Typical female response. Dancing around the issue and not being direct. She looks like a rhinoceros and you talking about being her best self and not LOSING 180 lbs.
@mariebakerchats I agree that some people being their "best selves" don't (or won't) always meet their preferred suitors, but we should at least make the effort on being our best selves since it would give us a better chance of meeting AND attracting our preferred suitors. Telling people who or what they should be attracted to is redundant. Life doesn't work like that.
Absolutely , which caught her off guard and could answer the question honestly in my opinion. She was to focused on her confidence and her zodiac sign and flaws of previous mate.
Now wait I’m 5’0 and I want to say sister girl has to take better care of her health. And this is coming from a young woman who had a heart attack at 26 due to being overweight! I’m 34 now and I’m the healthiest person ever. I love the confidence but it comes with a price 😢❤
How did we get to the point of acting like morbid obesity isn't a disease? Or is this body positivity culture? This woman is 38 years old and will be in an early grave if continues on the path that she's on. She must refrain from dating and put a lot more energy into her self-care. Looking for a man should not be the focus right now. I'm saying this as a vibey Virgo. 😂
Sadly I think plus size is push more on Black and skinny on white. Lizzo for an example dressing a mess with her ass out at a basketball game, telling Black women to love themselves, and when Adele lost weight they gave her more credit on the way she looks.
@@sooutstanding31 you're quite right, but unfortunately our community loves that because it gives us an out to live as obese girls, under the guise of body positivity. We've always been curvy, thick, meat on the bones but we crossed the line and no "white man's" BMI chart could convince us we are obese. I was the same, it was easier to belive the black lies we tell ourselves than actually fight for my health. Many years on I'm trying to undo the damage. I'm thankful I'm no where as big as this woman but I still fall into the obese catagory and it's harder to shift the weight when age and even minor illness is involved. All I will say to any young woman is do not underestimate how big you can get and don't ignore the BMI. Cause when you loose hope with your weight, you over compensate with confidence, but in a bad way or you hide out and never interact with people.
I'm a vibey Virgo as well and as far as the body positivity goes it's a bunch of bs. We need a poll taken to see how many 250+ or 300+ 70-80 year olds are walking around, that'll let these people know what it is.
Didnt like her height shaming. It was slight but inappropriate. Men do prefer shorter and women are generally shorter than men. She is in he same height category as Shakira and other women.
The guest host was on point. But women don’t even listen to each other nonetheless are the men they supposedly want. Now Zach came on talking about her being big backed 😩😝. But was he lying?
She has mental problems going right now because she uses food as a comfort and tells she addresses that I don't see her being dateable people like her don't know how to deal with anything but run to food
Everyone should always have confidence, but they should also have self awareness. There’s a reason why your options of men/women isn’t as good as others. If you think improving yourself wouldn’t make a difference, you’re delusional.
@@buffalo.blackk lol Huh? 🤦🏾♂️ Dude That’s the most counterproductive crap to say. No one should be insecure with themselves. It’s vital for everyone to have self assurance, while being mindful of their options.
@@nmmboy False. Confidence is earned. I’m confident because of my successes. I’m in shape because I make an effort. I spent 2 hours both this past Saturday and Sunday on the bike. Competence = Accomplishment = Confidence Why should someone w/ no value to the world like this beluga whale be confident? How does that even happen? If she didn’t have confidence, she would feel bad and want to improve and lose weight. NOT EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE CONFIDENCE!! Stop giving these unsuccessful ppl hope. We need to bring bullying and tough love back. You soft men and masculine women have made society a dumpster. Ppl do great when they’re incentivized. No when they get participation trophies and not when they have unearned confidence.
She isn’t even 40 and is struggling to stand up. Her eyes are dark and she looks much older then she is. It is obvious that her weight is a major problem and she is acting like it’s no big deal. 🤦🏾♂️
I'm all for a woman having confidence at ANY size okay? However ladies let's keep it 100, we ALL know what we look like when we're dripping wet getting out of the shower🙃 and I'm gonna leave it at that. I'm not saying it's EVERYTHING, but I'm saying that's the first thing a man sees when he sees you. YESSS.....they will clap those BBW cheeks into next week, but when it comes time for dinner dates, meeting his homies, his family, effort outside the bedroom, etc.... that's when you really find out what time it is.
A lot of these men aren’t taking slim or thick fine women on date or meeting anyone either. Most these men don’t relationships with any woman. Most seeking quick easy sex regardless of how you look
I love the honesty of Nesh and Zack. Nesh was spitting facts. I'm married to a 6 figures man. I'm a housewife I don't have 1/4 of the education of my husband and he doesn't care. He's happy to pay all my bills and I'm happy to cater to him and make sure he doesn't have to lift a finger when he walks through the door. Looking good, being affectionate, and cooperative goes a long way
This was good. Reality is a hard pill to swallow for some people. And as women, we all have to accept that men are visual. And regardless of your education, career or finances, he still has to find you physically attractive. I agree with Kendra, don't pursue a man. Let him choose you. At least that's a indication that he's finds you attractive.
The piece at the end starting at 14:40 is 100% spot on. If you’re not getting what you want in a partner, you need to take a good, honest look at yourself to see why, and make the appropriate changes (physical, mental, financial, environmental) to be able to get the partner that you want. If you’re not willing to change, then you have to accept what you can get or accept being alone.
