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I heard an unbeliever say “there’s no hate like Christian love”. I was speechless and it broke my heart bc I knew exactly what he meant. We have to do better fam.
@@kimberlygonzalez2864 same sis, I’ve said critical things the Holy Spirit did not tell me to say & I’ve been on the receiving end of criticism not led by the Holy Spirit. The basement has given me perspective for a lifetime! Excited for us to be better 💕
@@danniellereinhardt9674 Some of us have downplayed our calling to “fit in” with society, friends, and other things because it wasn't popular. Even if it's a “true” calling, it's possible. Not everybody does what God calls them to do.
I soooo relate to Charles. Having so many different versions of yourself can be tiring. Thank God for showing me the freedom in being who he created me to be ❤
Charles is super dope💯 so glad he was called into the fashion space🙌🏼 we creative's need Kingdom representation in every arena we can get! #LetsMakeImpact
"Long-term commitment is sexy!" I feel that and commend it so much 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love the idea of monogamy and when done with the right person it could truly be such a beautiful experience. I wish more people felt this way 🤎
When Tim thanks Abby for not running away 🥹🥲💞 The relationship is a symbol to show Gods love for us, & Abby truly has showed Charles the love Jesus has for him through providing that safe place 🙏🏼💝
The basement is shaping the generation of preachers, teachers, and content creators. It is shaping and reorienting our perspective of the gospel. How we see people, what God is telling us personally, and what He wants to be shared with His people. Thanks, Tim.
Its the several octaves Charles' voice dropped when he said "she has been the safest place for me to become the man that I never thought I could be"🥲🥵😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I'm gonna leave this episode now🙌 I be back tomorrow🚶♀🚶♀
Tim makes me so comfortable with my calling. When I feel like I'm sharing to much or being too much I remember this is what I was destined to do, be vulnerable, be transparent, authentic, and very loving. And I just love Charles, I would've never known he was dealing with this because I've always loved ho he is fully himself. This is a great episode.
Thank you for this comment. You putting it into the context of a calling really resonates with me because it’s the same for me. Whenever I’m vulnerable I feel so exposed and awkward even though it’s naturally apart of who I am and also partially because I’m still working through my pride.. pride and radical vulnerability do not like eachother 😂 thank you for this comment ❤ God bless you
@@TylerElijah 🥰❤️ it definitely takes vulnerability to share this. I know you will make a major impact, ppl really need us. I will be praying for you. Blessings! 🙌🏾
he’s so genuine and honest and relatable. he seems like a dude you’d meet in college and be inspired by or get great advice to, who was then led to being a pastor. not some stuffy, uptight and prosperity gospel preaching pastor, the fact that he’s so young gives me such great motivation. young people are still strong and vulnerable in Christ.
43:33 I felt every word this man was saying right here. If not for the love of my wife and her being a safe place for me to go to, I don’t think I ever would have developed my relationship with God and become a man I can be proud of. I’m still a work in progress as we all are but this hit me bro. Thank you so much to Tim Ross and Charles Metcalf for this amazing pod. So grateful to be a basement dweller.🤙🤙🤙
My selah was on minute 45 when Charles started talking about his wife being a safe space and I will be unpacking why that was the case for several weeks on end. That hit me HARD
As a adult with past trauma, this episode was so enlightening for me. It’s so tiring to hide behind the many masks trying to conform to “standards” and appease others. Thank you guys for your vulnerability.
I'm only like 40 minutes in and I'm in tears.The journey to become myself has been a struggle for me but, becoming self aware has been the most liberating moment of my life! I know God has much more in store for me and I pray that his purpose would continue to manifest in my life. @TimRoss Thank you so much for being obedient and doing @The basement .I have been blessed over and over. You have absolutely no idea on how these episodes have brought revelation and transformation 🙌 ☺.
I relate 1000% to what Tim said about if people can own up to things, I can work with that! “If you can’t own it, I can’t rock with you.” Taking accountability is the first step to resolution and moving forward. Love this podcast. Thank you both for your obedience and vulnerability as always!!! ❤
Bi-racial/multi-racial kids/people have it tougher than you think. Most of us have identity issues because of how American treats us, that is, both white Americans and black Americans. Its difficult. Thank you for bringing this forth Charles. I would love to offer a female perspective to this.
I cannot say how much I appreciate Pastor Charles for the first topic that they covered which essentially was code switching. I will need to listen to this several more times. I am a black woman who was raised by a white stepfather, lived in an all black neighborhood and went to all white schools. Every room that I walk in I evaluate which version of myself I need to be in order to survive and I only breathe when I am at home alone because no one can judge me there. God has taught me that even that is pride but that’s a whole other topic. I just want to say thank you Pastor Charles for going into the basement on that topic.
Thank u both for sharing this…. I am a green hair wearing, tattooed, fashion lover that is IN LOVE with GoD and for most of my life in church I was made to feel I had to be a certain way to minister to the body of Christ!!! This podcast TUHDAY confirmed what God has been trying to tell me!! I am perfect how I am!! God can use us all!! THANK YOU both for sharing!!
