Trust me i get the growing up with black parents that make your feelings minute. I’m 29 and in therapy I’ve realized my mom has used the tactic of “I’ve done this for you etc,” I had to realize parenting doesn’t mean exploiting your children’s emotions to validating the parents behaviors. Now I’m at a point where i have created boundaries within my family and friends.❤
YES as the oldest in a black family (which im sure alot of people in our community can relate to) it sucked constantly being the scape goat and being responsible for ALOT of things! Soon as i left home i set so many boundaries and alot of them got upset but you know what liyah taught me?? Either respect it or go away PERIOD
The visual, the words. EVERYTHING bout this video is spot on. As we grow the word Accountability presents itself to us. Rather your up for the challenge or not it’s a given. This is how you mature and develop better habits for yourself. You can either be your biggest fan or your biggest hater the choice is up to you. Showing up for yourself is far more important than not showing up at all. This is proof that you are on the right track keep going Liyah ❤
THANK YOU! 🙏🏾 for always being authentic and transparent about life in general this is why I love your content! In a world full of facades this is the content I crave! Raw and real. 🔥
You’re so sweet I’m getting a glimpse of a soft girl that is struggling to balance the emotional world , sometimes we have to take breaks from people in order to come back more stronger and be able to properly address our true emotions good or bad , never knock what you can’t help if you’re a lover girl so be it but make sure someone can teach you to be patient with yourself when your world is falling apart further more they be patient with you
i'm about two months out of a four month mania period (school triggered) and i'm at a point where i notice the change in myself, thoughts, and mood. when problems come up my first response is the regress back to that mania phase, but i consciously know how ridiculous those actions are. when i hit 20 life shifted dramatically. i was already mature for my age, but seeing how others around you don't mature caused me to grow apart from a lot of people. i'm at the point where i can clock bs at first glance. crazy things are happening rn to say the least.
I appreciate you opening up and being vulnerable about this and I’m glad that I’m not the only one who has emotions similar to this cause it always sounds so complicated in my head but then hearing you made you realize that you get it and there are probably other people who get it too
Amen I am currently going through staying consistent with faith, College, health/fitness and with my RUclips so I can get in the algorithm! Trust it more but your not alone !!
Aaliyahhhhh im literally going through the sameeee exact thinggggg omgggg is it because we are both capricorns idk, is it because we are just not realizing a lot and learning ourselves idkkkk but i love ittt keep posting moreeeeee
thank you for this video. a lot of it resonated with me. i’m currently in a relationship and i find myself trauma responding a lot and i have to catch myself and reiterate that it shouldn’t have came off the way it did. i am young, 19 years old and i can tell that this relationship has been the best I’ve been in so far and i just hope that me making myself so vulnerable won’t be something I’ll regret or that’ll leave me hurt. love you bye liyah! like my RUclips big sister ❤
I felt this so much. Every point she hit I was like 😅 ok so I'm glad it's not just me especially with letting things pile up and keeping note. I wouldn't say anything because I was told I was "too honest" and then a different person told me "I'm being too sensitive" then my parents instilled with "authority figures" you don't talk...back...period... and of you do your disrespecting them. So now with this person I feel like Ive established no healthy boundaries for myself and mind you I've been living my life perfecting not doing those 3 things people called me out on. So now I'll blow up (and physically it impacts me-ie; I shake, can't speak straight so I sound confused)* then I feel guilty for being this "Disrespectful sensitive blunt person" and I'll get really sad. It's not healthy because I've literally stopped drinking sonIncan remember each scenerio bc they would gas light me so much. Why I allowwed this to happen? I simply when starting out this relationship which is not romantic but it's was an inevitable...at some point I'm going to build a relationship with this person bc of another person (if you can catch my drift). I didn't have boundaries bc even though I thought I was being guarded I was emotionally immature (which can look different on every person-and being emotionally immature doesn't mean your a jerk it just means you don'thave the right tools to handle certain relationships bc your 1. Either inexperiencedor 2, your just naive and don't think certain people can hurt you) so I would take a bunch of sly insults and when I would address them with the mutual person they would say "oh your looking too much into it." And I can't faukt this person really bc they grew up with this trauma thinking it was ok themselves and it's not. But it wasn't ok...it was never ok. Now here I am punishing myself for being too emotional and now I'm over thinking it so I'm on high alert and I don't want to be gas lit again so I start looking at everything from a tanted view instead of being able to emotionally tell the difference between a sly insult and someone not really meaning to hurt me and thinking everything is ok. There woukd be points were I'd get comfortable and then I'd see something I didn't like and would feel like nope, then they would go to my "brain jail" and I would turn up the defense even higher. Now there is alot more to this but I feel like I've made this comment too long. I was wondering if I should Journal this and let me tell you guys...nightmares...good dreams bad feelings when you start to write them down you start to establish this weird dominance and control of it because now it's not living rent free in your mind and it'snot this super big scary thing that would "end life as you know it" kinda thing. People don't understand but Journaling is intimidating! Your putting your life in a book day to day...and it's alot of trust you have to put in yourself of how HONEST your going to be bc your scared someone will find it etc... I know I'm like this bcI would Journal ALOT day to day when I was younger and I would literally catch my mom with it or she would "confront" me about it. You see how even as a kid again my boundaries were non existant. I already am growing up in hotels where you have 5 people in a room now it's....lol I will seriously keep ya'll reading for too long I'm going to stop and Journal ❤ PS: If Journaling is hard for you, try to start with making lists. It sounds so stupid...but it works wonders.
