Right? I listen while I work but I grabbed my phone and enlarged the screen waiting to see the photo as well. Why talk about it if she doesn't share it? She could've edited that part out.
"My friend slowed down to accommodate her, so I slowed down too." ...so it took this guys friend having more compassion for his pregnant wife than he was showing to slow down for her? I have no words.
The whole time, I kept thinking, he needs to go kick rocks. I wish she could transfer her pregnancy to him. Then let's see how he would feel. I hope she got away from him.
That one's gotta be fake, which is likely also the real reason it was deleted. There's too much blind stupidity that it can't be anything but rage-bait. Reinforced by the fact that OP was combative in the comments; troll behaviour.
If she stays with him I hope a day comes where he needs her sympathy and support and she gives back what he gave to her. And I hope he gains weight and can’t keep up
For the last story: postpartum rage is a real thing. Your hormones are fuuuuuuucked after giving birth, you're not getting any sleep, you're constantly drained/hungry/thirsty from breast feeding... I also have a shit relationship with my inlaws and honestly I can see where just snapping is a really possibility.
Yes, you are more snappy after giving birth. Even if I wasn’t postpartum and someone talked bad about me for months, then slap me and insulted me at the same after giving my food away, I would likely snap too.
I’m 7 months pregnant and from like a month in my partner started panicking anytime I walk up the stairs “too fast” that man is unhinged someone rescue her
@@blackgirlmagiccomg my husband was the same when I was pregnant. He was so worried about my well being. That girl needs to RUN because that man sounds insane.
She didn’t assault his mother, she defended herself. The mother hit her first. And yes it was „only“ the stomach, but she hit her! Plus she has a newborn, so she probably didn’t feel good physically anyways, and he didn’t say it she had a c-section or not. If she had a c-section, hitting her on the stomach could have serious consequences and is way worse than a punch to the face!
I'm gonna assume it was a natural birth unless it says so, but I'm sorry op is not the ahole, if she had done nothing, husband was already on the way to defending her and kicking the mom out anyway, but if you full on punch my mother enough to bleed given op's history then yeah he needs some space for both of them, I bet the wife would have done the same thing anyway if he chose to leave
For story 2: I was expecting a traditional, glittery sari. The sari is actually really plain in comparison to the discription of the wedding dress. The bride is just mean.
I'm sure they don't want to believe the brother would do something this hurtful, but my guess is that he just didn't think it through and got a little lazy or wanted to keep the prank going at first. I'm sure he realized he fucked up when family found up and so he came up with the bullshit story that OP did it. However, I feel like it's unrealistic to think he was initially being evil. I think he thought it was a fun prank, but knew it would be too hurtful to sister, so he did it behind her back, then he got lazy and didn't want to do the work of transporting the gnomes back when the fun part was over, or he wanted to keep the prank going, then there was no going back once family found out because he fucked up and didn't take care of things sooner. He should have come clean then, but his dumb prank fucked over his sister who has a dead SO with some kind of dark story, so it was easier to blame OP than take responsibility, because after all, it's not HIS fault OP threw them away. He was just being silly and SHE fucked it up... or at least that's what he convinced himself.
This pregnancy story is infuriating me!! A womans circulation changes during pregnancy!!! Thats why she was pale and not feeling well!!! Not because she gained a few. (i am a nurse and used to work in obgyn okay) Of course she is tired. Her body is growing a human body. I am shook
Right?! Just by being pregnant she’s expending extra energy. Then hiking with essentially a 15 lb pack in her stomach. Imagine how much of an ass he’ll be after birth, when she “can’t use pregnancy as an excuse for being out of shape”, and insists she exercises but ignores the fact that breastfeeding burns 500-700 calories a day 😅
THANK YOU! The blood volume increases and your heart and lungs work so much harder during pregnancy. Been there, done that. I'm a petite woman and was 95lbs when I got pregnant and 125 when I delivered, it was HARD and I had to get induced a month early and get steroid shots in my butt because they knew I would need to deliver early. My baby was only 4lbs at birth and it hurt just to breathe at 7-8 months.
@@heatherk1700the first trimester I slept so much, I didn't work the first trimester because I was so exhausted. That's completely normal and I hope it gets better for you once you hit 12-13 weeks Momma!❤
For the gnome story I feel like the sister could VERY easily ask for security footage from where the locker is to find out whether her brother or the OP took the boxes of items. Feel so bad for them that her brother was so reckless with irreplaceable items to her and she currently isn't even really knowing he is really at fault for her hurt.
*S1:Narcissist v. Pregnancy -* My Dr. told my (future ex) husband that *”a pregnant woman’s body works harder while **_asleep_** than everyone else’s does all day long.* _[feel free to use that if + when “someone” complains]_
I looked up the last story out of curiosity to see if there had been any updates since recording: OP clarified that his mom BACKHANDED his wife's stomach and that the hit was LOUD ENOUGH FOR HIM TO HEAR ACROSS THE ROOM. This wasn't some playful little bop, as evidenced by her being doubled over in pain afterwards, and he still has the gall to say the mom "didn't hit her that hard". Not to mention other commenters on the post mentioning how stretched out and thin the abdominal muscles get during pregnancy, and that there's a chance the mother may have been wearing rings during the slap and may not be that small of a woman herself, and how the wife was doubled over in pain after but was still forced to walk around to pack for herself and the baby and then out to find the two of them somewhere to stay. In short, OP really doesn't deserve another chance. His whole "redemption" is him going "but here's why my trauma brain made me do this" and not really considering what his wife went through or her own trauma.
Right, he absolutely does not deserve another chance. I didn't think it was fair to keep saying that the wife assaulted her mother-in-law, when she simply responded to having been assaulted. It's absolutely awful for him to think he was justified at all. I don't like it when people take the stance of, "violence is never the answer," so hard as to not understand self-defense properly, or the fight response from adrenaline after having been assaulted.
Honestly she's a boss for having gotten together the divorce paperwork so quick. I hope she kept it and followed/follows through. "Husband has allowed his mother to verbally abuse me and kicked me out of our home after she escalated to physical abuse and I tried to defend myself," sounds like more than reasonable grounds for divorce. Sorry dude, you failed her big time, time to deal with the consequences of your actions (and inactions tbqh) in enabling that kind of behavior and essentially endangering your postpartum wife & newborn child. 😤
Was gonna add that if he's from an abusive background then he should understand and be able to see the signs of abuse and that his wife was acting in defense of that. Feels like willful ignorance and woe is me can you believe what I witnessed over what my wife experienced? And that he doesn't understand her actions when she comes from abuse too. And dont get me started on my belief of you have no right to kick your significant other out over petty shit. If you need space you remove yourself. No get out of my bed/house. You want the space you leave. That is their bed and house too. Just all around fuck this guy
Gnome story is definitely unhinged. What did they expect op to do with them after 2 months? She didn’t even know who they belonged to until they were mostly gone. I can’t imagine continuing this relationship. 😢
S2: She wanted culture sprinkled into her wedding photos but didn't consider that it would actually mean something to her future MIL and wasn't just a diversity plug. She played herself and sounds ignorant as hell. That aside, the bride had an opportunity to shut it down and didn't. The dress was approved beforehand. Can she really be upset?
Yeah it's weird when people think it'll just be a "decoration" instead of realizing that the other person grew up with it and it actually means something.
@@paulpincemin5700 Super odd, I genuinely don't understand it. And honestly, if she knew anything about the culture she'd know that saree OP chose was on the chill side lol. If she wanted to outshine her, it wouldn't have been hard to do.
To me it sounds like the wife was jealous bc if her husbands mom was Indian and fawning over her, it would feel like she “approves” of another woman than her and she was just insecure
I mean for the last story, he’s talking about his triggers but what about hers? She obviously had a flight or fight reaction too only she chose fight. Idk maybe he talks more about it in his updates. And I don’t care how old someone is, if you lay hands on someone with intent to harm you had better be ready for the consequences. Be they emotional or physical.
EXACTLY! Why is he only concerned with how this impact him? It’s probably not fun to punch someone in the face, and she likely didn’t want to do it but felt backed into a corner after years of mistreatment. The MIL sounds like a slime ball AH and I’d have divorced on those grounds alone
@@Jordan-bm8lp honestly, all the in-laws sound like garbage. How was nobody verbally intervening while this was going down? The wife didn’t have a single person on her side, and I’m sure her husband kicking her out solidified that in her mind - that he wouldn’t stand up against his family for her, and that she can’t trust him to protect her emotional and physical safety before things get out of hand, at least when it comes to his family.
@@Jordan-bm8lpwym only how this impact him? his trauma triggered him in the moment cause he saw his mom bleeding (which prob happened in the past), i think both side wasnt in the fault at all. they both experienced hardships and reacted to the situation poorly as they had trauma. the one in the wrong is the mil. that’s all.
@@Jordan-bm8lp he’s concerned bc he’s explaining how his brain was operating while that was happening. Childhood trauma is real and he clearly stated he wasn’t thinking in that moment because of it. When being a parent you have to think 24/7, it’s understandable if you can’t, but that’s the biggest issue here.
lol “western wedding” doesn’t mean it was western themed. The OP is from India so this was her first wedding in the west…so like in the states, Canada, or Europe
Last story: when you are postpartum you stomach is so tender no matter method of delivery. You also need to eat to be able to be able to produce breastmilk! I ate more breastfeeding than during pregnancy.
I was thinking about that tender abdominal area too. MiL has given birth so she knew that. Wife had the right to defend herself and op should have left themself instead of having the wife pack up herself & the baby. That would be unforgivable for me. 😢
He also openly acknowledged she was also from an abusive family so she also had a trauma response to being attacked and instead of banding together as a family, them against the problem, he kicked her out of her house to deal with HIS MOM traumatizing HER on her own while taking care of a baby.
