Dont Tell The Narcissist This When You Find Out

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  • Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2024

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  • @edgreen8140
    @edgreen8140 Год назад +66

    They will deny deflect and they won't change. They will get angry that you found out who they are.

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 Год назад +2

      3:40 they don't care

    • @tinajones5548
      @tinajones5548 Год назад +1

      ​@@kimgordon3695 they care about their image...

  • @psiinc
    @psiinc Год назад +7

    I did it & all HELL broke loose. Play dumb, plan escape, leave when they least expect it & never look back. Block & rebuild your life with the grace of God’s help along the way💜

  • @tonyg5132
    @tonyg5132 Год назад +34

    I don’t think I’m ever gonna tell them I know who they are. She went crazy on me just when I called her out for making up a wildly fake story and completely turned on me because she didn’t want to face the shame/guilt of what she did

    • @misswednesday
      @misswednesday Год назад +4

      Exactly! An ex narc friend smeared me for having her accountable on invading our mutual friend's messenger privacy so she can have as many intel as she can about our friend that she claims she's concerned with but is telling terrible lies about! Poor other friends who actually believed her lies... Had to cut them off as well

  • @abcbca0124
    @abcbca0124 Год назад +41

    Do not look for healing
    at the feet of those
    who broke you-Rupi Kaur

  • @joharahbintyunas5270
    @joharahbintyunas5270 Год назад +11

    True absolutely 💯, narcissists are very insecure people with huge ego problems. Best to leave them.

  • @kwajcarol
    @kwajcarol Год назад +9

    yes ... just go. No reasoning to be had with such an entity. Better to use that energy on Your Life and Future !

  • @elliewegman1846
    @elliewegman1846 Год назад +11

    Discovered this;
    Sometimes
    When the people
    You love
    Hurt you the most,
    It's better to stay quiet, because
    If your love
    Wasnt enough,
    Do you think your
    Words will matter?

  • @wayneelliott1180
    @wayneelliott1180 Год назад +3

    It reminds me of a saying along the lines of 'It takes a stupid person to try and change a stupid person.' We can't change others, they have to do it for themselves.

  • @calvarado1520
    @calvarado1520 Год назад +12

    They have already cheated on you, manipulated you, gaslighted you, bullied you and ruined many years of your life and the only thing you are recommending to do is to just away like nothing ever happened……you exposing the narcissist is a way of standing up to them and you taking charge of your life again…..(just walking away) don’t know about that advice because it can not get any worse than what they already did to you…….if you have recorded/documented and have solid proof of their behavior, exposing the narcissist for who they really are is the least you could do to their evil ass and let others know your side of the story.…..if it’s safe to do: do not fear the narcissist, start the no contact phase asap, watch your back at all times, record/document everything (in case you end up in court), get your finances in order, plan an exit strategy, leave the narcissist as soon as your able to and make sure you do not have any sympathy or mercy on the narcissist, the same way they had no sympathy or mercy on you for all those years of hell they gave you. ✊👍👍👍👍🙏

    • @drdauger
      @drdauger Год назад

      What about the narcissist’s next set of targets? Can you warn them?

    • @calvarado1520
      @calvarado1520 Год назад

      @@drdauger when you expose the narcissist, those in their orbit will know because maybe they also saw signs in the past but where too afraid to say anything….. there is really not much you could do about warning their future supply because it could be anyone, anywhere and you don’t want to spend your time chasing their next victim…..oh I mean target……expose them for what they are and chances are, world will spread among their relatives, friends and coworkers……have no mercy on there plus remember they asked for this and now it’s finally your turn to win. 👍✊🙏

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch Год назад +3

      @@drdauger They won´t listen to you because they are blinded of love... (Like you were probably once...).

    • @tathe3786
      @tathe3786 Год назад

      Well said!!! 🎉

  • @jessoftherocks
    @jessoftherocks Год назад +17

    Lol imagine calling them out for their lies and showing them evidence and have them file a pro order against you because of it bwahahahahahahahahaha, psychopath women are the last to ever take accountability. They are dangerous

  • @MrZmill1
    @MrZmill1 Год назад +17

    I told my ex she had narcissistic traits and she hasn't spoken to me in 2 months now. Before she went radio silent, she said that she knew she did the right thing by cutting me out of her life....for no reason. She blocked me from social media and text messages. It hurts because part of me still cares for her deeply but I know I'll be better off in the long run....

    • @rosendungu8051
      @rosendungu8051 Год назад +7

      It's baptism by fire by it's yours to enjoy in the long run. It definitely wouldn't have worked if she wasn't ready to introspect and change.

    • @Justbeyou-y4w
      @Justbeyou-y4w Год назад +6

      Same here bro its sucks but I’ve found someone nice just even after months the trauma bond is still draining we got this they have made us more resilient to bullshit 👊🏾

    • @dwaynemcinnes5914
      @dwaynemcinnes5914 Год назад +1

      Her name tracey?

    • @tathe3786
      @tathe3786 Год назад +2

      🎉i agree 👍

    • @whdunstew2169
      @whdunstew2169 Год назад +1

      Result.

