How does psychopathy affect your relationships? Ask a Psychopath

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  • Опубликовано: 30 июн 2021
  • We all know someone with psychopathy.
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    But few know the truth about it. We’re helping change that… by helping you know the signs. Know about treatment options and resources. And know you’re not alone.
    James Fallon is a professor of neuroscience at University of California at Irvine, and the author of the book The Psychopath Inside. He considers himself a "prosocial psychopath."
    He joins us today on zoom to discuss what it is like to be psychopathic.

Комментарии • 212

  • @LaughingStock55
    @LaughingStock55 4 месяца назад +40

    He did something typical of psychopaths - he blamed the other people if he hurt them. His wife wasn't hurt because "she is strong." Others who he hurt "are not strong."

    • @Nyxxx1234
      @Nyxxx1234 4 месяца назад +1

      good point

    • @toniventura2985
      @toniventura2985 Месяц назад +3

      @@Nyxxx1234 He will never feel what you can , or agree with you that what he is feeling is the same " hurt" as anyone around him .These personality disorders are never PERSONAL .

  • @p.m.c8986
    @p.m.c8986 5 месяцев назад +42

    "I'm not manipulating you, you just can't take it" ...that's pretty good James😂

    • @luizeduardo1375
      @luizeduardo1375 2 месяца назад +2

      Lmao I was just thinking that. He's so narcissistic that he can't see he's the one causing damage without realizing rather than people around him not being strong enough to handle him.

  • @Bastet32
    @Bastet32 2 года назад +194

    What he means is people with very strong boundaries and sense of self do not get harmed by him as much as others.

    • @Bastet32
      @Bastet32 2 года назад +13

      Then again if theres lack of emotional connection and the relationships are only a transaction without taking the other as a part of yourself, then for most such a relationship wouldnt be satisfying.
      But lots of people do live like that and consider that to be normal, performing relationship roles without true empathy or emotional connection.
      So its all a spectrum.
      As long as it works for them, right.

    • @faysalals1
      @faysalals1 2 года назад +9

      @@Bastet32 Some people are satisfied with lack of emotional connection and relationships that are only transactional. Humans are complicated, not everyone wants emotions and true love.

  • @hayatzor6249
    @hayatzor6249 2 года назад +206

    I love how he never explains anything clearly.. he just puts many words

    • @huangwenzhu
      @huangwenzhu 2 года назад +42

      Just like politicians...

    • @praywithpio6028
      @praywithpio6028 Год назад +19

      Exactly. These are very interesting, but he never answers the questions.

    • @nightowl6791
      @nightowl6791 Год назад +43

      I don't think he has clear answers for himself. Like hes not entirely self aware and still figuring things out in the light of new diagnosis.

    • @sacredheart4442
      @sacredheart4442 Год назад +6

      “Word salad”…

    • @masterofallthelakesintown2472
      @masterofallthelakesintown2472 Год назад +5

      That’s what you call talking and a sentence.

  • @thereligion4169
    @thereligion4169 2 года назад +183

    I hope nobody is mad at the way he behaves or those with true psychopathy behave, it's a waste of time, and you can vent all you want shamelessly about it because they will not have an emotional response, or "be hurt" by your words.

    • @presidentresident
      @presidentresident 2 года назад +28

      You got it exactly. Dont waste time being outraged by it any more than youre mad a predator would eat you if given the chance. Just take the appropriate steps to protect yourself.

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 2 года назад +9

      that's why you set hard boundaries and cut them off when they cross them. that's my socialization after living in a home with a NPD father, but now I'm being told having hard lines makes me have a disorganized attachment style.

    • @presidentresident
      @presidentresident 2 года назад +8

      @@jones2277 Im not convinced continuing relationships with certain people is worth it, blood relative or otherwise. I think even if you have 'hard lines' etc, relationships with certain people can still can manage to make you much less than you could be as a person.

    • @1lagarti
      @1lagarti 2 года назад

      I agree. What you can do is block them. Do not let them close and equally ignore them. They don’t have power over you when you (like them) ignore their existence.
      They thrive off of manipulation. They can’t manipulate if you don’t trust nor listen to them. If you’re a useless tool they will leave you alone bc it’s a waste of their time.
      If you don’t care, they won’t care.
      Now it’s different if it’s a psychopath prone to violence. Defend yourself fully and RUN.

    • @rileysmall4317
      @rileysmall4317 2 года назад +2

      ​@@jones2277 same with me, my mother has narcissistic personality disorder. i tend to hold grudges longer and also share some of those attachment issues you are reffering to.

  • @SuperHappyNotMerry
    @SuperHappyNotMerry 2 года назад +94

    I think I understand why so many of the "ask a psychopath" videos on this channel have the comments turned off. Do the commenters realize they are doing to this person exactly what they claim he does to others? You are seeing him like a thing to be dissected, stripping him of his humanity simply because of a disorder he is unable to control.

    • @lisamichael5495
      @lisamichael5495 2 года назад +23

      I'm the person who monitors the RUclips channel for Psychopathy Is. The reason the comments are turned off for some videos (those videos, by the way, are almost 18 months old) is that I don't have time to monitor comments unless it's only for more recent videos. If you like our work, we'd love if it if you would donate to us. Eventually we would love to hire someone who could monitor all the videos' comments. Thanks for watching our videos!