@@AniaSchutzengel Exactly that! I feel there was so many details that were important. And the fact she must have been nursing the baby since she did not eat her meal with everyone (which is also a bit inconsiderate in my point of vue) and must have been hungry, to find MIL gave her meal to someone else and then being attack both physically and verbally by MIL and then not supported by her SO and then forced out of HER home with the baby when she actually was the victim in the situation. That seems awful to me!!
When I was pregnant with my third baby (in 4 years) I was throwing up 3 times a day for 25 weeks. Around 6 months I had such bad pelvic and sciatic pain I couldn’t even lift my leg up high enough to put my pants on or roll over in bed.. I can’t imagine being married to the guy in story 1
"...someone else's struggle being your inconvenience...". It really put my feelings into words. I've felt like a burden when talking to family so many times. Thank you for that quote. I felt it in my heart❤
for me it was Weird Al's song "why does this always happen to me" that really has stuck with me all the years as the poster child of narcissism even though it's fully satire
The last story... Dude breastfeeding hunger is something else. It feels like you can eat a whole person and not be full. Feels like a void has replaced the stomach. And giving her food away was out of line. And then commenting on a new mom's weight. Uffff
On the last story: the MIL slapped a new mom in the stomach. Your abdomen separates when you go through pregnancy, that slap probably hurt quite a bit. That punch was absolutely self-defense.
Story 5 struck a nerve of all the stories. He would’ve never seen me again 🙃 you don’t kick your wife out, much less with your baby. Someone could’ve slept on the couch, in another room, or you should’ve left. It’s a no from me, she did right. Ghost and runnnn. MIL should’ve been put in her place long ago and never put her hands on her. Go through the courts to fix it bye ✌🏽
OMG the way I would’ve squared up with the mom as well!! MIL got physical first- once you put hands on somebody, it’s all fair game. He made the wrong decision to abandon his wife/newborn child, he’s TA. Divorce is the only answer here.
As a person who is also half Indian, I was literally on the floor laughing so hard when you guys thought that western wedding meant like the Wild West 😂😂
Story 2 - I wore my grandmothers plain and simple silk yellow sari to my friends western wedding in Spain and got multiple comments from other women telling me that I was trying to stand out. My friend didn’t care but I was surprised by the comments. I think maybe clothing from other cultures just stand out.
1:27:30 after giving birth your belly is sensitive. And its especially sensitive if you have a C-section. If this wife had to have a C-section i 100% understand why she took the nuclear option. If the MIL slapped her belly hard it could have caused a lot of pain. And then just the comment "you could afford to skip a meal" she just gave birth and is breast feeding, she actually can not afford to skip a meal. She needs that nutrition to 1. heal from pregnancy and 2. be able to make milk. If your not eating and drinking enough it directly effects your milk production. This MIL is unhinged. The obese niece could have afforded to skip a meal by MIL logic. There is definitely an emotional incest situation here and MIL views the DIL as competition.
Last story:: What makes me mad is why wouldn’t he bring her plate into the other room for her? My husband would always bring me hot dinner if I was in the middle of nursing. I’ve not always eaten it right then but he wanted me to not eat cold food. Would have totally avoided THIS particular problem.
For the last story, I just gotta say, his wife did not "assault" his mother. His mother assaulted his wife, and his wife responded, probably without even thinking. The adrenaline likely sent her into a fight response. She was hit hard. I don't care that the man saw his mom get punched. He saw his wife get assaulted first. If you are being physically hurt with violence, sometimes violence is how to protect yourself unfortunately. But I don't think it's even that deep. It's not like she took time to think about throwing that punch; it just happened in response to what was done to her. The fact that he didn't stand up for his wife in that moment speaks volumes about his character, and his wife saw that. I don't know, I just don't like how much talk there was about how shocking it would be to see your spouse assault your mom, when that's really not what happened, and is a statement that ignores all of the facts of the situation. As far as the husband being sorry, he better be. He needs intense therapy if he at his big age is still using his childhood as an excuse to allow his mom to behave badly and not to protect his wife and newborn baby. He kicked them out with no regard to where they would go or if they would be okay. He only wanted to take care of his emotional needs. He needs so much therapy.
Yeah, I was pretty disappointed with their line of discussion, it was pretty disturbing and excusing so much of his behaviour. The more they spoke the madder I got.
Someone in the comments brought this up and I’d like to riff on it - the husband in the last story’s response shows a lot of unresolved trauma that could be addressed with therapy. That said, his trauma response came BEFORE his dad instincts kicked in to protect his baby. As the wife, I can imagine that even if OP owns up to his mistake and shows remorse, it’s likely still hard to accept the fact that he would do that to her and their child, regardless of the reason.
In India, there is no concept of upstaging the bride. They do not feel jealous that someone is dressed as well as they or sometimes better. Bride gets her attention on the wedding day anyways. We are taught to treat guests well , so bride is always ok if others dress up well .
As an Indian, we tend to call America, the west ....so by western wedding, she just means America. Also, in India, traditionally bride wears red, but as guests, you can wear any color, including red. No matter what you do, u won't upstage the bride
Story 4: Not the asshole. This sister wants to bully her sister because her life isn’t going well, and she got bullied back. Could she have been the “bigger” person? Sure. But she’s definitely not an asshole about putting her sister’s bullying back in its place.
Story 1: screw coparenting I hope that woman gets the full custody that she deserves. All that narcissism that the husband has, all he’s gonna use coparenting for is to continue manipulating her life thru the child
As someone whose dad is exactly like this man, and whose parents coparented for most of my life, thank you for this comment. My dad consistently used me, and now my siblings, as leverage and things to control. It’s genuinely hell to live through, we aren’t people to him.
@@thepineapplegal9099 I’m going thru this with my ex husband right now with him using our son who isn’t even a year old to try and manipulate my life and yes it is indeed hell. And it breaks my heart for my son and what this means for his life. Nobody talks about the guilt, rage, and sadness and disappointment you feel when you realize you’ve made a whole human with someone who turns out to not be who you thought they were and they are the wrong one now that you can’t change it. It’s awful
Story 5 - He’s totally the AH!! But so is his mother. Why tf would it ever be ok for his mother to give away a breastfeeding’s mother food. She’s lucky it was only one punch 💁🏾♀️
54:57 -the brother stole physical mementos of his sister’s whole relationship without her knowledge -completely disregarded the central aspect of the prank when he tried to “recreate” it for his own satisfaction -The original prank was done by a couple to people in their life that they loved and who knew what the prank was - and didn’t even care enough to oversee that the gnomes were taken care of
Story #1,I weighed about 120 before getting pregnant. By the time I was 7-8 months pregnant I was 170. My mother continuously told me I was gonna retain it all I shouldn't have let myself gain so much weight while being pregnant. Yes I sat around a bit at that point but I had a 10 pound child inside me. It's been 3 years since and I now weigh 100-110 depending on the day. The more someone complains to you about your weight the more your gonna watch it later. Also she was my mother! She knows the pregnancy struggles how the heck could she say I was too fat!
the gnome story gets even sadder when you realize the bits OP mentioned leaving out because they’re too sad/dark, is probably that the sister’s BF took his own life.. I could be wrong, but that’s where my mind goes 💔 sad either way
I read this one a lil while back, and there's either a secondary perspective post or a fuck ton of information in the replies(or both, can't remember) & it just continuously gets more awful the more you learn. 😕
I am disgusted with the man in the last story. I have a very bad reaction to violence it scares me so much. If my partner had to defend themselves after my parent hit them Especially after something so traumatic as birth that parent whould be dragged out of my home. Idgf that is so horrible. That husband is a disgrace and should feel nothing but shame for the rest of his pathetic days my gods.
Yeah, it was definitely the “being a couch potato” that caused her to gain weight and not the GROWING FETUS INSIDE HER 🙄 I’m currently 36 weeks and could round house kick him from here fr 😂
Story 2: I’m so confused because I saw the outfit and it’s visibly light blue/grey. Also compared to what most Indian people wear to weddings (which is usually sparkly, shiny, flashy, and bedazzled), this is pretty but VERY plain and she got it approved. Everyone needs to calm down lmao
As someone who just had a baby a couple of months ago, how sore my stomach was for weeks to have someone slap it probably would have gotten a punch from me too. His mom obviously had babies before and knows how long it takes to recover so she did that on purpose.
As someone who was bullied relentlessly by my step sister ,story 4 hits hard for me. She bullied me about my body, my clothes, stole from me, badmouthed me to anyone who would listen, always tried to get me in trouble and tried to turn my friends against me, especially if she thought they were cool. She took over my space, so a had nowhere to retreat from her. This is a drop in the bucket. I have never fully healed from the trauma that girl caused, but I also would not welcome her into my home. I have given her much grace because blending families is hard and kids can be brutal, but when I returned home when we lost her dad (my step dad of 22yrs), I realized that she is still the same bullly she’s always been, and there was no need to extend any further grace. OP is NTA, kick that bish out, she clearly doesn’t respect you and doesn’t deserve the favors you are doing for her.
Story 3: I think the brother was super jealous of the relationship his sister had with her boyfriend and wanted something similar with someone of his own. While I do get that ('cause that sort of a relationship is precious), the crazy part was why use the exact same gnomes or gnomes at all? They could have had something different but equally precious.
Dudes really be like "but it's just pregnancy, it can't be that difficult" BRUH THERE'S A WHOLE ASS LIVING BEING IN HER, THAT SHIT'S HARD mfs out here auditioning for the goof troop istfg
I think the bride didn’t want an Indian wedding and the mother in law did so maybe she complemented OP so much. The bridesmaid know or she lied about her knowledge so they tried to sabotage but also the bride could have just said no.
i’m 35 weeks pregnant, and i barely want to walk around the fricken store, 3 miles there and back hell no, hips hurt, so much pelvic pressure, and then sometimes the baby sits against nerves and you get bad leg cramps and ughhhh, what an asshole
Only 9 minutes in and I’m here yelling DIVORCE!!! For that first story. I feel for that soon to be mom and the baby, that guy will not be a good father!
