The way you speak your heart without fear of judgement and you always reach women viewer to prioritise themselves is commendable. I respect you for the way you are......
Hi Shona, I have a 6 year old and a 3 month old.When my first kid was born which was pre COVID time, I had to travel to office 60 kms both sides.I put my baby to daycare at 9 month and never decided to quit my job.Those times were tough but I never gave up and I am glad that I stayed strong.After 5/6 years I hardly think about those difficult times and that's why decided to go for second child because I know that I can do this one more time.😊We as mother's can do both and the times are changing. Try to outsource and get as much help as we can and I believe we can have a successful career as well as happy kids both at the same time.I know we will have mom guilt in all cases whether working or not.Some days my work takes priority and the other day my kids.I don't try to have a work life balance anymore.Lots of love and good wishes to you.❤
Hi, i agree with you. Mental health is most important. अगर हमारी मनःस्थिति सही है तो शारीरिक स्थिति अपने आप सही रहती है। लेकिन मुझे ये बात अब समझ में आती है जब समय निकल गया। मैं उन लोगों की बातों में आ गई जो बोलते थे बच्चे को समय दो घर को समय दो घरवालो को समय दो 😐 आज बच्चे बड़े हो गए और हम वैसे ke वैसे मैं खुश हूं पर अपने लिए कुछ नहीं है। ऐसा लगता है बस दूसरों के लिए कर रहे। मेँ यही सलाह दूंगी की कभी अपना काम मत छोड़ना, भले कुछ समय ka ब्रेक ले लेना मगर अपना काम अपना स्वाभिमान होता है। भगवान तुम्हें और अंगद को और शक्ति और सहनशीलता प्रदान करे। 🙏
Thank you Shona for bringing up this matter. I had to put my daughter in day care at 11 months. Gone through lot of judgement from family and even colleagues too. Mental sanity is so important, which women particularly ignore and even going through same they judge other women. My daughter is 6 years old now, from my experience I would like to advise have a house help/care taker who can help you with Neev and small household works. Neev will be in front of you with help and you will be able to manage work as well. Thats how we have managed during covid times.
Timing of video 6.25 when Neevu was smiling he was looking ditto like his dadimaa. God bless you betu. Chalo pause karke comment kiya ab aagey dekhti hoon video.
I was in Govt. job on a decent post, after the birth of my two children I left my job, my husband had his own business that is why there was no problem of finances, but no one knows what is in store for future, my husband was no more in 2021 due to kidney issues, both my children were then studying in college, I had to suffered a lot, one good thing happen in this scenario was I am getting pension, so I just want to convey that everyone that future can't be predicted, every woman should be independent 🙏🙏
Seriously dii with baby it’s very difficult same time bche ko time agar na de pai even for small period of time guilt bda ganda vala ata hai but I’m so lucky i have my miL jab b help chyiye hota hai mmi baby ko smbhal leti hai
hi shona,jo bat aap ne aj share kiya hai wo bilkul sahi kaha hai....financially independent hona bahut jaruri hai chahe wo ladka ho yea ladki.....👌👍good decision and keep it up
You are a super woman Shona ❤ I know you are very clear in your thoughts so no need to worry, I am sure you will manage everything very well 👍 Day by day Neevu is looking so sweet 😘 cutie pie
Absolutely right ...quality matters not quantity I am a mother of 1 and 1/2 year old...I can totally understand ur confused state of mind...I am sure you will find a way.😊 Keep a nanny for 6-7 hrs...at this age baby will adjust with them soon...and u can also concentrate on work
Thank you Shona for bringing up this matter. I had to put my son busy in kid learning tablet and do my office work as same . Gone through lot of judgement from family and even colleagues too. Mental sanity is so important, which women particularly ignore and even going through same they judge other women but ignore all things i always follow one song literately (kuch toh log kahege logo ka kaam hai kehna ) so dont worry. i know you do so well
I strongly agree with you Shona... What u said is very true, mental health n financial health is no doubt very important. It's little difficult but m sure u will figure it out Shona❤....Ur in fact both of u are really doing well😊lots of love Neevu🥰
I absolutely respect ur thoughts. My daughter is 26 sept born. I closely follow your vlog. My daughter has same toys , cloths , mate same as neevu. I recently resumed my job and your vlog boosted my spirit. Thanks for your practical n constructive advice. i am sure you would have motivated so many mommas.. and i am following your footsteps for my baby. Thanks for that as well..
No Shona don't leave your work, a little time management and discipline in life will surely help in working towards your goal which will be beneficial both for u and and your family.
