This video was the knock on the head I needed. As someone who was extremely shy as a kid, I have made a lot of progress through forcing myself to socialize over the past 4 or 5 years as an adult. However I’ve always noticed that there was still a part of me that was holding myself back from genuinely and fully interacting with the world around me, but I couldn’t identify exactly why I was doing this to myself. You guys just showed me exactly what I have been doing. It’s like someone held up a mirror to me. I have fetishized the idea of being the sort of spacey introvert, telling myself that that’s “just who I am”. Instinctually I knew that was wrong of course. Although I have made a lot of progress coming out of my shell, me allowing myself to disappear into my own head instead of instinctually interacting with the world has caused me to miss out on many opportunities. I also realize now that rather than listening to my instincts I have been jumping from “daddy to daddy (lol)” as was mentioned in the video, and sort of using that as a false grounding. I’ve known I’ve been doing it but didn’t fully understand what I was doing until hearing this. It feels like I found your video at exactly the right moment. Thank you, seriously.
28:14 I remember this part and what James said stuck with me. I can't even imagine how bad my life would have been if I hadn't found JTLB and IPSA. So much has changed in the past year. Almost all psychosomatic issues that I had are gone. 15 years of allergies, 6 years of IBS, 6 years of not being able to breathe properly and fatigue, inability to gain weight. Anxiety, also gone and I'm off the medication for quite some time now. All that gone in about 7 months of hard work through PSA model. I know that Steve, Pauline and James didn't want to interfere much with my development and for that I'm grateful, because I can claim those victories. Of course none of that would be possible if I wasn't introduced to the model and if they didn't encourage me to go through it. I've always came across as cold and I did internalize that idea. It became a big part of my self-concept. Recently I admitted to myself (which was hard) that as a child I was a very warm person. And because it was unwanted in the familial system, I had to suppress it. This is the main reason why I had "rage issues". I've noticed a pattern that every time I'd suppress my positive relating, rage would become overamped. I would become "cold". Recently, I've started overamping my positive relating and by doing this I became more conscious of my 'Shadow' contents. I can clearly see the division in myself and the reason for it. I'm pretty sure this is the right way to go and if I keep this up, I'll resolve this last, main issue that was ruining my life and my relationship to the world. Overamping my positive relating is incredibly uncomfortable but if I'd stay in the comfort zone, I would never grow. My negative complex does kick back and every time it seems like it's kicking harder but I mustn't falter. The interesting thing is that people started reacting to my positive relating on a deep instinctive level. Same with the dogs that I own. They are much more cheerful and playful. It's incredible how this stuff works. I can't express how grateful I am to be a part of this. And I can't express how grateful I am to have met these three. I feel that the best way to repay them is to be myself. Thank you Steve, Pauline and James! 🙏
When you three spoke on pathological introversion, the egoism that comes from that, and a creative idealism it felt as if you were perfectly describing me. Of course you already knew that. Thank you.
Hi again, @gfepsh, thanks for your comment, I would say howrver, that your insight contradicts any notion of patholgical introversion, egoism and creative idealism: it takes a firmly placed, Ego-ground, to discriminate a point from which to observe, another part of ourselves; and one which you have so carefully distilled and observed. Respect & Kindest Regards, Steve & Pauline
I’ve been stuck for a long time on the issue of my Dad, and while being no stranger to this channel or to jungs ideas and all of that, this video in particular, and the topic of this video, couldnt have been more on time for me. By watching this one, I could almost feel a tension point untangle in my brain as I thought about what you were saying and putting that to the context of my own life. Thank you so so much for sharing
You three are the reason I check my subscriptions in the morning. Wonderful insights and explorations of what should be intuitive but sadly is not. Thank you for all you do. :)
I don't know if I've gotten the confirmation in my mind or that I've gotten the rite of passage from my father but when I call my dad he always expresses how proud he is of me with what I've accomplished so far. When I moved up to my current state (USA) my father tagged along with my road trip so naturally he caught a flight home where he and I had one last moment. He hugged me (firs time he ever touched me since i was a child) and said he loved me which I've never heard him say. I kept my cool but as soon as he turned his back and I turned mine I could barely hold back my tears until I got outside to the parking lot. I was crying the whole 3 hour ride back to my new town. As I said I think this was my torch moment or a psychological death. Honestly not sure because I didn't expect those emotions to rise up in that moment and for me to cry. Very insightful as always, I think I'll know for sure when I go home and visit the old man and the family again.
Thanks edr3008, people seem to have believed that the grail was internal when all along it’s an intermediary between inner and outer and conveys the meaning of engagement with outer life to the wasteland of a withdrawn soul. Every instinct is directed outward, this is a neuroscience truth and a psychological one too. The King and the land being ‘One’ shows how we are continuous with our environment, we have no context without it. Kindest Regards, Steve🙏
I really appreciate this channel. Apart from being very interesting, the things you are talking about (particularly in this video) are very much what I need to hear. So thank you.
I’ve been having intense recurring anima projections recently and it makes a lot of sense now after doing some reading, working with a therapist, and watching this video. I had a very weak father who couldn’t confirm me and a very wonderful and involved mother. As a result, I never really “became a man.” Because of the pandemic I’ve been working from home, becoming more and more isolated. Compound that with the fact that I’m a writer - it’s my profession to create fantasy. Add all that together and what do you get: strange fantasies about my one true love, a goddess who I’m supposed to be with or my whole life is a lie and not worth living. No peer group, no father, strong mother, social isolation = neurosis. Working on this has not been easy and I’m still in the process of getting out of this, but it’s great to hear that I’m not insane, just overly attached to my mother and resentful of my virtually absent Homer Simpson of a dad. Thank you for the video
Hi @Jobe_Island, thanks for your support for the channel, I'd encourage you to watch some of the latest JTLB videos. You could also consider joining our Discord Server, which is a dedicated community of peers, learning about depth psychology. I post there daily, and there are thousands of my posts available to read.There's a lot in the newer videos that would braoden out the pespectives in this one. Respect to You and for Your Journey, Kindest regards, Steve
Damn! i just realised Steve reminds me of Neil Buchanan from art attack, someone who was an early farther figure and a great inspiration for me. THATS WHY i find his voice so comforting!
