22 here, also grew up “ugly” and slowing coming out of my shell recently. i 100% relate with the not-dating reasons (fear, waste of time if i do break up) yet also very much open to finding “the one”. thank you for sharing your experience!
Same but I’m 21. As a teen I started doing makeup and that’s when I got male attention. I stopped because I felt icky for a bit that people only liked me when I looked a certain way but now I’m getting back into it. Relationships scare me and cause of my childhood experiences, I overthink way too much haha. I’ll get there eventually.
Omg same!!! And people around me encourage me to start dating just to experience it , also sometimes Indirectly make fun of me??? It’s ok tho bcoz I know what I want and I tend to think more practically. Everyone has different timelines and to date because of FOMO is digging your own grave , lol
Whenever you say "please don't label me" I agree with you so much !!! I've also never dated and I'm giving myself free space to do that with a person whoever that will be
I’ve never felt so seen and connected to a person I’ve never met before. I think I now know why I find your videos so comforting. I really look up to you Via please never stop posting
youre honestly so real for not wanting to date because of fear of breakups, thats me too 😭 mentally i dont think i could ever process a break up, i feel like it would just wreck me. plus i agree with wanting to date someone who is "the one" so you dont have to go through a lot of people and waste so much time and effort.
Girl I’m 29, never been in a relationship or on a date. I have high standards and morals with Godly influence that drives my life. The men who HAVE shown interest and approached me, have only wanted one thing- to hook up. Even when I was 260lbs, the guys approaching me didn’t want to date me , they wanted a quick secret hook up with the big girl- and I never once gave them ANYTHING. I’ve never been intimate with a man or kissed one or anything lol and yes sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing to think that I’ve never even been in a relationship- but girl.. When I find a good, Godly man with biblical principles and a kind and loyal heart.. that’s gonna be it! I also know myself and my life, and I know that my habits and reactions do not make me ready to be a GOOD, Godly wife. I have selfish tendencies of not doing things when I really don’t feel like it. And with marriage, it’s all about giving and sacrificing what you want because you’re now in a partnership with another human. So it’s not always about what I want or when I want it, it’s about them too- and I’m so used to doing my own thing at my own pace, whether that’s fast and getting everything done and over with, or procrastinating for a month. So there’s a lot for me to work on. I don’t share how I feel, I bottle it in. I was also in a collision with an 18 wheeler when I was 17 so 12 years ago- and I’ve had 27 surgeries bc of that so I’m not an easy person to love or take care of. I’m in pain 24/7 and sometimes it’s so bad that I don’t get out of bed all week except to use the bathroom and bathe, I’ll do a whole week without speaking more than a few words If my family asks me a question or something. I have severe IBS so it’s just annoying to travel with me or to be with me and I know that and yet I can’t do anything about it However the personality traits, I CAN do something about and I’m working on it! There’s so many people in their 20’s & 30s who have never dated or been in a serious relationship and often times it’s not our fault, it’s just that we haven’t met the right guy yet. I’ll never lower my morals or standards just to date a guy bc he gives me attention , I will wait for the right guy!!
27 turning 28 and same situation. I've never got in a relationship because I've always felt I was not ready. I'll wait the right girl! When I find the one I'll give it to her as a gift. Until then, I won't give it for free! I feel that, nowadays, young people treat themselves so bad due to peer pressure. I mean... I would like to have someone but not anyone. I can't understand why people stay with other people just due to interests or commodity, That freaks me out. About finding the one, as a software engineer and as I work from home, It's a bit hard to find it through natural process, but I am also working on it! Keep your head up as I will. we will find our other half, I have no doubts!!! :)
You're smart! Wait for the right one! I married the wrong guy and finally got out of a 11 year toxic marriage last year! Take your time! The right one will find you!
@@barbosa7797so smart. My parents met when my dad was 28 and my mom 22. I believe they were both virgins too (they had had a few girlfriend/boyfriend but that didn't work.) Stayed together their whole lives and I never saw them fight. Each had found the right one!
I agree with you so much when you talk about how you want a long term partner. I’m not into dating around, I really just want to find my person that I can grow with and share my life with. I don’t want to worry about having to entertain multiple people because I just want to commit to one person. I can’t do casual lollll like I really want to build a deep genuine relationship with one person
@dibamansur4843 Your comment is even more dumb. There isn't 1 formula to everything not everyone dated around to get a partner. It's clear they are intentional with their relationships and will date someone who they see the potential for a long term relationship.