Bilkul sahi kaha tumne. Decision difficult hota hai, but kaam karna bahut necessary hai. Jab Akshaj hua tha, mein full time job karti thi...maternity leave ke baad I faced the same dilemma. Joined back...kuchh din office gayi bhi...hired a morning to evening help at home for Akshaj. But somehow, I wasn't happy...bahut dilemma tha. Then I resigned and switched to freelancing. As I was working for quite a good number of years by then, I had made good contacts. So freelancing mein achhe projects bhi milte the and I could spend time with Akshaj too. Of course, full time help for Akshaj thi bhi kyonki jab deadlines pe kaam karte ho toh one has to focus. And trust me, bachche bahut jaldi adapt kar jaate hain. Thode time baad, Akshaj was very happy when he was with me and equally happy when he was with the help. Bachche bahut jaldi bond bana lete hain and acclimatize kar jaate hain. Hum adults ko hi zyada time lagta hai. And aaj tak, I ve never repented my decision to join back work. People judged me ki help kaise rakh liya...khud maa ho toh tumko time dena chahiye...help toh bachche ko ignore kar degi...bachcha suffer karega...ek hi bachcha hai...uss mein bhi help kyon chahiye...etc etc etc. But Ranjan aur mein clear the ki humein kya karna hai and we did exactly that...kyonki...kuchh toh log kahenge...😂 Btw, maine bhi Holi pe mutton and dahi vada banaya tha. Malpua bhi banaya tha. Gujiya bahar se le liya tha. Hamare mein bhi chacha ko kaka bolte hain. Same cultural background hai...toh obviously same norms😅 Loads of love and blessings to the three of you❤❤❤
Hello. Try keeping a help/nanny, may be for few hours in the evening. Someone who can atleast take care/feed one snack to him and play with him,take him down for a stroll. So you get some breathing time. You can do your own thing then . It's very difficult when they turn 6 months and are constantly moving and want to be engaged.
I appreciate your thoughts i am in same situation. Conceived after many years of marriage now in 9th month.i m practising professional so need to start work atleast after some months. Though I have inlaws to support but i keep thinking how i will manage baby and work afterwards.try to keep nany for some hours for basic baby chores. You will be around so Neev wont miss you
I am also pregnant 5th month...I am a working woman. I will get 6months of maternity leave after delivery...after that my condition will be like yours...life is hard...but don't worry everything will find its way ❤
Mayra baby 5months ki hai same thing I'm also struggling from last 1month.sometime even I decided to quit my career but you motivated me thanks 🙏for ur suggestion
What you are saying is true. You must go back to your work and the baby will grow up and get into his routine. It is just a matter of time. So you can take help from outside ( maybe part-time maid or daycare). You are doing freelancing need not worry.
For 1 to 2 years you have to bridge the naps of the baby. Especially during the day. It's very tiring but you have to do it. Because babies should sleep like this only. They need contact napping during day naps, also required patting, rocking, humming etc. there are sleep regressions at 3,6,9,12,18,24 months mark. After 9 months my baby's sleep cycle got better, it takes 2 naps a day.
Very correct timing of ur vlog ❤. I am going through self guilt as i am not able to give proper attention to my 3 year old while working. I was thinking of quitting job. But after your words and reading the comments I will not lose any hope :) thank you. 😊
Hii shona... Hats off to your courage...life me kitne up N down ke bad aapne apne aapko sambhala hai... aap se bahot kuch shikha ne ko milta hai...kuch time se me regular volg nahi dekha parhi... life me bahot up ne down ka time chal raha hai.. that why... good luck for future...😊
Hi Shona i can feel you, and i have seen lot of women sacrificing their career for family and baby, and i totally agree that its not right for women and even for kid, kid will see her mom working juggling and managing between home, mom duty and work, kid will also understand the importance of everything!
Hi Shona....I am a working mom of a three years daughter...from my experience you can try either of two things...Nanny at home or day care...both options are safe for the child and will give you some time to focus on work....all the best .
Hi shona... ur absolutely correct self independence is really v imp. But a question... vlogging is also a medium of earning... u can b independent as u will b earning through vloggin.. and apk acche subscribers bhi hogae h so youtube se u wud b earning good.. so it was a thought ki u can continue with vlogs nd can tc of neevu.. hampering his schedule.n ir health aswll... it was my point if view..
Hi.. don't be i guilt..try try try..you will be able to do it.. bacha to dekthe hi dekhthi bada ho jayega...its a matter of a little time.. your work quality may not be as high as earlier.. but hold in.. it is very well possible ❤
Well said Sona. It temporary phase but being financially independent is very important for a woman. I also work and manage home. While in office i used to feel guilty initially but my mom said that the money i ear will be used for my babies education n well being also. So i should not worried. I guess she is right
Hi Shona .. feeling proud of u...im a working mom and will be completing 18 years in IT industry and u know right how it is.... but now i realise what ever struggling i did only made me clear on managing my life and family....i agree with you... eventually ur family will also support you....as per my experience... first 3 years are very difficult and after the kid is 5 years of age things start to settle down n every thing falls on place... unless you plan for the second one 😅
I have also experienced this ' etane mehnat se baccha ho raha hai career to bhul he jao'..its very depressing for person trying to manage both..but husband is supportive so lets see..all the best dear
Mujhe to 3.6 months ki baby ko ghar pe chor ke scl jana para. Khunji mein health ki wajah se phele chutti li thi. Bachho ki aur khud future aur mental health ke liye hum e kam karna chahiye. Aur problem ho to kuch din chutti keno chahiye . Abhi mein phir se pregnant hoon. Kal delivery hain. Phir se nayi journey suru hogi 2 bachho ko lekar. Job to karni hain. Upar se govt job.
I am also a working women but my vision was clear that I will always be self reliant and I was very much serious about the child development, nurture, moreover habits. Really, my child never harassed my routine and I was also living in Nuclear, separate in other city. So, it's all the habits of child which we develop.
You are absolutely right shona.My baby boy is 15 months now and since he was 10 months I had put him in a school.And i have re started a job .Since last year i am doing a part time job .And i am happy with this decisions sometimes it is not easy to managed home ,baby and work all together but i am trying my best.😊
It's just a suggestion , please don't take it otherwise.......you're a smart & intelligent lady. There are always 2 sides of a coin......but being financially independent and making our lives a complete mess are two different things...... sailing in 2 boats may lead to frustration,crankyness ,health issues and ofcourse relationship friction......I suggest take some time......what's the hurry ,enjoy your motherhood and nurture your child's childhood......these days many young mothers are quitting their jobs for few years to enjoy hassle free life.......