I like how Steve always advises us not to get carried away by the the imagery of archetypes. In my experience, YES you have to get in touch with your darker/scarier emotions, but that is only in order to be able to eventually let them go without the need to resist or repress them.
Wow guys. This video is SUCH a redpill for myself. Thank you so much for this. I feel like you guys are speaking directly to me. I pray that your content reaches more and more people because it is SO needed. Now more than ever.
This discussion is so necessary for many people. When you spend your life jumping from father figure to father figure it becomes this very archetypal fantasy world where you default in trying to interface with the world through someone else's perspective or even movement instead of listening and developing your own. You can see this in culture with the attachment to subcultures or peer groups or figureheads. Its so damaging especially for girls in particular because it just amplifies this easily misguided pathway to fall into pitfalls of thinking and searching for a mate that fulfills the father role. The problem comes is as an adult, no one wants to be infantilized or they think they do but its damaging to the personal psychology. What makes me curious with the DDLG community that has become prevalent into seeping into mainstream culture if there is a collective disturbance within young girls having an inadequate interface through their fathers or father roles, and then the role falls onto their sexual partners as way of confirmation. And within cases as I've seen it play out, the female partners often come to despise their male partners because the confirmation is not adequate, and the male partners generally from consensus, go along with fulfilling that role reluctantly.
I think you see the same Arthurian motif in the Lion King Movie; father dies, son flees, the land goes to shit, and once Simba challenges Scar and lives. life is renewed and so is he.
John Boorman was mentioned. It took me back to my memories and one of his films, The Emerald Forest. In that story the son is taken by the instinctual in a way I've seen nowhere else.
There is a great movie fron the 1990s called Smoke Signals. Its about a native american young man learning how to forgive his father . Great poem in the end. The last line of the poem"if we forgive our father, what is left?" Powerful movie,funny as well.
I had 2 fathers. Biological loved me when he was around but was dealing with his addictions and demons, stepfather was just young and distant..leaned towards older friends for guidance...its taken me years to work through abandonment issues.
Most of your videos go over my head (I still listen though, usually when I'm washing up lol) but this one had me gripped as is something that has affected me a great deal (was unwanted by my dad, jeez that did some damage) I've come so far though and the confidence I have gained in myself and knowing I am a very loving, capable and dependable parent myself has closed the gap where my near constant anxiety was being bred. It's like I have a new soul and I no longer feel dirty or ashamed and well... there's no words. It's more valuable than any silver or gold and I'm very humbled and blessed to bare witness to the these healing processes we are capable of. 5 years ago I was suffering psychosis on a hospital ward and here I am today raising my children, (and other people's for a living!) Running a home , taking care of myself and very happy. (It does take consistent hard work, and courage but so worth it)
This was the video I needed, thank you. I think my father did the best he knew how to do, but it sounds like my family line has a history spanning at least the last few generations of fathers abusing their sons. My father spared me the worst of the physical abuse he went through in his childhood but not the emotional abuse. Think he just never had good males to model himself after for that role. Really hope I'll get the chance to give it another go and be the one to get it right, but first I'll have to find a woman to spend my life with, and that's been a mountain of a challenge to overcome so far.
Hi @flynnoflenniken7402, thank yo uso very muh for sharing your journey and the consolidation of your insights and learning. They'll be of great value to our channel viewers. You're the kind of man, and father, the future needs. Blessings, Steve & Pauline
The fidelity to the system in which the men of my family are is very strong. And in my process of stepping out of it, as a sensitive guy, I find that very difficult to look at my father and watch him advance in life without living, i have a huge sensation of pity towards him, and the spontaneous reaction to that is fidelity almost like "don't worry i will not leave you alone in this boredom" and this is a huge burden that defenetly slows me down
Thank you guys for this one, really like the emphasis that you unfold by living and testing yourself in the world and not in your own head. I think that's super important for people who pride themselves on their intellectual ability to understand it's just one aspect of life. We are BIOLOGY and working with patients who have had a traumatic brain injury will confirm it. I like the idea that archetypes are in the genome.
The critique of the introverted-intuitive, "mountain man" ideals are a tough, but necessary pill to swallow. Thank you for the continual grounding that is provided by this channel! It does seem that without a connection to the instincts, the outer world can appear as "grey", which might drive someone inwardly to retrieve that felt sense of "colour" through dreams, fantasies and imagination. The fear of becoming "divorced from reality" is even initially apparent as you get pulled deeper into this type of thinking, propeled by a figure like Jung. The part about this introverted ego-fantasy substituting for outer life reminds me of what Jung speaks of in the beginning of Symbols of Transformation. I think he writes about how a missed experience may be "juggled out of existence" and replaced with a dream in an attempt to compensate. My question is, why should the libido fiercely turn inwards at all? Is it the psyche's attempt to reconnect with instincts? Seems counter-productive to survival in most contexts.
Hi again Jacob Mattern. Many thanks for your kind words. Too much inversion if libido is generally pathological as it becomes schizoid. There’s also a prejudice that introversion is correlated with neurosis in many personality tests. Extroversion had its own characteristic neuroses but the bias culturally is mainly in favour of extroversion. As an evolutionary adaptation, introversion is a luxury until such times that it can be positively accommodated by a tribe or group. Our species enlarged cortex can process ‘virtual’ scenarios and produce imaginative solutions which can be helpful for survival if such things are utilised creatively. It’s a balancing act, and extroversion when taken to extremes is just as likely to produce problems through over adaptation (hysteria for example) to the social environment or risk taking beyond safety in the wider ecology. The balance described above is probably enough to produce a bandwidth of viable introversion in a population. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
@@JungToLiveBy Appreciate the reply Steve. Gives good perspective as to why introversion would arise as a trait or behaviour. I liked the maxim of introversion "in service of the tribe". Take care!
02:05 quite an important piece of advice, especially in an aforetitled sense, including toxicity from him and additional uncomfortable feeling with constant exposure. Sometimes I experience those feelings, like he's draining my energy when he tries to make a call. However, he's toxic in a sense, which described in this video. I think also it is important to make clear, that not everyone is toxic or something, just not to besmirch all the whole manhood. Also, in some sense addictions can be just a plain reason why someone tends to be in an infantile stage, fearing to come to the next stage of development. And, as you've said in your video, "no connection to oneself", because it is obviously important. Drug addictions are just an urge to run away from those feelings, numb pain, etc, etc. However, the same metaphor comes into place, "to be dependent on something". The same issues. 29:14 "you have evolved... you're far more than your father". This quote is brilliant. Especially when one has come through the hell. Thanks for your vids! I like both to listen to the material and the thoughts that come to my mind during listening. I find it is in handy in a two-side manner, not just only gaining important information throughout the listening, but also with additional insights coming to my mind.