It wasn't a "western theme" it was a western wedding. Like, not an eastern wedding. So, American culturally and not Indian culturally which OP was used to. They specifically requested pastels so she said this is my pastel dress is it good and both sides of the couple said yes. MIL is from India so she was really excited about it and I think bride got upset because MIL liked the friend more than her. EDIT: it's not "too ostentatious" if they tell you to dress to the nines. I accidentally hit post before finishing the thought.
I come from an abusive household and if my partner who was also abused hit my parent who had been mean for MONTHS I would never ever kick partner out if we had a baby to care for. If I needed space I'd go to another room or leave but they would not have to leave THEIR SAFE SPACE. Absolutely the husband was the AH and I hope we get updates.
Story one: I bet the hubbies only knowledge on pregnancy is hearing celebrities get right back to work and seeing them with their bodies like it was never prego.
In Indian wedding women literally wear their bridal attire to other weddings. It’s impossible to upstage the bride so I understand where the disconnect is. This bride seems weird af.
1:13:03 YES, EXACTLY! I was horrible to my siblings when we were kids (I was bullied in school and took it out on them 😔) and I've tried so hard to be nice to them all ever since I hit my teens and realised how awful I was being. Because I love them and recognise that I treated them badly and am ashamed of that. This girl doesn't seem to care at all that she hurt her sister so much when they were kids. 💔
Once you are an adult, your decisions and the way you choose to treat people is just that, a CHOICE. That older sister is literally a jealous, adult bully. She can choose to do better, but hasn’t. If you, as a teenager could see the error of your ways, she has no excuse…
Morgan is the kind of unhinged I love. Telling the whole world her dad got a COLONOSCOPY to promote an add. And the fact that he was so chill with it lol
Story 1: If she doesn't leave now, she will be stuck forever. Last thing she needs is for the child to become like that shit hole. I had to learn the hard way, don't make the same mistake I did.
Really shocked on the pink shirt girls stance on standing up for the parent that got punched. If a lady who has been mentally and emotionally abusive towards me slapped me… she’s getting laid out. 😅 the wife was 100% in the right here. The mom is a POS. Also, did the wife have a c-section? Bc that stomach slap could have reallllly hurt.
Agreed! Or lets consider that she birthed naturally or is healed by the time the assault happened, the mom is still in protective mode. Imagine spending MONTHS protecting your stomach from outside forces to keep the baby safe, it can't be easy forgetting that behavior so quickly. OP's ex wife is in the right all the way.
Crazy MIL story, you should not breastfeed a baby after a traumatic/scary/stressful event, the adrenaline and cortisol will transfer over, pump and dump
story 3: if the sister wanted op to save those things in the garage, she should have asked!!! chrissy is 28 yo!!!!! op, break up, boyfriend and sister are awful
@@eliseg0001 yeah, i commented before the update. if SHE wanted that, she could have asked for it. obviously she didnt because THE BROTHER stole them, she wasnt even aware they were missing because they were already on a storage unit
I commented something similar before I listen to the update, and then I had to edit to say “Joe is a dick”. Also, I think the mom and sister are just angry at OP simply because she gave the gnomes away and didn’t keep them all. Joe may have lied to them that he fessed up to the prank quickly and that OP just left them in the yard for 2 weeks and then gave them away.
1:38:38 also did the new Mom get a c section? Because if she got slapped in the stomach after birth that shit is sensitive especially after a c section. My daughter was born almost 4 years ago and parts of my stomach are STILL sensitive.
I was surprised to hear the sari described as "ostentatious" 😂 That's the plainest sari I've ever seen in my life! Imagine what the bride's reaction would have been if OP had come dressed as she would for an Indian wedding.
The gnome story, i feel like there was a little extra sadness that not only was this a fun thing that the sister did with her late bf, but also that the gnomes all came from people that they loved too. That feels doubly irreplaceable to me.
Story 4: NTAAA! That’s def karma i don’t care if my sister was the ugliest person in the world that’s MY sister & i will stick beside her!! That’s so evil spirted she purposely tried to embarrass her she got what she deserved 🤷🏽♀️
Agreed. She’s pretty audacious on top of everything else by treating sis like that when she’s living in the sister’s house. Sounds like a terrible sister & a terrible person in general. 😢
People who seem to think the first story can't be real clearly don't know the statistic about a person being most vulnerable and at risk of physical & mental harm at the hands of a partner during pregnancy. It's a literal crime statistic, the whole deal of the pregnancy causing weight gain and men suddenly finding their partners 'unattractive' and also upset when their wives/girlfriends/etc. aren't as sexually available as they were previously. The fact that this guy is so fixated on the weight gain and calling his wife "couch potato" and saying she's letting herself go might not be in dangerous territory yet but those are as glaring red flags as you can get. I honestly hope that woman got away from OP, he sounds like a nightmare and would definitely not be providing even the most basic support to her as soon as their child was born.
Western refers to western civilization, specifically the Americas, Europe, Australia, New Zealand, and South Africa. Whereas Indian, China, Japan,Russia, etc. lie in the East.
I think this is the best episode of THT, I love getting introduced to new people like the Afualo sisters and now girls gotta eat! I think with the last story, it’s a super shitty situation with trauma on both ends, but I think the husband is worth another chance IF he decides to cut off his mom. I totally understand if the wife decides to follow through with divorce though.
Okay for the last story. The mother having been abused in her previous marriage does not give her the excuse to be abusive in turn. OP seems to have been a little too enabling of her behavior because of it and he really dropped the ball. He failed his wife big time by kicking her out when she was already in a vulnerable place, I get that he has his own trauma but that doesn't mean ignoring someone else's. Even if he's honestly remorseful, that's like the least he can do, his wife is not obligated to trying to stay or making it work when he managed to break all her trust so thoroughly.
Story 4 I have absolutely no sympathy for her one even if she hadn't treated her sister badly in the past. If you live in a glass house, do not throw stones. That sister has no room to talk 2. You're living with your sister rent free. Do not bite the hand that feeds you. And lastly, you're just making yourself. Look bad to do that. Because you're just showing how well your sister did while pointing out the fact that you didn't do well.
Story 5: this cracked me up because I’ve been through it, minus the violence 😂 my in laws were visiting and we ordered food from my favourite restaurant. When we got home, I had an endometriosis flare up so was in bed and couldn’t eat dinner. Mil was fussing over me, trying to put a cold wet wash cloth between my legs and everything…I had to get my husband to remove her from our bedroom. Anyway, I woke up the following day and was about to take my dinner left over from last night to work for lunch. She had given it to my brother in law to take home for his girlfriend who wasn’t even at the dinner! It was my food, that I paid for! And she gave it to someone who wasn’t even involved! The girlfriend later told me that she couldn’t eat it because it was too spicy for her so she threw it away! Literally furious! Not at the girlfriend, at mil!
As someone who is brown and not living in the US i have a few things that always make me so confused about the whole "don't wear white" "don't upstage the bride" on weddings there. Like here, everyone puts on their best dress for a wedding which is usually our own choice of color etc unless their is a specific request (or if all cousins/ friends are planning a theme etc) the bride's dress is always (at least almost always) way heavier in embroidery and the jewelry (also bride specific pieces which only brides wear culturally on their wedding day) and again most of the brides have flowers in their hair and the shawl part of the dress (again embroidered) covers their head a little so like no one is gonna mistake anyone else for the bride even with many many people wearing similar color as the entry of the bride, the ceremonies everything already puts a huge spot-light on the bride and the groom. yes, we also do still have people who re-wear their own wedding dresses (styled differently and with lighter jewelry) and i don't think it is possible to upstage the bride at an indian/ desi wedding (even if the bride chooses a simpler dress) just because of the way desi weddings are designed, like by the time the bride has time to walk around meeting people everyone has seen her on the "stage" (or where ever the ceremonies are taking place) part of the wedding and know. Now, have i seen some ill-intentioned people trying to dress up over the top and steal the show? yes. But they almost always fail to do so (which i also think even in the US people can only ill-intentionally try to up-stage the bride and fail) get looked at as if they are crazy. We actually get elders almost telling people off for looking too simple as they think we should dress up to show our happiness and support for the couple. but like what i know about western weddings... the bride still walks down the aisle and has everyone looking at her... maybe at the reception there could be confusion? and i am all for not doing things that are culturally not considered very nice (wearing white for example) i just don't understand how we get to hear so many stories of dressing being an issue. like, what was op supposed to do in the first story? she got the dress approved by the bride and the groom.
What isn’t talked about enough is the “mean girl” culture that exists in the US, particularly with young women. Think the generation that grew up watching teen dramas on tv, movies like Mean Girls, reality tv shows where women fight a lot. It’s an unspoken spite for her looking beautiful or attention-grabbing at her wedding, jealousy, but also I think a little bit of racism… To me, the whole reason she got “attention” was something normal, people interact with each other at weddings and compliment each other, because it’s normal to put effort into looking nice. What some people take to another level is the idea that “the bride has to be the most beautiful in the room” which, in many reddit stories, comes out in stories of brides asking their bridesmaids to dye their hair “normal” color from something rainbow, removing piercings, heck there was even one bride who didn’t want the groom’s cousin who was a wheelchair-user to attend the wedding because of “attention” reasons. It’s all based on jealousy and it’s surprisingly normal and, in a way, cultural. To see more examples, just look up “bridezilla reddit stories” here on youtube 😅
There's nothing to understand. A white dress is to this culture what bride specific jewelry is to yours. Using one as a guest is saying I don't consider this a wedding, I don't respect the bride, not only I don't care about your celebration, I openly go against your wishes for the day. It's always ill-intended. The couple has the right to set the dress code that makes them feel more special. If a guest goes against that, whether or not they aim for confusion, whether or not they achieve that, it's disrespectful Nobody is saying that OP upstaged the bride, she checked twice, amicably, that her dress was okay for the dress code. That is what she was supposed to do
As a North American, I find the whole thing a bit silly. You're right--NO ONE is upstaging the bride no matter what they wear. Nobody who's at the wedding is confused about who the bride is. It's a silly rule, and usually the people who make a huge fuss about it are either insecure or controlling or something...
