You just attended your sons funeral and you go ahead and bash and be immature to your son who just wants to be driver back to the house or food place etc.?
It's more like the dad knew what he was up to. Trying to drive the kids around. Looking like a father figure to his brothers kids and his dad didnt really support it
The dad is a narcissist. He's making the whole thing about himself because his golden child son exemplified manhood as he individually dictated it. Tommy, the scapegoat/black sheep, will never be good enough
Haters gonna hate. Obviously this movie wasn't a masterpiece, but it was a good one especially considering the circumstances. Its dramatic element was taken a bit over the top at times, but what impressed me the most about this movie was the acting. This movie could've sucked big time but it was held together by rock solid performances by maguire, portman, and gyllenhal(in particular).
"Did you hear those marines in there talking about your brother? Who is gonna stand up and testify for you once you're dead?" "I missed the part where that's my problem"
Ah yes, the military father. We have a saying in my family. "Dad did three tours in Vietnam, but he brought Vietnam back with him, forcing the family to serve more than just three." If we ever tried to call the cops when he was..."Educating"... us on why everything was our fault after he hammered a case of beer and he would "issue" correction of said error through "physical stimulation", the promise he always made was that we would be dead before the police could get there if we attempted to call the police. He even tried to snap my mom's neck one night and he put her in the hospital, she had to get a spinal fusion in her neck to fix the damage. I had my hand broken once when I was 13 because I was handcuffed and he was beating me with a hockey stick. All i could do was block the hits with the edge of my right hand and I stepped in front of my younger brother so I could take his hits too. Awesome childhood, 10 out of 10 would do it again...
I’m sorry that you and your family had to go through that. Regardless of his military service, your father was a belligerent and cruel piece of crap who doesn’t deserve to be remembered as a brave hero who fought for his country. Real soldiers don’t take their anger out on their loved ones. I hope that you and your family are able to recover from this trauma as soon as possible.
The drunken abusive father whose blind allegiance to an empire got his eldest kid killed now refuses to make peace with his younger son who still lives. Seems legit.
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Some parents are like that. I disowned my dad. I tried to make it work… he didn’t want to put the effort in and just made excuses and blamed me for his problems. I tried my best to talk reasonably to him but… he always lashed out when I spoke frankly to him, couldn’t handle criticism.. Word to the wise; be a fool now if it means working through pain and wounds before it makes a fool out of you later down the road when you have more to lose, like an oldest son.
this movie hits hard when your in the brink of not loving your father like you used to. Especially when they’re so manipulative & always picking a fight on you. IM 21 years old & i bet every boy at my age can understand when your the only boy throughout your siblings & the oldest.
I've always thought that it must be very frustrating to be her co-star. Sort of like trying to punch through a brick wall--no matter how much they want to work out a decent chemistry with her... I mean, how many scenes have I seen with her where her co-star throws all their energy into a dialogue, only for her to just stand there with a wooden expression on her face.
I have no idea why she even won an Oscar for 2010's "Black Swan." She's really not a good actress, and really bland. When she has to show emotion, all she can really do is cry excessively in a forced inauthentic manner. Both Tobey Maguire and Jake Gyllenhaal vastly outshined her in this movie.
M4Racing well I guess lots of actors like to play the military cop roles a lot even f they are not really suited to be those kinds of people at all lol
What did his father do for Tommy? Beat him up every time he got black out drunk? Insulted and humiliated him? Never showed ANY sign of recognition or love? Yea man, he was a great father
The man brought Vietnam back with him and took it out on his wife and two sons. One son was eager to please no matter the cost, the other rebelled to get payback. This is the result. The father knows this deep down but he won't face it until after all of this.
Depends on what your situation is. If you’re the abusive father? Yes. If you’re the abused son? That’s a lot harder, and quite frankly if I was in Gyllenhaal’s character’s position in this scene, that dad would’ve gotten knocked cold on the concrete. Insult me by comparing me to my recently killed brother? You’re dead to me for life, next time I see you will be at your funeral.
Nothing I have ever done in my life made my parents proud. But I am proud of who I am, and my accomplishments are huge in not only my eyes but my wife and 2 awesome sons
I think the thing that pisses me off the most about this scene is that they think that HIS SON JUST DIED... and who does he take it out on? His only other son. Sure he made some mistakes in the past that put him behind bars, but he’s still your son. And as far as you know, your only son now.
@@Dizzlemizzle821 I will admit that is a good point. But at the same time, he’s only human, he’s gonna make a lot of mistakes in life, that’s just how it goes. But instead, the father wants to point out all his flaws because he’s grieving. And your other son isn’t?