Hey man, just wanna say thank you for putting these videos together with everyone you speak to. I remember when you were chatting with the uberboyo Irish guy. Those were great too. Keep up the great work
I had a dream last night. The nice chap I know at the Cambridge Jungian Circle , which I go to, was taking me to Chester, with a woman I was with and we were going on a Ferry.....much more happened, but I had a feeling and Googled Steve and Pauline.....you're not far from there !! Never been to Chester in my life or thought about it. All 3 of you are brilliant and real. Thank you for your content.
@@JungToLiveBy Wow! I will find out how to DM you on here later and leave my email, if you would like to find out what that could possibly be. I would love to hear more of that creative connection with a water crossing. But don't feel obliged. I understand the amount of text you must have to sift through. I would not want to add to the 'fux sake' heap. lol. Thank you for replying though.
A personal question for Steve: I’ve not read any of your books yet, but I noticed you wrote one called “Remote Viewing”. I assume you don’t really believe in it, but I personally found Carl Jung in a roundabout way when I was studying Robert Monroe and his book “Journey’s Outside of the Body”. I know I probably sound ludicrous but uhm... do you think there’s any weight AT ALL to the claims for astral projection/remote viewing?
Hi IrelevantLives4U,, many thanks, I actually apprenticed with Pauline to a very powerful psychic for five years and have been a lifelong experiencer and experimenter of ‘astral travel’. My influences included Sylvan Muldoon and Hereward Carrington. Kindest Regards and Blessings, Steve 🙏.
Will confirm also. Possible to train yourself to induce etheric projections or OBEs, have done it. Never tried for remote viewing in the strictest sense, suppose it's just a highly stabilised or refined etheric projection. I sense that would be more difficult to achieve but no reason to believe it's not possible. When it comes to astral projection it's hard to judge the true definition of the term as it has blurred boundaries for me. Etheric projection can merge into astral projection for example, or astral phenomenon can begin bleeding into an etheric projection. You can sort of run out of "coherency juice" sometimes and it all just fades into a dream state; cue wake up dribbling an hour later. Exercise basic caution though. Was deep-diving in late teens and early twenties, the experiences were largely positive but got some bio-electrical kickback a few times. The results of such kickback can be intense. Struggling with some delightful mixture of unstable childhood, traumas, follow-on complexes, extended solitudes and marijuana abuse? Not the optimal setup. If your house is in order though, no need for fear. I've assumed you were planning to act on your curiosity. Don't have to of course; much of this stuff can be interesting to experience but sort of a time sink also. Have hours of dreaming every week to explore already, lucidity there can be a good jump-off point for all-sorts. Whatever occurs, still gonna be sitting on the plop throne the next day, thinking over that list of tasks marked urgent. Today's video really was spot-on in that regard.
Some great points to mull over as always. Personally, I've been through so many ideologies that it's somewhat difficult for me to put into words what obtaining the "Grail" means to me. From ironic communism, through new age woo, to Jordan Peterson's lobster machinations, I feel that there's something I've been seeking. I used to think that "whatever works for me" was the best option, but I've found something of value in Jung, primarily the cultivation of a healthy relating function. Steve touched on instincts being universal, but I was wondering does the Anima/Animus have an instinctual element that goes deeper than surface level relating? I think in my own studies I've encountered at part of the Anima that has something to do with how to respond to the world instinctually and emotionally, bypassing the thoughts and rationality of the conscious mind. It's hard to put into words, but it's like being hit by a freight train of meaningful connection to the world, especially when I encounter art or literature that moves me.
Hi again Banal Vulgarian, yes, they do certainly have an instinctual element that goes deeper. How we define 'deep' is key, of course, butr they certainly ressonante with all biological (genomic) imperatives. Relating, is even in a sense understood by Plato, 'divine' - as actualized at the level of his theory of Forms. This can be actualized through meaningful relationships of many kinds. The sense of absolute completeness of purpose that comes with a satisfied instinct, is primary emotional consciousness - this level of understanding has come from the work of Prof. Jaak Panksepp and Prof. Mark Solms in Affective Neuroscoience and Neuropsychoanalysis. Benneath the level of the brain, and its structures and pathways, is the genome itself. Beyond that, if anything, is a matter of perception..... My Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve.
This 34:51 video, which I enjoyed every second of, was exactly what I needed to come across after a needless spree of endless instrospection, thank you
Hi again Nathan, yes, as collective representational motifs, they act as cultural systems of transmission and exemplary stories. They’re also prototypes for synthesising a personal myth out from a collective one. We’ll be discussing this soon in a podcast on Alexander The Great. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
I have to write this, and hope to get a reply. When trying to integrate the contents of the shadow, you must, in a way, analyse yourself, think about why you do and feel certain things, and isn't that, in a way, becoming willingly engulfed in your thoughts and isolating yourself from the outside world, hence participating in an introverted action? And in the video, if I am not mistaking, you are saying that it is dangerous to become too introverted. I am trying to orient and develop myself and these contradictions in my thoughts are making me anxious and it feels like a have trust issues towards my own thoughts, in a way, I feel very lost.
Hi Cro Jokes, reading the right books is the hardest task as there’s so much information out there. We try to give a wide range of both theory and practical guidance based on over 40 years each of our clinical work. Thanks for your comment and support for our work, we hope you keep watching, and that what we offer will be of some use on your personal journey. Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏,
@@crojokes Many thanks, the 'based' way to approach this, which is far more real than introverted pre-occupations, is a copied posyt from our Discord server - minus the identiies of the perspons it was addressed to: "Tackling relating first, which sorts out all Shadow dynamics, is congruent with the intentionality of instinct and therefore the genome (test this against Panksepp and Solms). Indulgence, through therapists suggestion, that Shadow work must be first, overly extends the process, artificially and is contra naturam to the self regulation of the individual,including psycho-socially, out in the world. The tendency of the human organism is towards optimal, healthy adaptation. Running contrary to that by therapists, always creates artificial neuroses Of course look at the so-called Shadow but, outside of the context of relating, internally or psychosocially, it has no meaning at all, and someone who relates properly will naturally regulate their Shadow. Look at those who Shadow-Pedal doom, gloom, misery and despair, and what immediately stands out is that they are very poor at relating. When they push others to dwell in darkness, it’s because they have poor relational skills and a lack of joy in their life - no matter how wealthy or otherwise they may be, or how much a lauded Professor of psychology, or, a humble, and simple-living janitor. Relating is the key, relate properly, and the Shadow will sort itself out". Kindest Regards, Steve
@Jung To Live By I have a very short question on what you guy think about shame and guilt? After, a bunch of investigate I learned that shame has been a main variable for my short-coming through my life. I was wondering what could you recommend for practical ways to heal it?