Taking long gaps in career creates issues. In my case once my contacts and associations are lost, once people from industry accepts that I am no more in this field, resuming work after few years will not be possible. Similarly in many industry once you have a long gap in between your career, it's not easy to resume again
You are doing great. I also joined my job again after maternity leave when my daughter is only four months old but I have supportive husband who came my office in every two hours for baby feeding and I went home in lunch time also but somehow we managed and it was all worth it. Of course that was most difficult and struggling face of our life. Because that time I didn’t have any house help. In lunch time I went home make lunch, did baby feed and bath then came back office and at night I came home 8 pm then till 12 pm I play and spend time with my daughter and then I made dinner and wash dishes till 2 am and then my daughter again wake up and I had to feed her again and it went till morning 6 am. I remember I worked 24 hours like a machine but I was happy I managed everything.
I am dr i resumed my work when baby was 3 months old and as all know DR's no fixed hrs, no holidays.. By daughter is 23 now she is also a Dr but till today i have that guilt that i dint pay attention to her when she needed but she is soo well groomed and fentastic child of course child for me 🤣gods grace...for every female the struggle is same.. But catch ur work babys do grow very well.... As a mother kids look at u as soooper mom be one💕
I work in IT, and doing WFH with Nanny for my daughter since she was 8 months old. And don’t worry, it’s easily manageable when you have one helper and obviously a supportive hubby 🙂
When neev sleeps shona fold and keep his quilt on him so that he feels the pressure of your hand on him he won't get disturb. Or keep a pillow on the sides.
Absolutely right Shona, I am also going to start my career once my baby is 1 year old. And I know my in-laws will do some drama that I don't care about hence my husband & I decided not tell them until I got the job to avoid any negativity till then.
Just a suggestion Shona try to steam baby fruits and vegetables instead of whistle in cooker..Steamed food nutritional value is more as compared to boiled food
True Shona. You are looking little pareshan but I know you will come up with a solution soon. You are looking tired too..but cheer up lady you are a fighter..loads of 💕❤❤❤
Hey Dear , I think it completely depends on u ki you want to continue your work or u want some more time to adjust , so don't think about others kyuki work and baby dono hi hamari first priority hai ham kisi ko bhi second pe ni rkh skte , no matter koi kuch bhi bole like muskil se hua hai ya kuch bhi , because I m facing the same from last 2.5 years (**fertility) aur aisa ni hai kal ko baby aane ke baad Mai work ni Krna chaungi ,I will manage both accordingly aur Rahi baad management ki to u r Great u will manage both ,I know you well❤❤
Shona u r right ... definitely baby ke sath sath Hume wo sab bhi karna hai jo humari mental health ko or financially bhi strong banaye.. Or muje ye lagta hai hum agar kisi bhi kaam ko start karte hai to wo ho jata hai...
Hi Shona I also had baby in August and I resumed my work from Feb ..sometimes as a mom I feel guilty but its very important to be financially independent also at the same time.
Aap neev k liye kuch b khana bnaya kryn tu sath sath uski recipe share kr dia kryn Ur ju bna chuki hyn an tk wo b btaya kryn k kis trha tayar kia complete recipe Ek bt ur b pochni hy k delivery k bd ajwain ka ya ju b pani ap peeti thyn wo b mujy share kr dyn jis sy pait km hu jy delivery k bd.
Hi Shona! I am a working mom, yeah it's difficult to manage but you know kids are very adaptable... After my son's annaprashan I joined office and he was with a maid for around 9 hrs. As you said very correctly quality time matters not quantity. It is so true. Now my son is 10 years old and I feel he is more independent and adjusting. Today he is really proud of me and I am so lucky that he never feels like why I am going to work leaving him. His thought is that like his dad his mom also has to go to work 😊😊 love and best wishes to you. I am sure that you too will manage it like a pro and I am looking forward to experience it through your vlogs ❤❤
Dear Shona, hire a good hearted, kind, experienced Nanny. Keep Neevu at home. Take care of your physical and mental health. Just keep on taking small incremental steps everyday toward gaining your financial goal and after 3years, everything will be set. Neevu will be at playschool, his routine will be set. Don't overthink. Just keep on doing your work at your pace. One who has lost her mother at such early age and taking such a great care of her home family n kid, you can do anything dear. God bless you.
Im watching yur vlog when yuwere pregn.my daughter wae also pegn and she gave birth to baby boy on 7th sep nd yu on 10th,many thing i relate with yu..now after 6 month she had to join job after6 month maternity leavebefore 15 days of joining we hire a nanny for 8 hrs,she comes for 8 hrs &take care my grandson all ,the day,she does all massage bath feeding food etcand i only take watch ,so it beame vwry easy to manage & daughter goes offc without any worry,now i want to suggest to hire a nanny for day..inths way yu can manage professional work &can put a. watch on her..just a sugession
Abhi tak aapne itne achai se manage Kiya hai,sabse badi baat aapka life partner bahut support kerta hai tum ker logi,or araam se ho jaayega ,mai ye galti ker chuki hu
Very difficult for ladies to keep the balance. I left the job. Now into social work..... So many times there will be clash between you and your husband... U have to handle.... What to do.... This is life
Aapne bilkul sahi kahaa hy Shona.. I'm also independent.. i don't have baby right now.. Bohat koi bohat kuch bolte hy.. babies are blessings we know.. Ab nhi horaha hy toh uppar wale jnte hy q nhi horaha main or mre husbnd try kr rhe hy.. Islye main teaching krti hu khud independent hu aage baby hone k baad bhi job krungi or phr meri ek choti se business bhi hy online platform pe.. Aap please DM check krna maine PR ka apko rqst kara tha!
