I need women to know it's OK to be single and not desperate. Idk when we're going to get it through our heads to value ourselves 🤦🏾♀️. A man is great to have,but he should add to your life not take away.
I think that she thought that they were in a relationship even while they were both in MD but now that she’s away from it realizes it was really a situationship.
@PamelaDennis No, not better. I was just expecting her to say they moved in together. I had to play it back to make sure I heard her right. I haven't even lived w/ a man before. She's beautiful, she'll be okay.
that's what they do bruh....all their standards go out the window for that guy(tyrone/chad w.e). then they'll get pregnant by the(tyrone/chad) and keep his baby even tho he doesn't want them to. all because she's tryna inevitably trapem
Kenna hit the nail on the head. Women often say “I love too hard” girl LOVE YOURSELF TOO HARD. Y’all end up in all of these weird ass situationships, but if you loved yourself more the right man will RESPECT it.
Also, she said that she was more into the guy than he was into her. That dudes an idiot, because this lady looks amazing. Hopefully she finds someone that appreciates her
Black women- END SITUATIONSHIPS............periodt. Situationships are a clear waste of time. Men benefit, they get you, your energy, your body and resources at a discount. Learn to put people in categories. Men do this all the time.
Men are not the only beneficiaries of a situationship. A woman's physical needs are also met and sometimes they look for a good night more than the man. Situationships for anyone is a serious waste of time for both parties and you are giving away your energy, depleting yourself for the one created for you.
What is the rush? Uprooting your whole life, job, child/children, support system, etc, is a huge commitment on HER behalf. For a decision that big, seems to me, waiting on HIS commitment to complete a marriage ceremony is not that difficult an ask. There are oh so many single parents out here, left that way, because they jumped the gun and moved in or away, because they were a "fiance".
She is very sensitive - very vulnerable - very clingy. These are not horrible things but when not properly balanced they can be horrible things. May God keep her and her son always..keep the devil away and heightened her discernment.
He just wanted a closer booty call; that is why he asked her to move. Ain't nobody trying to keep paying for all of those flights back and forth 🤷🏾♂️ 🤣
@MSKTLIZ Imagine a grown woman who is responsible for the well-being of another person not being able to differentiate between being someone to just fcuk on and being someone who is seen as a future wife or anything meaningful FOR 5 YEARS. Nobody has to feel sorry for her or you for making foolish decisions. This is why many of you always want to place the blame on others because you are not willing to accept the fact that you make silly decisions that lead to the negative outcomes that you experience. Anyone choosing to be in a situationship for 5 years deserves to be laughed at.
Well imagine if she had moved in !! Would get used for years with no ring. Many women in this day and age are being used. The guy won’t tell you that you are not the one. That you are Miss right now until the right woman comes along then they propose quick within a year 😳👆🏾
It seems like more and more women are just going for guys with money .and the guys with money see this and just use them with no real commitment or they’ll lie to keep getting access . I’m not pointing fingers but I do kinda feel bad this happens ALOT and there’s no easy solution for it .cause ppl can lie their teeth away to get what they want .
Don't be surprised if this woman's son resents her when he grows up. She was so desperate for a man that she was willing to uproot her child from his own dad, family, school, & friends to prioritize HER thirst for a man. There are often some bitter consequences for being a self-absorbed parent. Before anyone comes at me with the, "he'll be grown by then" cliche, keep in mind that if a parent lives long enough, there will come a time when the parent needs their child JUST AS MUCH as the child once need the parent.
@@Fabrizio7171 I wouldn't say that NONE of them care about tomorrow...nor would I say that this is trait that's unique to women. Selfish people (period) live for themselves and for the moment.
You're absolutely right! Your crotch shouldn't come before your childs best interest. I can't stand women like her. Can't respect that kind of weakness.
@@AllDay_AJ At least you're introspective enough to acknowledge the errors of your past ways. Some parents have such and inflated ego that they never take accountability for how they failed their kids. They take their self-righteousness and "justifications" to the grave and simply gaslight their kids for life. The fact that you're willing to acknowledge your past wrongs means that there may be hope for your relationship with your son.
My homegirl was going back and forth to Texas to see someone. I asked her was this leading towards marriage. She said yes. When it fell apart, i got the real story. He did not act like he wanted to take her serious. She on the otherhand took it way more serious than he. And she has a son.
Good men are not a dime a dozen. She understood the market, but made a bad investment. Women can’t afford to waste more than a few weeks on a man that isn’t on the same page as they are.
All the Narcissists are finna flood her DMs after she dropped that she’s emotionally dependent 🤦🏾♀️. Somebody gonna get a FULL supply. Lady make sure you watch out for love-bombing
You guys have no idea what a Narcissist is. Less than 5% of the population has been diagnosed with that condition, yet women throw it around as if every other man alive is one. It’s a very, very rare condition. Just because a person is selfish doesn’t make them a narcissist, it’s like calling everyone who drinks an alcoholic. I doubt any of you are doctors, they are the only professionals who knows what an actual narcissist is. Social media, new words and the people who use them incorrectly….
That’s not how it works. If she attracts narcissists it’s cus she’s one. Her stating she’s emotionally dependent just translates to codependent and lack of boundaries.
It was the kid.....I guarantee it....he couldn't do the kid thing, and might not have been honest with her.....off and on for 5 yrs???.....moved 2 yrs earlier???....then he missed the box and was like "u should move here"....she's a slice 🍰....and she gave it to him
She should've let her Son stay with his Father so he could finish his last year of Elementary School. He probably misses his Friends. 😢 Seems like she's not over the Older Dude and wanting to be too Clingy.
She said she had a 12 yo son. Even worse, the kid is going to resent the mother. A young kid may have forgot or not understand, a 12yo is perceptive enough to know his mom a scallywag and fool.
Kendra I really appreciated the advice you gave her. Having those big sisters in our community is so important. As a 23 year old, this is message I will remember. This is also confirmation for the mistakes I made so far in my early 20s and how I can avoid making many other one as well when it comes to dating men.
She obtains a empathic spirit and Demonic spirits are obsessed with kindhearted , emotionally available beings. Hopefully , she works on strengthening her discernment . I send protection energy to her and her seed .
Only a Christian would understand. Ephesians 6:10-17 some people are lead by evil and wickedness, Discernment is important for everyone to avoid those type of people.
Every situation is different. I am not married, I live with my partner, I work and I’m in grad school & I don’t pay any bills except my own; like my car payment & student loans. The goal is for us to get married. I lived in Charlotte and had my own place. If I had a child I would have not moved in with him before marriage. The stability of a child should always be a priority. We live and we learn!
Uprooting your son away from his father right before the years a boy definitely need discipline and structure without requiring a ring. I couldn’t trust her decision making.
I’m quite a bit older and I read that book years ago in my 20s and in a very physically abusive relationship. That book “women who love too much” helped me GET OUT! That book was everything I needed. I married again and have been happily married for 28 years!! Give yourself a real chance. ♥️
The simplest way to have a relationship with a man is to require marriage. It isn't the perfect solution, but it would prevent 99% of problems that women run into.
If a man is willing to stick with her in her healing, why is that an issue? Yall do realize that healing is a lifetime thing. There’s no such thing as being healed. A man that wants to be with her will need to be able to be with her on the good days and the bad. Yall gotta stop telling people to heal before they try to form new connections - because if people needed to be 100% healed before connecting with someone else, no one ever would.