@𝕸𝖆𝖗𝖎𝖊 𝕭𝖆𝖐𝖊𝖗 it's really ghetto out here in the dating world 😮... like really if someone is married and found their true one the first go around, they just don't know how blessed they really are 😮
We gotta stop walking on eggshells for people who are having trouble in the dating market. You worrying about hurting their feelings won’t help them one bit 😮💨🤷🏽♂️
A man once told me that you should give your partner the best version of YOU mind body and soul not just for your relationship but for yourself. We have to take accountability for why we're not getting what we want in life whether it's relationships or careers just in life in general. And this co-host was spot on I LOVED this episode. AWARENESS AND ACCOUNTABILITY
Gurl.. HE is settling for less.. wtf.. like ladies ya'll gotta be real with each other. If this was a short, broke, jobless man, we'd have no problem telling that man what he needs to do to fix himself.... the delusion is scary
I love that the cohost knows she can lose weight even though she keeps a man. Kendra said “but you keep a man”. And the cohost corrected her..”but im still overweight”. That’s solid. Kudos to her for being self aware.
This was your BEST show Kendra! I think finally this woman received what she needed, THE TRUTH, thank you cohosts. Look, nobody is mad at this woman for trying, and hoping that men appreciate her confidence, but it’s clear that she is being validated by men who want to be physical and that’s it. Women, please, take note…there is confidence and there is delusion. Being possible 300lbs, domineering and saying you won’t settle is insane.
I liked this cohost. Kendra G is my girl BUT, if she needed a break for 1 night, I could see this woman filling in nicely. The questions asked were respectful but she absolutely dug a bit deeper asking ‘what are your flaws?’ Accountability and self-awareness are key. ✊🏽
As a big and tall guy, I feel like the world doesn’t allow men to not have an accurate sense of self. We know exactly where we stand, if we are a loser, if we are dumb, if we are broke, because nobody is going to tell us otherwise. I don’t think I can say the same thing for women.
Not for nothing but Biggie smalls gave a lot of fat dudes confidence back in the 90s. I remember when many of them were rocking the fedora hats - you couldn't tell those guys noth'en up in the night clubs 😅😅😅 they thought they were on par with us weight lifting dudes with the muscle shirts- but even Biggie acknowledge his appearance at some point so he wasn't delusional
@@brianfreckles8542 facts, don’t get me wrong a lot of women love us bigger guys but I’m also not demanding Instagram models. Plus I’m 6’6 so that helps too 😂
When people would say “focus on yourself until your mate comes”, this is a visual representation. This young lady should put all of that bubbly Virgo energy into herself and be the best version of herself so that she can be the best partner when that time comes. God bless her efforts in caring for her star player, HER!
This lady has to be real with herself! She’s putting up an obvious front to appear confident. Nesh was really giving her game but she was getting combative with her. P.S. I hate that “I’m a vibe” BS. Vibes can be bad too 😂
😳 Wooweee! As a skinny black woman that has been SHAMED allll my life in the black community and seen as undesirable due to my lack of “curves” this woman has given me LIFE! If SHE can be confident in her size…I’m about to be in my two piece this summer with NO big ass or titties. And I’m about to have her standards too cuz we FINE 💯💪🔥🔥🔥🔥🌴🌴🌴❤️
Women are hating on your size because they WANT to be your size. Y’all look good! Idk of any plus size women who like being that way. Us black women really need to work on obesity, diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure is killing us at an alarming rate. As a nurse it saddens me. I know everyone can’t be your size, I can understand 20-50lbs overweight, but when it’s 100+ that’s ridiculous. We have surgical and medications that can help with weight loss. My sister is your size, we’re both working out. She helps/encourages me to keep my weight down.
my cousin is shaped like coi leray. she heard mean comments all of her life to the point she thought of suicide. smaller girls are also beautiful! my cousin started telling folks "i don't have to be as big as you to be pretty" or "i have enough room to grow to be your size, don't worry" (from housewives lol) and that usually shuts whomever she's talking to up 🥴
In the first minute & 1/2: _I'm a whole vibe._ _I'm a virgo._ _I'm a student and I do Lyft._ _I'm a single mom!_ _I'm very independent._ I admire her confidence but what about this is really appealing to a man? 🤣
I have gained weight and struggle to get it off,even with regular exercise and reducing food consumption. I hate it! A healthy slim body is most beautiful.
Ive dated a 50 year old woman that was fine as frog hair and no kid. This lady is 38 with a child, not just overweight but extremely Obese, not submissive and thinks that shes a "vibe" because of when she was born. What attractive man with anything going for himself is going to want to spend his life with her? Lets just say, her dating pool is going to be very small.
Kendra please keep “what are your 3 biggest flaws” question. Although most women typically respond to it by blaming men like “I love hard” or “I get bored” which is not a self flaw but really blaming men but I still like the question.
I would rather be *self-aware* than “confident” or should I say *delusional* Sometimes confidence looks crazy. She’s probably gone her whole life having to defend her physical appearance and uses “confidence” as a coping mechanism instead of just losing some weight.
They went hard during this session! Confidence will help her rebound but confidence can also get in the way of self-evaluation. More often than not, we will go after what we want. She even said that SHE picks them. Who's to fault when you end up with the wrong person? I can't speak for all men but I know a woman is often viewed as expendable when she throws herself at us.