When Charles said " After experiencing what it is to breath in and out normally, I can't hold my breathe, I don't have time to hold my breathe" I felt that. Thank you for this podcast❤
Charles was the vessel that God used to give my life to Christ after me not knowing the lord at all at the age of 28! He will always hold a special place in my walk with God. My testimony will always start with him. 🫂
Bro the basement has already helped me a lot. This space is safe for me, and that means so much to me because I identify heavily with the breaths at the beginning of the video. Thank you so much! 💓
Me over here weeping at the 45 minute mark… Charles, that did something in me I will be unpacking for a good amount of time… there is so much power in the give and take of vulnerability and the longing to be a man’s safe place. That empowers in a way I haven’t heard the wife role in a marriage being empowered. Thank you for that, brother! ❤
Triggered & Blessed by this message. I’m only half way through and have to comment on how incredibly beautiful and transformative it is hearing husbands speak about vulnerability, safety in their spouses, and letting self reflection be the benchmark for relationships. 😢😮❤
Not me in the hairdresser chair.. fighting tears but resonating with everything so far and I’m 56 mins in!!! … I needed this convo, this level of honesty, transparency and vulnerability today… I think Charles is such a gift and blessing to us .. the way he articulates the truth & his truth always hits … thank you so much for this.. the way he speaks of what his wife has done for him 🥹..just by accepting and loving him for who he is has given us the blessing we are seeing and hearing and be led by today.. mannnn!! I just love it.. thank you God, Charles and Tim for this 🤎
I am Charles. i felt a deep exhale when I allowed myself to fully surrender to God and let him help me thru my weakness and be vulnerable in a way to my husband I never thought I was capable of before. thank you Charles for your vulnerability. thank you the basement! Thank you. First time I’ve used words without tears and be open.
This was good. Charles hit me when he said, “irrational Grace feels uncomfortable…” ummmm! Hello?! Yes! But who ministered to me without saying a word? Abby. When Charles mentioned her ambition with photography and she was uninhibited in her dreams. She decided to open up her platform to the WORLD for business…how far would I be had I been able to believe I could really do whatever and be paid for it…that hit me…HARD. I’m a black girl from the South, I’ve lived my life up and down the East Coast and while Ive traveled to multiple countries…I just have never heard…wow. The narrative for me has been about what my limits are but never the limitless abilities. Now I know culture, race, and racism is a part of that and as Tim pointed out, America keeps up the labels to keep boundaries in place by telling you what you are…what a run on sentence lol it’s just A LOT. I love it, I’m blessed. Abby!! Girl! Yes ma’am!
Im in my DJ Khaled "Another One" in the basement. I cried, laughed, learned, related with and so much more! All in all, my spiritual appetite is open for more bible. Appreciate the community!!! This is where its at!!!❤🎉😊
The FIRST thing I thought of when he said "The Purples"...was, how would we cheer that? ...then Tim. 🤣 I'm an African who grew up in Oklahoma and went to an all white private school, then went to University at Howard.....🤣God is helping me, be me and love me everyday. Great interview!
He lowkey didn't answer the question about the comedy special though.... :s Will you or will you not be doing a comedy special? THAT IS THE QUESTION! lol Love you all
As a designer and creative, I wish I was friends with Charles or people like him. I relate so much and also so convicted during this episode! The creatives are so grateful for you having him. It’s REALLY inspiring man
1 morning when I was 17 I woke up for school & I was super tired. Must've stayed up too late or something. I went to the bathroom & I fell asleep while standing up peeing. I hit my head on the side of the sink. Had a concussion & everything. I've been peeing sitting down ever since!!! 😂🤣 It's so relaxing & it's the perfect 1 minute break you need sometimes during a busy day. Fellas be manly enough to try peeing sitting down sometimes!
This may be odd to some, but whenever I pee I wipe the toilet seat off because I’ve also noticed how much pee splatters on the lid. And I’ll do it even if there was pee before I got there because now my pee has been added. I feel you Tim and thank you for your incredible transparency.. I too pee sitting down at night and I had no idea that was going to come from your mouth😂 you are not alone ❤ God bless you
This podcast just resignated with the deliverance I was seeking 😢 thank you. The normality to want to Serve and live to be free but yet bound. While yet trying to Be Me
You guys have not made it easy for me. I want to send a personal message I know this is late on this video but I opened up to my wife my porn addiction and my sexual sin I did when I was younger. Balled my eyes out to the lord asking for something anything but nothing has come
Thats why i tell everyone. The exact reason why my finances, and the reason why i lost friends and everything else bad. The whole reason is because of what i have done. I often wonder how my life would have been if i would have surrounded my life to the lord 23 years ago or sooner. What i have been thru i thank god for letting me live thru it. I thank god for what he has done for even for the unseen. The tools i have from all my past mistakes is what i am goin to teach others too so they do not make them too. I take ownership of this. And i do not like it when people say the devil made me do it. No he did not. Everything i done was a choice. I had persuading by the devil on my shoulders. But i did everything myself. Thank you lord for loving me so much to save me. Its only from the lord.