He played tf out of her damn …. Go heal sis Kendra they never broke up bc they were never together… … Why would he move her and her child into his space … Wow “Kendra don’t make me cry “…. No sis it’s your circumstances is what is making you cry .. Sad case fr
He never asked her to move. If a man asked a woman to move to another state he would hand moved her in with him. Then she said herself one she showed up his attitude changed. That’s because he didn’t expect to see her and was annoyed. We need to stop believing everything that comes out of these people’s mouths.
As a single father who has custody of his child it really pissed me off that she took her child from the dad especially when he's involved u don't take that for granted I wish my son mother would see her child but god knows where she is its going on 3 years now
i went through the sane thing. my oldest son refuses to speak to his mother because she uprooted him in his younger years, more than once. my kids have been with me the last 5 years, and for about 2 years, their mother did not even call them. she's more involved now, but our oldest doesnt want anything to do with her.
That was a smart move. Look at the situation she in. If she she lived with him the break would have been ten times worse. Unfortunately she has a child with her....Housing , schooling , navigating herself around a state she doesn't know about? No. That was a smart move.
She has very low self esteem. I think the WORST thing you can do while trying to date is talk about your past. Men judge you by what you’ve done. Broadcasting this is gonna get her the results she had before. Being in a situationship where she thinks it’s more serious than it ever was, baby mama-hood and side chick-dom.
If she were my little sister, I would say, take a break from dating and focus on establishing some roots and focusing on yourself and your son. Don't move to Houston! Running away from issues when we haven't changed is never a good idea. Move to an area where you have a support network, and your son will have the love and attention HE needs. I know it's difficult for some mothers to accept, but when you become a mother without a husband, YOUR CHILD is first. You make decisions and do things based on how it will affect your child. I'm sorry, it doesn't seem fair, but that's what it is. If someone wants to date you, they have to be mature enough to accept that. Having those boundaries will weed out those immature men, or the ones just not right for you. And trust me, the right man will absolutely love and respect that about you. So just relax for awhile, figure out your next move, get settled, get your son settled ( this break up affects him too, even if you don't notice it, this is another man who left him) and make your next move your best move and let love and a good man FIND YOU! Also, getting into a relationship because you don't like being alone or single always ends badly. Work on yourself, build a healthy relationship with your son. Let the right man find a healed version of you
These women will fight tooth and nail to keep the biological fathers out of their children's lives. But the usual suspects get to be around their children all day everyday. And what's even worse, she's involving her child in her poor decision making. 🤦🏾♂️
If a women are continuously getting into unhealthy relationships or situationships with emotionally unavailable men, then they might as well work on the relationship with their child’s father. Many women are absolutely delusional and don’t know what they want.
@@prettygirlfrmla7525thank you 😂 all these fake outrage comments but seems like the dad was ok with it… if he wasn’t ok with it, I am sure he would have went to the police or court.
If a person appears to be okay with you moving your child away from their involved parent, rest assured that person is not the one. He probably was testing her and lost all respect for her as soon as she touched down in his state. Said she left a good paying job too. Smh Wouldn't be surprised if he had a bet going with some friends or family members on whether or not she was dumb enough to do it. Ladies, love and respect yourself before expecting someone else to.
I relocated and it was the worse decision of my life! I went back home which was the best decision. We live and learn but that was a lesson that I will never forget.
I understand. I promised my daughters that I wouldn’t move them again until they are out of school. My oldest daughter will graduate in 4 years and I’m planning my escape.
Kendra was on point with this woman. She's a beautiful woman and spirit but I don't think she is over this guy and ready to move on. Guys avoid her because I don’t think she is ready for another man or relationship.
Im not moving in with or living with ANY man that's not my husband. Never have, never will. She definitely should have had her own place. Issue is they should have already been ENGAGED
She learned an expensive and heartbreaking lesson. Her story is a cautionary tell for other women. 1. STOP MOVING FOR A MAN IF IT’S NOT A SURE THING! Even if it’s a sure thing (ring, wedding date), do it with eyes wide open, because abu$ers will want to isolate you from family and friends. 2. STOP PUTTING MEN OVER YOUR KIDS. She disrupted her kid’s life over a guy that wasn’t a sure thing (no ring, no wedding date). 3. If you’re going to relocate regardless of the reason, make sure that you have your financial ducks in a row (a job, savings). For her - forget that guy and move forward. Men’s egos get boosted when their exes call them. He’ll start thinking that you’re going to be an easy booty call when he gets lonely and can’t find a girl at 2:00AM. It’s also going to turn off the future guy that may want that happily ever after with you. That dude is in the past. Time to live for the future.
LIES LIES LIES.....Her story doesn't make any sense at all.... I will bet my last chicken lemon pepper wing that 1-).She is STALKER 2-) She is the MISTRESS and has always been 3-)The so-called longtime friend is MARRIED. She decided to literally move with her son, ONE STATE OVER(down), for a man without having a practical conversation and strategizing with him.. Apartment/house hunting, takes time; what about her job/business/clients etc? She showed up unannounced thinking that the MARRIED man would leave his wife for her... Her story is so full of holes and lies.
@demetriusjames9535 In cases like this, what is the utility of questioning her? We don't know this lady. Are we supposed to spend time on questioning people on this show? You all need hobbies and a real life. Go volunteer at a homeless shelter. This show should be for looking for a mate, entertainment and constructive feedback. It doesn't require questioning people who have nothing to do with our day to day lives.
She did move for a HUSBAND....... SOMEONE ELSE'S HUSBAND LIES LIES LIES.....Her story doesn't make any sense at all.... I will bet my last chicken lemon pepper wing that 1-).She is STALKER 2-) She is the MISTRESS and has always been 3-)The so-called longtime friend is MARRIED. She decided to literally move with her son, ONE STATE OVER(down), for a man without having a practical conversation and strategizing with him.. Apartment/house hunting, takes time; what about her job/business/clients etc? She showed up unannounced thinking that the MARRIED man would leave his wife for her... Her story is so full of holes and lies.
Kendra’s advice to not heal is horrible. This woman is a Mom! A woman who is not healed will most definitely make poor choices in men. Single mothers need to do better! Make smarter decisions for the sake of your child. It’s one thing if your decisions only effect YOU (like Reesa Teesa) but when a child is involved it’s selfish to put a man that high on your priority list that you would uproot your child. I don’t mean to come off harsh! But in situations like this tough love is needed. She’s an attractive woman. focus on you and your child and the right man will come.
Although she should’ve never relocated before marriage The days when a man just showed up for 40 and 50 something’s are over. A woman who wants to be married has to balance motherhood and dating with intention.
Kendra needs to understand that men and women are not the same! Women have a ton of emotions when it comes to relationships and sex, so she definitely needs to take a time off for herself
That’s not harsh at all. There was a 13 year old girl that was just unalived by her mom’s boyfriend a couple of days ago. Innocent children are losing their lives behind some women refusing to think properly.
YES and there will always be a LOSER when games are being played. Once a person sees that the other party is playing games that's when you cut that shit short. People need to go back to following what's in their heart instead of seeking advice from a mf that's throwed off worse than they are.
@@ToriUptown It wasn't a smart choice to move in the first place. But since she did the dumb thing and moved, it was at least a smart choice to get her own place if she's also brought her minor child with her. It's not wise to move your child in a home with man you only know from the internet and haven't spent any real-life time around.
@@tincredible She claimed they knew each other for YEARS. Of course we can't get a straight answer on what the situation is because females struggle with honesty and clarity.
