"don't fall in love with me. i hate myself, and i can't love someone who loves what i hate" that line by Touko left me awestruck. it was just one of those lines that's just like wow you know?
The fact that this small seemingly unimportant anime is still being talked about almost 2 years after the anime ended and 1 year after the manga ended show just how much of an impact it had on people, it had a massive impact on me I decided to watch the first episode on nothing more but a whim and it changed my life forever.
Mee too. I was not interested at first because I thought Yuu is so average compared to Nanami's visuals ahaha! And I didn't think that they look good together. But when I saw the first episode I completely changed my mind and read the manga in just one sitting.
@@mnemosenecifra3044 Honestly I fell for Yuu from the first time she spoke, I'm aromantic and asexual myself so I felt an instant connection to Yuu. That is also why it had such an impact on me, before I watched bloom into you I had no idea what asexual and so on was I just thought I was weird after watching it a lot of things fell into place for me.
Exactly man me too. It's because of this anime and manga, i finally understood some of my actions and feelings I had back then. Best romance manga and my favorite manga of all time
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Yuu is surprisingly open to kissing, and claims to find it pleasant, even before feeling a romantic connection with Nanami. I would not call her demisexual, but demiromantic.
@@unstablepc5913 Demisexual people don't need a romantic connection per say, nor even a super deep one, just a connection. It depends on the person of course but me, as a demissexual and demiromantic, if I can see the person as a friend it's already enough for sexual attraction to happen
I remember watching this anime when it came out and I kept telling myself “ I do not like girls but this anime seems interesting”. Turns out I’m bisexual lmao but I had internalized homophobia
As someone who is aromantic... when I first watched Bloom into You, I identified with Yuu a lot. I'm not quite a 'completely happy without romance' aro. I don't actually relate to Maki at all in that way. To me, romance sounds great, it sounds like something I could want if I did like someone romantically and I love a good romance story. I've just never felt that way about anyone and the times people have been interested in me have only made me uncomfortable. And while Yuu and I differ -- her story arc goes in a very different direction to my life, as I've still never developed feelings for anyone and have become pretty certain I never will and am still coming to terms with that -- she's one of maybe three characters I've ever related to in media when it comes to romance, the other two being explicitly aromantic characters, and Bloom into You still hits in a way no other romance does. So thank you for this video, aromanticism is a topic that gets so rarely touched upon in media discussions so it's refreshing to hear and while I can't relate to you in many ways, your perspective on the topic has given me a lot to think about. I'm still not done on my personal journey of discovery and I wish you all the best on your own
Can I ask who the other two aromantic characters you related to are? As you said, aromantism is so rarely talked about in anime and even when there are aro characters, it's never explicitly told so I'm left with only my interpretation. My personal interpretation is Kageyama from Haikyuu is aro-ace, and it's completely plausible too since the author rarely mentions relationships and aro me could relate to him.
@@Berries20 They're not anime characters I'm afraid (if there's any canonically aro anime characters, someone please let me know ;__; In anime/manga I've only come across Anonymous in Shimanami Tasogare and only the word asexual is actually used there, not aromantic, though the way it's talked about seems to imply she's aromantic) but I was thinking of Felicity from The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy and the few screenshots I've seen of Jughead being an Aro Mood TM from the Archie Comics reboot (yeah, not even read the latter myself so maybe I shouldn't count it haha). Again, in neither case is the word aromantic used on the page (in the Lady's Guide I believe it's because it's a 17th Century setting and the term didn't exist then) but both are heavily implied to be aromantic asexual and/or confirmed to be written to be aroace (a lot time is devoted to showing how Felicity isn't interested in anyone and Jughead is called asexual by another character and talks about how he doesn't get crushes). I haven't seen Haikyuu yet but that definitely makes me more curious about checking it out! It's always fun when you find a character without romantic relationships that you can relate to like that. For me, I see Senku from Dr Stone as aroace because that series makes a point to emphasise his lack of interest in romance, though of course there's nothing confirmed there.
It is deep and confusing since when something feels deep you can’t explain why it was or how because everyone’s perspective and experience with something like that is always a little different
@@namkhanhinhngoc3257 it's been two years but I got you the answer after chapter 25 is where I would go if u just finished watching the anime I've read bloom into you 17 times
“If I wasn’t allowed to look how I wanted to look, be who I wanted to be, what point was there in caring? Why think about what can’t be changed?” Hit me so hard
No but seriously. That’s literally exactly how I feel about my life, I feel like I’m just a fantasy of what my mom wants me to be. But if I fail to meet those expectations, I’m a failure. I’ve always felt my feelings are being ignored and when confronting my mom about it, she just mentions her expectations again
@@1111gjhfscvhdsh dam that’s pretty deep that you try to confront about the expectations but you just can’t. It can hurt just try and give yourself expectations that you can reach and then little by little make them bigger. Will be a lot easier than doing it all at once and then if you reach hers and you still have those expectations of hers in your head then it will help that you accomplished them and did something.
When I first read the batting cages scene, I hated Maki. He'd spent so long seemingly telling Yuu what she was feeling, even after she tried to come to an understanding with him earlier. It bothered me a lot, and him saying they aren't alike was hard, cause it felt like he was saying he was *nothing* like Yuu, when I and a lot of other people recognized that she's demiromantic. And then i heard your interpretation, how hard it must be to have people treat your identity as a choice, as a fall-back plan, and it all fell into place. Maybe it's because I'm used to disregarding my own feelings for the sake of other people, and I *am* like Maki, at least, I'm aroace. So, for that and so much more int his analysis, thank you.
As someone who has a problem about feeling "love" towards someone as deeply as many others do, this video resonates with me deeply. I thank you for making this video and sharing it with many others as you do. Your work is greatly appreciated and I look forward to your next video.
Honestly i agree,for the first time in my life i am able to be sure that i am not the only one who is like this and it actually helps me a lot as i don't know who i am myself. I get anxious whem i am talking to othes i over analysis thing people say to me or do and i wanna have friends (as in trusting someone with a lot of things rather than just likeing to be around someone) and at the same time scared and hesitant to have friends and i have never had a crush at a same time i wanna be loved and i wanna love all in all i have very hard time finding about who ia am and it helps me to know that they are people who are atleast a bit similar to me. (Honestly i just said what i felt and i would like to thank you as you gave me to the chance to write about my insurities i feel a lot better and feels like i just took a load that on me)
@@voidslayer66 Everyone is different and there is no problem with that. You have to love yourself for who you are and what you can do. Sometimes it is also very reassuring that some people might feel the same, makes you feel less alone in this world we live in and if you can find some good in the fact that there are people out there experiencing the same feelings to some degree then that's great. I am glad you got to let some of your feelings out and feel better
What almost made me cry about this anime were the older couple who were girlfriends and living together ❤. Maybe it's bc I'm in my early twenties and closer to them in age than yuu and touko.
The more I grow up, and the more I rewatch and reread this story, the more drastically I relate to Yuu. Back when I first watched the anime, back during the beginning of the Pandemic, I started my first ever relationship, and... it was... interesting. I don't think I felt love, exactly, during that time, but there was an enjoyment of spending time with someone who was so dedicated and affectionate toward me, and I enjoyed having someone to lean on and who was there for me. They and I are still dating now, in 2024, and it took.... months, almost a year, but I truly, truly started to love them after a while, and it... felt good. It feels good, frankly. Recently, I asked them to marry me, and they said yes. Years ago, I couldn't even dream of feeling this way to someone, but a lot of time and effort made the dull sparks of enjoyment I felt for my partner erupt into a wildfire I could never dream. Back when I first watched this show, I related to everyone, but no one more so than Yuu. Now, having read the book and re-watched the anime and books over a half dozen times, I relate to Yuu even more, but for a drastically different reason than before. I love these characters, and I miss them.
This anime is awesome, and the later half of the series in the manga makes it even better. One of the best romance/coming of age stories I've ever experienced.
Dude, I think this video just helped me realize I might be demiromantic. Ya see, I've only really had two crushes, and now that I really think about it, those two crushes might not actually be genuine. Well, let me explain. I figured out I was a lesbian about 2 years ago. Since then, I've only had those two "crushes". The first was developed after we ceased contacted. It was a girl I had become friends with for a year, before she changed schools. Then, when I realized I was gay, I thought, wow, that girl had some similar interests as me, as well as a similar kind of humor, she's perfect! So, I kinda maintained that I had a crush on this girl, even though there was a very lacking emotional connection. Next, the second crush. This was more recent. I had recently started talking to a girl on discord who was part of my GSA. We barely talked, but after establishing that we had several similar interest, I was like, wow, that girl has some similar interests as me, as well as a similar kind of humor, she's perfect! Yeah, after not contacting that second crush in a bit, and having not talking to that first crush for a couple of years (besides a random encounter), and having just watched a bit of this video, I no longer think I have a crush on either of them. Just like before figuring out I was gay, I fabricated a crush. I think I was just being too idealistic. Wow, really thinking about it, I don't think I've actually had a crush. Woah. But, I don't think i'm full on aromantic. I think having a relationship would be nice, although I don't think right now would be a convienent time to have one, as I'm kinda facing some of my own issues, and can't really deal with the burden of a relationship. Plus, I barely talk to anyone, so how tf would I find someone I was interested in to date? But that's irrelevant. So, I think I'm demiromantic. When it comes to fiction, I've always really enjoyed romances where some sort of relationship (especially friendship) is set up before any romance happens. It just feels wrong if they don't build up the relationship beforehand, and now I think I get why. I think I, personally, could only really get with someone who was a close friend who I had known for awhile. Wow. I'm learning a lot about myself today. The real reason why I haven't developed any crushes before is that I haven't really had many close friends before. No friend has ever been that close to me, and the ones that almost got to that point, well, I just happened to not be romantically interested in them. But yeah, that's it. Sorry for the massive essay, I tried breaking it up into more digestible pieces, so it should be easier to read. Bye.
I'm glad that videos like this help people find more truth in themselves! It makes me feel closer to other human beings than the usual "The world is a dark and horrible place" kind of vibe that I get a lot of the time, even though that it's totally not true. I'm glad that things like this could, not only be hella interesting to watch, but also very informative and helpful. This type of content really helps others, and I hope it can shed some light on a lot of topics. Anyway, I guess the whole conclusion that I wanted to point out is that I agree with you! This video really informed me on a lot of topics I never heard of or didn't hear enough talked about. And I'm glad to see that it helped others.
I think everyone's demiromantic. You can't really fall in love with anyone that you don't know. If so it surely would be just attraction, not love or something "romantic"
@@Night-ud4ew You litterally CAN'T fall in love with someone you don't know, hence, you can't fall in love with someone who you don't have an emotional bond with.
@@nurialdym emotional bond does not mean "ive seen their face before" 🤣🤣🤣 i think you are very confused, i agree. You may in fact be demiromantic, or maybe you've never met a person that is attracted by someone's looks/never heard of the ol' "i dont know their name, but im sure it was love at first sight" if you truly believe everybody needs an emotional connection.
Aww, sweetie... as a fellow young trans woman who's spent a lot of time trying and failing to figure myself out--and as someone who really adores this anime--I absolutely think this video has a right to exist. I'm sure that even a thousand positive comments would be incapable of actually changing the way you feel about yourself, but know that I appreciate you. I hope you keep making content, so long as you're able and it remains a positive thing for you.
I'd just like to say that this manga has always meant a lot to me; I first started reading it around when it was first officially translated over here in the west around four years ago. I believe I was in seventh or eighth grade, and now I'm in twelfth grade. I remember all of the initial excitement of the first few volumes coming out and I would reread some of the volumes at least two times; it was one of my major comfort series. Even when I read the last two volumes in I believe the same sitting, it made me feel at home and happier. I can remember mostly where I got each volume, whether it was online or at my local bookstore. I also remember hiding it from my parents with other series of manga and I can't forget the confused stares I would get from the cashiers. Ironically, I've cared less now than I'm older what they think. Personally, though the anime wasn't what I wanted it to be, it isn't bad. Regardless, Bloom Into You is one of my favorite series on my shelf. I also liked the first volume of the Saeki Sayaka light novels and I plan to get them all :). Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.
Yes same I find pleasure in Bloom into You because I can relate to a lot of the characters and it just makes me feel better because I know that other people do the same and are drawn to this manga/anime. It takes away that feeling that I am just weird or just pretty messed up by things happening
Also the way you hide the manga from your parents does spark me to feel relatable towards you since… you really can’t show or express this towards your parents so easily unless of other reasons.
