ACE's is something very few people know about. These kids basically have PTSD brains. They're wired more for hyper- vigilance, fight/flight, and surviving in a highly threatening, more primitive, chaotic environment than kids from far more stable social realms. These kids probably get diagnosed as ADHD which is a band-aid approach that ignores these kids unique needs. These kids need stable social environments away from whatever disorder exists in their home life. Their home life is likely a high stress environment full of potential "you will die" threats. These kids need a truly safe place. Exactly true that they need social connections with people that show true concern and guidance for their welfare. These kids need a truly healthy caring 'family' any way possible so their brains can switch off the survival-mode response they've developed from a high threat environment. That allows these kids to progress academically as well as anyone else. Basically these kids finally chill out the highly sensitized limbic portions of their brain to activate their frontal lobes for schoolwork. They need to be able to feel secure and hopeful so they can relax and think. Taking care of these kids creates generous benefits for all of society. They can re-route their direction towards becoming well-functioning economically productive adults.
I was not told what was happening in my abusive, alcoholic home but I knew how I felt. Now at 60, I realize that all those years of meds & aggression could have been avoided by just a conversation. One that started with; this shouldn't have happened to you. Do you want to talk to me? I'm now known as "Mamma Kitty". I found my compassion thru animals & am learning still.
Thank you Dr. Allison! Your wonderful, clear and direct story was amazing. I scored a 6 on your ACE score and I lived in a middle class, "nice" neighborhood, surrounded by supposedly caring family members (who knew but just didn't care or who were in denial or also who were abusing their own children) and I'm a 56 year old Caucasian woman. As a teen, my father would receive a very high promotion, bringing us into the high middle class and as you already know this kind of abuse is across the board and includes all races and socio-economic boundaries. I will add that the Caucasians hide abuse quite well and it's very overlooked, even to this day among us which is Shameful! My 1st suicide attempt was at 14. Since I knew nothing other than abuse, I married a domestic sadistic abuser. But I have an inspiring story. As a very small child (and one of the few kind things my mother ever did for me) I learned about God and Jesus. I always believed in this Jesus even when I was such a little girl of 3. My faith gave me the resilience to keep going. Yes, I was severely depressed and yes I did make other suicide attempts but then when I was 48, God brought my 2nd husband into my life and he is my connection. Bob has changed my life in so many positive ways and people like you are helping me become more positive every single day. So I humbly thank you for relaying this crucial message. Three cheers for Dr. Allison!
Donna, I'm really sorry for what you had to go through. I think I can relate I have an ACE score of 7. I'm a 27 year old mexican woman dealing with recurrent depression. Spent most of my life thinking it wasn''t that bad because as a kid I didn't go hungry, had a good education, and from the outside everything looked normal. It was really validating albeit painful to learn about ACE and learning about the abusive dynamics at work in my family. It's so wonderful that you have a loving husband. You are strong. You are a survivor. My heart goes out to you. Blessings!!
I love this and I too got distracted at first by what she was wearing, but then I thought...we get so caught up in HOW someone looks and will judge the person before even taking in the moments or the message. *message! So I think this was purposefully done. Well done
Wow! What an amazing woman! Listening to her words gave me such Hope. I will be doing what she suggests we all do very soon, through talks, books, songs, workshops and art. "Connection" is the key to it all now. Just like the boy Alison speaks about, the medical world failed to see the big picture of my 'adverse childhood life', as did mainstream educational establishments and religious establishments, employers, relationships, some therapists and law people too; the labelling, diagnoses, measurements and metrics were highly restrictive, destructive, and suppressive doctrines for me. I'm 39 now, and having stuffed away the trauma pain for years, I'm now learning to embrace my Authenticity which is now increasing as my Perception Increases; Awareness of Self returns; Boundaries return; Choice returns; Willpower slowly returning. I have learned that Self Healing occurs with supportive 'others', who hold unconditional positive regard (Congruence/Person-Centred), also known as Love. Also increasing is "Melancholia" as deep pain for the rest of humanity who have yet to develop self awareness and stop their denial. The coping mechanisms of shifting responsibility has to stop. As Alison says, "It is not an Us v Them conversation anymore", and "when we get uncomfortable we grow". I know this from my own embracing of Vulnerability and holding space for others to shine theirs too. My only wish is that more people stop the denial and start to connect with each other lovingly without any judgement or shaming or Why questioning. Some ways in which I have seen our 7-fold body heal the memories: weeping, laughter, intention, and 'electrical' energy shifts. The key is to allow those shifts to occur for each other by making them conscious in whatever way that takes expression. For me, Transpersonal Art Therapy + Singing + 'Yoga' + Spiritual Ecology + Trust = Reconnection to Humanity and Nature. Simples. :-) My latest understanding: "My Body Is A Temple - My Truth Is Sacred - We Are Sacred - The Earth Is Sacred".