@@Milan26202😂😂😂😂 Baby this is my hair. I am so confused by sooooo many men hating so hard in my comment section about my hair. Please go get yourself a woman!!! Y’all looking desperate and lonely worrying about my hair! 😂😂😂
I disagree. If a woman wants a man to lead, you probably should move where he is. Don't do it without a commitment though. If y'all not committed enough for her to move in with him after being together five years then she shouldn't have never went. But your mom sounds like the man should follow the woman. I know of long distance relationships that ended in marriage. But again be clear on what you want and definitely don't move if you're not moving in with him
She needs to take dating seriously instead of damaging her 12yr olds life. A child can be damaged by moving and having to establish new friends, school etc. while knowing men are in and out of their lives. In my opinion, she should settle down somewhere, and wait to date seriously until her teen becomes older.
I don't think that man asked her to move down there i think she packed her bags and said SURPRISE 🎉😮..🗣 I HOPE MOVING HER SON AWAY FROM😅 HIS "VERY EVOLVED " FATHER TO BE IN A SITUATIONSHIP (and not marriage) TURNED HIM OFF!!! PERIOD.......!
It really is and I can’t believe she said that because she’ll bring the baggage onto the next relationship then it’s possible she’ll break that persons heart because she’s not over her ex.
Nah, these long ass speeches are kinda cringey. What is her reply suppose to be other than her breaking down and cry?? The coulda shoulda woulda hindsight speeches are for children, not people in their 30s
This is why blunt honest friends is necessary. Women have a bad habit of not stopping friends from making emotionally driven decisions which in her situation, cost her a lot and she didn’t even reap the benefits from making the move.
I don't believe any adult can force you to do anything with life decisions. I believe friends can influence and strongly suggest. They very well may have. At the end of the day this is 100% on her
Healing first doesn't mean sitting in the house crying👀 what kinda logic is that?? She almost cried just talking about the situationship, definitely needs to heal. Her child's father must not be very involved if she can up and move for a relationship that wasn't even serious.
automatically went to the child's father must not be involved. you must not know how child custody works, and she made it clear the father is involved.
@@meloran2571 I wouldn't have given my opinion if I wasn't familiar. You new here? I'm not really asking because I don't genuinely care whether you are or aren't. This must be you in this vid lol. Most real fathers would not go for someone moving their child away for a temporary situationship. If you were familiar with the system you would know that a father can challenge the move making the mother have to stay local unless she's getting married, engaged or career move.
Kendra is SO right!! I had to stop messing with my ex situationship for TWO years before I met my husband. We have to TOTALLY give up things... so that the new can come in fresh, etc. Good luck to her.
@@aroukapennNorth Carolina is literally one state south of the DMV; Why would a man who has been your so-called friend for a lot time, asks you to move close to him with your son, just to have you go thru the crazy process of finding1-) Possible Employment, 2-) A new residence? Did he help her in thru that process? NO.. Did they have any type of real conversation prior to taking her dumb a$$ there? NO You have to be extremely irrational to suddenly uproot your child from a familiar environment, just to move for a man without having a understanding of what is ahead. I now believe that man is married;.and she thought moving closer would make him leave his wife.... Her story doesn't make wny sense.
@86misshazeleyes LOL...This is a big reach..."Like men who constantly say they're are a good guy"...I've never made my comment more than once...So that example is terrible.
Clearly she was a sidechick, not the smartest sidechick but a sidechick nonetheless. Moving state while being a sidechick should be a criminal offense.
I'm going to express an opinion and this is just what I've observed from life and what women and men have told me. My thought about her and some of the men that women come across is because most good men are spoken for or not dating. Some of my best bros are spoken for, married, and have been happy for years. My older brother has been married for about 6 years now. I'm celibate and some of my other bros are playing with women, or just dating. I truly think that many women get results like this because good men aren't available or making ourselves available, leaving bums, Glocktavious, and Dust.
Might be partially true... but have you seen pop the balloon 🎈 show them women like most black women especially are ruthless about rejecting guys over every lil thing until they bind themselves in corner of such tiny group of men that will do this to them... maybe they'll just simply enjoy it because its so drama filled... they find these man everytime like the blue shell 💠 in mariokart
She was about to cry because ppl keep trying to bring her down over a mistake she clearly is fully aware of and has admitted to. She healing but when she’s come on a platform with a bunch of judgmental ppl, it takes her two steps back. Kendra tells the average women or the not so attractive women in her eyes, to heal before focusing on dating someone else. But because this woman is pretty, she tells her it’s no need to heal because she’s beautiful and can easily find someone new? Interesting…. But I’ve noticed Kendra is biased between average looking ppl and the very good looking ones.
Zero accountability. 31YO single mother claiming to be taken advantage of and made to move to a whole different state. Uprooted the stability of her kid and all. Then, comes on here trauma dumping in hopes a new man will be better than her previous booty call is crazy. Nevertheless, wishing her the best!
I’m relaxing and enjoying my final spring break this week. Men, always remember; women only make rules for men they don’t like. My dad told me this in third grade and it saved my life and has saved me a lot of time and energy when I’m first talking to a girl.
She just trying to run from her responsibilities as a mom. Stop thinking about men. Get a job. Raise your son. Its nobody job to do but you and your child father. Jumping to another man is not the right thing get your LIFE stable first.
This is THE BEST I’ve ever seen Kendra’s hair look. Wow. This cute short cut fits her so well! Kendraaa you are literally like a cute little black Barbie ❤
Her child is almost half her age. Ma'am you started off wrong a long time ago. Teenager pregnant. Super 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 you was in a 5 yr long situationship and saying you don't want to play games ma'am you're playing games and trying to blame the man like you were in love. Stop playing victim
Baby girl respectfully that was probably the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. No way in this land to the next will I ever move for a man and he don’t have a plan for me /us. If the goal ain’t to move in together then WTH we doing??! Especially if you had a good job where you was. 🥴
Moving yourself and your child to a new state and leaving your high paying job for a man you’re not dating and didn’t even move in with is absolutely CRAZY! ya’ll will do anything for pookie 😂😂
she should probably work on not being emotionally dependent. that’s not a “female” trait, that’s a trauma response.
True! Until she gets to the root of her emotional dependence, she will continue to be taken advantage of. Different men, same issue.
She's codependent big time!
I love when they depend on me. Makes me feel loved 😂
I need women to know it's OK to be single and not desperate. Idk when we're going to get it through our heads to value ourselves 🤦🏾♀️. A man is great to have,but he should add to your life not take away.
She needs to let that coochie breathe
“I want you to move to Charlotte with me, but you have to get your own crib” is crazy 😂
Perspective!!! 😭
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Good because she would’ve been in his house and broken up
KS talked about this becoming a norm, hopefully not. Living together separately
I like this young lady, she's gonna be okay!
Be careful of oversharing on the net… will attract certain types of people. Revealed place of employment 😮 and being emotionally dependent.
Yea she making it easy for ppl to get at her
I’m sitting here thinking why in the world did she say the name of the company where she works multiple times???
Comes across as broken.
This won’t end well 😳
No self awareness at all
I was thinking the same thing. Some Predator gonna come lick her wounds and validate her foolish move by blaming it all on the guy
She comes across as very naive.
Is anyone else gonna bring up the fact that she uprooted her kid, away from his birth father to chase after a situationship?
😢😢😢
I do not believe for one bit they were in an exclusive relationship.
Sad. So many women do this and it's overlooked.