I am an aromantic person and this show has helped me to better understand myself. it's been a hard year for me when I watch bloom into you made me look in the shoes of others how they pursue love
Bloom into You helped me learn why I was rejecting people's love. While it was learned too late to save my marriage, it has shown me how I need to grow. Thanks for making this! It reminded me of those important lessons.
I never felt more connection to characters I didn't even saw before. I'm demiromantic and demisexual (bi) and that pressing feeling of "I want to love" crushed by that "I don't feel like others do" always messed in my head, the pain of missing out with the problem of not understanding what is "wrong" why can't I just be like others. sadly the first time I finally managed after years of friendship, to feel something, (even tho they were recipcuted, were not a good experience, since that person was the only one I ever felt any romantic or sexual attraction to in my entire life, it was easy for them to manip/te me, since I just wanted to know that feeling of love so much, to be like everyone else. so it turned kinda ab/sive.) when you are on the very end of the Ace Aro spec you start to question why are you the only one that can't feel the same as everyone else, and when you finally find this feeling, you want to hold on even if it burns you in the process. So I really liked Yuu and her prespective, wanting to have those feelings so much, trying so hard to not miss out, yet not being able to actually feel them. I'm kinda sad there wasn't that feeling of "blame" mentioned. "I don't love them enough, that's why they feel more than me" is something that goes constantly in your mind. "something must be wrong in you if you can't love" feeling is a really shitty thing to have that continue till you finally feel something you believe is love, and even than "Do I love them like they do to me?" "Am I just playing with them trying to be with them becouse I WANT to love them and not because I actually do?". And so, you are stuck in an endless cycle, questioning, "Do I actually love them- or do I just want to do it?" so basically: Love is weird, fuck love, LOL, I rather pizza.
Hello, yeah I can relate to this as I’ve only felt something to 1 person and yet it’s been years and I still have them in my head and nothing else. It scares me that if I do confess they will just turn their back to me or even hurt our relationship as friends. Or that they just don’t express the same feelings to me and it plays with my mind as I find that they might… so it’s loop just like you said, do I want to love or do I actually love them. But also another for me of, do they also have feelings for me and maybe I’m just too insecure to express myself.
Something that helped me as someone on the aroace spectrum was accepting that experiencing a genuine, fulfilling type of love isn't exclusive to romantic relationships or relationships involving romantic attraction. There are many kinds of love, all of them profound in their own ways, each of them so nuanced. There is no path to feeling complete better than getting to understand and accept yourself for what *you* really want, what's most important to you. That's the love that no one can take away from you.
2023-2024 i still see people talking about this. I loved it. I hope in the far future i can see someone who can see past my mask i hide under, and are dedicated in building a future with me.
this shows how important shows and movies and books are they help and change people and its so nice to see it help such a good guy all we need now is for the media to understand that
When you quoted Paramore I could have screamed, I too realized how that song can be applied perfectly to Yuu and myself. I relate to a lot of what you said. When I first read Bloom Into You I think I was 15 (I came back to it as I found out about the novels) and I remember bonding with Yuu instantly. Her high expectations of love, her romanticized view of it, and then going out into the real world and having to discover the depths of her heart herself... Literally me. About Sayaka, I could talk about her for hours but to summarize - "thank you, next" by Ariana Grande.
anime plots are just so much better than actual real tv shows. like i don’t care about the art or looks it’s just the plot and storyline i love. yet we get judged so much bc of how anime lovers are portrayed on the internet but i love bloom into you it really explained to you what love is and it hits hard
Wonderful video, I'm sure Nakatani would be happy to hear her work has had such an impact on you. And I look forward to seeing your further explorations of Bloom into You!
I always have to hold back the tears when thinking about this show. I want season 2 so bad. (Edit) Yeah, Maki is awesome. Your analysis on him was so well done. No other review on this show covered him like you did.
This is so important!! We rarely see aromantic characters in media, less of all demiromantic characters or those that fall in the grey spectrum 👏💚. Thanks for making this video!! I'm glad to not be the only that sees Yuu as an arospec
honestly, as a person also experiencing aromanticism while watching this show, this show was like a support beam for me, it helped me discover and explore my over relationships, an find my place on the spectrum of asexual and aromantic, and it holds a special place in my heart for that
There's something powerful about the way you chose to express your connection to this piece of media, and words can't express what this means to me. Thank you for sharing your experience and for making this video.
I also projected myself on Touko and espacally Yuu, since I first read Yagakimi and felt simular. Right now I'm dating a former friend and now partner, whom I knew for almost 5 years and it took another 6 months after my confession to when we really started dating. In that time and also sometimes now I'm still really unsure how I feel. It's not nearly as dazzeling as I tought it would be, or as I want it to be, and at times I wonder if it's truely love. And that mix of feelings from lovestruck to normal is just confusing and to a certain degree terifing. It makes me think about our relationship in a way I don't want to. It makes me wonder if it love my partner or if l'm just longing to have someone at my side, no matter who. We don't see each other very often, as we are both busy with school and university plus a little bit of pandamic here and there and these toughts just grow in the the time we spend alone. I only talked about this with two of my friends and not even to the full extend and not yet with my partner. When we meet it's just that all of this unsureness fades away and is replaced by a feeling of calm as long as we're together. But once l'm back home it comes back. l guess l have to evantually find a solution for this and l'm not content with things as they are but l'm also hesitant to come out with these feelings to my partner. It's just sometimes easier to talk to no one specific under a video that resonated with me than actully talk to your partner or a friend. Sorry to take your time and thank you for listening.
This is very similar to my situation. I don't know why but it felt very relieving to know that I'm not alone in that aspect, so thank you for sharing. I've been dating my former best friend, now boyfriend, for a few months now after knowing him for a little over a year. But I still can't make sense of my feelings for him. I know that I care deeply for him, but it's not in the same way it's portrayed in media. I'm in a constant state of confusion about it, wondering if my feelings for him really is love. This has always been the case for me, I have never been able to tell if I like someone as something more than a friend. I've been mostly 'going with the flow' up until now and tried out to be in a relationship with a guy because I longed for closeness and it was convenient. I wanted a cute relationship, just like in all the fluffy manga, movies, and series. Unfortunately, I realized that I had been taking advantage of this guy's feelings and that I never really felt anything for him in the first place. So I broke up with him the day after I realized that. I wasn't even sad about it, but it feels like I should have been and like there is something wrong with me for being indifferent. Or maybe not indifferent, I was happy (but that feels very weird to say in this context). I just started to dread every moment I spent with him, I could no longer stand the closeness that I had longed for before. The thought of kissing him made me repulsed, not that he was a bad person or wasn't attractive (he was quite attractive imo). I just realized that it was definitely NOT what I wanted. Maybe I'm asexual? I don't know, and it may sound harsh but I really hope I'm not because it feels like it can complicate and hinder my future relationships. It also wasn't up until just recently, a few months back, that I also realized my complicated feelings also were the case for girls. Maybe it was just because of internalized homophobia or something that I just assumed that I was straight. But if I really look back on my feelings I think I had a crush on a girl when I was younger, though I of course didn't recognize or understand what I was feeling at the moment. She also kinda treated me like shit, but that's not the point. I haven't told anyone else about this though. I also wonder if I'm really asexual when it comes to girls? I don't feel uncomfortable or repulsed when a girl touches me, actually the opposite, but maybe it's because there are no assumed romantic feelings or attraction. Feels nice to scream out into the void like this (even though it also feels childish, like I'm talking to myself). I'M NOT STRAIGHT! (but I wonder if my friends will still accept me if they knew. They probably would, they are really accepting people. But I guess they wouldn't expect me to be anything but... straight? or is that just my internalized homophobia again? I really thought I didn't have any but I'm starting to second guess myself) What complicates matters more is that I'm extremely averted to any kind of physical contact even with him, I don't even think I'm physically attracted to him (or anyone else for that matter) and I don't know if I will ever be able to. I'm not even sure of my feelings when I'm with him and my hot /cold behavior has caused him needless pain, though I'm trying to be more honest with him and with myself. Luckily we can talk to each other about anything, even if it's difficult or hard. He knows all of this I've written, except the liking girls-part. Perhaps he will decide to break up because the one thing he needs is consistency. But consistency is the only thing I cant give him right now. At least I know we will still be friends after, we know each other too well to ever drift apart. He is the only one I have ever been vulnerable with, which sounds very sad. I would say I'm the 'straight A' model student and I have quite a lot of friends, but I know that I keep everyone outside my thick protective walls. I guess I just really relate to Touko in that way. My boyfriend was the only one I could rely on when something really bad happened to me (because the problem was extremely personal and I couldn't tell anyone about it, but it just so happened that he knew about it). Sounds a bit pathetic to ?get a crush? on the guy who 'saved me'. ( i still don't know if my feelings are romantic, which you could say is cold-hearted of me since we are in a relationship. But he knew this when he asked me, and he knows this now.) I'm just a weird confusing mess of different labels I'm trying to see if I fit into. Straight? no. Bi? probably?. Lesbian? Probably not but could be. Ace? Probably, but maybe not? Demi? What. I'm also just ready to give up labels at all since they don't seem to work for me. I mean, I don't even understand the most basic of attractions: platonic or romantic. I might look back on this one day and think I was childish trying to fit into some predetermined mold, but I guess I would just take comfort in that the mold exists and that I'm not alone. Even though I know it's an irrational fear to have. Out of the billions of humans out there, at least someone is expected to feel approximately the same way. I don't really know where I was going with this, it's 3.30 AM and I'm really tired. I guess I just really wanted to vent about my problems into the void. To whoever is reading this: You are not alone. Thank you
@@silverhawk1045 That last bit really got to me and I wanted to share as well My situation has is a bit similar to yours. I wanted to have someone but I just feel like I can’t bring anyone close enough because I’m too shy, scared, or insecure. As I look more to the risk of being closer to someone and trying to bring down borders/ walls with them and actually be open with others without risking anything being leaked with them not being trustworthy or them not wanting to be like that. I wish I could be in the situation you’re in as you actually have someone you can be “vulnerable” and open with and that they actually had feelings for you. I’ve longed for something even just remotely close to that as I imagine the person I love to love me back and be able to express myself with them. But well we can’t always have what we want, you have the problem of not necessarily taking what you have because of being either demi, ace or just a different gender. But for me it’s actually getting into that relationship and then seeing if it does workout. I’ve been loosing hope as that person was as close as I’ve managed to be with them about 3 years ago. Maybe me being the way I am such as promising myself to be the most loyal I can be to them now hurting me as I feel like I can’t move on or keep going forward.
@@JonathanB139 I'm touched that my comment reached you, thank you for responding. I think we are both those kinds of people who have a hard time actually opening up to others/and or we are scared to get hurt if we do. But I actually think that the only surefire way to get a close friend is to open up first about something. Like "Hey, we've been friends for a while now and I just wanted to let you know I'm having a hard time." or something similar. If the person is interested in having a deeper friendship with you they will absolutely take the time to make sure you are listened to. Ive been working on breaking down my own walls for a little over a year now and I can say that I've progressed a lot by going out of my comfort zone. Just small steps, one by one as the opportunity arises. It has really helped me grow more confident and self-assured as a person; for a long time I've disliked myself but that has changed now. Dont feel like you have to be someone because of another person. Its good to be loyal but don't give your loyalty to people who haven't deserved it. I don't have the context to your relationship with this person but just realise that you cant wish something into existence even if you want it really badly. But that isn't to say that you shouldn't take chances and go for it if you feel like that is what you wanna do. Do some self reflection and think to yourself if you wanna go forward with this person, or if you want to let them go. Do whatever makes you happier. Both me and my boyfriend, now ex-boyfriend, realised that our relationship made us more unhappy than it made us happy. My hot/cold behaviour really hurt him and also myself. We decided together to take a week's pause and then decide what to do. We talked a lot about it and we decided to break up but stay as friends. That was something that we talked about before going into the relationship: whatever happens we will still be friends afterwards. We've been separated for two months now and I haven't regretted the decision a single day. Both of us have moved on from that 'romantic' relationship and we still love each other platonically. I actually never did love him as more than a friend. I said that it was unlikely in my first comment but after a lot, A LOT, of introspection I've realised that I'm actually a lesbian and its the best and simultaneously words revelation that I've discovered about myself. It was so relieving to realise that I had the option to have an emotionally fulfilling relationship with someone, instead of being with men that made me unhappy and repulsed. But it has also been extremely difficult to accept and comprehend because of a lot of internalised homophobia, lesbophobia and misogyny. Ive had to dissolve years of toxic knowledge to be able to accept who I am. But I finally feel like myself now. However, I'm still very scared of letting other people know my orientation and I'm working up the courage to be open with it. Until then its going to be very difficult for me to find the loving relationship that I want and I feel very lonely. I think its important for both me and you to know that there will be people in the future that is going to love us for who we are. I wish you good luck with your life and I hope you can find your happiness.
