For people who don't know, this is based on a true story so if you were sad now you're even more sad, oh and the end were they meet again doesn't happened in real life :''')
It is hard to comment on this movie because it SO parallels my life. I completely understand their struggles, their fears, their love, their frustrations and anger. I lived this very thing in the early 1970s in my college years. Jim and I met through mutual friends. I will never forget the day I was introduced to this bigger than life individual in my rooming house. Jim was the taller, 6' 3" sandy hair, lean, muscular and athletic. I was 5' 10", slighter build with dark brown hair. We immediately connected. It felt like I had always known him. Just being around Jim sent chills all over me and I could tell he was warmly infatuated with me. Our eyes would meet from a distance on campus, like magnets. We would sit on the campus lawn under the trees and talk, hanging on every word, then run off to our next class. Jim continued to drop in to my rooming house to see his old friends but soon, I realized it wasn't just to see them. I could sense it and the chemistry of our relationship began to develop in the ensuing weeks of that first semester we met. Our friendship continued to grow until something magical began to happen that the two of us had never experienced before. I really had no idea Jim might be gay. I thought he was too manly or masculine to be gay. Initially, I dont think either of us knew where this "friendship" was taking us. It wasn't until we left school for a weekend to visit his mother in his boyhood home. We slept together in Jim's bedroom. I think Jim planned that. We soon found out our true feelings for each other. It was love between two ppl neither of whom had experienced before. It didn't take long for the shorts to come off. There we were like two blades of grass twisting and turning, nothing more beautiful. Jim always took the lead. I was more naive. He was so gentle and kind but passionate. He knew what to do, when to do it and how to do it. He put me at complete ease. Jim made our love so natural and pure. We took love and life to a whole new level. We ran around our college town having the time of our lives. We slept out on the grass behind my rooming house one night under the stars enjoying the union of two people hopelessly in love. I don't think we slept 10 minutes that whole night. We laughed, played and studied together. We became inseparable. None of our closest friends knew what was really going on between us. I was the artsy one who was into music. Jim was into sports. But we esteemed each other so highly, that I loved his sports and he loved my music. It was a torment to love and try to hide it from an unyielding world. But we took any opportunity to be alone and experience each other to the fullest. Just the two of us driving down the highway hanging all over each other enjoying the closeness and presence of each other. How well I remember Jim having one hand on the steering wheel and the other hand all over me or under my clothes. Or taking a train trip to the big City. I well remember rocking back and forth down the tracks, holding Jim's muscular arm and lying my head on his broad shoulders. Jim was the most outgoing, kind, mature and generous person I have ever known. He was mature way beyond his 23 years. He made me feel like a prince. He was very loving and affectionate, a hands on person, that brought out the best in you. Everyone loved him. He was strong and confident with this genuine, exciting glow about him. He treated everyone with the same kindness without a hint of arrogance. He never said an angry word.... so positive and stable. We lived under the radar, taking our train trips, a ski trip to the Colorado Rockies or visit our families. We didn't talk about BEING gay, we simply LIVED it. Neither did we talk about what would happen after graduation. But, sadly, that day arrived and we went our separate ways. When we said our goodbyes that fateful day, we were very stoic in front of family and friends. Later, the letdown hit and I cried uncontrollably. It was like the end of the world for us. A gay relationship was not sustainable in rural conservative America. You could lose your job, be kicked out of your apartment, lose your family and worse, be killed all because you loved and were loved by another guy. We had no internet, no cell phones, no social media and certainly no one I could trust or confide in for support. I cried myself to sleep every night or didn't sleep at all. The shower and phone scenes in the movie were too much to watch. I was reliving the excruciating pain of losing the most important person in my life. Jim moved overseas for 4 years in the military. We wrote long letters to each other that I finally threw away, the memories and pain of which were too great. I had dreams of Jim for years. I would wake up all conflicted in my head and heart, thinking Jim was back only to realize he was NEVER coming back. That was 49 years ago. Jim and I have seen each other twice in 49 years. The first time we saw each other was 4 years after college graduation, then a 18 year gap before seeing each other again. The last time was 27 years ago. We both have married, have children and now grandchildren. We send a Christmas card and note to each other every year, without fail for 49 years. Surprisingly, Jim called me in 2019 and we started texting. We plan to get together in September 2021. It has been a long road navigating this life without the most influentual person in my life next to me. The brokenness, hurt and pain, no words can describe. A hetero marriage has been nothing compared to what Jim and I had. This movie truly depicts the essence of love for life. What we had was "stolen" from us. I was shaken to the core watching Your Name Engraved Herein. Oscar worthy performances by Edward and Tseng! They took me back in time to the three best years of my life. *HERE IS THE UPDATE YOU HAVE ALL BEEN WAITING FOR!!* 8/31/21-- Jim arrived on time to my house on August 29 with his wife...an eight hour drive from us. Our wives really connected and enjoyed the visit. I was surprised how much Jim had aged in 27 years. He is 73 and in good health. He just has some nerve pain in his legs. Though he looked much different, underneath he was the same fun loving Jim from our college days. We shared and looked at dozens of pictures, laughed and ate a lot of good food. It was a very memorable and joyful time together with many hugs and friendly touching. It was like we had never been apart. Our personalities were the same as they were 49 years ago. I wish I could share the pictures we took together. I will savor them in my Jim & Phil album. We plan to make this a yearly get together. This is the best we could hope for in spite of the years that have kept us apart. I am thankful we both are still alive, enjoying life and still have much commonality. My thanks to all of you who have prayed and spoken kind words of support over us. Love is the greatest gift God has given us!❤❣ Life is short, make the MOST of it! There are friendships and love that are for life!! As a side note, this is the first time I have posted anything publicly about the life Jim and I had. RUclips has afforded me this rare opportunity with anonymity. Some, as you will read in the comment section, have been less than kind in their assessment of my life then and now. I realize everyone has their opinion and ppl have those opinions because of what they, themselves, have experienced. All I will say is anger, resentment and judgment should not be a part of this platform. Until you have walked in my shoes or someone else's, withhold unjust and biased criticism.