    • @thecreativebusiness1316
      @thecreativebusiness1316 2 года назад

      it's not a disorder, he was born with a brain unable to feel empathy, which is a trait crucial for the survival of the pack/tribe, whatever you wanna call it: the pack cannot afford to have a predator in the pack who preys on its members, that's why such beings get suppressed in nature.

    • @cheezychungus967
      @cheezychungus967 Год назад +7

      So what? They don't care or have feelings.

    • @Slayer3264
      @Slayer3264 Год назад +17

      @@cheezychungus967 Incorrect. We do not feel prosocial emotions, but we can feel certain things. Also, there's more to life than that. We're still people with thoughts and aspirations.
      If you ever wonder how it is to feel nothing about the suffering of another, just refer back to how you feel about ours. Same deal. ;)

    • @AllePotky
      @AllePotky Год назад +2

      @@Slayer3264 beautifully said.

  • @invisiblemissx
    @invisiblemissx 2 года назад +41

    1:00 - Best clarifying statement ever! 🤣

  • @motivatesme6695
    @motivatesme6695 2 года назад +39

    It’s amazing how in a cavalier type of way is saying that ”they’re still around, but they say I just can’t be alone with you” - and still nothing has happened! 😳 It’s just amazing to see how he in his heart of heart DO NOT CARE about other people’s feelings or wellbeing or survival. Think of the energy one would save not careing about other people’s emotions or inner self…!

  • @Ajesen
    @Ajesen Год назад +19

    he is getting so much hate in the comments, for explaining how relationships work for him? he is just explaining his experience. He is saying how his wife being a strong woman means that she isnt vulnerable to manipulation like maybe the others are.

    • @dixonhill1108
      @dixonhill1108 5 месяцев назад +2

      Because that's a classic manipulation tactic, I beat my kid but it toughened him up, that's why he's so successful etc, you see a ton of this behavior in sports btw.

    • @Ajesen
      @Ajesen 5 месяцев назад

      @@dixonhill1108 can u elaborate what u ment with this comment exactly

    • @CreeperthanPasta
      @CreeperthanPasta 5 месяцев назад +2

      Its his pov of the relationship. We dont hear from any other side. You always have to be skeptical around psychos

    • @dixonhill1108
      @dixonhill1108 5 месяцев назад

      Part of being a pychopath is that they feel guilt or shame, but they still care about their self image. They still need to feel like they're the good guy as they want the social status of being a good guy so they make strength and courage the top definition of good. To protect their ego they convince themselves that their victims deserved it or are too weak etc. @@Ajesen

    • @Ajesen
      @Ajesen 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@dixonhill1108 i mean yeah thats general knowledge about psychopathy But how does it relate to my original comment? He wasnt manipulating anyone, he was asked to come on this Channel to talk about psychopathy and himself and here he basically explained how their relationship works and why she is still staying with him haha, because she isnt that prone to manpulation

  • @yastarku6980
    @yastarku6980 2 года назад +57

    our world is arranged very logically, and manipulations are actions that any person resorts to, this is true. I don’t understand why there is so much condemnation in the comments, this person literally cannot feel the emotions that another person feels, which is why he resorts to manipulation. it's not because he's evil, he didn't choose to be like that. I think that in order for the world to be comfortable, we must treat such people with understanding.

    • @ekay4495
      @ekay4495 9 месяцев назад +6

      That exactly why people are scared of psychopaths, your literally missing how others might feel...

    • @yastarku6980
      @yastarku6980 9 месяцев назад +5

      @@ekay4495 in this case, the fear is unfounded. you can’t put everyone under the same brush, it’s called stereotypical thinking. so you only distance yourself from the truth, which is that these people need help

    • @matthewmckee561
      @matthewmckee561 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@yastarku6980The fear is 1,000% not unfounded. That mindset will get you killed quickly with a psychopath. Simply go to the graveyard and ask the many victims of psychopath how their "unfounded fears" got them there

    • @hanswoast7
      @hanswoast7 5 месяцев назад +4

      If you hurt or manipulate people, that is bad behavior. If you did do it unconscious or without intent, this might be a forgivable mistake. If you had good intentions or a bad model of the situation, we might be even somewhat understanding. But if you are unwilling and unable to learn, if you are going to repeat this mistake (of hurting or manipulating) again, then we need to punish and correct you increasingly. If that does not work, you will be permanently separated from us or even locked away. There should be tolerance to learn acceptable behavior, but if you do not comply soon, that is on you.