@@silverhawk1045 thanks for sharing this to me and I feel great being opened up to and being talked to as to what my understanding of who I am is kind of about. And well that person I love well I’ve been pretty close friends with for a probably over a year and one of the closest persons I’ve had ever. I’m glad you had found yourself and decided what to do but as for me I still need to see if I can ever really reach out to them as when I first had feelings for them I didn’t really think much of it and thought it was because they were close, nice, and dear to me. Later on around this time I found it was probably because I wanted someone to love and have someone I could open with which is one thing I’m doing right now so thank you for listening and responding. I really haven’t let them loose and I don’t think I ever will till I have done something such as express myself or find someone fresh who I can really see who they are and if they are who I would want. It also scares me that I have lost definition to who they are and are different from who they actually are or have changed. And as you did i would want to still be close as I can to them even if only platonically.
@@silverhawk1045 This is a reason I watch videos like this and of other anime that are similar as I can see the emotions, see how I react then evaluate how I am and well it has worked for me. Good for you that you found out who you are and cleared things up for your relationship and yes finding out you are homosexual can be pretty hard especially if you were having a heterosexual relationship. I hope you too can find a person who would fill that gap of not having someone who you can trust and love. Edit: don’t wanna add too many comments so making this one longer: So I don’t know where you are in your life right now but I’m guessing that not near the starting kid the older side. Well as for me I feel like I’m way too young as I’m on the age that I’m considered young but should be growing up towards adulthood. And well the pros at are: I now am experienced in this and have it at a time I can deal with it with no major issue, my mind is still fresh, I may adapt to it easier than if I was older, and I now find myself and deal with this now than later. Cons? I’m too young. Maybe something went wrong and I got this too early. Or I’m just speed-running my mentality unintentionally.
I first started watching _Bloom into You_ assuming it would be just another slice of life yuri, but then I gradually realized just how deep it was. I think when I first heard what the plot of the play was going to be is when I fully realized just how deep and good and incredible this anime was.
Rejection is literally just a clarifier that that person is not the one, and now you don’t have to wonder and move forward until you actually meet the right person, because the right person will always say yes.
Recently saw this video get a 100K views and I was really surprised and came back to comment. This is probably my favorite video on RUclips. Despite this being a "small" anime/manga, I'm so glad that my favorite series of all time, not just Romance, gets this much love from people who has seen it. I love everything in this video. I can't explain how much I love this series enough, how thankful I am for finding it and how much I cried when It ended . I really wish this series gets a season 2 and more attention. I'll never ever forget these characters and the story who has helped me to to be the person I am today. I hope to be able to make a video about this series one day with an audience that will listen and understand. This video is EXTREMELY well done. Congrats for 100k views, hopefully this video gets more attention. 1M views next? Lmao Tl:dr read and watch Bloom Into You, imo it's the best romance series and forever will be my favorite series of all time.
Season 2 would would bring so much talk about some amazing chapters that follow, i just recently realized how much an anime adaptation elevates a work while I was searching for analysis for the manga's later half( did not find much success)
I relate to this video a lot, I still am unsure of who or what I am, gender, sexuality, or romanticity wise, but this video opened my mind to things that I wouldn't have thought of on my own. Thank you for making this video and opening my horizons
3 years later. I rewatched it. Completely finished it this time. Satisfied with the ending i guess. Honestly bloom into you is stuck in my heart. I am feeling sad that it ended and happy at the same time.
This really did say the things I couldn’t figure how to say when trying to get my friends to read what is easily my favorite manga and book of all time. Well done.
This video actually helped me realize and sort of come to terms with the fact that the me who chose labels 6 years ago is not the same person that I am today. I'm not exactly sure of what I feel and never have been, but choosing those labels made me feel like I had to be a sort of stereotype of that label. I don't really think I feel like that anymore. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video!! I didn't expect to identify with your position so much, but I really, really do. I am not aromantic, but I don't develop crushes often, and the ones do develop tend to be in situations which don't lend themselves to pursuit. I am not aromantic, but I have made the conscious choice not to pursue romantic relationships, since I'm not prepared to be vulnerable like that with anyone yet. I am also planning my life around being single, since I really can't be sure that I'll ever find someone. I feel sometimes like I am failing at my sexuality/orientation because I'm not acting on any of my attractions. I am envious of my aromantic friend, because she can be happy with a situation which I can only ever be at peace with. I guess I just wanted to share this, since this video is one of the only pieces of media I've ever consumed which acknowledges this feeling. Also, I do think this video is a sort of analysis! It's just that, instead of using your own knowledge to better understand a show, you're using the show's knowledge to better understand yourself. Which is super cool and also very much valid!!
Ever since I found your first video on Gon and Killua's friendship, to the firm yet understanding criticism of Togashi's work around trans identities, to this video, all of your ideas have resonated with me and I personally do believe that there is value to adding your own ideas and experiences to what you talk about. Everything I've watched from your chanel has stayed with me in one or another way, and this video in particular has endeared your work to me I don't mean to be overbearing with this, sorry if it is a little awkward to read, but genuinely, thank you. Thank you for your ideas, your work, and for taking the risk to put them out there, I promise there is great value to what you have expressed here and in your other videos
I very rarely comment on RUclips videos, but I stumbled upon this video after finishing Bloom Into You and after watching it, I had the overwhelming need to cry from relief. Everything you mentioned in your video about your struggles in relationships and with love is exactly how I've felt for *years*. I never had the words to explain this feeling, and I'm still finding it hard to understand it now, but Bloom Into You and your video are the only things that I've been able to relate to. Even the experience you had with your first crush is exactly what happened and how I felt when I had my own first (and only) crush. It's been 4 years since I last spoke to my first crush, and yet I still think about her to this very day. I'm rambling a bit but I just want to say thank you so much for posting this video because it helped me so much more than you'd realise.
This one right here, officer! This is the video that made me cry! I absolutely love hearing other people’s perspectives on love and feelings. It’s really helpful to hear. So thank you for sharing, not just because it was good for you but because it helped me understand some of my feelings too. :)
This hits hard and i can't overstate how much it means to me. It feels like I heard myself in you in this video. That's something. you've grown, and I've grown from a similar place from your first bloom into you video. hell, we even are in a similar age range, and in which we're both processing who we are and what we want. Thank you for this video. Thank you for being brave and genuine and confused. I really needed this right now. Thank for for this gift, to yourself, and to us, your viewers.
Good to hear your thoughts on the series again. As for me, I'm pretty sure I am aromantic and I'm still grateful to this series for making me stop and finally have that one on one talk with myself.
I love bloom into you, the first time i watched it,i just loved it so much for its beautiful animation and the storyline but now seeing your video which is in itself very beautiful, i have another love for this anime and the meaning it has for others
As a person who's not aromantic, I've often wondered why exactly they were acting like they do and I guess I understand a lot better now.. So thank you. I was already really touched by the middle of this video, feeling like my younger self growing up not understanding my self at all. It all made sense when coming out as trans later on, so it really blew my mind when you started to talk about the same topic
Very insightful video. Thank you for making this, it has made me come to a conclusion of where my stand-point on romance is. I've never dated anyone except for the occasional 'crushes' that i force upon myself to fit in with people. Though i do find people physically attractive but attraction wise- not so much. I don't yearn for love nor will I ever seek it. I find that the people whom i already have by my side (friends, family, etc.) have a way higher ranking in my life than a romantic partner. Though, I do still enjoy romantic and fluffy shows such as Bloom into you, Cherry magic, and The summer you were there, I've never really desired to feel the same way. One could even say that I relate to Maki more than i relate to Yuu but who knows, aromantic is a spectrum and not everyone's experiences are the same.
I had goosebumps watching this honestly, its explained so many things I was so curious about and didn't understand thank you so much for making this video.
thank you so much for this video. I am about to cry right now, I feel so not alone if that makes since lmao. But I feel exactly like how Yuu does, I feel extremely lonely and I want to feel attraction, but I can't you know? And I wish I could feel attraction more often because its hard to lie to my friends when they ask me "if I like anybody". one time around a year ago I felt so pressured because a bunch of people were trying to get me to like this one person, I did not feel any attraction to them, but I ended up lying to people saying "I liked them" just to make myself feel better, that only lasted a month until I realized what I was doing was wrong. I really want to feel attraction to this one person right now, but I cant. I feel as though I am missing out on something. I also dont want to go by any labels because nothing feels right. So thank you for making me feel not alone about this subject, and sorry if I vented a little bit.
8:55 - 10:23 I am in literal tears right now, you just put everything that has been jumbled in my mind into words. Every sentence felt like you were reaching into my very soul, pulling the things out that I buried deep inside me. I only recently found out that I'm considered Demisexual and Demiromantic, I always felt like there was something wrong with me as so many people have been interested in me so quickly while I felt nothing. I only ever truly felt love once, with someone who was my whole world at the time. We grew up together and were attached to the hip close, I've never felt that way with anyone since. The only other time I ever felt any sort of attraction (it was minimal at best) was with people I was emotionally connected to in some way. I'm okay with saying I'm Demi, Its help me accept who I am, that how I feel isn't a mistake, but I don't know if a label will ever truly convey how I feel. You saying that you struggle with making connections and that you want to be liked by everyone but you put up barriers between you and others made me feel really seen for the first time. The whole explanation of your relationships made me realise its something I never let myself think about, but it's true. I keep everyone away, I never let anyone too close because I'm terrified that they will hurt me, even feeling like I'm a burden to them. Some people I allow past more of my walls than others, but once they reach that second or last wall, I cut them off completely. 10:06 I haven't felt true romantic love, and I've grown to be okay with that. Even now people keep chasing me though, and I only end up hurting them. I feel nothing, and they just don't understand. With my crush we'd been really close for years, then one day it just hit me. Just like you, my feelings towards my childhood crush just appeared. 17:29 I've never dated either, but that crush took 6 years to fully get over. 17:59 I've tried using things like dating apps, it always feels wrong. 18:41 You saying that just kinda woke me up just now, it may be the same case for me too. And basically, everything you have said after is just a big MOOD because same. And the ending was beautiful, you have a wonderful way with words. I just wanna thank you, you have with one video talking an anime I haven't watch (which I will now do so) opened my eyes and unpacked some of the heavy things I've been feeling. So thank you so much, I hope things get better for you.
I just wanted to say that this video reflects a lot of my own feelings about love and relationships. I've never dated anyone before, and I constantly question whether or not I might be asexual/aromantic, whether or not I've had crushes or just people I like as friends, do I even want to date anyone, and so on. I really like your bench warmer metaphor. Just know that I relate pretty closely to what you are going through, and this video has mede me feel like I'm not overthinking like I often dismiss myself as doing, so thank you ☺️
Dude, this video made me cry, what the hell. Thanks for your content man. It's more than half of 2021 and I just came across this vid thanks to RUclips's algorithm. Thank you so much.
im just gonna say this tia ballard did yuu beautiful, i love the actress and well as the character (who is one of my waifus now) she did a tara strong performance. even that will impress the queen of equestria herself
I just got so emotional after finishing this video - you verbalized everything I've been feeling for the longest time. I truly felt alone, but to hear that you are going through the same emotions and life experiences as me has made me feel less lonely. Never have I felt more understood by a video about an anime that I havent even watched yet (I definitely will watch it) You said you wanted to one day impact others the same way that the mangaka has impacted others, but you don't have to say one day anymore because you've impacted your audience by making these videos, in which you share your truths and heart with us Thank you so much for this. #newsub
*That moment when a Mathwiz video being by Mathwiz is enough to make me click the video, but then they start talking about worries over what sort of content to make* You could start by reading the phonebook. This would be sufficient.