Hi M S, for a theoretical overview of what instincts are I’d recommend the work of Affective Neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp and Neuropsychoanalyst Mark Solms. In practice, action in the world towards your optimal adaptation of your lifespan development, mediated through relating and positive affect (emotion). Kindest Regards, Steve. 🙏
So how do you pull those instincts out? You said not to pull a Nietzche and stay alone, but if you haven't passed the father stage... Then what do you do? (if you aren't ready yet for social stage) I tend to get attached to friends.
Personally, I'd go further and say that for many people, philosophy is a contraindication, because of this tendency to abstraction and inversion, leading to circular, ruminant, and closed thinking - plus a lack of engagement with life. Not in all cases, far from it, but, it can offer this, as a neurotic outcome, just as reading medical books can lead to hypochondriasis and reading Depth Psychology can likewise lead to imaginal illnesses or auto-suggestion induced neurosis. Philosophy is not immune to such effects, but the peculiar nature of it as a discipline, has specific entrapments. These tend to be a kind of locked-in cognitive syndrome, self-justifying alibis for not living with full engagement. You can by-pass the father stage and compensate for it in social relationships, but you have to work at doing this.
Just on the importance of being in a peer group, would I be right in saying that this phenomenon of the "lone wolf" is a dangerous one for young men? So often these days you see young men who have not been able to form a peer group fall into a state of thinking that says "I don't need other people, I'm a lone wolf", which is an idea that is somewhat glorified. Can I also ask, why might someone who hasn't been confirmed by the father, have an aversion to forming a peer group? For me, I'm quite socially anxious and in my experience have been disenfranchised by the outer world that I have no interest in it and if I'm honest, I fear it. I know that this is harmful though. As I'm 20 now, I feel the urge to be confirmed in a peer group but don't know how to start. As always, I sincerely appreciate the work that the three of you have done and continue to do and hope this message finds you well.
Hi John Doran, its difficult to be prescriptive in a response that concerns a whole-situation, for a developing human being, but, its important to rememeber that we can carry-over anticpations from past 'conformations' into the next phase of life. It's part of the natural progression of our development. Your urge to fond your peer group, is natural, and its intention is healing. If you can leave the perhaps disappointme3nt from the past behind, your instincts will align, and you'll find your peers. Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve.
What is the dynamic, when a person never had a father, a mother and a peer group? For example, a person, who has been left alone and was never been able to find a peer group. You mention the peer group as being the last option. But what if that option is not available?
A very judgmental voice told me that I suck in a bunch of ways in a insulting way and that it will torment me for the rest of my life, would it ever allow me to get confirmation anywhere else?
Hi Gregory O’Shea, no, it’s the end of an original track called ‘The Hibernians’ about a war and of Irish warriors who raid the west coast of Roman Britain in the early 5th century - created for a movie project. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
Cheers, A man of no reputation. In that he’s not alone, the vast majority of psychotherapy schools are in the same psycho-reductive state, Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
James just needs a 'the What' mug now
A WTF one maybe.... 😇
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This video was the knock on the head I needed. As someone who was extremely shy as a kid, I have made a lot of progress through forcing myself to socialize over the past 4 or 5 years as an adult. However I’ve always noticed that there was still a part of me that was holding myself back from genuinely and fully interacting with the world around me, but I couldn’t identify exactly why I was doing this to myself. You guys just showed me exactly what I have been doing. It’s like someone held up a mirror to me. I have fetishized the idea of being the sort of spacey introvert, telling myself that that’s “just who I am”. Instinctually I knew that was wrong of course. Although I have made a lot of progress coming out of my shell, me allowing myself to disappear into my own head instead of instinctually interacting with the world has caused me to miss out on many opportunities. I also realize now that rather than listening to my instincts I have been jumping from “daddy to daddy (lol)” as was mentioned in the video, and sort of using that as a false grounding. I’ve known I’ve been doing it but didn’t fully understand what I was doing until hearing this.
It feels like I found your video at exactly the right moment.
Thank you, seriously.
Hi Peter Cheeseberg, your insights are hard earned, Respect to You and for Your Journey, Kindest Regards, Steve & Pauline🙏🙏
28:14 I remember this part and what James said stuck with me. I can't even imagine how bad my life would have been if I hadn't found JTLB and IPSA. So much has changed in the past year.
Almost all psychosomatic issues that I had are gone. 15 years of allergies, 6 years of IBS, 6 years of not being able to breathe properly and fatigue, inability to gain weight. Anxiety, also gone and I'm off the medication for quite some time now. All that gone in about 7 months of hard work through PSA model. I know that Steve, Pauline and James didn't want to interfere much with my development and for that I'm grateful, because I can claim those victories. Of course none of that would be possible if I wasn't introduced to the model and if they didn't encourage me to go through it.
I've always came across as cold and I did internalize that idea. It became a big part of my self-concept. Recently I admitted to myself (which was hard) that as a child I was a very warm person. And because it was unwanted in the familial system, I had to suppress it. This is the main reason why I had "rage issues". I've noticed a pattern that every time I'd suppress my positive relating, rage would become overamped. I would become "cold". Recently, I've started overamping my positive relating and by doing this I became more conscious of my 'Shadow' contents. I can clearly see the division in myself and the reason for it. I'm pretty sure this is the right way to go and if I keep this up, I'll resolve this last, main issue that was ruining my life and my relationship to the world. Overamping my positive relating is incredibly uncomfortable but if I'd stay in the comfort zone, I would never grow. My negative complex does kick back and every time it seems like it's kicking harder but I mustn't falter.