I think that she thought that they were in a relationship even while they were both in MD but now that she’s away from it realizes it was really a situationship.
Oh, gosh...🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Moving states for a friends with benefits at 31 years old with a child in tow just to live separately is insane.
Insane
Ludicrous.
Yeah now tell me about how y’all have ALWAYS been better than anyone on this planet as far as how you operate in relationships. Be honest.
@@PamelaDennis ?
@PamelaDennis No, not better. I was just expecting her to say they moved in together. I had to play it back to make sure I heard her right. I haven't even lived w/ a man before. She's beautiful, she'll be okay.
People talk too much we don’t need to know what bank you work for just say you are associate branch manager at a bank
Over sharing is unattractive 😢🥵
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Girl and her name is so unique!! Anyone can probably find her now that’s so scary!! Or even call her job and lie on her!! I would never
These ppl are weird I don’t even put my real name on here .
Correct....that was immature to state your workplace duh..
She said her son has a full-time dad.. but she keeps moving😂😂😂😂
that's what they do bruh....all their standards go out the window for that guy(tyrone/chad w.e). then they'll get pregnant by the(tyrone/chad) and keep his baby even tho he doesn't want them to. all because she's tryna inevitably trapem
@@cocolokoflacco it's extremely selfish.
@@cocolokoflaccofacts smh
Right....not giving him the chance to be full time or have a say in the situation.
Bruh! 😂
Kenna hit the nail on the head. Women often say “I love too hard” girl LOVE YOURSELF TOO HARD. Y’all end up in all of these weird ass situationships, but if you loved yourself more the right man will RESPECT it.
Also, she said that she was more into the guy than he was into her. That dudes an idiot, because this lady looks amazing. Hopefully she finds someone that appreciates her
If you love yourself you wouldn't be in a situationship in the first place.
Yess
Or you won’t accept crappy men
FACTS!!!! LOVE YOURSELF MORE!! PERIOD!!
Black women- END SITUATIONSHIPS............periodt. Situationships are a clear waste of time. Men benefit, they get you, your energy, your body and resources at a discount. Learn to put people in categories. Men do this all the time.
Men are not the only beneficiaries of a situationship. A woman's physical needs are also met and sometimes they look for a good night more than the man. Situationships for anyone is a serious waste of time for both parties and you are giving away your energy, depleting yourself for the one created for you.
@@lessmall78 Agree but also don't forget to mention a woman's financial needs are often being met as well.
Not always the case Melvin
@@beatriceshaw hence the reason I used the word often. With that said, not only do you get the benefit of sex, you also reap the financial benefits.
You're funny😂
Men don't benefit from wasting time with these trash ass women. Stop being so damn delusional. Pookies win not real hard working men
Don't move for a boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance. Move for a HUSBAND/WIFE!
I think you should move for a fiance though.
Move for a fiancè ONLY if you have a ring. I never understand women who claim the title, with NO ring.
What is the rush? Uprooting your whole life, job, child/children, support system, etc, is a huge commitment on HER behalf. For a decision that big, seems to me, waiting on HIS commitment to complete a marriage ceremony is not that difficult an ask. There are oh so many single parents out here, left that way, because they jumped the gun and moved in or away, because they were a "fiance".
YES 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@@tenderbrown74not even that, a date set within the near future. Ppl get a ring and never get married
A 5 year situationship is wild. Then you move to his state but not in with him. Pookie just keep winning
It's sad really. She has a child that she probably brought with her. Took her away from this little boy's friends and probably family.
She now think she knows her worth lmao
@@karynthompson4320Don't you know
Mama needs come before her seed smh
I was married when I relocated but I can still relate to relocating with children. It's a lot more than people think.@@E.R225
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If she's about to cry, she's not over him, nor is she ready to love someone else.
I don’t think she was about to cry for him but the situation and realization that time was wasted.
She doesn't need to worry about a booty call if she has a child depending on her.
So true!
Exactlyyyy. If he decided to make moves she would hop right back on
She is very sensitive - very vulnerable - very clingy. These are not horrible things but when not properly balanced they can be horrible things.
May God keep her and her son always..keep the devil away and heightened her discernment.
As a man that is co parenting with my ex, I would be pissed off if my ex relocated my kids for this reason smh!
Irresponsible
AND she back again on a dating show looking for a man 🤣
@@tmcurlyYes! 🤦🏾♀️😩
On me. I Would be pissed. Especially with me having a daughter. I wouldn’t want her thinking this is cool.
@@marawood3801Or the father lived very close by and she made a very selfish decision to separate them on an emotional whim.
That's all I was thinking about. How tf you move to another State with somebody else child to move closer to some guy. Wtf
He just wanted a closer booty call; that is why he asked her to move. Ain't nobody trying to keep paying for all of those flights back and forth 🤷🏾♂️ 🤣
Pretty much..
😂😂😂😂😂😂
You tell me that he was getting a*** somewhere else when she was in Maryland? Naw he wasn’t committed like that ? 5 year situationship 😭
Imagine a grown man finding this humorous. 🥴
@MSKTLIZ Imagine a grown woman who is responsible for the well-being of another person not being able to differentiate between being someone to just fcuk on and being someone who is seen as a future wife or anything meaningful FOR 5 YEARS. Nobody has to feel sorry for her or you for making foolish decisions. This is why many of you always want to place the blame on others because you are not willing to accept the fact that you make silly decisions that lead to the negative outcomes that you experience. Anyone choosing to be in a situationship for 5 years deserves to be laughed at.
He sure as hell got his cake and ate it too …with milk .
Well imagine if she had moved in !!
Would get used for years with no ring.
Many women in this day and age are being used.
The guy won’t tell you that you are not the one.
That you are Miss right now until the right woman comes along then they propose quick within a year 😳👆🏾
@@tmcurly well stop choosing men based on their sex appeal then, problem solved.
It seems like more and more women are just going for guys with money .and the guys with money see this and just use them with no real commitment or they’ll lie to keep getting access . I’m not pointing fingers but I do kinda feel bad this happens ALOT and there’s no easy solution for it .cause ppl can lie their teeth away to get what they want .
@@tmcurlyVery True unfortunately.
@@kwilliams3161Men without/or as much money are also using women without any commitment. Money does matter. It will be always be attractive.
Don't be surprised if this woman's son resents her when he grows up. She was so desperate for a man that she was willing to uproot her child from his own dad, family, school, & friends to prioritize HER thirst for a man. There are often some bitter consequences for being a self-absorbed parent. Before anyone comes at me with the, "he'll be grown by then" cliche, keep in mind that if a parent lives long enough, there will come a time when the parent needs their child JUST AS MUCH as the child once need the parent.
@@Fabrizio7171 I wouldn't say that NONE of them care about tomorrow...nor would I say that this is trait that's unique to women. Selfish people (period) live for themselves and for the moment.
You're absolutely right!
Your crotch shouldn't come before your childs best interest.
I can't stand women like her. Can't respect that kind of weakness.
This happened to me 😢. I know my son resents me for my actions
@@AllDay_AJ At least you're introspective enough to acknowledge the errors of your past ways. Some parents have such and inflated ego that they never take accountability for how they failed their kids. They take their self-righteousness and "justifications" to the grave and simply gaslight their kids for life. The fact that you're willing to acknowledge your past wrongs means that there may be hope for your relationship with your son.
Ladies get the ring first before you get anything else…🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
They are clueless sadly 🤦🏽♀️
They will always tell you they were engaged without the diamond ring 💍 😳…..cap 🧢🧢
A ring doesn’t mean anything these days. Just a stall tactic to keep stringing you along.
