The Fear Behind All Fears and How to Overcome It
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
- In this video, author and depression survivor Douglas Bloch reveals the one fear behind all of our fears, and what we can do to overcome it. Once we do the thing we fear, the fear no longer exists.
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God, please always protect this man and help him to continue helping others.
Thank you for your prayer.
my only fear now is that anxiety will never pass and that i will be dependent on my parents forever, until they may pass.
I have the same fear when I was living with my parents. Fortunately, the universe just found an alternative, and I believe it will do the same for you.
@@DouglasBloch What alternative did the universe found for you? Did you say that somewhere else before?
Its been a year since u commented , so ignore if all has changed, but heres my take. Its not that i belief this but its more so i know this to so based on xp points, 1. bad news for u = u are somewhat right the anxiety will never pass / Good News = is u can ward it off , and it sounds to simple but it works and that - All in on Action cures Ol'Anxiety , keep moving on yr intention and so by taking immediate action , now does this mean u can never stop , hell no , because a designated deserved relax lol funny enough is an action , so it really all about zero hesitation and things like hesitation such as bad reasoned procrastination ( as procrastination can be a good thing when sussing and veting something u would like to take action , i could go on n on but i hope that this is a good enough lead for u to consider , a hint in the best direction a sort of north star to follow. Good Luck - yea nar thats sucks , i was like that , Again Good Luck.
Sean K. Totally understand. I dependent on my husband.
I understand your fear. It’s my fear too.
Each day ive been making it a habit to listen to creators that can help me heal my anxiety and depression, Douglas is one of them. And my goal is to make a breakthrough by the end of the year, whatever that may mean to myself and my inner being. I just want to be better, and do better mentally! I want inner peace.
I believe you can achieve it. You might want to watch my video called setting the intention to heal which talks about how to create a vision statement to state and attract your goals.
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🌹 Fear of never coming out of depression or inability to cope. Yes 😔 Helpful vidéo thanks 🙏
In the Seventies I had a social fear that effected every aspect of my life. I was too scared to leave my house as if the outside world was a jungle full of dangerous animals. But there were times I had toe leave my home. To see the therapist. ‘What’s there to be afraid of?’, the therapist asked me, ‘ a stranger passes you by. Nothing happens. Right? Nothing, except I’m dying inside. You described it properly. The fear of not being able to cope. Amazing. I’ve seen a lot of therapist and this is the first time somebody understands what that fear is all about. I’ve been waiting for this common sense conclusion. Why didn’t any expert understand that? All those years I felt so misunderstood by those people who sad: ‘ There’s nothing to be afraid of. You’re not gonna die.’ It’s the fear of not being able to cope. Exactly. Thank you.
You’re more than welcome. I think there is a book that you would get a lot of benefit from that talks about this idea. The name of the book is “feel the fear and do it anyway.“ The author is Susan Jeffers. It should be pretty easy to find on Amazon.
You're helping me.
Sally Voccola how are you today?
Can u help???
I hope this will help somebody. I am 62 I take my whole identity as being a rock and roll drummer. 6 years ago after a 20-year layout I started playing again. I was scared to death to get up on stage at these blues jams here in Dallas Texas out of fear that I would not be able to impress or perform adequately. In fact pretty much scared to death, however I knew that if I was to get to be able to get work as a drummer I was going to have to overcome this. So I just kept getting up Time After Time and now there is little anxiety. I always pray God please help me perform to the best of my ability and most of the time that is exactly what occurs. In some cases you can face your fear and after a while your fear will dissolve like Kool-Aid in a glass of water
I'm an autistic schizophrenic aged 56.
I've been a rock and blues singer since I was 19 but I haven't been in a band since 1990 because of isolation.
I view music as my social currency as it draws people to me, and at some point I'm going to have to make an effort to go back to the stage with a band.
Reading your comment was helpful to me.
Thank you.