I adore this anime so so SO much. I need more but cannot find anything like it. I love how it was about the characters and their growth, with actual good representation, no sexualization or fetishization. Finding something that at least is 2/3 of those things is near impossible
i relate to literally everything you said, this is the first time i actually could see myself in a character/someone else. it feels so weird to see that i'm not the only one who feels like this - weird in a good way. i can't believe i actually cried watching this... woah... (english is not my first language so, sorry for any mistakes)
I admire you, beautiful human thank you for your hard work sometimes you got me feeling understood and not "weird", sometimes you got me thinking and confronting my own issues while feeling kind of supported in doing so by just talking about the things that matter to you. in these particular times the fact that I can still experience those heartwarming feelings feels like such a sweet good news and I love feeling that we all deserve so much love and happiness and i so support you THANKS
I’ve recently watched all of Bloom Into You, and then finished the manga after it. I can say I absolutely understand how you connected to the show and characters. The messages about love and how it develops/we develop with it I finally understood and related too unlike most love in media. Thank you for talking about your personal experience, I understand and empathize with it. You said the words I couldn’t find, perhaps the words I was afraid to say. Thank you so much, I hope things are going good for you right now.
the connecions u made between character dynamics in hxh and bloom into you rly spoke to me. both shows mean SO much to me and this is just... so precious. i love this. thank you for treating these characters as humane and complex and not as binaries of light and darkness or bad/good.💗
This video is so important to me. I watched Bloom Into You back in August, and it immediately struck me. I'm nearing adulthood, and I hadn't had any crushes in the past apart from one (in third grade and i'm pretty sure it was because my best friend liked him, it was sort of a joke between us) and Yuu's thoughts on romance and love resonated with me to a T. I binged the anime, then the manga from start to finish - and it did change me. It made me question myself because of all the feelings it made me feel that I hadn't felt before. It made me question my sexuality, if there was any at all in the first place. I thought for a while that I was asexual - I had virtually never been interested in being in a relationship. I thought I was either above all that sappy dating stuff my peers seemed to revolve their lives around, or that I was mature enough to wait until I go to uni to find 'the one'. Bloom Into You made me think that hey, maybe I do want to be with someone... but not with a guy. Which was, uh. A revelation for sure. When this video popped into my recommended I was just overwhelmed with emotions from the title alone, because it's relieving and kinda euphoric that I'm not the only one who's been changed by this anime - and, like, I'm pretty sure every anime changes at least one person, but it's so much different to see and hear someone express their thoughts on something you love and see how it impacted them in a similar way. I guess I'll end it here to avoid oversharing T_T anyway I had to pause this a couple of times to sob, it's a great video! Thank you so much for making it ^^
Hi. I just wanted to show my appreciation and revisit this video. Your words really resonated with me (the "benchwarmer" metaphor has been living in my head rent free for about 3 years.) I know I'm capable of romantic attraction, but I rarely feel the active need to date like other people do. I don't think my experiences exactly map onto yours since I've had more than two crushes, but you talking about your experiences helped me better understand myself. Thank you.
I don't really know how to put what I'm feeling into words. But hearing someone talk about how I have felt watching bloom into you and reading the manga was just really helpful. Sorry I know that makes no sense, but thank you for making this video 💜
AAAAAA dude I fucking love you so much for this video… I remember connecting to bloom into you so much and watching this same video a couple of years ago and then again here and there, I’ve listened to all of this and not until this time, it’s completely set in with me... i’ve recently realized that I'm demiromantic and just how much the psychology behind this anime has astounded and always held a special place in my heart. Thank you so much for this vid ❤️
Thank you for this video, really. I can't directly relate but this video was the catalyst for some introspection that I think I sorely needed. This Covid period really feels like it's put my life to a stop, like I'm a bystander while time still goes by. I guess I need to believe in myself more. Also, it takes a lot of effort to make a video or other creative work, I know myself - so don't feel like you need any sort of validation from others or that you shouldn't be able to express yourself - because it's definitely not something most have the courage to do, so it would be a waste for those with the courage not to.
amazing video--seriously relate to a lot of your experiences and the characters in Bloom Into You. Loved this exploration of what forms romance can take and I deeply vibe with your final "if I get a shot to step up to the plate, I'll swing for the fences." That line hit me hard. So good. Thank you for this video 💙
I could never put it in words as good as you, but this video just spoke straight out of my soul. I always felt a weird connection to the characters of bloom into you i couldn't explain, but i think this video really helped me understand it.
This is such a good analysis video and brought a whole new perspective I would have literally never thought about in my day to day life , thank you very much for sharing this intimate letter of sorts.
I'm crying over and over every time I heard about Yuu and Touko's story ;w; It changed my life too. In the past, I thought that I loved someone but I just... want to take care of them. I continue to do this to other people and say it is caring. After this stuff, some have a special feeling when (she) stays with me. I'm fine with that so I stay with them in a role as their "lover". Until I watch Bloom into you (yagate kimi naru), I realize that love is a thing that is more complicated than what I think. And after this video, I was shocked very hard about realizing all of that was just "caring". After all, I never seriously in love with someone.... Anyway thank you for this video to make me realize it. Arigato Gozaimashita (ありがとうございました)!
One of the best yuri anime which changed someone's life whether it is coming to terms with their sexuality or confessing one's feelings for a significant other regardless of their gender or even accepting your inner flaws. Hope they can make a spin-off anime series of BIY : Regarding Sayeka Saeki. I would love to see that.
When I found and watched this video, I was utterly speechless. For one thing, this person thoroughly watched Bloom Into You and I love that this anime is getting the love and attention it deserves, no matter how many years have passed(which btw still one of my liked animes and mangas in present time). However, on the other hand, I can't help but feel mixed emotions after watching his video. It's not to put this video in a negative light, goodness no! It's far from that actually. In fact, the way they(I fear I might misgender the author)explained their thoughts, examples, and real life problems and experiences, really does "hit home". I felt completely torn regarding the topics of emotions, romance and platonic love, identity, personality, mentality and etc. because it felt like multiple stabs in the heart for me. What truly spoke to me is this, "I've always lived like this, keeping a comfortable distance. Up until now I had sworn to myself that I'm content with loneliness. Because none of it was ever worth the risk." They summarized the issue of their past with this(I hope I'm not wrong about that), and that is the same issue I, unfortunately, am still facing. It would be an understatement that I'm bawling my eyes out: at this point, I feel like my heart is bleeding from that. It may be a bit selfish of me to say this, but I'm glad I can relate to them. Of course, there are people out there that struggle with connections and trust out there, which I completely understand and sympathize with. This is just me, releasing my thoughts and feelings(obviously cause I'm somewhat anonymous); please don't mind this comment. I just felt like...typing down what I felt, for once. It was an impulse, my apologies... Oh! But I assure you I watched the whole video. I honestly feel embarrassed that they understood Bloom Into You more than I do, it's most likely because I only watched it once and my first impression of it that it felt completely different from the romance anime I had watched in the past(and that it was adorable). However, I didn't think much of it in the past and didn't try to attach and relate to the characters. Because when I first watched this, I was considerably young, barely reaching teenage. I was extremely dense, and at that time I was still trying to understand myself and the world. Ah wait, this is turning into a ramble-- In conclusion, I enjoyed their video very much. I'll re-read and re-watch the manga and the anime. Thank you Mathwiz for making this video and leaving a huge impact on me, and from the bottom of my heart, I wish you best with your life!
Thank you so much for the awesome video. It did clear things out of things that I questioned myself for a very long time. To be frank, I saw myself in Touko's place. Having different personalities in every person I face or group of persons. I have been doing this for a very long time. I am afraid of rejection. Afraid of losing trust. After reading this awesome manga, I felt that I needed to change. I don't need to be covered under a mask just to be liked or to be cared for. I did see also the other perspective on the relationship between the three. It did push me to realise about myself how to approach people, to be more open-minded, and to show care and love. I almost lost interest in love after multiple times as I have feared rejection. To the point, I don't engage one. I pledged myself not to have one moving forward. But it did change when someone confessed to me. But the question was whether would I continue to love this person or just hurt myself in the process... Somewhat I saw myself on the side of Yuu... Sigh... Anyway... It's been a wild ride for me. Reading the manga brings me back to my old self and my modern self where my personality still hasn't changed much which I need to do. Like I said earlier, I need to change, and don't be afraid of it. Watching this video also opens new understanding and self-realization as well. I just finished reading its manga and will now continue to watch the anime and read its novel. I haven't expressed myself completely as I am still reflecting on what I have learnt from the manga and the video. But for now, this is what I can express. Thanks again.
Yes, I also found bloom into you around the time I figured out I was aro and this will forever be my favorite anime b/c it was the first one who got me. Like the empty feeling is a lot to handle and it took we a while to accept my identity
Watching Bloom Into You made me realize that seeing how Touko is that theres more people like me and it kinda eases my mind especially after something recent that broke me a lot. I went through a breakup 2 months ago and it was a 4 month relationship and it was the first time I had ever truly felt romantic love and it made me feel like. I used to be exactly like Touko hiding myself so everyone sees me as this perfect person. She was the only person I ever showed a vulnerable side around, the only person I cried around or showed real emotion around for the first time in a long time and after we broke up I was at the same point again just masking who I was around people and even her and just quietly breaking down and thinking I am not good enoughto be loved or good enough for anyoneand hated who I was being. Idk if I am getting the wrong message or interpretting things wrong but Bloom Into You made me realise that theres hope and more people like me who feel that love isn't for them but are still able to feel it and I shouldn't let one bad experience change my entire path in life. I am glad I watched this when digging for things to watch, because now I realise I am not alone and I shouldn't give up hope. Gonna cut this off before I start rambling now but I probably already have.
Watching this video make me think of how I felt about this vast subject, and also of the fact that I'm looking more than I though like Yuu. I think that I will never find love cause I can't fall in love, I never have been, but I hope inside that I will find someone that can truly understand me, but also the fact is that I don't need to have a romantic relationship in my mind to have that, friends understand each other. It's really hard to find the right word to express what this video gave me, what it made me think and reflect. Thanks for it!
Thank you for this video. I started to cry cuz of how i could connect to both yours and the characters perspectives and i think this has helped me open my eyes towards myself. Even if only a little bit.
"don't fall in love with me. i hate myself, and i can't love someone who loves what i hate" that line by Touko left me awestruck. it was just one of those lines that's just like wow you know?
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it was so overdramatic 🤣
The "are all straight people like this?" Took. Me. Out.
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The fact that this small seemingly unimportant anime is still being talked about almost 2 years after the anime ended and 1 year after the manga ended show just how much of an impact it had on people, it had a massive impact on me I decided to watch the first episode on nothing more but a whim and it changed my life forever.
Agree! Its that kind of a story.
Me too man
This comment is so true, it's one of those small animes that somehow still gets videos like this even after ending
Mee too. I was not interested at first because I thought Yuu is so average compared to Nanami's visuals ahaha! And I didn't think that they look good together. But when I saw the first episode I completely changed my mind and read the manga in just one sitting.
@@mnemosenecifra3044 Honestly I fell for Yuu from the first time she spoke, I'm aromantic and asexual myself so I felt an instant connection to Yuu. That is also why it had such an impact on me, before I watched bloom into you I had no idea what asexual and so on was I just thought I was weird after watching it a lot of things fell into place for me.
as a girl in the lgbtq+ this anime affected me to understand other peoples pasts and how people adjust to love
Ikr😂 i started to listen more when my ex gf talk about her past i never felt more attach with her
Exactly man me too. It's because of this anime and manga, i finally understood some of my actions and feelings I had back then. Best romance manga and my favorite manga of all time
Honestly, it helped my realize a lot about myself
@Roid Astria what are ypu trying to say? Lmao
@Roid Astria wait i dont get it what are you trying to point out thou?
me remembering that I saw the author saying they took inspiration from Killua and Gon's relationship somewhere
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@@MathWizHQ yesss that, truly the world's greatest parallel
wait omg??
That’s godly
"So yeah lemme take this cute bromance and turn it into immamakeyoucrymance"
I see Yu as demisexual. She needs a very strong connection to feel that love that she desires.
Yuu is surprisingly open to kissing, and claims to find it pleasant, even before feeling a romantic connection with Nanami. I would not call her demisexual, but demiromantic.
Yay someone like me?
@@unstablepc5913 Demisexual people don't need a romantic connection per say, nor even a super deep one, just a connection. It depends on the person of course but me, as a demissexual and demiromantic, if I can see the person as a friend it's already enough for sexual attraction to happen
as a demi me too
I think that is correct.