This was a good discussion. It's going to take more women having this conversation with women for us to understand. Men have some of the same core standards but being attractive weighs much more. We have to accept this and act accordingly. I'm definitely working on my appearance.
@@LOSTGPS I watched KS and agreed with a lot of what he had to say. His approach turned a lot of people off, but he basically has a similar message to Iyanla. His message was less nurturing and more matter of fact.
This is absolutely insane. The fact that we have a 4’11, overweight, unattractive woman saying that she refuses to settle is absurd. It is mainly the men that entertain her fault. Some men’s standards have dropped so low that they will be with anything.
Just because she doesn't suit YOUR taste dont mean there isn't somebody out there for her. Brotha YOU look a milkshake away from tipping them scales too and you ain't no Adonis yourself😶
@@neicynunnery oh stop this chick here is built like swackhammer from space jam. Men who like big girls have standards too. Cute, non-sloppy BBW’s exist
Men are unaware until we're told. Then we do the work and level up. Women are unaware until they're told. Then they make excuses. Even if settling for loneliness is the excuse.
Just Nesh did an excellent job being honest with her. She was casting the blame heavily on the man and how she had such a vibe and confident in herself. You can be TOTALLY CONFIDENT BUT REALITY SAYING SOMETHING THAT'S DIFFERENT.
Side note : love the cohost. She adds a little spazz to the show. Compared to Kendra , asking about personal flaws was a beautiful additional question we needed . Its make people more accountable and bring a sense of responsibility to why the person is single. It’s seems like she learning though but she mixes well with Kendra especially as well as Zach. Love them ❤️
Say what you want, but carrying extra weight will almost surely cause health problems at some point. Being thicker or having curves is cool, but being obese or, in this case, morbidly obese is not ok. We got to stop acting like we don't know what obesity is and what it does to us? 🤷🏾♀️🙄
I was very delusional and had body dysmorphia but when my knee went bad it snapped me back to reality because people will lie to you about weight and other stuff. Being overweight is very unhealthy long term so I realized I was tearing up my body.
even if she was drop dead gorgeous her mindset is a dub! 🙅🏾♂️ she has no self awareness, accountability, and literally listed everything a suitable man would not want and ON TOP OF THAT they asked what a man would want and she started her response with “well he should want” smdh
Right! It's bad enough she looks like a human Grimace. Her attitude and the things she said were crazy AF. A man has to submit to her?? She's always right?? Plus she pretty much thought she was too good for her last man, which lead to her break up. All of this confused me as to where the so called "vibe" part came in at.
Truly appreciate her being confident, But the truth is most of us confused being confident with the need to live a healthier life. We can be confident and healthy at the same time sis😉 hope you find your King 👑
Agreed 💯 I just said this. When you’re obviously no taking care of yourself, is it really confidence or are you just lying to yourself 🙃 We gotta normalize lifting each other up in the form of holding up the mirror and pushing each other to do better. 🫶🏽
She's totally delusional!!! She has no accountability. She couldn't even pick 3 flaws, for herself. Like she said, "She Independent"! And she'll be alone...
I LOVE Nesh introduced the 3 flaws question, and how she holds people accountable for those stupid answers!! You being a “vibe” is subjective! You could be a vibe for one man and not for another.
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We have to stop confusing confidence with delusion
😂Facts!🤣
And sex with relationships.
And disgust with intimidation
Harsh asf. Love all, we are all beautiful & if you do not feel like you're beautiful first why would the next person. Be bless.
@@Mrs.CGraves That one is kicking their asses! 😩🤦🏾♂️
On what planet is she "FINE" ? We need to stop this now.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
RIGHT GOT DAMN NOW
In the multi-verse she’s the finest woman on the planet…🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️😂😂
Weather do you wanna believe it or no…. There’s a lot of men who find this body type extremely attractive. They love Bbw
😩😂😂😂
“I’m ready to expand”
Girl, you’ve been expanding. Faster than the universe 😂😂😂😂
Booooooooooooom 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂horrible
🙌🏾🙌🏾
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 dead ☠️ up here built like a MAC TRUCK 🛻 and got their nerves not to want to build a man 😂😂😂
Aww hell 😂😂😂
Confidence: 10
Self Awareness: 0
Health: ☠
You are being polite Self Awareness is -100
@@sacoope1 😂😂😂
Health: Out of Breath
@@sacoope1 😂😂😂😂😂
As a woman, we definitely need to live in reality. We need to be our best selves to attract what we truly want.
Typical female response. Dancing around the issue and not being direct. She looks like a rhinoceros and you talking about being her best self and not LOSING 180 lbs.
@𝕸𝖆𝖗𝖎𝖊 𝕭𝖆𝖐𝖊𝖗 Cook! A Freudian slip for sure, but you are getting warmer.
I agree.
@mariebakerchats I agree that some people being their "best selves" don't (or won't) always meet their preferred suitors, but we should at least make the effort on being our best selves since it would give us a better chance of meeting AND attracting our preferred suitors.
Telling people who or what they should be attracted to is redundant. Life doesn't work like that.
@@sensimania The pool of Men is the same, best self or not.
“I came natural no makeup no filter no nothing “ - just a whole wig of another persons hair glued down on my head 🤦♀️
😂 with the lace showing 😮😂
Lol😂
@@glam2gobeauty811I didn't see lace...
