The not-so-Golden Rule
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- We're always taught to treat others the way we want to be treated. But is that the best philosophy of life? Sometimes, believe it or not, the Golden Rule shows some major flaws.
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You are the kind of religion teacher I needed in catholic grade school when I was younger.
At least we have him now through the internet
People if you read this, please pray for my neighbour Barry and his Wife Hellen. He will go into hospital to likely be told his test results, and he will likely have Cancer. That Dragon cancer. Please pray for mercy, healing, for Mary to bless and pray for him, for the angels to cast out the Dragons of cancer from him, and for God to shine his love to them. Amen. Thank you, God bless
Same i will pray for you're friend
God Almighty may give him health and/or the best.
I have prayed for divine help for Barry and Mary. May God bless them and you.
Praying for them
I am praying for them now :)
A straightforward lesson in empathy...which, for some people, is more challenging & threatening than some want to realize. Bravo Father Casey! You create opportunities for your subscribers to think!
In my opinion Father Casey, the best video you’ve made so far - and you’ve made a bunch a good ones! I’ve already listened to it twice and it’s going to find it’s way into my journal. Thanks. You touched me.
Wow, thanks!
@@BreakingInTheHabit Father, please pray for me. As I am discerning a call to religious life (as a lay Franciscan (Conv.) brother).
Being a convert from the Episcopal Church over 30 years ago and the son of a retired Episcopal priest, I giggled at the air quotes for Episcopal “Communion”. Should have messed with my dad using that! God rest his soul.
The Golden Rule doesn't mean "give people gifts you want yourself, regardless of their desires". It means treat people the way you would want to be treated IN THAT CIRCUMSTANCE.
Your parents weren't following the Golden Rule because they both wanted their preferences taken into account, but didn't take the other person's preferences into account.
The problem with the Platinum Rule (treat other people the way they want to be treated) is that it leaves you open to be exploited. For instance, your partner may want to look through your phone every day, but you aren't a bad person for having boundaries.
If someone from another country moves next door and wishes you would dress more modestly and not express love for your same-day partner in front of them, because they find it offensive, you're not a bad person for not appeasing them.
That's why the Golden Rule always works, and the Platinum Rule is shallow.
Nailed it!
You know I love spicey food. I would love it if you would put some chile on my food. So I'll put some on yours lol. Golden rule yo
✝️ “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose." ✝️
Well said! I myself hate wearing a mask (it fogs up my glasses) but as much as I hate it I wear it for those people who may get sick and possibly die because they have underlying issues. But I also don’t judge someone who doesn’t wear one because you never know what underlying issue they may have. Treating someone with respect and compassion doesn’t mean we agree with everything they do but we are meant to “love the sinner and not the sin”.
I agree, sometimes you just have to endure some annoyances because it's kind and loving toward others.
On a purely practical note: try placing your mask closer to your eyes and place your glasses on top of it. That did the trick for me. Works especially well with those cloth masks you can wash and reuse. It definitely made me a lot less annoyed with wearing them.
Another tip is to put a little dish soap on your glasses and wipe them clean with a clean cloth. Haven't tried that one myself, but my sister says it works well.
R vdB thank you for the tips I will have to try them out!
Remember when you could have more than 50 guests? :'D lol
This made me laugh so hard!😂😂😂😂
Melinda Selmys, when she wrote her book "Sexual Authenticity: More Reflections" I think it was, referred to two events in the life of Christ: first the woman at the well, and second the woman caught in adultery. To make a long story short Jesus begins by treating them as people He cares about and wants to save from death - the Samaritan woman by talking with her when no one else would, the woman in John 8 by refusing to kill her for her sins. He does end by saying "God and sin no more" (and "you have had five husbands and the one you are with now isn't") but not until he's made it clear He is interested in their well-being - and that He is God.
Christ shows us to lead with showing an interest in the lives of others. Cultivate friendship by learning about others and encouraging them in the good.
Bravo, bravo, bravo! This is what I call a wonderful exegesis of the theology of good works! Thank you, Fr Casey, for your Witness and your Ministry. The Church--and the world--is lucky to have you.
