I don't think it's insane at all. It's definitely disrespectful to lie and go behind someone's back who at the very least would have been willing to have a conversation with you, but I understand why someone would feel compelled to cheat in a monogamous relationship. In fact, it's kind of wild to think that being faithful to one person for the rest of your life would even seem like the easier option even if they are a great person. Regardless if someone is great to you or not doesn't stop attraction. That's not how attraction or love works. You don't conveniently have only enough room in your heart for one person romantically. Ask any married person and most if not all would agree that they have been attracted to other people during their marriage, but they simply choose to ignore that attraction out of respect for their relationship. They don't simply lose all attraction and/or love for other people after they get into an exclusive relationship. They ignore it and choose to ignore it for however long that relationship lasts. I say this because that discrepancy makes a difference, and that's why a monogamous relationship among other things like generally sharing your life with a person is never easy. I think people romanticize relationships too much in that regard. Marriage was meant to be forever, and monogamy is essentially pre-marriage, or the courtship process for your marriage, so it can't be taken or shouldn't be taken lightly because you are committing your life to a person. You are agreeing to say no to every romantic, sexual, and higly intimate or emotional relationship that you have or could ever have with another person until the day you or your partner dies by agreeing to be in a monogamous relationship. Cheating is most definitely the easier option despite it being selfish lol. In a relationship style where you are forever posed with the ultimatum of your partner versus everyone else I understand why many people are compelled to cheat. Why would you leave your partner that you genuinely love and who has done nothing wrong just to explore an undeveloped feeling with someone else? Leaving would be the responsibile alternative to cheating, but when you share everything with one person that level of maturity and courage is incredibly difficult to possess. If I were her, I would have chosen another route. I would have expressed my feelings to my partner. I would have admitted that I was curious about having relationships with other people and that it had nothing to do with them but due to my lack of inexperience, and I would ask if they have ever genuinely felt the same. At the very least that simple conversation relieves you from the guilt of feeling things that is a very common human thing to feel. It's ok to feel attraction to other people besides your partner, and by simply acknowledging that it's ok to have those feelings in an exclusive relationship like that makes a world of a difference. A lot of mfs feel so much shame, guilt, and even self hatred just for being attracted to people that aren't their partner because no one ever told them it was ok. They were sold this idea that when you truly love someone all of those things disappear for other people and that's simply not true. You just choose not to act on it which isn't always an easy course of action. Feeling less guilt by talking to her partner is the least that could have happened out of that scenario, and at the very most maybe their relationship opens up and changes long term or short term, and they get to experience love, sex or both from other people without having to throw away a perfectly good relationship with each other. If she feels this way due to inexperience it isn't unreasonable to think that he could have felt those same things to a certain extent. It's not insane that she felt this way, but when someone loves you- you would be suprised how far they would go to make you happy and to hear you out. Cheating is cowardly in that way, because she could have easily just talked to the man.
@@joungyalen25 wanted you to feel seen/heard but still understand that writing a whole thesis on why you disagree with what you assume is my entire perspective on infidelity based on a joke in a YT comment section is just silly.
28:43 never said daily, he said he didnt feel like he ever really got that. People like to be loved in different ways Ceeman He can't actually know how much his partner loves him. He can only judge how much he loves, and how much she loves him, by how he understands love. And vice versa ofc. Its not a query with an objective answer unless the dynamic is clear or agreed upon
I understand where Shawn was coming from but words of affirmation are a love language and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be told “I’m proud of you” “you look good today” etc. Just because Shawn’s family didn’t vocalise their love and support for him doesn’t mean everyone grew up the same way.
I think it’s the opposite. Me personally, my family really never vocalized how they felt about each other. I can count the amount of times on 1 hand i kissed my mom or she told me she loved me. I never knew how much words truly meant still i got into my first real relationship and now im basically addicted lol. I crave that type of love from my s/o. Sean seems to not understand that a relationship works both ways. If that’s what makes me happy, my girl should do that. But if that’s not how she naturally functions then I shouldn’t expect it. Long story short dude gives horrible advice
I’m sorry i get being emphatic for certain situations, but if you need to sugarcoat and/or layer your words every time you speak with someone then that friendship/relationship isn’t for you
So true. Obviously there is a fine line between directness and rudeness but on the flipside there is also a fine line between empathy and walking on eggshells.
If you can’t make compromises in a relationship, you better find someone that thinks and operates almost identically to yourself. If you know someone’s “love language” is different than yours and you are unable to fulfill their wants, that’s something that needs to be communicated EARLY into a relationship. In fact, lack of communication is the biggest time waster in society today
I saw your comment before watching the video, and I’m really interested in your perspective tbh. This could be my biases talking since I aligned with a lot of what Shawn expressed, but I didn’t see jealousy or emotional detachment. I’d argue that the notion that you should basically be connected at the hip to people you date in order to show love is the real maladaptive practices. A healthy level of detachment and separation is good for a relationship. That comes from a place of choice rather than codependency. But meh.
Imagine fumbling just because you couldnt be an adult and do some household chores. He over here writing her songs and shit, meanwhile the plates are piling up in the sink.