I’m in my 30s and I feel like I’ve always been invisible to my family my friends that relationships sucks because I know I’m great but I’m too defensive at times I can’t do the soft girl thing and now both my parents are not here on earth that it’s hard making friends and I can honestly say I’m that bitter black woman because I’ve never enjoyed my freedom i don’t know what happy is I’m content I’m always serious and my humor is dry and I feel like I missed out on a lot in life like I sometimes cry because even though I know people struggle but people have someone i don’t and I knew the media is fake but it would be nice to have solid friends that I can be me and I have a son but I want him to be a boy and live and be happy so video is relatable
your transparency will always be my favorite thing about you and your content since day one. showing up and taking up space as you are in this very moment has so much power to it. the fact you’re adapting and facing all these different seasons you’re in head on is so admirable and really shows the inner work you’re doing. so proud of u ❤❤
🥺 you are so sweet. thank you for your kind words and most importantly thank you for being here as i navigate my way through life. it means the world to me having you here to show up for me.
With the going celibate topic, yessss! I just recently made this decision after being participating in hookup culture for about 6 months. It just wasn't fulfilling. I realized that you can't have a "relationship" based off of sex. I also realized that sex without certain qualities that I want in a person isn't worth it.
This video came out at a perfect time I will be 18 tomorrow and I definitely can relate to everything in this video. Being raised in a black household where expressing your feelings is a sign of disrespect, not having any freedom or control over my own life, my parents not believing in therapy and blaming me for reaching out for help which ade me no longer interested in therapy, everything came back to me being a Christian, etc. I am atp in my life where I am going through a huge crisis and having to detach to heal myself. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤
If you need to detach girl go ahead! I personally grew up in a single parent household and I was able to express my feelings without trying to not be disrespectful and I feel like I took that for granted a lot of times. Seeing that a lot of people didn’t grow up with that made me realize that I should be grateful. Just continue talking to God about what you are going through and He will show you which path to take and he will also give you signs of what to do, you just have to take that and be obedient to it. Ask God to give your parent’s patience and ears to listen and to not just hear what you are saying. God bless you girl, stay prayed up and encouraged!❤
I’m an older black woman and there used to be such a bad stigma associated with therapy when I was growing up but it’s accepted way more now. You can be a follower of Jesus and get therapy too. There is SO much more I could say to this but this is the gist of it. 🙏🏾
I’m 23 and I’m just now starting to set boundaries for my parents yet I’m still see as a child rather than an individual in my household. It is draining at times but I’m practicing as I go about expressing my feelings and I’m learning how to be vulnerable more as seen from everyone as “nonchalant” to certain situations
I’m going through the weird phase between childhood and adulthood, that weird overwhelming feeling after you turn 18 and realize all the possibilities you now have access to but still feeling like a child at the same time
Thank you for being so real with us ! I been following you since I was 18 and living with my parents. Currently 22 now. I realized I picked up a lot of traits from my mom and slowly began to realize it was toxic. I don’t blame it on them since we all grew up differently. However, I ended up working on myself and changing myself for peace. ❤
i relate so much, its scary. im 19 and i’ve recently started therapy. ive been dealing with the same battles trying to heal and grow into a young self loving black woman despite things i went through in my childhood. know your not alone girl❤
Ever since I became aware of where some of my trauma stems from ( friends , family , relationships) I have became very closed off from people. And I feel like on top of healing from my truma I’m forced to also relearn how to navigate my relationship with people cause I feel like I have a barrier that closes myself off from others & It’s just a lot. But thank you for sharing. ❤️
Thank you for this! I’m literally going through the same thing , and therapy has helped me TREMENDOUSLY!! I feel like I’m now able to notice things about myself that I wasn’t aware of before. I’m at a point in my life where I just want to take care of me and be alone for a while. I feel like doing this, when the time comes for a romantic partner i’m my best self! You’re one of my favorite youtubers!! Continue to do what’s best for you, Love u girl! 🤍
I got divorced four months ago. I was married at 18 and it only lasted two years. He was emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically abusive but not too badly. I realized that the “not too badly” statement was due to the physical abuse my dad did to me and my siblings until I was nine years old. I was comfortable with the trauma and misery, it felt like I deserved the shitty treatment. He cheated and kicked me out and I got therapy. Needed a huge fucking reality check. I’ve been celibate for three months now just figuring out me. I needed this video. Been watching your content for years now but this one I feel called out for. Thank you
so proud of you for taking the initiative to regain control of your life, I pray you're strengthened in this time and your healing journey is one filled with grace and love! ❤❤
i love that you talked about how being sensitive is okay because i used to think that being sensistive means that you are a weak minded individual in reality its quite the opposite. so thankyou so much for speakin on that. -Lani
You literally inspired me to get locs😭, with growing up I’ve always heard that your hair had to be “done” in order for me to look pretty ”hair is temporary, swag is forever ”🗣️🗣️🗣️
fw this vibe so much!! 🖤 thanks for sharing and letting us hear you, u def not alone i been in a rut myself especially not being able to express creatively.. eh life
I love your personality and authenticity. Never stop being you, it’s okay to be open about your feelings and who you are! I relate to you so much it’s crazy lmao. -January Capricorn 💕
you’ve always been so authentic, and thatttt right there is why i fell in love with you/your channel. and i’ve noticed you’ve became comfortable with your authenticity, became comfortable with you, & comfortable with what your needs are. continue being free mama, continue doing the things that please you. your words are so powerful aaliyah, and you don’t even realize it. literally magical honestly. i love you sweetheart
One thing I love is when I watch a video from you I get motivated to get my shit together, you radiate such beautiful and graceful energy. The type of energy that says “I love myself and constantly bettering myself, I just love me” ❤
I absolutely loved this video and resonated with it so much because you don't realize how much trauma is a factor in your life. If you don't address, you trauma you become your trauma and attract things that are not for you or of you. I had to learn and still learning till this day, to never let someone tell your story and to continue working on yourself growth. I have been working on myself growth and I'm happy at the improvements that I see. I love this video so much Aaliyah and I'm happy to see where this discovery will take you.