@@ourdiary5780 I could never get Jim out of my life, don't want to, he was in my heart to stay. It is because of him that I am who I am today. He taught me so much about life and how to respect and treat ppl. Moving on was a real struggle. I had dreams about Jim for a long time. I would wake up so conflicted in my head, thinking Jim was back, only to realize he was NEVER coming back....
@@ourdiary5780 I completely understand your struggles. Jim and I essentially had no physical contact over these 49 years, except meeting twice with our wives present, and the exchange of yearly Christmas cards. Only someone as yourself would understand this thing we call love. The most powerful force on the face of this earth! I only pray the two of you can navigate this life in a better way than Jim and I have.
@@ourdiary5780 I have to admire your convictions to your family. That is commendable but I know does not make your situation any easier. Jim and I dealt the best we could with the pressures of our culture, family and our religion (Christianity). The forces of those three was hard to overcome, fight or resist. We opted for the alternative, a heterosexual relationship. I think Jim has fared better than I. My marriage has been anything but good. I suffer the guilt of not being able to give myself to a woman, like I was able to give myself to Jim....
@@ourdiary5780 For anyone to try to live my life. I would not recommend. At times it has been a living hell and a roller coaster ride. The best part of these 49 years has been my children, my grandchildren and my profession. I certainly understand your fear of facing life the way I have in a marriage that has caused misery to two people. I, as well, have never shared any of my life with anyone until now on RUclips. It has been therapeutic to be able to tell my/our story to a non judgmental audience....for which I am very thankful for.
@@philshuster7463 thank you for sharing your story. It is truly beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. I wish you all the best in the world. Even though you had to bare a lot of pain inside and lack a lot of love, i do hope you realise your life isn't over yet. Try to live a life of happiness just because you do deserve it very much 💕🍀🕯☉
My favourite lines are," Help me go to hell then. I'd rather go to hell now. Don't all homosexuals deserve to go to hell? Maybe more people would understand me in hell." I live in the same house as my homophobic family, in a homophobic community. I'm in a space where no one understands me, surrounded by hate and shame . In a space where I don't even know who I am. When he says," The world hasn't changed", I always feel like he's talking to me. We still have a long road ahead of us. Would've said 'together we can!', but I feel like I'm alone in this one. I watch this movie every day to have my heart and soul at ease. It is the best movie ever.
Here come the tears again .... at least this 65 year old gay guy can cry. This movie hits home ..... too many times. The pain never goes way ...... it just hurts less with every passing day.
this was one of the most heart breaking movies to watch. It portrayed what it was like to love someone that the society labeled as wrong. It showed the torture and suffering of people who loved someone who they weren't allowed to. Something so innocent and beautiful like love was forbidden, depending on towards who it was felt. I really love Jia-han, as this character and as an actor in general, and even though birdy was a bit mean sometimes and i think both of them could've handled some things differently , in the end it wouldn't matter anyways, because the world had already decided to keep them apart. I would like to think that the world has changed now and became more open, and although that is true we still have A LONG way to go and too much to learn and unlearn. So far we've only scratched the surface of the things that the world has for us. It's a constant battle and it will be that way for a long time. This movie was a pure masterpiece and it makes me cry on the slightest thought of it. I'm not a part of LGBTQ+ community and i don't understand their struggle because I've never been in their place, but i promised myself long time ago that I would stand by their side and help them raise their flag as high up as the sky. Everybody deserves to love and feel loved no matter what
Bro, I was really soo sad for them. And then the thought creeped up in my mind that this isn't just a fictional movie, it's actually the real story of many people worldwide who lost their youths and infact most of their time pretending to be someone they're not and dying within, just because this world was so messed up. This thought makes me cry, and moreover, the world may have become much better than that time but still isn't so good :( I just pray that nothing like this happens to anyone.
@@mohinirai2768 exactly, the movie itself was pretty heartbreaking but the fact that it represents real life and situations of many many people makes it devastating. Sadly we can only hope that the world becomes a better place, everybody deserves to walk on this earth with a smile on their face.
I already told my story on this thread but your comments are very insightful, full of understanding and compassion. This is not typical of the heterosexual world. You are to be commended. I only regret ppl like you were not around in my world from 1969-72. We've come a long way but still have a long way to go. Ppl like you are helping make this a better world to live in.
@@philshuster7463 I have actually read your story right after i posted my comment. I was an emotional wreck after i read it but it made me aware of why i do the things i do, and gave me even more reason and motivation to continue doing it. Your reply to my comment just made my week and i cant thank you enough. I was raised in a way that when i look at people i dont see color, gender, sexuality etc. I can only hope we as society can grow and create a safe space for everyone one day. Again thank you so much for your reply it means so much to me. I am sorry that the world hasn't been kind to you, but what i can do is promise to always do my best to be kind.
