Lord, I wish he (Gemini) or his wife would finally file for divorce officially. He told me they were working on it and hopes it will be done soon because his wife started dating again. They've been separated for a long time. We would like to date, but he's working on his trauma in therapy and we recognized it's not a good time to date or commit to anything while he's in that state and limbo, so we allow time and space for healing. Also, I told him the fact he's still married doesn't sit well with me. He knows my standards and boundaries. It's been the most respectful connection I've ever had so far. We can talk about everything openly. So we're just friends and in touch for now. However, I also told him I wished he could fix his marriage/family when he's healing from his trauma, but he told me that is over. I guess time will tell. I wish it was easier. At times, I just want to look the other way.
Keep walking. I had a Gemini who was a serial cheater and I encouraged him to go to therapy because I thought I loved him😅 Tried to set boundaries etc. Eventually he went to therapy and first he used it to get statistics from the therapist about why cheating is "normal"😮🤦🏼♀️ and then after a while he had a revelation in therapy that..... He was still in love with his ex of 5 years who he cheated on! 🙄I told him to go back to her. It was very painful for me as he put me thru a lot and I tried to make him a better person. Fast forward 3 years later with no contact, (I even had to go to therapy to get over the trauma of dating him) and he started watching my IG stories even though he was with the ex again. Yuk. I blocked him. Moral of the story is... Don't trust Gemini men who are entangled with ex. In my experience, they are cheaters and will always be cheaters. We deserve better honey
@@Hzy00 Yeah, I understand and approach it with caution. He's not in therapy for that but due to PTSD from his time in the military. It's not looking good. He's isolating and dealing with lots of anxiety. The trauma caused a dismissive avoidant attachment style, too. So he's working on all of that and doesn't want to hurt me in the process of it. But I cannot wait forever and he doesn't want me to wait for him. He said he wants me to be happy and even suggested he would want to find me a better man. It hurt just hearing that. I'm not looking for anybody. People I liked over time had just stumbled into my life as friends first at some point like he did over a year ago.
@@SaraX2024 honey, dismissive avoidants will always hurt us. Every time. Best to leave this one.. I don't think he is worthy of you. We can't fix these broken men. Trying will just break us too. He has to fix himself by himself and be the one to fight for you. Not the other way around sis. 🩵🩵🩵
My husband left me he’s a addict but trying to get his self together so he says he leaves me all the time I’m done with his BS I feel like he’s Bisexual and I just found a tiny kitten and took it in and nursing it to health
I am ready amen 🙏
Lord, I wish he (Gemini) or his wife would finally file for divorce officially. He told me they were working on it and hopes it will be done soon because his wife started dating again. They've been separated for a long time. We would like to date, but he's working on his trauma in therapy and we recognized it's not a good time to date or commit to anything while he's in that state and limbo, so we allow time and space for healing. Also, I told him the fact he's still married doesn't sit well with me. He knows my standards and boundaries. It's been the most respectful connection I've ever had so far. We can talk about everything openly. So we're just friends and in touch for now. However, I also told him I wished he could fix his marriage/family when he's healing from his trauma, but he told me that is over. I guess time will tell. I wish it was easier. At times, I just want to look the other way.
Keep walking. I had a Gemini who was a serial cheater and I encouraged him to go to therapy because I thought I loved him😅 Tried to set boundaries etc. Eventually he went to therapy and first he used it to get statistics from the therapist about why cheating is "normal"😮🤦🏼♀️ and then after a while he had a revelation in therapy that..... He was still in love with his ex of 5 years who he cheated on! 🙄I told him to go back to her. It was very painful for me as he put me thru a lot and I tried to make him a better person.
Fast forward 3 years later with no contact, (I even had to go to therapy to get over the trauma of dating him) and he started watching my IG stories even though he was with the ex again. Yuk. I blocked him.
Moral of the story is... Don't trust Gemini men who are entangled with ex. In my experience, they are cheaters and will always be cheaters. We deserve better honey
@@Hzy00 Yeah, I understand and approach it with caution. He's not in therapy for that but due to PTSD from his time in the military. It's not looking good. He's isolating and dealing with lots of anxiety. The trauma caused a dismissive avoidant attachment style, too. So he's working on all of that and doesn't want to hurt me in the process of it. But I cannot wait forever and he doesn't want me to wait for him. He said he wants me to be happy and even suggested he would want to find me a better man. It hurt just hearing that. I'm not looking for anybody. People I liked over time had just stumbled into my life as friends first at some point like he did over a year ago.
@@SaraX2024 honey, dismissive avoidants will always hurt us. Every time. Best to leave this one.. I don't think he is worthy of you. We can't fix these broken men. Trying will just break us too. He has to fix himself by himself and be the one to fight for you. Not the other way around sis. 🩵🩵🩵
My husband left me he’s a addict but trying to get his self together so he says he leaves me all the time I’m done with his BS I feel like he’s Bisexual and I just found a tiny kitten and took it in and nursing it to health
My husband is a Taurus
Thank you for the info ❤