Mei Bharat se hoo. When she said westarn she meant it’s her first traditional wedding on the west side of the world/ based in Christianity (Europe, UK, USA, etc.) As soon as she mentioned MIA being from India and complimenting her I knew that was the source of all the agro she’s getting. Mama-ji’s don’t play when it comes to a compliment. 😹😹
Omg noooo girls western just means American. America is in the west so when they’re saying Western that means American 😅😅😅 this is killing me to hear lmao
Not necessarily. I am not american but from the Western world. It is from the Cold War, so everyone who was in the "western" side of the iron curtain, plus what was formerly DDR. Although I would argue that some other countries who were previously on the side of Soviet Union are now "up to Western standards," even if I personally don't like the fact that we still divide the world like that. 😊
Trauma brain is a hell of a thing. He seeing his mom being punched probably caused flash backs to her being beaten by his father, and as said, protective. Trauma brain doesn't let you think logically at all. He understands his behavior but he also needs to see a professional. If the truama is willing to push out his wife and child. He sounds like a good guy he just needs help
@Jordan-bm8lp I don't blame her at all. I'm not saying he deserves another chance either. A bad guy would defend his actions. Guess you had to see abuse to understand
@@Jordan-bm8lp Kicking out? couldn't she say this is my house too? And defending herself? The mom could've pressed charges, she punched her to the ground and left her bleeding
I agree with this, because his actions before that were good, he did it right, but unfortunately that isn’t going to cut it if he can’t put his wife and child over his trauma. He has the option of leaving the house instead of letting his wife get through all her packing and leaving with their child. There was time to process what he was doing and switch over to him going out, if nothing else. I feel bad for him, but he essentially showed this new, emotionally exhausted mother that he can’t support her in her own traumatic moment and she has the right to decide she wants out. p.s. I actually really hope they could work it out and go to counseling together. She needs some support system outside of him, so that if he does break down again, she has someone to come hold her together while he copes. He is TA, but he looks like he can be redeemable and hopefully step up as a father first and foremost.
@guadalupemontoya5164 exactly, it sounds like he knows his trauma, he knows his triggers, he just doesn't know how to handle it properly. It actually sounded like regression of a child screaming "get away from me" whereas, as an adult we know to remove ourselves if we are triggered. He sounds fully redeemable as long as he gets the help he needs so he can think a little more logically in triggering situation
Damn that last story was intense. I understand needing space but not kicking her out. He should’ve been the one to remove himself, but maybe this also makes me think he’s not ready to be a dad - he’s not thinking about the baby to the degree that he should be, and perhaps that made it even clearer to her that she should leave. I understand also him and her both needing to process what happened… and I’m sure the mom is in shock, too. That punch sounded really intense, but I understand there’s trauma on all sides. I hope they can each find their path to healing, perhaps he and his mom can mend their relationship somehow and each go to therapy, but I do think it’s the best decision to at least separate as a couple and each person heal on their own, and maybe someday some kind of co-parenting situation can be figured out. I hope it’s a learning lesson for her that she deserves better in a future relationship, and for him to see the signs of this behavior and be able to stop this from happening in any future relationships. I do think they can both prevent this from happening again, but for that they’d have to not be in a relationship anymore.
Story 4: as an older sister who is jealous of her little sister, OP is not the asshole. My little sister is prettier, skinnier, more stylish and cooler. I get really jealous that I don’t look as good as she does….. HOWEVER, I recognize that it’s my self-esteem that causes that, not my sister. I always hyper her up and compliment her. I have always defender her and I always will. I recognize that I need to make changes so that I can be happier with myself. I would NEVER bring pictures of her past and make fun of her. Op’s sister needs some therapy and self-awareness. There’s no excuse to treat your sister like that.
I just wanted to say thank you for your self-awareness and decency towards your sister. My older sister was absolutely venomous to me once I hit a certain age, & unfortunately I had to live with her for years through middle/high school. She was a fucking bully, and openly admitted it was because she envied me for superficial "advantages" I had. It took a long time to heal the damage she did to my self-confidence. I still have days where I look in the mirror & can hear her body-shaming in my head. We haven't spoken in a decade, and I don't have any urge to change that. All that to say: You're a great big sister. She's lucky to have you. ❤ You seem like a lovely person, so please also don't get hung up on comparisons for your own good. Be kind to yourself, too. Your light might shine in a different color, but I guarantee it's just as bright.
As someone who has breastfed for well over a year, it makes you INSANELY hungry. its an unfixable type of constant hunger ESPECIALLY IN THE NEWBORN STAGES!!!! She had every right to knock mil on her ass. Not to mention all the other hormones and overstimulation of having a bunch of people in your house and having to feed a baby from your own body. ABSOLUTELY NOTTTT. Husband is the worst, he should marry his mommy.
The first story with the pregnant women and husband on the hike is crazy. Honestly, I'd probably leave my partner if he tried to make we go on a 3 mile hike while I'm pregnant. He also comments about how it's steep in some areas and that's concerning. It's dangerous, if she falls there's a high chance she could lose the baby because they probably aren't near a hospital or would be able to get here to a hospital in time. Exercise is great while your pregnant, my aunt used to talk walks in the afternoon while she was pregnant, but she also had fairly easy pregnancies. All pregnant women are different.
Gnome story: I think the boyfriend thought that OP would be freaking out wondering about where the gnomes came from and who put them there and thought OP's panic , concern, and confusion would be funny. Red Flag
Story 5: No body even mentioned the fact she’s postpartum. Like your hormones are so crazy after you give birth, the mental state your in is survival so any sort of assault will put you in defense because your brain is prioritizing your survival for your infant. Especially when you’re hungry.
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I noticed that whenever you show a photo you never put the picture on the the screen for us to see too 😩 I wanna see the saree!!
Right? I listen while I work but I grabbed my phone and enlarged the screen waiting to see the photo as well. Why talk about it if she doesn't share it? She could've edited that part out.
same, but i think she does everything on her own so maybe she just forgets. she used to show it sometimes but idk
The link to see the dress is included in the description. She usually includes links to photos there!
It’s Also on her instagram
Same!
"My friend slowed down to accommodate her, so I slowed down too." ...so it took this guys friend having more compassion for his pregnant wife than he was showing to slow down for her? I have no words.
The whole time, I kept thinking, he needs to go kick rocks. I wish she could transfer her pregnancy to him. Then let's see how he would feel. I hope she got away from him.
That one's gotta be fake, which is likely also the real reason it was deleted. There's too much blind stupidity that it can't be anything but rage-bait. Reinforced by the fact that OP was combative in the comments; troll behaviour.
If she stays with him I hope a day comes where he needs her sympathy and support and she gives back what he gave to her. And I hope he gains weight and can’t keep up
@@vindifferenceI don't think so, imagine h9w dumb the average person is, now realize half are dumber
@@vindifferenceyes, for my sanity this was a fake story 🙃
For the last story: postpartum rage is a real thing. Your hormones are fuuuuuuucked after giving birth, you're not getting any sleep, you're constantly drained/hungry/thirsty from breast feeding... I also have a shit relationship with my inlaws and honestly I can see where just snapping is a really possibility.
It’s not rage. It’s self defense after likely years of degrading and humiliating behavior from the MIL. Hormones or not, I would have decked her too
Yes, you are more snappy after giving birth. Even if I wasn’t postpartum and someone talked bad about me for months, then slap me and insulted me at the same after giving my food away, I would likely snap too.
I was thinking the exact same
I’m 5 months pregnant and my husband won’t even let me lift a pack of water bottles lol. Husband in story one is a psycho
Good man
Now phyco more likely just an idiot
Awww
I’m 7 months pregnant and from like a month in my partner started panicking anytime I walk up the stairs “too fast” that man is unhinged someone rescue her
@@blackgirlmagiccomg my husband was the same when I was pregnant. He was so worried about my well being. That girl needs to RUN because that man sounds insane.
She didn’t assault his mother, she defended herself. The mother hit her first. And yes it was „only“ the stomach, but she hit her! Plus she has a newborn, so she probably didn’t feel good physically anyways, and he didn’t say it she had a c-section or not. If she had a c-section, hitting her on the stomach could have serious consequences and is way worse than a punch to the face!
I'm gonna assume it was a natural birth unless it says so, but I'm sorry op is not the ahole, if she had done nothing, husband was already on the way to defending her and kicking the mom out anyway, but if you full on punch my mother enough to bleed given op's history then yeah he needs some space for both of them, I bet the wife would have done the same thing anyway if he chose to leave
For story 2: I was expecting a traditional, glittery sari. The sari is actually really plain in comparison to the discription of the wedding dress. The bride is just mean.
This! I was thinking the same! It’s very muted in comparison to other Saris
when did she show itttt
@@Sky-ct1wm it's on the post
The mom from the gnome story has to understand that OP WOULDNT gnomingly do this to her boyfriends sister! Theres gnome way shes that insensitive
Gnome you didn't 😂😂😂
You gnome I had to
I'm sure they don't want to believe the brother would do something this hurtful, but my guess is that he just didn't think it through and got a little lazy or wanted to keep the prank going at first. I'm sure he realized he fucked up when family found up and so he came up with the bullshit story that OP did it. However, I feel like it's unrealistic to think he was initially being evil. I think he thought it was a fun prank, but knew it would be too hurtful to sister, so he did it behind her back, then he got lazy and didn't want to do the work of transporting the gnomes back when the fun part was over, or he wanted to keep the prank going, then there was no going back once family found out because he fucked up and didn't take care of things sooner. He should have come clean then, but his dumb prank fucked over his sister who has a dead SO with some kind of dark story, so it was easier to blame OP than take responsibility, because after all, it's not HIS fault OP threw them away. He was just being silly and SHE fucked it up... or at least that's what he convinced himself.