@@tsuki8872 I was never able to tell my story until now on RUclips, basically 50 years of silence. When you said torture and suffering....I would not wish on my worst enemies what I have gone through. My first experience and recollection of sexuality was when I was seven years old. That was when the sexual abuse started by another person in my life. It lasted for around three years. I was in middle school when I realized I was attracted to the boys more than the girls. I faltered between both sexes, as I had two girlfriends in secondary school. In college my sexual feelings kept moving towards the guys and I resisted it until Jim came along. I had no idea he was gay. My guilty pleasure was that he would be gay. He truly swept me off my feet. The loss of Jim in my life broke me into pieces. I was a fractured person for a long time. Finally, I had a person in my life who understood me and accepted the whole of me. I was finally complete and whole, full of hope, full of affirmation and security. I wanted it to last forever. And when it didn't, it threw my life into a tailspin. I could have easily turned to drugs, alcohol and even suicide....I was that low, depressed and hopeless. Raised with a strong faith in God is what saved me but it took a long time to recover. I drowned my sorrows, if you will, in my education and a heterosexual relationship that I knew was not good for me. But in a hostile world I was compelled to conform much against who I really was. It was painful and miserable not being able to be and live who I really was. All I wanted was my Jim and I knew he was gone, forever, and there would never be another Jim. I had suppressed so much for so long that when I watched Call Me By Your Name and Your Name Engraved Herein, they set off a firestorm in me that brought my old life to the forefront, resurrecting the feelings that I had denied or ignored for the greater part of 50 years. You made my day as well. I never knew there were ppl like yourself who truly understood or would accept a gay man or homosexual like myself. Fifty years of being denied who you are puts you on your guard and always suspicious of ppls motives. Add to that a wife who is homophobic and you understand the upside down world I have lived in. I am now in the latter years of my life. I am relatively happy and at peace. Jim is not actively in my world but he is still there, distant as he is. You can never push out of your life the most influential person to grace your life. He is always with me. Thankyou for making the choice to accept and the choice to be kind. I suspect you are the exception. You are a bright light in a dark world.
This movie hang me in tears in the middle of sadness. This movie thought us to own our feelings. And I vividly remember that one line from the movie - "everyone's first love is as great as an epic movie"
For me this movie is not specific to only lbgtq love story with bitter ending but it is a piece of art that slowed us the all emotions of faild first love .I showed us that what is real meaning of right person but wrong timing. It showed us to being true to your emotion and be fearless and own your feelings. I wish every birdy have such courage to accept his own real self ... and I always wish that no one should experience such bitter experience in their life.
I love this film and mixed with soundtrack brings me to tears. People babbling about trauma before there was peace there was trauma people lived experiences. Before your peace was trauma. Stories like this are beautiful and hard to watch.
@Cat Lover I haven' seen the entire movie but on reading other people comments they met after many years. I didn't have the courage to see because I think if people love each other let them live their life happily.
I’ve been in love with my best friend for the third time and it’s ended up hurtful, knowing all of them are straight. And when the time I confessed to them, we’ve been strangers after all.
@@SonderEvennys You're really brave. There was a friend that I liked really much. Sadly I think he knew and cut off all contacts. He Unfriended me on Facebook and Instagram. 😭 💔
Finishing the movie was so bittersweet because there are still Jia Hans and Birdys even in todays day and age. I will watch this movie on repeat until queer people everywhere are given the freedom to show their love proudly. Thank you for this beautiful edit :')
Same pain I’m feeling right now in an unrequited love. I did everything and yet no love in return. The only love I’m dreaming to have in my entire existence.
This story was beautiful but yet sad. The anguish shown in the film must have been only part of what both went through, even though one tried to suppress his emotions for the other. I also felt so bad for the secondary gay character who was beaten and bullied every day of school. It was an element of reality that was prevalent in that time period. It showed both boys what could happen to them, if word got out about their relationship. Nobody should go through "not being able to be with someone you love." If you both are truly in love with each other, you should be together NO matter what anyone else thinks. 💓
Ikr I couldn't bring myself to watch this movie for a whole month.. just simply thinking about it made me cry.. I finally watched it today and it just made me ugly cry watching the whole movie cause it's so heart-rending 😭😭😭
ya I definitely would not recommend watching this if you aren’t in a good place mentally this movie damn broke me and left me devastated for a few days
This is not your everyday bl it shows us the hardship and fears I love this movie it breaks my heart but I'm they meet again in the end I feel like their love for each other was still there and they can try to move forward and at least enjoy their last years together
this story reminds me of another movie maurice..... I dont think iwill be able to handle the pain after watching this move..... so yeah i am crying now after watching this,,,
I love maurice and the book. Although the ending in Maurice is different cuz Paul ended up with a guy while his lover decides to stay in a heterosexual marriage.
Their love was so great, they tried to stop it by putting a wedge of destruction between each other, thinking that might stop their love by driving them apart. The ensuing pain and anger only made their love that much more strong. It hits to the core of what makes us human.
I just hope my homophobic parents could see this film. They will never do. But, god, don't watch an amazing love story heartbreaking and heartwarming like this, just because it's between two men... I really don't get it. This is one of my favourite film.. I can't- 😭
@@mohinirai2768 yeah “Sleeping at Last” it’s the name of the band that makes the song in the video, it’s called Saturn, you should check it out, they have good songs.
@@web-headsassemble9415 ohk so "Sleeping at Last" is a band with nice music that I should check out. Welp, I couldn't watch the full video but I watched the movie last night and I just absolutely love the film and producers but also kinda hate them because they didn't let Birdy and Jia-Han be together 😭😭
@@web-headsassemble9415 Which is why those who were never born are fortunate. They don't have to suffer through heartbreak, mental pressure, physical pain, starvation and death etc.