All the stuff about friends is so real, especially for everyone our age like in our twenties. They should definitely be raising your standards, they should be encouraging you. Looking back at my old friend group who completely trashed my name after freshman year of college, like they never wanted to hear about my day, my grades, how my life was going and its such a red flag looking back on it. I am very quick nowadays to identify who I want to be friend and who I never want to see again. Friendships are trial and error and its taken time to learn that they can be a good thing and open back up to them, nothing is a waste of time if it made you happy in the moment
It's just WILD to me how I can relate so much to someone so different from me 😅 Nonetheless I guess humans are humans despite differences and what units us is bigger than what separates us ❤ I luv this Via girl ngl
I’m currently 19 and never dated before, after talking to a guy I fell hard… fell ig into a situationship, took so much of my time and thoughts. It’s not worth it, I was waiting for their text, replaying our conversation in my head. It was bad. It’s best to focus on myself and friends/family. And get my glow up and self worth back up!! Thank u so much for this video girl, you’re the best!!! 💗💗
As 22 years old, I grew up ugly and just hit my second puberty. When I started to became "pretty" and man tried to close to me, I immediately rejected it. I work hard for this and there's the same guy that insult me before, try to get close now just because I turned "pretty" so I thought that it's a big reason why I stay single. I'm just happy now I'm getting better for myself
Omg Via everything you said about dating is *exactly* how I feel, like its quite insane, it's like you just pulled it out of my brain😂Thank you for sharing because I don't think I've ever heard anyone say something I related to this much before on this topic! Love your vids x
As someone who has been through their fair share of heartbreaks and also believed that dating is a waste of time if there isn't a long-term future or it doesn't work out, I just want to say that dating to learn is not a waste of time. You learn SO much about yourself and about what you want in a partner--and you simply cannot figure that out by being single. Of course, most people do not go into a relationship thinking it will not work out, you just never know until you really try and see for yourself. Compatibility, chemistry, having shared goals, changing over time--all of these are so complex and you cannot figure it out before entering a relationship with someone else. Dating is hard but that is the way it is. :/
i think both her view and your view can be true :) pretty sure via knows alot about herself by spending time with herself + she knows what she wants in friendships and says she would look for something similar IF she were to look for someone
@@indecisiveCHIBI and she'll experience it, or she won't. it doesn't really matter and it's not someone else's decision either. as someone who has dated around a lot i regret it
@@moths.for.valentine I'm not telling her to date around. I'm just giving her the insight because I also had the mindset of "I don't want to waste my time." Like ofc no one does-- I don't enter relationships wasting my time but sometimes it doesn't work out and it sucks but I wouldn't call it a waste of time.
i love u lia , i had a really hard day today like all my classmates ignored me and i was outcasted . i burtsted out asa i reached home and opened my laptop. im so happy u exist like you are my comfort youtuber . thank u
I started watching for video a while back, and I feel like you're a lot more mature than most adults really are. You should be proud of yourself, and who cares about chasing after guys, they should be chasing after you. You know what you're worth, who you are as an individual, and you stick to your moral principals and I look up to you for those reasons. Whatever you want, you're going to get it. Love you♥♥♥😝😝😝😝
girll, I relate to literally everything you've talked about, specifically the relationship aspect and the fact that we're the same age made me feel so much comfort. Thank you
2:31 no cause i started watching you last year and now you have inspired me to start uploading videos! its so so amazing to see your growth on this platform and i am very proud of you via !!!
This was honestly such a good relaxing video. I love the way you talk and I can relate to a lot of it (mostly the never dated anyone or anything) and to hear someone with the same experience just feels very nice. So, thankyou ❤️
this is why I follow you and connect with you so much. i feel seen when you talk about relationships since I am 18 years old and never been in a relationship and before I used to feel left behind and now I don't feel like that. what you say about you never being in a relationship is what I feel 100%. i really enjoy your videos Via because I feel seen by you.
we have the same philosophy on relationships it's crazy! I'm 21 and also never dated, I've been here when you were still 70k im shocked you're 607k now!!!! Good job for sticking to this, Via :)
Via, genuinely this felt like having a conversation with a good friend I haven't seen in a while. I resonated with everything you said down to a tea girl! I look forward to your videos, you're doing great!
this might be the only time ive watched a yt vid and related to everything that has been said. ive always felt alone in my experiences but this made me feel seen and not alone. reading the comments reassured that as well💕
you’re the first person on the internet that i relate to soo much 💗 i absolutely adore you and your content wish you all the best in life 💖 kisses from Poland !!
I understand the don’t label me part. I’m a guy who loves your videos and I like guys. Just don’t label me. Then I love your vibe because it’s the same with me when people ask why I’m at this age and I’ve never had a kiss, never went on a date, and never had s3.. so I just wanna live how I can being 22. Like if I get someone then I’ll love that but if not then I’ll try and continue with what I can in life. I LOVE YOUR VIBE AND VIDEOS ❤❤❤❤
Love how you voice so many young women's thoughts, especially those of us who haven't dated or done anything before but also don't want to do it just because. Really enjoy your channel :)
You avoided such drama and angst. Good for you. You didn't miss anything at all. I'm 47 and the one thing I wish I could have said to my teenage self (besides save 10% of each paycheck) is: boys are not that important. YOU are. I can't tell how much time I've spent crying and waiting and stressing about boys. Sex and romance is so overrated. Go with the nice one. Now I'm dating fictional characters lol and if I get a new real boyfriend (oh I will) he will need to be a fucking gem❤
Even though I'm an "old subscriber" & know most of the general stuff, it's still fun to watch these types of videos. Also that makeup turned out _GOOD_ 🔥
Omg Via, i found your insta a little bit ago and your youtube now, and I really love your vibe! fellow november scorpio hehe, and your fits are so fire! I love your comment about just knowing what you want and wanting to remain unlabeled, i feel like people are so OBSESSED with labels, like personally i say I'm bi for ease of communication, but I try to avoid labeling myself because I don't feel attraction the same way as most people. And nothing gets on my nerves more than if someone tries to assert their version of "normal" onto me, like girl bye.