Father Casey. Absolutely brilliant video. Your parents sound just like my wife and I!!!! Id love the party by the way. Thank you for challenging but also resolving the Golden Rule, something i have often thought about. Well done on another brilliant video that speaks to everyone. Pax et Bonum
As a very proud Gay Catholic who has suffered the judgement and condemnation of some of my sisters and brothers in Christ , both in The Church and the wider Christian community, it is great to hear a Priest say that we should treat all Gods Children with dignity, respect , love and charity (Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est),
I firmly believe that all that truly should matter to us is" that God has loved us into existence, is loving us into existence and will continue to love us into existence" (James Allerton , Author and theologian ) so let us faithfully obey The command of The Lord "To love one another as I have loved you" , by seeing The Christ in all people and reflection Christ to our broken world.
Who loves you more, of these two people: A person warning you of a harmful path? Or a priest saying that harmful path isn't harmful to you?
What a beautiful way to go, Robert
@@th3wr3ck the Bible never mentions sexual orientation only sexual acts. A person can be a proud gay person and still in total accord with the teachings of the Church. We are ALK created in the image of Vid and deserving of dignity and respect as such.
th3wr3ck he could be gay and still follow his faith better than any other catholic. Just because he is gay doesn’t mean he isn’t living a celibate life and following all that holiness commands.
@@emilierose9402 Vid = God, right?
Thank you for this video, Father Casey! One of my favourites. Your ability to empathise and respect others is so refreshing to see, especially as a Catholic.
Praise the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 Mother Mary Pray For Us 🙏Abba Father Bless us and we Adore You 🙏
I call myself a ‘neo-conservative’ catholic, so I am not really fond of Pope Francis. But after watching this video, I have to say that I think this is what Pope Francis is trying to say to us the whole time, despite his borderline ‘modernism’ which ironically we can use Pope Francis teachings on him, being understanding and not belittling his nouvelle theology.
Catch me crying at 7:15. Seriously, after my experience in comments on this channel lately, I was going to stop watching. Luckily, I forgot to unsubscribe and got a notification for this and decided to watch anyway. Thanks Father Casey. I feel seen. God be with you.
I almost walked away as well, because of nastiness in the comment section. This was a good video....
Welcome back! Glad to see you here. ☺️
It's amazing how much hate can be found in the comments...from Christians/Catholics. Maybe they're *bots* or trolls. I guess it's our job to pray for these commentators. Peace be with you all🙏
But, just out of curiosity... I'm confused why @C. August McMullen and @Lydia Kies you would stop watching videos just because the comment section includes uncharitable things. Why not just watch the video and not read the comments?
@@BreakingInTheHabit for me personally, the sort of commentors creator draw to their content says just as much as the content itself. For example, a lot of your vocal viewership are Catholic and have made it pretty clear I wouldn't be welcome in Catholic spaces unless I changed some things about myself in a way that is pretty much impossible. My 'relationship' with you is parasocial. I know this is a ministry for you but it works the same way as any RUclips channel of your size. You seem like a genuinely good person but as this is the internet and you are building a brand whether you're making money or not, that brand is occasionally built on the people in your comments section. After all, comments help the algorithm and help channels grow. So I like to keep an eye on what's indirectly helping channels and online communities grow. It's the same thing for every channel I interact with, not just yours. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ if the comments are toxic, I personally feel that the creator is indirectly growing from that toxicity.
I've watched perhaps a dozen or more of your videos, Fr. Casey. This is the best one yet. You've made an excellent point here with some on-point examples. The importance of empathy and respect, especially for those who are different from us. Glad for your online ministry in this platform. You give me hope for the church's future..
Lord Jesus , help me love others the way you would love them. Unconditionally. Atleast help me do my best. Because no human can love as much as you do. Help me to see you in others around me, starting with my family. That way, as I love them, I will end up loving you more and more each day .
Thank you for this video!! I'm an Episcopalian, so I don't always see things the same way you do.(Which is why I'm here. Hearing a different perspective is good for me.) This one, though, I'm fully behind.