Just finished watching it and i had to stop the vid after over a minute cuz it makes me then reading the comments made me even sadder, pheww Gabriela.... :(((
Je dis toujours.. Il faut foutre la paix ! L’amour envers et contre tout .. parce-qu’il doit tout dépasser ! Il est le seul véritable médicament du monde. 💘 A cause de la bêtise il y a des souffrances qui jamais ne devraient exister. La vraie misère, la pire de toutes, c’est de ne pas en avoir. Les acteurs…? 2 Anges tombés du ciel ! ❤️💎👑 Magiiiiiik ! 💫⭐️💫✨✨✨
buat mulyadi di bulukumba, sudah 16 tahun kita tidak berjumpa, aku masih selalu inget tentang kamu, semoga suatu saat kita dipertemukan lagi, foto2mu masih aku simpan
It's been a while since I watched the movie but if I'm remembering correctly, when Jia Han and Birdy were in school, they broke into a movie theater where Birdy says he wants to make movies and Jia Han tells him that he will write songs for them. Essentially Birdy was confessing to Jia Han by saying things like "Don't you think movies are better than real life?" After graduation, the two boys are separated, Jia Han goes off to college but Birdy fails his college exam (based on the novel) and is basically grounded. Jia Jan calls Birdy and tells him that he's been writing a song (which was actually written years ago, when they were still high schoolers) and it's Jia Han's way of telling Birdy that he has always loved him, from the beginning and will continue to love him. They're probably a million reasons why they're crying. I think it was a mix of regret, sorrow and yearning.
Yes. I heard the Netflix version edited out like 10 or 15 mins of the original version from Asia so it made some parts hard to follow. If you can find the original version I would watch that.
@@minhtran2160 they had a version for Taipei film fest prior to the official release. Netflix's version is same as the official release. The producer/director had mentioned that the Taipei film fest version could be even more upsetting than the released version.
I'd describe it as incredibly bittersweet - it definitely isn't your typical happy ending. While their story is tragic, they do end up finding contentment of sorts, albeit at a high cost. I hope this can help you. I tried my best to avoid spoiling anything. :)
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For people who don't know, this is based on a true story so if you were sad now you're even more sad, oh and the end were they meet again doesn't happened in real life :''')
I'd rather not to know about your explanation... I'm deeply sad
why would u do this to me?????
The directors real story ?
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Oh my god😭😭😭
It is hard to comment on this movie because it SO parallels my life. I completely understand their struggles, their fears, their love, their frustrations and anger. I lived this very thing in the early 1970s in my college years. Jim and I met through mutual friends. I will never forget the day I was introduced to this bigger than life individual in my rooming house. Jim was the taller, 6' 3" sandy hair, lean, muscular and athletic. I was 5' 10", slighter build with dark brown hair. We immediately connected. It felt like I had always known him. Just being around Jim sent chills all over me and I could tell he was warmly infatuated with me. Our eyes would meet from a distance on campus, like magnets. We would sit on the campus lawn under the trees and talk, hanging on every word, then run off to our next class. Jim continued to drop in to my rooming house to see his old friends but soon, I realized it wasn't just to see them. I could sense it and the chemistry of our relationship began to develop in the ensuing weeks of that first semester we met. Our friendship continued to grow until something magical began to happen that the two of us had never experienced before. I really had no idea Jim might be gay. I thought he was too manly or masculine to be gay. Initially, I dont think either of us knew where this "friendship" was taking us. It wasn't until we left school for a weekend to visit his mother in his boyhood home. We slept together in Jim's bedroom. I think Jim planned that. We soon found out our true feelings for each other. It was love between two ppl neither of whom had experienced before. It didn't take long for the shorts to come off. There we were like two blades of grass twisting and turning, nothing more beautiful. Jim always took the lead. I was more naive. He was so gentle and kind but passionate. He knew what to do, when to do it and how to do it. He put me at complete ease. Jim made our love so natural and pure. We took love and life to a whole new level. We ran around our college town having the time of our lives. We slept out on the grass behind my rooming house one night under the stars enjoying the union of two people hopelessly in love. I don't think we slept 10 minutes that whole night. We laughed, played and studied together. We became inseparable. None of our closest friends knew what was really going on between us. I was the artsy one who was into music. Jim was into sports. But we esteemed each other so highly, that I loved his sports and he loved my music. It was a torment to love and try to hide it from an unyielding world. But we took any opportunity to be alone and experience each other to the fullest. Just the two of us driving down the highway hanging all over each other enjoying the closeness and presence of each other. How well I remember Jim having one hand on the steering wheel and the other hand all over me or under my clothes. Or taking a train trip to the big City. I well remember rocking back and forth down the tracks, holding Jim's muscular arm and lying my head on his broad shoulders. Jim was the most outgoing, kind, mature and generous person I have ever known. He was mature way beyond his 23 years. He made me feel like a prince. He was very loving and affectionate, a hands on person, that brought out the best in you. Everyone loved him. He was strong and confident with this genuine, exciting glow about him. He treated everyone with the same kindness without a hint of arrogance. He never said an angry word.... so positive and stable. We lived under the radar, taking our train trips, a ski trip to the Colorado Rockies or visit our families. We didn't talk about BEING gay, we simply LIVED it. Neither did we talk about what would happen after graduation. But, sadly, that day arrived and we went our separate ways. When we said our goodbyes that fateful day, we were very stoic in front of family and friends. Later, the letdown hit and I cried uncontrollably. It was like the end of the world for us. A gay relationship was not sustainable in rural conservative America. You could lose your job, be kicked out of your apartment, lose your family and worse, be killed all because you loved and were loved by another guy. We had no internet, no cell phones, no social media and certainly no one I could trust or confide in for support. I cried myself to sleep every night or didn't sleep at all. The shower and phone scenes in the movie were too much to watch. I was reliving the excruciating pain of losing the most important person in my life. Jim moved overseas for 4 years in the military. We wrote long letters to each other that I finally threw away, the memories and pain of which were too great. I had dreams of Jim for years. I would wake up all conflicted in my head and heart, thinking Jim was back only to realize he was NEVER coming back. That was 49 years ago. Jim and I have seen each other twice in 49 years. The first time we saw each other was 4 years after college graduation, then a 18 year gap before seeing each other again. The last time was 27 years ago. We both have married, have children and now grandchildren. We send a Christmas card and note to each other every year, without fail for 49 years. Surprisingly, Jim called me in 2019 and we started texting. We plan to get together in September 2021. It has been a long road navigating this life without the most influentual person in my life next to me. The brokenness, hurt and pain, no words can describe. A hetero marriage has been nothing compared to what Jim and I had. This movie truly depicts the essence of love for life. What we had was "stolen" from us. I was shaken to the core watching Your Name Engraved Herein. Oscar worthy performances by Edward and Tseng! They took me back in time to the three best years of my life.