Via this video made me so happy. I’ve been watching your videos for not that long but I’ve been noticing that I can relate to most of the things you say and what your opinions are. I could just never describe my feelings as well as you did. So this video helped me a lot. I think you are an amazing person and you give me so much inspiration and insight. I’m glad you make the kind of content that speaks to me on such a level and gives me something to relate to.
Honestly, as someone who is turning 23 in a few days, just a day after yours hehe 💟 I find it comforting that I'm not alone in having these experiences (Being scared and not having experienced relationships yet). It kinda makes me realize that I dont have to force myself just because some other are experiencing it already. Anyway, it's nice to watch someone like you, you're like the older sister we never had. 💛💟
Birthday girl coming up !🥳 Happy Birthday Via in advance ! 🎈🎂 I really enjoyed your video today ♥️ Thank you for posting and expressing your thoughts! Made my day and I’m sure many others as well ! As far as the dating topic I’m in the mindset that I don’t want to just date around these days . If I were to go on a date I much rather prefer to get a feel for a woman’s character ,personality , how we vibe and just overall chemistry together 🧪♥️. I guess my preference would be to get to know the girl some first ✨ Hope you’re enjoying your new place and area btw !
Coming from someone who is in a long term-relationship right now, I’ve learned to give myself me time. I would go on solo dates and making sure I don’t always have to be with my partner. I think as I get older ( I’m 23), I’ve learned to give myself time and not always depend or be with my partner all the time. I used to always want to do things with my partner, but now I do enjoy my own company. Even if you are not in a relationship, take yourself out, love yourself and show up for yourself, take care of yourself. That’s the most important aspect before you get in a relationship.
As someone who has dated I think you have a great mindset about dating. It does take a big investment & you need strong boundaries to date without being drained. Loved the grwm chit chat & i’d like to hear more about your content creation journey 🫶🏽🫶🏽
You have no idea how much this video helped me🥹 Like girl, I'll turn 22 at the end of November, and my dating life is same as yours. And the fact that you talked about this this much honesty😭 Thank you🫂It felt like a "girl talk💌" as your my order sister🧚🏻♀️✨️So thank you for making me feel alright with where I am💌
i very rarely comment about things like this online, but i really wish I had friends like you. i'm in the same boat you mentioned about feeling bad when you tell friends your accomplishments because it feels like bragging. i feel elated when i see people i care about get their bags, but i feel like i don't receive the same amount of encouragement when it's my time to "win." so happy to hear you've got new people around you who celebrate things with you!
Via is literally the best friend everyone needs man. I love your content so much that I binge and rewatch your channel again and again. Just be yourself and be happy. Until then, PREACH QUEEN!! :3
The more i watch your videos the more I realise how much we are alike. Honestly it's very comforting knowing someone is or feels the same way you do, because sometimes i wonder if i am a weird one so watching videos like that gives me comfort
Hey love!! First of all, I truly admire you !! Your videos feels like chat with your bestie when things aren’t going that well… so comfy and warm… love it! Second, about the whole “boyfriend free for 23 years” situation… totally get you, I didn’t have a boyfriend, nor sex or first kiss till I turn 25!!! I felt scared because of inexperience or naive I might look to other men, but GIRL LET ME TEEEELL YOU!! Dating at this age is waaaay better! I’m so much mature than I was at 15 or 20 😅 now I have a job, I finished college, I built my own personality, style and opinions!! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months and we both get along so well!! I feel happy, still share time with my besties and family, do activities by my own, it’s all about balance. And Girl you are right about best friends rising a higher bar for future romantic relationships
Yay via posted and also so true when i first started RUclips I was very discouraged and then I changed my mindset and said I am doing RUclips as a hobby and that grew on me and I still am just enjoying the fun of doing RUclips and sometimes it’s difficult when you don’t know what you are doing and so I just have fun with it weather people see my videos or not. And also now that we are bringing up sexuality via I relate to that so much. 😫 literally being in your early 20s is a rollercoaster. Thank you via for being a relatable big sister.
omg please make more videos of you talking because I did not thought that I would enjoy watching someone talk but guess what? I was literally immersed the whole time AAAA I related to everything so much you are so real AND you are so so pretty, georgiana mwahhh VERY white swan coded 🦢
I love this video, not only because we share most of our opinions 😂 but it’s like you speak honestly and you tackle the right issues that need to be discused.❤
genuinely im really appreciative of you saying ALL of this. im 21, just graduated with zero prospects (which is actually an environment ive lowkey created for myself by not caring about my own future), grew up overweight and 'ugly' so never experienced being desireable so don't really understand why my friends are constantly after their next fix of it, which is good because my life is not consumed by dating, but also kinda sucks because i guess it wouldve been nice, but i literally do not know what im missing out on. i cant classify my sexuality because being undesireable has killed my own desire and i dont really find anyone attractive until i get to know them and find the things i may love about them (a pattern i've noticed but that has never grown to anything romantic -- but that doesn't mean unsubstantial, because i have some pretty great friends!)
