I think that looking healthy and well groomed, friendly and confident is better than trying to look expensive. The first speaks of a good life, the second denotes looking for approval.
Great video. I have been around affluent people my whole life and have picked up a few pointers. The women invest in themselves. They do try to eat healthy food, they do get exercise, they do get dental work done, and they do go to the doctor’s. Even though they are always plagued by wondering if people like them for themselves or their money, they invest time and effort in friendships. If you want to pass for affluent, work on your English, read good books (or short stories and poetry), and have an interest that you enjoy. I also fully recommend doing some kind of volunteer work. This can be only an hour or two a month, but it will give you depth. With this foundation and videos such as Couleurful Noir’s, you will always come off as a person of distinction.
It’s funny how our standards have deteriorated so much that what we today call “looking expensive’ for the generations of our mothers meant just being well put together.
Sometimes looking too expensive at work is a problem. Other coworkers can be jealous and your boss will think you don’t need a raise. I experienced this first hand and I wore high street brands.
A similar thing happened to me, too. I dressed very nicely at work, but what my coworkers didn't know was that I bought many of my items at a local consignment shop. I did get the feeling that my boss felt I didn't need a raise because of my appearance. Can't prove it, though, right?
My boss told me at a Christmas party, I didn’t need a raise and he was glad he didn’t have my Macy’s bill. I quit a few weeks later and went to work at another place.
Agree! I went for a job interview years ago, and I was wearing my Valentino. The first thing the interviewer said to me was-- 'Nice shoes!'. Since then I've been quite careful about what I wear to work xx
I completely agree, as a manager at law firm I wear classic, high quality clothes but not luxury brands (I don’t even buy luxury brands anymore). We hired a paralegal whose husband is rich and she wears to work LV, Gucci etc bags. It feels indeed strange, like two worlds clashing (serious, hard working and frivolous).
We live in a crazy world. I don’t want to look expensive because that’ll make me a target. I strive to look well put together with cost effective clothing but that’s as I’ll go. Also, my finances is no one’s business so if I refuse to talk about it then I’m definitely not going to wear it. But again, this is me and my personal take. Do whatever makes you happy.
I like simple yet beautifully made items that will last me several years with proper maintenance. It just so happens to mean that the things I buy are a bit more expensive than what the average person might reasonably spend on a single garment or accessory. I also don't like to wear obvious logos (regardless of price point) because I am a person, not a billboard. Luckily, I don't feel like I have to "signal" or "impress" anyone in my profession, especially with the things I've decided to put on my body. To me, quiet luxury should be something that you can enjoy relatively privately without other people's scrutiny or judgement. Perhaps instead of trying to "look expensive" per se, we should be working towards "developing good taste" and a true sense of personal style whilst living according to our means and lifestyle.
After working in a bank and later on in collections for a utility company, I question all of it. I can't tell you the number of times I had women come in to pay in order to get their electricity turned back on, but they had their nails professionally done, the latest iPhone and a designer bag. Smoke and mirrors. Messed up priorities.
I know women who make their husbands get huge mortgage, car loans, nails & hairs & claim they cannot afford to send the kids to private school. Sent them to rachet high school & now loser boyfriends now hanging out at the mansion "crib". Disgusting.
Very thoughtful video, Elaine! When the whole "quiet luxury" vibe started, I sighed and rolled my eyes. Really? And what will we do with the clothes that fit this aesthetic when it's time for the next trend? I prefer well-made clothes that fit my budget and lifestyle without worrying that they fit a trend. Many of my clothes are from consignment and resale shops - they have a lot of life left in them and are reasonably priced, so I look nice without sacrificing cost. Keep up the great work! I like all the viewpoints and comments on this one already. :)
I believe it is not about looking expensive, but rather that you cared enough to look well-groomed and put together with a smart looking outfit. If one has the budget to invest in designer pieces then that is o.k. We should not try to impress people with high-priced items. It is wise to exude confidence no matter what the cost of your items were. There are so many people in debt because they want to "Keep up with the Jones's." Thanks for your words of wisdom Eileen.
I could comment a lot on this subject. Just because you have money does not give you style. Two people walking down the road, one has money and the other is stylish and classy, I know which one would get the most attention. Xx
Very informative video Eileen. I love your logic and advice and have been trying to follow “your lead” since discovering your RUclips channel a couple of years ago. Your videos have “inspired” me to rethink my wardrobe to create my own personal style that fits my true lifestyle. Not my fantasy lifestyle. ☺️ If only I had been given this advice when I was in my 20s and 30s I could have saved myself from needless spending and acquiring items that I really never wore nor needed. Today, style for me is all about comfort, mix and match items, and quality. Thank you so much for creating your videos.
This is such a good topic. I have family members who I would consider are doing well. They wear basic general clothes. I do think when you have a little more money to spend if you like something you like something regardless of where it comes from or how expensive it is. My brothers has friends with extreme well, like own their own private island. The only bag the lady has is one from the gap. I would like to think I am doing good for myself as well. Most days I dress pretty casual. I only spend a little more time getting ready if I have to go somewhere like the doctor's or interview. Plus, just because someone has money doesn't mean they even care about luxury pieces. For me, I spend my money towards education. I like learning new things. The money I spent towards my education I could have a closet full of birkins.
Some years ago my husband and I went to buy a new soft top car in Nottingham. Because of traffic problems we went on our motor bike. The sales team must have thought we couldn't afford one of their cars because not one of them came near us in fact they were all watching TV. After 20 minutes we left, went down the road and purchased our first soft top car. We still always kept the motorbike.