@@Dizzlemizzle821The father is responsible for his son turning out the way he did. He taught him to use violence, to beat others up. He got drunk and beat his sons, his wife. Pathetic excuse of a man, really
The fact she said she couldn’t feel it at all explains that she never truly had a love for him but a deep admiration that caused her to stay and care for him.
Tommy isn’t perfect and has flaws….. however he has my sympathy given that his father views him as worthless dirt and insults him in the worst way possible after just leaving the funeral for their son and brother….. that is beyond cruel.
well I feel like I have to mention it: this movie is heavily inspired by a danish movie called “Brødre”, which translated literally means “brothers”. I actually can’t believe how much they look alike. I do like both movies though, and I think that it’s cool that someone decided to remake it in another language. But I DO think it’s important to know the source material, so please go check out the trailer to “Brødre”, and you’ll see the similiarities
The dad is kind of a joke; didn’t try to motivate the other son, never had anything good to say to him, treated his family like crap and was a real hypocrite. It’s one thing but using it as an excuse is another.
Funerals can create all kinds of emotions that boil to the top. I had an aunt in law express she never wished my Mother-in-law was ever born…. Yea, my wife and all her 5 siblings have never talked to the aunt since. People say stupid things and ruins relationships.
Daniel me too because Tommy is asking for it every time....he keeps trying to play mr tough guy especially with Dad. Yeah okay Dad is really going to respect that ha ha
This movie was 100% somebodies autobiography….I know lots of dudes whose love and marriage were turned upside down like this….so sad…I coulda never enlisted when I graduated everyone was being sent STRAIGHT to Afghanistan 😬
Franky Carrera same here. My brother is the favorite and even though we both have done something with our lives. He's still the favorite even though he's caused the most pain the family.
Yeah go ahead & take a walk old man. Twisted man that has more love for the son he screwed all up & drove to his death than the son who is still alive & resisted his illness..
My line would have been "Yeah Sam's death is my fault. But when Sam's kids are killed because you are a proud alcoholic that will be on you. Here's the keys dead beat dad."
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"pride is a sin"
best comeback ever
acrophobe he said “that is a sin” after the dad said “you could never make me proud”
@@Iamlobato Yeah, that's just not what he said. Acrophobe was right first time.
Amen!
But then again, it’s kind of hypocritical for tommy to be calling someone out for sinning
But he slept with his brothers wife
Jake coming in with his own religious comebacks, both him and Tobey got their own. I like it
"You want forgiveness? Get religion"
"Pride is a sin"
It seems Jake and Toby can really be bros
Jake Gyllenhaal was going to replace Tobey Maguire in Spider-man 2 if Maguire didn't recover from a back injury while he was filming Seabiscuit.
mariah harry x,mcgvnB,azXbcc.n,bvzx
Franklin Mena Now he’s playing Mysterio in Spider-Man Far From Home lol.
I'd prefer Elijah wood or Daniel Radcliffe
I used to refer to tobey as "the other Jake Gyllenhaal" lol
You just attended your sons funeral and you go ahead and bash and be immature to your son who just wants to be driver back to the house or food place etc.?
And he was a soldier
It's not just because of that
It's more like the dad knew what he was up to. Trying to drive the kids around. Looking like a father figure to his brothers kids and his dad didnt really support it
Brandon Reyes well Tommy was really pushing the point he even said give me the keys to his dad yeah that’s really going to convince him lok
The dad is a narcissist. He's making the whole thing about himself because his golden child son exemplified manhood as he individually dictated it. Tommy, the scapegoat/black sheep, will never be good enough
Really?
At your sons funeral you decide its the best moment to put your other son to shame?
@@23cocopuffs and his son isnt?
@@23cocopuffs That's completely besides the point and hadn't happened yet anyway.
because the dad wishes it was the other son 6 ft under and is resentful and bitter the 'good' son is gone while the 'bad' one is still here.
@@23cocopuffs No, he didn't. They only kissed and it was more about shared grief than romance.
@@BarstoolBlues33 so that makes fine. People like you really disgusting
Haters gonna hate. Obviously this movie wasn't a masterpiece, but it was a good one especially considering the circumstances. Its dramatic element was taken a bit over the top at times, but what impressed me the most about this movie was the acting. This movie could've sucked big time but it was held together by rock solid performances by maguire, portman, and gyllenhal(in particular).
James Rick it is a masterpiece
Let me stop you right there Evan. You said it wasn't a masterpiece? I believe everyone has their own opinions but yours is just flat out wrong.