Gurly being so real when she said that she knows what she want and is not willing to settle I situationships because that sucks honestly. Never resonated so much before. Love ya Via, keep on slaying 🫶🏻
I started dating 2 years ago when i was 24, now i am 26 and my boyfriend left me, i feel like i should have focused on having close friends because my bf was my only friend. I think it is better when you have friends that you can count on during difficult times and also enjoy happy times. Thank you so much for another video Via! I wish you the best ❤
Really liked to know more about your personality and opinios on this random subject lmao I was really here to see how you do your makeup and get some tips so i can do it myself, i'm learning just now :)
i lowkey wished you posted this video soonerrr 😭I had my first dating experience this year and it was horrible but I felt like I couldn't say no because I've never been asked out before and I am 'ugly' and now I've done something I really regret but I feel better that it okay not to date now and that I'm not alone (I am 18 for context I was 17 when I got into the relationship) ily thou via 💛
It's so crazy how I said the EXACT SAME THING to the guy I'm talking to right now. "I'm willing to communicate everything", "I don't believe in potential, I only see results". I feel like I'm very cold blooded in a way you know? Like relationships are suppose to be romantic and all, but being so logical loses the core of it? Idkkkk... And omg sameeee, If I date someone, I want that person to be the one. It's just crazy how I said those exact words and have like 90% same beliefs. Oh yea, did I say, ffs I'm also intp.
This makes me feel SOOOO much better because i’ve literally never had a crush before and people always perceive me as aromantic or asexual when I genuinely just haven’t found anyone that I want to be with yet 😭. I’m only 17 but it made me feel so behind. It’s taken a while but i’m just now realizing that it’s okay and everyone moves at their own pace. I’m so glad i’m not the only one who’s experienced this 😭😭
me too and i’m 20. i think i’m just really picky in who i want to be surrounded by let alone date. atp i’m just leaving it up to fate bc there has never been someone i have had genuine interest in. dw you are not alone 😭
You are like me in the independence thing I am an INTP girl too I just don't know I have always been alone all the hardships the pains , sorrows and suicide attempts I didn't wait for someone to comfort me because I know that this person doesn't exist, everyone is busy with their own problems and struggles while they wait for someone to help them but that person will never come so just swallow the shit and help yourself because no one will do it for you that's what I believe in. So I think maybe this explains why I find romantic relationships strange foreign or even scary to me.
I loved this video so much and growing up I wasn't considered ugly but I always felt that way. And to some extent I'm glad because I'm virgin and never been in a situationship lol. If you ever do another grwm video a topic I would like to hear how you learned to pick/find you current friend because it seems absaloutly amazing.
'it's not my fault I dont have a crush... we should blame the crush market.' lmao she's so funny, I love this channel.
Ikr!😂
She's so real for that
22 here, also grew up “ugly” and slowing coming out of my shell recently. i 100% relate with the not-dating reasons (fear, waste of time if i do break up) yet also very much open to finding “the one”. thank you for sharing your experience!
Same but I’m 21. As a teen I started doing makeup and that’s when I got male attention. I stopped because I felt icky for a bit that people only liked me when I looked a certain way but now I’m getting back into it. Relationships scare me and cause of my childhood experiences, I overthink way too much haha. I’ll get there eventually.
Omg same!!! And people around me encourage me to start dating just to experience it , also sometimes Indirectly make fun of me??? It’s ok tho bcoz I know what I want and I tend to think more practically. Everyone has different timelines and to date because of FOMO is digging your own grave , lol
Whenever you say "please don't label me" I agree with you so much !!! I've also never dated and I'm giving myself free space to do that with a person whoever that will be
I’ve never felt so seen and connected to a person I’ve never met before. I think I now know why I find your videos so comforting. I really look up to you Via please never stop posting
youre honestly so real for not wanting to date because of fear of breakups, thats me too 😭 mentally i dont think i could ever process a break up, i feel like it would just wreck me. plus i agree with wanting to date someone who is "the one" so you dont have to go through a lot of people and waste so much time and effort.
That’s an unrealistic take
@@dibamansur4843
Not completely
Girl I’m 29, never been in a relationship or on a date. I have high standards and morals with Godly influence that drives my life.
The men who HAVE shown interest and approached me, have only wanted one thing- to hook up. Even when I was 260lbs, the guys approaching me didn’t want to date me , they wanted a quick secret hook up with the big girl- and I never once gave them ANYTHING.
I’ve never been intimate with a man or kissed one or anything lol and yes sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing to think that I’ve never even been in a relationship- but girl..
When I find a good, Godly man with biblical principles and a kind and loyal heart.. that’s gonna be it!
I also know myself and my life, and I know that my habits and reactions do not make me ready to be a GOOD, Godly wife. I have selfish tendencies of not doing things when I really don’t feel like it. And with marriage, it’s all about giving and sacrificing what you want because you’re now in a partnership with another human. So it’s not always about what I want or when I want it, it’s about them too- and I’m so used to doing my own thing at my own pace, whether that’s fast and getting everything done and over with, or procrastinating for a month.