I've had some interesting experiences at car dealerships too. I went wearing looking very casual one day because I was trying to kill time while my little boy was at a friend's birthday party. No one came to serve me (which didn't bother me seeing I'm not into cars anyway). But the funny thing is, not long later I went with a friend driving a BMW i8. This time the service was top-notched. Such dramatic contrast 😂💛
I always smiled at these “look expensive”. When you buy low quality fast fashion you can’t look expensive…. It’s better to look normal but classy and well dressed. I think it’s for a certain young public who confuses classy and spending a lot of money on clothes. Thus the aim would be to look like you spent a lot of money without spending it (because you don’t have it). It preys on the insecurity of people. Very glad that you talk about it in fact 👏👏👏👏
There's a difference between looking "expensive" (aka trying too hard) and learning to have good taste (ie gravitating towards timeless pieces vs always following trends). Also head to toe grooming is always a good foundation (this should include nails and behind/in the ears, and haircut/facial hair touch ups).
Personally, I have zero desire to look wealthy. I have a bag now that was only 300 retail and won’t wear it because I don’t want anyone to know I’d spend that much on a bag. So, no way I’d buy a luxury bag! Lol! I don’t want to look expensive because I don’t want to be associated with the “wealthy class”. I definitely wouldn’t want to look like a kardashian, or any celebrity. My goals are to be healthy and to be kind to all people. I take care of myself and dress casually. It is way more important to truly see others than to be seen by others.
Hahaha that’s an interesting value to have! I think even I’m same and coming from a country like india which has so much poverty, I’d probably feel v conscious of appearing rich- seems a tad insensitive, if you know what i mean. 🙄
Wise words. I was always told that wear old at home. But... make sure when you leave the home make sure you are well groomed with hair make-up etc. Even if your clothes are not expensive look after what you have and be confident etc...
I love to look fit, happy and pretty. I don’t desire to look expensive. The biggest cons of it is that It is not good for bonding with frugal but wealthy people. Looking expensive would likely attract HENRY (high earning not rich yet) to be your friends and worse still you will end up spending more hanging out with them. I enjoy my quiet lifestyle, going to library, going to cafe to have a cup of coffee, enjoying leisure. Taking a Birkin to library looks out of place. I have never seen one in public library, not even bookstores. When I see someone holding a Birkin or Kelly, I do admire its beauty and generously and genuinely compliment the owners on it.
I also mix high street and name brands. It has to make financial sense. Buying a 300$ Tshirt simply does not make sense to me. But buying a 1000$ wool coat absolutely does, because it will last me years and I can probably sell it on down the line with little loss considering cost per wear I got out of it already. Buying good quality shoes that can be resoled also makes sense. That doesn't mean I don't love a simple Adidas or Nike sneaker. I really dislike this "look rich on a budget" thing. It always looks so try hard. Like cosplaying as an heiress. It's ridiculous. Just focus on quality rather than quantity and slowly build a cohesive high quality non logo wardrobe and your outfits will automatically have a certain vibe to it.
Absolutely. But, I find that people are not very well educated on what quality is. Grades of silk? Grades of cashmere? Supima and pima cotton? And on and on. So I think many people are not even aware of what they should be looking for and what a reasonable price for it would be. A cashmere coat is going to be expensive, but rightfully so. But, someone not aware might see that as unreasonable.
My clients who are medical professionals have always told me they do NOT wear expensive items in the field. They said they were taught that in school in order to avoid being a target for lawsuits. If they think you have deep pockets, you're running the risk of being sued by a patient who sees dollar signs if they can accuse you of malpractice.
@@siabhatia9003 Happy to share what they've told me. To be clear, they were talking about when working. What they do or wear outside of that, I couldn't say.
To me, looking expensive simply is well groomed, hair in place, no stains, good quality fabrics (people with a good eye can tell) and a good style with is complimentary to your natural physique and complexion..this alone makes you confident too. I have found that being like this, I always get treated very well and kindly as opposed to when I don't. Wearing a designer item as well, only compounds that for me..but also attracted unwanted attention (from thieves and shady people).
Quiet logos r best at these times. Flashy logo billboards outfits r for certain occasions or mood depending on the person. Thanks for sharing my lady. 🙏🏼❤️😘😘😘Sandy
A few weeks ago I went into Selfridges in Oxford st London. The Fendi assistant knew I couldn’t afford he bags, I told her I couldn’t. She still went out of her way to be nice to me, wanted to show me up close the bag I had been hovering and salivating over. She was a nice friend;y person and an asset to that store. I look like crap most of the time, and was treating myself to a day in the capital, looking at bags I can’t afford! I wouldn’t dare walk into LV as I had a very bad experience in there years ago. So I avoid the boutiques.
Sorry to hear about your bad experience in LV! Years ago, I had the nicest service in Dior -- I ended up buying a bag lol. I think I was frustrated with how every time I walked into Chanel, I was told everything was out of stock. I bought the Dior to vent my frustration. Not a good move xx
I think this has a lot to do with how we're conditioned to think. Social media for example is a very visual place where people can mainly see what you have but not what you do, the books you read, or your life experiences xx
@@ColourfulNoir social media brings awareness yes. But ppl being envious and wanting wealth and resources has been there since the beginning of time. Or at least since I was born and I’m older than you. Growing up we had no social media. Growing up in the 80/90s, even as JhS and HS level we were obsessed with labels (back then the “it” labels gap, jcrew, doc martens etc)… ppl r just selfish and self absorbed…and I don’t mean it in a mean way. It’s just the way the world is.
My wardrobe priority, other than only buying pieces I love, is buying only natural-fiber fabrics and materials, so my wardrobe is more expensive anyway. But, I don’t buy them to impress, I buy them because I can’t tolerate synthetic fabrics or plastic shoes.