This is exactly what I have been dealing with all my life. An overprotective father who kept saying 'be careful, don't do that, you'll hurt yourself', which made me fearful of everything and doubt myself all the time, it's so disempowering. It's been a huge struggle to learn to overcome that negative core belief, without therapy. Still working on it. Thank you for this wonderful advice 🙏
Keep up the good work. You can change those early beliefs.
@@DouglasBloch Yes, thank you so much 💙
I know exactly what you mean, it was the same for me as a child. I always doubt myself
I laughed. It is a clean joke, it can be appreciated by all ages. Thank you.
You are welcome. Hopefully I can think of some others.
Nancy Vega it’s a “clean” joke (janitor). Funny.
Thank you for these. Since subscribing, I've started watching your videos at night to ease anxiety. I love your delivery and the message in this one really resonates as fear is my biggest...fear!
You are welcome. I'm glad the video was helpful
Positive affirmations never worked for me. I am working on changing my core beliefs!
Good
Thank You I am 20 year old I also get suffered with anxiety and stress due to overthinking but your videos are really helpful I am feeling very happy that at this age of 20 I am learning to deal with such things so in future I will live a happy life❤️
It's a very relavent insight to my life how the message "I don't trust you, you're incompetent" comes from hearing one's mother continually saying " Watch out, be careful!" to you while growing up. Thank you for that most important insight!
what i don't understand is, for me, the biggest part of my depression is having no idea what to do for work and future after suffering a long illness, and there seems to be no help with this kind of thing anywhere in society, i feel like i know everything about my depression but i i cant get to a life then the pressure and isolation will just keep me in depression
You make an important point. Work is important for good mental health. You may want to start off with volunteer work. There is also something called Vocational Rehabilitation Services that exists in every state of the United States. Contact the branch in your state. There are also private vocational and career counselors. Here is a video I made on the importance of work for healing from depression. ruclips.net/video/LVfED9DBNRU/видео.html
The first step is just getting active at any type of work. Dont necessarily just go for that career, do any job to get you into a routine. A routine will help break the cycle and once you start to feel better you can start to search for more long term situations, What if is the worst thing you can ever think, throw those two words out the window. Getting a routine should be your first short term goal.
I can definitely relate.
Look into Peer Support....voluntary & paid..supporting others with their mental health...by those who truly understand
Please don't call it 'my' d.... , instead don't even name it. Our Creator is always in control, cry to Him and He will heal you! Shalom! I'm in my process as well, it's not easy but for Him nothing is impossible!
This is so true. Thank you Douglas
Thank you so much Douglas. I've always had a problem with people, Depression and low self esteem, not feeling good enough about myself. Of course, the bottom line is not being able to cope. And guess what? I now find myself doing a job where not only do I have to mix with people internally, but also have to deal with the public. I kept telling myself " I don't feel strong enough to keep doing this job" I worry that depression will get the better of me! My long term depression is due to dysfunctional parents. I can only recall one instance of my mother comforting me! It felt so good!
You can also tell yourself, "Even though I may have to stretch, I can and will succeed in this."
Dear sir, you speak enlightened words. A great help! Thanks!
Fear is the mother of all Ilness.100% true very well said.
Omg I can't believe it! How revelative this lecture was thank you so much I'm poor to have cbt but you helped me freely
I’m glad the video was helpful
Good direction, Thanks, Douglas
Thank you sir. Thank you so much - Martin from England.
Thank you so much for this video and all your videos! You have helped me more than you will ever know😊I will be getting both your and Dr Jeffers books. I will add..that painting in your office is the most relaxing I have ever seen❤
Thanks Douglas!! Great advice !! I love watching your videos!! They are a great help to me frighting Depression anxiety !! Cheers from Tasmania Australia!!😃👍
Thank you Douglas! This is my issue. I work in a competitive field in a competitive field where people get ahead by breaking other people down.