So there’s a lot for me to work on. I don’t share how I feel, I bottle it in.
I was also in a collision with an 18 wheeler when I was 17 so 12 years ago- and I’ve had 27 surgeries bc of that so I’m not an easy person to love or take care of.
I’m in pain 24/7 and sometimes it’s so bad that I don’t get out of bed all week except to use the bathroom and bathe, I’ll do a whole week without speaking more than a few words If my family asks me a question or something.
I have severe IBS so it’s just annoying to travel with me or to be with me and I know that and yet I can’t do anything about it
However the personality traits, I CAN do something about and I’m working on it!
There’s so many people in their 20’s & 30s who have never dated or been in a serious relationship and often times it’s not our fault, it’s just that we haven’t met the right guy yet.
I’ll never lower my morals or standards just to date a guy bc he gives me attention , I will wait for the right guy!!
27 turning 28 and same situation. I've never got in a relationship because I've always felt I was not ready. I'll wait the right girl! When I find the one I'll give it to her as a gift. Until then, I won't give it for free!
I feel that, nowadays, young people treat themselves so bad due to peer pressure. I mean... I would like to have someone but not anyone. I can't understand why people stay with other people just due to interests or commodity, That freaks me out.
About finding the one, as a software engineer and as I work from home, It's a bit hard to find it through natural process, but I am also working on it!
Keep your head up as I will. we will find our other half, I have no doubts!!! :)
On the same page (29yrs)
You're smart! Wait for the right one! I married the wrong guy and finally got out of a 11 year toxic marriage last year! Take your time! The right one will find you!
@@barbosa7797so smart. My parents met when my dad was 28 and my mom 22. I believe they were both virgins too (they had had a few girlfriend/boyfriend but that didn't work.) Stayed together their whole lives and I never saw them fight. Each had found the right one!
Bless you!! May God be with you.
I agree with you so much when you talk about how you want a long term partner. I’m not into dating around, I really just want to find my person that I can grow with and share my life with. I don’t want to worry about having to entertain multiple people because I just want to commit to one person. I can’t do casual lollll like I really want to build a deep genuine relationship with one person
You can’t find someone long term if you don’t date around that’s so a dumb take you gonna end up alone
@dibamansur4843 Your comment is even more dumb. There isn't 1 formula to everything not everyone dated around to get a partner. It's clear they are intentional with their relationships and will date someone who they see the potential for a long term relationship.
@@Jade-iw3ll what you saying is not even logical you need to date around to know if the person is right for you
i feel so connected with you because i'm your age and never dated before, you've become my comfort youtuber 💘
All the stuff about friends is so real, especially for everyone our age like in our twenties. They should definitely be raising your standards, they should be encouraging you. Looking back at my old friend group who completely trashed my name after freshman year of college, like they never wanted to hear about my day, my grades, how my life was going and its such a red flag looking back on it. I am very quick nowadays to identify who I want to be friend and who I never want to see again. Friendships are trial and error and its taken time to learn that they can be a good thing and open back up to them, nothing is a waste of time if it made you happy in the moment
It's just WILD to me how I can relate so much to someone so different from me 😅 Nonetheless I guess humans are humans despite differences and what units us is bigger than what separates us ❤ I luv this Via girl ngl
Guys wake up via posted
I’m currently 19 and never dated before, after talking to a guy I fell hard… fell ig into a situationship, took so much of my time and thoughts. It’s not worth it, I was waiting for their text, replaying our conversation in my head. It was bad. It’s best to focus on myself and friends/family. And get my glow up and self worth back up!! Thank u so much for this video girl, you’re the best!!! 💗💗
My biggest flex is having same birthday as her
Yess breakups are DRAINING, a hole in your chest and memories coming back and forth,
She's such a beautiful human - inside and out!
i missed your chatty / makeup vids!!! so happy to see them back
As 22 years old, I grew up ugly and just hit my second puberty. When I started to became "pretty" and man tried to close to me, I immediately rejected it. I work hard for this and there's the same guy that insult me before, try to get close now just because I turned "pretty" so I thought that it's a big reason why I stay single. I'm just happy now I'm getting better for myself
Omg Via everything you said about dating is *exactly* how I feel, like its quite insane, it's like you just pulled it out of my brain😂Thank you for sharing because I don't think I've ever heard anyone say something I related to this much before on this topic! Love your vids x
As someone who has been through their fair share of heartbreaks and also believed that dating is a waste of time if there isn't a long-term future or it doesn't work out, I just want to say that dating to learn is not a waste of time. You learn SO much about yourself and about what you want in a partner--and you simply cannot figure that out by being single. Of course, most people do not go into a relationship thinking it will not work out, you just never know until you really try and see for yourself. Compatibility, chemistry, having shared goals, changing over time--all of these are so complex and you cannot figure it out before entering a relationship with someone else. Dating is hard but that is the way it is. :/
i think both her view and your view can be true :) pretty sure via knows alot about herself by spending time with herself + she knows what she wants in friendships and says she would look for something similar IF she were to look for someone
@@moths.for.valentine True to some extent, I think often times people don't know what they want until they experience it for themselves.