Typically I need to be wearing an outfit - bottoms, top, shoes that amounts to at least $250 before I begin to look expensive. It will also need to be within 6 weeks of having my hair cut. My bags and coats that cost less than $100 don’t look expensive, so once I add my nicer bag, plus a decent bra and underwear set, I’m looking at a $600 ensemble, minimum, to look expensive. I can look elegant and stylish for slightly less in the summertime, but the look will be casual. I agree that a beautiful, friendly smile and warm heart are priceless! 💜❤️
Honestly I despise this new obsession with 'looking expensive', 'Quite luxury' ,'Old money' etc. Honestly, in 2023 I would hope that these classist, money pandering views would be less prevalent but sadly that's not the case at all. I'm not saying personal wealth is bad just the societal view that wealth = better. I find it very depressing :/
It is quite depressing how we keep analysing how wealthy people live and dress. It saddens me to see people working hard to keep up with some really unrealistic lifestyle too xx
I agree with you! The most important thing is to be comfortable while looking good. Just simple classic elegance gives you that edge. There is another question, sometimes your simple life could be out of step with your lifestyle if you live a quiet, simple life, your friends and neighbors will never value luxury the in the same manner you might. What I'm trying to say is that sometimes a Hermès bag is meaningless in the circle of society where your life happens.
I dress nice because that is what I love to do. Even my casual outfits are nicely put together. Most of my bags are designer or I have designed them myself using crocodile skins or luxury hides because that is what I enjoy but I have had most of them for years and because I used to design myself I have access to some of the best materials. I like clothes that feel good, are made of quality fabric and or designed well with an interesting esthetic. What people are usually most impressed with is my fine jewelry, I have a few Elsa Peretti pieces but its mostly about the fine jewelry I design for myself or vintage pieces that are beautiful with diamonds and gold or platinum. I have earrings, watches and necklaces and rings that speak volumes without me having to say anything. I do none of this to impress anyone because I truly love and enjoy what I have and design.
I grew up in one of the wealthier towns in the country, if not the wealthiest. This is clearly a generalization, but here it goes- wealthy people look nice, meaning they are clean, well-groomed, and dressed in unassuming attire that suits them. Unless there is an occasion that necessitates differently, this is casual dress, or classic casual. (think Lacoste, brooks brothers, even Target). They do not wear flashy designer labels, dressed in the latest trends. Do they buy higher quality items, sure, but not necessarily from-called "luxury" brands. Their money goes elsewhere because they dont need it to prove anything.
Yep. My grandparents bought higher quality clothing and held onto everything for years. They recently passed away, but i was fortunate to get a few hand me downs and from stores that closed in the 80's, like Imagnin. I even got a wool scarf made in West Germany. LOL. My parents, too. My dad was once so offended because he looked shabby and the cashier asked for his food stamps card. LOL. But they were all well off and did alright for themselves. @@youheartmel
It’s funny, because I’ve always wanted to look polished or classy, but never expansive 😅 Like some people dress using a huge budget but never tastefully, that’s the last thing I want 😂
It take a lot of money to look Cheap. Tattoos especially of bright colour & fine detail can cost about 50+ a square inch, so when you see a whole arm in striking tattoo- that's a Birkin journey that never comes off. In retail many people Need Nails to protect their hands from the rigors of their job, but workers get the extravagant as a way to stand out and attract their clients because detailed overthe top nails say "I know all the trends, I love details" and a years worth of nails could fund a Love bracelet. Great Vidi! 😎☕💋
Honestly truly well done tattoo’s don’t look cheap to me either. There must be an artistry present though. But, if a person would not buy a print of that tattoo and hang it on the wall? Well, why would it look any better or more beautiful put on a person?
No, it’s not important in the least to look expensive, but it important is to look well-dressed and well-groomed. I don’t care in the least about looking expensive, but I want the best quality for my wardrobe.
I personally wish, sometimes, there were rules and laws about how to avoid dressing, too many people look like they fell out of bed, dress in such way in which one should plant potatos, maximum. I like the idea of people trying to look expensive, at least they are trying something, means there is chance they will end up looking elegantly and decent, if they try hard enough. T-shirts is not even clothing, its undergarment. Majority of people dress horribly, basically are dressed with no idea, no style, no elegance, so whatever trend is waking up at least a tiny little bit of desire to look more towards polished and well styled looks when picking outfits for the day is good, don't forget majority doesn't care about anything- no culture of understanding what is for home, what is for city life, what is for jumping in a forrest when camping, what is for walking down the street. So more trends like this, its better than pj styles on the streets!
Wearing designer brands or high end fashion at work doesn’t work at all. I believe in being relatable weighs heavier than looking expensive and people feel like you can be unapproachable.
Whenever I try to mix a luxury bag with some contemporary brands I feel like it downgrades the bag and make it look like a counterfeit. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I really feel that your entire outfit as well as make up and hair must be of decent quality so that you look “genuine”. If I see a woman carrying a chanel bag but wearing old dirty adidas sneakers and having messy hair I immediately think the bag is a counterfeit or that she has spent all her money on this one beloved bag and now is broke.
I agree, so many super fakes now. If I see an expensive bag, I would think it may be a fake if the lady is not well dressed or paired with another luxury accessory
Personally I like the idea of premium quality handbags. However, since following a man who breaks down the cost and manufacturing I have a price point limit. Unless it is a large item even using the best materials and made by hand it usually should only come out to a few hundred dollars. So unless it is a large bag or luggage it should stay well under $1000. I don’t want to buy anything for branding, but quality and design. And I think that buying items in this way means I won’t feel the need to unnecessarily fluff up outfits. This is just my approach to this because the idea of spending thousands on a small bag just for the reputation make me break out in hives.