  • @catalina1518
    @catalina1518 Год назад +6

    I did confront my and told him he was a narcissist and he did turn it around and then I accepted it and everything that he wanted to blame on me I stood up and said my shoulders are big enough and since he told everyone I was crazy I just agreed with him and said fine turned it around as my out and walked away

  • @diontillman3132
    @diontillman3132 Год назад

    Hello you there Dion Tillman here, I'm totally surrounding by it jealousy and hate are powerful enough to tear you down to build. You back up into what they want you to be,,

  • @BR9900-w5l
    @BR9900-w5l Год назад +15

    I used to tell him he's a narcissist and he couldn't change the subject quick enough. He blamed society for the way he tuned out. I have never met anyone so sick in the head.

    • @joharahbintyunas5270
      @joharahbintyunas5270 Год назад +1

      Yes, they play victim, and its always someone else's fault. Even though what they are doing is apparent.

    • @BR9900-w5l
      @BR9900-w5l Год назад +1

      @@joharahbintyunas5270 denial all round. Twisted evil people

    • @joharahbintyunas5270
      @joharahbintyunas5270 Год назад +1

      It's all because of childhood trauma they had, and they learnt how to survive in toxic home by doing evil in response to defend themselves to survive, so its bedded in them from childhood unfortunately, very difficult to change because some aren't even aware of there toxic behaviour and it has become the norm for them.

    • @BR9900-w5l
      @BR9900-w5l Год назад +1

      @joharahbintyunas5270 absolutely and the one I encountered ticked all those boxes. He was created from a toxic environment and had this belief everyone owed him. He was a user and abuser and actually hated women!! Mummy issues.

  • @simplyemily8251
    @simplyemily8251 Год назад +7

    They already know you know so don’t bother telling them as they view you as an object. Just imagine a broom telling you your mentally I’ll. You’ll just laugh

  • @WinAllDay2023
    @WinAllDay2023 Год назад

    Thank YOU for saving my life

  • @louiseelliott6404
    @louiseelliott6404 Год назад +2

    Don’t call them out. They will definitely say you are the one that is weird and crazy. Also you can’t fix or save anyone. When you know who they are go no contact. Walk away that’s the solution.

  • @adamobrien2628
    @adamobrien2628 Год назад +6

    Spot on❤

  • @cheezinhoweree
    @cheezinhoweree Год назад +3

    Let the demon chew its host up and dont let your love be sacrificed to it .stay no contact 4 life!

  • @dougstobaugh376
    @dougstobaugh376 Год назад +3

    My opinion I'm just going to remain single and independent and starting all over again completely on my own with no one in my life that use to know me and discard everyone and not deal with any of the Narcissists involved because it's basically everyone I know the Narcissists involved I had enough of the Narcissistic behaviors from everyone I am just going to relocate and for now strong boundaries and no contact. Thanks again for your educational podcasts. GOD-BLESS.

  • @petemartin4300
    @petemartin4300 Год назад +1

    I came across one of shorts
    Subbed right away
    This lady really helping people !
    Thank you

  • @Thunder-lightning852
    @Thunder-lightning852 Год назад +3

    You nailed it again

  • @Thunder-lightning852
    @Thunder-lightning852 Год назад +2

    They don’t care to better their selves or to grow

    • @dwaynemcinnes5914
      @dwaynemcinnes5914 Год назад

      All they want is bigger better shiny things. When u find wm.out and cut em off. They bounce. There sick bastards they are

  • @steenkristensen6351
    @steenkristensen6351 Год назад

    Nej Anoushka jeg er færdig med disse typer, jeg ved godt inderste inde hvad de er ude på, so l AM done, have a vunderful day Anoushka 😊❤

  • @weshodges2044
    @weshodges2044 Год назад +1

    Thanks for the awareness

  • @alisoncullen1081
    @alisoncullen1081 Год назад +1

    Too late I called him out when I walked away and it made me feel better to let him know I know who he actually is 😁 why not?? What have you got to lose when ur leaving anyway!!!

  • @melanieshaner4289
    @melanieshaner4289 Год назад +4

    Too late lol already laid it down for them😅😅😅😅

  • @williamwest-i9k
    @williamwest-i9k Год назад

    you are so, so right. But you or anyone can turn the tables on then

  • @Rosecomments
    @Rosecomments Год назад +10

    Every narcissist has approximately 10 people in therapy around them or previously around them. 😂

  • @jacalyntaylor6721
    @jacalyntaylor6721 Год назад +4

    I have been thru so much hell in the last 4 years from a covert and her boyfriend is overt she is out to destroy me at all costs she keyed my car and I asked why ? It was like a bomb blew up everything became my fault so she keyed my other car lol 😆 I told him I put him on a pedestal and now I know who he is. Omg !!!! Now he called police on me lol 😅

  • @williammitchell9974
    @williammitchell9974 Год назад +1

    Ones Narcs Former Wife And Daughter Now From A Very Afar Distance Thank Goodness .🙏 ✝️🙏Totally No Contact ❎ However We Have Gracefully ✝️Saved One’s Grandson ✝️🙏They Are Desperate For Thee Old Attentions( Stay Clear Folks) 🙏

  • @danielle2678
    @danielle2678 Год назад

    You are beautiful thanks for the video ❤️

  • @nimzawan
    @nimzawan Год назад +5

    It has been 2 and half years.. but it still hurts.. I don't know what to do..