@@indecisiveCHIBI and she'll experience it, or she won't. it doesn't really matter and it's not someone else's decision either. as someone who has dated around a lot i regret it
@@moths.for.valentine I'm not telling her to date around. I'm just giving her the insight because I also had the mindset of "I don't want to waste my time." Like ofc no one does-- I don't enter relationships wasting my time but sometimes it doesn't work out and it sucks but I wouldn't call it a waste of time.
@@indecisiveCHIBI I was about to say the same her view seems limited
i love u lia , i had a really hard day today like all my classmates ignored me and i was outcasted . i burtsted out asa i reached home and opened my laptop. im so happy u exist like you are my comfort youtuber . thank u
I started watching for video a while back, and I feel like you're a lot more mature than most adults really are. You should be proud of yourself, and who cares about chasing after guys, they should be chasing after you. You know what you're worth, who you are as an individual, and you stick to your moral principals and I look up to you for those reasons. Whatever you want, you're going to get it. Love you♥♥♥😝😝😝😝
FACTS!!
I feel like I am you, you are me. So glad someone else has these thoughts and problems
"I dont believe in potential I only believe in results." Op-!! She ate with that!!
@@ladydiamond6611 Never heard something more dumb
girll, I relate to literally everything you've talked about, specifically the relationship aspect and the fact that we're the same age made me feel so much comfort. Thank you
I just love you sooo much!❤🫶my fav yapper and its a grwm this is such great introduction to get you as a person
2:31 no cause i started watching you last year and now you have inspired me to start uploading videos! its so so amazing to see your growth on this platform and i am very proud of you via !!!
This was honestly such a good relaxing video. I love the way you talk and I can relate to a lot of it (mostly the never dated anyone or anything) and to hear someone with the same experience just feels very nice. So, thankyou ❤️
Genuinely i love hearing you talk. In friendships having deeper discussions is my favorite thing. ❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing with us Via❤❤
this is why I follow you and connect with you so much. i feel seen when you talk about relationships since I am 18 years old and never been in a relationship and before I used to feel left behind and now I don't feel like that. what you say about you never being in a relationship is what I feel 100%. i really enjoy your videos Via because I feel seen by you.
we have the same philosophy on relationships it's crazy! I'm 21 and also never dated, I've been here when you were still 70k im shocked you're 607k now!!!! Good job for sticking to this, Via :)
Via, genuinely this felt like having a conversation with a good friend I haven't seen in a while. I resonated with everything you said down to a tea girl! I look forward to your videos, you're doing great!
omg icb i watched u when u were at the beginning!! ur channel speaks a lot to me it genuinely helped me understand myself a lot
this might be the only time ive watched a yt vid and related to everything that has been said. ive always felt alone in my experiences but this made me feel seen and not alone. reading the comments reassured that as well💕
you’re the first person on the internet that i relate to soo much 💗 i absolutely adore you and your content wish you all the best in life 💖 kisses from Poland !!
I understand the don’t label me part. I’m a guy who loves your videos and I like guys. Just don’t label me. Then I love your vibe because it’s the same with me when people ask why I’m at this age and I’ve never had a kiss, never went on a date, and never had s3.. so I just wanna live how I can being 22. Like if I get someone then I’ll love that but if not then I’ll try and continue with what I can in life. I LOVE YOUR VIBE AND VIDEOS ❤❤❤❤
Love how you voice so many young women's thoughts, especially those of us who haven't dated or done anything before but also don't want to do it just because. Really enjoy your channel :)
You avoided such drama and angst. Good for you. You didn't miss anything at all. I'm 47 and the one thing I wish I could have said to my teenage self (besides save 10% of each paycheck) is: boys are not that important. YOU are. I can't tell how much time I've spent crying and waiting and stressing about boys. Sex and romance is so overrated. Go with the nice one. Now I'm dating fictional characters lol and if I get a new real boyfriend (oh I will) he will need to be a fucking gem❤
I am so happy yayyyy. Love you Via. From Kenya. I also love this community you've built. The comment section is relaxing.
Your literally me,like we have the same soul,so spot on I relate to everything you said,luv you via❤❤❤
10 hours of Via yapping would truly make me happy, gurl I love your content
Even though I'm an "old subscriber" & know most of the general stuff, it's still fun to watch these types of videos. Also that makeup turned out _GOOD_ 🔥
Omg Via, i found your insta a little bit ago and your youtube now, and I really love your vibe! fellow november scorpio hehe, and your fits are so fire! I love your comment about just knowing what you want and wanting to remain unlabeled, i feel like people are so OBSESSED with labels, like personally i say I'm bi for ease of communication, but I try to avoid labeling myself because I don't feel attraction the same way as most people. And nothing gets on my nerves more than if someone tries to assert their version of "normal" onto me, like girl bye.
Via this video made me so happy. I’ve been watching your videos for not that long but I’ve been noticing that I can relate to most of the things you say and what your opinions are. I could just never describe my feelings as well as you did. So this video helped me a lot.