You vile human being, how dare you...
Not fix this damn door!!!!!!
@@jerkerhernback9558 huh?
@@jerkerhernback9558 your opinion sucks
I feel like maybe if it had the right director it could have been a lot better, but the acting is out-fucking-standing
could've been better?
well if the acting is amazing how is that not on the director's credit?
@@hutch_hunta Seriously ?? Seriously?? Just think about that for a second
@@coreywho2972 huh?? i think you didnt understood what i said bud
@@hutch_hunta You said good acting is credited to the director. Is that true ? Wouldn't it be on the actors credit?
As a former Marine, the uniforms looked pretty spot on compared to other movies.
@Walter B I said “Former Marine,” simply because I’m not in the Marine Corps anymore!!!!
@Ghost Heart show some respect 🤦🏽♂️
@Ghost Heart Are you a Marine? If not, then shut up
Stolen Valor lmao
@Ghost Heart You're just mad he has access to the good crayons
"Did you hear those marines in there talking about your brother? Who is gonna stand up and testify for you once you're dead?"
"I missed the part where that's my problem"
Lmao
He should of said that
The marines he served with desert storm lol jarhead
You gonna cry?
Wow
Seriously, the Father favors one over the other, that is called Nepotism. Nobody is perfect in this world, we all make Mistakes in Life !!!
It's actually called favoritism, but I get what you mean, and I agree.
The mistakes were made probably because the dad was so crappy to him
@@IMatchoNation Whoever made the concept of "who's your favorite child" must've been very selfish.
Ryder Benson Are you Indian.
@@ompatel8988 Me or the guy I was talking to?
Jake Gyllenhaal's acting is so good here
When's he never great?
@@ChrisWolff2013 in Nightcrawler...
@@anthony1289 He got love letters from critics for that movie.
@@ChrisWolff2013 have you seen it?
It's actually my fav Jake Gyllenhaal performance.
Ah yes, the military father. We have a saying in my family. "Dad did three tours in Vietnam, but he brought Vietnam back with him, forcing the family to serve more than just three." If we ever tried to call the cops when he was..."Educating"... us on why everything was our fault after he hammered a case of beer and he would "issue" correction of said error through "physical stimulation", the promise he always made was that we would be dead before the police could get there if we attempted to call the police. He even tried to snap my mom's neck one night and he put her in the hospital, she had to get a spinal fusion in her neck to fix the damage. I had my hand broken once when I was 13 because I was handcuffed and he was beating me with a hockey stick. All i could do was block the hits with the edge of my right hand and I stepped in front of my younger brother so I could take his hits too. Awesome childhood, 10 out of 10 would do it again...
I’m sorry that you and your family had to go through that. Regardless of his military service, your father was a belligerent and cruel piece of crap who doesn’t deserve to be remembered as a brave hero who fought for his country. Real soldiers don’t take their anger out on their loved ones. I hope that you and your family are able to recover from this trauma as soon as possible.
For a war hero your pop didn't acted like one when he got back. Hope you, your sibling and mum are okay now
I'm sorry to hear that man...
okay
@@siphonophores war hero? You think what we did in vietnam was brave?
The drunken abusive father whose blind allegiance to an empire got his eldest kid killed now refuses to make peace with his younger son who still lives. Seems legit.
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gotta love it
If my dad acted that way towards me he'd be disowned for life.
mine is already disowned for life
Especially at MY brothers funeral, naw paps is gone from me for life and from my kids life
Some parents are like that. I disowned my dad. I tried to make it work… he didn’t want to put the effort in and just made excuses and blamed me for his problems. I tried my best to talk reasonably to him but… he always lashed out when I spoke frankly to him, couldn’t handle criticism..
Word to the wise; be a fool now if it means working through pain and wounds before it makes a fool out of you later down the road when you have more to lose, like an oldest son.
1:27 after the dad said that Tommy had enough of his sh*t.
R.I.P. Sam Shephard 1943 - 2017
Genaral Shepard
Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnoooooooooooooooooooo
I am now convinced that Jake Gyllenhaal couldn’t give a bad performance, even if he tried.
his is hard on him and it's obvious he doesn't favor him as much as his brother
Because his brother made something out of himself
@@remixgod4496And who's fault is that? His father taught him to use violence
"Then you can drive WHEREVER the hell you want!" Lmao
this movie hits hard when your in the brink of not loving your father like you used to. Especially when they’re so manipulative & always picking a fight on you. IM 21 years old & i bet every boy at my age can understand when your the only boy throughout your siblings & the oldest.