I remember watching this anime when it came out and I kept telling myself “ I do not like girls but this anime seems interesting”. Turns out I’m bisexual lmao but I had internalized homophobia
Well I’m glad you came to realize that flaw :)
Lol
Coming out of the closet is pretty hard lol
haha same, i used to avoid content with pretty girls because i was like “i cant be gay, but OTHER people can be gay, yea”
@@jungwonsdimple9593 Ohhh same. Turns out I'm a full-on lesbian hahahah
As someone who is aromantic... when I first watched Bloom into You, I identified with Yuu a lot. I'm not quite a 'completely happy without romance' aro. I don't actually relate to Maki at all in that way. To me, romance sounds great, it sounds like something I could want if I did like someone romantically and I love a good romance story. I've just never felt that way about anyone and the times people have been interested in me have only made me uncomfortable. And while Yuu and I differ -- her story arc goes in a very different direction to my life, as I've still never developed feelings for anyone and have become pretty certain I never will and am still coming to terms with that -- she's one of maybe three characters I've ever related to in media when it comes to romance, the other two being explicitly aromantic characters, and Bloom into You still hits in a way no other romance does. So thank you for this video, aromanticism is a topic that gets so rarely touched upon in media discussions so it's refreshing to hear and while I can't relate to you in many ways, your perspective on the topic has given me a lot to think about. I'm still not done on my personal journey of discovery and I wish you all the best on your own
^^^^
Can I ask who the other two aromantic characters you related to are? As you said, aromantism is so rarely talked about in anime and even when there are aro characters, it's never explicitly told so I'm left with only my interpretation.
My personal interpretation is Kageyama from Haikyuu is aro-ace, and it's completely plausible too since the author rarely mentions relationships and aro me could relate to him.
@@Berries20 They're not anime characters I'm afraid (if there's any canonically aro anime characters, someone please let me know ;__; In anime/manga I've only come across Anonymous in Shimanami Tasogare and only the word asexual is actually used there, not aromantic, though the way it's talked about seems to imply she's aromantic) but I was thinking of Felicity from The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy and the few screenshots I've seen of Jughead being an Aro Mood TM from the Archie Comics reboot (yeah, not even read the latter myself so maybe I shouldn't count it haha). Again, in neither case is the word aromantic used on the page (in the Lady's Guide I believe it's because it's a 17th Century setting and the term didn't exist then) but both are heavily implied to be aromantic asexual and/or confirmed to be written to be aroace (a lot time is devoted to showing how Felicity isn't interested in anyone and Jughead is called asexual by another character and talks about how he doesn't get crushes).
I haven't seen Haikyuu yet but that definitely makes me more curious about checking it out! It's always fun when you find a character without romantic relationships that you can relate to like that. For me, I see Senku from Dr Stone as aroace because that series makes a point to emphasise his lack of interest in romance, though of course there's nothing confirmed there.
I still wonder if she could've been on the aro spectrum, like demi people are still ace, you know?
@@Chikorita2Chante Oh absolutely! I definitely still see her as arospec in some way
this video was deep idk how to explain it but i enjoyed it a lot
It was very wholesome and heartwarming...
Do you know where the anime ends in the manga
It is deep and confusing since when something feels deep you can’t explain why it was or how because everyone’s perspective and experience with something like that is always a little different
@@namkhanhinhngoc3257 not sure if you still need this information but start reading at volume 5 :)
@@namkhanhinhngoc3257 it's been two years but I got you the answer after chapter 25 is where I would go if u just finished watching the anime I've read bloom into you 17 times
I think Bloom Into Changed everybody who watched it. This show was just so relatable. One of the best shows I ever watched. Top 2 for me.
What's the other one?
Yeah what's the other one?
Why the heck it's 2???? What's the other one?
What is ur top 1
Well that's pretty true. Bloom into you changed me too. It had a real impact on me and i couldn't get it out of my head
“If I wasn’t allowed to look how I wanted to look, be who I wanted to be, what point was there in caring? Why think about what can’t be changed?”
Hit me so hard
No but seriously. That’s literally exactly how I feel about my life, I feel like I’m just a fantasy of what my mom wants me to be. But if I fail to meet those expectations, I’m a failure. I’ve always felt my feelings are being ignored and when confronting my mom about it, she just mentions her expectations again
@@1111gjhfscvhdsh a fantasy of what your mom wants you to be? you should watch assassination classroom.
@@1111gjhfscvhdsh dam that’s pretty deep that you try to confront about the expectations but you just can’t. It can hurt just try and give yourself expectations that you can reach and then little by little make them bigger. Will be a lot easier than doing it all at once and then if you reach hers and you still have those expectations of hers in your head then it will help that you accomplished them and did something.
When I first read the batting cages scene, I hated Maki. He'd spent so long seemingly telling Yuu what she was feeling, even after she tried to come to an understanding with him earlier. It bothered me a lot, and him saying they aren't alike was hard, cause it felt like he was saying he was *nothing* like Yuu, when I and a lot of other people recognized that she's demiromantic. And then i heard your interpretation, how hard it must be to have people treat your identity as a choice, as a fall-back plan, and it all fell into place. Maybe it's because I'm used to disregarding my own feelings for the sake of other people, and I *am* like Maki, at least, I'm aroace. So, for that and so much more int his analysis, thank you.
I’ve never fell in love before so this anime hit HARD
SAME
but like did it make u fall in love? or na
As someone who has a problem about feeling "love" towards someone as deeply as many others do, this video resonates with me deeply. I thank you for making this video and sharing it with many others as you do. Your work is greatly appreciated and I look forward to your next video.
It was truly beautiful
i feel you. this is also why this manga/anime holds such a special place in my heart
Honestly i agree,for the first time in my life i am able to be sure that i am not the only one who is like this and it actually helps me a lot as i don't know who i am myself.
I get anxious whem i am talking to othes i over analysis thing people say to me or do and i wanna have friends (as in trusting someone with a lot of things rather than just likeing to be around someone) and at the same time scared and hesitant to have friends and i have never had a crush at a same time i wanna be loved and i wanna love all in all i have very hard time finding about who ia am and it helps me to know that they are people who are atleast a bit similar to me.
(Honestly i just said what i felt and i would like to thank you as you gave me to the chance to write about my insurities i feel a lot better and feels like i just took a load that on me)
@@voidslayer66 Everyone is different and there is no problem with that. You have to love yourself for who you are and what you can do. Sometimes it is also very reassuring that some people might feel the same, makes you feel less alone in this world we live in and if you can find some good in the fact that there are people out there experiencing the same feelings to some degree then that's great. I am glad you got to let some of your feelings out and feel better
@@voidslayer66 i feel you bro. here's to hoping that someday we are loved, get to love others and get to love ourselves in the future *raise glass
What almost made me cry about this anime were the older couple who were girlfriends and living together ❤. Maybe it's bc I'm in my early twenties and closer to them in age than yuu and touko.
The more I grow up, and the more I rewatch and reread this story, the more drastically I relate to Yuu.
Back when I first watched the anime, back during the beginning of the Pandemic, I started my first ever relationship, and... it was... interesting. I don't think I felt love, exactly, during that time, but there was an enjoyment of spending time with someone who was so dedicated and affectionate toward me, and I enjoyed having someone to lean on and who was there for me.
They and I are still dating now, in 2024, and it took.... months, almost a year, but I truly, truly started to love them after a while, and it... felt good. It feels good, frankly.
Recently, I asked them to marry me, and they said yes. Years ago, I couldn't even dream of feeling this way to someone, but a lot of time and effort made the dull sparks of enjoyment I felt for my partner erupt into a wildfire I could never dream. Back when I first watched this show, I related to everyone, but no one more so than Yuu. Now, having read the book and re-watched the anime and books over a half dozen times, I relate to Yuu even more, but for a drastically different reason than before.
I love these characters, and I miss them.
This anime is awesome, and the later half of the series in the manga makes it even better. One of the best romance/coming of age stories I've ever experienced.
And now we just patiently wait for the second part to get the animated treatment
Because no one is talking about the second part...
I HATE how this channel died because of the algorythm
@z g same but it was probably because it’s yuri lol
this video just recommended to me out of nowhere
yt rec it to me so
best romance manga that is actually fictional that makes it feel so realistic and makes you question what you use to believe. Fight me
Real asf
Dude, I think this video just helped me realize I might be demiromantic.
Ya see, I've only really had two crushes, and now that I really think about it, those two crushes might not actually be genuine. Well, let me explain. I figured out I was a lesbian about 2 years ago. Since then, I've only had those two "crushes".
The first was developed after we ceased contacted. It was a girl I had become friends with for a year, before she changed schools. Then, when I realized I was gay, I thought, wow, that girl had some similar interests as me, as well as a similar kind of humor, she's perfect! So, I kinda maintained that I had a crush on this girl, even though there was a very lacking emotional connection.
Next, the second crush. This was more recent. I had recently started talking to a girl on discord who was part of my GSA. We barely talked, but after establishing that we had several similar interest, I was like, wow, that girl has some similar interests as me, as well as a similar kind of humor, she's perfect!
Yeah, after not contacting that second crush in a bit, and having not talking to that first crush for a couple of years (besides a random encounter), and having just watched a bit of this video, I no longer think I have a crush on either of them. Just like before figuring out I was gay, I fabricated a crush. I think I was just being too idealistic. Wow, really thinking about it, I don't think I've actually had a crush. Woah.
But, I don't think i'm full on aromantic. I think having a relationship would be nice, although I don't think right now would be a convienent time to have one, as I'm kinda facing some of my own issues, and can't really deal with the burden of a relationship. Plus, I barely talk to anyone, so how tf would I find someone I was interested in to date? But that's irrelevant.
So, I think I'm demiromantic. When it comes to fiction, I've always really enjoyed romances where some sort of relationship (especially friendship) is set up before any romance happens. It just feels wrong if they don't build up the relationship beforehand, and now I think I get why. I think I, personally, could only really get with someone who was a close friend who I had known for awhile. Wow. I'm learning a lot about myself today.
The real reason why I haven't developed any crushes before is that I haven't really had many close friends before. No friend has ever been that close to me, and the ones that almost got to that point, well, I just happened to not be romantically interested in them.
But yeah, that's it. Sorry for the massive essay, I tried breaking it up into more digestible pieces, so it should be easier to read. Bye.
I'm glad that videos like this help people find more truth in themselves! It makes me feel closer to other human beings than the usual "The world is a dark and horrible place" kind of vibe that I get a lot of the time, even though that it's totally not true. I'm glad that things like this could, not only be hella interesting to watch, but also very informative and helpful. This type of content really helps others, and I hope it can shed some light on a lot of topics. Anyway, I guess the whole conclusion that I wanted to point out is that I agree with you! This video really informed me on a lot of topics I never heard of or didn't hear enough talked about. And I'm glad to see that it helped others.
I think everyone's demiromantic.
You can't really fall in love with anyone that you don't know. If so it surely would be just attraction, not love or something "romantic"
@@nurialdym uh...no
@@Night-ud4ew You litterally CAN'T fall in love with someone you don't know, hence, you can't fall in love with someone who you don't have an emotional bond with.
@@nurialdym emotional bond does not mean "ive seen their face before" 🤣🤣🤣 i think you are very confused, i agree. You may in fact be demiromantic, or maybe you've never met a person that is attracted by someone's looks/never heard of the ol' "i dont know their name, but im sure it was love at first sight" if you truly believe everybody needs an emotional connection.
Aww, sweetie... as a fellow young trans woman who's spent a lot of time trying and failing to figure myself out--and as someone who really adores this anime--I absolutely think this video has a right to exist. I'm sure that even a thousand positive comments would be incapable of actually changing the way you feel about yourself, but know that I appreciate you. I hope you keep making content, so long as you're able and it remains a positive thing for you.
Mood
I'd just like to say that this manga has always meant a lot to me; I first started reading it around when it was first officially translated over here in the west around four years ago. I believe I was in seventh or eighth grade, and now I'm in twelfth grade. I remember all of the initial excitement of the first few volumes coming out and I would reread some of the volumes at least two times; it was one of my major comfort series. Even when I read the last two volumes in I believe the same sitting, it made me feel at home and happier. I can remember mostly where I got each volume, whether it was online or at my local bookstore. I also remember hiding it from my parents with other series of manga and I can't forget the confused stares I would get from the cashiers. Ironically, I've cared less now than I'm older what they think. Personally, though the anime wasn't what I wanted it to be, it isn't bad. Regardless, Bloom Into You is one of my favorite series on my shelf. I also liked the first volume of the Saeki Sayaka light novels and I plan to get them all :).