Everything is great when you have money in your hand. Don't leave your freelance work. You never know what's next look after yourself first then you will be able to give a good healthy environment to your family.
I have my own business for the past 20 years. My daughter is now 22 years old. I stayed home till she was 2 and then started my business. I used to take her along with me. It was difficult initially but later she got used to it. I think a business is way better than doing a full time job because leaves are not in your hands and there is not much flexibility in timings. But as a free lancer you are free to work at your convenient time and dates.
Shona you make women feel proud and wanted. Just like it is important for a mother to cater to her baby so also is for the men of the house. Since you have such a caring husband your motherhood as well as career will run smooth. I am of your mom in laws age who gracefully could perform my overall duties. Now looking forward to be a grandmother. Your child as he grows will fall into the routine and will feel proud of you both.
Hi Shona Love you and your content. I have been watching you since your 2nd trimester pregnancy journey. I have a daughter who is 1 month younger to Neev. Have been using few of your suggested products and would love to now know about the toys and books that Neev uses. I would love to buy those for my daughter as well. Lots of love and well wishes to your family. ❤️
Shona aapne pregnancy me kese menage kiya me study or Conceive dono ko sath me krna chah rhi hu .plz koi mujhe time manage kese krun koi idea de dijiye
Nanny is other option… because mai b working women hu.. mother of 2 kids 4 years and 6 months.. meri job b important hai iski wajah se mai mere bacho ka future better kr skti hu.. me and my husband both are working.. nanny is one option for us.. ap to ghr pr rahkar kam krte ho to apki observation b to neev rahega hi rahega..
Shona..i m in IT job and working from home...neev and aarav same day ko born huye...ab bahut difficult ho rha office ,baby n ghar ko handle krna ..meri 7 yrs ki daughter bhi hai ..she also need attention n care...job krna bhi jaruri hai ..struggle 😑...maine pregnancy k last day tak 12 hrs office kiya....continous meetings attend kiya...
I understand your situation.... You are doing great, Proud of you. Your babies will always get strength from you in life . Lots and lots love to you....
You are right shona.baby ko bda krne m hr 6 months k bad nye challenges aate h .jase man lo ko aapne baby k liye kuchh plan Kiya h uske changes ko dekhte hue to 6 months tk wo wase kam krega.fir 6 months k bad nye challenges aayenge.ye lifetime rhega.hm agr khud ko free v chhod de to v wo challenges hm khtm nhi kr skte .best h dono ko sath m manange krna.otherwise you lost yourself and lonilyness se bhut harm ho skta h mentally.❤
Mane carrier to nhi kiya uska reasons h .lekin lonilyness ho jati h jise dur krne koi v nhi aata fir Mane yoga join Kiya now kuchh exams k bad mere pas yoga teacher ki degree hogi.log mujhe kehte h hr jgh se isko support h 😂.but asa kuchh nhi h.do what you want to do.now I am happy.
Hlo mam....mera partner mujhe phle chod k chla gya ...cheat b kiya ...lekin m usse bht pyr krti. Hu ....to kya m prayer se ya low of attraction se uska behaviour change kr skti hu plz reply
The way you speak your heart without fear of judgement and you always reach women viewer to prioritise themselves is commendable. I respect you for the way you are......
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Hi Shona, I have a 6 year old and a 3 month old.When my first kid was born which was pre COVID time, I had to travel to office 60 kms both sides.I put my baby to daycare at 9 month and never decided to quit my job.Those times were tough but I never gave up and I am glad that I stayed strong.After 5/6 years I hardly think about those difficult times and that's why decided to go for second child because I know that I can do this one more time.😊We as mother's can do both and the times are changing. Try to outsource and get as much help as we can and I believe we can have a successful career as well as happy kids both at the same time.I know we will have mom guilt in all cases whether working or not.Some days my work takes priority and the other day my kids.I don't try to have a work life balance anymore.Lots of love and good wishes to you.❤
Hi, i agree with you. Mental health is most important. अगर हमारी मनःस्थिति सही है तो शारीरिक स्थिति अपने आप सही रहती है। लेकिन मुझे ये बात अब समझ में आती है जब समय निकल गया।
मैं उन लोगों की बातों में आ गई जो बोलते थे बच्चे को समय दो घर को समय दो घरवालो को समय दो 😐
आज बच्चे बड़े हो गए और हम वैसे ke वैसे
मैं खुश हूं पर अपने लिए कुछ नहीं है।
ऐसा लगता है बस दूसरों के लिए कर रहे।
मेँ यही सलाह दूंगी की कभी अपना काम मत छोड़ना, भले कुछ समय ka ब्रेक ले लेना मगर अपना काम अपना स्वाभिमान होता है।
भगवान तुम्हें और अंगद को और शक्ति और सहनशीलता प्रदान करे। 🙏
Thank you Shona for bringing up this matter. I had to put my daughter in day care at 11 months. Gone through lot of judgement from family and even colleagues too. Mental sanity is so important, which women particularly ignore and even going through same they judge other women.
