My mom stood home with 6 of us and homeschooled most of us, my dad busted his butt providing. At around kid 4 my mom started her own home daycare and was making some decent income to supplement my dad. She was a Sunday school teacher and became a chaplain. After my two youngest sisters were teenagers my father partially retired and supported my mom in pursuing her masters, she is now a very involved grandma and a special education teacher. I think my parents, without knowing did things in a great order! They supported eachother at different times and seasons. Most importantly my mother was there to instill Christ in her children, moral values and social and Communiy skills. Her going back to school in her later years also still amazing me. It can be done, men and women just have to work together and have a common vision around God, home and family. I love your channel, thank you for sharing this info and helping others realize that tradition is important!
Married at 21, celebrated our 10 year anniversary this year. Had our first kid at 28 and i started staying at home, my husband and i made it work together ❤ never ever would i have imagined i stay at home with a kid. I always thought i was going to do career, more school etc. At 30, my priorities just totally flipped. This feels right, and we will keep on working as a team for as long as we are together. Its true. The older you get, the higher the chances of miscarriage, fertility problems etc. Also, if you set a career before having children you will find yourself having to "sit out". Wouldnt it be smarter to have kids, go to school then have a career? Why were we taught the other way around?
It might be that one of the reasons was feminism. Feminist also suggest, if you have a baby in your belly, just get an ab¤rtion so you can focus on your career. It is so sad. Women have been lied to for soooo long.
For the past 30+ years, schools and companies have been pushing the full-time employment model that only sees an employee as valuable if they can hold on to them physically for a minimum 8 hours a day. I have a family and I would be willing to work, but not a full 8 hours. My family is my focus. Work is work. I am disgusted and angry that businesses think I should prioritize my job over my family.
I have zero interest in screaming my kids out the door to get them dropped off at daycare at 7:30am, work an 8 hour job, spend 1+ hours in traffic, to pick up cranky children and come home to all the housework that I wasn't home to do. Hard pass.
The harsh truth is the business only cares about the bottom line and providing jobs isn’t the top priority. This is why I respect women who can make it work as a SAHM, actually because they know their priorities and boundaries and are honest with themselves realizing they aren’t able to give employers what they are looking for instead of whining at employers for not giving them more flexibility and paid time off. At the same time, employers are benefiting from a bigger workforce resulting in cheaper labor. If companies want their employees to work as though they have a stay at home spouse or no children they should pay them more. However, the only way companies will be incentivized to do this is if the workforce shrinks due to more people opting out.
Back in our early twenties, I remember those who backpacked round the world remarking to me that those other backpackers they met on their travels were inversely mature according to how long they had been on the road. In other words, the longer they had been finding themselves the less they had succeeded.
I felt the urge or desire to get married at 22. I thought to myself, I want to be a wife by 25. So when I met my husband at 23 I knew he was the one 2 months in. We got married 1 month before I turned 25. We have been married for 16 yrs and have 4 kids together. Half of our friends are married but either has 1 or no kids while the other half are still single.
I’m 28 and glad I didn’t get married and have kids in my early 20s. I was not ready for that life stage. I grew up in deep poverty and on welfare. Those kids would’ve grew up very hungry and on welfare as I couldn’t even take care of myself. I had to prioritize my career to be able to take care of them. I grew up in a single parent household in a high cost of living area and experienced a ton of financial trauma. I’m working on breaking generational poverty. But also men weren’t interested in me throughout my 20s. I only attracted guys who wanted hookups or who were very lustful in their approach even though I dressed modestly and are a Christian. So I’m waiting for an actual man who would be good to date. I’m not going to just rush into a relationship with a guy who wouldn’t be a good husband or father just to get married and have kids before 30.
Good idea. Marrying-having kids younger is the ideal but that is assuming you are marrying someone who is committed to treating you with love all your life together and who shares a common vision with you on how you want to serve the Lord together. I had to wait until 29 to meet my now husband. He was worth the wait!!! We would have loved to meet earlier but wouldn't change a thing, having found each other now.
Met in April, married in May, got pregnant in July…. By Gods grace at 40, I slid under the wire and found a gem of a guy who was bullied by his ex wife but still had enough moral virtue to want marriage again. Now married 1.5 Years we are learning about each other and I’m trying to figure out how to get my student loans forgiven so I can be home full time. Also trying for baby #2. I came late to the game, way way late. I believed the Jane Fonda Lies “I’m a woman, hear me roar” BS or the “we Have finally become the men we’ve always wanted” Women NEED men. Yes I said NEED. Fonda & company dupes us to think independence is better than family. She was probably hired by the higher ups whose goal Is to unravel the American society by attacking the family. Two income households was their plan.