    • @asdfghyter
      @asdfghyter 4 месяца назад

      @@yastarku6980 yes, these people need help, but the fear is certainly well founded. a grizzly bear can't help being dangerous, but they still are. it's just in their nature to be dangerous. the best we can do is mitigate that danger.
      psychopaths aren't evil, they're amoral, so they don't have an _innate_ sense of right or wrong and they simply don't care most of the time. this is exactly why they are dangerous. they can be functional in a society, but just like you can never fully tame a wild animal, you can never fully "tame" a psychopath. they may not be physically violent, but they will always be manipulative, since that's the only way they know to interact with other people

  • @deolihp
    @deolihp Год назад +37

    Hes right. Psychopaths can sense who is strong and who isn't and they prey on them. A strong person will quickly see through a psychopath eventually to not get harmed too much

    • @leonfa259
      @leonfa259 Год назад +6

      Yeah sure, everyone has a weakness and usually their greatest strength is their greatest weakness. And you just never know what lies below the surface.

    • @dixonhill1108
      @dixonhill1108 5 месяцев назад +4

      I'm on the autism spectrum they love going after me, I know how to stay one step ahead. I find them and narcs to be easy to be around because if you play the weakling and inflate their ego they'll be butter in your hands. Unlike normies who have a fluid ego theirs is always at a full 10, normies can be fluid and have stressed egotistical days and blissful humble days, I find them much much harder than the psychos because I never know if they're actually being nice to me or are actually playing some game. With anti social types I always always assume they're playing the game of being the predator. So so much easier for me to deal with. Also when you can have a functional relationship with the most toxic person in the workplace, your autistic social deficits aren't seen as being so limiting. It's worth mentioning they can also be very insightful as they like to blabber on and belittle coworkers, I learned a ton about my work environments in the past because when you build up their grandiose attitudes they'll just be so accidentally honest about situations. They key is just realizing they're more or less evil, but their achilles heal is their ego and an intense subconscious insecurity. Most importantly you can't threaten their ego, if you play the role of being their pupil/confidant they never have moments of insecurity and deep down no matter what you do to outshine them it's all because they taught you to do so. I.e. if they ask you for money and don't want to, you create a situation where you ask them for advice about loaning someone else money etc. Usually they'll give some "lesson" about how it's weak you take it to heart and make it clear you implement what they say and so when you refuse it to them it seems like your refusal to do so is because they taught you street smarts. You need to set up boundaries and you need to make it sound like they taught you that behavior. Alternatively if you try to compete or make them feel insecure they'll just go on full on assault behind your back.

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      You shouldn’t generalize someone as a “psychopath” psychiatry has a far way to go and that’s not even an official term in the books it’s one made by the fearful ignorant public. These are still people dehumanizing them into some evil entity is not a solution. They are actually more common than most people realize especially if ur a man. I myself was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder type b you should understand anything diagnosing people is a spectrum there’s not one kind of person exactly like in the books. I have friends and loving family in its own way, I am a concert music which I have profound love and admiration for and get to work with many musicians and new friends all the time. You can grow mentally to overcome things like this it’s not a hopeless endeavor. As long as you are aware of yourself you have free will to stop certain thoughts and function healthily in society and thrive. 😊

    • @TremendousAblutions
      @TremendousAblutions 2 месяца назад

      @@dixonhill1108 is it weird i gravitate towards confrontation with these types

    • @DJCHomestay
      @DJCHomestay 10 дней назад

      No, you’re thinking of narcissists. Your strong boundaries mean even less to a psychopath. Doesn’t matter how strong you think you are you will never win against a psychopath. Never. To think otherwise is like believing you could take a lion down with your bare hands. Have at it if you want. The guy in this video is a buffoon performer, look into who he is and how he got “diagnosed” as a psychopath. He wasn’t, ever. One indeterminate brain scan (he was the researcher and he threw his brain scan in as a control but got flagged as abnormal with the psychopathic test subjects), but the scan was never proven as a test for psychopathy. He did not follow up testing on himself and he was never diagnosed. He just loves to be interviewed and talk and talk and talk. I have been preyed upon by narcissists and psychopaths. This guy is a joke. I mean maybe he is doing down and dirty stuff behind the scenes but I get the impression he’s more of a plain limelight seeking buffoon.

  • @butterpecanrican_
    @butterpecanrican_ 2 месяца назад

    This is so incredibly fascinating

  • @darknightfawkes1028
    @darknightfawkes1028 6 месяцев назад +17

    The perspective of a relationship from a psychopaths point of view is always going to be twisted and made to be something it’s not. It’s very difficult to know when they are lying or not because they are so good at it, even for a person who’s experienced many psychopaths in their life can be duped by them, cus all of the are different.

    • @dixonhill1108
      @dixonhill1108 5 месяцев назад

      A) Yeah you can just tell by his phrasing he's absolutely an abusive terror to be around. B) Thing with psychopaths is that they are usually delusional. They tend to have massive blindspots as their ego really distorts their perception of reality. They think because they can get away with treating someone like dirt they can always get away with it, and get caught off guard when they get figured out. They routinely are emotional nomads going from one well to another poisoning it as they go along C) He's probably more of a malignant narcissist, it's a spectrum thing, in reality they're usually mundane crappy people. A generic narcissist and a psychopath are usually pretty much the same 99% of the time. The differences only show up at the extremes, i.e. a narcissist needs to believe they are a good person/victim, even when they do horrible things they'll convince themselves they were in the right, meanwhile a psychopath doesn't care. The difference is one believes in morality and thinks they can do no wrong while the other doesn't care about morality.