@@northerngal13 Yeah, thats true too.
@@northerngal13Heavy placeholder yikes
Never relocate for a man until he marries you, my mom taught me this a long time ago 😂
She didn’t relocate for him. She did it for herself.
@@A-Thomas if she was courting with him before she moved then moved to where he lived… she did it for him.
@@ourtruth216 She was in a situationship with him. 99% of women today aren’t courting anyone they are hooking up.
@@A-Thomas ur saying nothing
@@ourtruth216 I understand that you are willfully ignorant.
Sounds like he casually mentioned moving there, and he was shocked that she actually came 😮
😂😂😂😂😂
Facts sounds like he’s wasn’t involved in any actual planning
BINGOOOO!!! 😂😂
Facts, i thought that too
Exactly 💯..
My homegirl was going back and forth to Texas to see someone. I asked her was this leading towards marriage. She said yes. When it fell apart, i got the real story. He did not act like he wanted to take her serious. She on the otherhand took it way more serious than he. And she has a son.
Delusionally chasing and trying to force a relationship.
Good men are not a dime a dozen. She understood the market, but made a bad investment. Women can’t afford to waste more than a few weeks on a man that isn’t on the same page as they are.
@@Roccofan👏👏👏
Desperation is ugly AF
@@Roccofan As a man, I agree!
All the Narcissists are finna flood her DMs after she dropped that she’s emotionally dependent 🤦🏾♀️. Somebody gonna get a FULL supply. Lady make sure you watch out for love-bombing
Facts
she obv attracts them
Narcissist are her type tho.
You guys have no idea what a Narcissist is. Less than 5% of the population has been diagnosed with that condition, yet women throw it around as if every other man alive is one. It’s a very, very rare condition. Just because a person is selfish doesn’t make them a narcissist, it’s like calling everyone who drinks an alcoholic. I doubt any of you are doctors, they are the only professionals who knows what an actual narcissist is. Social media, new words and the people who use them incorrectly….
That’s not how it works. If she attracts narcissists it’s cus she’s one. Her stating she’s emotionally dependent just translates to codependent and lack of boundaries.
Damn, how do you relocate and not move in together?
he probably had a wife or a long term gf and he wanted something more and she provided him with that without any form of commitment, on his part
She dumb obviously
He never asked her to come she was obsessed and followed him there against his wishes hence she had to get her own place
It was the kid.....I guarantee it....he couldn't do the kid thing, and might not have been honest with her.....off and on for 5 yrs???.....moved 2 yrs earlier???....then he missed the box and was like "u should move here"....she's a slice 🍰....and she gave it to him
Easy... he didn't want her like that.
Kendra’s hair looks so pretty! I love this style on you!
Agreed. GORGEOUs
It's not real
She should've let her Son stay with his Father so he could finish his last year of Elementary School.
He probably misses his Friends. 😢
Seems like she's not over the Older Dude and wanting to be too Clingy.
She said she had a 12 yo son. Even worse, the kid is going to resent the mother. A young kid may have forgot or not understand, a 12yo is perceptive enough to know his mom a scallywag and fool.
The only man I am moving to a different state for is my husband!
Same! We divorced now but we share a child and I stayed in same state.
period !
PUT YOUR SON FIRST! YOUR son needs his father and relatives. Stop putting others ahead of raising your child.
SAY IT LOUD!!
Why y’all so upset obviously the father didn’t care because she’s still there and she didn’t mention that the father had a problem
@@N.1lzagood point
@@N.1lzagood point
At the point in which she got pregnant without a marriage , you know her son is an accessory.
Kendra I really appreciated the advice you gave her. Having those big sisters in our community is so important. As a 23 year old, this is message I will remember. This is also confirmation for the mistakes I made so far in my early 20s and how I can avoid making many other one as well when it comes to dating men.
She obtains a empathic spirit and Demonic spirits are obsessed with kindhearted , emotionally available beings. Hopefully , she works on strengthening her discernment . I send protection energy to her and her seed .
Ha ? 😳😳
Makes no logic
I dunno wtf he talking about@@tmcurly
💞🎯🤲🏾
Only a Christian would understand. Ephesians 6:10-17 some people are lead by evil and wickedness, Discernment is important for everyone to avoid those type of people.
@@Winnib7479 Thank you . Those who get it, get it and those who don’t , don’t .
She keeps saying, " if I'm going to be honest blah, blah, blah". She's lying about a whole bunch of something!
Sis! Yes 😒
💅🏽 we expect you to honest….no need to keep saying it
That to be honest is irking the hell out of me
I was thinking the same thing
Ladies…… if you relocate for a man and u have to get your own place……. Don’t! 🤔👀🫡🤦🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️
You only move in if he proposes otherwise it’s a no-go.
Stop encouraging co-habitation. Then that man will never marry her. She is a single mum..
☹️☹️
Better yet…it’s time to start normalizing relocation with a ring on the finger.
Super Simp to the rescue 🛟
Every situation is different. I am not married, I live with my partner, I work and I’m in grad school & I don’t pay any bills except my own; like my car payment & student loans. The goal is for us to get married. I lived in Charlotte and had my own place. If I had a child I would have not moved in with him before marriage. The stability of a child should always be a priority. We live and we learn!
Uprooting your son away from his father right before the years a boy definitely need discipline and structure without requiring a ring. I couldn’t trust her decision making.
Don't beat yourself up. Heal and move on. Take this as a learning experience and go for what you want. God Bless
I’m quite a bit older and I read that book years ago in my 20s and in a very physically abusive relationship. That book “women who love too much” helped me GET OUT! That book was everything I needed. I married again and have been happily married for 28 years!! Give yourself a real chance. ♥️
I ❤️ REFUSE TO DATE A MAN OVER A YEAR. A ❤️ MAN KNOW IN 90 DAYS IF HE'S GOING TO MARRY THE WOMAN. ❤❤❤❤❤
I pray for her.😢
You gotta love your own company and VALUE yourself more than that man that ain't valuing your company. Best wishes gurl!
The simplest way to have a relationship with a man is to require marriage. It isn't the perfect solution, but it would prevent 99% of problems that women run into.
Exactly 💯 but they're so scared to do that because they already know
Marriage would b worse
Courtship avoids all the pitfalls of dating.
Even husbands live single and do whatever they want.The only way to prevent any of these problems honestly would be to stay celibate.
it weeds out men who want a booty call and pookies and timewasters
I love that she was so teachable and willing to listen. It’s a great sign. Beautiful too
Damn how’s her son gonna look at his mom knowing she picked up and moved them for this dude who really wasn’t even serious about them?
He grows up being problematic himself.
One of those simp like men that are weak 😢
Role modelling.
That’s why she needs to stop dating till the son is 16.
Enough is enough lol 😂
@@tmcurly like fr I’d start looking at my mom like one of the silly girls I go to school with if I was him smh
Modern Wmn's math : 🍆>👶
He already knew
She’s a beautiful woman, but she’s still hurt. The fact that she’s about to cry, she’s not over him. Which is ok, but don’t bleed into your next man
yeah she needs to heal quickly. sit the next 6 months out and focus on herself
she's get over it hopefully it might take a little time she a beautiful woman with good energy wish her all love peace an blessing 😊
@@vincentmartin1863 I agree
I think she should leave all the selfish thoughts n try again with him
If a man is willing to stick with her in her healing, why is that an issue? Yall do realize that healing is a lifetime thing. There’s no such thing as being healed. A man that wants to be with her will need to be able to be with her on the good days and the bad. Yall gotta stop telling people to heal before they try to form new connections - because if people needed to be 100% healed before connecting with someone else, no one ever would.