Thank you so much for sharing! I must say I used to have that worry too-- feeling like I wasn't dressed up enough for the designer bag or jewelry, but something kind of changed along the way, and now I don't put much emphasis on 'looking worthy'. I personally don't mind mixing designers with high street as long as I feel comfortable with the outfit xx
No matter how well dressed you are and no matter how well groomed and well mannered you if you don’t have self respect and respect for others you will never have “it”. And that means dressing well and properly. You don’t need to drip diamonds, but pajamas and trainers everywhere and leisure wear are a full no.
fortunately I work in technology, where you can look a bit shabby and scruffy and still be Steve Jobs hehe, but I got your point, it is very interesting.
I never have the tech gene in me but I do envy people who work in tech! Everyone seems casual but in love with what they do. By the way, don't we all love Steve Jobs Issey Miyake turtleneck xx
Not so much 'expensive' but more well groomed and not like a crazy homeless person. You look upscale and you will be treated upscale. Thats just unconscious reaction in many areas. You want to present yourself well so that others treat you as you wish to be treated. Also looking expensive doesn't equal actually spending alot. The counterfeit market is thriving because some people simply don't want to pay stupid money for not very much.
Honestly, I think most of the accurate part of “look expensive” is just health and beauty related. Put a stunning person with gorgeous hair, skin and bright smile who is fit as anything in a tee and jeans…. They still look like a knockout. Fashion also helps, but you can see the limits of how far it goes with celebrities who don’t look after their health.
*YES, Looking Expensive IS Important* to MANY people. This and Wanting what's Expensive is a game, and is one people who Purchase/Desire *"LUXURY"* items play to make themselves feel good (I've done this myself). A Birkins is NOT Worth the price that's asked or is paid...PERIOD-T - *Stunning Bag* (would love to own one) *but NOT worth the price*. There are two $15,000 bags *you desire to own one* - Identical, except one is Plain Without name or mark, the other says Hermès - which would you buy?😁 Nothing is worth no more than a person is willing to spend for it. Just because a person can afford it doesn't mean it's worth it. Bottom line, we ALL desire to be/have something we are not/ don't AND the Luxury Market can be just as, if not More Deceitful than the Counterfeit Market.🧡🍂
A car is NEVER an investment. A property agent in an expensive car only tells me they are pushy, not knowledgeable or successful and definitely not working for you, their client.
I think the whole "looking expensive" is meant to make women feel they are not good enough. Why do we push such high expectations on women? We need to encourage each other to be our best selves, and be healthy and happy!!
Looking “expensive” is all fine if you actually have the finances to back it up. Sadly most people will get themselves into a huge amount of debt to achieve the look which is a sad state of society.
Looking expensive does not mean good taste Not always, sometimes is a lack of respect towards people with great needs🤷♀️ In you all clothes expensive or not will look beautiful.
i don't know why people wants to look expensive it's a threat to snatcher if they saw you're wearing expensive items.low key is always the best not trying hard.
Personally, in order to look your best, I think we should try to achieve the following: 1) be in good physical shape 2) practice good hygiene and 3) the cherry on the cake is have a good haircut that suits you. That is it. If you can tick all those boxes you are good to go. No matter what you wear you are going to look wonderful. In fact if you are at your physical best and you've got a good eye for what styles and colours work for you, you can make cheap clothing/handbags look more expensive than they are.
I think that looking healthy and well groomed, friendly and confident is better than trying to look expensive. The first speaks of a good life, the second denotes looking for approval.
Can't agree more with this! xx
Great video. I have been around affluent people my whole life and have picked up a few pointers. The women invest in themselves. They do try to eat healthy food, they do get exercise, they do get dental work done, and they do go to the doctor’s.
Even though they are always plagued by wondering if people like them for themselves or their money, they invest time and effort in friendships.
If you want to pass for affluent, work on your English, read good books (or short stories and poetry), and have an interest that you enjoy. I also fully recommend doing some kind of volunteer work. This can be only an hour or two a month, but it will give you depth.
With this foundation and videos such as Couleurful Noir’s, you will always come off as a person of distinction.
Excellent approach. Absolutely love this.
What you described IS looking expensive 😊!
It’s funny how our standards have deteriorated so much that what we today call “looking expensive’ for the generations of our mothers meant just being well put together.
And to think quiet luxury was the norm before companies started putting logo on everything xx
Not to mention local everyday stuff had the high end quality but without the logo and hefty price tags.
Sometimes looking too expensive at work is a problem. Other coworkers can be jealous and your boss will think you don’t need a raise. I experienced this first hand and I wore high street brands.
A similar thing happened to me, too. I dressed very nicely at work, but what my coworkers didn't know was that I bought many of my items at a local consignment shop. I did get the feeling that my boss felt I didn't need a raise because of my appearance. Can't prove it, though, right?
My boss told me at a Christmas party, I didn’t need a raise and he was glad he didn’t have my Macy’s bill. I quit a few weeks later and went to work at another place.
@@Arlene4HO Oh, good grief! I'm guessing he wouldn't have made that comment to a male colleague. The things people say. 🙄
Agree! I went for a job interview years ago, and I was wearing my Valentino. The first thing the interviewer said to me was-- 'Nice shoes!'. Since then I've been quite careful about what I wear to work xx
I completely agree, as a manager at law firm I wear classic, high quality clothes but not luxury brands (I don’t even buy luxury brands anymore). We hired a paralegal whose husband is rich and she wears to work LV, Gucci etc bags. It feels indeed strange, like two worlds clashing (serious, hard working and frivolous).