The thought of one (or many) of my "secular" friends giving their life to Jesus waters my eyes. God giving you the privilege of that experience is mesmerizing/astonishing/amazing/beautiful/etc. God bless you, Charles. And may you continue Kingdom-building 🤲🏽
I relate SO MUCH with what Charles said about being a youth pastor and struggling with sins, I literally had that "breakdown" moment in a camp 2 days ago and i really hope that God free me from this 😭
Absolutely love this! The Holy Spirit definitely convicts us on an individual ,intimate level. What some can do, others cannot. God knows our heart. But we gotta love how He knows what we like! I love that God gave Tim a deal on the chain he wanted. Man,obedience is everything. 🫶
Okay, I don’t know what just happened, but this was my first exposure to this podcast and the people; the topics shook me to my core. The openness, the insight, the the hurt, the humor, (and I can’t overlook the cinematic, buttery imagery). It’s so crazy to see something God clearly did (this podcast).
This is the episode I didn't know I needed. I grew up moving around a lot too and as much as it opened me up to the world, it definitely contributed (along with other life events) to me compartmentalising and not knowing how to let the different parts of who I am to exist freely. I'm now trying to let God heal me and I've seen some victories even though full recovery still feels a little far away. Your podcast and your guests always bless us so much, thank you for all the work you do and for freely gifting us with your experiences and outlook on life, I trust the Lord will continue to increase you all.
What Pastor Charles said is really freeing for me!!!! Cause I’ve been many versions of myself but I’m at place in my life now(in my 40s) that all the versions I was is me and I’m just me. When he said tap dancing and holding your breath, that resonated with me.
I went through all the emotions on this one. Also this video made me finally subscribe cause now I get what the basement is about, it's vulnerability and liberation. Going to start a new internal dialogue with myself now. I used this as a meditation and bible study, had to sleep for an hour after getting halfway cause it got too deep and I kept writing notes, having ideas, praying, crying, I got so exhausted. This is the best thing I've ever seen in my life. Thanks for the life hack will experiment later 😂
Man this pod was a blessing to my spirit. Not only do I feel a calling to create art for the Lord, but to know that it's my soul that I want to have last. Long term goals man! Long term goals is the key to this walk.
As I sit at my craft table and create these handmade earrings…I needed this and didn’t even know. Whew. I’ve been on this creative journey since I was little. I was constantly fighting a battle with myself because I was doing something to satisfy my parents and others. Don’t get me wrong, all of those experiences helped me learn about myself and be able to do what I love full time. I never understood what I was going through until I spent a long year of what felt like hell and talking to God. After I changed my view on my dreams, God has been showing out for me!❤️
This conversation was so good! And Charles' experience was relatable on SO many levels. I just wished they took the conversation back to go over the parts he said he was going to touch upon later. Please can we have a follow up on this?
Amazing podcast! Such good content. I coulda listened to you and Charles talk for hours n hours. Both your voices are so chill and soothing to listen to. Please bring him back again in the future. This is definitely one of my favorite podcasts. Love n Light
This help me so much. God keeps revealing things to me and it’s what I prayed for, he KEEPS teaching me how to love the way he did .. he checked me and blew my mind with this one…like, have I been that safe space for my husband of 14 years? Man 🤯💕 and how EVERYONE just wants to hear and feel, “I’m with you.” 🤯💕 and how we need to expand our minds..& the new title he created and concept !! Man sooo good ! 💕 ALL of it. As someone who feels like an artist with my hands tied behind my back..As a creative, trying to figure it out…I just can’t say enough.❤
This podcast blessed me. But what I really came on here to say is THANK YOU TIM and the TOME squad. I been going through a season of lacking peace in my mind. Lack of peace in my mind resulted in a lack of dedication to my calling/purpose, lack of intentionality in anything I did, low self-care, falling behind in school and in goals, and heaviest of all my faith starting to decrease. One night praying, I felt the holy spirit tell me to watch this podcast. To be honest, I never really paid attention to that Tome ad until I heard the Holy Spirit say "You need to invest in yourself." The more I watched the podcast, the more that statement festered in my head. I bought the entry-level (according to my college student budget lol) course and LET ME TELL YOU, I have been better since the introduction video. Yes, Jesus is and has been my main therapist but there were some things that I just could not figure out until Peace Of Mind, Tim Ross, and Tenitra (Michelle) Williams gave wordage and practical application. Yeah, some of the stuff I was already doing, but there were some things that I avoided until y'all told me to. Everything they said to do (so far because I have more episodes to go) is true, accurate, actually works, and has given me literally "peace of mind". Thank you.
I'm sorry but I cant take anything this guy says seriously. he doesn't understand God or The bible( he said that "The Bible was writen by jews for jews" and "we need to give back The bible to the jews"!!!!????!!!!???? and so much more self proclaimed doctrine(based on feelings not the Word of God)). So it's a pass for me bro. Hope you do manage to help some people in some way, cuz mental health is a very serious thing. When it comes to being a disciple, believer and serious follower of Christ, this aint the place for that! Be blessed in Jesus name!
I think that’s every kid. Your in survival mode but your high functioning and can make it in every situation. I used to tell different people, I feel like I’m wearing a mask. I felt like him bc I was a black Caribbean/hispanic immigrant girl in America. Having to keep that standard of culture and family vs how America say me: a black girl(which I wasn’t aware of) and WHOM GOD CALLED ME TO BE: most comfortable self, yet made others extremely uncomfortable. So relatable. God all my answers to questions about me in the last 3 year or so (in my 30s).