@@outsidethebox8406the lace is right there! YT has the zoom in feature now
lol
Asking people what their flaws are is a good reflection question and very telling.
Yup That is a great question, and it tells you a lot about that person. I wish Kendra puts that in with the regular questions.
Absolutely , which caught her off guard and could answer the question honestly in my opinion. She was to focused on her confidence and her zodiac sign and flaws of previous mate.
Kendra should really add that to her list of questions. It can really separate the people who are self-accountable and those who aren't.
@@nmmboy You want to give out participation trophies. Instead of calling fat ppl fat.
It usually tells what they have been dealing with in the PAST
Now wait I’m 5’0 and I want to say sister girl has to take better care of her health. And this is coming from a young woman who had a heart attack at 26 due to being overweight! I’m 34 now and I’m the healthiest person ever. I love the confidence but it comes with a price 😢❤
Glad you made it through and made a change 👍🏾
Thank God you're still here!! When you know better, you do better!!
❤️👍🏽
At age 26 !!!!!
God is good but for sure wants us to be aware of ourselves in order to be our best selves. I’m happy you made it through. 💓
As a plus size woman, I thoroughly enjoyed the commentary at the end. Has definitely motivated me to make some necessary changes in my life.
This was real 💯
You won't make any changes. You just talking 😅
@@foodforthought872 you will never know :-)
@@lasheieka6201....... I might be going to the same gym as you. So yes ma'am (I) will know 🤪
Good for you, and good luck.
How did we get to the point of acting like morbid obesity isn't a disease? Or is this body positivity culture? This woman is 38 years old and will be in an early grave if continues on the path that she's on. She must refrain from dating and put a lot more energy into her self-care. Looking for a man should not be the focus right now. I'm saying this as a vibey Virgo. 😂
See how modern women play it they should have told her to her face mam
WOW listen to their reaction it's all sucker move
Sadly I think plus size is push more on Black and skinny on white. Lizzo for an example dressing a mess with her ass out at a basketball game, telling Black women to love themselves, and when Adele lost weight they gave her more credit on the way she looks.
@@sooutstanding31 you're quite right, but unfortunately our community loves that because it gives us an out to live as obese girls, under the guise of body positivity. We've always been curvy, thick, meat on the bones but we crossed the line and no "white man's" BMI chart could convince us we are obese. I was the same, it was easier to belive the black lies we tell ourselves than actually fight for my health. Many years on I'm trying to undo the damage. I'm thankful I'm no where as big as this woman but I still fall into the obese catagory and it's harder to shift the weight when age and even minor illness is involved.
All I will say to any young woman is do not underestimate how big you can get and don't ignore the BMI. Cause when you loose hope with your weight, you over compensate with confidence, but in a bad way or you hide out and never interact with people.
I'm a vibey Virgo as well and as far as the body positivity goes it's a bunch of bs. We need a poll taken to see how many 250+ or 300+ 70-80 year olds are walking around, that'll let these people know what it is.
PLEASE KEEP THIS HOST!!! 😂 she really gave some of the most honest suggestions & realistic
Right, she need her own show.
Agree
She needa stop cutting kendra off though 🙄😒 lol damnn
Didnt like her height shaming. It was slight but inappropriate. Men do prefer shorter and women are generally shorter than men. She is in he same height category as Shakira and other women.
The guest host was on point. But women don’t even listen to each other nonetheless are the men they supposedly want. Now Zach came on talking about her being big backed 😩😝. But was he lying?
This is really sad that she refuses to see her weight as a flaw.
the man she calling a 'manipulator' prob mentioned her weight.. and you right.. she PAST delusional.. its really embarrassing..
She has mental problems going right now because she uses food as a comfort and tells she addresses that I don't see her being dateable people like her don't know how to deal with anything but run to food
Everyone should always have confidence, but they should also have self awareness. There’s a reason why your options of men/women isn’t as good as others. If you think improving yourself wouldn’t make a difference, you’re delusional.
Everyone should not have confidence.
@@buffalo.blackk lol Huh? 🤦🏾♂️ Dude That’s the most counterproductive crap to say. No one should be insecure with themselves. It’s vital for everyone to have self assurance, while being mindful of their options.
@@nmmboy False. Confidence is earned. I’m confident because of my successes. I’m in shape because I make an effort. I spent 2 hours both this past Saturday and Sunday on the bike.
Competence = Accomplishment = Confidence
Why should someone w/ no value to the world like this beluga whale be confident? How does that even happen?
If she didn’t have confidence, she would feel bad and want to improve and lose weight. NOT EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE CONFIDENCE!!
Stop giving these unsuccessful ppl hope. We need to bring bullying and tough love back. You soft men and masculine women have made society a dumpster. Ppl do great when they’re incentivized. No when they get participation trophies and not when they have unearned confidence.
@@nmmboy Yes, agree. This woman is the most beautiful black I have ever seen
Confidence without some substance behind it is just delusion.
At 38 years old with a 15 year old child she should be concerned about her health so she can see her child grow up real talk .
🎯... but she only hears what she want..
😂😂😂
She isn’t even 40 and is struggling to stand up. Her eyes are dark and she looks much older then she is. It is obvious that her weight is a major problem and she is acting like it’s no big deal. 🤦🏾♂️
Right
The delusion is real
She definitely looks way older..