He played tf out of her damn ….
Go heal sis
Kendra they never broke up bc they were never together…
…
Why would he move her and her child into his space
…
Wow
“Kendra don’t make me cry “….
No sis it’s your circumstances is what is making you cry ..
Sad case fr
Whew, Lord. Yes
A word!
Kendra gave her bad awful, that young lady needs to work on her issues. Being in cute or physically in shape won't solve her problems.
Did she consider her son at all during this move? What about his friends and stability? Don't be chasing no man and dragging your kids behind you.
Preach !
Not a drop of concern...
No, and THIS is why we have grown men acting crazy. Be a mother and raise your boy instead of chasing a man.
right go back to maryland where your kid was establish
Only do that if you get the ring first
He clapping them cheeks as we speak. 🐦🧠
Yep 👏🏾
She won’t get over him any time soon
😅😅😅😅
Stop 😂 😂
@@BeautyNBrains86 it's the truth 🤦🏿♂️🤣
Yep! He probably saw her on Kendra G, called or texted her, and she responded… immediately.
You should've visited him first before moving!!!
Chile listen 🗣️🗣️🗣️
Clueless 🤦🏽♀️
Stay thirsty my friend
He never asked her to move. If a man asked a woman to move to another state he would hand moved her in with him. Then she said herself one she showed up his attitude changed. That’s because he didn’t expect to see her and was annoyed. We need to stop believing everything that comes out of these people’s mouths.
Never leave stability without MARRIAGE.
Woman have the fantasy that men are their friends. He was nvr her friend.
Facts
I don’t understand that concept 💅🏽
This was a word not just for her but for us all !!!
“I left a good paying job in Charlotte” Gave up money for a situationship? Girl GTFO.
I believe she kept suggesting she move to NC, to follow him. After she got there reality set in that it was basically her final decision and not his.
That makes sense. That’s why I believe they didn’t move in together. A woman can’t be more to a man than what he sees her as.
I felt that way too. The move wasn't mutual
As a single father who has custody of his child it really pissed me off that she took her child from the dad especially when he's involved u don't take that for granted I wish my son mother would see her child but god knows where she is its going on 3 years now
i went through the sane thing. my oldest son refuses to speak to his mother because she uprooted him in his younger years, more than once. my kids have been with me the last 5 years, and for about 2 years, their mother did not even call them. she's more involved now, but our oldest doesnt want anything to do with her.
@@bigdunks4eva my son about to be 4 he's still young but hes gonna ask questions soon I'm trying to figure out how I'ma handle that
@@ronnien8214Is she on drugs?
@@rosieparez no mental health issues
@@ronnien8214just be honest and let him know how mother is ill.... that's much different from the woman in the video
Girl he was not your friend! He didn’t even ask you to move in with him, knowing you’re moving to another state where you don’t know anyone
That was a smart move. Look at the situation she in. If she she lived with him the break would have been ten times worse. Unfortunately she has a child with her....Housing , schooling , navigating herself around a state she doesn't know about? No. That was a smart move.
Exactly not a real friend.
@@karynthompson4320 not moving wouldve been the smart move. Lmao what r u talking about 😂 not solid lbs
The hair!!! The damn hair!!!! Sooooo beautiful Kendra!!!!
That's her natural hair..healthy hair..
She has very low self esteem. I think the WORST thing you can do while trying to date is talk about your past. Men judge you by what you’ve done. Broadcasting this is gonna get her the results she had before. Being in a situationship where she thinks it’s more serious than it ever was, baby mama-hood and side chick-dom.
If she were my little sister, I would say, take a break from dating and focus on establishing some roots and focusing on yourself and your son. Don't move to Houston! Running away from issues when we haven't changed is never a good idea. Move to an area where you have a support network, and your son will have the love and attention HE needs. I know it's difficult for some mothers to accept, but when you become a mother without a husband, YOUR CHILD is first. You make decisions and do things based on how it will affect your child. I'm sorry, it doesn't seem fair, but that's what it is. If someone wants to date you, they have to be mature enough to accept that. Having those boundaries will weed out those immature men, or the ones just not right for you. And trust me, the right man will absolutely love and respect that about you. So just relax for awhile, figure out your next move, get settled, get your son settled ( this break up affects him too, even if you don't notice it, this is another man who left him) and make your next move your best move and let love and a good man FIND YOU!
Also, getting into a relationship because you don't like being alone or single always ends badly. Work on yourself, build a healthy relationship with your son. Let the right man find a healed version of you
These women will fight tooth and nail to keep the biological fathers out of their children's lives. But the usual suspects get to be around their children all day everyday. And what's even worse, she's involving her child in her poor decision making. 🤦🏾♂️
🙌🏾👏🏾
If a women are continuously getting into unhealthy relationships or situationships with emotionally unavailable men, then they might as well work on the relationship with their child’s father. Many women are absolutely delusional and don’t know what they want.
If her child’s dad didn’t have a problem y’all shouldn’t be worried neither
@@prettygirlfrmla7525thank you 😂 all these fake outrage comments but seems like the dad was ok with it… if he wasn’t ok with it, I am sure he would have went to the police or court.
@prettygirlfrmla7525 this is how slow you women are....a bad raised kid affects us all. They the ones shooting up the blocks.
You’re moving your son around quite a bit
I never understand women with kids who come on here and don't even blink when asked if they're willing to relacote
Hoe hoppin'
What's 'quite a bit'..?
Girl hush. Military does it all the time.
@@l.t.3857Please Post Ur Comment on Every Social Media Platform! Thank You!
If a person appears to be okay with you moving your child away from their involved parent, rest assured that person is not the one.
He probably was testing her and lost all respect for her as soon as she touched down in his state. Said she left a good paying job too. Smh
Wouldn't be surprised if he had a bet going with some friends or family members on whether or not she was dumb enough to do it.
Ladies, love and respect yourself before expecting someone else to.
Just playing with her for his entertainment clearly wasnt fr
If a man asking me to relocate for him after 5 years ?! There better be a COMMITMENT and SECURITY! 💍 🏡🤵🏾♂️👰🏾♀️ 👀
I relocated and it was the worse decision of my life! I went back home which was the best decision. We live and learn but that was a lesson that I will never forget.
I was married and relocated....😔
I understand. I promised my daughters that I wouldn’t move them again until they are out of school. My oldest daughter will graduate in 4 years and I’m planning my escape.
Good advice Kendra!
You were married and relocated? What happened first?
Why are women dropping everything to chase a man? This was never a good idea?
Kendra was on point with this woman. She's a beautiful woman and spirit but I don't think she is over this guy and ready to move on. Guys avoid her because I don’t think she is ready for another man or relationship.
Soon as that brotha calls her back up...she's gone.
I disagree.
@@jetskipapi6193Exactly!!
Im not moving in with or living with ANY man that's not my husband. Never have, never will. She definitely should have had her own place. Issue is they should have already been ENGAGED
I agree with you 🤜🏾🤛🏾
That’s me I’m the Block ❌🚫 Queen. Screw him if a man doesn’t realize your value DONT TRY TO CONVINCE HIM Real talk 🔥🔥🔥
Why would anyone value you if you have zero value for yourself?... Her story, if true, doesn't scream," I VALUE MYSELF"...