BOY, listen, y’all are going off on this episode, and I am only 23 minutes in, and I cannot even fathom how relatable what you all are saying is speaking to my life! It’s like God himself is breathing the words into you all’s mouth, telling me exactly where I am, where I have been, and where I need to go salute my brothers I love the basement. #Vulnerability
Im 15 mins in and a huge AHA just slapped me in the face - I’m also bi racial and I’ve been aware of it my ENTIRE life. For as long as I can remember I’ve had people (most family 🥴) telling me how I’m “supposed to be”, who I am, what I can and can’t do, can and can’t like, because of my background. THIS is the origin story of the people pleasing in my life - constantly adapting and changing and shifting who I “am” in order to be accepted by the adults in my life. It makes perfect sense then that that pattern, left uninterrupted would carry over into my adult life 🤯🤯🤯 y’all are doing the Lords work just by sharing stories!
I’m so thankful that God led me to this podcast and this specific episode. Charles’ story really resonates with me because I’ve been dealing with similar struggles. This video blessed me❤️
Boxed water IS better^^ Interesting. Cause I usually just mark black and don’t look back. Granted I know I’m American when talking with my international friends but wow
13:55 STOP! I’ve literally said this before, like wow I didn’t even know I was holding my breath, until I found a community and space that was like yeah “we actually want to know you, not this mask you have on.” Crazy.
I don't know why... But this episode was a bit if an anticlimax for me. Not really much wa said.. And considering the journey, struggle and testimony of Charles, I was left a little underwhelmed to be honest. It was good, yes, but just not as insightful or transparent as the basement usually is. Just my humble opinion. Xx
This is my 2nd comment now lol. This podcast highlighted so much stuff, that man Charles be spitting foreal. He said something that really got me thinking, how much love do we actually show as "believers" or "Christians". Come to think of it, some of the most judgemental people were believers stuck in a traditionalist culture that was almost cultic. Something I have also been thinking about is if there are people that have conformed to the culture of the church or have been raised in the church and adapted to what was done, are they in-fact (what I like to call) "Auto-saved" where they look the part more than they act the part. This also got me thinking since we have in some sense adapt to the culture of the church, do we distance ourselves from the world because they don't look like or act like us? I heard someone say every encounter with a person who doesn't believe don't need to be a 3 point sermon with a closer, sometimes the love of God through kindness can be enough. Just because I'm not of the world, that doesn't mean I should be mean to people that are at where I have come from.
(And others outside of the US will tell you: "You are not American (only), you are from the United States OF the continent of America. America is the whole continent. hehehe... Love this convo)
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TIM know his bible. And do not try to go toe to toe. He rarely read any other book other than the bible. I just realized Eve did not eat a apple.
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Which Bible do you have Tim? Thank you and keep going!
I heard an unbeliever say “there’s no hate like Christian love”. I was speechless and it broke my heart bc I knew exactly what he meant. We have to do better fam.
Amen Desiree ❤ including myself. I need to do better. God bless you ❤
OMG..THIS !! So true.
@@kimberlygonzalez2864 same sis, I’ve said critical things the Holy Spirit did not tell me to say & I’ve been on the receiving end of criticism not led by the Holy Spirit. The basement has given me perspective for a lifetime! Excited for us to be better 💕
Wow
Oh man that hurt to hear and I've seen examples of that.
When you downplay your calling, you give yourself an excuse to require less of yourself. What a powerful statement. 🙌🏾
Girl when I tell you that hit me like a ton of bricks?!
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Unsure how we might “downplay” our callings when in my opinion it isn’t possible if it is a true calling
@@danniellereinhardt9674 Some of us have downplayed our calling to “fit in” with society, friends, and other things because it wasn't popular. Even if it's a “true” calling, it's possible. Not everybody does what God calls them to do.
I soooo relate to Charles. Having so many different versions of yourself can be tiring. Thank God for showing me the freedom in being who he created me to be ❤
Yassss you go girl! 💜
Add Being multi talented is even worse.
@@shontaviajohnson9020 ♥️♥️
@@jasonmedas603 yeeees
@@jasonmedas603 you got this! You are apart of GOD! You are strong!
Hector and Sam laughing in the background has become iconic, you cant miss it
I thought I was the only one. lol EVERY episode
Iconic
This is what we NEEDED. Vulnerable people walking in who God called them to be. I’m so thankful for this podcast
Charles is super dope💯 so glad he was called into the fashion space🙌🏼 we creative's need Kingdom representation in every arena we can get! #LetsMakeImpact
"Long-term commitment is sexy!" I feel that and commend it so much 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love the idea of monogamy and when done with the right person it could truly be such a beautiful experience. I wish more people felt this way 🤎
When Tim thanks Abby for not running away 🥹🥲💞 The relationship is a symbol to show Gods love for us, & Abby truly has showed Charles the love Jesus has for him through providing that safe place 🙏🏼💝
What min of the vid was that??
@@danielsaidaer754655:23
The basement is shaping the generation of preachers, teachers, and content creators. It is shaping and reorienting our perspective of the gospel. How we see people, what God is telling us personally, and what He wants to be shared with His people.
Thanks, Tim.