    • @dixonhill1108
      @dixonhill1108 5 месяцев назад +1

      They're always lying, even when saying the truth they're trying to sharpen the knife.

    • @LambentIchor
      @LambentIchor 5 месяцев назад +3

      Unless you, yourself, are a psychopath and speaking from experience, nothing you've said is other than a projection, a narrative you've constructed to try and understand your experiences. And it's highly likely you are scapegoating, or attributing all the negativity to the other. Where were you at fault?

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      @@dixonhill1108you are being ignorant who is “they”?? Generalizing a population of people is not wise and very incorrect, any psychological diagnosis is a spectrum and may not even be correct psychiatry is brand new compared to how long we have had medical science. Barely almost 100 years old while the other centuries!! People have free will to overcome mental challenges so you can brand us all as liars it’s dehumanizing and u need to remember these are still people not a generalized boogey man. It’s also not inherently evil it’s just primal , in nature would u say a lion is mean and evil for eating a zebra? Just because it has the ability to gauge the strength of animals around it?? No it’s nature and nature is not moral, morality itself is a concept of luxury not reality.

    • @mealovesyu
      @mealovesyu 2 месяца назад

      @@dixonhill1108it’s not logical is always lying

  • @danielfrederickson4202
    @danielfrederickson4202 2 года назад +85

    This guy still seems in denial about a lot of his traits. Probably harder to recognize as you get older. These videos are fascinating.

    • @robmausser
      @robmausser 2 года назад +11

      He's always very defensive in his speaking. I do believe that he probably does actually score low on psychopathic traits, but he certainly does make a huge effort to ensure people know this. Again its not the greatest thing to be a psychopath so it would be even worse I think if someone was proud of it or something, but you can see him always trying to minimize his negative traits, rather than admit them and work towards improving them. This is a definiting feature of psychopathy itself and why its so hard to treat. Unlike someone who has high agreeableness and neuroticism, who would actually probably overstate their weaknesses and lack self confidence, its quite the opposite for a psychopath.

    • @andrewmcbridemusic
      @andrewmcbridemusic 2 года назад +28

      @@robmausser not defensive. He's choosing every word he uses in order to be in control of the way its perceived. Thing is, he's probably not even fully aware that he's doing it because it's so natural to him. I believe him though. He has a hard time understanding the way he comes across to others because of his lack of empathy.

    • @user-gj1ld4uw9v
      @user-gj1ld4uw9v 2 года назад +1

      I was thinking the same thing-either denial or just not being truthful.

    • @1lagarti
      @1lagarti 2 года назад +7

      It’s more like it doesn’t exist to him since he is unaware and doesn’t care about anyone else. To him only he exists. It’s like saying “you made the sink feel bad” it’s a sink it has a purpose that’s all. Who cares. So not denial just had no concept or interest in it

    • @squidward66
      @squidward66 2 года назад

      As one gets older, it becomes easier to recognize one's own traits, having a greater pool of experience to reflect upon. Wait until you are older, it's actually a nice part of getting older, knowing oneself better.

  • @spadinnerxylaphone2622
    @spadinnerxylaphone2622 Год назад +6

    It's interesting how he says "people tell me I manipulated them" but doesn't give any details.

    • @waynerandles6126
      @waynerandles6126 5 месяцев назад

      Yes go into more detail and why some say they can’t be alone with him🤔

  • @annak2764
    @annak2764 Год назад +7

    Psycopaths seem a bit like inverse autistic people. Autistic people typically have high affective empathy and low cognitive empathy: ie can tell that a person got upset but doesnt understand why. Meanwhile psycopaths seem to be the oposites in this aspect: very aware of how people will react, but blind towards the emotional affect and why it matters?

  • @stephlu9684
    @stephlu9684 2 года назад +43

    Sensitive is not weak
    You are just smarter than average and you know manipulation will change the setting.

    • @kevinthegamer2499
      @kevinthegamer2499 2 года назад +2

      Would it not be better that you can change your own setting when needed , being sensitive you cant objectively analyze what others have to say. Everything that was ever said is manipulation regardless are you aware of it or not.

    • @LouiesLog
      @LouiesLog 2 года назад +21

      @@kevinthegamer2499 That's stupid. Being sensitive doesn't mean you aren't able to think critically

    • @ccm8817
      @ccm8817 2 года назад

      @@kevinthegamer2499 💯 you have to learn to be objective rather than subjective and not let your emotions be used against you

    • @Summer-ju4pj
      @Summer-ju4pj Год назад +1

      Yes ! I thought the same thing. It views people as weak or strong .

    • @ReasonAboveEverything
      @ReasonAboveEverything Год назад

      @@LouiesLog no, but chances increase that emotions cloud your judgement. Some people think can identify as something and hence be that something because it feels right.

  • @user-gj1ld4uw9v
    @user-gj1ld4uw9v 2 года назад +14

    So I know people like this and watching this video with the smooth jazz music playing in the background made me feel like I was being manipulated once again.

  • @venepskeuten9206
    @venepskeuten9206 4 месяца назад +4

    so people with a strong sense of self can sort of more easily go along with those who have psychopathy?
    I guess that kinda makes sense.