I think you are an amazing person and you give me so much inspiration and insight. I’m glad you make the kind of content that speaks to me on such a level and gives me something to relate to.
Honestly, as someone who is turning 23 in a few days, just a day after yours hehe 💟 I find it comforting that I'm not alone in having these experiences (Being scared and not having experienced relationships yet). It kinda makes me realize that I dont have to force myself just because some other are experiencing it already. Anyway, it's nice to watch someone like you, you're like the older sister we never had. 💛💟
Birthday girl coming up !🥳 Happy Birthday Via in advance ! 🎈🎂
I really enjoyed your video today ♥️ Thank you for posting and expressing your thoughts! Made my day and I’m sure many others as well !
As far as the dating topic I’m in the mindset that I don’t want to just date around these days . If I were to go on a date I much rather prefer to get a feel for a woman’s character ,personality , how we vibe and just overall chemistry together 🧪♥️. I guess my preference would be to get to know the girl some first ✨
Hope you’re enjoying your new place and area btw !
Coming from someone who is in a long term-relationship right now, I’ve learned to give myself me time. I would go on solo dates and making sure I don’t always have to be with my partner. I think as I get older ( I’m 23), I’ve learned to give myself time and not always depend or be with my partner all the time. I used to always want to do things with my partner, but now I do enjoy my own company.
Even if you are not in a relationship, take yourself out, love yourself and show up for yourself, take care of yourself. That’s the most important aspect before you get in a relationship.
As someone who has dated I think you have a great mindset about dating. It does take a big investment & you need strong boundaries to date without being drained. Loved the grwm chit chat & i’d like to hear more about your content creation journey 🫶🏽🫶🏽
You have no idea how much this video helped me🥹 Like girl, I'll turn 22 at the end of November, and my dating life is same as yours. And the fact that you talked about this this much honesty😭 Thank you🫂It felt like a "girl talk💌" as your my order sister🧚🏻♀️✨️So thank you for making me feel alright with where I am💌
via, can you talk more about high standard in dating or crush or whatever involve in it? you inspire me alot! i love you girlll❤❤❤
I love your videos so much, literally you're my comfort RUclipsr I relate so much to what you say (pls never stop posting)
you’re so relatable, watching this video I felt I was listening to myself talking through you, ur amazing Vi
i very rarely comment about things like this online, but i really wish I had friends like you. i'm in the same boat you mentioned about feeling bad when you tell friends your accomplishments because it feels like bragging. i feel elated when i see people i care about get their bags, but i feel like i don't receive the same amount of encouragement when it's my time to "win."
so happy to hear you've got new people around you who celebrate things with you!
im so happy someone is speaking on this
Quality of cam is great likeee youuuu🎀❤️
i feel like an awkward older sister being so proud of the younger sister when i watch your videos. You give me inspiration/motivation to do better. Ty
I relate with you a lot and that really makes me feel safe and not alone
Via is literally the best friend everyone needs man. I love your content so much that I binge and rewatch your channel again and again. Just be yourself and be happy. Until then, PREACH QUEEN!! :3
The more i watch your videos the more I realise how much we are alike. Honestly it's very comforting knowing someone is or feels the same way you do, because sometimes i wonder if i am a weird one so watching videos like that gives me comfort
She's back!!! Well i'm back here actually... Anyway your channel is very useful for me to get more vocabulary.
我真心好欣賞妳可以把心事都在鏡頭前講出來，讓我感覺好安慰🤎我即使面對最親的人都講不出來，（尤其是感情相關的事）總是有一道跨不過的坎，所以也沒有人會跟我分享內心事，所以看你的影片的時候都很感動
YESSS, PERFECT TIMING.
hey girl ive been following you since over a year and you're videos have helped me so much
Hey love!! First of all, I truly admire you !! Your videos feels like chat with your bestie when things aren’t going that well… so comfy and warm… love it!
Second, about the whole “boyfriend free for 23 years” situation… totally get you, I didn’t have a boyfriend, nor sex or first kiss till I turn 25!!! I felt scared because of inexperience or naive I might look to other men, but GIRL LET ME TEEEELL YOU!! Dating at this age is waaaay better! I’m so much mature than I was at 15 or 20 😅 now I have a job, I finished college, I built my own personality, style and opinions!!
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months and we both get along so well!! I feel happy, still share time with my besties and family, do activities by my own, it’s all about balance.
And Girl you are right about best friends rising a higher bar for future romantic relationships
Yay via posted and also so true when i first started RUclips I was very discouraged and then I changed my mindset and said I am doing RUclips as a hobby and that grew on me and I still am just enjoying the fun of doing RUclips and sometimes it’s difficult when you don’t know what you are doing and so I just have fun with it weather people see my videos or not. And also now that we are bringing up sexuality via I relate to that so much. 😫 literally being in your early 20s is a rollercoaster. Thank you via for being a relatable big sister.
This is so relatable 🥹 I love your videos so much!!🫶❤️
omg please make more videos of you talking because I did not thought that I would enjoy watching someone talk but guess what? I was literally immersed the whole time AAAA I related to everything so much you are so real AND you are so so pretty, georgiana mwahhh VERY white swan coded 🦢
everything and i mean everything that you said is exactly how i feel wtf 😭 from relationships to friendships to my mortality - glad i’m not alone
this video was so comforting, keep posting videos!