*HERE IS THE UPDATE YOU HAVE ALL BEEN WAITING FOR!!*
8/31/21-- Jim arrived on time to my house on August 29 with his wife...an eight hour drive from us. Our wives really connected and enjoyed the visit. I was surprised how much Jim had aged in 27 years. He is 73 and in good health. He just has some nerve pain in his legs. Though he looked much different, underneath he was the same fun loving Jim from our college days. We shared and looked at dozens of pictures, laughed and ate a lot of good food. It was a very memorable and joyful time together with many hugs and friendly touching. It was like we had never been apart. Our personalities were the same as they were 49 years ago. I wish I could share the pictures we took together. I will savor them in my Jim & Phil album. We plan to make this a yearly get together. This is the best we could hope for in spite of the years that have kept us apart. I am thankful we both are still alive, enjoying life and still have much commonality. My thanks to all of you who have prayed and spoken kind words of support over us. Love is the greatest gift God has given us!❤❣ Life is short, make the MOST of it! There are friendships and love that are for life!! As a side note, this is the first time I have posted anything publicly about the life Jim and I had. RUclips has afforded me this rare opportunity with anonymity. Some, as you will read in the comment section, have been less than kind in their assessment of my life then and now. I realize everyone has their opinion and ppl have those opinions because of what they, themselves, have experienced. All I will say is anger, resentment and judgment should not be a part of this platform. Until you have walked in my shoes or someone else's, withhold unjust and biased criticism.
@@ourdiary5780 I could never get Jim out of my life, don't want to, he was in my heart to stay. It is because of him that I am who I am today. He taught me so much about life and how to respect and treat ppl. Moving on was a real struggle. I had dreams about Jim for a long time. I would wake up so conflicted in my head, thinking Jim was back, only to realize he was NEVER coming back....
@@ourdiary5780 I completely understand your struggles. Jim and I essentially had no physical contact over these 49 years, except meeting twice with our wives present, and the exchange of yearly Christmas cards. Only someone as yourself would understand this thing we call love. The most powerful force on the face of this earth! I only pray the two of you can navigate this life in a better way than Jim and I have.
@@ourdiary5780 I have to admire your convictions to your family. That is commendable but I know does not make your situation any easier. Jim and I dealt the best we could with the pressures of our culture, family and our religion (Christianity). The forces of those three was hard to overcome, fight or resist. We opted for the alternative, a heterosexual relationship. I think Jim has fared better than I. My marriage has been anything but good. I suffer the guilt of not being able to give myself to a woman, like I was able to give myself to Jim....
@@ourdiary5780 For anyone to try to live my life. I would not recommend. At times it has been a living hell and a roller coaster ride. The best part of these 49 years has been my children, my grandchildren and my profession. I certainly understand your fear of facing life the way I have in a marriage that has caused misery to two people. I, as well, have never shared any of my life with anyone until now on RUclips. It has been therapeutic to be able to tell my/our story to a non judgmental audience....for which I am very thankful for.
@@philshuster7463 thank you for sharing your story. It is truly beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. I wish you all the best in the world. Even though you had to bare a lot of pain inside and lack a lot of love, i do hope you realise your life isn't over yet. Try to live a life of happiness just because you do deserve it very much 💕🍀🕯☉
His mother knew they were in love with each other
And she didn't stop her son...
Even if they didn't said it , a mother always knew... They're are the child that they carry for months.
I think she’s not entirely sure tho, it’s just her guts
The telephone scene always got me.. Got me crying😭
Watch Hapoy Togheter by Wang Kar Wai there is similar scene with voice recorder
My favourite lines are," Help me go to hell then. I'd rather go to hell now. Don't all homosexuals deserve to go to hell? Maybe more people would understand me in hell." I live in the same house as my homophobic family, in a homophobic community. I'm in a space where no one understands me, surrounded by hate and shame . In a space where I don't even know who I am. When he says," The world hasn't changed", I always feel like he's talking to me. We still have a long road ahead of us. Would've said 'together we can!', but I feel like I'm alone in this one. I watch this movie every day to have my heart and soul at ease. It is the best movie ever.
Ntando ... Here's the best gay movie:
ruclips.net/video/h1FK_UmZr4A/видео.html ..
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I cry everyday for them dude
same
Me too
Sameeee
Same..
I feel August by taylor was perfect for this movie
Here come the tears again .... at least this 65 year old gay guy can cry. This movie hits home ..... too many times. The pain never goes way ...... it just hurts less with every passing day.
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I will never get bored watching this beautiful film..in fact I already watched it more than 30 times now!
I've probably watched it that many times as well. I watched it every day in the month of March and twice on each Saturday.
This is a fantastic movie.
@@j.smith1631 yes one of my best films of all times
really? it's crazy.