Great acting on both of their behalfs, I know people like this.
This scene hit closer to home than I wanted it too. Good scene.
I've always thought that it must be very frustrating to be her co-star. Sort of like trying to punch through a brick wall--no matter how much they want to work out a decent chemistry with her...
I mean, how many scenes have I seen with her where her co-star throws all their energy into a dialogue, only for her to just stand there with a wooden expression on her face.
Who?
Caerdrys who?
what r u talking about
I have no idea why she even won an Oscar for 2010's "Black Swan." She's really not a good actress, and really bland. When she has to show emotion, all she can really do is cry excessively in a forced inauthentic manner. Both Tobey Maguire and Jake Gyllenhaal vastly outshined her in this movie.
She’s literally watching an argument whilst grieving her “dead” husband. & Natalie Portman is an incredible actress. Lmfaooo.
why cant he just love his son.
Because he’s part of an entire generation of people that were brainwashed into having kids for no reason other than to resent and abuse them.
I’m glad Jake already played a Marine
Jarhead 😆
I find that hard to believe....
Andy Tsung what?
M4Racing well I guess lots of actors like to play the military cop roles a lot even f they are not really suited to be those kinds of people at all lol
All good guys just ranting lol
"In spite of everything you've done for them eventually, they will hate you".
What did his father do for Tommy?
Beat him up every time he got black out drunk?
Insulted and humiliated him?
Never showed ANY sign of recognition or love?
Yea man, he was a great father
Lmao you can tell he doesn't give a damn about anybody. All about him.
It's because no one is fixing HIS DAMN DOOR!
Classic narcissist.
The man brought Vietnam back with him and took it out on his wife and two sons. One son was eager to please no matter the cost, the other rebelled to get payback. This is the result. The father knows this deep down but he won't face it until after all of this.
This wasn’t a masterpiece but it has an important message that you should love your family and get along with them.
Sometimes it’s not as easy as that
@@jefferydahmersglasses4771How hard is it as a man, as a father NOT to beat up your family? Really buddy?
Depends on what your situation is. If you’re the abusive father? Yes. If you’re the abused son? That’s a lot harder, and quite frankly if I was in Gyllenhaal’s character’s position in this scene, that dad would’ve gotten knocked cold on the concrete. Insult me by comparing me to my recently killed brother? You’re dead to me for life, next time I see you will be at your funeral.
1:44 The dad’s laugh was *great* 😂🤣
to be fair, The father is perfect representation of Any Politician that always want to war getting asked about veteran treatment
"Even if you try to fill his shoes, you could never make me proud."
That line just broke me. I can't ever imagine hearing that from my dad.
Something about this movie makes me anxious
Nothing I have ever done in my life made my parents proud. But I am proud of who I am, and my accomplishments are huge in not only my eyes but my wife and 2 awesome sons
“I don’t believe it, I don’t feel it.” Bc he wasn’t dead, and you tried to get with his brother even when you felt that
No body
Actually it was him who kissed her. She put a stop to it and left.
I think the thing that pisses me off the most about this scene is that they think that HIS SON JUST DIED... and who does he take it out on? His only other son. Sure he made some mistakes in the past that put him behind bars, but he’s still your son. And as far as you know, your only son now.
Well you have to understand , to him the only son worth mentioning died
@@Dizzlemizzle821 I will admit that is a good point. But at the same time, he’s only human, he’s gonna make a lot of mistakes in life, that’s just how it goes. But instead, the father wants to point out all his flaws because he’s grieving. And your other son isn’t?
@@Dizzlemizzle821The father is responsible for his son turning out the way he did.
He taught him to use violence, to beat others up.
He got drunk and beat his sons, his wife. Pathetic excuse of a man, really
You will get your keys when you fix this damn door .
I missed the part we’re that’s my problem
I'm gonna put some dirt in your eye.
i have a brother exactly like tommy.
@@MrCholoPants3415
Oof
Ah, but what about the implication?
Oh so that’s how u feel Eddy? You literally sent me this clip to watch 💀
give him a hug.
better hide yo girl 😓
Movies taught me that I’d rather swing than be sorry.
The fact she said she couldn’t feel it at all explains that she never truly had a love for him but a deep admiration that caused her to stay and care for him.
Yup he’s more like his father.
No. It was because he was still alive.
The father is something else
Tommy isn’t perfect and has flaws….. however he has my sympathy given that his father views him as worthless dirt and insults him in the worst way possible after just leaving the funeral for their son and brother….. that is beyond cruel.
Great acting all around! Really enjoyed this movie! That said, that Marine (Father) is not wearing his cover and it's driving me crazy!