I believe in the saying, “dress the way you want to be addressed.”
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We live in a crazy world. I don’t want to look expensive because that’ll make me a target. I strive to look well put together with cost effective clothing but that’s as I’ll go. Also, my finances is no one’s business so if I refuse to talk about it then I’m definitely not going to wear it. But again, this is me and my personal take. Do whatever makes you happy.
Luxury crimes are getting quite common and truly scary xx
I like simple yet beautifully made items that will last me several years with proper maintenance. It just so happens to mean that the things I buy are a bit more expensive than what the average person might reasonably spend on a single garment or accessory. I also don't like to wear obvious logos (regardless of price point) because I am a person, not a billboard. Luckily, I don't feel like I have to "signal" or "impress" anyone in my profession, especially with the things I've decided to put on my body. To me, quiet luxury should be something that you can enjoy relatively privately without other people's scrutiny or judgement. Perhaps instead of trying to "look expensive" per se, we should be working towards "developing good taste" and a true sense of personal style whilst living according to our means and lifestyle.
Thank you so much for sharing! xx
After working in a bank and later on in collections for a utility company, I question all of it. I can't tell you the number of times I had women come in to pay in order to get their electricity turned back on, but they had their nails professionally done, the latest iPhone and a designer bag. Smoke and mirrors. Messed up priorities.
Thank you for sharing! It definitely helps to put things into perspectives xx
I know women who make their husbands get huge mortgage, car loans, nails & hairs & claim they cannot afford to send the kids to private school. Sent them to rachet high school & now loser boyfriends now hanging out at the mansion "crib". Disgusting.
"Big hat; no cattle."
Great expression @@4gma59
Very thoughtful video, Elaine! When the whole "quiet luxury" vibe started, I sighed and rolled my eyes. Really? And what will we do with the clothes that fit this aesthetic when it's time for the next trend?
I prefer well-made clothes that fit my budget and lifestyle without worrying that they fit a trend. Many of my clothes are from consignment and resale shops - they have a lot of life left in them and are reasonably priced, so I look nice without sacrificing cost.
Keep up the great work! I like all the viewpoints and comments on this one already. :)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! And I'm so glad you liked the video xx
I believe it is not about looking expensive, but rather that you cared enough to look well-groomed and put together with a smart looking outfit. If one has the budget to invest in designer pieces then that is o.k. We should not try to impress people with high-priced items. It is wise to exude confidence no matter what the cost of your items were. There are so many people in debt because they want to "Keep up with the Jones's." Thanks for your words of wisdom Eileen.
Agree!! Thank you so much for sharing xx
I could comment a lot on this subject. Just because you have money does not give you style. Two people walking down the road, one has money and the other is stylish and classy, I know which one would get the most attention. Xx
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Very informative video Eileen. I love your logic and advice and have been trying to follow “your lead” since discovering your RUclips channel a couple of years ago. Your videos have “inspired” me to rethink my wardrobe to create my own personal style that fits my true lifestyle. Not my fantasy lifestyle. ☺️ If only I had been given this advice when I was in my 20s and 30s I could have saved myself from needless spending and acquiring items that I really never wore nor needed. Today, style for me is all about comfort, mix and match items, and quality. Thank you so much for creating your videos.
Being genuine, and walk with confidence it’s more then looking expensive.
Absolutely! xx
This is such a good topic. I have family members who I would consider are doing well. They wear basic general clothes. I do think when you have a little more money to spend if you like something you like something regardless of where it comes from or how expensive it is. My brothers has friends with extreme well, like own their own private island. The only bag the lady has is one from the gap. I would like to think I am doing good for myself as well. Most days I dress pretty casual. I only spend a little more time getting ready if I have to go somewhere like the doctor's or interview. Plus, just because someone has money doesn't mean they even care about luxury pieces. For me, I spend my money towards education. I like learning new things. The money I spent towards my education I could have a closet full of birkins.
I definitely wish I spent more money on books when I was younger xx
Some years ago my husband and I went to buy a new soft top car in Nottingham. Because of traffic problems we went on our motor bike. The sales team must have thought we couldn't afford one of their cars because not one of them came near us in fact they were all watching TV.
After 20 minutes we left, went down the road and purchased our first soft top car. We still always kept the motorbike.
I've had some interesting experiences at car dealerships too. I went wearing looking very casual one day because I was trying to kill time while my little boy was at a friend's birthday party. No one came to serve me (which didn't bother me seeing I'm not into cars anyway). But the funny thing is, not long later I went with a friend driving a BMW i8. This time the service was top-notched. Such dramatic contrast 😂💛
Words of wisdom! Thank you so much for spreading awareness 🌟
I always smiled at these “look expensive”. When you buy low quality fast fashion you can’t look expensive….
It’s better to look normal but classy and well dressed.
I think it’s for a certain young public who confuses classy and spending a lot of money on clothes. Thus the aim would be to look like you spent a lot of money without spending it (because you don’t have it). It preys on the insecurity of people.
Very glad that you talk about it in fact 👏👏👏👏
There's a difference between looking "expensive" (aka trying too hard) and learning to have good taste (ie gravitating towards timeless pieces vs always following trends). Also head to toe grooming is always a good foundation (this should include nails and behind/in the ears, and haircut/facial hair touch ups).
Great point!xx
Personally, I have zero desire to look wealthy. I have a bag now that was only 300 retail and won’t wear it because I don’t want anyone to know I’d spend that much on a bag. So, no way I’d buy a luxury bag! Lol!