Please were can i watch it
@@olayinkaayomide8699
You can see it on Netflix
this was one of the most heart breaking movies to watch. It portrayed what it was like to love someone that the society labeled as wrong. It showed the torture and suffering of people who loved someone who they weren't allowed to. Something so innocent and beautiful like love was forbidden, depending on towards who it was felt.
I really love Jia-han, as this character and as an actor in general, and even though birdy was a bit mean sometimes and i think both of them could've handled some things differently , in the end it wouldn't matter anyways, because the world had already decided to keep them apart.
I would like to think that the world has changed now and became more open, and although that is true we still have A LONG way to go and too much to learn and unlearn. So far we've only scratched the surface of the things that the world has for us. It's a constant battle and it will be that way for a long time. This movie was a pure masterpiece and it makes me cry on the slightest thought of it. I'm not a part of LGBTQ+ community and i don't understand their struggle because I've never been in their place, but i promised myself long time ago that I would stand by their side and help them raise their flag as high up as the sky. Everybody deserves to love and feel loved no matter what
Bro, I was really soo sad for them. And then the thought creeped up in my mind that this isn't just a fictional movie, it's actually the real story of many people worldwide who lost their youths and infact most of their time pretending to be someone they're not and dying within, just because this world was so messed up. This thought makes me cry, and moreover, the world may have become much better than that time but still isn't so good :( I just pray that nothing like this happens to anyone.
@@mohinirai2768 exactly, the movie itself was pretty heartbreaking but the fact that it represents real life and situations of many many people makes it devastating. Sadly we can only hope that the world becomes a better place, everybody deserves to walk on this earth with a smile on their face.
I already told my story on this thread but your comments are very insightful, full of understanding and compassion. This is not typical of the heterosexual world. You are to be commended. I only regret ppl like you were not around in my world from 1969-72. We've come a long way but still have a long way to go. Ppl like you are helping make this a better world to live in.
@@philshuster7463 I have actually read your story right after i posted my comment. I was an emotional wreck after i read it but it made me aware of why i do the things i do, and gave me even more reason and motivation to continue doing it.
Your reply to my comment just made my week and i cant thank you enough. I was raised in a way that when i look at people i dont see color, gender, sexuality etc. I can only hope we as society can grow and create a safe space for everyone one day. Again thank you so much for your reply it means so much to me. I am sorry that the world hasn't been kind to you, but what i can do is promise to always do my best to be kind.
@@tsuki8872 I was never able to tell my story until now on RUclips, basically 50 years of silence. When you said torture and suffering....I would not wish on my worst enemies what I have gone through. My first experience and recollection of sexuality was when I was seven years old. That was when the sexual abuse started by another person in my life. It lasted for around three years. I was in middle school when I realized I was attracted to the boys more than the girls. I faltered between both sexes, as I had two girlfriends in secondary school. In college my sexual feelings kept moving towards the guys and I resisted it until Jim came along. I had no idea he was gay. My guilty pleasure was that he would be gay. He truly swept me off my feet. The loss of Jim in my life broke me into pieces. I was a fractured person for a long time. Finally, I had a person in my life who understood me and accepted the whole of me. I was finally complete and whole, full of hope, full of affirmation and security. I wanted it to last forever. And when it didn't, it threw my life into a tailspin. I could have easily turned to drugs, alcohol and even suicide....I was that low, depressed and hopeless. Raised with a strong faith in God is what saved me but it took a long time to recover. I drowned my sorrows, if you will, in my education and a heterosexual relationship that I knew was not good for me. But in a hostile world I was compelled to conform much against who I really was. It was painful and miserable not being able to be and live who I really was. All I wanted was my Jim and I knew he was gone, forever, and there would never be another Jim. I had suppressed so much for so long that when I watched Call Me By Your Name and Your Name Engraved Herein, they set off a firestorm in me that brought my old life to the forefront, resurrecting the feelings that I had denied or ignored for the greater part of 50 years. You made my day as well. I never knew there were ppl like yourself who truly understood or would accept a gay man or homosexual like myself. Fifty years of being denied who you are puts you on your guard and always suspicious of ppls motives. Add to that a wife who is homophobic and you understand the upside down world I have lived in. I am now in the latter years of my life. I am relatively happy and at peace. Jim is not actively in my world but he is still there, distant as he is. You can never push out of your life the most influential person to grace your life. He is always with me. Thankyou for making the choice to accept and the choice to be kind. I suspect you are the exception. You are a bright light in a dark world.
This movie hang me in tears in the middle of sadness. This movie thought us to own our feelings. And I vividly remember that one line from the movie - "everyone's first love is as great as an epic movie"
They deserve an Oscar 🥺🥺🥺🥺
Why can't he accept him they can just fight for their love
This movie is heart-wrenching. Still, you can't help but keep watching it again and again.
@Cat Lover The ending is neither sad nor happy. That's how I felt. I think they have left it for the viewers to decide.
so emotional. the musical score is perfect.. the story is just natural and perfect.. love the actors too.
Ah , I wish there was something like "unloving" someone in this world.
That was beautifully done ... Bravo!
"Your name engraved herein " on Netflix
For me this movie is not specific to only lbgtq love story with bitter ending but it is a piece of art that slowed us the all emotions of faild first love .I showed us that what is real meaning of right person but wrong timing. It showed us to being true to your emotion and be fearless and own your feelings. I wish every birdy have such courage to accept his own real self ... and I always wish that no one should experience such bitter experience in their life.
I love this film and mixed with soundtrack brings me to tears. People babbling about trauma before there was peace there was trauma people lived experiences. Before your peace was trauma. Stories like this are beautiful and hard to watch.