Reminds me of how my old man is with me vs my big brother
well I feel like I have to mention it: this movie is heavily inspired by a danish movie called “Brødre”, which translated literally means “brothers”. I actually can’t believe how much they look alike. I do like both movies though, and I think that it’s cool that someone decided to remake it in another language.
But I DO think it’s important to know the source material, so please go check out the trailer to “Brødre”, and you’ll see the similiarities
The movie, "The Vanishing," with Jeff Bridges, Kiefer Sutherland & Sandra Bullock, is a remake of the French/Dutch original. It's worth seeing, too!
Whats up with the dad
He sucks
He's a prick
Well didn’t Tommy go to prison?
@@a2t4r75 so? get help
He’s a do nothing. That’s why the dads pissed.
I’ll let you drive when you FIX THIS DAMN DOOR!”
Tommy's dad and Johnny Cash's dad from Walk The Line would get along very well.
Mysterio is feeling sorry that his variant brother of Tobey Maguire Spider-Man who was killed in a war of Iraq
Who is gona testify for you when you dead is he in his gevreet
That was a bit of a low blow I must admit
This movie is so damn painful
The black sheep will later witness the golden child brother completely collapse under ptsd
The dad is kind of a joke; didn’t try to motivate the other son, never had anything good to say to him, treated his family like crap and was a real hypocrite. It’s one thing but using it as an excuse is another.
Such a fantastic movie man
Funerals can create all kinds of emotions that boil to the top. I had an aunt in law express she never wished my Mother-in-law was ever born…. Yea, my wife and all her 5 siblings have never talked to the aunt since. People say stupid things and ruins relationships.
This movie is very sad
1:29 relatable
For some reason after seeing all that Sam had to go through, I enjoy watching his dad treating Tommy like dirt lol
Tommy didn't do anything wrong.
Daniel me too because Tommy is asking for it every time....he keeps trying to play mr tough guy especially with Dad. Yeah okay Dad is really going to respect that ha ha
Because he’s a dirt bag.
This movie was 100% somebodies autobiography….I know lots of dudes whose love and marriage were turned upside down like this….so sad…I coulda never enlisted when I graduated everyone was being sent STRAIGHT to Afghanistan 😬
RIP Sam Sheppard
Oooooh, the dads a war vet too
0:56 relatable
Dang bruh Sam got dirt put in his eyes
I can relate to this.....
Franky Carrera same here. My brother is the favorite and even though we both have done something with our lives. He's still the favorite even though he's caused the most pain the family.
Same 😞
Idk what the dad went through theres no reason to be like that at the other son’s funeral
Hey I'm sorry about your brother your movies are cool
I swear the dad looks and sounds like the gun shopkeeper from Terminator
Wow her instincts were right when she said “I don’t feel he is dead”
Don't give me the keys for a long while
The offense industry.
Yeah go ahead & take a walk old man. Twisted man that has more love for the son he screwed all up & drove to his death than the son who is still alive & resisted his illness..
I hate his dad. Comparing his sons like that such a bad parent
Private Parker what are your trying to do to my beloved corps?
I dont like this version of Uncle Ben
My opinion: this movie is surreal...
My line would have been "Yeah Sam's death is my fault. But when Sam's kids are killed because you are a proud alcoholic that will be on you. Here's the keys dead beat dad."
Favoritism is annoying. My father in law is one of them!!!
That Guy Sounds Like Sam Winchester!
This when he decided to become a Jarhead because he got lost on his way to college
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Give me Rent
Sam is the best and he was played by Tobey Maguire.
All these damn door and not my problem memes
My mom acts like this
I cant understand what theyre saying in any of these clips the audio is so bad.
she was SOOOOOOOOOOO pretty
I don’t get why was the father mad at tommy?
Tommy was a screwup
old generations of parents will never take accountablity, theyll always gaslit and pin the blame on their children for their own traumas lmao
Jake has met both spidermen
Living among people squabbling all the time is the absolute worst. This will drive your kids to move out of state the first chance they get.
I never insulted the peljohn..it was danny boy
It puts the cover on the grape!
What was pride is a sin supposed to mean at That moment?
"Let go of your family ego and realize people ARE independent." -me
Reminds me of that a-hole king from lotr
So Sam was Boromir? Tommy was Faramir? Did they just take this from lord of the rings?
but wasnt tommy as a marine in iraq 1991?
"oh for fart's sake" - the mom
ONE PUNCH
As a father...this is not how we do things, we all equal no matter the race or gender nor health issues.