I’ve resonated with a lot with this video and love that you put this out there for all of us to see. I’ve felt alone and recently got out of of a relationship and I’m learning who I am all over again. I pour so much of myself into others and I’ve been focusing on things that make me happy. Setting those boundaries with people trying to get/come back in my life. I wasn’t really realizing what I was doing til I was watching and was like “omg I did that” it made me realize the growth may not appear big to you but it is happening. Keep doing what you do, been watching for years 💗
I am 19 yrs old and I can definitely relate with this video. I’ve been in therapy since I was 5 yrs old and recently I’ve been told I have to break Generation Curses which is incredibly hard to do if there are a lot in my case and you don’t know exactly what they are sometimes. I want to better myself as a person and not be stuck at the same level with people who refuse to grow. I’ve tried to be grounded and connect with nature but those people seem to force themselves in my space and put there energy onto me. Stresses me the hell out
i’ve been watching you since you started and we’re the same age so i’ve pretty much grown up with you lol since hs. and somehow we always manage to be at similar points in our lives as we mature and grow. i am also currently seeking therapy and try to unlearn bad habits and past traumas and trying to grow from them. this video was needed! i feel, hear, and see you!
GIRLLLLLL, what you was describing in the beginning, whew I relate so badddd, so bad. One of my closest best friends had to tell me that herself, that whenever we tell each other what’s an issue in the friendship, I bring up things from months ago that I kept to myself. And it hit me about a month or two ago that I do, do that and I’m trying to change with that. I know deep down that a lot of that comes from keeping in how I feel from my family and I know now that I’m changing as the weeks go by. I’m really am going to get a therapist cause I’ve noticed half way through 19 and being 20 now I feel like I’m just now opening up to people that are close to me, and actually saying how I feel😭
These are the videos I’ve missed. I’ve always watched you because I can always relate to what you have to say. No matter what it is. I’m at a point in my life where I do not think I’m as emotionally available as I once was to continue a partnership and it is one of the hardest things to say. Simply because I do not want to experience the emotion of “the one that got away” .. thank you ❤
literally going the same thing. once you move out of your home, you really do realize how much of the norm growing up was really toxic asl. freshman year of college was too much for me lmaoo im def taking this summer to spend time to work on myself and goals.
thank you so much for uploading this i actually needed to hear this. I relate to the never being alone portion but at the time i didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
i literally relate to this so much ,just recently I had such a moment where I was hurt but I brushed it off by saying it's okay when it wasn't and I just made the decision to not walk with the feeling because it was bothering me,and I then told the person how I felt and we resolved the matter ,but thank you aaliyah truly appreciate you sis❤️❤️
I genuinely can relate to this, I'm in college and I'm dealing with a crisis when it comes to my sanity right now. Not only due to being stressed out in college, but it's also due to my trauma in my childhood.
Hey Aaliyah, my name is Jayla and I'm 24, I'm going through something similar like a disconnect with myself and this video helped me quite a bit because i have been looking to go to therapy while in school so I really do thank you
i keep coming back to this video just because of how relatable it is. it's reassuring to know that other people go through similar things but it's rewarding to hear different perspectives on it and to learn about what you've been doing to cope & how you've been implementing new habits that make sense for you and what you want to work on at this point in your life. i really resonate with the feeling of being in '"crisis" but not with identity. how conflicting it is to have a good grasp on what you want for your future and who you're working to become but to feel at odds with your present self. taking steps towards becoming your best self is of course great but in the moment it can be hard and it absolutely requires a lot of discipline which again can be hard to fully master as a young adult just beginning to live on their own and wanting to face their self without your parents intervening. thank you, aaliyah for sharing
I don't usually comment but I really needed this, ive been treating myself like shit in all aspects and im trying my hardest to break old habits, im 19 and I don't wanna go into my early adult years with bad habits that never did me any good.
My mom says I’m to emotional when I talk about my emotions or I let ppl walk all over me and I don’t like that because I know when I start being adult learning responsibility I’ll be stable but she doesn’t wanna listen. I love her but she not taking me seriously and it’s making me question my personality and Ik I’m a good person Ik I love myself so it’s hard not having your family on the same level as you.