The interesting thing is that people started reacting to my positive relating on a deep instinctive level. Same with the dogs that I own. They are much more cheerful and playful. It's incredible how this stuff works.
I can't express how grateful I am to be a part of this. And I can't express how grateful I am to have met these three. I feel that the best way to repay them is to be myself. Thank you Steve, Pauline and James! 🙏
You’ve earned your Spurs 🙏 Steve🏛
@@JungToLiveBy Thank you! That metaphor resonated deeply. 🙏
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Blessings Owen, huge thanks for your support, Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏
When you three spoke on pathological introversion, the egoism that comes from that, and a creative idealism it felt as if you were perfectly describing me. Of course you already knew that. Thank you.
Hi again, @gfepsh, thanks for your comment, I would say howrver, that your insight contradicts any notion of patholgical introversion, egoism and creative idealism: it takes a firmly placed, Ego-ground, to discriminate a point from which to observe, another part of ourselves; and one which you have so carefully distilled and observed. Respect & Kindest Regards, Steve & Pauline
@@JungToLiveBy You always know just what to say haha, thank you both.
I’ve been stuck for a long time on the issue of my Dad, and while being no stranger to this channel or to jungs ideas and all of that, this video in particular, and the topic of this video, couldnt have been more on time for me. By watching this one, I could almost feel a tension point untangle in my brain as I thought about what you were saying and putting that to the context of my own life. Thank you so so much for sharing
Bless You Emma Andreassen, Respect to You for Your Journey, and for Your Future, Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏
You three are the reason I check my subscriptions in the morning. Wonderful insights and explorations of what should be intuitive but sadly is not. Thank you for all you do. :)
Blessings Jon B, that’s very rewarding for us to hear. Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏
I don't know if I've gotten the confirmation in my mind or that I've gotten the rite of passage from my father but when I call my dad he always expresses how proud he is of me with what I've accomplished so far. When I moved up to my current state (USA) my father tagged along with my road trip so naturally he caught a flight home where he and I had one last moment. He hugged me (firs time he ever touched me since i was a child) and said he loved me which I've never heard him say. I kept my cool but as soon as he turned his back and I turned mine I could barely hold back my tears until I got outside to the parking lot. I was crying the whole 3 hour ride back to my new town. As I said I think this was my torch moment or a psychological death. Honestly not sure because I didn't expect those emotions to rise up in that moment and for me to cry. Very insightful as always, I think I'll know for sure when I go home and visit the old man and the family again.
Hi again, @notshalltear4177, thank you for sharing that deeply moving and healing experience. Blessings, Steve & Pauline 🙏🙏
Wow! Your interpretation of the Arthurian myth was such an eye-opener! Terrific video full of gems. Thank you 😊
Thanks edr3008, people seem to have believed that the grail was internal when all along it’s an intermediary between inner and outer and conveys the meaning of engagement with outer life to the wasteland of a withdrawn soul. Every instinct is directed outward, this is a neuroscience truth and a psychological one too. The King and the land being ‘One’ shows how we are continuous with our environment, we have no context without it. Kindest Regards, Steve🙏
If you’re a young man watching this you are looking in the right direction.
Blessings Parslo, that’s hugely appreciated. Kindest Regards, Steve🙏
I really appreciate this channel. Apart from being very interesting, the things you are talking about (particularly in this video) are very much what I need to hear. So thank you.
Thank You, Rob H, our Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏
I’ve been having intense recurring anima projections recently and it makes a lot of sense now after doing some reading, working with a therapist, and watching this video. I had a very weak father who couldn’t confirm me and a very wonderful and involved mother. As a result, I never really “became a man.” Because of the pandemic I’ve been working from home, becoming more and more isolated. Compound that with the fact that I’m a writer - it’s my profession to create fantasy. Add all that together and what do you get: strange fantasies about my one true love, a goddess who I’m supposed to be with or my whole life is a lie and not worth living. No peer group, no father, strong mother, social isolation = neurosis. Working on this has not been easy and I’m still in the process of getting out of this, but it’s great to hear that I’m not insane, just overly attached to my mother and resentful of my virtually absent Homer Simpson of a dad. Thank you for the video
Hi @Jobe_Island, thanks for your support for the channel, I'd encourage you to watch some of the latest JTLB videos. You could also consider joining our Discord Server, which is a dedicated community of peers, learning about depth psychology. I post there daily, and there are thousands of my posts available to read.There's a lot in the newer videos that would braoden out the pespectives in this one. Respect to You and for Your Journey, Kindest regards, Steve
Damn! i just realised Steve reminds me of Neil Buchanan from art attack, someone who was an early farther figure and a great inspiration for me. THATS WHY i find his voice so comforting!
Cheers Luke Camp, Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
Wow, it's cool to see you all together!
Cheers Thingy,, cool to receive your very kind comment, Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏
I like how Steve always advises us not to get carried away by the the imagery of archetypes. In my experience, YES you have to get in touch with your darker/scarier emotions, but that is only in order to be able to eventually let them go without the need to resist or repress them.
Thanks Rafael Costa, your words suggest hard-won experience. Blessings for your Journey, Kindest Regards, Steve.
People will be watching these videos for years 🌟
One of your most practical video and one of the most useful for me
Thank you so much to all of you
Thanks VRG, very glad that you've found it so helpful. Kindest Regards and Blessings, Steve and Pauline.
Wow guys. This video is SUCH a redpill for myself. Thank you so much for this. I feel like you guys are speaking directly to me. I pray that your content reaches more and more people because it is SO needed. Now more than ever.
Cheers David, welcome back to the Discord BTW, Kindest Regards, Steve👍
This discussion is so necessary for many people. When you spend your life jumping from father figure to father figure it becomes this very archetypal fantasy world where you default in trying to interface with the world through someone else's perspective or even movement instead of listening and developing your own. You can see this in culture with the attachment to subcultures or peer groups or figureheads. Its so damaging especially for girls in particular because it just amplifies this easily misguided pathway to fall into pitfalls of thinking and searching for a mate that fulfills the father role. The problem comes is as an adult, no one wants to be infantilized or they think they do but its damaging to the personal psychology. What makes me curious with the DDLG community that has become prevalent into seeping into mainstream culture if there is a collective disturbance within young girls having an inadequate interface through their fathers or father roles, and then the role falls onto their sexual partners as way of confirmation. And within cases as I've seen it play out, the female partners often come to despise their male partners because the confirmation is not adequate, and the male partners generally from consensus, go along with fulfilling that role reluctantly.