  • @startledmilk6670
    @startledmilk6670 2 года назад +61

    He’s literally describing how he manipulated people.

    • @sophiapavlou_yoga_breathwork
      @sophiapavlou_yoga_breathwork 2 года назад +27

      without saying it directly. He is not speaking clearly, and he is creating some confusion. There's the natural talent of the psychopath.

    • @asdfghyter
      @asdfghyter 4 месяца назад

      this is the only way they know to interact with people. everything is manipulation for them

  • @yojoebananas
    @yojoebananas 26 дней назад

    interesting how this dude is smart enough to realize he made it to a level where he has a lot to lose basically, but still some people are afraid of him and he knows it

  • @user-cs5tx3ou7m
    @user-cs5tx3ou7m 2 месяца назад +1

    I think my ex was a psychopath or sociopath but not one who was trying to be good. Because I’m pretty strong he was only able to hurt my feelings sometimes. I didn’t listen to everything they said. You can’t let them get in your head or tell you what to do because they will take more control. He still did bad things to me but I never let him break me.

  • @vaska1999
    @vaska1999 6 месяцев назад +3

    Note how he reverses reality on its head when he claims that "other people" (the "weak" ones) refuse to be alone with him because they don't trust *themselves* with him. It's the exact opposite, of course: they can't trust *him* not to hurt them in the absence of others, of eyewitnesses to how he behaves and treats them.
    Also, note the put-down in characterizing those whom he hurts, who do object to his behaviour, as not strong, i.e. as weak.

    • @emmy-kz1pj
      @emmy-kz1pj Месяц назад

      Yes, I had a boss like this. I did not want to be in her office with her. I always said I had to have her office door open for performance reviews and any other conversation. I said she was welcome to say what she wanted but I wanted the door open because of covid. In reality I knew she would act a lot better with others in earshot. It's another opposites comment to say that the weak ones are the ones who won't be with him alone but the strong ones put up with him.

  • @amyapplegate4356
    @amyapplegate4356 Месяц назад +2

    His poor wife! Since age 12 has never known the love of a human partner.

  • @MrMawnster
    @MrMawnster Год назад +14

    I love this guy, he's so fucking jolly and light hearted, intelligent and self aware and wise tbh, I'd be friends with him.

    • @vaska1999
      @vaska1999 6 месяцев назад +2

      That's how gullible people get destroyed.

    • @i.ehrenfest349
      @i.ehrenfest349 6 месяцев назад

      @elliottstillingsyou’re probably friends or good acquaintances with a psychopath, without knowing it.

    • @laaaliiiluuu
      @laaaliiiluuu 4 месяца назад +1

      ​@elliottstillingsYou might be friends with one right now and you wouldn't know because your friend might just be very good at acting.

    • @someone_7233
      @someone_7233 3 месяца назад

      ​@@vaska1999 thats a misunderstanding of what psycopathy is
      Theyre not malicious by nature, being a psychopath doesnt mean you'd be a default ahole , lacking empathy doesnt mean you are bad , faking empathy doesnt mean youre manipulative , these are 1% of the total population, odds are there exist millions of them out there who want to live a normal life , so they have to fake empathy to meet the societal standards of a good-to-be-around person
      Also also, there isnt a 100% emotionless psychopath , the very will to live it self is an emotion, some have pride, some have joy , there are degrees to their emotions
      Lacking remorse is a big deal breaker for most people , but it not their choice to be like that

    • @amyapplegate4356
      @amyapplegate4356 Месяц назад

      There is no friendship. Shallow usership.

  • @yodax_6667
    @yodax_6667 Год назад +5

    James Fallon?

  • @dallasdonnell5113
    @dallasdonnell5113 2 года назад +23

    The pennywise-looking clown in the lower left corner is freaking me out...

  • @juliesheard2122
    @juliesheard2122 Год назад +4

    Psychopaths are disabled. Some people are blind, psychopaths can't feel. That's not to say you shouldn't be careful!

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      U shouldn’t generalize people that’s where we get ourselves into ignorant fear mongering trouble they are still people and it’s more common than you think especially in men I myself have a healthy functioning life even tho I do have this

  • @Francisco-ig4bz
    @Francisco-ig4bz 4 месяца назад +3

    what's up with the creepy clown picture on the background?

  • @AleksGowa-bc6bl
    @AleksGowa-bc6bl 6 месяцев назад +3

    That dogs and clown are creepy AF...

  • @ocalaoficial
    @ocalaoficial 2 месяца назад +2

    does he feel empathy? can there be love without empathy?

  • @genghischan69
    @genghischan69 5 месяцев назад

    Very interesting. Yeah I can see myself handling a psychopath as an acquaintance very well, it would probably even be a pretty fun relationship, but having a very deep relationship with one, ehh no, and I'm not sure who would be good with that (maybe another psychopath/narc?).

  • @squidward66
    @squidward66 2 года назад +19

    We need to work on making more people strong, like his wife.

  • @cbaskakis
    @cbaskakis Год назад +2

    Are we going to talk about the IT artwork in the background or ignore the fact that he literally has an EVIL CLOWN THAT HIDES IN SEWERS hidden behind a closet?