My daughter is 6 years old now, from my experience I would like to advise have a house help/care taker who can help you with Neev and small household works. Neev will be in front of you with help and you will be able to manage work as well. Thats how we have managed during covid times.
Timing of video 6.25 when Neevu was smiling he was looking ditto like his dadimaa. God bless you betu. Chalo pause karke comment kiya ab aagey dekhti hoon video.
I was in Govt. job on a decent post, after the birth of my two children I left my job, my husband had his own business that is why there was no problem of finances, but no one knows what is in store for future, my husband was no more in 2021 due to kidney issues, both my children were then studying in college, I had to suffered a lot, one good thing happen in this scenario was I am getting pension, so I just want to convey that everyone that future can't be predicted, every woman should be independent 🙏🙏
Seriously dii with baby it’s very difficult same time bche ko time agar na de pai even for small period of time guilt bda ganda vala ata hai but I’m so lucky i have my miL jab b help chyiye hota hai mmi baby ko smbhal leti hai
hi shona,jo bat aap ne aj share kiya hai wo bilkul sahi kaha hai....financially independent hona bahut jaruri hai chahe wo ladka ho yea ladki.....👌👍good decision and keep it up
You are a super woman Shona ❤ I know you are very clear in your thoughts so no need to worry, I am sure you will manage everything very well 👍 Day by day Neevu is looking so sweet 😘 cutie pie
Absolutely right ...quality matters not quantity I am a mother of 1 and 1/2 year old...I can totally understand ur confused state of mind...I am sure you will find a way.😊
Keep a nanny for 6-7 hrs...at this age baby will adjust with them soon...and u can also concentrate on work
Thank you Shona for bringing up this matter. I had to put my son busy in kid learning tablet and do my office work as same . Gone through lot of judgement from family and even colleagues too. Mental sanity is so important, which women particularly ignore and even going through same they judge other women but ignore all things i always follow one song literately (kuch toh log kahege logo ka kaam hai kehna ) so dont worry. i know you do so well
I strongly agree with you Shona... What u said is very true, mental health n financial health is no doubt very important. It's little difficult but m sure u will figure it out Shona❤....Ur in fact both of u are really doing well😊lots of love Neevu🥰
I agree with you didi, and don't worry everything will manage by you give time and patience. Love you didi ❤😊
I absolutely respect ur thoughts. My daughter is 26 sept born. I closely follow your vlog. My daughter has same toys , cloths , mate same as neevu. I recently resumed my job and your vlog boosted my spirit. Thanks for your practical n constructive advice. i am sure you would have motivated so many mommas.. and i am following your footsteps for my baby. Thanks for that as well..
No Shona don't leave your work, a little time management and discipline in life will surely help in working towards your goal which will be beneficial both for u and and your family.
Bilkul sahi kaha tumne. Decision difficult hota hai, but kaam karna bahut necessary hai. Jab Akshaj hua tha, mein full time job karti thi...maternity leave ke baad I faced the same dilemma. Joined back...kuchh din office gayi bhi...hired a morning to evening help at home for Akshaj. But somehow, I wasn't happy...bahut dilemma tha. Then I resigned and switched to freelancing. As I was working for quite a good number of years by then, I had made good contacts. So freelancing mein achhe projects bhi milte the and I could spend time with Akshaj too. Of course, full time help for Akshaj thi bhi kyonki jab deadlines pe kaam karte ho toh one has to focus. And trust me, bachche bahut jaldi adapt kar jaate hain. Thode time baad, Akshaj was very happy when he was with me and equally happy when he was with the help. Bachche bahut jaldi bond bana lete hain and acclimatize kar jaate hain. Hum adults ko hi zyada time lagta hai. And aaj tak, I ve never repented my decision to join back work. People judged me ki help kaise rakh liya...khud maa ho toh tumko time dena chahiye...help toh bachche ko ignore kar degi...bachcha suffer karega...ek hi bachcha hai...uss mein bhi help kyon chahiye...etc etc etc. But Ranjan aur mein clear the ki humein kya karna hai and we did exactly that...kyonki...kuchh toh log kahenge...😂
Btw, maine bhi Holi pe mutton and dahi vada banaya tha. Malpua bhi banaya tha. Gujiya bahar se le liya tha. Hamare mein bhi chacha ko kaka bolte hain. Same cultural background hai...toh obviously same norms😅
Loads of love and blessings to the three of you❤❤❤
Thats why work from home mom thing didnt work...but log mothers ko magician samjhte hai...u make a good point
I agree with you Shona. After pregnancy when you start working you will face some challenges, gradually you will learn to manage.
Hello. Try keeping a help/nanny, may be for few hours in the evening. Someone who can atleast take care/feed one snack to him and play with him,take him down for a stroll. So you get some breathing time. You can do your own thing then . It's very difficult when they turn 6 months and are constantly moving and want to be engaged.
Totally agree with you. Hame financially independent hona bohut zaruri hai… and khud k liye sochna… I love your thought ❤❤
I appreciate your thoughts i am in same situation. Conceived after many years of marriage now in 9th month.i m practising professional so need to start work atleast after some months. Though I have inlaws to support but i keep thinking how i will manage baby and work afterwards.try to keep nany for some hours for basic baby chores. You will be around so Neev wont miss you
I am also pregnant 5th month...I am a working woman. I will get 6months of maternity leave after delivery...after that my condition will be like yours...life is hard...but don't worry everything will find its way ❤
Hey hiii.. don't use pressure cooked food .. boil it in vessel..also steam the veggies and give don't boil them
More power to you.. May God bless you with more strength... Aap bohat aacha msg spread kar rahe hai .. lots of love to Neev!!