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.
My pleasure seeing your story and i wish you the best!
Yes same I find pleasure in Bloom into You because I can relate to a lot of the characters and it just makes me feel better because I know that other people do the same and are drawn to this manga/anime. It takes away that feeling that I am just weird or just pretty messed up by things happening
Also the way you hide the manga from your parents does spark me to feel relatable towards you since… you really can’t show or express this towards your parents so easily unless of other reasons.
I am an aromantic person and this show has helped me to better understand myself. it's been a hard year for me when I watch bloom into you made me look in the shoes of others how they pursue love
Bloom into You helped me learn why I was rejecting people's love. While it was learned too late to save my marriage, it has shown me how I need to grow. Thanks for making this! It reminded me of those important lessons.
I never felt more connection to characters I didn't even saw before. I'm demiromantic and demisexual (bi) and that pressing feeling of "I want to love" crushed by that "I don't feel like others do" always messed in my head, the pain of missing out with the problem of not understanding what is "wrong" why can't I just be like others. sadly the first time I finally managed after years of friendship, to feel something, (even tho they were recipcuted, were not a good experience, since that person was the only one I ever felt any romantic or sexual attraction to in my entire life, it was easy for them to manip/te me, since I just wanted to know that feeling of love so much, to be like everyone else. so it turned kinda ab/sive.)
when you are on the very end of the Ace Aro spec you start to question why are you the only one that can't feel the same as everyone else, and when you finally find this feeling, you want to hold on even if it burns you in the process.
So I really liked Yuu and her prespective, wanting to have those feelings so much, trying so hard to not miss out, yet not being able to actually feel them. I'm kinda sad there wasn't that feeling of "blame" mentioned. "I don't love them enough, that's why they feel more than me" is something that goes constantly in your mind. "something must be wrong in you if you can't love" feeling is a really shitty thing to have that continue till you finally feel something you believe is love, and even than "Do I love them like they do to me?" "Am I just playing with them trying to be with them becouse I WANT to love them and not because I actually do?".
And so, you are stuck in an endless cycle, questioning, "Do I actually love them- or do I just want to do it?"
so basically:
Love is weird, fuck love, LOL, I rather pizza.
Hello, yeah I can relate to this as I’ve only felt something to 1 person and yet it’s been years and I still have them in my head and nothing else. It scares me that if I do confess they will just turn their back to me or even hurt our relationship as friends. Or that they just don’t express the same feelings to me and it plays with my mind as I find that they might… so it’s loop just like you said, do I want to love or do I actually love them. But also another for me of, do they also have feelings for me and maybe I’m just too insecure to express myself.
Something that helped me as someone on the aroace spectrum was accepting that experiencing a genuine, fulfilling type of love isn't exclusive to romantic relationships or relationships involving romantic attraction. There are many kinds of love, all of them profound in their own ways, each of them so nuanced. There is no path to feeling complete better than getting to understand and accept yourself for what *you* really want, what's most important to you. That's the love that no one can take away from you.
2023-2024 i still see people talking about this. I loved it. I hope in the far future i can see someone who can see past my mask i hide under, and are dedicated in building a future with me.
this shows how important shows and movies and books are they help and change people and its so nice to see it help such a good guy all we need now is for the media to understand that
When you quoted Paramore I could have screamed, I too realized how that song can be applied perfectly to Yuu and myself. I relate to a lot of what you said. When I first read Bloom Into You I think I was 15 (I came back to it as I found out about the novels) and I remember bonding with Yuu instantly. Her high expectations of love, her romanticized view of it, and then going out into the real world and having to discover the depths of her heart herself... Literally me.
About Sayaka, I could talk about her for hours but to summarize - "thank you, next" by Ariana Grande.
anime plots are just so much better than actual real tv shows. like i don’t care about the art or looks it’s just the plot and storyline i love. yet we get judged so much bc of how anime lovers are portrayed on the internet but i love bloom into you it really explained to you what love is and it hits hard
Wonderful video, I'm sure Nakatani would be happy to hear her work has had such an impact on you. And I look forward to seeing your further explorations of Bloom into You!
I always have to hold back the tears when thinking about this show. I want season 2 so bad.
(Edit) Yeah, Maki is awesome. Your analysis on him was so well done. No other review on this show covered him like you did.
This is so important!! We rarely see aromantic characters in media, less of all demiromantic characters or those that fall in the grey spectrum 👏💚.
Thanks for making this video!! I'm glad to not be the only that sees Yuu as an arospec
honestly, as a person also experiencing aromanticism while watching this show, this show was like a support beam for me, it helped me discover and explore my over relationships, an find my place on the spectrum of asexual and aromantic, and it holds a special place in my heart for that
There's something powerful about the way you chose to express your connection to this piece of media, and words can't express what this means to me. Thank you for sharing your experience and for making this video.
This anime and this video is so close to my heart that I can't express..
SO TRUE...
"Why I don't fit in why I would always be alone" my man you sound like what is called a Gamer
Gamer with a capital G, huh? rip
I also projected myself on Touko and espacally Yuu, since I first read Yagakimi and felt simular. Right now I'm dating a former friend and now partner, whom I knew for almost 5 years and it took another 6 months after my confession to when we really started dating. In that time and also sometimes now I'm still really unsure how I feel. It's not nearly as dazzeling as I tought it would be, or as I want it to be, and at times I wonder if it's truely love. And that mix of feelings from lovestruck to normal is just confusing and to a certain degree terifing. It makes me think about our relationship in a way I don't want to. It makes me wonder if it love my partner or if l'm just longing to have someone at my side, no matter who. We don't see each other very often, as we are both busy with school and university plus a little bit of pandamic here and there and these toughts just grow in the the time we spend alone. I only talked about this with two of my friends and not even to the full extend and not yet with my partner. When we meet it's just that all of this unsureness fades away and is replaced by a feeling of calm as long as we're together. But once l'm back home it comes back. l guess l have to evantually find a solution for this and l'm not content with things as they are but l'm also hesitant to come out with these feelings to my partner. It's just sometimes easier to talk to no one specific under a video that resonated with me than actully talk to your partner or a friend.
Sorry to take your time and thank you for listening.
This is very similar to my situation. I don't know why but it felt very relieving to know that I'm not alone in that aspect, so thank you for sharing.
I've been dating my former best friend, now boyfriend, for a few months now after knowing him for a little over a year. But I still can't make sense of my feelings for him. I know that I care deeply for him, but it's not in the same way it's portrayed in media. I'm in a constant state of confusion about it, wondering if my feelings for him really is love. This has always been the case for me, I have never been able to tell if I like someone as something more than a friend. I've been mostly 'going with the flow' up until now and tried out to be in a relationship with a guy because I longed for closeness and it was convenient. I wanted a cute relationship, just like in all the fluffy manga, movies, and series. Unfortunately, I realized that I had been taking advantage of this guy's feelings and that I never really felt anything for him in the first place. So I broke up with him the day after I realized that. I wasn't even sad about it, but it feels like I should have been and like there is something wrong with me for being indifferent. Or maybe not indifferent, I was happy (but that feels very weird to say in this context). I just started to dread every moment I spent with him, I could no longer stand the closeness that I had longed for before. The thought of kissing him made me repulsed, not that he was a bad person or wasn't attractive (he was quite attractive imo). I just realized that it was definitely NOT what I wanted. Maybe I'm asexual? I don't know, and it may sound harsh but I really hope I'm not because it feels like it can complicate and hinder my future relationships.
It also wasn't up until just recently, a few months back, that I also realized my complicated feelings also were the case for girls. Maybe it was just because of internalized homophobia or something that I just assumed that I was straight. But if I really look back on my feelings I think I had a crush on a girl when I was younger, though I of course didn't recognize or understand what I was feeling at the moment. She also kinda treated me like shit, but that's not the point. I haven't told anyone else about this though. I also wonder if I'm really asexual when it comes to girls? I don't feel uncomfortable or repulsed when a girl touches me, actually the opposite, but maybe it's because there are no assumed romantic feelings or attraction. Feels nice to scream out into the void like this (even though it also feels childish, like I'm talking to myself). I'M NOT STRAIGHT! (but I wonder if my friends will still accept me if they knew. They probably would, they are really accepting people. But I guess they wouldn't expect me to be anything but... straight? or is that just my internalized homophobia again? I really thought I didn't have any but I'm starting to second guess myself)
What complicates matters more is that I'm extremely averted to any kind of physical contact even with him, I don't even think I'm physically attracted to him (or anyone else for that matter) and I don't know if I will ever be able to. I'm not even sure of my feelings when I'm with him and my hot /cold behavior has caused him needless pain, though I'm trying to be more honest with him and with myself. Luckily we can talk to each other about anything, even if it's difficult or hard. He knows all of this I've written, except the liking girls-part. Perhaps he will decide to break up because the one thing he needs is consistency. But consistency is the only thing I cant give him right now. At least I know we will still be friends after, we know each other too well to ever drift apart. He is the only one I have ever been vulnerable with, which sounds very sad. I would say I'm the 'straight A' model student and I have quite a lot of friends, but I know that I keep everyone outside my thick protective walls. I guess I just really relate to Touko in that way. My boyfriend was the only one I could rely on when something really bad happened to me (because the problem was extremely personal and I couldn't tell anyone about it, but it just so happened that he knew about it). Sounds a bit pathetic to ?get a crush? on the guy who 'saved me'. ( i still don't know if my feelings are romantic, which you could say is cold-hearted of me since we are in a relationship. But he knew this when he asked me, and he knows this now.)
I'm just a weird confusing mess of different labels I'm trying to see if I fit into. Straight? no. Bi? probably?. Lesbian? Probably not but could be. Ace? Probably, but maybe not? Demi? What. I'm also just ready to give up labels at all since they don't seem to work for me. I mean, I don't even understand the most basic of attractions: platonic or romantic. I might look back on this one day and think I was childish trying to fit into some predetermined mold, but I guess I would just take comfort in that the mold exists and that I'm not alone. Even though I know it's an irrational fear to have. Out of the billions of humans out there, at least someone is expected to feel approximately the same way.
I don't really know where I was going with this, it's 3.30 AM and I'm really tired. I guess I just really wanted to vent about my problems into the void. To whoever is reading this: You are not alone. Thank you
@@silverhawk1045 That last bit really got to me and I wanted to share as well
My situation has is a bit similar to yours. I wanted to have someone but I just feel like I can’t bring anyone close enough because I’m too shy, scared, or insecure. As I look more to the risk of being closer to someone and trying to bring down borders/ walls with them and actually be open with others without risking anything being leaked with them not being trustworthy or them not wanting to be like that.
I wish I could be in the situation you’re in as you actually have someone you can be “vulnerable” and open with and that they actually had feelings for you. I’ve longed for something even just remotely close to that as I imagine the person I love to love me back and be able to express myself with them.
But well we can’t always have what we want, you have the problem of not necessarily taking what you have because of being either demi, ace or just a different gender. But for me it’s actually getting into that relationship and then seeing if it does workout.
I’ve been loosing hope as that person was as close as I’ve managed to be with them about 3 years ago. Maybe me being the way I am such as promising myself to be the most loyal I can be to them now hurting me as I feel like I can’t move on or keep going forward.
@@JonathanB139 I'm touched that my comment reached you, thank you for responding.
I think we are both those kinds of people who have a hard time actually opening up to others/and or we are scared to get hurt if we do. But I actually think that the only surefire way to get a close friend is to open up first about something. Like "Hey, we've been friends for a while now and I just wanted to let you know I'm having a hard time." or something similar. If the person is interested in having a deeper friendship with you they will absolutely take the time to make sure you are listened to.
Ive been working on breaking down my own walls for a little over a year now and I can say that I've progressed a lot by going out of my comfort zone. Just small steps, one by one as the opportunity arises. It has really helped me grow more confident and self-assured as a person; for a long time I've disliked myself but that has changed now.
Dont feel like you have to be someone because of another person. Its good to be loyal but don't give your loyalty to people who haven't deserved it. I don't have the context to your relationship with this person but just realise that you cant wish something into existence even if you want it really badly. But that isn't to say that you shouldn't take chances and go for it if you feel like that is what you wanna do. Do some self reflection and think to yourself if you wanna go forward with this person, or if you want to let them go. Do whatever makes you happier.