  • @rajupatel-xt3vo
    @rajupatel-xt3vo 11 месяцев назад

    Exactly

  • @hooyohoyo2827
    @hooyohoyo2827 5 месяцев назад

    I'm not psychopath but i don't like emotional relationships.
    I'm good if the other is ,if not I will walk away. Only some of my family are naturally close to me.

  • @hanyakina
    @hanyakina 2 года назад +40

    I really want to know what motivation the psychopaths have to get marry cause they can't feel any emotional connection with anyone, right? But I read that some of them have a long last and good relationship with their partners, even have kids. So what are their motivation to get marry, even have a family?

    • @presidentresident
      @presidentresident 2 года назад +2

      Great question. Ive often thought the same. Perhaps its literally just about sex? Or maybe that and just finding someone interesting(like being interested in a machine)

    • @ashleysims4281
      @ashleysims4281 2 года назад +17

      Psychopaths are also narcissists they have a need for control and also like to have a facade alot of the time a family is perfect for both.

    • @kathalloran5828
      @kathalloran5828 2 года назад +4

      Sex and services , companionship, sometimes a cover I would imagine as well - nothing to see here, I'm a normal family guy.

    • @inso5078
      @inso5078 2 года назад +15

      It provides coverage (people see them as "a normal guy"), companionship, it gives them the material to manipulate and fulfill the needs they would otherwise be unable to achieve on their own. They might also simply want to have a wife, a child as an object.
      Just as you don't need to love a car or feel emotionally connected to it to want to have one.
      Psychopaths treat spouses/children
      a lot like a normal person treats a car - you want it to look good, you want it to run well, you fix it when needed, change oil, fill up the tank. Which doesn't mean you love it, you just treat it that way because it is yours, it makes you indirectly look good to others, and it serves you a purpose.
      You generally don't want to damage it, break the Windows etc. but you very much could do it just because it's yours or it's simply old and breaking it could be a lot of fun.
      Replace car with a person and it should immediately be easier to understand their point of view.

    • @andrewmcbridemusic
      @andrewmcbridemusic 2 года назад +24

      It depends on the psychopath. Person first, disorder 2nd. Every psychopath is different. They do feel emotions. They just have trouble identifying them or understanding them. I think psychopaths feel love for certain people, but in their own way.

  • @florianhettotto7151
    @florianhettotto7151 9 месяцев назад +1

    that dude has the best woman ever! why can't everyone be like that!

  • @chrisschilling9432
    @chrisschilling9432 Год назад +2

    Anyone else notice the clown picture in the left background HAHAHAH.

  • @rosmarbal
    @rosmarbal Год назад +7

    Maybe he married another psychopath?

    • @SawyerDowding-pn1ox
      @SawyerDowding-pn1ox Год назад

      Damn you 😅

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад +1

      No we can have great healthy functional relationships lol this is not a fixed disorder it’s possible to overcome we have free will don’t generalize people

  • @jimmulti123
    @jimmulti123 2 года назад +7

    The door in the background has a knob on the outside but no knob on the inside. When closed, you wouldnt be able to get out of the room

    • @beammedown
      @beammedown 2 года назад

      there's a shine on it, I think it's a handle

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      What ru a wannabe detective?? Turn off forensic files

  • @ocalaoficial
    @ocalaoficial 2 месяца назад

    if one has no moral compass every relationship is just a one way street, isnt it?

  • @therisendead7
    @therisendead7 2 года назад +16

    This guy has a loooong way to go, on his path to wellness.

    • @TeamMemberNumberEight
      @TeamMemberNumberEight 2 года назад +10

      He’ll never be 100% well, he’s physically incapable of it

    • @thecreativebusiness1316
      @thecreativebusiness1316 2 года назад +11

      there's no cure for psychopathy

    • @Lucas-hy5qh
      @Lucas-hy5qh Год назад +2

      “Wellness” the guy does not have the problem. He is just the problem for people who cannot manage him

    • @ekay4495
      @ekay4495 9 месяцев назад

      It's a problem, but purely for others @@Lucas-hy5qh

    • @dailymotorshorts
      @dailymotorshorts 4 месяца назад +1

      This guy is actually a doctor who studied psychopaths his whole life before accidentally finding out he is one. There's a few documentaries and books on it. He's done a lot of great things for the scientific community.

  • @dalesco4205
    @dalesco4205 10 месяцев назад +2

    I've watched the whole series of this guy's interviews (seven videos) in this channel and I feel that he's manipulating the audience to a degree the way he presents himself. Funnily enough, I've also seen a number of comments praising him and showing admiration, by people who generally seem to be seduced by him.

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад +1

      U rlly should get a beautiful mind room cause u sound like a paranoid wannabe amateur detective turn off forensic files and dateline. This is a person don’t generalize people as evil.

  • @kaylabryson1932
    @kaylabryson1932 4 месяца назад

    You have long standing relationships, how much do you care about their feelings ? Their experience in relationship. Not a real relationship if you care nothing about the person .