You have to convince him. Tf. If he has to show up sum. U have to show y u are a wife…🤷🏽♀️
I agree with Kendra. Stay in Charlotte. Make the best of your time there.
She learned an expensive and heartbreaking lesson. Her story is a cautionary tell for other women.
1. STOP MOVING FOR A MAN IF IT’S NOT A SURE THING! Even if it’s a sure thing (ring, wedding date), do it with eyes wide open, because abu$ers will want to isolate you from family and friends.
2. STOP PUTTING MEN OVER YOUR KIDS. She disrupted her kid’s life over a guy that wasn’t a sure thing (no ring, no wedding date).
3. If you’re going to relocate regardless of the reason, make sure that you have your financial ducks in a row (a job, savings).
For her - forget that guy and move forward. Men’s egos get boosted when their exes call them. He’ll start thinking that you’re going to be an easy booty call when he gets lonely and can’t find a girl at 2:00AM. It’s also going to turn off the future guy that may want that happily ever after with you. That dude is in the past. Time to live for the future.
You believed her story? It is amazing how women tell the victim story in women don't see the holes in the story.
@@thelessons3768In this day and age? I am not at all surprised these women just go with the victim narrative, totally unquestioned...
LIES LIES LIES.....Her story doesn't make any sense at all.... I will bet my last chicken lemon pepper wing that 1-).She is STALKER 2-) She is the MISTRESS and has always been 3-)The so-called longtime friend is MARRIED.
She decided to literally move with her son, ONE STATE OVER(down), for a man without having a practical conversation and strategizing with him.. Apartment/house hunting, takes time; what about her job/business/clients etc?
She showed up unannounced thinking that the MARRIED man would leave his wife for her...
Her story is so full of holes and lies.
@demetriusjames9535 In cases like this, what is the utility of questioning her? We don't know this lady. Are we supposed to spend time on questioning people on this show? You all need hobbies and a real life. Go volunteer at a homeless shelter. This show should be for looking for a mate, entertainment and constructive feedback. It doesn't require questioning people who have nothing to do with our day to day lives.
She did move for a HUSBAND....... SOMEONE ELSE'S HUSBAND
LIES LIES LIES.....Her story doesn't make any sense at all.... I will bet my last chicken lemon pepper wing that 1-).She is STALKER 2-) She is the MISTRESS and has always been 3-)The so-called longtime friend is MARRIED.
She decided to literally move with her son, ONE STATE OVER(down), for a man without having a practical conversation and strategizing with him.. Apartment/house hunting, takes time; what about her job/business/clients etc?
She showed up unannounced thinking that the MARRIED man would leave his wife for her...
Her story is so full of holes and lies.
"To be honest "... a 5 yr situationship with no promise you being his girl, let alone his wife? 5 yrs wasted. I'm so sorry. No man, right now. HEAL!
Kendra’s advice to not heal is horrible. This woman is a Mom! A woman who is not healed will most definitely make poor choices in men. Single mothers need to do better! Make smarter decisions for the sake of your child. It’s one thing if your decisions only effect YOU (like Reesa Teesa) but when a child is involved it’s selfish to put a man that high on your priority list that you would uproot your child. I don’t mean to come off harsh! But in situations like this tough love is needed. She’s an attractive woman. focus on you and your child and the right man will come.
Although she should’ve never relocated before marriage The days when a man just showed up for 40 and 50 something’s are over. A woman who wants to be married has to balance motherhood and dating with intention.
Kendra needs to understand that men and women are not the same! Women have a ton of emotions when it comes to relationships and sex, so she definitely needs to take a time off for herself
That’s not harsh at all. There was a 13 year old girl that was just unalived by her mom’s boyfriend a couple of days ago. Innocent children are losing their lives behind some women refusing to think properly.
@@72SOLDVEGASThe men don’t want marriage though they keep saying that.
YES and there will always be a LOSER when games are being played. Once a person sees that the other party is playing games that's when you cut that shit short. People need to go back to following what's in their heart instead of seeking advice from a mf that's throwed off worse than they are.
I don't agree with her moving for a man that's not her husband but I do agree with her getting her own place.
nope. it wasn’t a smart choice. he wasn’t even her fiancé
Lmaoooo you think her getting her own place was her choice?
@@Fabrizio7171 Her choice or not seems like it worked out for her
@@ToriUptown It wasn't a smart choice to move in the first place. But since she did the dumb thing and moved, it was at least a smart choice to get her own place if she's also brought her minor child with her. It's not wise to move your child in a home with man you only know from the internet and haven't spent any real-life time around.
@@tincredible She claimed they knew each other for YEARS. Of course we can't get a straight answer on what the situation is because females struggle with honesty and clarity.
Kendra was straight on point! #Block. #Ignore #Unfollow #Meet people #. Live life
She needs to go no contact. She has no reason to maintain con with this man. He has shown her what she means to him….NOTHING!!! Just facts!!💯
Awwww Kendra Bob is cute❤❤
It gives Kelly Roland❤
but is it her NATURAL HAIR?? NOT
@@Milan26202 doesn't need to be. It's on her head and she's got a man that clearly likes who and what she is and represents.
@@Milan26202😂😂😂😂 Baby this is my hair. I am so confused by sooooo many men hating so hard in my comment section about my hair. Please go get yourself a woman!!! Y’all looking desperate and lonely worrying about my hair! 😂😂😂
@@Milan26202
Who cares? It’s on her head. Either way, it’s hers.
@@Milan26202why tf would that matter? Women of other races wear hair too
My momma said " you better not never move nowhere for a damn man, let his ass come to you" all I could say was yes Ma'am!!
American women likely won't respect that
I disagree. If a woman wants a man to lead, you probably should move where he is. Don't do it without a commitment though. If y'all not committed enough for her to move in with him after being together five years then she shouldn't have never went. But your mom sounds like the man should follow the woman.
I know of long distance relationships that ended in marriage. But again be clear on what you want and definitely don't move if you're not moving in with him
Never ever as a man move into a woman’s house lol that’s the worst thing you could do
Was your momma married to your dad???
@jrock7561 Yes, Why?
Moving in together while dating Is statistically a HUGE mistake.
She needs to take dating seriously instead of damaging her 12yr olds life. A child can be damaged by moving and having to establish new friends, school etc. while knowing men are in and out of their lives. In my opinion, she should settle down somewhere, and wait to date seriously until her teen becomes older.
I don't think that man asked her to move down there i think she packed her bags and said SURPRISE 🎉😮..🗣 I HOPE MOVING HER SON AWAY FROM😅 HIS "VERY EVOLVED " FATHER TO BE IN A SITUATIONSHIP (and not marriage) TURNED HIM OFF!!! PERIOD.......!
Girl, Boundaries, Self Worth, Integrity. We all then had a slip up but Girlllllaaaaaa DO NOT FKN CONTACT HIM!!!!!!
Telling her to just move on instead of taking some time to figure out what’s going on with her inner core is the worst advice.
I was horrified when she said that, please universe keep friends like that away from me.
It really is and I can’t believe she said that because she’ll bring the baggage onto the next relationship then it’s possible she’ll break that persons heart because she’s not over her ex.
Two words , pillow talk!
Ninjas be talking, just talking.
I like how Kendra used this as a teachable moment
Me too! I hope that Lay buys the book.