7) The prime men don't leave college single. They are snapped up by a smart 18 or 22 year old. A man (or woman) who is single at 30, 35, 40 probably has sub-ideal sexual market value. The surgeon who repaired my C section was handsome and funny, also had 7 kids at age 39, so do that math on when he got married. 8) Avoid having elderly parents with health problems and young children/babies at the same time 9) Be an empty-nester in your 40s, actually have money to travel or whatever you want. Do sleepless nights with babies in your 20s when you have the health and energy 10) The act of being coupled matures an individual in a desirable way. A man who was in a relationship with the same woman at age 20 will be a better husband than if he married the same woman at age 40 (and vice versa for women) 11) Invest the "fun" energy of dating and sex into your husband and not random men you would be embarrassed to cross paths with again, not to mention avoid making a "reputation" for yourself.
I’m female , I grew up lower working class . Me going to university and having a career had nothing to do with feminism. Our father made sure we got educated and got skills she we could sustain ourselves and those around us . ( I ended up mtg my husband at university)
In my understanding of what is happening in my culture in terms of women focusing more on education and career is that women are finding man unreliable when it comes to commitment in building family - financial + effort wise. It's quite common to hear men not willing to contribute financially, undermining women who needs to "rely" on them and "ask" for money. It is also not uncommon to hear that women who has not strong enough income herself stay in the marriage that is bad because they can't possibly financially survive with her children if separated from her husband, and not uncommon to hear men do not pay their share of the cost of child raising after divorce, and the law cant do anything to that hence all burden and responsibilities of the children usually falls on the mother, willingly, but very hard in this real world. Hence, many women feels more secure to at least make sure they themselves have good career, good education and good income first before getting marry and have children. At least when that happens, say for example domestic abuse/affairs, they are able to leave the marriage without worrying about the risk of starving her children. Not sure about the social welfare in America but it's not great from where I am from.
Welcome back Suzanne. Partners need some serious vetting prior to marriage, but yeah don't wait for marriage or kids. Work on yourself when you are as young as possible!
Met at 18 married at 21. 38 years later still going strong. I think it depends on the person(s) and people just in general don’t want to put in the work.
If I became president, I'd propose a law that would forgive student loans if women became stay at home mothers. The moment they re-enter the workforce, that loan is back. It's the only way to snap society back in the right direction and end feminism. Everyone knows the majority of women would take the deal.
The really bad thing here is single women over say 35 without kids are so depressed and angry. Seen it time and time again. Pretty sad. And at 45 and beyond they just hate the world. Nuts.
Definitely. One income households, especially with children, need more financial support in this age of inflation. It's ridiculous, most families are forced to work overtime outside the home and the kids suffer as a result
Really? You mean that a woman could be 50k or 80k in student loan debt on a bs degree and then just decide to become a stay at home mother and the debt is gone? I have two questions : 1. Who pays that money back? Where is the money coming from? From the working men and women? 2. What use is that degree then? Don't you think that most women will just use that to get in massive student loan debt and then switch to stay at home women?
Worked through my first and second pregnancy due to my husbands layoff. My second son is now 6 weeks and he’s just got a new a job and my husband wants to work however much he needs to so I can stay home. I want too but I feel so scared to make that change!
I am truly amazed by the insights you have into the male psychy. (Are you from Germany/of German descent?) Usually women have no idea what men want in women, but only look at what they want in men and then give the same answer, basically acting as if men and women are identical. Simply because in their first 20+ years of life, the men came running to them, like the moth to the flame. So they never once had to think of what a man wants. All they need was already given. And the women who do know how to attract men on purpose, usually won't ever give that info to other women, who would then become their rivals. Most men, who are at least a bit skilled at attracting women or have gotten hit on by women a few times, have experienced the almost child-like way women nowadays try to attract a man they want. It's usually off-putting, because they act like men, instead of behaving female. More or less they tell the man "I want you" and just like a woman who has options, the man also instantly loses intrest, because she comes across as "needy" or worse. A man wants to "have to conquer her". A woman needs to be passively alluring. She must draw the man in, without simply telling him "I want you" or worse - inviting him to the bed right away (which results in her being a one-night-stand or friends-with-benefits at best). Even if a relationship ensues, the man never learned to "desire" her. And he never will, as it basically sets the bar.
@suzanne, Can we speak about the VERY REAL possibility that some women will never get what they want if they start caring at 30. Men are not just oozing over older post feminist women. Can we be real with them? Course correction ONLY AFFECTS her. She can't cause a man to invest in her just because she's learned "her worth"
14:31 In Germany, we have a word for that: Torschlusspanik. Thats the fear, the gate closes, because it is getting late, aka you are almost too late to achieve one special thing.