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 Год назад +3

      Try Sam Vaknin videos for real in depth understanding of what makes a narcissist, why and how it was all fake, why it affects you so much and how to recover.

    • @nimzawan
      @nimzawan Год назад +1

      @@fainitesbarley2245 how can that be all fake? 🥺 it hurts more thing that way.. I was a toy..

    • @SweepDailyWin
      @SweepDailyWin Год назад +4

      What helped soothe me is to put my focus and attention and energy on myself.
      Do a lot of self care, eat well and even give yourself a hug.
      Honestly, these sound so simple, but help so much! Always remember you are a terrific person! Guard yourself, put boundaries and now it's time to protect yourself! 💛🌷

    • @nimzawan
      @nimzawan Год назад +1

      @Deasterine I do everything but still on few days and moments it hurts..difficult to pass the time. Memories gather me like I have no place to go.. Anxiety strikes me as well..

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 Год назад +2

      @@nimzawan
      I know it hurts! These people get under your skin. But in the long run it helps to understand the love-bombing part was all manipulation too.

  • @brunopannemans5729
    @brunopannemans5729 Год назад +6

    Why didn't you tell me that 7 months ago 😂😂😂

  • @kimgordon3695
    @kimgordon3695 Год назад

    OMG right???

  • @Hummingbird4811
    @Hummingbird4811 Год назад +1

    What happens if you have children with the narcissist?

  • @empress9857
    @empress9857 Год назад +3

    I was thinking about it because she asked me what’s the status of our relationship after she took her key called me the enemy I’m a hater n cheater n never reach out to her again.. so yes a Disgard did happened I want to explain I allowed to much bs and she will not accept accountability nor respect me therefore it’s no use to explain because she perfect never does wrong so why even bother I’m not …. Ima just say hey you dumped me due to feeling deeply that I’m against you and that I’m a cheater and you not with it so.. there is nothing else to be said both parties released 🤷‍♀️

  • @thetomassifam4462
    @thetomassifam4462 Год назад

    How do I protect my children as much as I can through and after a divorce from my narcissistic husband?

  • @HASMUKARMATRASHA
    @HASMUKARMATRASHA Год назад +1

    I don't care they will hate me

  • @HASMUKARMATRASHA
    @HASMUKARMATRASHA Год назад

    If the person is empat he don't care he go and tell everting what he have to say

  • @markstewart417
    @markstewart417 Год назад

    I actually witnessed the eyes turning black but I wonder who she was talking to she was on another call when she answered my video call then eyes went back normal.

  • @TuerlingsTim
    @TuerlingsTim Год назад

    I cloud not be silent. I told here😂. Wish her luck and hope she find some support but I leaving because the girl I was in love with do not exist. Wished her luck with her new friend and blocked her, family and other friends. The result was receiving flowers with text I love you and sorry🤣.

  • @franciswitbooi4082
    @franciswitbooi4082 Год назад

    Never nerer

  • @rhysweaver7178
    @rhysweaver7178 Год назад

    When they have a mask slip right in front of you and you see the wounded child. The gig is up.

  • @jamesmbaieco7335
    @jamesmbaieco7335 Год назад

    i have a wife whoo she's a narcissisti i didn't know for 27 years i just see now i don't know what to do

  • @Mystic45708
    @Mystic45708 Год назад

    Our son’s ex wife Alanna Clarkson should be charged with attempted murder on her son because she choked him & when he was about 2 years old she got mad at him and beat him.

  • @davidcoupal8083
    @davidcoupal8083 Год назад

    Its kinda like when your girlfriend asks you DO I LOOK FAT Do not answer the question R. U. N

  • @bennettcarmichael8188
    @bennettcarmichael8188 Год назад

    Too late

  • @HASMUKARMATRASHA
    @HASMUKARMATRASHA Год назад

    I understand you but come on my place to read her mind and I will se what you will do

  • @olivelane3044
    @olivelane3044 Год назад +2

    Trauma bonding is when you're attracted to a person who consistently betrays you in one way or another. Yet you feel addicted to the abuser and panic at mere thought of leaving. One part of you wants to leave, another, stay. This inner conflict usually stems from the abuser's confusing behavior , shifting from cruel to tender. You find yourself making excuses for their behavior no matter how many times you get hurt. One of the reason for trauma bonding is the attempt of resolving your childhood traumas through the deductive relationship. You try to get the abuser to change and love you even though show little or no capacity for healthy love,my cousin told me about this professional investigator @JOEY_TOOL , who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped. Don't let your narcissist partner abuse you no more.