I am 21 years old right now and I am still feeling the mental effects of being bullied. Trust me, I've continuously opened up lots of upsetting stories about my teenage past to my father, brother and occasionally a counsellor. I've still got a few more bothersome stories that I have not told or voiced, yet I've gotten so sick of fighting this that I just want to give up. I really can't be bothered to open up anymore nor fight this any longer. It is so sickening! I wish I could no longer be bothered by these voices and flashbacks!
What an amazing expression of truth! Connection is the number one need for humans, and for some reason, so many are not getting this message....connect with someone, and you give them the gift of their own humanity come to life...
Connection. It all begins with relationships. I cut ties and went on my own. I do have letters behind my name, but learned that with my students. My ACE score is 8.
I scored a 9 and I'm not sure if I feel like the story she shared makes me feel better or worse. Lol ... but actually my brother went to jail for a day or so when I was 13 so if that counts, that makes 10. 10/10. No wonder. Things make sense now.
I was working as a counselor at an adolescent inpatient facility where I had a 16-year old patient I'll call K. He had a bit of a violent streak--he walked with a cane because he had shattered his ankle kicking another kid in the head, which was what had led to him being court ordered to our facility. He was a tough kid to get to know, and when I thought I was making progress, I would see him suddenly lash out, throw up a wall, or shut down. One night he blew his temper and attacked another kid. I stepped in and stopped him, then took him down to his bedroom while a colleague called the police. As we waited for the police to come, I stood outside his door, not sure what to say or do. I just calmly talked to him, saying that while he was being arrested and would be leaving in handcuffs, it didn't mean he had to go back to drug use, to the streets, to his previous life. I told him I had been impressed with the progress he was making and thought he could do better using the tools we were giving him. I told him this was a minor setback, not a major problem, and that since he had already detoxed he could get connected with clean and sober people on the outside. He never said anything back and I didn't know if he was listening or not. That night I went to his room to pack up his belongings and I saw suicidal statements written on his desk and on the walls. I called his mother and informed her of what I read and advised her to keep an eye on him when he was released from custody, as well as to make sure to get him support for his mental health and anger. Fast forward about a year and I am finishing up my shift, writing my progress notes, when I see a car pull up outside. I see K get out of the car, walking fine, no cane anymore. He sees me through the window and calls out my name. I tell my colleague to be ready to call 911 and I step out onto the front porch. He said he had heard there was a clean/sober party nearby put on by a local AA hall, but he wasn't sure how to get there. From the porch I gave him directions. He then said, "I haven't drank or used since that night I got arrested and taken away. Come down here and give me a hug. You saved my life!"
I had the pleasure of hearing a live presentation by Dr. Jackson. This is wonderful information. We must stop allowing people to be cruel. Caring people must stand up.
It is my dream to create a true non profit where all funds are controlled by the community. Not one person can ever become rich off of it. The community decides how much goes to development, how much goes to marketing, how much goes to each and every thing. The community moderates everything and everything is exposed and secure at the same time so the world can see the inner working of every single aspect. I would love to use my 21 years of experience developing mobile, desktop and web applications to develop tech that truly serves humanity. What us people need is each other. We all have our own traumas and if we build tech that helps bring us together in love and healing that would change the entire world in so many positive ways. Not just people but also animals. With something true and honest like this all war would go away and all suffering.
I remember where I used to live and hearing the mother screaming abusively at her young son who came into her bedroom early in the morning. I had already noticed the toys he played with in the garden were not only broken but no longer age-appropriate. When I heard the mother screaming threats at her son I emailed the authorities. I had to email rather than phone because I was crying so much I couldn't speak. It turned out she was already known to the authorities and the boy was returned to his father and she was taken in for medical help. So my email enabled them both to get the help they needed.