I am married to an Anglican Priest and l agree with Lydia.
Here's a question I have for Episcopalians: If as an American, you don't think that King George has a right to raise taxes without representation in parliment, why then do you think that the King of England has the right or authority to start his own church?
@@TheFeralcatz 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Whenever I'm shopping for a gift for someone I always run it through the "is this something they would like or something I would like them to like" filter. It can be difficult because the first instinct is to is to pick up something that's pleasing to me and think, "will they like this too?". I can say that I've bought gifts that I would never have considered buying for myself and with good result.
Are you for real? What a great explanation! You are so young and have not only the wisdom but the gift to communicate it. Thanks God for that talent. God bless you father.
The golden rule is like an intro to morality it's easy to convey to little kids without a fully developed sense of empathy and following the golden rule is usually a good idea.
Thanks Fr Casey for another enriching video. I feel renewed as a Catholic listening to this piece and learning that it's Christ-like to respect our fellow LGBT brothers and sisters. I say this because I have many intolerant friends who are rad trads as many would call them, thinking that LGBT is a lifestyle that people choose. If it is a lifestyle choice, why would people in more oppressive countries choose a more difficult lifestyle choice that could get them stoned to death? Why would people choose a lifestyle that could disadvantage them in job applications, social events, etc? This unfortunately tends to come from the traditional latin mass parishioners who are quick to judge and have no love for others but their myopic views on the world. It's also worrying to read comments posted in videos of people like right wing rad trad like taylor marshall who support neo nazis (alex tschugguel), right wing extremists (jack posobiec), and racists like trump (need i say more about this one). Keep up the good work Fr, God bless you!
I recite the holy family names (sometimes in my head ,sometimes out loud) when my first thought is a negative one. It works fir me and sets me back to humble myself to be in God's grace.
Yes I do this many times a day, due to me being a human who sins constantly 🙃.
This golden rule explanation has me stepping back and realizing I got so much more humbling to do 😏😒🙄
Dear father please forgive me, I have and do sin quite often 🙏
Thank you for this, Fr. Casey. I wish there's a way that many more people can watch this. This world and the Christians of today needs to hear this message, of the importance of extending compassion to and welcoming those different from us, instead of judging and condemning. May God continue to inspire you with words of inspiration to help heal this divided world we live in.
Im happy u r uploading again Fr Casey:)
Father Casey, I hope you get exactly what YOU want on your 40th birthday! This was a beautiful and thoughtful message. ❤
Brilliant as always Padre. The Christians who preach hate make me so sad. How will people who feel rejected by God come to Him when they're told He hates them! Surely, surely, no matter what, God loves us all. Jesus said love one another as I have loved you, he didn't say love one another except the Muslim, the gays and aetheist. Keep up the good work. D.
As an Episcopalian, I was legitimately amused by the subtle dig at our particular Sunday ritual (didn't realize it was all that different from what the RC and EO do, but oh well).
Just to be clear, I wasn't making a dig at Episcopalians. You see that I was making an analogy to the way that others dig Episcopalians.
And it depends on the type of Episcopalian. Some have widely divergent views of what the Eucharist is and how (and who) confects it.
Im not a devout Catholic but, i enjoyed your explanation. Our local priests don't do these kinds of explanation nor have a very clear homily during mass. Ill stay in this channel for a while, i hope you also do online homilies :) Thanks!
Very proud and glad that Fr. Casey is now back and continuing to define his own style of ministry online. While I'm a more intellectual-philosophical viewer, these sorts of videos show an important dimension of Christian life I sometimes neglect. Great stuff!
Really need this video all this time, I already search a lot for the theory of morality but I had no idea of the approach that I should have. Adding all the hate that social media creates is really difficult to realize that you are really not becoming hatefull with others. THANKS
2:58 "Treat others with mercy, justice and peace. Foundational principles of god that all creatures desire."
Wow. Such a leap.
Amen!
I needed this Father Casey! May God bless you!
It is very difficult to realize that people are fundamentally different than me sometimes. We all have different preferences, personalities, values, cultures, religious beliefs, etc. It is important to be tolerant, open minded and nonjudgmental.