Stats?? Stats say DONT RISK marrying a college grad woman so... As for age it's mainly that after 25 there's a tacit sense your chance to remarry has dropped drastically so if you have/want kids ITS TOO LATE to find a new mount The crucial point is figuring out how you've been misinformed so you can be smarter about gaining your REAL best life
These things are all true from a woman's perspective, but it doesn't go far enough to cover the entire problem. The legal system is a massive disincentive for men to commit to women. The extreme feminist institutionalization of the hatred of men and encouragement over value themselves make many women poor partners. The inability of many women to tell the difference for men between women who they would have sex with and women they would commit to leads women to insist on men of higher status than they can realistically acquire.
Watch more of her vids. she does cover the issues you discuss but her in format covers on one topic at a time and she does not continually hammer the same thing again and again.
@@jamesnelson1968 watch the full channel It's geared to women so is formatted for them. If your looking for stuff for men look to "dad's starting over"
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth,investing remains the priority. Forex trading has plenty of opportunities to earn a decent payout,with the right skills and proper understanding of how the market works
@@darlenecaban3980 I agree with you, I had a friend in the office who lived well but never had an investment, unfortunately his job ended so he went from living well to surviving
I don't regret not marrying in my 20s, not one bit. As a matter of fact, I have no regrets about the choices I've made. While I agree that love is very important and should be done with intention, I don't believe that young women should be pressured to marry somebody, anybody so they can have children. Not everyone is supposed to go this route and that is fine. My mother instilled getting a career in my head so that I would not have to be at the mercy of anyone. There is something important about women having options in life. Our mothers were subjected to being abused and having to rely heavily on a man just to do something minute as making a purchase and getting a credit card. I think we need to offer them some grace. I firmly believe that Divine timing factors into selecting a mate as well. Just my opinion.
We need mothers telling their daughters, “Men age like Sean Connery & women age like… Sean Connery.” This statement alone should jar women in their late teens & in their 20’s to start looking at the reality of life will change how they approach dating & relationships.
@@TGP109 i don’t know what you trolling has anything to do with anything, but good luck with that. Even Susan states in her videos that people cannot be in relationships they’re not attracted too. You should watch more of her videos & educate yourself of human nature.
Are you going to dump your woman when she ages? Big reason my generation didn’t trust not getting a career. Abandoned moms post pill era. So many latchkey kids. And she’s saying 25 not teen. I agree with her but there has to be pillars, maturity, empathy, lack of addictions etc. and she’s not saying no education or career ever. She’s got a podcast right?
Have you looked at current day older men??? They are all overweight, have diabetes, high blood pressure, bad teeth, hairless or in places it shouldn't be in abundance. They mostly all have erectile disfunction. They age as well as they've taken care of themselves, same with women. Just don't be like, yeah, old greasy farts are so hot nonsense. Lol
The number one cause of divorce is women being able to walk to the clerk and filing divorce proceedings at 70-80%. Not being young and not being immature. Once we can get some politicians with some insight into these problems, things will change. Until then..men are screwed
70-80% divorce settlements don't just cause divorces, they stop men from getting married in the first place. A lot of women who thought it would be clever to leave marriage until their looks and fertility have gone, are going to find this out.
Negative. Divorce should be possible for those that are abused. But the root issue is peoples priorities are flawed, fix that and that’ll fix the divorce rate
Some laws / courts / judges have to be addressed to fix this as well. What you say is true and correct. However with the system so against men they are walking away from marriage. I am 59. Married since 1983 same wife, no divorce. Yes children and grand kids. Love it. Engineer. I supervised a few hundred engineers. A VERY common thing was for the gentlemen was to go out of state and get vasectomies so they would not get trapped and swearing off marriage. THIS IS A MASSIVE problem as these ARE the men that would be GREAT Husbands and Fathers. I have never seen this and do not understand it but it is what it is. Reason, they DON'T want to end up in family court and getting divorce rapped. That's what they call it.
@@TGP109 Do you think it's right what is happening to men in most courts? I have seen so many young men decide to never marry. Why? The theme I see is mostly what they have seen their fathers go through and what their friends ARE going through. This is BREAKING DOWN society! Families are just not really forming like they should and it's because of the system. Way too many of the guys want no part of it at all. Most of my guy friends are engineers with great paying jobs - and they just won't risk it at all AND IT IS SAD! They do seem happy about it for now, but I wonder what the happy meter is gonna read at 55 plus. And it's the term they use not my term.