😢😢😢
She bout 400 n 4”11 women that say the I’m big n beautiful line an excuse not to meet the standard of what men want
I'm all for a woman having confidence at ANY size okay? However ladies let's keep it 100, we ALL know what we look like when we're dripping wet getting out of the shower🙃 and I'm gonna leave it at that. I'm not saying it's EVERYTHING, but I'm saying that's the first thing a man sees when he sees you. YESSS.....they will clap those BBW cheeks into next week, but when it comes time for dinner dates, meeting his homies, his family, effort outside the bedroom, etc.... that's when you really find out what time it is.
Finally, There you go 👏 that's what I'm talking about!
Shiiiidd !!!!
That’s some reeeeeellll shit!!!!!!!
Yep found out one likes women who look like throw momma from the train and another likes women that act like men
A lot of these men aren’t taking slim or thick fine women on date or meeting anyone either. Most these men don’t relationships with any woman. Most seeking quick easy sex regardless of how you look
I love the honesty of Nesh and Zack. Nesh was spitting facts. I'm married to a 6 figures man. I'm a housewife I don't have 1/4 of the education of my husband and he doesn't care. He's happy to pay all my bills and I'm happy to cater to him and make sure he doesn't have to lift a finger when he walks through the door. Looking good, being affectionate, and cooperative goes a long way
God bless you sister.
Bless you 🙏🏾
Preach successfull men DO NOT GAF about a female’s education or financial status esp if he into her nothing matters…
She said ain’t no way there that much vibe in the world😂😂😂😂😂
I appreciate your comment 😊
This was good. Reality is a hard pill to swallow for some people. And as women, we all have to accept that men are visual. And regardless of your education, career or finances, he still has to find you physically attractive. I agree with Kendra, don't pursue a man. Let him choose you. At least that's a indication that he's finds you attractive.
exactly, I don't pursue men at all. Never have done.
Men shouldn't pursue or chase women
"Men are visual" is overblown. Women are just as visual and judged people by appearance all the time.
do you have one now?@@AMMA83
You are more than not all that. Really?🤨
The piece at the end starting at 14:40 is 100% spot on. If you’re not getting what you want in a partner, you need to take a good, honest look at yourself to see why, and make the appropriate changes (physical, mental, financial, environmental) to be able to get the partner that you want. If you’re not willing to change, then you have to accept what you can get or accept being alone.
I wish more people would listen to you,they give themselves all these excuses why they are single instead of looking in the mirror
#facts
@𝕸𝖆𝖗𝖎𝖊 𝕭𝖆𝖐𝖊𝖗 A lot of dating is luck. I agree. Lots of good folks out there who still can't find someone
You worded it perfectly
@𝕸𝖆𝖗𝖎𝖊 𝕭𝖆𝖐𝖊𝖗 it's really ghetto out here in the dating world 😮... like really if someone is married and found their true one the first go around, they just don't know how blessed they really are 😮
She's never wrong, doesn't want a big dude, a "vibe", and has the mentality of a dime when she's a wooden penny....
A wooden penny?!?! 😂😂😂
@@shaleahknight3530I’ve never heard this before in my life, but it’s hilarious! 😆😆😆
I almost spit my food with “ wooden penny”😂😂😂
🤣🤣😂😂
Put more respect on the penny 😂
The faces of the 2 women at the top when she says delusional things.
what real man she thinks is gonna be submissive to her?.. or any women..she gon get a prisoner on parole..
We gotta stop walking on eggshells for people who are having trouble in the dating market. You worrying about hurting their feelings won’t help them one bit 😮💨🤷🏽♂️
Society walks on egg shells for women only. They got no problem calling a man short or bad hairline etc
For real you see how Kendra G was acting oblivious to the huge obvious
@@dondattaford5593 Facts, I’m not sure why they expect her to give any legit advice if she always avoids keeping it real with them.
@@nmmboy they hate to say and hear bad talk I literally witnessing it with my boo
@@dondattaford5593 Yeah you’re not lying there, some just can’t handle all that.
A man once told me that you should give your partner the best version of YOU mind body and soul not just for your relationship but for yourself. We have to take accountability for why we're not getting what we want in life whether it's relationships or careers just in life in general. And this co-host was spot on I LOVED this episode. AWARENESS AND ACCOUNTABILITY
Right on!!!!
This is a great comment! 😮
Gurl.. HE is settling for less.. wtf.. like ladies ya'll gotta be real with each other. If this was a short, broke, jobless man, we'd have no problem telling that man what he needs to do to fix himself.... the delusion is scary
Nice to see her co-host holding people accountable
You can't just blame men for why every relationship didnt work out.
Yes you can.
The modern black woman is a queen and is beyond reproach.
this is the one fellas
You are going against the sisterhood and will be called everything but a child of God.
I love that the cohost knows she can lose weight even though she keeps a man. Kendra said “but you keep a man”. And the cohost corrected her..”but im still overweight”. That’s solid. Kudos to her for being self aware.
You have to be honest with yourself and accept people's honesty.
“Sometimes I get lazy.”
You don’t say! 😂
😂😂
Lmfao 😂😂😂
This was your BEST show Kendra! I think finally this woman received what she needed, THE TRUTH, thank you cohosts. Look, nobody is mad at this woman for trying, and hoping that men appreciate her confidence, but it’s clear that she is being validated by men who want to be physical and that’s it. Women, please, take note…there is confidence and there is delusion. Being possible 300lbs, domineering and saying you won’t settle is insane.