I don’t want to look expensive because I don’t want to be associated with the “wealthy class”.
I definitely wouldn’t want to look like a kardashian, or any celebrity.
My goals are to be healthy and to be kind to all people. I take care of myself and dress casually.
It is way more important to truly see others than to be seen by others.
Hahaha that’s an interesting value to have! I think even I’m same and coming from a country like india which has so much poverty, I’d probably feel v conscious of appearing rich- seems a tad insensitive, if you know what i mean. 🙄
Wise words. I was always told that wear old at home. But... make sure when you leave the home make sure you are well groomed with hair make-up etc. Even if your clothes are not expensive look after what you have and be confident etc...
Agree! xx
I love to look fit, happy and pretty. I don’t desire to look expensive.
The biggest cons of it is that It is not good for bonding with frugal but wealthy people. Looking expensive would likely attract HENRY (high earning not rich yet) to be your friends and worse still you will end up spending more hanging out with them.
I enjoy my quiet lifestyle, going to library, going to cafe to have a cup of coffee, enjoying leisure. Taking a Birkin to library looks out of place. I have never seen one in public library, not even bookstores.
When I see someone holding a Birkin or Kelly, I do admire its beauty and generously and genuinely compliment the owners on it.
I agree. I look for elegantly put together yet still interesting people. That is a far better metric.
This is the first time I heard of HENRY 😀 I absolutely love libraries too, we can make very good friends xx
I also mix high street and name brands. It has to make financial sense. Buying a 300$ Tshirt simply does not make sense to me. But buying a 1000$ wool coat absolutely does, because it will last me years and I can probably sell it on down the line with little loss considering cost per wear I got out of it already. Buying good quality shoes that can be resoled also makes sense. That doesn't mean I don't love a simple Adidas or Nike sneaker. I really dislike this "look rich on a budget" thing. It always looks so try hard. Like cosplaying as an heiress. It's ridiculous. Just focus on quality rather than quantity and slowly build a cohesive high quality non logo wardrobe and your outfits will automatically have a certain vibe to it.
Absolutely. But, I find that people are not very well educated on what quality is. Grades of silk? Grades of cashmere? Supima and pima cotton? And on and on. So I think many people are not even aware of what they should be looking for and what a reasonable price for it would be. A cashmere coat is going to be expensive, but rightfully so. But, someone not aware might see that as unreasonable.
Thank you for sharing these insights! xx
@@LotusesGalaxyOcean oh absolutely. One has to get educated in these things and learn to recognize good craftsmanship
My clients who are medical professionals have always told me they do NOT wear expensive items in the field. They said they were taught that in school in order to avoid being a target for lawsuits. If they think you have deep pockets, you're running the risk of being sued by a patient who sees dollar signs if they can accuse you of malpractice.
Thanks for pointing it out I’m a med student right now and will keep this in mind thank you
@@siabhatia9003 Happy to share what they've told me. To be clear, they were talking about when working. What they do or wear outside of that, I couldn't say.
To me, looking expensive simply is well groomed, hair in place, no stains, good quality fabrics (people with a good eye can tell) and a good style with is complimentary to your natural physique and complexion..this alone makes you confident too. I have found that being like this, I always get treated very well and kindly as opposed to when I don't. Wearing a designer item as well, only compounds that for me..but also attracted unwanted attention (from thieves and shady people).
Quiet logos r best at these times. Flashy logo billboards outfits r for certain occasions or mood depending on the person. Thanks for sharing my lady. 🙏🏼❤️😘😘😘Sandy
Lovely to see you here, Sandy xx
Neat n clean n smells good that’s all
Amazing Amazing sharing Eileen!!👌🏻👌🏻💕💕
Thank you! xx
A few weeks ago I went into Selfridges in Oxford st London. The Fendi assistant knew I couldn’t afford he bags, I told her I couldn’t. She still went out of her way to be nice to me, wanted to show me up close the bag I had been hovering and salivating over. She was a nice friend;y person and an asset to that store. I look like crap most of the time, and was treating myself to a day in the capital, looking at bags I can’t afford! I wouldn’t dare walk into LV as I had a very bad experience in there years ago. So I avoid the boutiques.
Sorry to hear about your bad experience in LV! Years ago, I had the nicest service in Dior -- I ended up buying a bag lol. I think I was frustrated with how every time I walked into Chanel, I was told everything was out of stock. I bought the Dior to vent my frustration. Not a good move xx
I work in tech. The people who earn the most seem to be dressed the worst 😂
That’s so awesome! Xx
Sadly the world does not care about the person but the $$ the person has
I think this has a lot to do with how we're conditioned to think. Social media for example is a very visual place where people can mainly see what you have but not what you do, the books you read, or your life experiences xx
@@ColourfulNoir social media brings awareness yes. But ppl being envious and wanting wealth and resources has been there since the beginning of time. Or at least since I was born and I’m older than you. Growing up we had no social media. Growing up in the 80/90s, even as JhS and HS level we were obsessed with labels (back then the “it” labels gap, jcrew, doc martens etc)… ppl r just selfish and self absorbed…and I don’t mean it in a mean way. It’s just the way the world is.
My wardrobe priority, other than only buying pieces I love, is buying only natural-fiber fabrics and materials, so my wardrobe is more expensive anyway. But, I don’t buy them to impress, I buy them because I can’t tolerate synthetic fabrics or plastic shoes.