I think he did it on purpose, because he wanted the gnomes gone, but needed someone else to blame
This pregnancy story is infuriating me!! A womans circulation changes during pregnancy!!! Thats why she was pale and not feeling well!!! Not because she gained a few. (i am a nurse and used to work in obgyn okay) Of course she is tired. Her body is growing a human body. I am shook
I couldn’t even finish the story in one go. I had to walk away and take deep breaths because oooohhh he would be out of the house
Right?! Just by being pregnant she’s expending extra energy. Then hiking with essentially a 15 lb pack in her stomach. Imagine how much of an ass he’ll be after birth, when she “can’t use pregnancy as an excuse for being out of shape”, and insists she exercises but ignores the fact that breastfeeding burns 500-700 calories a day 😅
I’m only 7 weeks pregnant and I already get exhausted way more easily than before I was pregnant, that guy is the biggest douche
THANK YOU! The blood volume increases and your heart and lungs work so much harder during pregnancy. Been there, done that. I'm a petite woman and was 95lbs when I got pregnant and 125 when I delivered, it was HARD and I had to get induced a month early and get steroid shots in my butt because they knew I would need to deliver early. My baby was only 4lbs at birth and it hurt just to breathe at 7-8 months.
@@heatherk1700the first trimester I slept so much, I didn't work the first trimester because I was so exhausted. That's completely normal and I hope it gets better for you once you hit 12-13 weeks Momma!❤
For the gnome story I feel like the sister could VERY easily ask for security footage from where the locker is to find out whether her brother or the OP took the boxes of items. Feel so bad for them that her brother was so reckless with irreplaceable items to her and she currently isn't even really knowing he is really at fault for her hurt.
The story was also 10 years ago so like-did she ever realize her brother was at fault?
@@lpstigerlily8506i know it’s old but i need an update now so bad
That was my exact thought too! I didn't know it happened 10 years ago, I'm hoping the sister figured out her brother is a lying, psycho.
*S1:Narcissist v. Pregnancy -* My Dr. told my (future ex) husband that *”a pregnant woman’s body works harder while **_asleep_** than everyone else’s does all day long.* _[feel free to use that if + when “someone” complains]_
Future? We need the tea
Here for the tea as well if willing
I looked up the last story out of curiosity to see if there had been any updates since recording: OP clarified that his mom BACKHANDED his wife's stomach and that the hit was LOUD ENOUGH FOR HIM TO HEAR ACROSS THE ROOM. This wasn't some playful little bop, as evidenced by her being doubled over in pain afterwards, and he still has the gall to say the mom "didn't hit her that hard". Not to mention other commenters on the post mentioning how stretched out and thin the abdominal muscles get during pregnancy, and that there's a chance the mother may have been wearing rings during the slap and may not be that small of a woman herself, and how the wife was doubled over in pain after but was still forced to walk around to pack for herself and the baby and then out to find the two of them somewhere to stay.
In short, OP really doesn't deserve another chance. His whole "redemption" is him going "but here's why my trauma brain made me do this" and not really considering what his wife went through or her own trauma.
Thank you for this info. I have yet to feel any ounce of remorse for him. The more info he gives the worse it gets.
Right, he absolutely does not deserve another chance. I didn't think it was fair to keep saying that the wife assaulted her mother-in-law, when she simply responded to having been assaulted. It's absolutely awful for him to think he was justified at all. I don't like it when people take the stance of, "violence is never the answer," so hard as to not understand self-defense properly, or the fight response from adrenaline after having been assaulted.
Honestly she's a boss for having gotten together the divorce paperwork so quick. I hope she kept it and followed/follows through. "Husband has allowed his mother to verbally abuse me and kicked me out of our home after she escalated to physical abuse and I tried to defend myself," sounds like more than reasonable grounds for divorce. Sorry dude, you failed her big time, time to deal with the consequences of your actions (and inactions tbqh) in enabling that kind of behavior and essentially endangering your postpartum wife & newborn child. 😤
Was gonna add that if he's from an abusive background then he should understand and be able to see the signs of abuse and that his wife was acting in defense of that. Feels like willful ignorance and woe is me can you believe what I witnessed over what my wife experienced? And that he doesn't understand her actions when she comes from abuse too.
And dont get me started on my belief of you have no right to kick your significant other out over petty shit. If you need space you remove yourself. No get out of my bed/house. You want the space you leave. That is their bed and house too. Just all around fuck this guy
I was getting mad these girls were sympathising with him and in some way defending him and the mum!!
Gnome story is definitely unhinged. What did they expect op to do with them after 2 months? She didn’t even know who they belonged to until they were mostly gone. I can’t imagine continuing this relationship. 😢
S2: She wanted culture sprinkled into her wedding photos but didn't consider that it would actually mean something to her future MIL and wasn't just a diversity plug. She played herself and sounds ignorant as hell. That aside, the bride had an opportunity to shut it down and didn't. The dress was approved beforehand. Can she really be upset?
Yeah it's weird when people think it'll just be a "decoration" instead of realizing that the other person grew up with it and it actually means something.
@@paulpincemin5700 Super odd, I genuinely don't understand it. And honestly, if she knew anything about the culture she'd know that saree OP chose was on the chill side lol. If she wanted to outshine her, it wouldn't have been hard to do.
Culture is for aesthetic not significance 🙄
To me it sounds like the wife was jealous bc if her husbands mom was Indian and fawning over her, it would feel like she “approves” of another woman than her and she was just insecure
@@choleymoleygirl what?
I mean for the last story, he’s talking about his triggers but what about hers? She obviously had a flight or fight reaction too only she chose fight. Idk maybe he talks more about it in his updates.
And I don’t care how old someone is, if you lay hands on someone with intent to harm you had better be ready for the consequences. Be they emotional or physical.
He did mention how his wife also had a physically abusive home and her fight response to similar.
EXACTLY! Why is he only concerned with how this impact him? It’s probably not fun to punch someone in the face, and she likely didn’t want to do it but felt backed into a corner after years of mistreatment. The MIL sounds like a slime ball AH and I’d have divorced on those grounds alone
@@Jordan-bm8lp honestly, all the in-laws sound like garbage. How was nobody verbally intervening while this was going down? The wife didn’t have a single person on her side, and I’m sure her husband kicking her out solidified that in her mind - that he wouldn’t stand up against his family for her, and that she can’t trust him to protect her emotional and physical safety before things get out of hand, at least when it comes to his family.
@@Jordan-bm8lpwym only how this impact him? his trauma triggered him in the moment cause he saw his mom bleeding (which prob happened in the past), i think both side wasnt in the fault at all. they both experienced hardships and reacted to the situation poorly as they had trauma. the one in the wrong is the mil. that’s all.
@@Jordan-bm8lp he’s concerned bc he’s explaining how his brain was operating while that was happening. Childhood trauma is real and he clearly stated he wasn’t thinking in that moment because of it. When being a parent you have to think 24/7, it’s understandable if you can’t, but that’s the biggest issue here.
lol “western wedding” doesn’t mean it was western themed. The OP is from India so this was her first wedding in the west…so like in the states, Canada, or Europe
Ohhhhh lol
why is that considered western?
Thank you!!! I've been waiting for them to realize 😂
@@starprincessjoliebc they're on the western side of the world...
It was hurting my brain that they weren't getting it. Gotta love a lil dumb moment, we all have 'em.
Last story: when you are postpartum you stomach is so tender no matter method of delivery.
You also need to eat to be able to be able to produce breastmilk! I ate more breastfeeding than during pregnancy.
I was thinking about that tender abdominal area too. MiL has given birth so she knew that. Wife had the right to defend herself and op should have left themself instead of having the wife pack up herself & the baby. That would be unforgivable for me. 😢
He also openly acknowledged she was also from an abusive family so she also had a trauma response to being attacked and instead of banding together as a family, them against the problem, he kicked her out of her house to deal with HIS MOM traumatizing HER on her own while taking care of a baby.
@@AniaSchutzengel Exactly that! I feel there was so many details that were important. And the fact she must have been nursing the baby since she did not eat her meal with everyone (which is also a bit inconsiderate in my point of vue) and must have been hungry, to find MIL gave her meal to someone else and then being attack both physically and verbally by MIL and then not supported by her SO and then forced out of HER home with the baby when she actually was the victim in the situation. That seems awful to me!!
When I was pregnant with my third baby (in 4 years) I was throwing up 3 times a day for 25 weeks. Around 6 months I had such bad pelvic and sciatic pain I couldn’t even lift my leg up high enough to put my pants on or roll over in bed.. I can’t imagine being married to the guy in story 1
When that guy thought the food he ate didn't make him sick was a rational argument... I'd be concerned my husband is a grade A moron.
I do not mean to sound like I’m judging you but oh my god WHY are you getting pregnant 3x in 4 years… 😭
Y’all not understanding “western wedding” is killing me 😭 this is not looking good for those of us trying to prove Americans are culturally aware 😅😅😅
As a Latina living in Canada, it blew my mind that they didn't understand it
I’m American and was listening on Spotify, and came to RUclips just to comment about this 😂
That's actually hilarious. 😅 @@chillhjs
"...someone else's struggle being your inconvenience...". It really put my feelings into words. I've felt like a burden when talking to family so many times. Thank you for that quote. I felt it in my heart❤
Agreed but it also (from my perspective only) gonna help me with being sympathetic too tbh
for me it was Weird Al's song "why does this always happen to me" that really has stuck with me all the years as the poster child of narcissism even though it's fully satire
The last story... Dude breastfeeding hunger is something else. It feels like you can eat a whole person and not be full. Feels like a void has replaced the stomach. And giving her food away was out of line. And then commenting on a new mom's weight. Uffff
And smacking her postpartum tummy??? The physical pain and humiliation that would cause is crazy.