Its the several octaves Charles' voice dropped when he said "she has been the safest place for me to become the man that I never thought I could be"🥲🥵😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I'm gonna leave this episode now🙌 I be back tomorrow🚶♀🚶♀
And I’m right there with you ❤️ I’ll be chewing on that and how Holy Spirit moved in that moment for a minuteee
“ if you can’t own up to it, I can’t deal with you “ AMEN, I felt that and I receive it, I will live by this!!!
This was one of the rawest, most funny, most insightful, uplifting, and most impactful episodes. Man! I thank God for y'all, God bless.
Tim makes me so comfortable with my calling. When I feel like I'm sharing to much or being too much I remember this is what I was destined to do, be vulnerable, be transparent, authentic, and very loving. And I just love Charles, I would've never known he was dealing with this because I've always loved ho he is fully himself. This is a great episode.
Thank you for this comment. You putting it into the context of a calling really resonates with me because it’s the same for me. Whenever I’m vulnerable I feel so exposed and awkward even though it’s naturally apart of who I am and also partially because I’m still working through my pride.. pride and radical vulnerability do not like eachother 😂 thank you for this comment ❤ God bless you
@@TylerElijah 🥰❤️ it definitely takes vulnerability to share this. I know you will make a major impact, ppl really need us. I will be praying for you. Blessings! 🙌🏾
@@arialdemi As will you too❤️ we’re in this walk together for God. I hope you have a joyful day today Arial.
Thank you! 😊
👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉 @arialdemi so much power in your words!!
Omg Charles is my best preacher of all times!!! I'm so pumped for this to drop!!! 💃💃
Yoooooooo REAL LIVE !!!!!!
he’s so genuine and honest and relatable. he seems like a dude you’d meet in college and be inspired by or get great advice to, who was then led to being a pastor. not some stuffy, uptight and prosperity gospel preaching pastor, the fact that he’s so young gives me such great motivation. young people are still strong and vulnerable in Christ.
@@angel1202003 I totally agree.
43:33 I felt every word this man was saying right here. If not for the love of my wife and her being a safe place for me to go to, I don’t think I ever would have developed my relationship with God and become a man I can be proud of. I’m still a work in progress as we all are but this hit me bro. Thank you so much to Tim Ross and Charles Metcalf for this amazing pod. So grateful to be a basement dweller.🤙🤙🤙
“If I tell you the truth, will you still be with me!” That right there spoke volumes. Thank you Lord!
“When you downplay your call, you give yourself an excuse to require less of yourself” 🤯😱 I had to selah on that
right!? I had to pause and rethink my entire life! This pod is ON TIME!
My selah was on minute 45 when Charles started talking about his wife being a safe space and I will be unpacking why that was the case for several weeks on end. That hit me HARD
@@AlyssaJoy95 yesss! It was so beautiful to hear. That kinda love hits DIFFERENT ✨
As a adult with past trauma, this episode was so enlightening for me. It’s so tiring to hide behind the many masks trying to conform to “standards” and appease others. Thank you guys for your vulnerability.
I'm only like 40 minutes in and I'm in tears.The journey to become myself has been a struggle for me but, becoming self aware has been the most liberating moment of my life! I know God has much more in store for me and I pray that his purpose would continue to manifest in my life. @TimRoss Thank you so much for being obedient and doing @The basement .I have been blessed over and over. You have absolutely no idea on how these episodes have brought revelation and transformation 🙌 ☺.
I relate 1000% to what Tim said about if people can own up to things, I can work with that! “If you can’t own it, I can’t rock with you.” Taking accountability is the first step to resolution and moving forward. Love this podcast. Thank you both for your obedience and vulnerability as always!!! ❤
Bi-racial/multi-racial kids/people have it tougher than you think. Most of us have identity issues because of how American treats us, that is, both white Americans and black Americans. Its difficult. Thank you for bringing this forth Charles. I would love to offer a female perspective to this.
I cannot say how much I appreciate Pastor Charles for the first topic that they covered which essentially was code switching. I will need to listen to this several more times. I am a black woman who was raised by a white stepfather, lived in an all black neighborhood and went to all white schools. Every room that I walk in I evaluate which version of myself I need to be in order to survive and I only breathe when I am at home alone because no one can judge me there. God has taught me that even that is pride but that’s a whole other topic. I just want to say thank you Pastor Charles for going into the basement on that topic.
Thank u both for sharing this…. I am a green hair wearing, tattooed, fashion lover that is IN LOVE with GoD and for most of my life in church I was made to feel I had to be a certain way to minister to the body of Christ!!! This podcast TUHDAY confirmed what God has been trying to tell me!! I am perfect how I am!! God can use us all!! THANK YOU both for sharing!!
When Charles said " After experiencing what it is to breath in and out normally, I can't hold my breathe, I don't have time to hold my breathe" I felt that. Thank you for this podcast❤
Charles was the vessel that God used to give my life to Christ after me not knowing the lord at all at the age of 28! He will always hold a special place in my walk with God. My testimony will always start with him. 🫂
Bro the basement has already helped me a lot. This space is safe for me, and that means so much to me because I identify heavily with the breaths at the beginning of the video. Thank you so much! 💓
“The highest form of Art IS NOT THE appreciation from others , it is the last thing of your soul. “…… amazing, another great episode !