College is the base reason women are all strong and independent or as I call it....angry and overweight! Those women turn into M.C's.....Money Chasers. Best thing I never did was to get married. ALL of my buddy's have been divorce raped. What a mess! Timmy C Arizona
You buddies did not choose wisely. You chose not to choose. But there are women of good value out there and sadly your parents didn't teach you how to choose. So I don't blame you. I do blame your parents. Maybe start watching dad's starting over. It's a channel for men. This one is a channel for women. It can help you find a good woman in the form of see what a good woman embodies and how they communicate, what they want but make no mistake this is not part of the manosphere. If that's what your looking for go elsewhere
You can get married and avoid Divorce grape with a very solid pre nep done either before or shortly after the engagement. I recommend before actually asking her to marry and at least 6 months prior to getting married. It protects both sides. Make sure you both have your own attorneys and agree. Some back and forth negotiations are good as well. Even with this in place sometimes it gets thrown out as invalid somehow that I do not understand. But, it does give a fighting chance to not be taken advantage of. Marriage can be a great thing for sure. Protect yourself. Protect your bride. Be ready to appeal and appeal and appeal and appeal. Even taking the judge to trial if a valid agreement is thrown out. Freeze some swimmers just in case you want kids later and get snipped so no accidents. Also have an agreement on kids in writing long before kids come up in conversation. This is about the only method of birth control that works 99.9% for men. No swimmers, no problems. no surprises. Victoria secrete - no can defend..... If she wants to get pregnant she will get pregnant. I have actually known several ladies that got pregnant and told so and so your the daddy - guess what - these guys were snipped! so this still in this day and age goes on - paternity fraud. Pretty sad state of things for sure. DNA testing SHOULD BE MANDATORY before you can sign as the father.......
@@Kōgan_Dekai she has stated on several occasions in multiple videos, also her primary client is women She has also stated that dad's starting over is channel more geared to the men's side of the issue. Ok would suggest watching both but dad's starting over is a great place to ensure you are bringing the right things to the table. Women don't talk or communicate like men. You need to translate. To understand they say things in as many words as possible.
These podcasts are ridiculous. EVERYONE has to work, there are no money trees being planted. The idea that women can just opt out of the job market is fantasy. It's isn't 1946 anymore.
I guess I and all the other stay-at-home moms I know aren’t real then. It’s not ridiculous. Work and the job market are not the same thing. We do work. We just don’t get a pay check for it. I provide childcare so we don’t pay for daycare. I don’t know if you have seen the cost of having multiple young children/ babies in daycare, but its very expensive. I provide home cooked meals cheaply so we don’t pay for restaurants. I care for and maintain our home so we don’t have to hire that out and I do the yard work. I mend and maintain our clothing, so we buy less. My husband is able to earn more in his specialized field because I take care of everything else. It would actually cost our family more money for me to have a job once all the taxes are taken out, plus our family’s physical and mental health is better off for it. A penny saved really is a penny earned, you just have to reframe your thinking.
Uhm, grew up next to a family of 6 with a stay at home Mom and had a Grandmother who bore 10, so yes, I do know they exist. My own mother paid her sisters to watch us while she worked. As a result, my parents never had to go on welfare and left a legacy for their children, something that none of my Aunts were able to do. I also do my own yardwork, make my own meals and sometimes work on my own car but taxes and home repair are through the roof. Keep in mind you may have a husband who works in a specialized field, but most women don't. That second paycheck may be all that's keeping them afloat.@@dianaaugustine5438
I am a stay at home mom. Don't pay a single bill. My husband takes care of all and even helps with my school tuition. It's by the grace of God that he handles it. I am planning on remote work to help him out once I graduate. Either way our priority are the children.
Fantasy? I have been out of the workforce for 6 years, basically as long as we have been married. We have three children four and under, and my husband is the only income earner.
fell in love in October, proposed in April, married in July. done.
and we lived happily ever after.
My mom stood home with 6 of us and homeschooled most of us, my dad busted his butt providing. At around kid 4 my mom started her own home daycare and was making some decent income to supplement my dad. She was a Sunday school teacher and became a chaplain. After my two youngest sisters were teenagers my father partially retired and supported my mom in pursuing her masters, she is now a very involved grandma and a special education teacher. I think my parents, without knowing did things in a great order! They supported eachother at different times and seasons. Most importantly my mother was there to instill Christ in her children, moral values and social and Communiy skills. Her going back to school in her later years also still amazing me.
It can be done, men and women just have to work together and have a common vision around God, home and family.
I love your channel, thank you for sharing this info and helping others realize that tradition is important!
Married at 21, celebrated our 10 year anniversary this year. Had our first kid at 28 and i started staying at home, my husband and i made it work together ❤ never ever would i have imagined i stay at home with a kid. I always thought i was going to do career, more school etc. At 30, my priorities just totally flipped. This feels right, and we will keep on working as a team for as long as we are together.
Its true. The older you get, the higher the chances of miscarriage, fertility problems etc. Also, if you set a career before having children you will find yourself having to "sit out". Wouldnt it be smarter to have kids, go to school then have a career? Why were we taught the other way around?