Absolutely! Spending on good material is always worth it. It makes out wardrobe more long lasting as well xx
You are the best, I love all your posts about luxury minimalist living .thank you
Thank you so much! xx
Typically I need to be wearing an outfit - bottoms, top, shoes that amounts to at least $250 before I begin to look expensive. It will also need to be within 6 weeks of having my hair cut. My bags and coats that cost less than $100 don’t look expensive, so once I add my nicer bag, plus a decent bra and underwear set, I’m looking at a $600 ensemble, minimum, to look expensive. I can look elegant and stylish for slightly less in the summertime, but the look will be casual. I agree that a beautiful, friendly smile and warm heart are priceless! 💜❤️
Thank you for sharing! I must say I don't visit the hairdresser as often xx
Honestly I despise this new obsession with 'looking expensive', 'Quite luxury' ,'Old money' etc. Honestly, in 2023 I would hope that these classist, money pandering views would be less prevalent but sadly that's not the case at all. I'm not saying personal wealth is bad just the societal view that wealth = better. I find it very depressing :/
It is quite depressing how we keep analysing how wealthy people live and dress. It saddens me to see people working hard to keep up with some really unrealistic lifestyle too xx
I like how you always look at things from different perspectives.
Aww I really appreciate this, thank you xx
Hi Eileen where did you get that black and white art I love it
Thank you! I'm not quite sure because was it picked by an interior designer xx
Great thought provoking video!
Thank you! xx
Good manners n the way you speak too
Not important to me,I like to look comfortable.
I agree with you! The most important thing is to be comfortable while looking good. Just simple classic elegance gives you that edge. There is another question, sometimes your simple life could be out of step with your lifestyle if you live a quiet, simple life, your friends and neighbors will never value luxury the in the same manner you might. What I'm trying to say is that sometimes a Hermès bag is meaningless in the circle of society where your life happens.
Comfort is no.1 priority indeed xx
I dress nice because that is what I love to do. Even my casual outfits are nicely put together. Most of my bags are designer or I have designed them myself using crocodile skins or luxury hides because that is what I enjoy but I have had most of them for years and because I used to design myself I have access to some of the best materials. I like clothes that feel good, are made of quality fabric and or designed well with an interesting esthetic. What people are usually most impressed with is my fine jewelry, I have a few Elsa Peretti pieces but its mostly about the fine jewelry I design for myself or vintage pieces that are beautiful with diamonds and gold or platinum. I have earrings, watches and necklaces and rings that speak volumes without me having to say anything. I do none of this to impress anyone because I truly love and enjoy what I have and design.
I grew up in one of the wealthier towns in the country, if not the wealthiest. This is clearly a generalization, but here it goes- wealthy people look nice, meaning they are clean, well-groomed, and dressed in unassuming attire that suits them. Unless there is an occasion that necessitates differently, this is casual dress, or classic casual. (think Lacoste, brooks brothers, even Target). They do not wear flashy designer labels, dressed in the latest trends. Do they buy higher quality items, sure, but not necessarily from-called "luxury" brands. Their money goes elsewhere because they dont need it to prove anything.
I agree, and I’ve always lived in one of the wealthiest and most highly-educated counties in the US.
Exactly. A grade a cashmere sweater doesn’t have to come from any specific brand. The point is the quality and design.
Thank you so much for sharing!! xx
We live in a Southern CA beach city. My husband's net worth is v comfortable and he drives a 2010 Honda. He doesn't need to prove anything to anyone.
Yep. My grandparents bought higher quality clothing and held onto everything for years. They recently passed away, but i was fortunate to get a few hand me downs and from stores that closed in the 80's, like Imagnin. I even got a wool scarf made in West Germany. LOL. My parents, too. My dad was once so offended because he looked shabby and the cashier asked for his food stamps card. LOL. But they were all well off and did alright for themselves. @@youheartmel
It’s funny, because I’ve always wanted to look polished or classy, but never expansive 😅 Like some people dress using a huge budget but never tastefully, that’s the last thing I want 😂
Thank you for sharing xx
It take a lot of money to look Cheap. Tattoos especially of bright colour & fine detail can cost about 50+ a square inch, so when you see a whole arm in striking tattoo- that's a Birkin journey that never comes off. In retail many people Need Nails to protect their hands from the rigors of their job, but workers get the extravagant as a way to stand out and attract their clients because detailed overthe top nails say "I know all the trends, I love details" and a years worth of nails could fund a Love bracelet. Great Vidi! 😎☕💋
Honestly truly well done tattoo’s don’t look cheap to me either. There must be an artistry present though. But, if a person would not buy a print of that tattoo and hang it on the wall? Well, why would it look any better or more beautiful put on a person?
This is very interesting insight seeing I'm someone who never considers having tattoo or manicure. Are you a tattoo lover? xx
No, it’s not important in the least to look expensive, but it important is to look well-dressed and well-groomed. I don’t care in the least about looking expensive, but I want the best quality for my wardrobe.
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I personally wish, sometimes, there were rules and laws about how to avoid dressing, too many people look like they fell out of bed, dress in such way in which one should plant potatos, maximum. I like the idea of people trying to look expensive, at least they are trying something, means there is chance they will end up looking elegantly and decent, if they try hard enough. T-shirts is not even clothing, its undergarment. Majority of people dress horribly, basically are dressed with no idea, no style, no elegance, so whatever trend is waking up at least a tiny little bit of desire to look more towards polished and well styled looks when picking outfits for the day is good, don't forget majority doesn't care about anything- no culture of understanding what is for home, what is for city life, what is for jumping in a forrest when camping, what is for walking down the street. So more trends like this, its better than pj styles on the streets!
I think few years ago there was actually a PJ trend- not something I can pull off xx
Can a person “ look expensive” like there is a price tag on their head? I like to look clean. 😊😊
Haha! Best comment here! Most people are trying to justify their style choices without any insight that they’re still trying to look expensive.