I don’t support violence
But she did have it coming
The guy from the first story would be single after that.
Most new mothers don’t bc they don’t want to do it alone. :/ they’d rather put up with it, its almost never the first time
@@corpsegirlsounds like she’s still going to be doing it alone, married or not
@@umurungimuriel4022 lmao clearly but they don’t see it that way that’s why they put up with them 😂
Yep, even if it's fake (and I just hope so feels like rage bait), he should be single just for coming up with such an infuriating horrifying story
@@corpsegirluntil she realises she is doing alone bc he's not helping at all
On the last story: the MIL slapped a new mom in the stomach. Your abdomen separates when you go through pregnancy, that slap probably hurt quite a bit. That punch was absolutely self-defense.
“No offense to the gnomes” on the 3rd story KILLED me these ladies are delightful i would love to see them again!
Story 5 struck a nerve of all the stories. He would’ve never seen me again 🙃 you don’t kick your wife out, much less with your baby. Someone could’ve slept on the couch, in another room, or you should’ve left. It’s a no from me, she did right. Ghost and runnnn. MIL should’ve been put in her place long ago and never put her hands on her. Go through the courts to fix it bye ✌🏽
OMG the way I would’ve squared up with the mom as well!! MIL got physical first- once you put hands on somebody, it’s all fair game. He made the wrong decision to abandon his wife/newborn child, he’s TA. Divorce is the only answer here.
As a person who is also half Indian, I was literally on the floor laughing so hard when you guys thought that western wedding meant like the Wild West 😂😂
Story 2 - I wore my grandmothers plain and simple silk yellow sari to my friends western wedding in Spain and got multiple comments from other women telling me that I was trying to stand out. My friend didn’t care but I was surprised by the comments. I think maybe clothing from other cultures just stand out.
1:27:30 after giving birth your belly is sensitive. And its especially sensitive if you have a C-section. If this wife had to have a C-section i 100% understand why she took the nuclear option. If the MIL slapped her belly hard it could have caused a lot of pain. And then just the comment "you could afford to skip a meal" she just gave birth and is breast feeding, she actually can not afford to skip a meal. She needs that nutrition to 1. heal from pregnancy and 2. be able to make milk. If your not eating and drinking enough it directly effects your milk production. This MIL is unhinged. The obese niece could have afforded to skip a meal by MIL logic. There is definitely an emotional incest situation here and MIL views the DIL as competition.
Last story:: What makes me mad is why wouldn’t he bring her plate into the other room for her? My husband would always bring me hot dinner if I was in the middle of nursing. I’ve not always eaten it right then but he wanted me to not eat cold food. Would have totally avoided THIS particular problem.
The pregnancy story has me BAFFLED I don’t even want to imagine him as a dad if this is how he’s acting while she’s pregnant.
Story three:
Break up with him
he did fess up when you asked
And blames you for not getting the joke lol dump him 🫶🏼
For the last story, I just gotta say, his wife did not "assault" his mother. His mother assaulted his wife, and his wife responded, probably without even thinking. The adrenaline likely sent her into a fight response. She was hit hard. I don't care that the man saw his mom get punched. He saw his wife get assaulted first. If you are being physically hurt with violence, sometimes violence is how to protect yourself unfortunately. But I don't think it's even that deep. It's not like she took time to think about throwing that punch; it just happened in response to what was done to her. The fact that he didn't stand up for his wife in that moment speaks volumes about his character, and his wife saw that.
I don't know, I just don't like how much talk there was about how shocking it would be to see your spouse assault your mom, when that's really not what happened, and is a statement that ignores all of the facts of the situation.
As far as the husband being sorry, he better be. He needs intense therapy if he at his big age is still using his childhood as an excuse to allow his mom to behave badly and not to protect his wife and newborn baby. He kicked them out with no regard to where they would go or if they would be okay. He only wanted to take care of his emotional needs. He needs so much therapy.
Yeah, I was pretty disappointed with their line of discussion, it was pretty disturbing and excusing so much of his behaviour. The more they spoke the madder I got.
I saw this story on another AITA account and the wife posts her response - it gets so much worse. OP messed up BAD.
Someone in the comments brought this up and I’d like to riff on it - the husband in the last story’s response shows a lot of unresolved trauma that could be addressed with therapy. That said, his trauma response came BEFORE his dad instincts kicked in to protect his baby. As the wife, I can imagine that even if OP owns up to his mistake and shows remorse, it’s likely still hard to accept the fact that he would do that to her and their child, regardless of the reason.
In India, there is no concept of upstaging the bride. They do not feel jealous that someone is dressed as well as they or sometimes better. Bride gets her attention on the wedding day anyways. We are taught to treat guests well , so bride is always ok if others dress up well .
As an Indian, we tend to call America, the west ....so by western wedding, she just means America.
Also, in India, traditionally bride wears red, but as guests, you can wear any color, including red. No matter what you do, u won't upstage the bride
We end up just calling it a “white people wedding” 🤷🏽♀️
@@samosasandpopcornWhich is inaccurate as well
Story 4: Not the asshole. This sister wants to bully her sister because her life isn’t going well, and she got bullied back. Could she have been the “bigger” person? Sure. But she’s definitely not an asshole about putting her sister’s bullying back in its place.
Story 1: screw coparenting I hope that woman gets the full custody that she deserves. All that narcissism that the husband has, all he’s gonna use coparenting for is to continue manipulating her life thru the child
Speaking from experience here
As someone whose dad is exactly like this man, and whose parents coparented for most of my life, thank you for this comment. My dad consistently used me, and now my siblings, as leverage and things to control. It’s genuinely hell to live through, we aren’t people to him.
@@thepineapplegal9099 I’m going thru this with my ex husband right now with him using our son who isn’t even a year old to try and manipulate my life and yes it is indeed hell. And it breaks my heart for my son and what this means for his life. Nobody talks about the guilt, rage, and sadness and disappointment you feel when you realize you’ve made a whole human with someone who turns out to not be who you thought they were and they are the wrong one now that you can’t change it. It’s awful
@@gcp2017oh my god, that’s terrible. I’m sure you’ll be an amazing mother, even though the circumstances are rough. Keep fighting! ❤
@@thepineapplegal9099 thank you ❤️
Story 5 - He’s totally the AH!! But so is his mother. Why tf would it ever be ok for his mother to give away a breastfeeding’s mother food. She’s lucky it was only one punch 💁🏾♀️
54:57
-the brother stole physical mementos of his sister’s whole relationship without her knowledge
-completely disregarded the central aspect of the prank when he tried to “recreate” it for his own satisfaction
-The original prank was done by a couple to people in their life that they loved and who knew what the prank was
- and didn’t even care enough to oversee that the gnomes were taken care of
Story #1,I weighed about 120 before getting pregnant. By the time I was 7-8 months pregnant I was 170. My mother continuously told me I was gonna retain it all I shouldn't have let myself gain so much weight while being pregnant. Yes I sat around a bit at that point but I had a 10 pound child inside me. It's been 3 years since and I now weigh 100-110 depending on the day.
The more someone complains to you about your weight the more your gonna watch it later. Also she was my mother! She knows the pregnancy struggles how the heck could she say I was too fat!
the gnome story gets even sadder when you realize the bits OP mentioned leaving out because they’re too sad/dark, is probably that the sister’s BF took his own life.. I could be wrong, but that’s where my mind goes 💔 sad either way
I didn’t even think of that :( But that makes so much sense and makes me hate the brother even more. What an inconsiderate prick!
That's what I was thinking too
I read this one a lil while back, and there's either a secondary perspective post or a fuck ton of information in the replies(or both, can't remember) & it just continuously gets more awful the more you learn. 😕
I am disgusted with the man in the last story. I have a very bad reaction to violence it scares me so much. If my partner had to defend themselves after my parent hit them Especially after something so traumatic as birth that parent whould be dragged out of my home. Idgf that is so horrible. That husband is a disgrace and should feel nothing but shame for the rest of his pathetic days my gods.
These ladies have to be the best guests yet. They feel so down to earth and are hilarious. Absolutely loved them!
Yeah, it was definitely the “being a couch potato” that caused her to gain weight and not the GROWING FETUS INSIDE HER 🙄 I’m currently 36 weeks and could round house kick him from here fr 😂
Good luck with delivery! Wishing you the best ❤️
Not a western themed wedding. It was her first western wedding, IE west of India. So a white people wedding. Not country western themed 😅😅
waiting for someone to say this 😭
I was laughing so hard at that 😂
That first one has to be fake. There's no way that's real. Omg
"krissy should be with the hike guy" 😂😂😂
Story 2: I’m so confused because I saw the outfit and it’s visibly light blue/grey. Also compared to what most Indian people wear to weddings (which is usually sparkly, shiny, flashy, and bedazzled), this is pretty but VERY plain and she got it approved. Everyone needs to calm down lmao
As someone who just had a baby a couple of months ago, how sore my stomach was for weeks to have someone slap it probably would have gotten a punch from me too. His mom obviously had babies before and knows how long it takes to recover so she did that on purpose.
Yeah. They definitely got it wrong on that one.
Story 5 - After the stories where the husband doesn’t save food for the wife I was so proud of him at the beginning. Smh
As someone who was bullied relentlessly by my step sister ,story 4 hits hard for me. She bullied me about my body, my clothes, stole from me, badmouthed me to anyone who would listen, always tried to get me in trouble and tried to turn my friends against me, especially if she thought they were cool. She took over my space, so a had nowhere to retreat from her. This is a drop in the bucket. I have never fully healed from the trauma that girl caused, but I also would not welcome her into my home. I have given her much grace because blending families is hard and kids can be brutal, but when I returned home when we lost her dad (my step dad of 22yrs), I realized that she is still the same bullly she’s always been, and there was no need to extend any further grace. OP is NTA, kick that bish out, she clearly doesn’t respect you and doesn’t deserve the favors you are doing for her.