This was a beautiful story, but incredibly heartbreaking! 😭😭
It made me cried , I really pray people should understand let the love ones be together irrespective if any Discrimination.🙏
@Cat Lover I haven' seen the entire movie but on reading other people comments they met after many years. I didn't have the courage to see because I think if people love each other let them live their life happily.
Like stab in my heart. Watchinh several times i always crying. But in my heart, they're finally together happily ever after.
Exactly after 30 years. Reunited...😢😢
it feels good to see them re-do some of the scenes in different interviews but in a way with some kind of closure/happy ending...
The film broke my heart in the best possible way. The two leads, esp. Edward, are amazing. Wonderful video, btw!
I’ve been in love with my best friend for the third time and it’s ended up hurtful, knowing all of them are straight. And when the time I confessed to them, we’ve been strangers after all.
Woww ur guts , i really Appreciate u did confessed ur feelings , it is really hard , u r so strong .. may u get right person in right time😇
@@asmbw7295 thank you so much
By the way I’m closet so maybe they ignored me cause they thought I’m straight. I’m afraid and don’t want to come out.
@@SonderEvennys You're really brave. There was a friend that I liked really much. Sadly I think he knew and cut off all contacts. He Unfriended me on Facebook and Instagram. 😭 💔
Finishing the movie was so bittersweet because there are still Jia Hans and Birdys even in todays day and age. I will watch this movie on repeat until queer people everywhere are given the freedom to show their love proudly. Thank you for this beautiful edit :')
This story just touches my soul . I cried but love them .
This one of the best movies, direction, production, editing and actors amazing. Yep just keep watching and running out of tissues.
Same pain I’m feeling right now in an unrequited love. I did everything and yet no love in return. The only love I’m dreaming to have in my entire existence.
剪的太棒了，包含了很多情绪点，而且配乐没有压过电影原声，so great!
Wow... That is painful....nothing hurts in this world like LOVE...... Sorry Jie han and Birdy.....
Fav. Movie.....
This story was beautiful but yet sad. The anguish shown in the film must have been only part of what both went through, even though one tried to suppress his emotions for the other.
I also felt so bad for the secondary gay character who was beaten and bullied every day of school. It was an element of reality that was prevalent in that time period. It showed both boys what could happen to them, if word got out about their relationship.
Nobody should go through "not being able to be with someone you love." If you both are truly in love with each other, you should be together NO matter what anyone else thinks. 💓
Beautiful edit of this beautiful but heart breaking movie.
Beautiful movie It reminded me of another movie called Happy together by Wang Kar Wai which is one of my fav movies
I'm still managing my depression after seeing this...
Ever never forgettable movie in my life. Still my heart go on....😢😢
i couldn't agree more with the caption. i feel sorry for them :(
I don't think im strong enough to watch this masterpiece 😭😭😭... There's too much pain here
Im watching this and i want to watch the movie soooo bad, it hurts my heart so much just by watching this😭
Ikr I couldn't bring myself to watch this movie for a whole month.. just simply thinking about it made me cry.. I finally watched it today and it just made me ugly cry watching the whole movie cause it's so heart-rending 😭😭😭
yes
Oh no..😢I can't control my tears ..😭😭
It's really painfull ☹
Masterpiece
what a love story....i cant tell anything in words...heart touching.... frm India
THIS MOVIE GOT ME SOBBING
i wanna watch this movie badly but im too emotionally and mental broken already to watch it 😞
Watch it when you're a bit strong because it actually needs a bit of mental stability to watch it
ya I definitely would not recommend watching this if you aren’t in a good place mentally this movie damn broke me and left me devastated for a few days
I’m not even 1 minute in and the tears are already swelling in my fckng eyes
This movie hit me and broke me
This is not your everyday bl it shows us the hardship and fears I love this movie it breaks my heart but I'm they meet again in the end I feel like their love for each other was still there and they can try to move forward and at least enjoy their last years together
When they were saying Goodnight to each other, they were saying I Love You.
I thank the film producer is willing to release the BD and DVD on 12.24 in this year,there may be different versions and cut screens
I love those type of movie it not all about sex, one day I hope I could find someone to love like that. I do prayer for that
I just watch their movie. Their acting and chemistry was so great 😭. I wish they had another bl project again..
this story reminds me of another movie maurice.....
I dont think iwill be able to handle the pain after watching this move..... so yeah i am crying now after watching this,,,
I love maurice and the book. Although the ending in Maurice is different cuz Paul ended up with a guy while his lover decides to stay in a heterosexual marriage.
@@leeroll123 yes 😭 I watched that movie so many times 💀 like Maurice atlast got someone 🫂
I miss them more
This film was fantastic - I need a follow up
The fact that they are lovers but fight together like that got me😅😂
Their love was so great, they tried to stop it by putting a wedge of destruction between each other, thinking that might stop their love by driving them apart. The ensuing pain and anger only made their love that much more strong. It hits to the core of what makes us human.
@@philshuster7463 huhu😢
@@philshuster7463 In the words of Beerus, The God of Destruction from Dragon Ball Super, "Before creation must come destruction."
I just hope my homophobic parents could see this film. They will never do. But, god, don't watch an amazing love story heartbreaking and heartwarming like this, just because it's between two men... I really don't get it. This is one of my favourite film.. I can't- 😭
HIStory 3: Make Our Days Count
Another sad, but beautiful story.
Masterpiiece!!!!!
I can’t even tell how iam feeling rn after this .. I think I’ll need to stay alone for a while
Everytime he says something, I remember my bestfriend though I don't have any romantic feeling for her, it hurts and I don't know why
So you can like girls, but I can't love boys, is your love bigger than the love I gave, tell me the difference!
As if this wasn’t heartbreaking enough they have to add sleeping at last, I mean come on.