Ap bed me hi extension add karva sakte ho carpenter se... Jo slide in bhi ho jae jb use n ho...that will be helpfull... U can Try
Shona pls use a floor based or ceiling based swing..we have been using it for my baby since bright and now he is 3.5 months old .
Mayra baby 5months ki hai same thing I'm also struggling from last 1month.sometime even I decided to quit my career but you motivated me thanks 🙏for ur suggestion
What you are saying is true. You must go back to your work and the baby will grow up and get into his routine. It is just a matter of time. So you can take help from outside ( maybe part-time maid or daycare). You are doing freelancing need not worry.
For 1 to 2 years you have to bridge the naps of the baby. Especially during the day. It's very tiring but you have to do it. Because babies should sleep like this only. They need contact napping during day naps, also required patting, rocking, humming etc. there are sleep regressions at 3,6,9,12,18,24 months mark. After 9 months my baby's sleep cycle got better, it takes 2 naps a day.
Very correct timing of ur vlog ❤. I am going through self guilt as i am not able to give proper attention to my 3 year old while working. I was thinking of quitting job. But after your words and reading the comments I will not lose any hope :) thank you. 😊
Neev is too cute..God bless him and you are very brilliant in what you say...hats off to you and your thinking. I appreciate
This topic should be come in light because it's very important n the way u think is very positive n right.
Hii shona... Hats off to your courage...life me kitne up N down ke bad aapne apne aapko sambhala hai... aap se bahot kuch shikha ne ko milta hai...kuch time se me regular volg nahi dekha parhi... life me bahot up ne down ka time chal raha hai.. that why... good luck for future...😊
Hi Shona i can feel you, and i have seen lot of women sacrificing their career for family and baby, and i totally agree that its not right for women and even for kid, kid will see her mom working juggling and managing between home, mom duty and work, kid will also understand the importance of everything!
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤ yes I agree a woman must be financially independent 😊
Hi Shona....I am a working mom of a three years daughter...from my experience you can try either of two things...Nanny at home or day care...both options are safe for the child and will give you some time to focus on work....all the best
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Hi shona... ur absolutely correct self independence is really v imp.
But a question... vlogging is also a medium of earning... u can b independent as u will b earning through vloggin.. and apk acche subscribers bhi hogae h so youtube se u wud b earning good.. so it was a thought ki u can continue with vlogs nd can tc of neevu.. hampering his schedule.n ir health aswll... it was my point if view..
Hi.. don't be i guilt..try try try..you will be able to do it.. bacha to dekthe hi dekhthi bada ho jayega...its a matter of a little time.. your work quality may not be as high as earlier.. but hold in.. it is very well possible ❤
Well said Sona. It temporary phase but being financially independent is very important for a woman. I also work and manage home. While in office i used to feel guilty initially but my mom said that the money i ear will be used for my babies education n well being also. So i should not worried. I guess she is right
Hi Shona .. feeling proud of u...im a working mom and will be completing 18 years in IT industry and u know right how it is.... but now i realise what ever struggling i did only made me clear on managing my life and family....i agree with you... eventually ur family will also support you....as per my experience... first 3 years are very difficult and after the kid is 5 years of age things start to settle down n every thing falls on place... unless you plan for the second one 😅
Sona.... Please neev ka meal kaise bnate ho.... Video bnaya kro..... Mere bete ka meal start krne wali hu..... Please please
I have also experienced this ' etane mehnat se baccha ho raha hai career to bhul he jao'..its very depressing for person trying to manage both..but husband is supportive so lets see..all the best dear
You are obsolutely right shona, I m also working mother and your ans that don't getting guilty, I like it.
Mujhe to 3.6 months ki baby ko ghar pe chor ke scl jana para. Khunji mein health ki wajah se phele chutti li thi. Bachho ki aur khud future aur mental health ke liye hum e kam karna chahiye. Aur problem ho to kuch din chutti keno chahiye .
Abhi mein phir se pregnant hoon. Kal delivery hain. Phir se nayi journey suru hogi 2 bachho ko lekar. Job to karni hain. Upar se govt job.
Very truely said.👌 cutu cutu Neevu 😘😘 his smile sooo cute. Bohoth bohoth cute hey Neevu🥰🥰 Neevu ko ponies bohoth sweet deekhe hey.🥰🥰
I am also a working women but my vision was clear that I will always be self reliant and I was very much serious about the child development, nurture, moreover habits. Really, my child never harassed my routine and I was also living in Nuclear, separate in other city. So, it's all the habits of child which we develop.
You are absolutely right shona.My baby boy is 15 months now and since he was 10 months I had put him in a school.And i have re started a job .Since last year i am doing a part time job .And i am happy with this decisions sometimes it is not easy to managed home ,baby and work all together but i am trying my best.😊
It's just a suggestion , please don't take it otherwise.......you're a smart & intelligent lady.
There are always 2 sides of a coin......but being financially independent and making our lives a complete mess are two different things...... sailing in 2 boats may lead to frustration,crankyness ,health issues and ofcourse relationship friction......I suggest take some time......what's the hurry ,enjoy your motherhood and nurture your child's childhood......these days many young mothers are quitting their jobs for few years to enjoy hassle free life.......