She's got to be at least 400 pounds
Some of these men are DOWN BAD!! You couldn’t pay me to touch this woman.
@@IK_4 She said she’s 4’11”, so I’d place her at about 275 lbs.
@@JSustain Of course, she has a vagina. But as Kendra mentioned, they might not want any more than that.
@buffalo.black If she's 4'11, I would still place her in the 300's then. She ain't 200 anything lol
As an overweight woman, I completely agree with the advice that was given. 🤷🏾♀
She need to learn how to eat a salad
And a gym membership
@@jorgebarajas2970yes
@@mnnetwork3877yes
@@blackmancool9983😂😂😂😂
I liked this cohost. Kendra G is my girl BUT, if she needed a break for 1 night, I could see this woman filling in nicely. The questions asked were respectful but she absolutely dug a bit deeper asking ‘what are your flaws?’ Accountability and self-awareness are key. ✊🏽
I like that she’s building a team!
😂😂Darn
@@dede5004 wait, what did I say? 🫣😂
@@mawnee3000 YES, but I still want her to host. I don’t really want to get used to anyone else but, I did like Nesh today.
When KG is in a bad mood..she needs to utilize her co-hosts...
As a big and tall guy, I feel like the world doesn’t allow men to not have an accurate sense of self. We know exactly where we stand, if we are a loser, if we are dumb, if we are broke, because nobody is going to tell us otherwise. I don’t think I can say the same thing for women.
FACTS.. women love love love lying to ourselves
Regardless of how you feel about yourself, you have to be confident. Not arrogant though. The alternative would be depressing and pessimistic.
Not for nothing but Biggie smalls gave a lot of fat dudes confidence back in the 90s. I remember when many of them were rocking the fedora hats - you couldn't tell those guys noth'en up in the night clubs 😅😅😅 they thought they were on par with us weight lifting dudes with the muscle shirts- but even Biggie acknowledge his appearance at some point so he wasn't delusional
@@justblack1 facts!
@@brianfreckles8542 facts, don’t get me wrong a lot of women love us bigger guys but I’m also not demanding Instagram models. Plus I’m 6’6 so that helps too 😂
When people would say “focus on yourself until your mate comes”, this is a visual representation. This young lady should put all of that bubbly Virgo energy into herself and be the best version of herself so that she can be the best partner when that time comes. God bless her efforts in caring for her star player, HER!
"Aint that much vibe in the world, give us a real answer" LMAO
It's crazy how women think confidence is attractive. If you are fine enough a man will wife you regardless if your super shy or out there.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Exactly lol… I get so tired of hearing that from attractive and unattractive just stop lol-he will see the pretty he feels no matter the case..
THANK YOU. These chicks think they know men
Facts
Super shy and fine over confidence and below average every day of the week.
The ability to keep a straight face is amazing ! Its Professional and amazing at the same time
This lady has to be real with herself! She’s putting up an obvious front to appear confident. Nesh was really giving her game but she was getting combative with her. P.S. I hate that “I’m a vibe” BS. Vibes can be bad too 😂
A :"VIBE!! LOL LOL He ass is masculine!
Vibe is code for Shelusional ones 😂
Bad vibes 😅
😂
I once had a vibe that a female liked me. I was wrong , more than dozen times
😳 Wooweee! As a skinny black woman that has been SHAMED allll my life in the black community and seen as undesirable due to my lack of “curves” this woman has given me LIFE! If SHE can be confident in her size…I’m about to be in my two piece this summer with NO big ass or titties. And I’m about to have her standards too cuz we FINE 💯💪🔥🔥🔥🔥🌴🌴🌴❤️
Stay fit and you will always find what your looking for. Dont listen to the haters.
Women are hating on your size because they WANT to be your size. Y’all look good! Idk of any plus size women who like being that way. Us black women really need to work on obesity, diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure is killing us at an alarming rate. As a nurse it saddens me. I know everyone can’t be your size, I can understand 20-50lbs overweight, but when it’s 100+ that’s ridiculous. We have surgical and medications that can help with weight loss. My sister is your size, we’re both working out. She helps/encourages me to keep my weight down.
my cousin is shaped like coi leray. she heard mean comments all of her life to the point she thought of suicide. smaller girls are also beautiful! my cousin started telling folks "i don't have to be as big as you to be pretty" or "i have enough room to grow to be your size, don't worry" (from housewives lol) and that usually shuts whomever she's talking to up 🥴
We still aren't interested in your surfboard body. So loose your confidence and just get a yte bwoi
No ass or titties aye. You might as well rock some swimming trucks with the rest of the homies
Women keep saying I'm VERY INDEPENDENT. Like being an adult is a personality trait 😅
I just don’t get it
Very independent means, you want to stay single
😂😂😂😂😂 why is it never the attractive women with all these demands ???
In the first minute & 1/2:
_I'm a whole vibe._
_I'm a virgo._
_I'm a student and I do Lyft._
_I'm a single mom!_
_I'm very independent._
I admire her confidence but what about this is really appealing to a man? 🤣
This is an example of mental illness.
Student is not a job. It’s Gov assistance to go to school, while carrying that debt forward. So.. she lives on Gov credit, and does LYFT at the bars.
Welp it's an option on some forms and considered when buying a home 😂 (loan process) 🤷🏽♀️
🤷🏾♂️ Hell if I know
Nothing.