Happy to wake up with a via video!!!😘
i ducking love you oh my god the way i relate to you as a person is wild because regarding dating we are in the same situation
I love this video, not only because we share most of our opinions 😂 but it’s like you speak honestly and you tackle the right issues that need to be discused.❤
I love this rant lol
also its super refreshing to see someone way older than me who hasn't have a boyfriend and just gets it
Happy almost birthday via. I Love going on runs and listening to ur videos because honestly you put alot of my feelings in words. TY.
genuinely im really appreciative of you saying ALL of this. im 21, just graduated with zero prospects (which is actually an environment ive lowkey created for myself by not caring about my own future), grew up overweight and 'ugly' so never experienced being desireable so don't really understand why my friends are constantly after their next fix of it, which is good because my life is not consumed by dating, but also kinda sucks because i guess it wouldve been nice, but i literally do not know what im missing out on. i cant classify my sexuality because being undesireable has killed my own desire and i dont really find anyone attractive until i get to know them and find the things i may love about them (a pattern i've noticed but that has never grown to anything romantic -- but that doesn't mean unsubstantial, because i have some pretty great friends!)
Less than hour. love u via, I love ur vlogs and ur inspirational videos.
i love listening to via yap for no reason
Thank you for putting words on how I’ve felt for the past 24 years ❤️
Gurly being so real when she said that she knows what she want and is not willing to settle I situationships because that sucks honestly. Never resonated so much before. Love ya Via, keep on slaying 🫶🏻
I started dating 2 years ago when i was 24, now i am 26 and my boyfriend left me, i feel like i should have focused on having close friends because my bf was my only friend. I think it is better when you have friends that you can count on during difficult times and also enjoy happy times. Thank you so much for another video Via! I wish you the best ❤
my confort youtuber 🥹🥹
Happy Birthday!! Watching this on your b day!!
Watching this on the 5th of November, so HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
viaaa I'm proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and filming a grwm!!
Really liked to know more about your personality and opinios on this random subject lmao
I was really here to see how you do your makeup and get some tips so i can do it myself, i'm learning just now :)
i lowkey wished you posted this video soonerrr 😭I had my first dating experience this year and it was horrible but I felt like I couldn't say no because I've never been asked out before and I am 'ugly' and now I've done something I really regret but I feel better that it okay not to date now and that I'm not alone (I am 18 for context I was 17 when I got into the relationship) ily thou via 💛
OMG A GRWM VID?!?! I LOVE YOU VIA I RELATE TO YOU SO MUCH I LOVE YOUR CONTENT 💖💞
i loved this vid, i felt like i was chatting with a close friend. also ur makeup is FLAWLESS
That's why you're my #1 youtuber ..girll you are so cool I love you !!
hi viaa, i love these new style of videos! keep it up!
I love your look in this video, so pretty!
how you artculate it is just so relatable
girl i love these kinds of videos! keep making more cuz ur so interesting!
It's so crazy how I said the EXACT SAME THING to the guy I'm talking to right now. "I'm willing to communicate everything", "I don't believe in potential, I only see results". I feel like I'm very cold blooded in a way you know? Like relationships are suppose to be romantic and all, but being so logical loses the core of it? Idkkkk... And omg sameeee, If I date someone, I want that person to be the one. It's just crazy how I said those exact words and have like 90% same beliefs. Oh yea, did I say, ffs I'm also intp.
the quality is noticeably rly good :)
This makes me feel SOOOO much better because i’ve literally never had a crush before and people always perceive me as aromantic or asexual when I genuinely just haven’t found anyone that I want to be with yet 😭. I’m only 17 but it made me feel so behind. It’s taken a while but i’m just now realizing that it’s okay and everyone moves at their own pace. I’m so glad i’m not the only
one who’s experienced this 😭😭
me too and i’m 20. i think i’m just really picky in who i want to be surrounded by let alone date. atp i’m just leaving it up to fate bc there has never been someone i have had genuine interest in. dw you are not alone 😭
You are like me in the independence thing I am an INTP girl too I just don't know I have always been alone all the hardships the pains , sorrows and suicide attempts I didn't wait for someone to comfort me because I know that this person doesn't exist, everyone is busy with their own problems and struggles while they wait for someone to help them but that person will never come so just swallow the shit and help yourself because no one will do it for you that's what I believe in. So I think maybe this explains why I find romantic relationships strange foreign or even scary to me.
This might be an INTP shared experience because I related to this and this video so badly
I loved this video so much and growing up I wasn't considered ugly but I always felt that way. And to some extent I'm glad because I'm virgin and never been in a situationship lol. If you ever do another grwm video a topic I would like to hear how you learned to pick/find you current friend because it seems absaloutly amazing.
Watching this on your birthday hahahah, happy birthday Via! ❤
My favorite hobby: listening to yapping Via💗
i missed your vids SO MUCH. enlightned my saturday! and gosh, we have the same age and you're a scorpio?!?! lovely!