It's such a touching story!As a public school form teacher,I met a lot of kids like those mentioned in the video.With behavior like that,I know they had some difficult time.I reached out.And people around me kept telling me it's not my place to intervene.We're not their parents we cant change their destiny.But this video strengthed my faith.Yeah,everything could be different.Even the hope is dimming,it's hope
Speaking from personal experience, "these kids" have no clue they are "these kids"! They wet the bed and rock themselves to sleep from toddler age to their teens without ever knowing why. The beatings they suffer are what happens to all kids as far as they know. When they recite their experiences to other adults, no one believes them and treat the story and something fun to hear so again these kids think this is all normal. At 4 I made sure my female babysitter knew, It didn't taste like candy! I learned not to eat with my mouth open when Mom punched me in the face. I got to watch Dad be beat up by two cops while Mom cheered them on. At 6 I got my ribs kicked in for me by Mom and at 9 my head was rammed against the wall a few times by her. I got to brush my teeth for the first time in my life when I was put in child services care at 10. 2 years later I was sent back to Mom despite begging Child services to put me up for adoption with promises the abuse would recurr. 6 Months later my Sisters teacher reports to child services for the bruises all up and down my 8 year old sister's legs. When child services arrived she said to them, "The little Brat fell down the stairs didn't she (Mom looks at me)", "Yes Mommy" I replied and rather then seeing I was under duress by my abuser, the aid worker RAN from the house screaming, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" Let me assure you. EVERYONE knows about it. Those in the community are afraid to act and child services arrogantly believe they can rehabilitate the abusive parent and the child aid system has inadequate/Nonexistent checks and balances. Finally, no one believes the child!
Its much easier for government workers run, to look the other way than to investigate, and when the abuse is happening in a 'good family' those government workers never get the call even show up. You are so correct EVERYONE knows its happening. Today, somewhere, another little girl is getting punched in the mouth by her mom, and sadly, no one is going to to help her get away, she will stay home and bear it for years to come.
This is all completely the truth! I work at a children's home and YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE what happens to OUR children in THIS country!!! DO NOT BE SILENT!!! Protect our kids!
Satya Krishna what a beautiful way of putting things. I will use this - if you don’t mind! I am a foster parent - this talk has helped to answer so many questions that swirl around my head daily & has given me a sense of validation for the value of my role in my (foster) son’s healing journey. Thank you.
When I realized that, based on the study's statistics & my own ACE score, my lifespan will likely be 2 decades shorter than my counterparts, my immediate emotion was relief. I couldn't bear this suffering *and* being shut up in some wretched nursing home.
fortunately teachers and any professional that witnesses this behaviour are 'mandatory reporters. My niece had over 20 people to take her, er had a young family, I was a police officer, had studies child psychology and didn't think twice. As a Coper I knew that incarceration would be almost automatice. Its been a brilliant arrangement, she sees her family, is smart, talented, bubbly and happy, fortunately very lucky to have fallen on our feet, tough at firt but a wonderfual experience and still cannot comprehend how others could walk away, I love my little girl
Jane Doe, I am so sorry. When I was seven, I barely survived a mass murder and am disabled to this day. It's an odd experience to wake up, notice you're bleeding to death, and your two best friends are dead, especially when you're only seven. These terrible things happen because we are residents of a fallen, cursed world, and ourselves are both victims of this and participants in it. But Jesus Christ, God's only son, has died to redeem us, and will save you ultimately and turn all these curses to blessings and everlasting joy if you believe in him. The nightmarish days will end forever: Christ's resurrection is the guarantee of this.
I was diagnosed with ADHD and a developmental disability as a kid but that was a misdiagnosis because my mother would lie to the dr and Tell them that there was no history of abuse but my dr found out that I was abused and reassessed and diagnosed with ptsd and depression instead I was never in foster care but lived with my mother and stepfather and some of are tomatoes the father took off and I would often get physically and emotionally abused and my mother and stepfather would were introuble with the law a few times and my stepfather would drink and smoke on a regular basis and so would are roommates and dad was an undiagnosed schizophrenia and my mother had problems with anxiety and depression and so would my brother school wasn't any better either as I got bullied there to both emotionally and even physically yes Ive taken the ace test and scored 10 out 10 and it has had so many nagative effects on me im often depressed and have alot of trust issues and flashbacks and I'm in a couple therapy like talk therapy and trauma therapy for my depression and ptsd and I take medication for depression and anxiety yes it had a big effect on me I'm still recovering from it after over 3 years of therapy it's very difficult
So, a little odd.... You and I not only share the same name... but we share a very similar story and passion. By the way, I love your outfit. I kept thinking were did she get her shirt and pants. :) Just blowing my mind right now.