I have gained weight and struggle to get it off,even with regular exercise and reducing food consumption. I hate it! A healthy slim body is most beautiful.
After the 4th Vibe, Neesh was over that shit 😂😂😂
So was I!!
I love that just Nesh asked her HER flaws but she still didn’t seem like she felt she had flaws🙄
I blame social media.. funny looking ppl used to know they were funny looking. Now we gotta call everybody “fine”…
And men can be women…
😂😂😂, your comment took me out.☠️ (funny looking people)
I love Nesh and Zach telling y’all the truth!!! She was way too delusional!
I hollered when he popped in the screen
I LIKE this guest host!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I LOVE Just Nesh!!! She is the realest!!! You know this the FIRST time I would give a like to this show??!!! Thanks to Nesh!!!
LIZZO’S SISTER IS WILDIN. PUSHING 450+ 💪🏿😂😂😂
Ive dated a 50 year old woman that was fine as frog hair and no kid. This lady is 38 with a child, not just overweight but extremely Obese, not submissive and thinks that shes a "vibe" because of when she was born. What attractive man with anything going for himself is going to want to spend his life with her? Lets just say, her dating pool is going to be very small.
Agreed
Kendra please keep “what are your 3 biggest flaws” question. Although most women typically respond to it by blaming men like “I love hard” or “I get bored” which is not a self flaw but really blaming men but I still like the question.
How do "most" men respond to the question? 🤔
You can tell who the real narcissist are when that question is asked 😅😅if they can’t say anything or they have to babble there you have it
2 flaws is good, it took her awhile on that third one
Plucks them right out. Lol or what’s one thing YOU could have done better or different in your last relationship? Separate the real from the fake
I would rather be *self-aware* than “confident” or should I say *delusional* Sometimes confidence looks crazy. She’s probably gone her whole life having to defend her physical appearance and uses “confidence” as a coping mechanism instead of just losing some weight.
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Dang...you beautiful!
@@handsomebastard305 thank you!
Kevin Samuels watching like,”I told you”.Her problem is she keep blaming the men
They went hard during this session!
Confidence will help her rebound but confidence can also get in the way of self-evaluation.
More often than not, we will go after what we want.
She even said that SHE picks them.
Who's to fault when you end up with the wrong person?
I can't speak for all men but I know a woman is often viewed as expendable when she throws herself at us.
Kendra got someone to ask the questions she wanted without the sistahood getting mad at her😂
Smart
Kendra has been saying the same thing just in a diplomatic way. There is no sisterhood in self-sabotage!
My problem when a woman throws herself at me is that I think it's a setup
No they didn't
@@angelabennings8027 good point
I like this co-host! She was truthful and likes KS! She was speaking facts! 😊
I am female as well and I liked KS TOO. I MISS HIM 😢
FR!! I like her too. She at least tries to objective
@@ud558 ew
@@ud558 ikr! I miss him too! 😇🥰
This was a good discussion. It's going to take more women having this conversation with women for us to understand. Men have some of the same core standards but being attractive weighs much more. We have to accept this and act accordingly. I'm definitely working on my appearance.
Nah they’ll simply ignore the truth and remain delusional, Kevin Samuels exposed it all.
Thank you for YOUR understanding 😌
@@LOSTGPS I watched KS and agreed with a lot of what he had to say. His approach turned a lot of people off, but he basically has a similar message to Iyanla. His message was less nurturing and more matter of fact.
That’s a good concept Women telling other women the truth before they try to date someone.
Women get dragged for speaking on this
the host rocks.I cant wait for her to be alone and give those women a dose of pure honesty
Yup
Top 3 flaws.
1. Her weight
2. Her weight
3. Bad lace front
Her attitude should be listed as well. Even if she was a 10 her attitude still sucks!!!
This is absolutely insane. The fact that we have a 4’11, overweight, unattractive woman saying that she refuses to settle is absurd. It is mainly the men that entertain her fault. Some men’s standards have dropped so low that they will be with anything.
Just because u don't like big girls doesn't mean no men like. Why be so nasty?
If your daughter ends of being this fat would you encourage her to settle?
Just because she doesn't suit YOUR taste dont mean there isn't somebody out there for her. Brotha YOU look a milkshake away from tipping them scales too and you ain't no Adonis yourself😶
Yep. Any man putting his junk in her needs to be clowned to no end.
@@neicynunnery oh stop this chick here is built like swackhammer from space jam. Men who like big girls have standards too. Cute, non-sloppy BBW’s exist
We need the other host more often. She is so good
Men are unaware until we're told. Then we do the work and level up.
Women are unaware until they're told. Then they make excuses. Even if settling for loneliness is the excuse.
The co host was great. She moves the conversation along and don't make the guest feel bad.
Just Nesh did an excellent job being honest with her. She was casting the blame heavily on the man and how she had such a vibe and confident in herself.
You can be TOTALLY CONFIDENT BUT REALITY SAYING SOMETHING THAT'S DIFFERENT.
** I pick the wrong guy** when you choose the appearance that’s exactly you will get served..
Side note : love the cohost. She adds a little spazz to the show. Compared to Kendra , asking about personal flaws was a beautiful additional question we needed . Its make people more accountable and bring a sense of responsibility to why the person is single. It’s seems like she learning though but she mixes well with Kendra especially as well as Zach. Love them ❤️
Spazz 🤔
@@schuylercolley5920 Pizazz?