  • @rosalindsongsmith3670
    @rosalindsongsmith3670 9 месяцев назад +3

    I ask this in a lot of places just to see what kind of answers I get. Why does it seem like a lot of psychopaths have the blank eyes? All of us are immortal souls living in mortal bodies. So I know that it does not mean that they don’t have a soul in there. I’ve always been really fascinated with peoples facial expressions especially because I can’t see. So I often ask questions like this.

    • @philspencer6299
      @philspencer6299 8 месяцев назад

      I'm a baptist Christian, and I believe that Jesus died on the cross, and that we eternal souls. I've known for a while that I'm psychopathic, but I'm too lazy to get tested, but I have no doubt. Anyway, I think that no matter what is wrong with you, you can still lead a good life. It may just be harder to be a good person. Nobody out there is soulless, they might just have a broken one.

    • @kirstenroche8160
      @kirstenroche8160 7 месяцев назад

      I think the lack of deeply-felt emotions is probably interpreted as being "blank eyes." People read others' emotions through their eyes and facial expression; if you lack a deep emotional reaction to things perhaps that comes across as blank?

    • @i.ehrenfest349
      @i.ehrenfest349 6 месяцев назад

      @@philspencer6299So, what is your motivation to live a good life?

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      It’s not a spiritual thing it’s an actual feature of the disorder basically when your talking to someone and they are literally not looking at you they are looking past you like there’s something behind you more interesting is the official description.

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      @@i.ehrenfest349well being a callus person can have repercussions from those around u so it’s in the best interest to get help

  • @gjdfjktr
    @gjdfjktr Год назад +2

    what if they cut him off? lmao i think he won't get over it

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      He moves on lol that’s the premise of the condition

  • @ocalaoficial
    @ocalaoficial 2 месяца назад

    i wonder how he feels about dogs

  • @Dragon-yg3pm
    @Dragon-yg3pm 3 дня назад

    Do they say they can't trust themselves with you or do you say that because you don't understand what they mean when they say they can't trust you? Do they start out saying they can't trust you and you manipulate them to say the other way around because you are narcissistic? I would bet a lot on the second one. Sorry buddy, it's you not them no matter how many times you try to manipulate it to blame them for your conduct.

  • @MochaBrady
    @MochaBrady 2 месяца назад

    Just keep away from someone who has psychopathy tendencies. Crazy to stay married to one. Not everyone is strong all of the time so, basically you always have to be alert and prepared for who knows what when you are around them. No-sorry not for me. Give them a taste of their own behaviour and walk away and feel nothing for them. Why not they would do that to you. WALK AWAY-don’t look back ever.

  • @user-dr5zq2tw3q
    @user-dr5zq2tw3q Месяц назад

    ¨he is not a psychopat

  • @mayarmshmsha957
    @mayarmshmsha957 Год назад +5

    The amount of lies this guy fed us with 😤

  • @martinranalli8572
    @martinranalli8572 2 года назад +6

    Psychopathy has got to be the worse mental illness.

  • @dianaverano7878
    @dianaverano7878 Год назад +6

    This guy is blaming others that are not " strong" and it is best that he deals with " strong personality that cant be rattled"
    This is a psychopath.
    He does not want to be " accountable" to other people who tells hin
    " i cant be alone with you, you are manipulative"
    Red flags everywhere

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      Mam you need to stop playing amateur detective. Don’t generalize people he’s being honest and talking about his life what red flags u need to turn off dateline. I have antisocial personality type b whic is the actual name for this condition not psychopath which is a term from the fear mongering ignorant poorly educated public I see why you used it.

    • @dianaverano7878
      @dianaverano7878 4 месяца назад

      @@Vic9994546 antisocial personality is a personality disorder and not on a normal spectrum.
      I am not rude, but that is the truth from psychiatrists and psychologists all over the world.
      That guy admitted as a psychopath, eventhough he is a neurologist.
      When we accept reality even though it is difficult, allow our mental health to heal and we function normally.
      Personality disorders occur because of different factors and people having such disorders have a different way of accepting reality compared to us as normal people.
      May you continue your journey to heal on personality disorder.
      But we normal people have to draw the line somewhere. What is normal. What is not. What is real vs lies.
      What are red flags. What are bullying. What are lies and manipulations.
      Clearly that guy is manupulative when he wants to be. And thinks he owns or possess people when they are with him, as mentioned in his other interviews.
      We normal people never think that way. Ever.

  • @S2375wattage
    @S2375wattage 11 месяцев назад +2

    People who are strong? People who are weak? Sounds like people who are willing to be vulnerable in front of other humans is what he calls weak. Sounds like his wife is 100% not that way. Or at least not with him. That's fine, but i wouldn't call it strong to stay with someone who does awful things and just sort of block it out. I don't care if he wants to spew his ridiculous ideas, but he is definitely wrong. And could be convincing but is still wrong

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      Wha awful things has he done? He’s just talking about his life whats wrong wu

  • @DJCHomestay
    @DJCHomestay 10 дней назад

    Look into his background. He calls himself a psychopath based on one flukey brain scan. When asked did you follow up with anymore testing other than just going on an inconclusive indeterminate brain scan? His answer “no”. He seems to take a certain amount of glee in being called a psychopath…again based on one brain scan that was one time “semi controlled” experiment. I say semi controlled because the control subjects were the investigators themselves. I have an actual diagnosed psychopath in my family, diagnosed ASPD (psychopathy I). This guy is just hamming it up for the attention. I’m not saying he isn’t a psychopath necessarily but the evidence he has for it - meaning he doesn’t - because he has NEVER been formally diagnosed. We’re not talking just narcissism on some kind of spectrum - we’re talking psychopathy. Watch more videos with him he’s like a gleeful little boy getting attention for his superhero moniker “Psychopath Man”. What a joke.