Thank you, great post !
I think you see the same Arthurian motif in the Lion King Movie; father dies, son flees, the land goes to shit, and once Simba challenges Scar and lives. life is renewed and so is he.
Hi again Cory Aldridge, thanks for the comment on the similarity. Much obliged to you, Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
John Boorman was mentioned. It took me back to my memories and one of his films, The Emerald Forest. In that story the son is taken by the instinctual in a way I've seen nowhere else.
Agreed N Uni, his work is stand-alone, without peer. Kindest Regards, Steve🙏
There is a great movie fron the 1990s called Smoke Signals. Its about a native american young man learning how to forgive his father . Great poem in the end. The last line of the poem"if we forgive our father, what is left?" Powerful movie,funny as well.
Hi Frank Gallagher, many thanks for the movie reference - Kindest Regards, Steve.
I had 2 fathers. Biological loved me when he was around but was dealing with his addictions and demons, stepfather was just young and distant..leaned towards older friends for guidance...its taken me years to work through abandonment issues.
Most of your videos go over my head (I still listen though, usually when I'm washing up lol) but this one had me gripped as is something that has affected me a great deal (was unwanted by my dad, jeez that did some damage) I've come so far though and the confidence I have gained in myself and knowing I am a very loving, capable and dependable parent myself has closed the gap where my near constant anxiety was being bred. It's like I have a new soul and I no longer feel dirty or ashamed and well... there's no words. It's more valuable than any silver or gold and I'm very humbled and blessed to bare witness to the these healing processes we are capable of. 5 years ago I was suffering psychosis on a hospital ward and here I am today raising my children, (and other people's for a living!) Running a home , taking care of myself and very happy. (It does take consistent hard work, and courage but so worth it)
Blessings BeccaHardyMusic, our Respect to You, and for Your Journey, Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏🙏
Oh wow a beard and a blazer. This is a new James
Yes he's looking very grown up and handsome these days :)
From boyo to manyo.
This was the video I needed, thank you. I think my father did the best he knew how to do, but it sounds like my family line has a history spanning at least the last few generations of fathers abusing their sons. My father spared me the worst of the physical abuse he went through in his childhood but not the emotional abuse. Think he just never had good males to model himself after for that role. Really hope I'll get the chance to give it another go and be the one to get it right, but first I'll have to find a woman to spend my life with, and that's been a mountain of a challenge to overcome so far.
Hi @flynnoflenniken7402, thank yo uso very muh for sharing your journey and the consolidation of your insights and learning. They'll be of great value to our channel viewers. You're the kind of man, and father, the future needs. Blessings, Steve & Pauline
The fidelity to the system in which the men of my family are is very strong. And in my process of stepping out of it, as a sensitive guy, I find that very difficult to look at my father and watch him advance in life without living, i have a huge sensation of pity towards him, and the spontaneous reaction to that is fidelity almost like "don't worry i will not leave you alone in this boredom" and this is a huge burden that defenetly slows me down
Thank you guys for this one, really like the emphasis that you unfold by living and testing yourself in the world and not in your own head. I think that's super important for people who pride themselves on their intellectual ability to understand it's just one aspect of life. We are BIOLOGY and working with patients who have had a traumatic brain injury will confirm it. I like the idea that archetypes are in the genome.
Cheers Jordan, really appreciate your insight and contribution. Respect and Kindest Regards, Stevd🙏
i've grown so much listening to this channel, thanks for this content.
The critique of the introverted-intuitive, "mountain man" ideals are a tough, but necessary pill to swallow. Thank you for the continual grounding that is provided by this channel!
It does seem that without a connection to the instincts, the outer world can appear as "grey", which might drive someone inwardly to retrieve that felt sense of "colour" through dreams, fantasies and imagination. The fear of becoming "divorced from reality" is even initially apparent as you get pulled deeper into this type of thinking, propeled by a figure like Jung.
The part about this introverted ego-fantasy substituting for outer life reminds me of what Jung speaks of in the beginning of Symbols of Transformation. I think he writes about how a missed experience may be "juggled out of existence" and replaced with a dream in an attempt to compensate.
My question is, why should the libido fiercely turn inwards at all? Is it the psyche's attempt to reconnect with instincts? Seems counter-productive to survival in most contexts.
Hi again Jacob Mattern. Many thanks for your kind words. Too much inversion if libido is generally pathological as it becomes schizoid. There’s also a prejudice that introversion is correlated with neurosis in many personality tests. Extroversion had its own characteristic neuroses but the bias culturally is mainly in favour of extroversion. As an evolutionary adaptation, introversion is a luxury until such times that it can be positively accommodated by a tribe or group. Our species enlarged cortex can process ‘virtual’ scenarios and produce imaginative solutions which can be helpful for survival if such things are utilised creatively. It’s a balancing act, and extroversion when taken to extremes is just as likely to produce problems through over adaptation (hysteria for example) to the social environment or risk taking beyond safety in the wider ecology. The balance described above is probably enough to produce a bandwidth of viable introversion in a population. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
@@JungToLiveBy Appreciate the reply Steve. Gives good perspective as to why introversion would arise as a trait or behaviour. I liked the maxim of introversion "in service of the tribe". Take care!
very impressed and grateful with and for your work, cheers!
02:05 quite an important piece of advice, especially in an aforetitled sense, including toxicity from him and additional uncomfortable feeling with constant exposure. Sometimes I experience those feelings, like he's draining my energy when he tries to make a call. However, he's toxic in a sense, which described in this video. I think also it is important to make clear, that not everyone is toxic or something, just not to besmirch all the whole manhood.
Also, in some sense addictions can be just a plain reason why someone tends to be in an infantile stage, fearing to come to the next stage of development. And, as you've said in your video, "no connection to oneself", because it is obviously important. Drug addictions are just an urge to run away from those feelings, numb pain, etc, etc. However, the same metaphor comes into place, "to be dependent on something". The same issues.
29:14 "you have evolved... you're far more than your father". This quote is brilliant. Especially when one has come through the hell.
Thanks for your vids! I like both to listen to the material and the thoughts that come to my mind during listening. I find it is in handy in a two-side manner, not just only gaining important information throughout the listening, but also with additional insights coming to my mind.