I am a white Canadian man who never went to any foster care home ever who has a score of 9 aces I only lived with mom and my abusive alcholic stepdad I really don't think it matters what race gender what culture who you are where you come from or if you lived with both your parents the entire time anyone can have an ace or even high number of aces not to mention any of the other adverse or traumatic things that people go through later in life or outside of home or other aces not mentioned in the test like losing some on or parents not being around or parents having a medical problems or being bullied at school which I also went through in childhood
I almost wish someone took me away...I was a child a long long time ago, and every knew what was going on in my house, but did nothing...no one even used the term DYFS back then.
I had a very difficult childhood after my parents got divorced. I did not go to foster homes, but probably would have now. Most of my time I spent trying to help my mom and take care of my siblings...at age 10. Back in the 60's there were no food stamps or other agencies to fall back on. I am 64 now and the only person I can talk to really is the suicide crisis hotline. Every town usually has one. It can be a start when you feel alone and hopeless.
yes and most of that is done in the name of religion or culture and would God have given them a foreskin if it was meant to be removed. It's like a branding and I form of control.
Not a very pleasant comment but you must be fighting your own battle. You decided to listen to her talk for a reason, you are looking for healing. May you heal.
Nope not caring about someone else..we are thought not to trust other. It. Don't talk religen..pollitics...don't get help ....i see don't share solidarity...dont bond with others......do be selfish.....
BS the system is set up for failure So people like this can give speeches and tell me how to fix myself without really giving me the tools to fix myself
ACE's is something very few people know about. These kids basically have PTSD brains. They're wired more for hyper- vigilance, fight/flight, and surviving in a highly threatening, more primitive, chaotic environment than kids from far more stable social realms. These kids probably get diagnosed as ADHD which is a band-aid approach that ignores these kids unique needs. These kids need stable social environments away from whatever disorder exists in their home life. Their home life is likely a high stress environment full of potential "you will die" threats. These kids need a truly safe place. Exactly true that they need social connections with people that show true concern and guidance for their welfare. These kids need a truly healthy caring 'family' any way possible so their brains can switch off the survival-mode response they've developed from a high threat environment. That allows these kids to progress academically as well as anyone else. Basically these kids finally chill out the highly sensitized limbic portions of their brain to activate their frontal lobes for schoolwork. They need to be able to feel secure and hopeful so they can relax and think.
Taking care of these kids creates generous benefits for all of society. They can re-route their direction towards becoming well-functioning economically productive adults.
Fight, flight or freeze
RavenStealstheNight If you hear anyone talking about the “inner child” run in the other direction
May Your Blessings Be Multiplied 💗 Ms. Huntley.
You are correct about PTSD brains. The hyper vigilance which can arise even in later years events.
I was not told what was happening in my abusive, alcoholic home but I knew how I felt. Now at 60, I realize that all those years of meds & aggression could have been avoided by just a conversation. One that started with; this shouldn't have happened to you. Do you want to talk to me? I'm now known as "Mamma Kitty". I found my compassion thru animals & am learning still.
Wonderful story and presentation... you are a beautiful human being for doing what you do..
Thank you Dr. Allison! Your wonderful, clear and direct story was amazing. I scored a 6 on your ACE score and I lived in a middle class, "nice" neighborhood, surrounded by supposedly caring family members (who knew but just didn't care or who were in denial or also who were abusing their own children) and I'm a 56 year old Caucasian woman. As a teen, my father would receive a very high promotion, bringing us into the high middle class and as you already know this kind of abuse is across the board and includes all races and socio-economic boundaries. I will add that the Caucasians hide abuse quite well and it's very overlooked, even to this day among us which is Shameful! My 1st suicide attempt was at 14. Since I knew nothing other than abuse, I married a domestic sadistic abuser. But I have an inspiring story. As a very small child (and one of the few kind things my mother ever did for me) I learned about God and Jesus. I always believed in this Jesus even when I was such a little girl of 3. My faith gave me the resilience to keep going. Yes, I was severely depressed and yes I did make other suicide attempts but then when I was 48, God brought my 2nd husband into my life and he is my connection. Bob has changed my life in so many positive ways and people like you are helping me become more positive every single day. So I humbly thank you for relaying this crucial message. Three cheers for Dr. Allison!