Taking long gaps in career creates issues. In my case once my contacts and associations are lost, once people from industry accepts that I am no more in this field, resuming work after few years will not be possible. Similarly in many industry once you have a long gap in between your career, it's not easy to resume again
You are doing great. I also joined my job again after maternity leave when my daughter is only four months old but I have supportive husband who came my office in every two hours for baby feeding and I went home in lunch time also but somehow we managed and it was all worth it. Of course that was most difficult and struggling face of our life. Because that time I didn’t have any house help. In lunch time I went home make lunch, did baby feed and bath then came back office and at night I came home 8 pm then till 12 pm I play and spend time with my daughter and then I made dinner and wash dishes till 2 am and then my daughter again wake up and I had to feed her again and it went till morning 6 am. I remember I worked 24 hours like a machine but I was happy I managed everything.
My God.... Just reading it makes me feel tired... And you managed to do it for so many years.... I really appreciate your efforts as a women 🥺
I am dr i resumed my work when baby was 3 months old and as all know DR's no fixed hrs, no holidays.. By daughter is 23 now she is also a Dr but till today i have that guilt that i dint pay attention to her when she needed but she is soo well groomed and fentastic child of course child for me 🤣gods grace...for every female the struggle is same.. But catch ur work babys do grow very well.... As a mother kids look at u as soooper mom be one💕
I work in IT, and doing WFH with Nanny for my daughter since she was 8 months old. And don’t worry, it’s easily manageable when you have one helper and obviously a supportive hubby 🙂
When neev sleeps shona fold and keep his quilt on him so that he feels the pressure of your hand on him he won't get disturb. Or keep a pillow on the sides.
Yes yes I do that
Dii apke thoughts bht achhe he mujhe to apki life se bht inspiration milti he nd in future apki baatein mujhe to benefit Dene hi wali he☺️
A very good wishes tu you, ye wakt bhi nikal jayega. 😊
Absolutely right Shona, I am also going to start my career once my baby is 1 year old.
And I know my in-laws will do some drama that I don't care about hence my husband & I decided not tell them until I got the job to avoid any negativity till then.
Just a suggestion Shona try to steam baby fruits and vegetables instead of whistle in cooker..Steamed food nutritional value is more as compared to boiled food
True Shona. You are looking little pareshan but I know you will come up with a solution soon. You are looking tired too..but cheer up lady you are a fighter..loads of 💕❤❤❤
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Hey Dear , I think it completely depends on u ki you want to continue your work or u want some more time to adjust , so don't think about others kyuki work and baby dono hi hamari first priority hai ham kisi ko bhi second pe ni rkh skte , no matter koi kuch bhi bole like muskil se hua hai ya kuch bhi , because I m facing the same from last 2.5 years (**fertility) aur aisa ni hai kal ko baby aane ke baad Mai work ni Krna chaungi ,I will manage both accordingly aur Rahi baad management ki to u r Great u will manage both ,I know you well❤❤
Neev ko bohot miss kya jis din usse milti hu to v miss karti hu 😊 kitna ache se sab ke sath mil jata hai warna dusre bache rone lagte hai❤
Shona u r right ... definitely baby ke sath sath Hume wo sab bhi karna hai jo humari mental health ko or financially bhi strong banaye..
Or muje ye lagta hai hum agar kisi bhi kaam ko start karte hai to wo ho jata hai...
Aap bilkul sahi ho Sona Aaj ki date me financially independent hona bahut jaruri hai ❤❤❤❤😘😘😘 aap bahut acche se manage kar logi
Hi Shona I also had baby in August and I resumed my work from Feb ..sometimes as a mom I feel guilty but its very important to be financially independent also at the same time.
Aap neev k liye kuch b khana bnaya kryn tu sath sath uski recipe share kr dia kryn
Ur ju bna chuki hyn an tk wo b btaya kryn k kis trha tayar kia complete recipe
Ek bt ur b pochni hy k delivery k bd ajwain ka ya ju b pani ap peeti thyn wo b mujy share kr dyn jis sy pait km hu jy delivery k bd.
Hi Shona! I am a working mom, yeah it's difficult to manage but you know kids are very adaptable... After my son's annaprashan I joined office and he was with a maid for around 9 hrs. As you said very correctly quality time matters not quantity. It is so true. Now my son is 10 years old and I feel he is more independent and adjusting. Today he is really proud of me and I am so lucky that he never feels like why I am going to work leaving him. His thought is that like his dad his mom also has to go to work 😊😊 love and best wishes to you. I am sure that you too will manage it like a pro and I am looking forward to experience it through your vlogs ❤❤
Dear Shona, hire a good hearted, kind, experienced Nanny. Keep Neevu at home. Take care of your physical and mental health. Just keep on taking small incremental steps everyday toward gaining your financial goal and after 3years, everything will be set. Neevu will be at playschool, his routine will be set. Don't overthink. Just keep on doing your work at your pace. One who has lost her mother at such early age and taking such a great care of her home family n kid, you can do anything dear. God bless you.