Both me and my boyfriend, now ex-boyfriend, realised that our relationship made us more unhappy than it made us happy. My hot/cold behaviour really hurt him and also myself. We decided together to take a week's pause and then decide what to do. We talked a lot about it and we decided to break up but stay as friends. That was something that we talked about before going into the relationship: whatever happens we will still be friends afterwards. We've been separated for two months now and I haven't regretted the decision a single day. Both of us have moved on from that 'romantic' relationship and we still love each other platonically.
I actually never did love him as more than a friend. I said that it was unlikely in my first comment but after a lot, A LOT, of introspection I've realised that I'm actually a lesbian and its the best and simultaneously words revelation that I've discovered about myself. It was so relieving to realise that I had the option to have an emotionally fulfilling relationship with someone, instead of being with men that made me unhappy and repulsed. But it has also been extremely difficult to accept and comprehend because of a lot of internalised homophobia, lesbophobia and misogyny. Ive had to dissolve years of toxic knowledge to be able to accept who I am. But I finally feel like myself now.
However, I'm still very scared of letting other people know my orientation and I'm working up the courage to be open with it. Until then its going to be very difficult for me to find the loving relationship that I want and I feel very lonely. I think its important for both me and you to know that there will be people in the future that is going to love us for who we are.
I wish you good luck with your life and I hope you can find your happiness.
@@silverhawk1045 thanks for sharing this to me and I feel great being opened up to and being talked to as to what my understanding of who I am is kind of about. And well that person I love well I’ve been pretty close friends with for a probably over a year and one of the closest persons I’ve had ever. I’m glad you had found yourself and decided what to do but as for me I still need to see if I can ever really reach out to them as when I first had feelings for them I didn’t really think much of it and thought it was because they were close, nice, and dear to me. Later on around this time I found it was probably because I wanted someone to love and have someone I could open with which is one thing I’m doing right now so thank you for listening and responding. I really haven’t let them loose and I don’t think I ever will till I have done something such as express myself or find someone fresh who I can really see who they are and if they are who I would want. It also scares me that I have lost definition to who they are and are different from who they actually are or have changed. And as you did i would want to still be close as I can to them even if only platonically.
@@silverhawk1045 This is a reason I watch videos like this and of other anime that are similar as I can see the emotions, see how I react then evaluate how I am and well it has worked for me. Good for you that you found out who you are and cleared things up for your relationship and yes finding out you are homosexual can be pretty hard especially if you were having a heterosexual relationship. I hope you too can find a person who would fill that gap of not having someone who you can trust and love.
Edit: don’t wanna add too many comments so making this one longer:
So I don’t know where you are in your life right now but I’m guessing that not near the starting kid the older side. Well as for me I feel like I’m way too young as I’m on the age that I’m considered young but should be growing up towards adulthood. And well the pros at are: I now am experienced in this and have it at a time I can deal with it with no major issue, my mind is still fresh, I may adapt to it easier than if I was older, and I now find myself and deal with this now than later. Cons? I’m too young. Maybe something went wrong and I got this too early. Or I’m just speed-running my mentality unintentionally.
I first started watching _Bloom into You_ assuming it would be just another slice of life yuri, but then I gradually realized just how deep it was. I think when I first heard what the plot of the play was going to be is when I fully realized just how deep and good and incredible this anime was.
Rejection is literally just a clarifier that that person is not the one, and now you don’t have to wonder and move forward until you actually meet the right person, because the right person will always say yes.
Recently saw this video get a 100K views and I was really surprised and came back to comment. This is probably my favorite video on RUclips. Despite this being a "small" anime/manga, I'm so glad that my favorite series of all time, not just Romance, gets this much love from people who has seen it. I love everything in this video. I can't explain how much I love this series enough, how thankful I am for finding it and how much I cried when It ended . I really wish this series gets a season 2 and more attention. I'll never ever forget these characters and the story who has helped me to to be the person I am today. I hope to be able to make a video about this series one day with an audience that will listen and understand. This video is EXTREMELY well done. Congrats for 100k views, hopefully this video gets more attention. 1M views next? Lmao
Tl:dr read and watch Bloom Into You, imo it's the best romance series and forever will be my favorite series of all time.
Season 2 would would bring so much talk about some amazing chapters that follow, i just recently realized how much an anime adaptation elevates a work while I was searching for analysis for the manga's later half( did not find much success)
@@kostajovanovic3711 For real, if it does fully get adapted, its literally gonna be more of a masterpiece that most people should not miss out on.
shit i havent even seen bloom into you but im crying from this analysis ima go watch it soon for sure.
Have you seen it already?
Holy hell I thought this was a review and clicked on it, still makes a good audio book to listen to while ditching classes
Great video. Was in tears for a lot of it. Thank you for imbuing your creativity with this work.
I relate to this video a lot, I still am unsure of who or what I am, gender, sexuality, or romanticity wise, but this video opened my mind to things that I wouldn't have thought of on my own. Thank you for making this video and opening my horizons
finally aro representation (I'm on the aro spectrum so this makes me happy )
3 years later. I rewatched it. Completely finished it this time. Satisfied with the ending i guess. Honestly bloom into you is stuck in my heart. I am feeling sad that it ended and happy at the same time.
Did you read the manga
This really did say the things I couldn’t figure how to say when trying to get my friends to read what is easily my favorite manga and book of all time. Well done.
This video actually helped me realize and sort of come to terms with the fact that the me who chose labels 6 years ago is not the same person that I am today. I'm not exactly sure of what I feel and never have been, but choosing those labels made me feel like I had to be a sort of stereotype of that label. I don't really think I feel like that anymore. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video!! I didn't expect to identify with your position so much, but I really, really do. I am not aromantic, but I don't develop crushes often, and the ones do develop tend to be in situations which don't lend themselves to pursuit. I am not aromantic, but I have made the conscious choice not to pursue romantic relationships, since I'm not prepared to be vulnerable like that with anyone yet. I am also planning my life around being single, since I really can't be sure that I'll ever find someone. I feel sometimes like I am failing at my sexuality/orientation because I'm not acting on any of my attractions. I am envious of my aromantic friend, because she can be happy with a situation which I can only ever be at peace with. I guess I just wanted to share this, since this video is one of the only pieces of media I've ever consumed which acknowledges this feeling.
Also, I do think this video is a sort of analysis! It's just that, instead of using your own knowledge to better understand a show, you're using the show's knowledge to better understand yourself. Which is super cool and also very much valid!!
Ever since I found your first video on Gon and Killua's friendship, to the firm yet understanding criticism of Togashi's work around trans identities, to this video, all of your ideas have resonated with me and I personally do believe that there is value to adding your own ideas and experiences to what you talk about. Everything I've watched from your chanel has stayed with me in one or another way, and this video in particular has endeared your work to me
I don't mean to be overbearing with this, sorry if it is a little awkward to read, but genuinely, thank you.
Thank you for your ideas, your work, and for taking the risk to put them out there, I promise there is great value to what you have expressed here and in your other videos
Jesus christ this is my favorite video of all time from now own
I very rarely comment on RUclips videos, but I stumbled upon this video after finishing Bloom Into You and after watching it, I had the overwhelming need to cry from relief. Everything you mentioned in your video about your struggles in relationships and with love is exactly how I've felt for *years*. I never had the words to explain this feeling, and I'm still finding it hard to understand it now, but Bloom Into You and your video are the only things that I've been able to relate to. Even the experience you had with your first crush is exactly what happened and how I felt when I had my own first (and only) crush. It's been 4 years since I last spoke to my first crush, and yet I still think about her to this very day. I'm rambling a bit but I just want to say thank you so much for posting this video because it helped me so much more than you'd realise.
This one right here, officer! This is the video that made me cry!
I absolutely love hearing other people’s perspectives on love and feelings. It’s really helpful to hear. So thank you for sharing, not just because it was good for you but because it helped me understand some of my feelings too. :)
This hits hard and i can't overstate how much it means to me. It feels like I heard myself in you in this video. That's something. you've grown, and I've grown from a similar place from your first bloom into you video. hell, we even are in a similar age range, and in which we're both processing who we are and what we want. Thank you for this video. Thank you for being brave and genuine and confused. I really needed this right now. Thank for for this gift, to yourself, and to us, your viewers.
Good to hear your thoughts on the series again. As for me, I'm pretty sure I am aromantic and I'm still grateful to this series for making me stop and finally have that one on one talk with myself.
I love bloom into you, the first time i watched it,i just loved it so much for its beautiful animation and the storyline but now seeing your video which is in itself very beautiful, i have another love for this anime and the meaning it has for others
As a person who's not aromantic, I've often wondered why exactly they were acting like they do and I guess I understand a lot better now.. So thank you. I was already really touched by the middle of this video, feeling like my younger self growing up not understanding my self at all. It all made sense when coming out as trans later on, so it really blew my mind when you started to talk about the same topic
Very insightful video. Thank you for making this, it has made me come to a conclusion of where my stand-point on romance is. I've never dated anyone except for the occasional 'crushes' that i force upon myself to fit in with people. Though i do find people physically attractive but attraction wise- not so much. I don't yearn for love nor will I ever seek it. I find that the people whom i already have by my side (friends, family, etc.) have a way higher ranking in my life than a romantic partner.
Though, I do still enjoy romantic and fluffy shows such as Bloom into you, Cherry magic, and The summer you were there, I've never really desired to feel the same way. One could even say that I relate to Maki more than i relate to Yuu but who knows, aromantic is a spectrum and not everyone's experiences are the same.
I had goosebumps watching this honestly, its explained so many things I was so curious about and didn't understand thank you so much for making this video.
thank you so much for this video. I am about to cry right now, I feel so not alone if that makes since lmao. But I feel exactly like how Yuu does, I feel extremely lonely and I want to feel attraction, but I can't you know? And I wish I could feel attraction more often because its hard to lie to my friends when they ask me "if I like anybody". one time around a year ago I felt so pressured because a bunch of people were trying to get me to like this one person, I did not feel any attraction to them, but I ended up lying to people saying "I liked them" just to make myself feel better, that only lasted a month until I realized what I was doing was wrong. I really want to feel attraction to this one person right now, but I cant. I feel as though I am missing out on something. I also dont want to go by any labels because nothing feels right. So thank you for making me feel not alone about this subject, and sorry if I vented a little bit.
8:55 - 10:23 I am in literal tears right now, you just put everything that has been jumbled in my mind into words. Every sentence felt like you were reaching into my very soul, pulling the things out that I buried deep inside me. I only recently found out that I'm considered Demisexual and Demiromantic, I always felt like there was something wrong with me as so many people have been interested in me so quickly while I felt nothing. I only ever truly felt love once, with someone who was my whole world at the time. We grew up together and were attached to the hip close, I've never felt that way with anyone since. The only other time I ever felt any sort of attraction (it was minimal at best) was with people I was emotionally connected to in some way. I'm okay with saying I'm Demi, Its help me accept who I am, that how I feel isn't a mistake, but I don't know if a label will ever truly convey how I feel. You saying that you struggle with making connections and that you want to be liked by everyone but you put up barriers between you and others made me feel really seen for the first time. The whole explanation of your relationships made me realise its something I never let myself think about, but it's true. I keep everyone away, I never let anyone too close because I'm terrified that they will hurt me, even feeling like I'm a burden to them. Some people I allow past more of my walls than others, but once they reach that second or last wall, I cut them off completely. 10:06 I haven't felt true romantic love, and I've grown to be okay with that. Even now people keep chasing me though, and I only end up hurting them. I feel nothing, and they just don't understand. With my crush we'd been really close for years, then one day it just hit me. Just like you, my feelings towards my childhood crush just appeared. 17:29 I've never dated either, but that crush took 6 years to fully get over. 17:59 I've tried using things like dating apps, it always feels wrong. 18:41 You saying that just kinda woke me up just now, it may be the same case for me too. And basically, everything you have said after is just a big MOOD because same. And the ending was beautiful, you have a wonderful way with words. I just wanna thank you, you have with one video talking an anime I haven't watch (which I will now do so) opened my eyes and unpacked some of the heavy things I've been feeling. So thank you so much, I hope things get better for you.
I just wanted to say that this video reflects a lot of my own feelings about love and relationships. I've never dated anyone before, and I constantly question whether or not I might be asexual/aromantic, whether or not I've had crushes or just people I like as friends, do I even want to date anyone, and so on. I really like your bench warmer metaphor. Just know that I relate pretty closely to what you are going through, and this video has mede me feel like I'm not overthinking like I often dismiss myself as doing, so thank you ☺️
Maybe soon we’ll get a Baby Steps video
And by soon I mean in a millenni-
Dude, this video made me cry, what the hell.