Donna, I'm really sorry for what you had to go through. I think I can relate I have an ACE score of 7. I'm a 27 year old mexican woman dealing with recurrent depression. Spent most of my life thinking it wasn''t that bad because as a kid I didn't go hungry, had a good education, and from the outside everything looked normal. It was really validating albeit painful to learn about ACE and learning about the abusive dynamics at work in my family. It's so wonderful that you have a loving husband. You are strong. You are a survivor. My heart goes out to you. Blessings!!
Every child should be tested for sbuse and trauma in Elementary School and treated for abuse. The results could be lifesaving.
8/10 and I'm trying so hard to heal my "inner child" most if them could have been prevented. Let's not let anyone damage any more children
I love this and I too got distracted at first by what she was wearing, but then I thought...we get so caught up in HOW someone looks and will judge the person before even taking in the moments or the message. *message! So I think this was purposefully done. Well done
Wow! What an amazing woman! Listening to her words gave me such Hope. I will be doing what she suggests we all do very soon, through talks, books, songs, workshops and art. "Connection" is the key to it all now.
Just like the boy Alison speaks about, the medical world failed to see the big picture of my 'adverse childhood life', as did mainstream educational establishments and religious establishments, employers, relationships, some therapists and law people too; the labelling, diagnoses, measurements and metrics were highly restrictive, destructive, and suppressive doctrines for me.
I'm 39 now, and having stuffed away the trauma pain for years, I'm now learning to embrace my Authenticity which is now increasing as my Perception Increases; Awareness of Self returns; Boundaries return; Choice returns; Willpower slowly returning.
I have learned that Self Healing occurs with supportive 'others', who hold unconditional positive regard (Congruence/Person-Centred), also known as Love.
Also increasing is "Melancholia" as deep pain for the rest of humanity who have yet to develop self awareness and stop their denial. The coping mechanisms of shifting responsibility has to stop. As Alison says, "It is not an Us v Them conversation anymore", and "when we get uncomfortable we grow". I know this from my own embracing of Vulnerability and holding space for others to shine theirs too.
My only wish is that more people stop the denial and start to connect with each other lovingly without any judgement or shaming or Why questioning. Some ways in which I have seen our 7-fold body heal the memories: weeping, laughter, intention, and 'electrical' energy shifts. The key is to allow those shifts to occur for each other by making them conscious in whatever way that takes expression.
For me, Transpersonal Art Therapy + Singing + 'Yoga' + Spiritual Ecology + Trust = Reconnection to Humanity and Nature.
Simples. :-)
My latest understanding: "My Body Is A Temple - My Truth Is Sacred - We Are Sacred - The Earth Is Sacred".
I am 21 years old right now and I am still feeling the mental effects of being bullied. Trust me, I've continuously opened up lots of upsetting stories about my teenage past to my father, brother and occasionally a counsellor. I've still got a few more bothersome stories that I have not told or voiced, yet I've gotten so sick of fighting this that I just want to give up. I really can't be bothered to open up anymore nor fight this any longer. It is so sickening! I wish I could no longer be bothered by these voices and flashbacks!
forgiveness will free your heart
It never really goes away, but it's possible to manage it.
thank yo for saying to break the silence.... it can be generational; it's not about blame; it's about healing
fear of not belonging anywhere with others to stay
This made me cry. Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for breaking the silence
So powerful. Great reminder for all of us. Each one of us can make a difference in a child’s life that is riddle with trauma.
What an amazing expression of truth! Connection is the number one need for humans, and for some reason, so many are not getting this message....connect with someone, and you give them the gift of their own humanity come to life...
Thank you thank you thank you. Finally it's being said.
Connection. It all begins with relationships. I cut ties and went on my own. I do have letters behind my name, but learned that with my students. My ACE score is 8.
A PERSON WHO CONNECTS WITH THEM !! THANK YOU FOR THIS!!