Hello shona...neevu jo video mai tummy time book dekh rha tha uska link pls share kriye
Yes Shona AAP apna kaam continue kro kuch na kuch rasta nikal aayega 🎉
Im watching yur vlog when yuwere pregn.my daughter wae also pegn and she gave birth to baby boy on 7th sep nd yu on 10th,many thing i relate with yu..now after 6 month she had to join job after6 month maternity leavebefore 15 days of joining we hire a nanny for 8 hrs,she comes for 8 hrs &take care my grandson all ,the day,she does all massage bath feeding food etcand i only take watch ,so it beame vwry easy to manage & daughter goes offc without any worry,now i want to suggest to hire a nanny for day..inths way yu can manage professional work &can put a. watch on her..just a sugession
Abhi tak aapne itne achai se manage Kiya hai,sabse badi baat aapka life partner bahut support kerta hai tum ker logi,or araam se ho jaayega ,mai ye galti ker chuki hu
Very difficult for ladies to keep the balance. I left the job. Now into social work..... So many times there will be clash between you and your husband... U have to handle.... What to do.... This is life
Aapne bilkul sahi kahaa hy Shona..
I'm also independent..
i don't have baby right now..
Bohat koi bohat kuch bolte hy..
babies are blessings we know..
Ab nhi horaha hy toh uppar wale jnte hy q nhi horaha main or mre husbnd try kr rhe hy..
Islye main teaching krti hu khud independent hu aage baby hone k baad bhi job krungi or phr meri ek choti se business bhi hy online platform pe..
Aap please DM check krna maine PR ka apko rqst kara tha!
Everything is great when you have money in your hand. Don't leave your freelance work.
You never know what's next look after yourself first then you will be able to give a good healthy environment to your family.
Working gives you opportunities to learn new things everyday and meet new people.
Hi Shona, agree with ur thoughts
Shi bat h shona.. job krna bhi jruri hota h....time k sath sb manage ho jata h...
I have my own business for the past 20 years. My daughter is now 22 years old. I stayed home till she was 2 and then started my business. I used to take her along with me. It was difficult initially but later she got used to it.
I think a business is way better than doing a full time job because leaves are not in your hands and there is not much flexibility in timings. But as a free lancer you are free to work at your convenient time and dates.
Also can you please share need feeding schedule as my baby is also 6 months old
Shona you make women feel proud and wanted. Just like it is important for a mother to cater to her baby so also is for the men of the house. Since you have such a caring husband your motherhood as well as career will run smooth. I am of your mom in laws age who gracefully could perform my overall duties. Now looking forward to be a grandmother. Your child as he grows will fall into the routine and will feel proud of you both.
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AAP kon se camera se vlog suit karte ho?
Hi Shona Love you and your content. I have been watching you since your 2nd trimester pregnancy journey. I have a daughter who is 1 month younger to Neev. Have been using few of your suggested products and would love to now know about the toys and books that Neev uses. I would love to buy those for my daughter as well. Lots of love and well wishes to your family. ❤️
Hi can you please share the baby mat and baby book link please
Absolutely right i wishing u all the best❤
Shona aapne pregnancy me kese menage kiya me study or Conceive dono ko sath me krna chah rhi hu .plz koi mujhe time manage kese krun koi idea de dijiye
Nanny is other option… because mai b working women hu.. mother of 2 kids 4 years and 6 months..
meri job b important hai iski wajah se mai mere bacho ka future better kr skti hu.. me and my husband both are working.. nanny is one option for us.. ap to ghr pr rahkar kam krte ho to apki observation b to neev rahega hi rahega..
Shona..i m in IT job and working from home...neev and aarav same day ko born huye...ab bahut difficult ho rha office ,baby n ghar ko handle krna ..meri 7 yrs ki daughter bhi hai ..she also need attention n care...job krna bhi jaruri hai ..struggle 😑...maine pregnancy k last day tak 12 hrs office kiya....continous meetings attend kiya...
I understand your situation.... You are doing great, Proud of you. Your babies will always get strength from you in life .
Lots and lots love to you....
No no ,you can do it
Shona, please don’t sacrifice career completely bcz of the situations. Life is unpredictable and you should not leave your earnings.
You are right shona.baby ko bda krne m hr 6 months k bad nye challenges aate h .jase man lo ko aapne baby k liye kuchh plan Kiya h uske changes ko dekhte hue to 6 months tk wo wase kam krega.fir 6 months k bad nye challenges aayenge.ye lifetime rhega.hm agr khud ko free v chhod de to v wo challenges hm khtm nhi kr skte .best h dono ko sath m manange krna.otherwise you lost yourself and lonilyness se bhut harm ho skta h mentally.❤
Absolutely resonating with you ❤
Aap neevu ko solid me kya kya dete ho please btana...
Shona more than u we miss our cutie 💕💕💕😂😂...
Can you please share your dress link
Hii... Aapne bataya nhi ki aap massage oil konsa use krte ho neev ke liye pls reply... I need it more
Tender Coconut oil
Mane carrier to nhi kiya uska reasons h .lekin lonilyness ho jati h jise dur krne koi v nhi aata fir Mane yoga join Kiya now kuchh exams k bad mere pas yoga teacher ki degree hogi.log mujhe kehte h hr jgh se isko support h 😂.but asa kuchh nhi h.do what you want to do.now I am happy.
❤❤best wishes for ur decision shona ji❤
Sona Aapka Decision sahi he 👍
Good vaise bhi main apna naya ghar Lene wali hun to uska vastu aur placement aapse karvaungi. Take care
U r always right 😊
Well said shona ❤❤❤❤
Hlo mam....mera partner mujhe phle chod k chla gya ...cheat b kiya ...lekin m usse bht pyr krti. Hu ....to kya m prayer se ya low of attraction se uska behaviour change kr skti hu plz reply
Aise partner ko bhool jane me bhalaai hai.... Don't put any effort...