Great video. Lots to think about, thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!xx
Wearing designer brands or high end fashion at work doesn’t work at all. I believe in being relatable weighs heavier than looking expensive and people feel like you can be unapproachable.
Whenever I try to mix a luxury bag with some contemporary brands I feel like it downgrades the bag and make it look like a counterfeit. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I really feel that your entire outfit as well as make up and hair must be of decent quality so that you look “genuine”. If I see a woman carrying a chanel bag but wearing old dirty adidas sneakers and having messy hair I immediately think the bag is a counterfeit or that she has spent all her money on this one beloved bag and now is broke.
I agree, so many super fakes now. If I see an expensive bag, I would think it may be a fake if the lady is not well dressed or paired with another luxury accessory
Personally I like the idea of premium quality handbags. However, since following a man who breaks down the cost and manufacturing I have a price point limit. Unless it is a large item even using the best materials and made by hand it usually should only come out to a few hundred dollars. So unless it is a large bag or luggage it should stay well under $1000. I don’t want to buy anything for branding, but quality and design. And I think that buying items in this way means I won’t feel the need to unnecessarily fluff up outfits. This is just my approach to this because the idea of spending thousands on a small bag just for the reputation make me break out in hives.
Thank you so much for sharing! I must say I used to have that worry too-- feeling like I wasn't dressed up enough for the designer bag or jewelry, but something kind of changed along the way, and now I don't put much emphasis on 'looking worthy'. I personally don't mind mixing designers with high street as long as I feel comfortable with the outfit xx
Or when someone dresses up like a kardashian…that downgrades their handbag as well imo.
No matter how well dressed you are and no matter how well groomed and well mannered you if you don’t have self respect and respect for others you will never have “it”. And that means dressing well and properly. You don’t need to drip diamonds, but pajamas and trainers everywhere and leisure wear are a full no.
Quality well fitting clothes, being well groomed doesn't have to ne expensive
Agree! xx
Love this content and your earrings! May I know what size it is? Thank you!
fortunately I work in technology, where you can look a bit shabby and scruffy and still be Steve Jobs hehe, but I got your point, it is very interesting.
I never have the tech gene in me but I do envy people who work in tech! Everyone seems casual but in love with what they do. By the way, don't we all love Steve Jobs Issey Miyake turtleneck xx
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Not so much 'expensive' but more well groomed and not like a crazy homeless person. You look upscale and you will be treated upscale. Thats just unconscious reaction in many areas. You want to present yourself well so that others treat you as you wish to be treated. Also looking expensive doesn't equal actually spending alot. The counterfeit market is thriving because some people simply don't want to pay stupid money for not very much.
Honestly, I think most of the accurate part of “look expensive” is just health and beauty related. Put a stunning person with gorgeous hair, skin and bright smile who is fit as anything in a tee and jeans…. They still look like a knockout. Fashion also helps, but you can see the limits of how far it goes with celebrities who don’t look after their health.
Thank you for sharing xx
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Thank you! xx
Thankfully I am an engineer… we are somewhat expected to be covered in dust…😂😂😂
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Diderot effect 😮 so true !
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*YES, Looking Expensive IS Important* to MANY people. This and Wanting what's Expensive is a game, and is one people who Purchase/Desire *"LUXURY"* items play to make themselves feel good (I've done this myself). A Birkins is NOT Worth the price that's asked or is paid...PERIOD-T - *Stunning Bag* (would love to own one) *but NOT worth the price*. There are two $15,000 bags *you desire to own one* - Identical, except one is Plain Without name or mark, the other says Hermès - which would you buy?😁 Nothing is worth no more than a person is willing to spend for it. Just because a person can afford it doesn't mean it's worth it. Bottom line, we ALL desire to be/have something we are not/ don't AND the Luxury Market can be just as, if not More Deceitful than the Counterfeit Market.🧡🍂
Very interesting insights! Thank you so much for sharing xx
No, it is not important. Important is what you have in your bank account.
Very true! xx
A car is NEVER an investment. A property agent in an expensive car only tells me they are pushy, not knowledgeable or successful and definitely not working for you, their client.
I think the whole "looking expensive" is meant to make women feel they are not good enough. Why do we push such high expectations on women? We need to encourage each other to be our best selves, and be healthy and happy!!
I agree! I It's not easy to be a woman nowadays and we should really root for each other xx
Looking “expensive” is all fine if you actually have the finances to back it up. Sadly most people will get themselves into a huge amount of debt to achieve the look which is a sad state of society.
Agree! It's alarming to see how many people aspire to the Kadashian life xx
Reality TV and Social Media have influenced the masses to make irresponsible choices!
You are 💯 right
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Looking expensive does not mean good taste
Not always, sometimes is a lack of respect towards people with great needs🤷♀️
In you all clothes expensive or not will look beautiful.
Thank you so much for your kind words xx
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i don't know why people wants to look expensive it's a threat to snatcher if they saw you're wearing expensive items.low key is always the best not trying hard.
Luxury crimes are getting a bit scary xx
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If you really wanna know how wealthy people dress on a regular basis, go into a Whole Foods 😅
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Personally, in order to look your best, I think we should try to achieve the following: 1) be in good physical shape 2) practice good hygiene and 3) the cherry on the cake is have a good haircut that suits you. That is it. If you can tick all those boxes you are good to go. No matter what you wear you are going to look wonderful. In fact if you are at your physical best and you've got a good eye for what styles and colours work for you, you can make cheap clothing/handbags look more expensive than they are.
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