Me over here weeping at the 45 minute mark… Charles, that did something in me I will be unpacking for a good amount of time… there is so much power in the give and take of vulnerability and the longing to be a man’s safe place. That empowers in a way I haven’t heard the wife role in a marriage being empowered. Thank you for that, brother! ❤
God has been stretching my mind and growing my Spirit with this awesome broadcast. Praise GOD
Excited for this one. The way Tim and Charles deliver the word!!!! Exceptional.
"When you downplay your call, you give yourself an excuse to require less of yourself."
THIS hit so hard...
Triggered & Blessed by this message. I’m only half way through and have to comment on how incredibly beautiful and transformative it is hearing husbands speak about vulnerability, safety in their spouses, and letting self reflection be the benchmark for relationships. 😢😮❤
Not me in the hairdresser chair.. fighting tears but resonating with everything so far and I’m 56 mins in!!! … I needed this convo, this level of honesty, transparency and vulnerability today… I think Charles is such a gift and blessing to us .. the way he articulates the truth & his truth always hits … thank you so much for this.. the way he speaks of what his wife has done for him 🥹..just by accepting and loving him for who he is has given us the blessing we are seeing and hearing and be led by today.. mannnn!! I just love it.. thank you God, Charles and Tim for this 🤎
I am Charles. i felt a deep exhale when I allowed myself to fully surrender to God and let him help me thru my weakness and be vulnerable in a way to my husband I never thought I was capable of before. thank you Charles for your vulnerability. thank you the basement! Thank you. First time I’ve used words without tears and be open.
This was good. Charles hit me when he said, “irrational Grace feels uncomfortable…” ummmm! Hello?! Yes! But who ministered to me without saying a word? Abby. When Charles mentioned her ambition with photography and she was uninhibited in her dreams. She decided to open up her platform to the WORLD for business…how far would I be had I been able to believe I could really do whatever and be paid for it…that hit me…HARD. I’m a black girl from the South, I’ve lived my life up and down the East Coast and while Ive traveled to multiple countries…I just have never heard…wow. The narrative for me has been about what my limits are but never the limitless abilities. Now I know culture, race, and racism is a part of that and as Tim pointed out, America keeps up the labels to keep boundaries in place by telling you what you are…what a run on sentence lol it’s just A LOT. I love it, I’m blessed. Abby!! Girl! Yes ma’am!
One of the big takeaways from this as a single Christian man is the power of having a God ordained spouse…….I want that Lord
This touched my heart in such a deep way... Learning to take deep breaths ❤️❤️❤️ Thanks for this
Im in my DJ Khaled "Another One" in the basement. I cried, laughed, learned, related with and so much more! All in all, my spiritual appetite is open for more bible. Appreciate the community!!! This is where its at!!!❤🎉😊
That’s so good. “When you downplay your calling, you give yourself an excuse to demand less of yourself”
The FIRST thing I thought of when he said "The Purples"...was, how would we cheer that? ...then Tim. 🤣
I'm an African who grew up in Oklahoma and went to an all white private school, then went to University at Howard.....🤣God is helping me, be me and love me everyday.
Great interview!
He lowkey didn't answer the question about the comedy special though.... :s Will you or will you not be doing a comedy special? THAT IS THE QUESTION! lol Love you all
Man this podcast was beautiful, extremely eye opening and inspiring , all love and prosperity to yall brothers Godbless 🙏🏾!
As a designer and creative, I wish I was friends with Charles or people like him. I relate so much and also so convicted during this episode! The creatives are so grateful for you having him. It’s REALLY inspiring man
This was one of my favorite ones so far🙏🏼🙌🏼the level of realness on the basement is next level.👏🏼 thank you! Vulnerability is our superpower.⚡️
Was just saying how I needed a basement session. God heard me. 🙏🏾🗣
1 morning when I was 17 I woke up for school & I was super tired. Must've stayed up too late or something. I went to the bathroom & I fell asleep while standing up peeing. I hit my head on the side of the sink. Had a concussion & everything. I've been peeing sitting down ever since!!! 😂🤣 It's so relaxing & it's the perfect 1 minute break you need sometimes during a busy day. Fellas be manly enough to try peeing sitting down sometimes!
I love that safe space in marriage. I pray I can get to that place in my marriage as well. God bless you both 🙏 ❤️ 🙌
The background laughs always get me 🤣. I love it.
This may be odd to some, but whenever I pee I wipe the toilet seat off because I’ve also noticed how much pee splatters on the lid. And I’ll do it even if there was pee before I got there because now my pee has been added. I feel you Tim and thank you for your incredible transparency.. I too pee sitting down at night and I had no idea that was going to come from your mouth😂 you are not alone ❤ God bless you
This podcast just resignated with the deliverance I was seeking 😢 thank you. The normality to want to
Serve and live to be free but yet bound. While yet trying to Be Me
So thankful for this podcast! I am THANKFUL and GRATEFUL for the authenticity of all of you! ✊🏻
You guys have not made it easy for me. I want to send a personal message I know this is late on this video but I opened up to my wife my porn addiction and my sexual sin I did when I was younger. Balled my eyes out to the lord asking for something anything but nothing has come
Thats why i tell everyone. The exact reason why my finances, and the reason why i lost friends and everything else bad. The whole reason is because of what i have done. I often wonder how my life would have been if i would have surrounded my life to the lord 23 years ago or sooner. What i have been thru i thank god for letting me live thru it. I thank god for what he has done for even for the unseen. The tools i have from all my past mistakes is what i am goin to teach others too so they do not make them too. I take ownership of this. And i do not like it when people say the devil made me do it. No he did not. Everything i done was a choice. I had persuading by the devil on my shoulders. But i did everything myself. Thank you lord for loving me so much to save me. Its only from the lord.