I scored a 9 and I'm not sure if I feel like the story she shared makes me feel better or worse. Lol ... but actually my brother went to jail for a day or so when I was 13 so if that counts, that makes 10. 10/10. No wonder. Things make sense now.
I was working as a counselor at an adolescent inpatient facility where I had a 16-year old patient I'll call K. He had a bit of a violent streak--he walked with a cane because he had shattered his ankle kicking another kid in the head, which was what had led to him being court ordered to our facility. He was a tough kid to get to know, and when I thought I was making progress, I would see him suddenly lash out, throw up a wall, or shut down.
One night he blew his temper and attacked another kid. I stepped in and stopped him, then took him down to his bedroom while a colleague called the police. As we waited for the police to come, I stood outside his door, not sure what to say or do. I just calmly talked to him, saying that while he was being arrested and would be leaving in handcuffs, it didn't mean he had to go back to drug use, to the streets, to his previous life. I told him I had been impressed with the progress he was making and thought he could do better using the tools we were giving him. I told him this was a minor setback, not a major problem, and that since he had already detoxed he could get connected with clean and sober people on the outside. He never said anything back and I didn't know if he was listening or not.
That night I went to his room to pack up his belongings and I saw suicidal statements written on his desk and on the walls. I called his mother and informed her of what I read and advised her to keep an eye on him when he was released from custody, as well as to make sure to get him support for his mental health and anger.
Fast forward about a year and I am finishing up my shift, writing my progress notes, when I see a car pull up outside. I see K get out of the car, walking fine, no cane anymore. He sees me through the window and calls out my name. I tell my colleague to be ready to call 911 and I step out onto the front porch. He said he had heard there was a clean/sober party nearby put on by a local AA hall, but he wasn't sure how to get there. From the porch I gave him directions.
He then said, "I haven't drank or used since that night I got arrested and taken away. Come down here and give me a hug. You saved my life!"
Thank you so much. Thank God for successes like you.
So great to see you talking about his important issue! Way to go Dr. Jackson!
I had the pleasure of hearing a live presentation by Dr. Jackson. This is wonderful information. We must stop allowing people to be cruel. Caring people must stand up.
It is my dream to create a true non profit where all funds are controlled by the community. Not one person can ever become rich off of it. The community decides how much goes to development, how much goes to marketing, how much goes to each and every thing. The community moderates everything and everything is exposed and secure at the same time so the world can see the inner working of every single aspect. I would love to use my 21 years of experience developing mobile, desktop and web applications to develop tech that truly serves humanity. What us people need is each other. We all have our own traumas and if we build tech that helps bring us together in love and healing that would change the entire world in so many positive ways. Not just people but also animals. With something true and honest like this all war would go away and all suffering.
I could see she was Kat by how invested she was in that story. Wonderful talk 💗💗
thank you for your story. The gift of connection is the greatest gift of all!
I remember where I used to live and hearing the mother screaming abusively at her young son who came into her bedroom early in the morning. I had already noticed the toys he played with in the garden were not only broken but no longer age-appropriate. When I heard the mother screaming threats at her son I emailed the authorities. I had to email rather than phone because I was crying so much I couldn't speak. It turned out she was already known to the authorities and the boy was returned to his father and she was taken in for medical help. So my email enabled them both to get the help they needed.
Thank you for sharing, you are an angel!
Thank you for posting this, TEDx Talks! 😀
It's such a touching story!As a public school form teacher,I met a lot of kids like those mentioned in the video.With behavior like that,I know they had some difficult time.I reached out.And people around me kept telling me it's not my place to intervene.We're not their parents we cant change their destiny.But this video strengthed my faith.Yeah,everything could be different.Even the hope is dimming,it's hope
"Relationship is the evidence based practice." Love that!