...dear Douglas, thank you again,... ❤️🙏🌹
Thank you, listening to your videos helped me so much during my anxiety attacks
Always a pleasure to watch your videos. It always felt like you knew what I’ve been wanting to say for the longest time and tell me how I’ll get through it. Thank you
You are welcome
Amazing video, brillant. Fear/anxiety is my biggest problem, as you said I grew up with a mother who always said "watch out, you can hurt yourself" and things like that. Your words help me feeling better this evening. I will check your video about negative core beliefs. Thanks a lot Douglas.
There is a real fear that is crippling and it literally prevents you from overcoming just by thinking it through or encouragement. It’s not the same as a regular fear people have
Thank you Douglas! You always have the right video and the right time for me!! It was so good to see you smiling and laughing at the end of this video. Again thanks for giving us the encouragement that we need!! Keep up the great job!!!
Thank you for another kind comment. I just wanted you to know that I am doing a live RUclips Q&A chat with my viewers this Wednesday, September 27, at 11 am pacific coast time. I hope you can tune in.
Oh my gosh, I love this video so much. My anxiety at work has skyrocketed because I've been chosen to work on a new product line that only has 3 other people on it plus an engineer. I'm so afraid that I won't be able to be as good as the others and that I'll disappoint my supervisor. But I know I can do it. I've done things like this before. I'm just terrified I think. Anyway, I love this video. And your right. Just do it anyway. I'm going to go to sleep now. I've been sick all weekend and need the rest.
Hope you feel better. I will be doing a live video Q&A chat on Wednesday, September 20 at 11am. Hope you can make it.
Douglas Bloch I'll be working but I'll watch it afterwards.
Thank you. Your channel makes all the difference
You’re welcome. I’m glad that it is helping
You’re videos are so helpful. Love the jokes and the information you provide is life saving. Thank you!!!!
You're welcome
Douglas...Your kind caring nature & friendly smile always manage to lift my spirits, which are all too often...rather desperate...Thank you for your tireless work....
I am touched by your kind words. I hope you can tune into my live video chat on this channel on Wednesday September 20 at 11 am pacific daylight time, Portland, Oregon
Wow, this is really worth thinking about. It makes sense. You have defined the fear behind my fears. Thanks!
Thanks. I'm glad that it spoke to you.
Thank you Doug
Douglas,, what awesome video, strength and fear are 2 things that I abide by. I never try to let go of my strength. As hard as it is, I try to never do it. It may be even though I am going to face a matter of difficulty,, perhaps of something from the past,, I somehow get myself a bit stronger by tackling it. At that time I get a great feeling of success. All you spoke of in this video,, id so on point. Thanks,, once again to you and all who make these video's possible..
Always helpful and inspiring. Thank u Mr Bloch
You are welcome.
Thank you! You’re a very courageous man! Congratulations on your many successes :)
You are welcome.
Thank you so much, you are a beautiful human being Dr Bloch. Your videos teach and help guide me through anxious bouts. I am very grateful for people like you.
You're welcome.
Fantastic, empowering insights once again. Thank you.
I’m glad that these videos are helpful to you
Really great point of view. Thanks, dc
Thanks Douglas
Please don't ever stop making these videos. 🙏
I’m glad they have been helpful to you. I have a 350 videos and want to make another 350
Whatever comes my way I'll handle it!!🙏🏼💝
Great, helpful, to the point...Thank you...so happy I found your videos
I’m glad they were helpful
LOVE the joke! You got a genuine chuckle from me, thank you! I believe that my anxiety leads to my depression, and also compounds my anxiety because I'm worried that my depression will be seen as anxiety or MORE depression than i really DO have, so this is a great video, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for it! :)
Thanks. Can you remind me of the joke?
@@DouglasBloch "What did the janitor say when he jumped out of the closet?" "SUPPLIES!!!" hehe!
Best video yet, thanks
Thanks.
I loved your joke! LOL! This video is excellent! Exactly what I am going through now. I really needed to hear this. I will remember that I can handle whatever comes my way. Feel the fear and do it anyway. I am going to do this.