I'm not so sure about that. We're tolerating sin too much. So much tolerance of sin led me into thinking that a lot of it was ok, in my youth, and I ended up wasting many of my years living disorderly. Years that won't ever come back. When I strive to apply the golden rule today, I think what's truly charitable is being more intolerant of what doesn't deserve to be tolerated.
@@MutohMech It is important to still remember we all have different levels of culpability
@@IONov990 what do you mean?
@@MutohMech Perhaps I am very naive. I'd like to believe people sin because they don't know any better. Then again, there are some truly evil people who know exactly what they doing and choose to do it anyways
@@IONov990 it's a mix of both. But where were the people to educate me when I didn't know better? Even then, where were the people to reprimand and straighten me when I made bad choices? They were too busy being tolerant of my sins, and I could have ended up in damnation. That's not love, that's indifference.
In the end, we have to be eal Christians and imitate our Lord like you very well expressed.. sacrifice our freedom for a bit of inconvenience" Its the way of Jesus that can bring about real peace.Thanks Fr. for another yet needed food for our souls.Take care and God bless!
I'm learning so much from these videos. Much appreciated
Great
Wow! Never thought of the golden rule this way, but I tend to please people and look for what they want even if it is not what I would prefer, I try to find a balance without avoiding the preference or what would make the other person happy according to their personality, thank you Fr. Casey this was an excellent video/new proposal on the golden rule.
"I try to find a balance without avoiding the preference or what would make the other person happy according to their personality" what?
thank you father short sermon in COVID times
There is a limit to tolerance & acceptance.
Nice sermon Father when talking about tolerance with ours and other faithful. So nice to hear when someone like you prepares in advance for important fundamental aspects that have to be remembered. Thanks Father.
Hope and pray that some others anointed like you prepare and talk. Sometimes I feel that I am in the Tower of Babel .
Gloria in Excelsis Deo.
What a wonderful message of love. Excellent video Fr. Casey!
Your perspective on so much, like the gay experience is something that is so healing to many who have had problems feeling welcomed by the church,
Wow, this was really a kind of profound reflection, and by turns very clever in the point it makes. It shows the underside of the oft-vaunted Golden Rule, and makes a sorta brilliant point thereby. Thank you.
Your videos always bring me to reflection!
Thanks Cayce
This is an eye-opener. I have to watch this over and over. Thank you Fr. Casey!
I'm going to be fifty. I haven't seen half my family or most of my friends in just about three years, and I am be going on nearly six months not seeing my boyfriend. I hope he will someday propose to me. Father, I am an ambivert. I don't know how I feel, except that I accept God's will for my life, and I love all of the people that come and go, and I appreciate your message today 🙏💞😢💔💖🌹💓🤗💕🤲🏻👋
Thank you & I will share this to others.
Thank you and bless you.
This video is so important! I know a bunch of people who should watch it… too bad they can’t speak English
Now there's a homily!!👍👍
Thanks Fr Casey. May be the best video you've ever done. Certainly one of my favorites.
Bravo Father Casey. You hit it it out of the park. Saying it was well said would be an understatement.
Yes, others deserve our respect, but we also deserve the respect of others. Our Faith deserve the respect of others even when they don't agree with it.
Where in Scripture can you find anything resembling "we deserve respect"? Jesus says "blessed are those who are persecuted because of my name." We do not deserve respect. The sooner we can let go of this need the sooner we can be humble servants.
@@BreakingInTheHabit I remember your video about the words we Catholics shouldn't use, and one of them was to deserve. I agree with it. I don't think we "deserve" anything, and perhaps I didn't express myself correctly in my post. It's hard for me to word my thoughts... What I think is that compassion is not telling people what they want to hear or always giving in to their ideas/wants/behaviors/etc; it doesn't mean that everytime you encounter yourself in a situation similar to the examples you gave, you are going to lecture people or go against them, no. However, because we know that our faith is the truth, we should make it known to others, by example and word, to the extent that the circumstances allow us and why not? also expect their understanding, respect and compassion in return, not because of pride, but because we believe that all people are capable of humbly respecting others. Perhaps I completly got your message wrong this time, could be. I really enjoy your videos and thanks for reading my comment.