It might be that one of the reasons was feminism. Feminist also suggest, if you have a baby in your belly, just get an ab¤rtion so you can focus on your career. It is so sad. Women have been lied to for soooo long.
For the past 30+ years, schools and companies have been pushing the full-time employment model that only sees an employee as valuable if they can hold on to them physically for a minimum 8 hours a day. I have a family and I would be willing to work, but not a full 8 hours. My family is my focus. Work is work. I am disgusted and angry that businesses think I should prioritize my job over my family.
Why resent the businesses, how about motivating your husband to fully support his family
Fair enough, but look at those European countries that PAY women to have children and they still don't want to have them.
I have zero interest in screaming my kids out the door to get them dropped off at daycare at 7:30am, work an 8 hour job, spend 1+ hours in traffic, to pick up cranky children and come home to all the housework that I wasn't home to do. Hard pass.
@@MedicalAutonomyProject exactly my sentiment
The harsh truth is the business only cares about the bottom line and providing jobs isn’t the top priority. This is why I respect women who can make it work as a SAHM, actually because they know their priorities and boundaries and are honest with themselves realizing they aren’t able to give employers what they are looking for instead of whining at employers for not giving them more flexibility and paid time off.
At the same time, employers are benefiting from a bigger workforce resulting in cheaper labor. If companies want their employees to work as though they have a stay at home spouse or no children they should pay them more. However, the only way companies will be incentivized to do this is if the workforce shrinks due to more people opting out.
Back in our early twenties, I remember those who backpacked round the world remarking to me that those other backpackers they met on their travels were inversely mature according to how long they had been on the road. In other words, the longer they had been finding themselves the less they had succeeded.
I felt the urge or desire to get married at 22. I thought to myself, I want to be a wife by 25. So when I met my husband at 23 I knew he was the one 2 months in. We got married 1 month before I turned 25. We have been married for 16 yrs and have 4 kids together. Half of our friends are married but either has 1 or no kids while the other half are still single.
I’m 28 and glad I didn’t get married and have kids in my early 20s. I was not ready for that life stage. I grew up in deep poverty and on welfare. Those kids would’ve grew up very hungry and on welfare as I couldn’t even take care of myself. I had to prioritize my career to be able to take care of them. I grew up in a single parent household in a high cost of living area and experienced a ton of financial trauma. I’m working on breaking generational poverty.
But also men weren’t interested in me throughout my 20s. I only attracted guys who wanted hookups or who were very lustful in their approach even though I dressed modestly and are a Christian. So I’m waiting for an actual man who would be good to date. I’m not going to just rush into a relationship with a guy who wouldn’t be a good husband or father just to get married and have kids before 30.
Good idea. Marrying-having kids younger is the ideal but that is assuming you are marrying someone who is committed to treating you with love all your life together and who shares a common vision with you on how you want to serve the Lord together.
I had to wait until 29 to meet my now husband. He was worth the wait!!! We would have loved to meet earlier but wouldn't change a thing, having found each other now.
Met in April, married in May, got pregnant in July…. By Gods grace at 40, I slid under the wire and found a gem of a guy who was bullied by his ex wife but still had enough moral virtue to want marriage again. Now married 1.5
Years we are learning about each other and I’m trying to figure out how to get my student loans forgiven so I can be home full time. Also trying for baby #2. I came late to the game, way way late. I believed the Jane Fonda Lies “I’m a woman, hear me roar”
BS or the “we
Have finally become the men we’ve always wanted”
Women NEED men. Yes I said NEED.
Fonda & company dupes us to think independence is better than family. She was probably hired by the higher ups whose goal
Is to unravel the American society by attacking the family. Two income households was their plan.
7) The prime men don't leave college single. They are snapped up by a smart 18 or 22 year old. A man (or woman) who is single at 30, 35, 40 probably has sub-ideal sexual market value. The surgeon who repaired my C section was handsome and funny, also had 7 kids at age 39, so do that math on when he got married.
8) Avoid having elderly parents with health problems and young children/babies at the same time
9) Be an empty-nester in your 40s, actually have money to travel or whatever you want. Do sleepless nights with babies in your 20s when you have the health and energy
10) The act of being coupled matures an individual in a desirable way. A man who was in a relationship with the same woman at age 20 will be a better husband than if he married the same woman at age 40 (and vice versa for women)
11) Invest the "fun" energy of dating and sex into your husband and not random men you would be embarrassed to cross paths with again, not to mention avoid making a "reputation" for yourself.