Great. Let me know how facing the fear goes.
That joke made my morning! Thank you 😊
I'm glad you liked it.
Not sure if you really appreciate the joke or if you are being sarcastic.
i didn't get it, help?
@@ravirajyaguru5905 Can't tell if you're being sincere or just joking.
@@juniemom1 I'm late to respond, he yelled supplies ( things you keep in a closet) rather than surprise. :)
amazing video, very insightful
Janitor joke-supplies! You get me every time!! They are the best!!
That was a good one.
I love your talks, thank you!
You’re welcome.
Thank you Doug for your advice.
You are welcome
You can handle whatever comes your way
I think the fear beneath all my fears is suffering without end. Hell, in other words. Hell in this life or the next.
Such powerful helpful information....thank you!
You’re more than welcome
"Supplies". love it. TY
So do I
Very helpful insights
The problem with this logic is that not everybody can cope with these things. I went through a hellish crisis about 2 years ago that I am not over that triggeted my feelings of inferiority, abandonment and probably some other ones. So badly that I could barely stand living. I went to bed at a 10 and woke up at a 10. It was literally hell on earth. It gave me a lot more compasdion for extreme mental disorders and people who are hospitalised. I was almost one of them. I would have been if I had someobe to take care of my children. The one thing I never want to forgoet is how terrifying that experience was so it will never happen again.
Sorry that you had to go through that.
Very good and helpful
No matter what you facing, remember: ill handle it
Extraordinary!!
I would love to talk with you.
I always come back to your video's whenever I find myself slipping back into anxious states, your delivery of the advice is very reassuring.
Thanks. I'm glad the videos helped.
My pleasure, Douglas! :) I think it's because you've experienced these things yourself that makes it so effective coming from you, not to undermine the power of these techniques, mind.
I went through alot of anxiety just over 2 years. I ended up fearing a certain noise. I tried running away from it as much as I could but that just added to it. It was only when I learnt about the amygdala and how it affects your body with the physical symptoms of anxiety and to face fear straight on, that I was able to start my recovery. I think you need to understand anxiety first and have some knowledge about the amygdala before you can begin your recovery. A brilliant book I read was "rewire your anxious brain". It helped me so much. Love your videos. And thanks.
You are welcome. Actually I made a video based on that excellent book. My video is called “how to rewire your anxious brain.“ You might want to take a look at it.
ruclips.net/video/ESL2xeH5Ol4/видео.html
You're so wholesome
I loved this video! Thank you so much! ♥️
Thank you. I have some other good videos on anxiety
Douglas Bloch I’ll check them out!
Helpful. Thank you 🙏
You are welcome
love it!!!
Just look at fear as amazing, as you have such an amazing imagination. Your mind is a miracle. Now let's go✨ Your mind fully works!
Thank you . God bless you 🙏
You're welcome
Doug thank you
You’re welcome.
This video is so so so true! The fear of being unable to cope is my biggest fear. I deal with severe anxiety on and off in my life ... and I am working on beating it naturally. Thank you so much for your videos. This one especially was an incredible help.
Hi douglas, last month was terrible for me. But right now i am fantastic. Man, i get depressed and i am paranoid sometimes. People just have to hang in there. It will pass with time. My last episode lasted about one month. Don't know how i made it. But with GODS help i did. You have to go with the seconds where you feel great and know it's going to be like that all the time if you just hang in there.
you are really helping me....
I’m glad that my videos are helpful
awesome.
Than dough this was really helpful. It is something that I have unconciously been doing after suffering from anxiety n depression for a loooong time. I have been thinking that I have to try to get on n do everyday things as much as I can...I mean force myself to the point it is comfortable n not to the point it's too much pressure n feel more depressed afterwards. I have also decided that I am not going to get upset by what people think n what people say. If they've got a problem with me it's THEIR problem. This has been over a long time of thinking about things n what I can do to help myself. It didn't happen over nite but did happen eventually. I hope my comments help someone.
i love the jokes, and i'm preparing the questions already, a live QA could help me a lot right now
Great. I hope to hear your questions.
live with the confidence that you make the difference...
