It would be cool to see a lot more responses from guys even read from a post from Instagram, Answering these questions.
Hi Paul & Morgan! Thank you so much for your channel!!
I wanted to ask what passage in the Bible you are referencing when we (self & spouse) will go before God and He will judge our husband’s leadership in the marriage? Curious because I haven’t heard of that! Thank you xx
Jesus is what attracted me to Caleigh, her godliness was the most attractive part of her, after that her beauty! -J
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Love this video! I love the fun setup in the car! Morgan your hair looks gorgeous today! I'm sure your hair isn't as crazy as my long curls in the morning 😂.
Allison Lucas awe glad you liked it!❤️
I love your respect and trust in each other. thank you for the honesty and advice! please keep me in your prayers that I can be a Godly woman.
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Paul and Morgan i really love you guys, so i'm binge watching your channel during this quarantine🍿🎥😌
Awe haha❤️😊
19:05 my goodness WHO was this girl???
Your guys videos are amazing!! Love you guys!
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You two are very brave and really a couple to look up to! Thanks for making such honest videos I am enjoying them a lot♡♡♡
Awe thank you😊❤️
My husband is the same, he is sweet but only wants my hair down all the time! I like to know what he likes though, so I don't mind 😊💓
You're profile pic looks cute. I'm glad you want to please your husband.