Speaking from personal experience, "these kids" have no clue they are "these kids"! They wet the bed and rock themselves to sleep from toddler age to their teens without ever knowing why. The beatings they suffer are what happens to all kids as far as they know. When they recite their experiences to other adults, no one believes them and treat the story and something fun to hear so again these kids think this is all normal. At 4 I made sure my female babysitter knew, It didn't taste like candy! I learned not to eat with my mouth open when Mom punched me in the face. I got to watch Dad be beat up by two cops while Mom cheered them on. At 6 I got my ribs kicked in for me by Mom and at 9 my head was rammed against the wall a few times by her. I got to brush my teeth for the first time in my life when I was put in child services care at 10. 2 years later I was sent back to Mom despite begging Child services to put me up for adoption with promises the abuse would recurr. 6 Months later my Sisters teacher reports to child services for the bruises all up and down my 8 year old sister's legs. When child services arrived she said to them, "The little Brat fell down the stairs didn't she (Mom looks at me)", "Yes Mommy" I replied and rather then seeing I was under duress by my abuser, the aid worker RAN from the house screaming, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry"
Let me assure you. EVERYONE knows about it. Those in the community are afraid to act and child services arrogantly believe they can rehabilitate the abusive parent and the child aid system has inadequate/Nonexistent checks and balances. Finally, no one believes the child!
Its much easier for government workers run, to look the other way than to investigate, and when the abuse is happening in a 'good family' those government workers never get the call even show up. You are so correct EVERYONE knows its happening. Today, somewhere, another little girl is getting punched in the mouth by her mom, and sadly, no one is going to to help her get away, she will stay home and bear it for years to come.
@@chcamerica22 And society will pay. By way of a person destroyed. In prison. Disempowered, helpless and no one cares.
I would love to meet and spend time with this woman.
Chandra Smith I just want some pants like that!
Fantastic topic - not just a story - but reality of life for many.
This is all completely the truth! I work at a children's home and YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE what happens to OUR children in THIS country!!! DO NOT BE SILENT!!! Protect our kids!
varenea
Amen! ... these children are innocent & precious.😇
We have to fight for their emotional well being & 🙏🕇!
like atoms we are meant to bond.
Satya Krishna what a beautiful way of putting things. I will use this - if you don’t mind! I am a foster parent - this talk has helped to answer so many questions that swirl around my head daily & has given me a sense of validation for the value of my role in my (foster) son’s healing journey. Thank you.
Thank you Allison.
I know where you came from and you are truly a survivor.
My goodness where has this been? Thanks for sharing,
When I realized that, based on the study's statistics & my own ACE score, my lifespan will likely be 2 decades shorter than my counterparts, my immediate emotion was relief. I couldn't bear this suffering *and* being shut up in some wretched nursing home.
fortunately teachers and any professional that witnesses this behaviour are 'mandatory reporters. My niece had over 20 people to take her, er had a young family, I was a police officer, had studies child psychology and didn't think twice. As a Coper I knew that incarceration would be almost automatice. Its been a brilliant arrangement, she sees her family, is smart, talented, bubbly and happy, fortunately very lucky to have fallen on our feet, tough at firt but a wonderfual experience and still cannot comprehend how others could walk away, I love my little girl
i am glad,
that cat,
lived long enough,
to give me this message.
We all struggle with things. The "strong" (I'd like to test them and see how strong they really are) are finding these people and abusing them.
You are the best person on earth. ♥️
9\10, and I I’ve got 4 more years till I’m 18. Maybe my abuser will go to jail before I’m 18 so I can celebrate that perfect 10\10
Jane Doe, I am so sorry. When I was seven, I barely survived a mass murder and am disabled to this day. It's an odd experience to wake up, notice you're bleeding to death, and your two best friends are dead, especially when you're only seven.
These terrible things happen because we are residents of a fallen, cursed world, and ourselves are both victims of this and participants in it. But Jesus Christ, God's only son, has died to redeem us, and will save you ultimately and turn all these curses to blessings and everlasting joy if you believe in him. The nightmarish days will end forever: Christ's resurrection is the guarantee of this.
Breathtaking. Thank you
Thank you Allison
Thank you - Excellent job and courageous story! Much love to you!
Okay gotta say I wasn't expecting that twist.