I’m female , I grew up lower working class . Me going to university and having a career had nothing to do with feminism. Our father made sure we got educated and got skills she we could sustain ourselves and those around us . ( I ended up mtg my husband at university)
In my understanding of what is happening in my culture in terms of women focusing more on education and career is that women are finding man unreliable when it comes to commitment in building family - financial + effort wise. It's quite common to hear men not willing to contribute financially, undermining women who needs to "rely" on them and "ask" for money. It is also not uncommon to hear that women who has not strong enough income herself stay in the marriage that is bad because they can't possibly financially survive with her children if separated from her husband, and not uncommon to hear men do not pay their share of the cost of child raising after divorce, and the law cant do anything to that hence all burden and responsibilities of the children usually falls on the mother, willingly, but very hard in this real world. Hence, many women feels more secure to at least make sure they themselves have good career, good education and good income first before getting marry and have children. At least when that happens, say for example domestic abuse/affairs, they are able to leave the marriage without worrying about the risk of starving her children. Not sure about the social welfare in America but it's not great from where I am from.
Welcome back Suzanne. Partners need some serious vetting prior to marriage, but yeah don't wait for marriage or kids. Work on yourself when you are as young as possible!
Met at 18 married at 21. 38 years later still going strong. I think it depends on the person(s) and people just in general don’t want to put in the work.
Welcome back Suzanne!
Still telling lies about globalman and pandering to f33 mails I see James. Some things never change.
If I became president, I'd propose a law that would forgive student loans if women became stay at home mothers. The moment they re-enter the workforce, that loan is back. It's the only way to snap society back in the right direction and end feminism. Everyone knows the majority of women would take the deal.
The really bad thing here is single women over say 35 without kids are so depressed and angry. Seen it time and time again. Pretty sad. And at 45 and beyond they just hate the world. Nuts.
@@crabmanrockefeller9117 It's not good.
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Absolutely correct. But I’d go even further to say many western women WITH children are also very unhappy and bitter.
Definitely. One income households, especially with children, need more financial support in this age of inflation. It's ridiculous, most families are forced to work overtime outside the home and the kids suffer as a result
Really? You mean that a woman could be 50k or 80k in student loan debt on a bs degree and then just decide to become a stay at home mother and the debt is gone? I have two questions :
1. Who pays that money back? Where is the money coming from? From the working men and women?
2. What use is that degree then? Don't you think that most women will just use that to get in massive student loan debt and then switch to stay at home women?
Worked through my first and second pregnancy due to my husbands layoff. My second son is now 6 weeks and he’s just got a new a job and my husband wants to work however much he needs to so I can stay home. I want too but I feel so scared to make that change!
Thank you for this, Suzanne 🙏
I am truly amazed by the insights you have into the male psychy. (Are you from Germany/of German descent?)
Usually women have no idea what men want in women, but only look at what they want in men and then give the same answer, basically acting as if men and women are identical.
Simply because in their first 20+ years of life, the men came running to them, like the moth to the flame. So they never once had to think of what a man wants. All they need was already given.
And the women who do know how to attract men on purpose, usually won't ever give that info to other women, who would then become their rivals.
Most men, who are at least a bit skilled at attracting women or have gotten hit on by women a few times, have experienced the almost child-like way women nowadays try to attract a man they want. It's usually off-putting, because they act like men, instead of behaving female. More or less they tell the man "I want you" and just like a woman who has options, the man also instantly loses intrest, because she comes across as "needy" or worse.
A man wants to "have to conquer her". A woman needs to be passively alluring. She must draw the man in, without simply telling him "I want you" or worse - inviting him to the bed right away (which results in her being a one-night-stand or friends-with-benefits at best). Even if a relationship ensues, the man never learned to "desire" her. And he never will, as it basically sets the bar.
Preach! Welcome back!!!
So glad that you’re back! 🎉
I saw this article on "Better Bachelor" podcast.
@suzanne, Can we speak about the VERY REAL possibility that some women will never get what they want if they start caring at 30. Men are not just oozing over older post feminist women. Can we be real with them? Course correction ONLY AFFECTS her. She can't cause a man to invest in her just because she's learned "her worth"
14:31 In Germany, we have a word for that: Torschlusspanik. Thats the fear, the gate closes, because it is getting late, aka you are almost too late to achieve one special thing.
Thank you for your wisdom, knowledge, and understanding.
A woman's value extends far past her ability to procreate.
No. It doesn't.
Yes, as a grandmother she would be invaluable.
@@LadyDesertTortoise mmmmmm but if she is a typical selfish mother, she will not meet the grandchildren
Who raises the procreation?
True, but this video isn’t saying it isn’t. If you have two assignments and one is due sooner, which do you do first?
Great message. 👍
Stats??