As I Capricorn, I felt this whole video 😩. I’m working on a lot of the stuff you brought up, though it isn’t easy now I know it will get much better sooner than later! P.S. I’m so proud of you liyah, I’m very thankful for coming across your yt during covid. You have no idea how much you’ve helped, I love youuu!
What you’re feeling is you’re experiencing a spiritual journey. Self awareness and trying to heal certain things you and I and many others have experienced this some are going through it and other haven’t yet but we are meant to break generational cycles of trauma and change it for the new generation meaning your children and change and create a new legacy of Gods Children. You are called but some may not accept the call all I can say is accept the call it is hard but worth it. God is taking you places nobody can come with you and join just you and him. The lord had called you .
Literally this was my sign! Been dating for a while but they all end up ending the same and I think I just need to be alone and grow. Thankssss girlie 💕
aaliyah omg ilysm u don’t understand i love watching all ur videos and seeing how much u have matured and to see u in ur adulthood and expressing ur womanhood and just seeing u grow every video. i love ur vibe ur energy is immaculate keep doin u boo god bless 🫶🏽 it’s great to have u back 😘
i always come back to this video and watch it over and over because of now much it feels like my future self is looking down on my past you explain so many topics that i can relate to and you break them down so well that i can understand things a little better and i truly need it now not to just fight through it until im on my own but to understand and grow early on, thank you ❤
omg i can totally relate about not wanting to open up. I been having problems with myself about opening up about my feelings, 100% to friends, family or even at my job because i’ve always felt like someone will have negative things to say about how i feel because of my mom and how she never let me express my feelings and she’s the reason why i always have to hold in my feelings until it builds up, like what you just said in your video and i loved the fact that you are literally on the same page as me and im 23 😭, and it’s so harddddd to just open up because the fear of the negativity and sometimes i feel like it does block my blessings from job opportunities or even friendships/relationships because i didn’t speak up but im learning😂… however i appreciate you sharing that feeling, i always thought it was weird or something idk
Thanks for this. I found out recently about " trauma anniversaries " I forgot about this situation a year ago but now remember it because of the time line. Now that I am a bit older I understand why I put myself into that situation. Being a kid and not realizing I was using sexual interactions to escape my problems of being in a black single mom house is not a good feeling and I wish some people would see this and know that it's not worth the pain and the mistakes you might make. Also I can definitely relate to the whole moving sex out of the equation and etc. Anyways this is getting long but I needed this today thank you girl
i loved your vulnerability..i have a little issue with your audio tho, these past few videos have been low are you able to turn it up a little bit while editing? ily
you’re the second person to say this. i’ve been using my macbook to edit, so i’m assuming there’s where the issue is. i will most definitely adjust the audio next time. thank you for your feedback. :*
This video seriously spoke to me. I’ve been on the same thing regarding fasting from things that don’t serve me. I fell off a little bit and I’m feeling hella guilty about it. But just from watching the intro I’m back at it!
U stick because of this, the rawness it’s always the right time love who u are becoming 🦋 love where you been grateful I’m on for the ride. If u ever had a meet n greet I would actually go
Trust me i get the growing up with black parents that make your feelings minute. I’m 29 and in therapy I’ve realized my mom has used the tactic of “I’ve done this for you etc,” I had to realize parenting doesn’t mean exploiting your children’s emotions to validating the parents behaviors. Now I’m at a point where i have created boundaries within my family and friends.❤
YES as the oldest in a black family (which im sure alot of people in our community can relate to) it sucked constantly being the scape goat and being responsible for ALOT of things! Soon as i left home i set so many boundaries and alot of them got upset but you know what liyah taught me?? Either respect it or go away PERIOD
The visual, the words. EVERYTHING bout this video is spot on. As we grow the word Accountability presents itself to us. Rather your up for the challenge or not it’s a given. This is how you mature and develop better habits for yourself. You can either be your biggest fan or your biggest hater the choice is up to you. Showing up for yourself is far more important than not showing up at all. This is proof that you are on the right track keep going Liyah ❤
THANK YOU! 🙏🏾 for always being authentic and transparent about life in general this is why I love your content! In a world full of facades this is the content I crave! Raw and real. 🔥
Im boutta cry cause ive been feeling the same lately🥹 im so happy i found this video
You’re so sweet I’m getting a glimpse of a soft girl that is struggling to balance the emotional world , sometimes we have to take breaks from people in order to come back more stronger and be able to properly address our true emotions good or bad , never knock what you can’t help if you’re a lover girl so be it but make sure someone can teach you to be patient with yourself when your world is falling apart further more they be patient with you
i'm about two months out of a four month mania period (school triggered) and i'm at a point where i notice the change in myself, thoughts, and mood. when problems come up my first response is the regress back to that mania phase, but i consciously know how ridiculous those actions are. when i hit 20 life shifted dramatically. i was already mature for my age, but seeing how others around you don't mature caused me to grow apart from a lot of people. i'm at the point where i can clock bs at first glance. crazy things are happening rn to say the least.
I appreciate you opening up and being vulnerable about this and I’m glad that I’m not the only one who has emotions similar to this cause it always sounds so complicated in my head but then hearing you made you realize that you get it and there are probably other people who get it too
Amen I am currently going through staying consistent with faith, College, health/fitness and with my RUclips so I can get in the algorithm! Trust it more but your not alone !!