Great presentation, I'm so impressed! It makes my day, thank you very much
You are Awesome Allison x
I was diagnosed with ADHD and a developmental disability as a kid but that was a misdiagnosis because my mother would lie to the dr and Tell them that there was no history of abuse but my dr found out that I was abused and reassessed and diagnosed with ptsd and depression instead I was never in foster care but lived with my mother and stepfather and some of are tomatoes the father took off and I would often get physically and emotionally abused and my mother and stepfather would were introuble with the law a few times and my stepfather would drink and smoke on a regular basis and so would are roommates and dad was an undiagnosed schizophrenia and my mother had problems with anxiety and depression and so would my brother school wasn't any better either as I got bullied there to both emotionally and even physically yes Ive taken the ace test and scored 10 out 10 and it has had so many nagative effects on me im often depressed and have alot of trust issues and flashbacks and I'm in a couple therapy like talk therapy and trauma therapy for my depression and ptsd and I take medication for depression and anxiety yes it had a big effect on me I'm still recovering from it after over 3 years of therapy it's very difficult
Really..Really good
I've had a pretty bad childhood...and I'm not 18 yet
Don‘t give up before you know what you can become
Leave your abusers. Move in we ith a friend or relative
I have ten ACEs and I just, I don't know what to do anymore with all my mental health issues, my physical health issues. Just all it.
Carla K. ❤️❤️❤️❤️. With you.... please don’t give up❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you ❤️
Excellent talk
I understand this was in foster homes move around foster homes and tell my story if want.
Nice presentation.
Great video
WOW
So, a little odd.... You and I not only share the same name... but we share a very similar story and passion. By the way, I love your outfit. I kept thinking were did she get her shirt and pants. :) Just blowing my mind right now.
Wow...
I honestly clicked on this video for her pants. Hella pockets lmao
swashbuckler woman
I did the same thing - swear. So maybe there's a method to her clothing madness, haha.
I just got a BINGO in the first minute...thought I'd comment before mine eyes be too a'blurr and my fingers tremble
I am a white Canadian man who never went to any foster care home ever who has a score of 9 aces I only lived with mom and my abusive alcholic stepdad I really don't think it matters what race gender what culture who you are where you come from or if you lived with both your parents the entire time anyone can have an ace or even high number of aces not to mention any of the other adverse or traumatic things that people go through later in life or outside of home or other aces not mentioned in the test like losing some on or parents not being around or parents having a medical problems or being bullied at school which I also went through in childhood
hope
I love the strychnine and all but WHAT ARE THOSE PANTS they are wider than my future 😂😂😂😂
I've experienced every single one of the traumas she listed ... EVERY SINGLE ONE
Same. Aces score of 10
I almost wish someone took me away...I was a child a long long time ago, and every knew what was going on in my house, but did nothing...no one even used the term DYFS back then.
Dawn Gambino ❤️❤️❤️❤️
storys about me.
I had a very difficult childhood after my parents got divorced. I did not go to foster homes, but probably would have now. Most of my time I spent trying to help my mom and take care of my siblings...at age 10. Back in the 60's there were no food stamps or other agencies to fall back on. I am 64 now and the only person I can talk to really is the suicide crisis hotline. Every town usually has one. It can be a start when you feel alone and hopeless.
Why is adoption not included on an ace test? Adoption does involve trauma
That plot twist though
I'm gonna hold hope here till you're strong enough to grab it.
I’m an ace score 8
i learned,
from,
you.
wtf i almost had a break down watching this
People abuse me with that sympathy.
Very poignant talk , now let's get the male infant genital mutilation percentage down to or as close to 0 and eliminate trauma rooted in tradition
Religion ruins many things : (
yes and most of that is done in the name of religion or culture and would God have given them a foreskin if it was meant to be removed. It's like a branding and I form of control.
Glad I live in the UK. My grandson is considered normal. He's totally intact
We need to go back to the country side.
I can't tell if she's dressed up as a sumo wrestler or power lifter? is she gunna attack or just do some squats?
Chuck Davis , pajamas, I think.
too funny
she's covered so she's protecting herself, Chuck. Probably from jerks and potential abusers.
wtf is she wearing? looks like a lamp
so glad you were listening, nobody, Oh, you didn't hear the story? ooops...
Who cares what she was wearing?I was listening to the words.
keep it in your head man belittling people doesn't have any productive effect at all
I normally hesitate to reply...I really did not notice what she had on I was busy listening.
Not a very pleasant comment but you must be fighting your own battle. You decided to listen to her talk for a reason, you are looking for healing. May you heal.
Nope not caring about someone else..we are thought not to trust other. It. Don't talk religen..pollitics...don't get help ....i see don't share solidarity...dont bond with others......do be selfish.....
BS the system is set up for failure So people like this can give speeches and tell me how to fix myself without really giving me the tools to fix myself
WOW