Very insightful.. I like the "down to earth" approach as I want to live here on this earth
Hi @MarkusKasanmascheff , thanks for your kind comment. Blessings and Respect, for You and for Your Journey. Steve & Pauline 🙏🙏
It comes by doing........it's in the action in the outer world ...very well put. Thx .
Blessings, jaguarfocus. Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏🙏
Sometimes, I believe the ratio is manipulated for synchrony lol. Testing the hypothesis now. Good work
Your example was very enlightening Pauline, thank you!
Thanks Oliver, that’s very kind, best wishes, Pauline 🙏
Idk if you guys have the option personally to enable closed captions but I really enjoy reading as I listen
I’ll ask James 👍
Hey man, just wanna say thank you for putting these videos together with everyone you speak to. I remember when you were chatting with the uberboyo Irish guy. Those were great too. Keep up the great work
9:00 task of separation, biology before psychology?
25:00 psycho reductionism and summary. "Who's the daddy?"
Those mugs though! Top
I had a dream last night. The nice chap I know at the Cambridge Jungian Circle , which I go to, was taking me to Chester, with a woman I was with and we were going on a Ferry.....much more happened, but I had a feeling and Googled Steve and Pauline.....you're not far from there !! Never been to Chester in my life or thought about it. All 3 of you are brilliant and real. Thank you for your content.
There’s a significant synchronicity here, that isn’t obvious, but we have a very deep creative connection to Chester that involved travel by water
@@JungToLiveBy Wow! I will find out how to DM you on here later and leave my email, if you would like to find out what that could possibly be. I would love to hear more of that creative connection with a water crossing. But don't feel obliged. I understand the amount of text you must have to sift through. I would not want to add to the 'fux sake' heap. lol. Thank you for replying though.
Reach out 👍
Will be in touch
Ive been seriously considering legally changing my last name , no joke. It's both an statement and it would be the symbol of individuation.
Absolutely brilliant!! Thank you!
29:14
This got me deeeep
Hi Vinicius Rotger, Blessings and Respect to You for Your Journey. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
A personal question for Steve: I’ve not read any of your books yet, but I noticed you wrote one called “Remote Viewing”. I assume you don’t really believe in it, but I personally found Carl Jung in a roundabout way when I was studying Robert Monroe and his book “Journey’s Outside of the Body”.
I know I probably sound ludicrous but uhm... do you think there’s any weight AT ALL to the claims for astral projection/remote viewing?
Hi IrelevantLives4U,, many thanks, I actually apprenticed with Pauline to a very powerful psychic for five years and have been a lifelong experiencer and experimenter of ‘astral travel’. My influences included Sylvan Muldoon and Hereward Carrington. Kindest Regards and Blessings, Steve 🙏.
Will confirm also. Possible to train yourself to induce etheric projections or OBEs, have done it. Never tried for remote viewing in the strictest sense, suppose it's just a highly stabilised or refined etheric projection. I sense that would be more difficult to achieve but no reason to believe it's not possible. When it comes to astral projection it's hard to judge the true definition of the term as it has blurred boundaries for me. Etheric projection can merge into astral projection for example, or astral phenomenon can begin bleeding into an etheric projection. You can sort of run out of "coherency juice" sometimes and it all just fades into a dream state; cue wake up dribbling an hour later.
Exercise basic caution though. Was deep-diving in late teens and early twenties, the experiences were largely positive but got some bio-electrical kickback a few times. The results of such kickback can be intense. Struggling with some delightful mixture of unstable childhood, traumas, follow-on complexes, extended solitudes and marijuana abuse? Not the optimal setup. If your house is in order though, no need for fear.
I've assumed you were planning to act on your curiosity. Don't have to of course; much of this stuff can be interesting to experience but sort of a time sink also. Have hours of dreaming every week to explore already, lucidity there can be a good jump-off point for all-sorts. Whatever occurs, still gonna be sitting on the plop throne the next day, thinking over that list of tasks marked urgent. Today's video really was spot-on in that regard.
Thankyou.
Thank You, Kutenai, Kindest Regards, Steve🙏
Hi, could you please do a video analysing the Arthurian legend and symbolism of secret of the grail.
Some great points to mull over as always. Personally, I've been through so many ideologies that it's somewhat difficult for me to put into words what obtaining the "Grail" means to me. From ironic communism, through new age woo, to Jordan Peterson's lobster machinations, I feel that there's something I've been seeking. I used to think that "whatever works for me" was the best option, but I've found something of value in Jung, primarily the cultivation of a healthy relating function. Steve touched on instincts being universal, but I was wondering does the Anima/Animus have an instinctual element that goes deeper than surface level relating? I think in my own studies I've encountered at part of the Anima that has something to do with how to respond to the world instinctually and emotionally, bypassing the thoughts and rationality of the conscious mind. It's hard to put into words, but it's like being hit by a freight train of meaningful connection to the world, especially when I encounter art or literature that moves me.
Hi again Banal Vulgarian, yes, they do certainly have an instinctual element that goes deeper. How we define 'deep' is key, of course, butr they certainly ressonante with all biological (genomic) imperatives.
Relating, is even in a sense understood by Plato, 'divine' - as actualized at the level of his theory of Forms. This can be actualized through meaningful relationships of many kinds. The sense of absolute completeness of purpose that comes with a satisfied instinct, is primary emotional consciousness - this level of understanding has come from the work of Prof. Jaak Panksepp and Prof. Mark Solms in Affective Neuroscoience and Neuropsychoanalysis. Benneath the level of the brain, and its structures and pathways, is the genome itself. Beyond that, if anything, is a matter of perception..... My Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve.
This 34:51 video, which I enjoyed every second of, was exactly what I needed to come across after a needless spree of endless instrospection, thank you
Can a spiritual father (like God) help in the journey of self-confirmation?
Hi again Knight Arnold my friend, yes absolutely 🙏 Kindest Regards, Steve.
Do archetypes serve any psychosocial functions? Are there useful ways of engaging with them at an individual level?
Hi again Nathan, yes, as collective representational motifs, they act as cultural systems of transmission and exemplary stories. They’re also prototypes for synthesising a personal myth out from a collective one. We’ll be discussing this soon in a podcast on Alexander The Great. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
@@JungToLiveBy Thank you. I look forward to hearing your insights on the podcast. Kind regards, from Melbourne, Australia.