Sleeping?
@@mohinirai2768 yeah “Sleeping at Last” it’s the name of the band that makes the song in the video, it’s called Saturn, you should check it out, they have good songs.
@@web-headsassemble9415 ohk so "Sleeping at Last" is a band with nice music that I should check out. Welp, I couldn't watch the full video but I watched the movie last night and I just absolutely love the film and producers but also kinda hate them because they didn't let Birdy and Jia-Han be together 😭😭
@@mohinirai2768 well that’s life, unfair, and cruel.
@@web-headsassemble9415 Which is why those who were never born are fortunate. They don't have to suffer through heartbreak, mental pressure, physical pain, starvation and death etc.
It's hard to live in the world where you where not accept who you are
God accept what you are so accept others as god accept you
the name of the movie should be: your name UNGRAVED me
is the Mother also the same person with Shi Lei' Mom from Beloved in House?
literally JUST noticed this myself brooo
Yup,She's Shilei' mom,really like her character in that drama 😍
My eyes was teary while watching this BL movie by the way what is rhe title of this heart breaking story?
Your name engraved herein
@@waynear6856 thank you by the way this BL movie have season 2?
@@rodrigosamera6630 no its a movie
yes, also for me
Just finished watching it and i had to stop the vid after over a minute cuz it makes me then reading the comments made me even sadder, pheww Gabriela.... :(((
Just searching a good bl to watch then saw everyone recommending this, and now you're telling me this doesn't have a happy ending???? 😭😭
its ending is bitter sweet. Its sad but hopeful. I love to call it beautifully tragic.
YNEH isn't a bl, the director didn't intend to make it one. Just because there are two men kissing doesn't automatically make it boyslove.
@@tseebtshajyaj9678love it
Very good movie.
It is but also very sad.
Je dis toujours.. Il faut foutre la paix !
L’amour envers et contre tout .. parce-qu’il doit tout dépasser !
Il est le seul véritable médicament du monde. 💘
A cause de la bêtise il y a des souffrances qui jamais ne devraient exister.
La vraie misère, la pire de toutes, c’est de ne pas en avoir.
Les acteurs…? 2 Anges tombés du ciel ! ❤️💎👑 Magiiiiiik ! 💫⭐️💫✨✨✨
Please bring them back somehow. I don't care. Just bring them back.
(PS: yes I know its a true story but just .....atleast in a new series)
I want to watch this
buat mulyadi di bulukumba, sudah 16 tahun kita tidak berjumpa, aku masih selalu inget tentang kamu, semoga suatu saat kita dipertemukan lagi, foto2mu masih aku simpan
Just like this movie, many homosexual may be struggling for their ❤Love. My heart truly support them. Let's save homosexuality.
i wanna know whats happen in the end
Birdy leaves him but they reunites after 30 yrs
Why it happens....sad but real.. love mostly hurt people...
Name of the movie 🎥🥺
I'm jealous Taiwan got legalized gay marriage.
Couple face 😘❤️
Mau nyari yang bikin nenangin hati malah dapetnya bikin sakit hati🙂
What is the title of this movie?please
Filme lindo demais. mais triste 😢.
can anyone please explain me...what is that last phone call scene is about? why they both are crying
It's been a while since I watched the movie but if I'm remembering correctly, when Jia Han and Birdy were in school, they broke into a movie theater where Birdy says he wants to make movies and Jia Han tells him that he will write songs for them. Essentially Birdy was confessing to Jia Han by saying things like "Don't you think movies are better than real life?"
After graduation, the two boys are separated, Jia Han goes off to college but Birdy fails his college exam (based on the novel) and is basically grounded. Jia Jan calls Birdy and tells him that he's been writing a song (which was actually written years ago, when they were still high schoolers) and it's Jia Han's way of telling Birdy that he has always loved him, from the beginning and will continue to love him.
They're probably a million reasons why they're crying. I think it was a mix of regret, sorrow and yearning.
I have depression and anxiety, should i watch this?
The telephone scene remind me of cmbyn elio scene
I like the books version of the telephone scene better.
what is the title pleas
😢 can this be about someone in real life. This is so torching marking me feel sad😢😢😢😢 6:07
God Bless you ⚘ 🙏 ❤ 🙏
"What's the movie name and how can i watch this movie?"
"your name engraved herein"
Where do you guys watch it? Pls
Netflix or you can also watch it in dramacool or kissasian just google your name engraved herein you'll get the website
You can even search and download from telegram app. Enjoy watching. It's a masterpiece.
Just watching the edit I want to cry should I watch it on Netflix
Yes. I heard the Netflix version edited out like 10 or 15 mins of the original version from Asia so it made some parts hard to follow. If you can find the original version I would watch that.
@@minhtran2160 they had a version for Taipei film fest prior to the official release. Netflix's version is same as the official release. The producer/director had mentioned that the Taipei film fest version could be even more upsetting than the released version.
thank u
thank you!
Name please
Can anyone recommend me a movie like this but with a happy ending 😭
I didn't understand the ending can anyone explain?
Por fi quisiera verla donde puedo encontrarla
Netflix o cuevana
This was BL cultural reset
Im depressed😭😭
Somebody help where can I watch the full movie?
Full video of this and title?
Soooo...this doesn't have happy ending, right?
I'd describe it as incredibly bittersweet - it definitely isn't your typical happy ending. While their story is tragic, they do end up finding contentment of sorts, albeit at a high cost.
I hope this can help you. I tried my best to avoid spoiling anything. :)
It's bittersweet at best... But if you want to comfort yourself, just believe that they truly has their name engraved herein in each others heart...
yes and no
OMG so sad
What the name of this movie
Movie name
Name?