So excited! Literally my favs! Abby + Charles ♥️
this podcast has been one of the greatest blessings I’ve ever experienced. No cap.
Yay pastor Charles and Tim for 2 hours!! So excited!! ❤
The thought of one (or many) of my "secular" friends giving their life to Jesus waters my eyes. God giving you the privilege of that experience is mesmerizing/astonishing/amazing/beautiful/etc. God bless you, Charles. And may you continue Kingdom-building 🤲🏽
Loving this podcast❤ from a Canadian fan🇨🇦 who follows TC weekly and The Basement . Glory to God.
The more Charles speaks, the more I see so much of my self in his wife. Abby is such a gem. Bless her soul ❤.
TIM! My son is 12 and has been peeing sitting down for a few years now hahaha 😂 little man is ahead of his time
I relate SO MUCH with what Charles said about being a youth pastor and struggling with sins, I literally had that "breakdown" moment in a camp 2 days ago and i really hope that God free me from this 😭
I’m tryin to see how far away I can stand from the toilet. I ain’t with the whole sitting down to pee
Absolutely love this! The Holy Spirit definitely convicts us on an individual ,intimate level. What some can do, others cannot. God knows our heart. But we gotta love how He knows what we like! I love that God gave Tim a deal on the chain he wanted. Man,obedience is everything. 🫶
Okay, I don’t know what just happened, but this was my first exposure to this podcast and the people; the topics shook me to my core. The openness, the insight, the the hurt, the humor, (and I can’t overlook the cinematic, buttery imagery). It’s so crazy to see something God clearly did (this podcast).
The second I heard Abby and fashion I knew it was Charles
This is the episode I didn't know I needed. I grew up moving around a lot too and as much as it opened me up to the world, it definitely contributed (along with other life events) to me compartmentalising and not knowing how to let the different parts of who I am to exist freely. I'm now trying to let God heal me and I've seen some victories even though full recovery still feels a little far away. Your podcast and your guests always bless us so much, thank you for all the work you do and for freely gifting us with your experiences and outlook on life, I trust the Lord will continue to increase you all.
I must admit the toilet issue was bothering me for sometime, lm trying this sitting down thingy😂
What Pastor Charles said is really freeing for me!!!! Cause I’ve been many versions of myself but I’m at place in my life now(in my 40s) that all the versions I was is me and I’m just me. When he said tap dancing and holding your breath, that resonated with me.
I went through all the emotions on this one. Also this video made me finally subscribe cause now I get what the basement is about, it's vulnerability and liberation. Going to start a new internal dialogue with myself now. I used this as a meditation and bible study, had to sleep for an hour after getting halfway cause it got too deep and I kept writing notes, having ideas, praying, crying, I got so exhausted. This is the best thing I've ever seen in my life. Thanks for the life hack will experiment later 😂
We project our internal conviction by God to others 🐒
Man this pod was a blessing to my spirit. Not only do I feel a calling to create art for the Lord, but to know that it's my soul that I want to have last. Long term goals man! Long term goals is the key to this walk.
As I sit at my craft table and create these handmade earrings…I needed this and didn’t even know. Whew. I’ve been on this creative journey since I was little. I was constantly fighting a battle with myself because I was doing something to satisfy my parents and others. Don’t get me wrong, all of those experiences helped me learn about myself and be able to do what I love full time. I never understood what I was going through until I spent a long year of what felt like hell and talking to God. After I changed my view on my dreams, God has been showing out for me!❤️
This conversation was so good! And Charles' experience was relatable on SO many levels. I just wished they took the conversation back to go over the parts he said he was going to touch upon later. Please can we have a follow up on this?
#SoftLifeTC Soft Life Through Christ brought me here.
Amazing podcast! Such good content. I coulda listened to you and Charles talk for hours n hours. Both your voices are so chill and soothing to listen to. Please bring him back again in the future. This is definitely one of my favorite podcasts. Love n Light
This help me so much. God keeps revealing things to me and it’s what I prayed for, he KEEPS teaching me how to love the way he did .. he checked me and blew my mind with this one…like, have I been that safe space for my husband of 14 years? Man 🤯💕 and how EVERYONE just wants to hear and feel, “I’m with you.” 🤯💕 and how we need to expand our minds..& the new title he created and concept !! Man sooo good ! 💕 ALL of it. As someone who feels like an artist with my hands tied behind my back..As a creative, trying to figure it out…I just can’t say enough.❤
Lmao Tim should most definitely do a spin off of the Bible🤣🤣 I am hollering.
Been crying since the first 10min of this. Y’all dropping some gems thru y’all’s vulnerability
This podcast blessed me. But what I really came on here to say is THANK YOU TIM and the TOME squad. I been going through a season of lacking peace in my mind. Lack of peace in my mind resulted in a lack of dedication to my calling/purpose, lack of intentionality in anything I did, low self-care, falling behind in school and in goals, and heaviest of all my faith starting to decrease.