Great stuff y’all
Is it better to watch videos on this channel or to read books in order to gain knowledge about and figure out what to do with my life?
I have to write this, and hope to get a reply. When trying to integrate the contents of the shadow, you must, in a way, analyse yourself, think about why you do and feel certain things, and isn't that, in a way, becoming willingly engulfed in your thoughts and isolating yourself from the outside world, hence participating in an introverted action? And in the video, if I am not mistaking, you are saying that it is dangerous to become too introverted. I am trying to orient and develop myself and these contradictions in my thoughts are making me anxious and it feels like a have trust issues towards my own thoughts, in a way, I feel very lost.
Hi Cro Jokes, reading the right books is the hardest task as there’s so much information out there. We try to give a wide range of both theory and practical guidance based on over 40 years each of our clinical work. Thanks for your comment and support for our work, we hope you keep watching, and that what we offer will be of some use on your personal journey. Kindest Regards, Steve and Pauline 🙏,
@@crojokes Many thanks, the 'based' way to approach this, which is far more real than introverted pre-occupations, is a copied posyt from our Discord server - minus the identiies of the perspons it was addressed to: "Tackling relating first, which sorts out all Shadow dynamics, is congruent with the intentionality of instinct and therefore the genome (test this against Panksepp and Solms). Indulgence, through therapists suggestion, that Shadow work must be first, overly extends the process, artificially and is contra naturam to the self regulation of the individual,including psycho-socially, out in the world. The tendency of the human organism is towards optimal, healthy adaptation. Running contrary to that by therapists, always creates artificial neuroses Of course look at the so-called Shadow but, outside of the context of relating, internally or psychosocially, it has no meaning at all, and someone who relates properly will naturally regulate their Shadow. Look at those who Shadow-Pedal doom, gloom, misery and despair, and what immediately stands out is that they are very poor at relating. When they push others to dwell in darkness, it’s because they have poor relational skills and a lack of joy in their life - no matter how wealthy or otherwise they may be, or how much a lauded Professor of psychology, or, a humble, and simple-living janitor. Relating is the key, relate properly, and the Shadow will sort itself out". Kindest Regards, Steve
@Jung To Live By I have a very short question on what you guy think about shame and guilt? After, a bunch of investigate I learned that shame has been a main variable for my short-coming through my life. I was wondering what could you recommend for practical ways to heal it?
Hi again Angel Guereca, many thanks, this is an important topic I’ll ask @James to list it for a podcast topic. Kindest Regards, Steve🙏
25:18
Finally
I hear instincts a lot. How do we get in touch with our instincts?
Hi M S, for a theoretical overview of what instincts are I’d recommend the work of Affective Neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp and Neuropsychoanalyst Mark Solms. In practice, action in the world towards your optimal adaptation of your lifespan development, mediated through relating and positive affect (emotion). Kindest Regards, Steve. 🙏
So how do you pull those instincts out? You said not to pull a Nietzche and stay alone, but if you haven't passed the father stage... Then what do you do? (if you aren't ready yet for social stage) I tend to get attached to friends.
Personally, I'd go further and say that for many people, philosophy is a contraindication, because of this tendency to abstraction and inversion, leading to circular, ruminant, and closed thinking - plus a lack of engagement with life. Not in all cases, far from it, but, it can offer this, as a neurotic outcome, just as reading medical books can lead to hypochondriasis and reading Depth Psychology can likewise lead to imaginal illnesses or auto-suggestion induced neurosis. Philosophy is not immune to such effects, but the peculiar nature of it as a discipline, has specific entrapments. These tend to be a kind of locked-in cognitive syndrome, self-justifying alibis for not living with full engagement. You can by-pass the father stage and compensate for it in social relationships, but you have to work at doing this.
Just on the importance of being in a peer group, would I be right in saying that this phenomenon of the "lone wolf" is a dangerous one for young men? So often these days you see young men who have not been able to form a peer group fall into a state of thinking that says "I don't need other people, I'm a lone wolf", which is an idea that is somewhat glorified.
Can I also ask, why might someone who hasn't been confirmed by the father, have an aversion to forming a peer group? For me, I'm quite socially anxious and in my experience have been disenfranchised by the outer world that I have no interest in it and if I'm honest, I fear it. I know that this is harmful though. As I'm 20 now, I feel the urge to be confirmed in a peer group but don't know how to start.
As always, I sincerely appreciate the work that the three of you have done and continue to do and hope this message finds you well.
Hi John Doran, its difficult to be prescriptive in a response that concerns a whole-situation, for a developing human being, but, its important to rememeber that we can carry-over anticpations from past 'conformations' into the next phase of life. It's part of the natural progression of our development. Your urge to fond your peer group, is natural, and its intention is healing. If you can leave the perhaps disappointme3nt from the past behind, your instincts will align, and you'll find your peers. Respect and Kindest Regards, Steve.
Do you have availability for consultations? The website is not giving any information when you click the link.
What to do when you dont have a peer groub
Wish I had the money to talk to a professional counselor about my experience with my Father and my family.
15:22 Could you name all of the instincts from a biopsychosocial / jungian perspective? I'd much appreciate that!
What is the dynamic, when a person never had a father, a mother and a peer group?
For example, a person, who has been left alone and was never been able to find a peer group.
You mention the peer group as being the last option. But what if that option is not available?
A very judgmental voice told me that I suck in a bunch of ways in a insulting way and that it will torment me for the rest of my life, would it ever allow me to get confirmation anywhere else?
Uh, I’m watching this for a friend. 😅
😀🙏🌎
Was the intro music a remix to the excorsist theme...
Hi Gregory O’Shea, no, it’s the end of an original track called ‘The Hibernians’ about a war and of Irish warriors who raid the west coast of Roman Britain in the early 5th century - created for a movie project. Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
The who and the why XD
The "mountain man" hasn't figured out that the inner world and the outer world are one.
Cheers, A man of no reputation. In that he’s not alone, the vast majority of psychotherapy schools are in the same psycho-reductive state, Kindest Regards, Steve 🙏
Would it be possible for you guys to cover siblings complex or sibling dynmaics??
Hi again Nasher Buenafe, definitely, Pauline agrees it’d be an important topic, Kindest Regards, Steve🙏