Stats say DONT RISK
marrying a college grad
woman so... As for age
it's mainly that after 25
there's a tacit sense
your chance to remarry
has dropped drastically
so if you have/want kids
ITS TOO LATE to find
a new mount
The crucial point is figuring
out how you've been
misinformed so you
can be smarter about
gaining your REAL
best life
These things are all true from a woman's perspective, but it doesn't go far enough to cover the entire problem. The legal system is a massive disincentive for men to commit to women. The extreme feminist institutionalization of the hatred of men and encouragement over value themselves make many women poor partners. The inability of many women to tell the difference for men between women who they would have sex with and women they would commit to leads women to insist on men of higher status than they can realistically acquire.
Watch more of her vids. she does cover the issues you discuss but her in format covers on one topic at a time and she does not continually hammer the same thing again and again.
@@diamondback2085 Ok, I was just responding to what I saw.
@@jamesnelson1968 watch the full channel
It's geared to women so is formatted for them. If your looking for stuff for men look to "dad's starting over"
Currently listening as a 25 year old, but what should I do if I do not want to date online? Ive already tried it and am weirded out.
*Making money is an action. Keeping money is a behavior. And Growing money is knowledge*
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth,investing remains the priority. Forex trading has plenty of opportunities to earn a decent payout,with the right skills and proper understanding of how the market works
@@darlenecaban3980 I agree with you, I had a friend in the office who lived well but never had an investment, unfortunately his job ended so he went from living well to surviving
In few years to come people will be kicking themselves in regrets if they miss the opportunity of buying or investing in Crypto currency
The best thing to Invest in now is
Stock
Forex
Real estate
When you are 21 , 10 years later you will be à completely different person
I don't regret not marrying in my 20s, not one bit. As a matter of fact, I have no regrets about the choices I've made. While I agree that love is very important and should be done with intention, I don't believe that young women should be pressured to marry somebody, anybody so they can have children. Not everyone is supposed to go this route and that is fine. My mother instilled getting a career in my head so that I would not have to be at the mercy of anyone. There is something important about women having options in life. Our mothers were subjected to being abused and having to rely heavily on a man just to do something minute as making a purchase and getting a credit card. I think we need to offer them some grace. I firmly believe that Divine timing factors into selecting a mate as well. Just my opinion.
We need mothers telling their daughters, “Men age like Sean Connery & women age like… Sean Connery.” This statement alone should jar women in their late teens & in their 20’s to start looking at the reality of life will change how they approach dating & relationships.
Well, if all you look at is physical beauty, you will remain unhappy. Nice try at trolling though.
@@TGP109 i don’t know what you trolling has anything to do with anything, but good luck with that. Even Susan states in her videos that people cannot be in relationships they’re not attracted too. You should watch more of her videos & educate yourself of human nature.
Are you going to dump your woman when she ages? Big reason my generation didn’t trust not getting a career. Abandoned moms post pill era. So many latchkey kids. And she’s saying 25 not teen. I agree with her but there has to be pillars, maturity, empathy, lack of addictions etc. and she’s not saying no education or career ever. She’s got a podcast right?
Have you looked at current day older men??? They are all overweight, have diabetes, high blood pressure, bad teeth, hairless or in places it shouldn't be in abundance. They mostly all have erectile disfunction. They age as well as they've taken care of themselves, same with women. Just don't be like, yeah, old greasy farts are so hot nonsense. Lol
@@sadrablue you just like making things up instead of listening/paying attention. Good luck with being offended by your own thoughts
Proverbs 31
The number one cause of divorce is women being able to walk to the clerk and filing divorce proceedings at 70-80%. Not being young and not being immature. Once we can get some politicians with some insight into these problems, things will change. Until then..men are screwed
70-80% divorce settlements don't just cause divorces, they stop men from getting married in the first place. A lot of women who thought it would be clever to leave marriage until their looks and fertility have gone, are going to find this out.
Negative. Divorce should be possible for those that are abused. But the root issue is peoples priorities are flawed, fix that and that’ll fix the divorce rate
90% of those women are college educated.
At 30 in the epiphany phase and looking for a beta provider...post CC and 304 phase.... Rollo got it right.
Some laws / courts / judges have to be addressed to fix this as well. What you say is true and correct. However with the system so against men they are walking away from marriage. I am 59. Married since 1983 same wife, no divorce. Yes children and grand kids. Love it. Engineer. I supervised a few hundred engineers. A VERY common thing was for the gentlemen was to go out of state and get vasectomies so they would not get trapped and swearing off marriage. THIS IS A MASSIVE problem as these ARE the men that would be GREAT Husbands and Fathers. I have never seen this and do not understand it but it is what it is. Reason, they DON'T want to end up in family court and getting divorce rapped. That's what they call it.
Congrats! I too got married in 83...didn't work out so well ) 3 years, divorced. Oh well, it happens.
@@DrGingerHamster Sorry it did not work out. My guess is your now ex filed. The odds are in my favor here 80/20%. Let me know.