Story 3: I think the brother was super jealous of the relationship his sister had with her boyfriend and wanted something similar with someone of his own. While I do get that ('cause that sort of a relationship is precious), the crazy part was why use the exact same gnomes or gnomes at all? They could have had something different but equally precious.
My Lifetime movie brain says um did Joe kill Steve?
@@sweetmother2406 interesting thought!!!!
Same thought crossed my mind. It definitely shows a disconnect from reality.
Dudes really be like "but it's just pregnancy, it can't be that difficult"
BRUH THERE'S A WHOLE ASS LIVING BEING IN HER, THAT SHIT'S HARD
mfs out here auditioning for the goof troop istfg
Goofy would not tolerate that bullshit, he'd tell him to go hyuck himself 😂
If someone pulled the gnome prank on me that same day there’d be a big sign in my yard that said Free Gnomes!!
I think the bride didn’t want an Indian wedding and the mother in law did so maybe she complemented OP so much. The bridesmaid know or she lied about her knowledge so they tried to sabotage but also the bride could have just said no.
i’m 35 weeks pregnant, and i barely want to walk around the fricken store, 3 miles there and back hell no, hips hurt, so much pelvic pressure, and then sometimes the baby sits against nerves and you get bad leg cramps and ughhhh, what an asshole
for story 1: as someone who’s 6 months pregnant myself - this just straight PISSED ME OFF 😤
This pisses me off for anyone any months pregnant! I’m 10 weeks and can’t even imagine going on a hike! Our bodies go through so much 😐😔
@@cairacaldwell9121hi!
Only 9 minutes in and I’m here yelling DIVORCE!!! For that first story. I feel for that soon to be mom and the baby, that guy will not be a good father!
He seems like the kind of dad who would force their kids to go to school when they’re sick because they’re “faking” or just being “lazy”
He will a fucking horrible dad
It wasn't a "western theme" it was a western wedding. Like, not an eastern wedding. So, American culturally and not Indian culturally which OP was used to. They specifically requested pastels so she said this is my pastel dress is it good and both sides of the couple said yes. MIL is from India so she was really excited about it and I think bride got upset because MIL liked the friend more than her. EDIT: it's not "too ostentatious" if they tell you to dress to the nines. I accidentally hit post before finishing the thought.
I come from an abusive household and if my partner who was also abused hit my parent who had been mean for MONTHS I would never ever kick partner out if we had a baby to care for. If I needed space I'd go to another room or leave but they would not have to leave THEIR SAFE SPACE. Absolutely the husband was the AH and I hope we get updates.
Story one: I bet the hubbies only knowledge on pregnancy is hearing celebrities get right back to work and seeing them with their bodies like it was never prego.
Right?! What is he going to say or do to her when she doesn't immediately "bounce back" to her pre-pregnancy body?!
In Indian wedding women literally wear their bridal attire to other weddings. It’s impossible to upstage the bride so I understand where the disconnect is. This bride seems weird af.
Im sorry but the guest's inability to understand basic aspects of these stories is making this a hard watch.
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1:13:03 YES, EXACTLY! I was horrible to my siblings when we were kids (I was bullied in school and took it out on them 😔) and I've tried so hard to be nice to them all ever since I hit my teens and realised how awful I was being. Because I love them and recognise that I treated them badly and am ashamed of that. This girl doesn't seem to care at all that she hurt her sister so much when they were kids. 💔
Once you are an adult, your decisions and the way you choose to treat people is just that, a CHOICE. That older sister is literally a jealous, adult bully. She can choose to do better, but hasn’t. If you, as a teenager could see the error of your ways, she has no excuse…
@@FantazomiXroma 💯
Morgan is the kind of unhinged I love. Telling the whole world her dad got a COLONOSCOPY to promote an add. And the fact that he was so chill with it lol
The interpretation of 'western wedding' being like wild west wear is sending me
Story 1: If she doesn't leave now, she will be stuck forever. Last thing she needs is for the child to become like that shit hole. I had to learn the hard way, don't make the same mistake I did.
Morgan finding her twin flame: YOU ARE LIKE ME, I CAN'T GET A SINGLE SAYING RIGHT 😂😂.
Really shocked on the pink shirt girls stance on standing up for the parent that got punched. If a lady who has been mentally and emotionally abusive towards me slapped me… she’s getting laid out. 😅 the wife was 100% in the right here. The mom is a POS.
Also, did the wife have a c-section? Bc that stomach slap could have reallllly hurt.
Agreed! Or lets consider that she birthed naturally or is healed by the time the assault happened, the mom is still in protective mode. Imagine spending MONTHS protecting your stomach from outside forces to keep the baby safe, it can't be easy forgetting that behavior so quickly. OP's ex wife is in the right all the way.
Story 5 - I think the wife posted on Reddit because I know I've read almost the same story from the wife's perspective.
Ooohhh title please!
My response to my husband’s post “AITA for kicking my wife out after she punched my mom in the face?”
I think I found it in r/AITAH: My response to my husband's post "AITA for kicking my wife out after she punched my mom in the face?"
Crazy MIL story, you should not breastfeed a baby after a traumatic/scary/stressful event, the adrenaline and cortisol will transfer over, pump and dump
Story one HAS to be rage bait, I refuse to believe otherwise.
For the last story it wouldn't have to be a hard slap. He said she just had the baby, and I am willing to bet she had a c section
story 3: if the sister wanted op to save those things in the garage, she should have asked!!! chrissy is 28 yo!!!!!
op, break up, boyfriend and sister are awful
i wrote this before listening to the update but i still think op was right by breaking up with the now ex boyfriend
50 gnomes and 2 months?? I was nodding with ya!! Rehome those gnomes!! And the "prank rules" - insanity.
I imagine it may be painful reminder to see them so she may want to know where they are but not see them frequently
@@eliseg0001 yeah, i commented before the update.
if SHE wanted that, she could have asked for it.
obviously she didnt because THE BROTHER stole them, she wasnt even aware they were missing because they were already on a storage unit
I commented something similar before I listen to the update, and then I had to edit to say “Joe is a dick”.
Also, I think the mom and sister are just angry at OP simply because she gave the gnomes away and didn’t keep them all. Joe may have lied to them that he fessed up to the prank quickly and that OP just left them in the yard for 2 weeks and then gave them away.
1:38:38 also did the new Mom get a c section? Because if she got slapped in the stomach after birth that shit is sensitive especially after a c section. My daughter was born almost 4 years ago and parts of my stomach are STILL sensitive.
I was surprised to hear the sari described as "ostentatious" 😂 That's the plainest sari I've ever seen in my life! Imagine what the bride's reaction would have been if OP had come dressed as she would for an Indian wedding.
The gnome story, i feel like there was a little extra sadness that not only was this a fun thing that the sister did with her late bf, but also that the gnomes all came from people that they loved too. That feels doubly irreplaceable to me.
Story 4: NTAAA! That’s def karma i don’t care if my sister was the ugliest person in the world that’s MY sister & i will stick beside her!! That’s so evil spirted she purposely tried to embarrass her she got what she deserved 🤷🏽♀️
Agreed. She’s pretty audacious on top of everything else by treating sis like that when she’s living in the sister’s house. Sounds like a terrible sister & a terrible person in general. 😢
I personally am not interested in marrying into a family that does any kind of prank, especially one that fcks with my house lmao
People who seem to think the first story can't be real clearly don't know the statistic about a person being most vulnerable and at risk of physical & mental harm at the hands of a partner during pregnancy. It's a literal crime statistic, the whole deal of the pregnancy causing weight gain and men suddenly finding their partners 'unattractive' and also upset when their wives/girlfriends/etc. aren't as sexually available as they were previously. The fact that this guy is so fixated on the weight gain and calling his wife "couch potato" and saying she's letting herself go might not be in dangerous territory yet but those are as glaring red flags as you can get. I honestly hope that woman got away from OP, he sounds like a nightmare and would definitely not be providing even the most basic support to her as soon as their child was born.
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Western refers to western civilization, specifically the Americas, Europe, Australia, New Zealand, and South Africa. Whereas Indian, China, Japan,Russia, etc. lie in the East.
I think this is the best episode of THT, I love getting introduced to new people like the Afualo sisters and now girls gotta eat! I think with the last story, it’s a super shitty situation with trauma on both ends, but I think the husband is worth another chance IF he decides to cut off his mom. I totally understand if the wife decides to follow through with divorce though.
Okay for the last story. The mother having been abused in her previous marriage does not give her the excuse to be abusive in turn. OP seems to have been a little too enabling of her behavior because of it and he really dropped the ball. He failed his wife big time by kicking her out when she was already in a vulnerable place, I get that he has his own trauma but that doesn't mean ignoring someone else's. Even if he's honestly remorseful, that's like the least he can do, his wife is not obligated to trying to stay or making it work when he managed to break all her trust so thoroughly.
Story 4 I have absolutely no sympathy for her one even if she hadn't treated her sister badly in the past. If you live in a glass house, do not throw stones. That sister has no room to talk 2. You're living with your sister rent free. Do not bite the hand that feeds you.
And lastly, you're just making yourself. Look bad to do that. Because you're just showing how well your sister did while pointing out the fact that you didn't do well.
Story 5: this cracked me up because I’ve been through it, minus the violence 😂 my in laws were visiting and we ordered food from my favourite restaurant. When we got home, I had an endometriosis flare up so was in bed and couldn’t eat dinner. Mil was fussing over me, trying to put a cold wet wash cloth between my legs and everything…I had to get my husband to remove her from our bedroom. Anyway, I woke up the following day and was about to take my dinner left over from last night to work for lunch. She had given it to my brother in law to take home for his girlfriend who wasn’t even at the dinner! It was my food, that I paid for! And she gave it to someone who wasn’t even involved! The girlfriend later told me that she couldn’t eat it because it was too spicy for her so she threw it away! Literally furious! Not at the girlfriend, at mil!