Thanks for your content man. It's more than half of 2021 and I just came across this vid thanks to RUclips's algorithm.
Thank you so much.
you managed to put into words, what i alwayys felt but never could verbalise...
Thanks for your work. Thanks for your words.
im just gonna say this
tia ballard did yuu beautiful, i love the actress and well as the character (who is one of my waifus now)
she did a tara strong performance. even that will impress the queen of equestria herself
I just got so emotional after finishing this video - you verbalized everything I've been feeling for the longest time. I truly felt alone, but to hear that you are going through the same emotions and life experiences as me has made me feel less lonely. Never have I felt more understood by a video about an anime that I havent even watched yet (I definitely will watch it)
You said you wanted to one day impact others the same way that the mangaka has impacted others, but you don't have to say one day anymore because you've impacted your audience by making these videos, in which you share your truths and heart with us
Thank you so much for this. #newsub
This is literally my favorite anime. Ive never related to an anime more.
While i didnt get a concluson, i have to say, your words resonated so hard with me, thank you for making this.
*That moment when a Mathwiz video being by Mathwiz is enough to make me click the video, but then they start talking about worries over what sort of content to make*
You could start by reading the phonebook.
This would be sufficient.
I adore this anime so so SO much. I need more but cannot find anything like it. I love how it was about the characters and their growth, with actual good representation, no sexualization or fetishization. Finding something that at least is 2/3 of those things is near impossible
God the end of the Yuu section (and to a lesser extent the rest of the video) I give with so much.
This is such a great video, bravo
i relate to literally everything you said, this is the first time i actually could see myself in a character/someone else. it feels so weird to see that i'm not the only one who feels like this - weird in a good way. i can't believe i actually cried watching this... woah...
(english is not my first language so, sorry for any mistakes)
I admire you, beautiful human
thank you for your hard work
sometimes you got me feeling understood and not "weird", sometimes you got me thinking and confronting my own issues while feeling kind of supported in doing so by just talking about the things that matter to you.
in these particular times the fact that I can still experience those heartwarming feelings feels like such a sweet good news and I love feeling that
we all deserve so much love and happiness and i so support you
THANKS
I’ve recently watched all of Bloom Into You, and then finished the manga after it. I can say I absolutely understand how you connected to the show and characters. The messages about love and how it develops/we develop with it I finally understood and related too unlike most love in media. Thank you for talking about your personal experience, I understand and empathize with it. You said the words I couldn’t find, perhaps the words I was afraid to say. Thank you so much, I hope things are going good for you right now.
that was a really great placement for the start of 'Suki, iga no kotoba de'....
the connecions u made between character dynamics in hxh and bloom into you rly spoke to me. both shows mean SO much to me and this is just... so precious. i love this. thank you for treating these characters as humane and complex and not as binaries of light and darkness or bad/good.💗
This video is so important to me.
I watched Bloom Into You back in August, and it immediately struck me. I'm nearing adulthood, and I hadn't had any crushes in the past apart from one (in third grade and i'm pretty sure it was because my best friend liked him, it was sort of a joke between us) and Yuu's thoughts on romance and love resonated with me to a T. I binged the anime, then the manga from start to finish - and it did change me. It made me question myself because of all the feelings it made me feel that I hadn't felt before. It made me question my sexuality, if there was any at all in the first place. I thought for a while that I was asexual - I had virtually never been interested in being in a relationship. I thought I was either above all that sappy dating stuff my peers seemed to revolve their lives around, or that I was mature enough to wait until I go to uni to find 'the one'. Bloom Into You made me think that hey, maybe I do want to be with someone... but not with a guy. Which was, uh. A revelation for sure.
When this video popped into my recommended I was just overwhelmed with emotions from the title alone, because it's relieving and kinda euphoric that I'm not the only one who's been changed by this anime - and, like, I'm pretty sure every anime changes at least one person, but it's so much different to see and hear someone express their thoughts on something you love and see how it impacted them in a similar way.
I guess I'll end it here to avoid oversharing T_T anyway I had to pause this a couple of times to sob, it's a great video! Thank you so much for making it ^^
Hi. I just wanted to show my appreciation and revisit this video. Your words really resonated with me (the "benchwarmer" metaphor has been living in my head rent free for about 3 years.) I know I'm capable of romantic attraction, but I rarely feel the active need to date like other people do. I don't think my experiences exactly map onto yours since I've had more than two crushes, but you talking about your experiences helped me better understand myself. Thank you.
I don't really know how to put what I'm feeling into words. But hearing someone talk about how I have felt watching bloom into you and reading the manga was just really helpful. Sorry I know that makes no sense, but thank you for making this video 💜
Absolute Giga-Chad for putting the names of the shows in the background up on screen.
Ever since I watched it I can’t get the anime out of my head.
AAAAAA dude I fucking love you so much for this video… I remember connecting to bloom into you so much and watching this same video a couple of years ago and then again here and there, I’ve listened to all of this and not until this time, it’s completely set in with me... i’ve recently realized that I'm demiromantic and just how much the psychology behind this anime has astounded and always held a special place in my heart. Thank you so much for this vid ❤️
Thank you for this video, really. I can't directly relate but this video was the catalyst for some introspection that I think I sorely needed. This Covid period really feels like it's put my life to a stop, like I'm a bystander while time still goes by. I guess I need to believe in myself more.
Also, it takes a lot of effort to make a video or other creative work, I know myself - so don't feel like you need any sort of validation from others or that you shouldn't be able to express yourself - because it's definitely not something most have the courage to do, so it would be a waste for those with the courage not to.
amazing video--seriously relate to a lot of your experiences and the characters in Bloom Into You. Loved this exploration of what forms romance can take and I deeply vibe with your final "if I get a shot to step up to the plate, I'll swing for the fences." That line hit me hard. So good. Thank you for this video 💙
The way you digest their personalities like a thesis earned me as a subscriber. Thank you 💕
I could never put it in words as good as you, but this video just spoke straight out of my soul. I always felt a weird connection to the characters of bloom into you i couldn't explain, but i think this video really helped me understand it.
This is such a good analysis video and brought a whole new perspective I would have literally never thought about in my day to day life , thank you very much for sharing this intimate letter of sorts.
This is one of my favorite videos on this platform. Thank you for making this, I feel like I understand myself more now
thank you so much!!
This put so many things into words that I’ve never been able to say before
I'm crying over and over every time I heard about Yuu and Touko's story ;w; It changed my life too. In the past, I thought that I loved someone but I just... want to take care of them. I continue to do this to other people and say it is caring. After this stuff, some have a special feeling when (she) stays with me. I'm fine with that so I stay with them in a role as their "lover". Until I watch Bloom into you (yagate kimi naru), I realize that love is a thing that is more complicated than what I think. And after this video, I was shocked very hard about realizing all of that was just "caring". After all, I never seriously in love with someone.... Anyway thank you for this video to make me realize it. Arigato Gozaimashita (ありがとうございました)!
One of the best yuri anime which changed someone's life whether it is coming to terms with their sexuality or confessing one's feelings for a significant other regardless of their gender or even accepting your inner flaws. Hope they can make a spin-off anime series of BIY : Regarding Sayeka Saeki. I would love to see that.
When I found and watched this video, I was utterly speechless. For one thing, this person thoroughly watched Bloom Into You and I love that this anime is getting the love and attention it deserves, no matter how many years have passed(which btw still one of my liked animes and mangas in present time). However, on the other hand, I can't help but feel mixed emotions after watching his video. It's not to put this video in a negative light, goodness no! It's far from that actually. In fact, the way they(I fear I might misgender the author)explained their thoughts, examples, and real life problems and experiences, really does "hit home". I felt completely torn regarding the topics of emotions, romance and platonic love, identity, personality, mentality and etc. because it felt like multiple stabs in the heart for me. What truly spoke to me is this, "I've always lived like this, keeping a comfortable distance. Up until now I had sworn to myself that I'm content with loneliness. Because none of it was ever worth the risk." They summarized the issue of their past with this(I hope I'm not wrong about that), and that is the same issue I, unfortunately, am still facing. It would be an understatement that I'm bawling my eyes out: at this point, I feel like my heart is bleeding from that. It may be a bit selfish of me to say this, but I'm glad I can relate to them. Of course, there are people out there that struggle with connections and trust out there, which I completely understand and sympathize with. This is just me, releasing my thoughts and feelings(obviously cause I'm somewhat anonymous); please don't mind this comment. I just felt like...typing down what I felt, for once. It was an impulse, my apologies...
Oh! But I assure you I watched the whole video. I honestly feel embarrassed that they understood Bloom Into You more than I do, it's most likely because I only watched it once and my first impression of it that it felt completely different from the romance anime I had watched in the past(and that it was adorable). However, I didn't think much of it in the past and didn't try to attach and relate to the characters. Because when I first watched this, I was considerably young, barely reaching teenage. I was extremely dense, and at that time I was still trying to understand myself and the world. Ah wait, this is turning into a ramble--
In conclusion, I enjoyed their video very much. I'll re-read and re-watch the manga and the anime. Thank you Mathwiz for making this video and leaving a huge impact on me, and from the bottom of my heart, I wish you best with your life!
Well let's file this video into: this hit me into the heart and made me relate way too much
Thank you so much for the awesome video. It did clear things out of things that I questioned myself for a very long time. To be frank, I saw myself in Touko's place. Having different personalities in every person I face or group of persons. I have been doing this for a very long time. I am afraid of rejection. Afraid of losing trust. After reading this awesome manga, I felt that I needed to change. I don't need to be covered under a mask just to be liked or to be cared for.
I did see also the other perspective on the relationship between the three. It did push me to realise about myself how to approach people, to be more open-minded, and to show care and love.
I almost lost interest in love after multiple times as I have feared rejection. To the point, I don't engage one. I pledged myself not to have one moving forward. But it did change when someone confessed to me. But the question was whether would I continue to love this person or just hurt myself in the process... Somewhat I saw myself on the side of Yuu... Sigh... Anyway...
It's been a wild ride for me. Reading the manga brings me back to my old self and my modern self where my personality still hasn't changed much which I need to do. Like I said earlier, I need to change, and don't be afraid of it.
Watching this video also opens new understanding and self-realization as well.
I just finished reading its manga and will now continue to watch the anime and read its novel.
I haven't expressed myself completely as I am still reflecting on what I have learnt from the manga and the video.
But for now, this is what I can express.
Thanks again.
Yes, I also found bloom into you around the time I figured out I was aro and this will forever be my favorite anime b/c it was the first one who got me. Like the empty feeling is a lot to handle and it took we a while to accept my identity
Watching Bloom Into You made me realize that seeing how Touko is that theres more people like me and it kinda eases my mind especially after something recent that broke me a lot. I went through a breakup 2 months ago and it was a 4 month relationship and it was the first time I had ever truly felt romantic love and it made me feel like. I used to be exactly like Touko hiding myself so everyone sees me as this perfect person. She was the only person I ever showed a vulnerable side around, the only person I cried around or showed real emotion around for the first time in a long time and after we broke up I was at the same point again just masking who I was around people and even her and just quietly breaking down and thinking I am not good enoughto be loved or good enough for anyoneand hated who I was being. Idk if I am getting the wrong message or interpretting things wrong but Bloom Into You made me realise that theres hope and more people like me who feel that love isn't for them but are still able to feel it and I shouldn't let one bad experience change my entire path in life. I am glad I watched this when digging for things to watch, because now I realise I am not alone and I shouldn't give up hope. Gonna cut this off before I start rambling now but I probably already have.
that feeling when i start singing paramore in the middle of an anime video
lol i caught the reference as soon as i read this comment
Watching this video make me think of how I felt about this vast subject, and also of the fact that I'm looking more than I though like Yuu.
I think that I will never find love cause I can't fall in love, I never have been, but I hope inside that I will find someone that can truly understand me, but also the fact is that I don't need to have a romantic relationship in my mind to have that, friends understand each other.
It's really hard to find the right word to express what this video gave me, what it made me think and reflect.
Thanks for it!
Haven't even watched two minutes but I already know I'm gonna agree with you in every way, I'm broken that I finished it
Thank you for this video. I started to cry cuz of how i could connect to both yours and the characters perspectives and i think this has helped me open my eyes towards myself. Even if only a little bit.