Aaliyahhhhh im literally going through the sameeee exact thinggggg omgggg is it because we are both capricorns idk, is it because we are just not realizing a lot and learning ourselves idkkkk but i love ittt keep posting moreeeeee
thank you for this video. a lot of it resonated with me. i’m currently in a relationship and i find myself trauma responding a lot and i have to catch myself and reiterate that it shouldn’t have came off the way it did. i am young, 19 years old and i can tell that this relationship has been the best I’ve been in so far and i just hope that me making myself so vulnerable won’t be something I’ll regret or that’ll leave me hurt. love you bye liyah! like my RUclips big sister ❤
I felt this so much. Every point she hit I was like 😅 ok so I'm glad it's not just me especially with letting things pile up and keeping note. I wouldn't say anything because I was told I was "too honest" and then a different person told me "I'm being too sensitive" then my parents instilled with "authority figures" you don't talk...back...period... and of you do your disrespecting them. So now with this person I feel like Ive established no healthy boundaries for myself and mind you I've been living my life perfecting not doing those 3 things people called me out on. So now I'll blow up (and physically it impacts me-ie; I shake, can't speak straight so I sound confused)* then I feel guilty for being this "Disrespectful sensitive blunt person" and I'll get really sad. It's not healthy because I've literally stopped drinking sonIncan remember each scenerio bc they would gas light me so much.
Why I allowwed this to happen?
I simply when starting out this relationship which is not romantic but it's was an inevitable...at some point I'm going to build a relationship with this person bc of another person (if you can catch my drift).
I didn't have boundaries bc even though I thought I was being guarded I was emotionally immature (which can look different on every person-and being emotionally immature doesn't mean your a jerk it just means you don'thave the right tools to handle certain relationships bc your 1. Either inexperiencedor 2, your just naive and don't think certain people can hurt you) so I would take a bunch of sly insults and when I would address them with the mutual person they would say "oh your looking too much into it." And I can't faukt this person really bc they grew up with this trauma thinking it was ok themselves and it's not. But it wasn't ok...it was never ok. Now here I am punishing myself for being too emotional and now I'm over thinking it so I'm on high alert and I don't want to be gas lit again so I start looking at everything from a tanted view instead of being able to emotionally tell the difference between a sly insult and someone not really meaning to hurt me and thinking everything is ok. There woukd be points were I'd get comfortable and then I'd see something I didn't like and would feel like nope, then they would go to my "brain jail" and I would turn up the defense even higher.
Now there is alot more to this but I feel like I've made this comment too long. I was wondering if I should Journal this and let me tell you guys...nightmares...good dreams bad feelings when you start to write them down you start to establish this weird dominance and control of it because now it's not living rent free in your mind and it'snot this super big scary thing that would "end life as you know it" kinda thing.
People don't understand but Journaling is intimidating! Your putting your life in a book day to day...and it's alot of trust you have to put in yourself of how HONEST your going to be bc your scared someone will find it etc...
I know I'm like this bcI would Journal ALOT day to day when I was younger and I would literally catch my mom with it or she would "confront" me about it.
You see how even as a kid again my boundaries were non existant. I already am growing up in hotels where you have 5 people in a room now it's....lol I will seriously keep ya'll reading for too long I'm going to stop and Journal ❤
PS: If Journaling is hard for you, try to start with making lists. It sounds so stupid...but it works wonders.
I’m in my 30s and I feel like I’ve always been invisible to my family my friends that relationships sucks because I know I’m great but I’m too defensive at times I can’t do the soft girl thing and now both my parents are not here on earth that it’s hard making friends and I can honestly say I’m that bitter black woman because I’ve never enjoyed my freedom i don’t know what happy is I’m content I’m always serious and my humor is dry and I feel like I missed out on a lot in life like I sometimes cry because even though I know people struggle but people have someone i don’t and I knew the media is fake but it would be nice to have solid friends that I can be me and I have a son but I want him to be a boy and live and be happy so video is relatable
of course the title caught my attention. bad women energy
you know i’m a bad ting
Byeee cause we are literally at the same stage of our life ❤❤❤
very much needed this video i love you so muchh and thank u
for helping me thru your videos
I love you so much💕
i love you so muchhhh
thank you for this❤️you were called to make this video for a reason. you touched my heart.
i love your life !
spoken with such elegance and purity. you will work through your trauma. I believe in you!
such a coincidence seeing you here. i just finished your recent upload.
i love you lots bby 🤍
your transparency will always be my favorite thing about you and your content since day one. showing up and taking up space as you are in this very moment has so much power to it. the fact you’re adapting and facing all these different seasons you’re in head on is so admirable and really shows the inner work you’re doing. so proud of u ❤❤
somebody must be cutting onions round’ here
🥺 you are so sweet. thank you for your kind words and most importantly thank you for being here as i navigate my way through life. it means the world to me having you here to show up for me.
@@liyahlisorry babes but I couldn’t go on w/ out acknowledging your growth love you down
@@liyahli now look whose cutting onions 🥺 ❤️you’re so welcome!
can’t begin to explain the speed i clicked this at🤣
😂😂😂
Me too I love me some liyahhhhh!