  • @devilmathews
    @devilmathews 2 года назад +3

    He has been married a long time, does that mean he never cheated, even if he did he wouldn't feel any regret, so maybe his wife doesn't know about it. That's what happens when you trust a psychopath.

    • @SLYKM
      @SLYKM 2 года назад +5

      By this logic there is no point in trusting anyone.
      People who cheat think they won't get caught or convinced themselves it isn't wrong.
      Guilt and remorse are not good deterrents to not cheating for this reason.

    • @alessandrozetticci
      @alessandrozetticci Год назад

      Feeling regret doesn't stop people from cheating.
      I've been with more than one supposedly "normal" woman who was cheating on their partner and felt remorse but still kept doing it because deep down they felt they deserved "better" and resented their partner despite claiming to love them in some way, they were also able to gain validation from me and their social network (friends, family) by complaining endlessly about the partner they were duping.
      So there you go, "normals" cheat and then just find a "cure" for the remorse they feel, be it validation or just the mantra of "you deserve everything" which can be used very easily to justify any behaviour towards other people.
      Take it from someone who was diagnosed with ASPD after 24 years of believing I was "normal": most people are perfectly capable of doing all kinds of "bad" things just like me or any other "big bad psycho", they just employ certain mechanisms to deal with the shame, guilt, remorse.

    • @ladysmith7747
      @ladysmith7747 Год назад +3

      Some people don`t cheat because they think that it is wrong to lie and sneak around. It has nothing to do with guilt or remorse. It has to do with an internal standard of integrity.

    • @rachelgardnerray9977
      @rachelgardnerray9977 Год назад +1

      ​@@ladysmith7747 Exactly not all psychopaths are the same and we can't know if we aren't inside the psychopaths skin they can feel love of course some can not all psychopaths are the same it's rare if PSYCHOPATHS fall in love but it doesn't mean that aren't PSYCHOPATHS just that fell in love why people throw psychopaths into the same bucket? Here is example my boyfriend can feel love but only for me also with obssesion of course it's not normal love it's also obssesion during my boyfriend is diagnosed for real primary psychopath and sociopath also by therapist has shizophrenia also and depression
      And no he is really psychopath it's not false he was at the hospital on the table for watch at his brain and it showed he is! He wouldn't go there but his mother forced him to go since he is 18 and in French you have to be 19 to do what you want) I saw also how he acted but he is also sociopath of course and don't say that psychopath can't be also sociopath And I'm not lying I don't care if I'm interesting or not actually

    • @theeguy9022
      @theeguy9022 6 месяцев назад

      Seems pointless, what can some other person provide me that my partner cannot?. I don't want to deal with my partners frustration and besides this other person wouldn't provide me the same stimulation that I require, they do not know my tastes nor have they built up all the jokes that are just between us two. Just because I may not love someone, doesn't mean that they aren't at all special to me

  • @MattRumm
    @MattRumm 6 месяцев назад +1

    He puts the blame on "people who are not strong" - end of discussion, everything he is saying here is a manipulation and nothing more.

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад

      That is not manipulation ….. that’s just maybe at worst inconsideration. But we should try and microscopically judge someone who is being open and honest educating people about what life is like with something like this. It’s ignorant and me also having this condition it’s very condescending and you need to remember these are people not a page out of a psych textbook those are spectral disorders there is not just one kind of person that had antisocial personality type b and to give u a good example I’m a musician and I have lots of loving friends and get to play beautiful music it took me many many many difficult years to get a healthy functional life and form relationships. Judging people helps nobody except ur ego. Unless ur ready to show ur worst colors to the world and be honest about your negatives b open minded

    • @MattRumm
      @MattRumm 4 месяца назад

      @Vic9994546 you try to make this about my ego. That is a deflection and a manipulation. You highlight "judging people", while judging others yourself. That is a deflection and a manipulation. This is not about me, and it never will be, even if you can convince others that it is.

  • @fouraztecas6342
    @fouraztecas6342 Год назад +1

    A real psychopath is never diagnose or seeks help😅

    • @fliss7570
      @fliss7570 11 месяцев назад

      You're telling a diagnosed psychopath he isn't a psychopath?
      Sounds stupid of you.

    • @Vic9994546
      @Vic9994546 4 месяца назад +1

      They are diagnosed because we have statistics on it 😊 and yes many seek help so they can have a functioning healthy life as I did but please remember to not dehumanize a whole population of people based on ignorant fear mongering

    • @fouraztecas6342
      @fouraztecas6342 4 месяца назад

      @@Vic9994546 you should hear dr. Ramni