One night praying, I felt the holy spirit tell me to watch this podcast. To be honest, I never really paid attention to that Tome ad until I heard the Holy Spirit say "You need to invest in yourself." The more I watched the podcast, the more that statement festered in my head.
I bought the entry-level (according to my college student budget lol) course and LET ME TELL YOU, I have been better since the introduction video. Yes, Jesus is and has been my main therapist but there were some things that I just could not figure out until Peace Of Mind, Tim Ross, and Tenitra (Michelle) Williams gave wordage and practical application.
Yeah, some of the stuff I was already doing, but there were some things that I avoided until y'all told me to. Everything they said to do (so far because I have more episodes to go) is true, accurate, actually works, and has given me literally "peace of mind". Thank you.
I'm sorry but I cant take anything this guy says seriously. he doesn't understand God or The bible( he said that "The Bible was writen by jews for jews" and "we need to give back The bible to the jews"!!!!????!!!!???? and so much more self proclaimed doctrine(based on feelings not the Word of God)). So it's a pass for me bro. Hope you do manage to help some people in some way, cuz mental health is a very serious thing. When it comes to being a disciple, believer and serious follower of Christ, this aint the place for that! Be blessed in Jesus name!
I think that’s every kid. Your in survival mode but your high functioning and can make it in every situation. I used to tell different people, I feel like I’m wearing a mask. I felt like him bc I was a black Caribbean/hispanic immigrant girl in America. Having to keep that standard of culture and family vs how America say me: a black girl(which I wasn’t aware of) and WHOM GOD CALLED ME TO BE: most comfortable self, yet made others extremely uncomfortable. So relatable. God all my answers to questions about me in the last 3 year or so (in my 30s).
BOY, listen, y’all are going off on this episode, and I am only 23 minutes in, and I cannot even fathom how relatable what you all are saying is speaking to my life! It’s like God himself is breathing the words into you all’s mouth, telling me exactly where I am, where I have been, and where I need to go salute my brothers I love the basement. #Vulnerability
Im 15 mins in and a huge AHA just slapped me in the face - I’m also bi racial and I’ve been aware of it my ENTIRE life. For as long as I can remember I’ve had people (most family 🥴) telling me how I’m “supposed to be”, who I am, what I can and can’t do, can and can’t like, because of my background. THIS is the origin story of the people pleasing in my life - constantly adapting and changing and shifting who I “am” in order to be accepted by the adults in my life. It makes perfect sense then that that pattern, left uninterrupted would carry over into my adult life 🤯🤯🤯 y’all are doing the Lords work just by sharing stories!
PLEASE WRITE A BOOK!!! Tap dancing and holding your breath???... thats a sermon right there.
Psalm 51
1:01:10 to 1:09:15
How to apologize/hold yourself accountable! WOW.
I’m so thankful that God led me to this podcast and this specific episode. Charles’ story really resonates with me because I’ve been dealing with similar struggles. This video blessed me❤️
Why is there generic intro music in Season 4? Where's the Tim Ross rap? Bring that back!!
I finally caught the live ❤ I love this podcast and the work you are doing pastor Tim ❤️ much love to you & your beautiful wife Juliette
Yeah this one has me crying on my lunch break.
Boxed water IS better^^
Interesting. Cause I usually just mark black and don’t look back. Granted I know I’m American when talking with my international friends but wow
13:55 STOP! I’ve literally said this before, like wow I didn’t even know I was holding my breath, until I found a community and space that was like yeah “we actually want to know you, not this mask you have on.” Crazy.
♥️♥️♥️🔥🔥🔥need Charles backkk fam ♥️
I need this more than anything. I thank you Tim Ross. Thank you Charles. Most of all thank You God!!!!!❤
Omgggg! Yes, we love Pastor Charles!!!
I don't know why... But this episode was a bit if an anticlimax for me. Not really much wa said.. And considering the journey, struggle and testimony of Charles, I was left a little underwhelmed to be honest. It was good, yes, but just not as insightful or transparent as the basement usually is. Just my humble opinion. Xx
Nothing like being safe in a marriage
This is my 2nd comment now lol. This podcast highlighted so much stuff, that man Charles be spitting foreal. He said something that really got me thinking, how much love do we actually show as "believers" or "Christians". Come to think of it, some of the most judgemental people were believers stuck in a traditionalist culture that was almost cultic.
Something I have also been thinking about is if there are people that have conformed to the culture of the church or have been raised in the church and adapted to what was done, are they in-fact (what I like to call) "Auto-saved" where they look the part more than they act the part.
This also got me thinking since we have in some sense adapt to the culture of the church, do we distance ourselves from the world because they don't look like or act like us? I heard someone say every encounter with a person who doesn't believe don't need to be a 3 point sermon with a closer, sometimes the love of God through kindness can be enough. Just because I'm not of the world, that doesn't mean I should be mean to people that are at where I have come from.
(And others outside of the US will tell you: "You are not American (only), you are from the United States OF the continent of America. America is the whole continent. hehehe... Love this convo)
But what TexMex place did you go to in DE? I'm tryna get hip. I'm from there, so I wanna grab the salmon tacos next time I visit...