Colossians, Class 22

In class 22, we begin with verse 3:18. This verse begins a new section extending through chapter 4, verse 1. Here, Paul gives specific, practical instructions for those living in a Christian home.
First, Paul addresses Christian wives. Much controversy has surrounded the understanding of the word "submit." This is from the Greek term hypotassesthe, which has slightly different meanings depending on whether it is used in a military or non-military sense. When used in the military, this word means to arrange forces under the guidance of a leader. Outside warfare, the word means a voluntary attitude of cooperating, assuming responsibility, and obedience. In the Bible, wives are not called to be inferior minions of their husbands; rather, they are to be cooperative helpers. Husbands are likewise given spiritual obligations towards their wives. This includes demonstrating Christ's selfless, sacrificial love and concern for the church (Ephesians 5:25).
This type of commitment from a wife towards her husband is considered 'fitting' to God. In other words, it is appropriate for a Christian woman to live in a caring relationship with her husband, allowing him to lead the family. The husband's role as a leader in the family is not about dominance but responsibility and empowerment. Sadly, many examples of Christian men have not led their families well. However, in the context of how God intends the family to operate, the ‘fitting' picture is that of a godly husband who loves his wife and is gentle with her (Colossians 3:19). She, in turn, offers similar kindness to him and supports her husband's role as the leader of the family.