Perfect timing too😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂couldn't have said it better
I swear🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
With the going celibate topic, yessss! I just recently made this decision after being participating in hookup culture for about 6 months. It just wasn't fulfilling. I realized that you can't have a "relationship" based off of sex. I also realized that sex without certain qualities that I want in a person isn't worth it.
this resonated so much with me and I'm glad you decided to shared this because you deserve to take up space here :)
glad to have you here bby
This video came out at a perfect time I will be 18 tomorrow and I definitely can relate to everything in this video. Being raised in a black household where expressing your feelings is a sign of disrespect, not having any freedom or control over my own life, my parents not believing in therapy and blaming me for reaching out for help which ade me no longer interested in therapy, everything came back to me being a Christian, etc. I am atp in my life where I am going through a huge crisis and having to detach to heal myself. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤
If you need to detach girl go ahead! I personally grew up in a single parent household and I was able to express my feelings without trying to not be disrespectful and I feel like I took that for granted a lot of times. Seeing that a lot of people didn’t grow up with that made me realize that I should be grateful. Just continue talking to God about what you are going through and He will show you which path to take and he will also give you signs of what to do, you just have to take that and be obedient to it. Ask God to give your parent’s patience and ears to listen and to not just hear what you are saying. God bless you girl, stay prayed up and encouraged!❤
@@Nominaze Thank you so much for this!!!
Proverbs 17:1 is probably my most favorite scripture to run to!
I’m an older black woman and there used to be such a bad stigma associated with therapy when I was growing up but it’s accepted way more now. You can be a follower of Jesus and get therapy too. There is SO much more I could say to this but this is the gist of it. 🙏🏾
I’m 23 and I’m just now starting to set boundaries for my parents yet I’m still see as a child rather than an individual in my household. It is draining at times but I’m practicing as I go about expressing my feelings and I’m learning how to be vulnerable more as seen from everyone as “nonchalant” to certain situations
I’m going through the weird phase between childhood and adulthood, that weird overwhelming feeling after you turn 18 and realize all the possibilities you now have access to but still feeling like a child at the same time
Thank you for being so real with us ! I been following you since I was 18 and living with my parents. Currently 22 now. I realized I picked up a lot of traits from my mom and slowly began to realize it was toxic. I don’t blame it on them since we all grew up differently. However, I ended up working on myself and changing myself for peace. ❤
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i relate so much, its scary. im 19 and i’ve recently started therapy. ive been dealing with the same battles trying to heal and grow into a young self loving black woman despite things i went through in my childhood. know your not alone girl❤
Ever since I became aware of where some of my trauma stems from ( friends , family , relationships) I have became very closed off from people. And I feel like on top of healing from my truma I’m forced to also relearn how to navigate my relationship with people cause I feel like I have a barrier that closes myself off from others & It’s just a lot. But thank you for sharing. ❤️
Thank you for this! I’m literally going through the same thing , and therapy has helped me TREMENDOUSLY!! I feel like I’m now able to notice things about myself that I wasn’t aware of before. I’m at a point in my life where I just want to take care of me and be alone for a while. I feel like doing this, when the time comes for a romantic partner i’m my best self! You’re one of my favorite youtubers!! Continue to do what’s best for you, Love u girl! 🤍
I got divorced four months ago. I was married at 18 and it only lasted two years. He was emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically abusive but not too badly. I realized that the “not too badly” statement was due to the physical abuse my dad did to me and my siblings until I was nine years old. I was comfortable with the trauma and misery, it felt like I deserved the shitty treatment. He cheated and kicked me out and I got therapy. Needed a huge fucking reality check. I’ve been celibate for three months now just figuring out me. I needed this video. Been watching your content for years now but this one I feel called out for. Thank you
Natalie, I don’t know who you are, but im so glad you’re out of that situation and in a better place. May all good things come your way in the future❤
so proud of you for taking the initiative to regain control of your life, I pray you're strengthened in this time and your healing journey is one filled with grace and love! ❤❤
I’m so sorry to have go through that! You deserve happiness and unconditional love! Rooting for you for sure💕💕
i love that you talked about how being sensitive is okay because i used to think that being sensistive means that you are a weak minded individual in reality its quite the opposite. so thankyou so much for speakin on that. -Lani
This is perfect timing bc I just came to realization of what emotional neglect really do to us in our adulthood 😢
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You literally inspired me to get locs😭, with growing up I’ve always heard that your hair had to be “done” in order for me to look pretty
”hair is temporary, swag is forever ”🗣️🗣️🗣️
fw this vibe so much!! 🖤 thanks for sharing and letting us hear you, u def not alone i been in a rut myself especially not being able to express creatively.. eh life
I love your personality and authenticity. Never stop being you, it’s okay to be open about your feelings and who you are! I relate to you so much it’s crazy lmao. -January Capricorn 💕
you’ve always been so authentic, and thatttt right there is why i fell in love with you/your channel. and i’ve noticed you’ve became comfortable with your authenticity, became comfortable with you, & comfortable with what your needs are. continue being free mama, continue doing the things that please you. your words are so powerful aaliyah, and you don’t even realize it. literally magical honestly. i love you sweetheart
One thing I love is when I watch a video from you I get motivated to get my shit together, you radiate such beautiful and graceful energy. The type of energy that says “I love myself and constantly bettering myself, I just love me” ❤
I absolutely loved this video and resonated with it so much because you don't realize how much trauma is a factor in your life. If you don't address, you trauma you become your trauma and attract things that are not for you or of you. I had to learn and still learning till this day, to never let someone tell your story and to continue working on yourself growth. I have been working on myself growth and I'm happy at the improvements that I see. I love this video so much Aaliyah and I'm happy to see where this discovery will take you.