Love this
Very true!
I know the book by Susan Jeffers, I have read it and I have got it. A great book!
Aaw Mr. Douglas, i missed your videos, and i love this new joke ! it really lightens the mood :)
Thanks. What was the joke?
what did the janitor say when he jumped out of the closet? Supplies!!
I like that one also
You are terrific. You speak cool stuff. When did you speak at Unity of Portland because I often attend that church.
I spoke there in the 1980's and 1990's
Thanks....Andrea from germany🏝🎁🌻
Nice to hear from you
Mine is fear of death and what’s next.
I believe we have a soul/spirit/frequency that lives on, but that not everyone has a good time after they leave this body. I’ve done much research on this topic and no, I’m not religious.
This fear continues far into the future and the years of this lifetime do not even compare to the years of distant future time where my anxiety takes me.
The thought that arises when your feeling anxiety coming on has the same “value” as the thought of a banana, both thoughts come from the same place, they randomly pop up in your head which is completely normal and how all thoughts operate. Now, one might make you a little hungry( your preconceived reaction to the thought of a banana) yet the other might paralyze you with fear, but as I said, the thoughts come from the same place, they start of with the same “value” which is none, they have no value, it’s your reaction to this valueless thought that starts the cycle of anxiety. Lastly, do bananas make you anxious? The answer is probably no. I promise you that the thought of a banana and the thought of anxiety coming on have the exact same initial value and come from the exact same place. Having this explained to me had a significant impact on the way that I thought about... thoughts. Their random and not yours, it’s not your fault for being tricked by them as I was for so long. Sit and comprehend this message, really think about it.
Fear of being alone, that's a big one. All my direct family have passed away-Mom, Dad, brother, sister. There is only me and my wife and we have few friends or close relatives on her side. We're both over 65 and the current pandemic has me anxious I'll lose her. I'm not afraid of dying myself, if it happens it happens. But living alone with nobody who has shared important moments in your life-that would not be worth living in my view. Every day would be an ordeal of loneliness. A scary thought.
I did lose my husband and life is not worth living
@@joannachristian6905 Sorry to hear that, hope you can find peace.
@@joannachristian6905 I am so sorry sending love and huge hugs friend I hope you are ok.
Think about this... Perception is projection. Fear is ONLY a word! Logically and spirituality we all know this. I agree with the centiments spoken in this video. Alow any fear in, then just observe it, don't judge it as if you were an outsider or a third party onlooker. The more you observe it the less of a problem it becomes. I would also suggest seeing a good NLP practitioner who can help You to rewire your brain to a much more positive outlook. For all those reading this... You all subconsciously understand Fear is ONLY a word and yes we do all have that choice of being happy, which do You choose? Love to all 😊
Thanks Anthony. NLP is an awesome therapy
In the middle of my tears that joke made me laugh lol
I'm glad brought you some humor. I will be doing a live video chat on Wednesday, September 27 at 11 am Pacific Coast time, if you want to tune in.
Douglas Bloch thank you, I will try to tune in.
I hope you’ve recovered Whitney
@@ThatsTheWun thanks so much for caring. Things have gotten better :)
@@whitneyparsons3009 how come? What happened?
I’m suffering from anxiety and panic attacks almost everyday . I have paranoia from medications. Doctors gave me medications for it, I hate the side effect If it I take it for 2 days and stop. I’m so tired of this feeling, heart pounding all the time , my head is heavy, it’s painful to take a deep breath sometimes. I just want to lay down or do nothing all day. Please help me GOD
There is a medication called Seroquel that you can ask your doctor about. It can reduce anxiety. Have you tried Klonopin? Also, cold water can help reduce anxiety. If you email me douglasbloch@gmail.com I will send you a handout about that. Here s an article that will help.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inner-source/201407/cold-splash-hydrotherapy-depression-and-anxiety
Good suggestions
Sheraz...I don't have the expertise to give you advice, but I will say a prayer for you.