Nah, these long ass speeches are kinda cringey. What is her reply suppose to be other than her breaking down and cry?? The coulda shoulda woulda hindsight speeches are for children, not people in their 30s
Kendra you were so nurturing with her and I can see her honestly reflecting this wassup a sisterhood moment for the books
He took advantage of the mentally handicap.
U bad enuh😂😂😂
This is why blunt honest friends is necessary. Women have a bad habit of not stopping friends from making emotionally driven decisions which in her situation, cost her a lot and she didn’t even reap the benefits from making the move.
I don't believe any adult can force you to do anything with life decisions. I believe friends can influence and strongly suggest. They very well may have. At the end of the day this is 100% on her
Kendra don't be listening to the guests routinely. She regularly repeats the same questions 🤦🏿♂️
i thought i was the only one who noticed
She's slow
I think she zones out a lot. It’s probably pretty repetitive for her.
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Healing first doesn't mean sitting in the house crying👀 what kinda logic is that?? She almost cried just talking about the situationship, definitely needs to heal. Her child's father must not be very involved if she can up and move for a relationship that wasn't even serious.
automatically went to the child's father must not be involved. you must not know how child custody works, and she made it clear the father is involved.
@@meloran2571 I wouldn't have given my opinion if I wasn't familiar. You new here? I'm not really asking because I don't genuinely care whether you are or aren't. This must be you in this vid lol. Most real fathers would not go for someone moving their child away for a temporary situationship. If you were familiar with the system you would know that a father can challenge the move making the mother have to stay local unless she's getting married, engaged or career move.
@@nolabae what can a father do if a mother decides to leave the state and she has custody? not much, and in some cases, nothing.
@@meloran2571 seek out counsel for your local laws.
Yeah, that was ridiculous. She can heal while being out and about, and that doesn’t have to involve dating.
Houston is at CAPACITY!!!
***Houston is the Finess Capital of America***
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All of Texas, we don't want no more transients in the Lone Star State
The Atl of Texas. TX is at capacity tbh. However, I prefer ppl move to Houston than here in Dallas. Lol
@@BeautyNBrains86 No ma'am, Dallas still has space. 😅
@@ashleyburson3729 We do NOT. Lmaoooo!
I believe heavy in blocking… we didn’t work on to the next 🙅🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Absolutely! Say less n Save ur energy
Kendra is SO right!! I had to stop messing with my ex situationship for TWO years before I met my husband. We have to TOTALLY give up things... so that the new can come in fresh, etc. Good luck to her.
She is lying...STALKER ALERT!!!!!
She decided to move to Charlotte unannounced ( Miss Love language is quality time).
why u think that?
@@aroukapennNorth Carolina is literally one state south of the DMV; Why would a man who has been your so-called friend for a lot time, asks you to move close to him with your son, just to have you go thru the crazy process of finding1-) Possible Employment, 2-) A new residence?
Did he help her in thru that process? NO.. Did they have any type of real conversation prior to taking her dumb a$$ there? NO
You have to be extremely irrational to suddenly uproot your child from a familiar environment, just to move for a man without having a understanding of what is ahead.
I now believe that man is married;.and she thought moving closer would make him leave his wife.... Her story doesn't make wny sense.
Only thing keeping me from running circles around you ladies is the good heart God blessed me with
Eww! And you said that so confidently, like it’s something to be proud of.
@@Therealone88Why wouldn't I be proud of the good heart God gave me??
It should naturally just be exuded. If you have to announce it, it's questionable. 😂😂 Like men who constantly say they're good guys. ✌🏾
@@jetskipapi6193a good man wouldn’t say something like this.
@86misshazeleyes LOL...This is a big reach..."Like men who constantly say they're are a good guy"...I've never made my comment more than once...So that example is terrible.
Clearly she was a sidechick, not the smartest sidechick but a sidechick nonetheless. Moving state while being a sidechick should be a criminal offense.
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Sheesh! This was so good…I just ended my relationship a few weeks ago and still getting over the heartache. THANK YOU KENDRA! THANK YOU SIS!!
I'm going to express an opinion and this is just what I've observed from life and what women and men have told me. My thought about her and some of the men that women come across is because most good men are spoken for or not dating.
Some of my best bros are spoken for, married, and have been happy for years. My older brother has been married for about 6 years now. I'm celibate and some of my other bros are playing with women, or just dating. I truly think that many women get results like this because good men aren't available or making ourselves available, leaving bums, Glocktavious, and Dust.
Might be partially true... but have you seen pop the balloon 🎈 show them women like most black women especially are ruthless about rejecting guys over every lil thing until they bind themselves in corner of such tiny group of men that will do this to them... maybe they'll just simply enjoy it because its so drama filled... they find these man everytime like the blue shell 💠 in mariokart
I agree. It also says a lot about how women show up in friendship with one another.
ANYBODY THAT COMES ON THIS SHOW IS A RED FLAG 🚩 🤦🏾♂️
I ain't never done shit without a ring 💍. Ladies y'all need to talk to these men like that.
She was about to cry because ppl keep trying to bring her down over a mistake she clearly is fully aware of and has admitted to. She healing but when she’s come on a platform with a bunch of judgmental ppl, it takes her two steps back.
Kendra tells the average women or the not so attractive women in her eyes, to heal before focusing on dating someone else. But because this woman is pretty, she tells her it’s no need to heal because she’s beautiful and can easily find someone new? Interesting….
But I’ve noticed Kendra is biased between average looking ppl and the very good looking ones.
I want everyone to pay special attention to how this asshole never mentioned the son 🥴
Facts
Kendra gave her poor advice, her looks won't save her from being taken advantage of by men.
Zero accountability. 31YO single mother claiming to be taken advantage of and made to move to a whole different state. Uprooted the stability of her kid and all. Then, comes on here trauma dumping in hopes a new man will be better than her previous booty call is crazy. Nevertheless, wishing her the best!
I’m relaxing and enjoying my final spring break this week. Men, always remember; women only make rules for men they don’t like. My dad told me this in third grade and it saved my life and has saved me a lot of time and energy when I’m first talking to a girl.
you are right she moved state because she liked him and agreed to that 5 year nonsense which was a total waste of her time not his
😂😂😂 so we moving because he good looking and has amazing seggs! Nothing else of substance!
I think that's human nature -gender aside. Good advice overall though.
She just trying to run from her responsibilities as a mom. Stop thinking about men. Get a job. Raise your son. Its nobody job to do but you and your child father. Jumping to another man is not the right thing get your LIFE stable first.
Exactly! 👍🏾 🥳🥳
You saw through all the bull
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She got a job
This is THE BEST I’ve ever seen Kendra’s hair look. Wow. This cute short cut fits her so well! Kendraaa you are literally like a cute little black Barbie ❤
Her child is almost half her age. Ma'am you started off wrong a long time ago. Teenager pregnant. Super 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 you was in a 5 yr long situationship and saying you don't want to play games ma'am you're playing games and trying to blame the man like you were in love. Stop playing victim
Yes she is not a victim.
She has not taken accountability.
Some of it was her fault 😝😝
Baby girl respectfully that was probably the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. No way in this land to the next will I ever move for a man and he don’t have a plan for me /us. If the goal ain’t to move in together then WTH we doing??! Especially if you had a good job where you was. 🥴
Moving yourself and your child to a new state and leaving your high paying job for a man you’re not dating and didn’t even move in with is absolutely CRAZY! ya’ll will do anything for pookie 😂😂
Then talking about it on a live worldwide show that’s stuff you keep secret because it’s embarrassing
Makes her look desperate. Yikes 😟