I’ve resonated with a lot with this video and love that you put this out there for all of us to see. I’ve felt alone and recently got out of of a relationship and I’m learning who I am all over again. I pour so much of myself into others and I’ve been focusing on things that make me happy. Setting those boundaries with people trying to get/come back in my life. I wasn’t really realizing what I was doing til I was watching and was like “omg I did that” it made me realize the growth may not appear big to you but it is happening. Keep doing what you do, been watching for years 💗
putting yourself first is hard, i’m so proud you’re following through. you are more than deserving.
I appreciate it a lot. wishing nothing but the best for your journey 💗
I am 19 yrs old and I can definitely relate with this video. I’ve been in therapy since I was 5 yrs old and recently I’ve been told I have to break Generation Curses which is incredibly hard to do if there are a lot in my case and you don’t know exactly what they are sometimes. I want to better myself as a person and not be stuck at the same level with people who refuse to grow. I’ve tried to be grounded and connect with nature but those people seem to force themselves in my space and put there energy onto me. Stresses me the hell out
Your young in age but so wise beyond your years . I love the transparency. This came right on time ❤
This literally just explained me, I haven’t even finished the video. I appreciate you being vulnerable with us, I know it wasn’t easy!!
I resonate soooooo much. Sending you love 🫶🏽
This video makes me wanna to finally get therapy and not be afraid of healing! Thank you for being so transparent about your experiences 💗
one of my fav kendrick songs yess, but love seeing you upload
i’ve been watching you since you started and we’re the same age so i’ve pretty much grown up with you lol since hs. and somehow we always manage to be at similar points in our lives as we mature and grow. i am also currently seeking therapy and try to unlearn bad habits and past traumas and trying to grow from them. this video was needed! i feel, hear, and see you!
The fact that I’m going through the same thing right now. This is just what I needed to hear !🫶🏾 I love you!!💕
GIRLLLLLL, what you was describing in the beginning, whew I relate so badddd, so bad. One of my closest best friends had to tell me that herself, that whenever we tell each other what’s an issue in the friendship, I bring up things from months ago that I kept to myself. And it hit me about a month or two ago that I do, do that and I’m trying to change with that. I know deep down that a lot of that comes from keeping in how I feel from my family and I know now that I’m changing as the weeks go by. I’m really am going to get a therapist cause I’ve noticed half way through 19 and being 20 now I feel like I’m just now opening up to people that are close to me, and actually saying how I feel😭
As a Taurus I’m Requesting everyone to Check on y’all Capricorn peers🫶🏻
These are the videos I’ve missed. I’ve always watched you because I can always relate to what you have to say. No matter what it is. I’m at a point in my life where I do not think I’m as emotionally available as I once was to continue a partnership and it is one of the hardest things to say. Simply because I do not want to experience the emotion of “the one that got away” .. thank you ❤
literally going the same thing. once you move out of your home, you really do realize how much of the norm growing up was really toxic asl. freshman year of college was too much for me lmaoo im def taking this summer to spend time to work on myself and goals.
Being cute does make it harder , but seriously I can relate with the childhood trauma specifically
Girl, are we living the same life omggggg
thank you so much for uploading this i actually needed to hear this. I relate to the never being alone portion but at the time i didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
i literally relate to this so much ,just recently I had such a moment where I was hurt but I brushed it off by saying it's okay when it wasn't and I just made the decision to not walk with the feeling because it was bothering me,and I then told the person how I felt and we resolved the matter ,but thank you aaliyah truly appreciate you sis❤️❤️
i needed to hear thissss . thank you so much for sharing 🥹
I genuinely can relate to this, I'm in college and I'm dealing with a crisis when it comes to my sanity right now. Not only due to being stressed out in college, but it's also due to my trauma in my childhood.
she’s so beautiful . 🥹
Hey Aaliyah, my name is Jayla and I'm 24, I'm going through something similar like a disconnect with myself and this video helped me quite a bit because i have been looking to go to therapy while in school so I really do thank you
i keep coming back to this video just because of how relatable it is. it's reassuring to know that other people go through similar things but it's rewarding to hear different perspectives on it and to learn about what you've been doing to cope & how you've been implementing new habits that make sense for you and what you want to work on at this point in your life. i really resonate with the feeling of being in '"crisis" but not with identity. how conflicting it is to have a good grasp on what you want for your future and who you're working to become but to feel at odds with your present self. taking steps towards becoming your best self is of course great but in the moment it can be hard and it absolutely requires a lot of discipline which again can be hard to fully master as a young adult just beginning to live on their own and wanting to face their self without your parents intervening. thank you, aaliyah for sharing
I don't usually comment but I really needed this, ive been treating myself like shit in all aspects and im trying my hardest to break old habits, im 19 and I don't wanna go into my early adult years with bad habits that never did me any good.
i connected with this so much 🥺 i love just hearing you speak ! sending you a virtual hug. i love you so much !