As an Honorable discharged Marine, 1982-1986, WE were trained to FEAR NOTHING! Well, fear of FAILING my DOT PHYSICAL to keep driving a tractor-trailer became REAL. How? Triple-digit blood pressure! 150/111. Normal BP is 120/80. Well, I failed! The EKG test on my heart is STRONG! MRI with dye, whole vein body system is clear! Therefore, NO heart problems and no chance of stroke which means my body is running well. Today! I passed my driver's physical and the subconscious ANXIETY was gone long enough to get my Blood pressure near 120/80 and passed. I also let the doctor know that I suffered from bipolar depression which was diagnosed in 1993. Breathing exercises work and letting the Doctor know in advance relieves the anxiety. I am back on the road!
I gave credit or "threw Douglas Broch under the bus!" Therefore, I did not "appear" to be self-diagnosed!" On the other hand, I did pass and can cope with Anxiety.
On Douglas Broch "5 things NOT TO DO with Anxiety," my anxiety overrode the "don't do anything rash." Change jobs! I cleaned out my semi and turned in my keys to my rig. Than! Applied to Amazon to deliver packages which is not CDL required job. Marines call this Improvise and overcome! This rash act did not help my anxiety, but did make sure my income keeps coming in! "employment." Well, today, my stuff is back in my rig and I withdrew my application from Amazon. Today I can haul 80,000 lbs of Amazon packages instead of 10,000 lbs. (lol)
Keep up the good work.
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"Supplies" - that was cute.
oh no! I didn't want to but I laughed. Also great video.
It is a cute joke.
Have you suffered through benzo wd? The thought that once you do a fear it goes away. That is not the case with benzo wd. It is a hell like no other.
It is absolutely hell on earth. I don't care who you are, no one can handle that kind of torture and it is TORTURE.
😂 Nice opening joke Doug. I can't make your live stream (I'm in Australia - big time zone difference) but look forward to watching the recording later. Have a great day! 😊
Thanks. Let me know what you think of the live chat.
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I love him. A great teacher.
I feel that death is the root of all fears. I have constant anxiety knowing that it is inevitable that I'm going to lose everyone and die. It keeps me stuck in derealization. I have so many existential obsessions and I can't handle the thought that we just get old, fall apart, die and there is no point or afterlife. I don't know if I can get better and if so, how
0eath is the ultimate loss. Burt because we have limited tome on earth, it makes us prioritize what is important. Perhaps yoiu can talk with a counselor or your mimster/rabbi/priest/spiritual advisor, etc. abut this fear.
The feeling is mutual. Im still strugling in this stupid fear that sometimes i feel..like what i commented a while ago . .watch war movies see how the bravery of a soldiers. In opinion and in this moment. Were no different from them ..they dont afraid to die. I think this is the right time that we have to barrow theyre bravery
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They say anxiety disorder comes from "fight or flight". But once I had true fight or flight, and it was not the same as anxiety disorder. A man that my family knew took me aside and the instant I caught on that he was intending to rape me, fight or flight kicked in big time. My home was 3 miles away. I ran 🏃 there very fast. He was morbidly obese, so there was no way he could keep up with me. At one point during the run, I tripped and fell and scraped both of my forearms. I didn't even notice it until I got home and saw blood dripping from my arms. The next day, I had the same whiplash/neck pain that you get after a car accident. I was srsly going that fast. Anxiety disorder is very different. Fight or flight response requires you to act immediately. Anxiety disorder keeps you from acting at all.
They are similar in that the nervous system gets revved and your heart rate and respiration increase. If you feel paralyzed with anxiety, go outside and run around the block or at least walk fast. That will help to dissipate the agitating chemicals in your brain.
Thats,. Funny joke, thanks for the another great video