The phrase ''divorce raped'' started in RP circles and it's a slap in the face to anyone who's been truly raped.
@@TGP109 Do you think it's right what is happening to men in most courts? I have seen so many young men decide to never marry. Why? The theme I see is mostly what they have seen their fathers go through and what their friends ARE going through. This is BREAKING DOWN society! Families are just not really forming like they should and it's because of the system. Way too many of the guys want no part of it at all. Most of my guy friends are engineers with great paying jobs - and they just won't risk it at all AND IT IS SAD! They do seem happy about it for now, but I wonder what the happy meter is gonna read at 55 plus. And it's the term they use not my term.
College is the base reason women are all strong and independent or as I call it....angry and overweight! Those women turn into M.C's.....Money Chasers. Best thing I never did was to get married. ALL of my buddy's have been divorce raped. What a mess! Timmy C Arizona
You buddies did not choose wisely. You chose not to choose. But there are women of good value out there and sadly your parents didn't teach you how to choose. So I don't blame you. I do blame your parents. Maybe start watching dad's starting over. It's a channel for men. This one is a channel for women. It can help you find a good woman in the form of see what a good woman embodies and how they communicate, what they want but make no mistake this is not part of the manosphere. If that's what your looking for go elsewhere
@@diamondback2085 lol. Mind your own beeswax!
All I'm seeing from this comment is choices and consequences. Situation Normal.
You can get married and avoid Divorce grape with a very solid pre nep done either before or shortly after the engagement. I recommend before actually asking her to marry and at least 6 months prior to getting married. It protects both sides. Make sure you both have your own attorneys and agree. Some back and forth negotiations are good as well. Even with this in place sometimes it gets thrown out as invalid somehow that I do not understand. But, it does give a fighting chance to not be taken advantage of. Marriage can be a great thing for sure. Protect yourself. Protect your bride. Be ready to appeal and appeal and appeal and appeal. Even taking the judge to trial if a valid agreement is thrown out. Freeze some swimmers just in case you want kids later and get snipped so no accidents. Also have an agreement on kids in writing long before kids come up in conversation. This is about the only method of birth control that works 99.9% for men. No swimmers, no problems. no surprises. Victoria secrete - no can defend..... If she wants to get pregnant she will get pregnant. I have actually known several ladies that got pregnant and told so and so your the daddy - guess what - these guys were snipped! so this still in this day and age goes on - paternity fraud. Pretty sad state of things for sure. DNA testing SHOULD BE MANDATORY before you can sign as the father.......
@@Kōgan_Dekai she has stated on several occasions in multiple videos, also her primary client is women
She has also stated that dad's starting over is channel more geared to the men's side of the issue. Ok would suggest watching both but dad's starting over is a great place to ensure you are bringing the right things to the table.
Women don't talk or communicate like men. You need to translate. To understand they say things in as many words as possible.
Thanks
These podcasts are ridiculous. EVERYONE has to work, there are no money trees being planted. The idea that women can just opt out of the job market is fantasy. It's isn't 1946 anymore.
I guess I and all the other stay-at-home moms I know aren’t real then. It’s not ridiculous. Work and the job market are not the same thing.
We do work. We just don’t get a pay check for it. I provide childcare so we don’t pay for daycare. I don’t know if you have seen the cost of having multiple young children/ babies in daycare, but its very expensive.
I provide home cooked meals cheaply so we don’t pay for restaurants. I care for and maintain our home so we don’t have to hire that out and I do the yard work. I mend and maintain our clothing, so we buy less.
My husband is able to earn more in his specialized field because I take care of everything else. It would actually cost our family more money for me to have a job once all the taxes are taken out, plus our family’s physical and mental health is better off for it. A penny saved really is a penny earned, you just have to reframe your thinking.
I haven’t worked for the past 10 years and my husband has been able to support our family of 7, I know many families in the same situation.
Uhm, grew up next to a family of 6 with a stay at home Mom and had a Grandmother who bore 10, so yes, I do know they exist. My own mother paid her sisters to watch us while she worked. As a result, my parents never had to go on welfare and left a legacy for their children, something that none of my Aunts were able to do. I also do my own yardwork, make my own meals and sometimes work on my own car but taxes and home repair are through the roof. Keep in mind you may have a husband who works in a specialized field, but most women don't. That second paycheck may be all that's keeping them afloat.@@dianaaugustine5438
I am a stay at home mom. Don't pay a single bill. My husband takes care of all and even helps with my school tuition. It's by the grace of God that he handles it. I am planning on remote work to help him out once I graduate. Either way our priority are the children.
Fantasy? I have been out of the workforce for 6 years, basically as long as we have been married. We have three children four and under, and my husband is the only income earner.