My mom says I’m to emotional when I talk about my emotions or I let ppl walk all over me and I don’t like that because I know when I start being adult learning responsibility I’ll be stable but she doesn’t wanna listen. I love her but she not taking me seriously and it’s making me question my personality and Ik I’m a good person Ik I love myself so it’s hard not having your family on the same level as you.
As I Capricorn, I felt this whole video 😩. I’m working on a lot of the stuff you brought up, though it isn’t easy now I know it will get much better sooner than later!
P.S. I’m so proud of you liyah, I’m very thankful for coming across your yt during covid. You have no idea how much you’ve helped, I love youuu!
Thank you for sharing, it is so relatable and comforting! Cheers to emotional growth!
your hair does look so good 😩 thank you for sharing this with us
🥰Sometimes I wish I was "That Girl" in her life to be able to experience her love and beautiful mind😢💔
11:20 literally! i know i could go deep in the covno and ive settled for so much surface level ppl without even noticing ;(
i feel like a proud mama every time i see you post. so happy for you and your success 🥹🩷
19 turning 20 in august feeling the exact same way! Time to actually enjoy my young years!
Pls The wall art is too hardd!!!
these videos feel like such a safe place, i've been journaling in order to keep myself in check when i need to be realistic about my actions/emotions
I love your vibeeee🤍 what kind of camera do you use? It’s giving camcorder/vintage vibes and I’m here for it !!
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What you’re feeling is you’re experiencing a spiritual journey. Self awareness and trying to heal certain things you and I and many others have experienced this some are going through it and other haven’t yet but we are meant to break generational cycles of trauma and change it for the new generation meaning your children and change and create a new legacy of Gods Children. You are called but some may not accept the call all I can say is accept the call it is hard but worth it. God is taking you places nobody can come with you and join just you and him. The lord had called you .
Literally this was my sign! Been dating for a while but they all end up ending the same and I think I just need to be alone and grow. Thankssss girlie 💕
aaliyah omg ilysm u don’t understand i love watching all ur videos and seeing how much u have matured and to see u in ur adulthood and expressing ur womanhood and just seeing u grow every video. i love ur vibe ur energy is immaculate keep doin u boo god bless 🫶🏽 it’s great to have u back 😘
that black household statement is true!
i always come back to this video and watch it over and over because of now much it feels like my future self is looking down on my past you explain so many topics that i can relate to and you break them down so well that i can understand things a little better and i truly need it now not to just fight through it until im on my own but to understand and grow early on, thank you ❤
You’re so right, in your growing up household effects relationships and I see that now
I feel like i’m currently in the space where i’m anti therapist, when did you have that switch? what made you go, “mmhmm maybe i do need help”?
This resonated so much thank you for posting this 💜💜🫶🏽
What I will say about me and miss Li … we have our distance from time to time but always line up in the same situations 😊😮
Aaliyah,
I love and appreciate your channel.
You are valued ❤
love that jordan ward song!!! Thank you for sharing your perspective, these videos are my comfort
youuu are so pretty 🥹🥹🥹 and i love you and your transparency 😩 thank you!
omg i can totally relate about not wanting to open up. I been having problems with myself about opening up about my feelings, 100% to friends, family or even at my job because i’ve always felt like someone will have negative things to say about how i feel because of my mom and how she never let me express my feelings and she’s the reason why i always have to hold in my feelings until it builds up, like what you just said in your video and i loved the fact that you are literally on the same page as me and im 23 😭, and it’s so harddddd to just open up because the fear of the negativity and sometimes i feel like it does block my blessings from job opportunities or even friendships/relationships because i didn’t speak up but im learning😂… however i appreciate you sharing that feeling, i always thought it was weird or something idk
Your videos brighten my day
thank you so much for showing this, for the past few weeks I’ve been in a similar space, u speak to the soul ⭐️
From the soul to the soul😊😊
@@user333happyvibes love ur videos, keep going love :)
Thanks for this. I found out recently about " trauma anniversaries " I forgot about this situation a year ago but now remember it because of the time line. Now that I am a bit older I understand why I put myself into that situation. Being a kid and not realizing I was using sexual interactions to escape my problems of being in a black single mom house is not a good feeling and I wish some people would see this and know that it's not worth the pain and the mistakes you might make. Also I can definitely relate to the whole moving sex out of the equation and etc. Anyways this is getting long but I needed this today thank you girl
so glad i saw this video, you are so right with therapy! i found it’s helped me figure out myself and identity.
i loved your vulnerability..i have a little issue with your audio tho, these past few videos have been low are you able to turn it up a little bit while editing? ily
you’re the second person to say this. i’ve been using my macbook to edit, so i’m assuming there’s where the issue is. i will most definitely adjust the audio next time. thank you for your feedback. :*
I love you girl
This video seriously spoke to me. I’ve been on the same thing regarding fasting from things that don’t serve me. I fell off a little bit and I’m feeling hella guilty about it. But just from watching the intro I’m back at it!
omg your wall is pretty, how did you do it ?
U stick because of this, the rawness it’s always the right time love who u are becoming 🦋 love where you been grateful I’m on for the ride. If u ever had a meet n greet I would actually go
tryna keep the balance im staying strongggg