This is a very nice message Father. Thank you 💜
My old boss referred to the approach of treating people as they wished to be treated as the platinum rule.
thank you so much
To me, it would seem that doing to others what you would have them to do you would be like being in their shoes, not a blind, "well, I like toy trucks so I'll get my mom a toy truck!" but a, "hm, if I were my mom, what would I want my child to do?"
So, for instance, if someone wants to be called something that isn't true, like a priest when he's not actually ordained, or a woman when they are a man, would you want what you may mistakenly believe to be true to be flattered, or ultimately would you want to be corrected and obtain truth (and, possibly, eternal salvation!)? Obviously, we probably shouldn't just be a jerk, but we cannot just flatter others' deceptions. If you're being deceived, then someone just coming up and saying, "You're being deceived!" might not really help. But we have to try to not be based in human respect, but work for the glory of God. This is so much easier to say than do, but Jesus knows our intentions. But often the flesh makes our inclinations go outta wack, which can be aided by help with God (including mortification, but we must be careful with this, and it is best to do with a spiritual director so you do not go overboard or with bad inclinations). But we have to try to work for Truth.
Jesus would seem to show this when He, in His Infinite Wisdom, denounced the pharisees' deception; they were putting on a show as if they were righteous. But they were like whitewashed tombs.
Love this. Your compassion and open-mindedness always resonates with me Fr Casey.
What a wonderful knowledge to us, thanks Fr. Casey. Continue to be blessed in wisdom and understanding..Amen 🙏
Very well explained Fr. Casey 😄
Thank you
Love your words of wisdom Casey. God has given you a wonderful gift to share with us all
I luv you Fr. Casey. You produce videos with excellent content . Thank you.
Appreciate your discourses. Very practical to the present time.
Playing horseshoes! Awesome that sounds like something that I'd want to do. I can relate with your dad.
Brother Casey! Love your videos, and watch them all the time. Great homily! Please know, however, that I wouldn't know anything about the Real Presence of Jesus in Eucharist if I hadn't visited an Episcopalian service on a very fateful day in my youth (about 1983 or so). I entered that service believing that Eucharist is idolatry (I was a Protestant who was taught some pretty hateful Protestant anti-Catholic dogma). Before that day, I thought Communion was really just a symbol. (We know what Flannery O'Connor said about that!) I knelt there as a Protestant and stood up a catholic (with a little "c"). I experienced Jesus in the bread and wine there, and started to love Roman Catholics there, too. I tasted *salty, thick blood* in the chalice; God gave me a sign and a wonder to tell me that Catholics are my brothers and sisters. Before that moment, I would have thought you are not a true Christian! I do know you are a brother now. The Holy Spirit showed me that you are. In fact, I don't think there was a drop of wine in that chalice. It was HIS blood. After that experience, I read everything I could get my hands on about Holy Communion. Transubstantation, Consubstantiation, the Real Presence...all the labels we put on this Holy Sacrament in our futile effort to describe Him in that one, lovely expression of Grace. I read about similar miracles to the one I had experienced in both the Roman and Orthodox churches. I know the Anglican church broke off, but please forgive. The liturgy is exactly the same. The Apostolic succession, though fraught with conflict, remains unbroken. The Pope has expressed his desire to accept Anglicans into the Roman Catholic Communion. One of his very best friends, an Anglican Bishop (now passed away), so longed for unity.
I hope the RCC will do that soon under his good leadership, despite insignificant differences.
@Darla Meeks. I pray that one day, you shall cross the Tiber if you have not, to be able to receive Jesus in the true presence of the Eucharist to gain eternal life.
Thank you Father Casey!!!
Father, this is something everyone should hear, thank you so much and God bless you ^.^
I wish I'd heard this lesson when I was younger, as since a lot of social subtleties escaped me so I tended to be kind of insensitive purely by accident. I didn't figure out some of this stuff until I was nearly 20. I wish they'd teach the "golden rule" like this instead of the blanket statement that kids tend to get instead.