As someone who is brown and not living in the US i have a few things that always make me so confused about the whole "don't wear white" "don't upstage the bride" on weddings there.
Like here, everyone puts on their best dress for a wedding which is usually our own choice of color etc unless their is a specific request (or if all cousins/ friends are planning a theme etc) the bride's dress is always (at least almost always) way heavier in embroidery and the jewelry (also bride specific pieces which only brides wear culturally on their wedding day) and again most of the brides have flowers in their hair and the shawl part of the dress (again embroidered) covers their head a little so like no one is gonna mistake anyone else for the bride even with many many people wearing similar color as the entry of the bride, the ceremonies everything already puts a huge spot-light on the bride and the groom.
yes, we also do still have people who re-wear their own wedding dresses (styled differently and with lighter jewelry) and i don't think it is possible to upstage the bride at an indian/ desi wedding (even if the bride chooses a simpler dress) just because of the way desi weddings are designed, like by the time the bride has time to walk around meeting people everyone has seen her on the "stage" (or where ever the ceremonies are taking place) part of the wedding and know.
Now, have i seen some ill-intentioned people trying to dress up over the top and steal the show? yes. But they almost always fail to do so (which i also think even in the US people can only ill-intentionally try to up-stage the bride and fail) get looked at as if they are crazy. We actually get elders almost telling people off for looking too simple as they think we should dress up to show our happiness and support for the couple.
but like what i know about western weddings... the bride still walks down the aisle and has everyone looking at her... maybe at the reception there could be confusion? and i am all for not doing things that are culturally not considered very nice (wearing white for example) i just don't understand how we get to hear so many stories of dressing being an issue. like, what was op supposed to do in the first story? she got the dress approved by the bride and the groom.
What isn’t talked about enough is the “mean girl” culture that exists in the US, particularly with young women. Think the generation that grew up watching teen dramas on tv, movies like Mean Girls, reality tv shows where women fight a lot. It’s an unspoken spite for her looking beautiful or attention-grabbing at her wedding, jealousy, but also I think a little bit of racism… To me, the whole reason she got “attention” was something normal, people interact with each other at weddings and compliment each other, because it’s normal to put effort into looking nice. What some people take to another level is the idea that “the bride has to be the most beautiful in the room” which, in many reddit stories, comes out in stories of brides asking their bridesmaids to dye their hair “normal” color from something rainbow, removing piercings, heck there was even one bride who didn’t want the groom’s cousin who was a wheelchair-user to attend the wedding because of “attention” reasons. It’s all based on jealousy and it’s surprisingly normal and, in a way, cultural. To see more examples, just look up “bridezilla reddit stories” here on youtube 😅
There's nothing to understand. A white dress is to this culture what bride specific jewelry is to yours. Using one as a guest is saying I don't consider this a wedding, I don't respect the bride, not only I don't care about your celebration, I openly go against your wishes for the day. It's always ill-intended. The couple has the right to set the dress code that makes them feel more special. If a guest goes against that, whether or not they aim for confusion, whether or not they achieve that, it's disrespectful
Nobody is saying that OP upstaged the bride, she checked twice, amicably, that her dress was okay for the dress code. That is what she was supposed to do
As a North American, I find the whole thing a bit silly. You're right--NO ONE is upstaging the bride no matter what they wear. Nobody who's at the wedding is confused about who the bride is. It's a silly rule, and usually the people who make a huge fuss about it are either insecure or controlling or something...
Mei Bharat se hoo. When she said westarn she meant it’s her first traditional wedding on the west side of the world/ based in Christianity (Europe, UK, USA, etc.)
As soon as she mentioned MIA being from India and complimenting her I knew that was the source of all the agro she’s getting. Mama-ji’s don’t play when it comes to a compliment. 😹😹
Omg noooo girls western just means American. America is in the west so when they’re saying Western that means American 😅😅😅 this is killing me to hear lmao
Not necessarily. I am not american but from the Western world. It is from the Cold War, so everyone who was in the "western" side of the iron curtain, plus what was formerly DDR.
Although I would argue that some other countries who were previously on the side of Soviet Union are now "up to Western standards," even if I personally don't like the fact that we still divide the world like that. 😊
Trauma brain is a hell of a thing. He seeing his mom being punched probably caused flash backs to her being beaten by his father, and as said, protective. Trauma brain doesn't let you think logically at all. He understands his behavior but he also needs to see a professional. If the truama is willing to push out his wife and child. He sounds like a good guy he just needs help
Nah lol kicking his wife out after defending herself is not “good guy” behavior. I’d break up after this too
@Jordan-bm8lp I don't blame her at all. I'm not saying he deserves another chance either. A bad guy would defend his actions. Guess you had to see abuse to understand
@@Jordan-bm8lp Kicking out? couldn't she say this is my house too? And defending herself? The mom could've pressed charges, she punched her to the ground and left her bleeding
I agree with this, because his actions before that were good, he did it right, but unfortunately that isn’t going to cut it if he can’t put his wife and child over his trauma. He has the option of leaving the house instead of letting his wife get through all her packing and leaving with their child. There was time to process what he was doing and switch over to him going out, if nothing else. I feel bad for him, but he essentially showed this new, emotionally exhausted mother that he can’t support her in her own traumatic moment and she has the right to decide she wants out.
p.s. I actually really hope they could work it out and go to counseling together. She needs some support system outside of him, so that if he does break down again, she has someone to come hold her together while he copes. He is TA, but he looks like he can be redeemable and hopefully step up as a father first and foremost.
@guadalupemontoya5164 exactly, it sounds like he knows his trauma, he knows his triggers, he just doesn't know how to handle it properly. It actually sounded like regression of a child screaming "get away from me" whereas, as an adult we know to remove ourselves if we are triggered. He sounds fully redeemable as long as he gets the help he needs so he can think a little more logically in triggering situation
Morgan really said "county fair core" for her wedding 🤣🤣 I'm into it, I wanna go!!
Damn that last story was intense. I understand needing space but not kicking her out. He should’ve been the one to remove himself, but maybe this also makes me think he’s not ready to be a dad - he’s not thinking about the baby to the degree that he should be, and perhaps that made it even clearer to her that she should leave. I understand also him and her both needing to process what happened… and I’m sure the mom is in shock, too. That punch sounded really intense, but I understand there’s trauma on all sides. I hope they can each find their path to healing, perhaps he and his mom can mend their relationship somehow and each go to therapy, but I do think it’s the best decision to at least separate as a couple and each person heal on their own, and maybe someday some kind of co-parenting situation can be figured out. I hope it’s a learning lesson for her that she deserves better in a future relationship, and for him to see the signs of this behavior and be able to stop this from happening in any future relationships. I do think they can both prevent this from happening again, but for that they’d have to not be in a relationship anymore.
If that sari outshines you, do better. It takes a really bad wedding dress to feel outstaged by that
PLEASE SHOW US THE PHOTOS THAT ARE ATTACHED TO REDDIT STORIES! Your viewers on RUclips would love to see them too.
Story 4: as an older sister who is jealous of her little sister, OP is not the asshole. My little sister is prettier, skinnier, more stylish and cooler. I get really jealous that I don’t look as good as she does….. HOWEVER, I recognize that it’s my self-esteem that causes that, not my sister. I always hyper her up and compliment her. I have always defender her and I always will. I recognize that I need to make changes so that I can be happier with myself. I would NEVER bring pictures of her past and make fun of her. Op’s sister needs some therapy and self-awareness. There’s no excuse to treat your sister like that.
I just wanted to say thank you for your self-awareness and decency towards your sister.
My older sister was absolutely venomous to me once I hit a certain age, & unfortunately I had to live with her for years through middle/high school. She was a fucking bully, and openly admitted it was because she envied me for superficial "advantages" I had.
It took a long time to heal the damage she did to my self-confidence. I still have days where I look in the mirror & can hear her body-shaming in my head.
We haven't spoken in a decade, and I don't have any urge to change that.
All that to say:
You're a great big sister. She's lucky to have you. ❤
You seem like a lovely person, so please also don't get hung up on comparisons for your own good. Be kind to yourself, too. Your light might shine in a different color, but I guarantee it's just as bright.
As someone who has breastfed for well over a year, it makes you INSANELY hungry. its an unfixable type of constant hunger ESPECIALLY IN THE NEWBORN STAGES!!!! She had every right to knock mil on her ass. Not to mention all the other hormones and overstimulation of having a bunch of people in your house and having to feed a baby from your own body. ABSOLUTELY NOTTTT. Husband is the worst, he should marry his mommy.
The first story with the pregnant women and husband on the hike is crazy. Honestly, I'd probably leave my partner if he tried to make we go on a 3 mile hike while I'm pregnant. He also comments about how it's steep in some areas and that's concerning. It's dangerous, if she falls there's a high chance she could lose the baby because they probably aren't near a hospital or would be able to get here to a hospital in time. Exercise is great while your pregnant, my aunt used to talk walks in the afternoon while she was pregnant, but she also had fairly easy pregnancies. All pregnant women are different.
Gnome story: I think the boyfriend thought that OP would be freaking out wondering about where the gnomes came from and who put them there and thought OP's panic , concern, and confusion would be funny. Red Flag
Story 5: No body even mentioned the fact she’s postpartum. Like your hormones are so crazy after you give birth, the mental state your in is survival so any sort of assault will put you in defense because your brain is prioritizing your survival for your infant. Especially when you’re hungry.
Yea I was wondering when she gave birth because that’s f*ked up reguardless
Honestly, everyone but OP sucks in the gnome story. She should keep the whole family blocked forever & try to forget they even existed.