She’s masculine. Huge turn off. Wouldn’t even talk to her. But notice modern women support these masculine, aggressive women.
Do you pizazz instead of spazz? 😂
@@freudianslip2192 yeah that's wut I was thinkin
This is an amazing video!!! This should be studied in class! Excellent questions from Just Nesh!!! Love this video!
The look on Just Nesh face when the light went away and she finally saw her clearly: WTF??????
"She's a vibe". Welp. I know what that means on here 😂😂
Exactly..... nothing!!!!! Just word salad!!!
She said she wants a tripe🥴
I like this co host. Kendra please add this type of questioning to the interviews. People need to face reality instead of constantly being lied to.
MEN ARE VISUAL & IM not going to say another word 🤐
I like this guest host please give her more segments with the show. And Zach is super fine love his energy.😚
Why is this woman so masculine and that Zach cat is so feminine? Ppl out of their natural position.
There is a huge difference between confidence and delusion. Therefore, we the male delegation pass her this one on to our lesbian sisters.
Someone's gonna get a sprained tongue lol
Lmfaooo 😂😂😂
Steely, let this sink in, she had sex, allegedly, a couple of weeks ago. Some men have no standards. 🤦🏾♂️
@@ShoTyme you mean black men have no standard especially the lowest standard than other race men no cap 😢😂 😭
@@ShoTyme have you seen some of yall baby fathers 😂.. sheeeeet.
Say what you want, but carrying extra weight will almost surely cause health problems at some point. Being thicker or having curves is cool, but being obese or, in this case, morbidly obese is not ok. We got to stop acting like we don't know what obesity is and what it does to us? 🤷🏾♀️🙄
This show was FIRE!🔥
Our self confidence doesn't reflect our options for commitment.
She said she was tired of building a bear........but shes built like one
Exactly she ran out of breath manufacturing herself
😂☠️
Are you Kevin Samuel Sister. I love you. Frist time Watcher. Will be with you every day. Thank You Kevin for sending you Sister ❤❤❤❤❤❤
She wants a man who is attractive. I bet that man wants a woman who has A NECK 😂😂😂
They were being really polite with her.
Lol until they hung up 😂 but seriously, they were nice.
I’ll never forget the day a college educated black woman told me “black womens bodies have evolved to be 200 plus lbs! Insane
Kevin Samuels has said that 💯
😂😂
Love Nesh questions and stuff. Great guest host.
Women hate liars but love being lied to.
Absolutely. There’s a whole billion dollar industry built around that fact.
Please don’t generalize. I don’t like being lied to.
Truth Serum!!!
@@lizettemuna3234shut up and buy a 🐕
Bars!!!!!!!
I was very delusional and had body dysmorphia but when my knee went bad it snapped me back to reality because people will lie to you about weight and other stuff. Being overweight is very unhealthy long term so I realized I was tearing up my body.
even if she was drop dead gorgeous her mindset is a dub! 🙅🏾♂️ she has no self awareness, accountability, and literally listed everything a suitable man would not want and ON TOP OF THAT they asked what a man would want and she started her response with “well he should want” smdh
Right! It's bad enough she looks like a human Grimace. Her attitude and the things she said were crazy AF. A man has to submit to her?? She's always right?? Plus she pretty much thought she was too good for her last man, which lead to her break up. All of this confused me as to where the so called "vibe" part came in at.
Love the guest host, she's the friend that will back you up but at the same time talk to you when they need to
Nesh was great! She tells the truth.
Thank you for giving Kevin Samuels credit
The Goat🙌🏻
“Bossy, big, don’t listen” 😩🥴😂😂
Nose tackle for the Jets.
No one talking about Just Nesh. This woman is talented‼️We need her to host more often.
I strive to be this delusional about myself and life lol
I'm sure you are.. Rooms opened up at the mentally ill institution down the street from your house. 🏚
I'd drink your bath water
@@METALFACEDOOMXXXX I was being sarcastic you a hole
Thanks Nesh for being honest.
I like this lady. She tells the truth.
"What are your top 3 flaws" need that question more often.
She's a nice person. I wish her well!
She actually sounds like she's hard to deal with.
Truly appreciate her being confident, But the truth is most of us confused being confident with the need to live a healthier life. We can be confident and healthy at the same time sis😉 hope you find your King 👑
Agreed 💯 I just said this.
When you’re obviously no taking care of yourself, is it really confidence or are you just lying to yourself 🙃 We gotta normalize lifting each other up in the form of holding up the mirror and pushing each other to do better. 🫶🏽
It's not just the weight, she's unattractive in personality. Just like she said she doesn't want an unattractive guy the same goes for her.
She's totally delusional!!! She has no accountability. She couldn't even pick 3 flaws, for herself. Like she said, "She Independent"! And she'll be alone...
"You can't come with all that. With all that" I almost died 😂🤣🤣
Just nesh is very funny and I see she's up on game I love it
Just Neesh!! You came with some great questions and commentary
Definitely 💯
Why do you think you are single? " These guys are not stepping up". The furthest thing from her mind is her weight.
I LOVE Nesh introduced the 3 flaws question, and how she holds people accountable for those stupid answers!! You being a “vibe” is subjective! You could be a vibe for one man and not for another.