Thanks for this reflection, Father! 😇
Wow, this video really touched me. Thank You Fr. Casey. Praise Jesus!!!
Right on point Father Casey! This was valid then and especially now. Thank you for challenging us to see within!
Sounds exactly like my parents.
Muy buenos videos por el tema, pero si pudieras subtitularlos todos en Inglés, pues estoy estudiando con ellos. Gracias.
I love this!
Father Casey, can you do a video some time explaining the extreme penances that many of the saints are known for? I've looked up information on them in the past trying to understand but I almost always come back more confused. On one hand they are offering themselves up as a sacrifice for others, on the other hand many of them (*cough* Padre Pio, Catherine of Sienna, John Vianney *cough*) seem to fall into the category of self-abuse. It gets even more confusing when you include stories of God allowing the devil to torture them in one way or another. Accepting suffering is one thing, but it almost seems like we are meant to seek out pain. How should Catholics understand these stories?
Now, I'm not expert in this, but I think part of the issue is that we moderns have a different idea of what counts as an "extreme" penance than these saints did. Certainly, many of the Saints practised, say, mortification to an extent that wouldn't be advisable for everyone, and it's definitely possible to go too far. One shouldn't, for instance, starve oneself to the point of harm - mortification is merely meant to show our devotion and curb our vices, not to harm us. But I suspect that, in many cases it may simply be that they practised penances that we would balk at, but which are not excessive (not sure about the particulars, you might find some excesses, but then again the saints are also still human).
Cantus Tropus that is true and thank you for responding. I’m still not sure how we should seek out suffering though. If Fasting is good then why not starving? Where is the line we should be watching out for when practicing penance? Is it a question of how much pain, humiliation, or inconvenience we can stand before losing our minds or is there some other goal we ought to keep our eyes on? If so, what is that goal and why is suffering the most perfect way of attaining it rather than some other way, to the point where God will allow not just natural sufferings to perfect his saints, but even supernatural ones, such as demonic attack? I realize those are unique situations that very few are called to experience, but I want to know what process is going on and why God chooses to bring it about in this manner. Again thank you for responding and have a blessed day.
There’s a great podcast from Christopher West and Wendy on this.
I don’t know it by heart. I suggest you look for it.
I’ll leave here what I recall.
1) grace builds on nature (you have to respect your nature to receive God’s grace)
2) good spiritual director will tell you what is appropriate for your current place in your walk to Christ. Or what God might be asking you.
We should not just go applying those penances literally. It could turn out worst and foster our pride, it could damage our relation to God and our faith. It could lead to a misunderstanding of the mistery of suffering. If we have a family, it could mislead them in the understanding of the faith. Or even people that know us.
I know it’s little help because I couldn’t answer all your questions. Sorry! It was more as a practical insight.
Maria Rocha thank you, I appreciate that. I’ll look up that podcast. I’ve heard about Grace building on nature, though I don’t really understand how it works. And your right about getting a good spiritual director. It seems like many of these saints had someone or other directing them. Can you imagine being someone like St. Teresa of Avila’s spiritual director? How under qualified they must have felt after they got to know her. Anyway, thank you again, and God bless you.
I recomend a great Catholic channel called " Sensus fidilium" they usually speak of such topics.
Thanks for the video Fr. Casey, especially at a time when we see and hear a lot of the opposite. Shalom
Essence of the rule over the literal interpretation.
wow! this was amazing!!! thank you!!!
Glad you liked it!
Your nuianced elaborations enlighten me. Please keep it up!
//a Swedish Lutheran
Many thanks!
This is so true. All we need to do is to love.
in love with your story telling ability, cheers!
Amen!
Thanks, Father, for calling us to look at one of the classic definitional distinctions between "morals" and "ethics". And for not using the word "masks" once
Thank you! All bolded, all caps, and double underlined. Christ said to love one another. Just do it and you may end up loving yourself, too.
I heard from a doctor once about what he called "The Platinum Rule"- Treat others how THEY want to be treated".
Me planning a semi lavish surprise for my parents 30th wedding anniversary, now i have to consider their likes.
I'm not a Catholic, but I find that this is 100% true.
Omg this touched me so deeply, thank you.
Wonderful video!!!!
Thank you .
The Golden Rule is this:
He who has the gold makes the rules.
Like a certain country?
I use to think like that.... that its about you not me...
But that mentality wont get you anywhere
God gives us things for reason, whether we like it or not. To accepting a gift that someone went out of there way and thought about YOU to give it to. Well ... it's also not right to be so down about it either. Ask God and pray what am I to do with this. And he will surely give you the answer .
The issue is
1. Whilst we respect the right of some non Christians who mind the Merry Xmas greeting, is Christian's right violated ?
2. What has been the societal norm in the Merry Xmas Greeting ? Is there a need to change anything just because of a vocal minority ? In my continent, where mutli religions exist, Christians are the minority and religious sensitivities are prevalent, we dont go overboard with the Merry Xmas greeting which effectively equates to Happy Holidays. When Christians greet non Christians with Merry Christmas, no one really mind. In fact some non Christians returned back the same Merry Christmas greeting.
3. The change of Merry Xmas to Happy Holidays is an over correction that originates from the US. Europe has no such unnecessary frivolous change that divides people instead. Peoples of all faiths who in the past don't mind the greeting are suddenly imposed upon them the need to change to the Happy Holidays greeting instead.
4. I am a Christian Catholic. When I greet a non Christian in his / her festive greetings it does not mean I am converting yo their faith. I am simply sharing their joy
Very good points! Indeed, are your rights really violated if someone says Happy Holidays? And I wholeheartedly agree with your fourth point. One of my best friends is Muslim and she wishes me merry Christmas and happy Easter, and I wish her Eid Mubarak. Like you said, we share in the joy. And sometimes in the pain, like this year when I couldn't celebrate Easter with my family and she couldn't celebrate Eid al-Fitr with hers.
I think your third point is quite generalising. The European countries have quite different cultures. In my country, the Netherlands, "Fijne Feestdagen" (Happy Holidays) has been the normal greeting for as long as I can remember. While "Fijne Kerstdagen" (Merry Christmas) feels forced. We didn't even say that in the small town in the middle of the bible belt where I grew up. But your point might as well be true for the majority of the countries in Europe. And you are absolutely right that the USA has influenced Europe and not always for the better.
@@rvdb7363 Dank u wel ! Regarding point 3, many international multinational companies operate as Regional HQ in my country. Only the US companies require the local employees to send Happy Holidays greetings to customers and suppliers. Merry Xmas is forbidden. European and Asian MNCs don't force their employees. For years, there is no problem with sending Merry Christmas to everyone regardless of their faith until the 'political correctness' originating from the US over reacts resulting in rights restriction of Christians. There was a time when US companies still greet everyone Merry Xmas.
I like to share that in the past, Christians were already sensitive enough not to greet Muslims or Hindus with Merry Xmas. But it is they who greet Christians Merry Xmas to extend their well wishes to Christians. We don't need US political correctness to mess up our cordial interfaith relationship.
I tend to disagree with pretty much everything Casey has to say but, it is nice to be able to agree with him for once. I think it really comes down to respect for others. As he said, not adopting their beliefs, but respecting that they have alternate ones. It is sad that we have to remind ourselves of this but it is part of the human condition.
Interesting story of the 40th birthday: exactly the same thing happened to me and my wife! (But only with 15 guests)
God bless you father..
I think the new rule should be called The Human Rule: You are allowed to be yourself, but treat others as they want to be treated.
Of course you can't take it literally and treat a narcissist the way they want to be treated to have their ego stroked or to help a criminal, treat humans the way they want to be treated. Maybe at some point they'll do the same for you.
AMEN
An example my friend brought up about this:
If someone were to murder my family I’m not gonna bring them cookies so that they are nice to me, I’m gonna be angry at them, they killed my family for goodness sake. There’s a lot of faults in this rule-