Cheating on someone who gave you nearly a decade of his life is so insane to me ngl lmao
Fuck cheaters 💯
I don't think it's insane at all.
It's definitely disrespectful to lie and go behind someone's back who at the very least would have been willing to have a conversation with you, but I understand why someone would feel compelled to cheat in a monogamous relationship.
In fact, it's kind of wild to think that being faithful to one person for the rest of your life would even seem like the easier option even if they are a great person.
Regardless if someone is great to you or not doesn't stop attraction.
That's not how attraction or love works. You don't conveniently have only enough room in your heart for one person romantically.
Ask any married person and most if not all would agree that they have been attracted to other people during their marriage, but they simply choose to ignore that attraction out of respect for their relationship.
They don't simply lose all attraction and/or love for other people after they get into an exclusive relationship. They ignore it and choose to ignore it for however long that relationship lasts.
I say this because that discrepancy makes a difference, and that's why a monogamous relationship among other things like generally sharing your life with a person is never easy.
I think people romanticize relationships too much in that regard.
Marriage was meant to be forever, and monogamy is essentially pre-marriage, or the courtship process for your marriage, so it can't be taken or shouldn't be taken lightly because you are committing your life to a person.
You are agreeing to say no to every romantic, sexual, and higly intimate or emotional relationship that you have or could ever have with another person until the day you or your partner dies by agreeing to be in a monogamous relationship.
Cheating is most definitely the easier option despite it being selfish lol.
In a relationship style where you are forever posed with the ultimatum of your partner versus everyone else I understand why many people are compelled to cheat.
Why would you leave your partner that you genuinely love and who has done nothing wrong just to explore an undeveloped feeling with someone else?
Leaving would be the responsibile alternative to cheating, but when you share everything with one person that level of maturity and courage is incredibly difficult to possess.
If I were her, I would have chosen another route. I would have expressed my feelings to my partner.
I would have admitted that I was curious about having relationships with other people and that it had nothing to do with them but due to my lack of inexperience, and I would ask if they have ever genuinely felt the same.
At the very least that simple conversation relieves you from the guilt of feeling things that is a very common human thing to feel.
It's ok to feel attraction to other people besides your partner, and by simply acknowledging that it's ok to have those feelings in an exclusive relationship like that makes a world of a difference.
A lot of mfs feel so much shame, guilt, and even self hatred just for being attracted to people that aren't their partner because no one ever told them it was ok.
They were sold this idea that when you truly love someone all of those things disappear for other people and that's simply not true. You just choose not to act on it which isn't always an easy course of action.
Feeling less guilt by talking to her partner is the least that could have happened out of that scenario, and at the very most maybe their relationship opens up and changes long term or short term, and they get to experience love, sex or both from other people without having to throw away a perfectly good relationship with each other.
If she feels this way due to inexperience it isn't unreasonable to think that he could have felt those same things to a certain extent.
It's not insane that she felt this way, but when someone loves you- you would be suprised how far they would go to make you happy and to hear you out.
Cheating is cowardly in that way, because she could have easily just talked to the man.
@@joungyalen25 not reading all that but I'm happy for you or sorry that happened ig
@@zyyps No point in commenting then tbh, but thanks I guess.
@@joungyalen25 wanted you to feel seen/heard but still understand that writing a whole thesis on why you disagree with what you assume is my entire perspective on infidelity based on a joke in a YT comment section is just silly.
28:43 never said daily, he said he didnt feel like he ever really got that.
People like to be loved in different ways Ceeman
He can't actually know how much his partner loves him.
He can only judge how much he loves, and how much she loves him, by how he understands love.
And vice versa ofc.
Its not a query with an objective answer unless the dynamic is clear or agreed upon
I understand where Shawn was coming from but words of affirmation are a love language and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be told “I’m proud of you” “you look good today” etc. Just because Shawn’s family didn’t vocalise their love and support for him doesn’t mean everyone grew up the same way.
i don’t think he said his family doesn’t vocalize love and support for him. He said it’s not necessary to do that all the time. strong difference
@@jrbone5662 26:02 ???
I mean, Shawn took it as just looks but yea
Shawn probably struggles in relationships with words of affirmation women and wonders why…
Of course Shawn giving brat advice 😭 Shawn is worse than my last situationship, and that man was BRATTY
I think it’s the opposite. Me personally, my family really never vocalized how they felt about each other. I can count the amount of times on 1 hand i kissed my mom or she told me she loved me. I never knew how much words truly meant still i got into my first real relationship and now im basically addicted lol. I crave that type of love from my s/o. Sean seems to not understand that a relationship works both ways. If that’s what makes me happy, my girl should do that. But if that’s not how she naturally functions then I shouldn’t expect it. Long story short dude gives horrible advice
Bruh, white dude on the right doesn't just look like Billie, the way he moves and speaks is also the same, it's lowkey crazy.
They don't even look alike
@@zetsuya1 they do
@@bluepearl_22 not. Any mf who says that clearly is ignorant or hasn't seen her enough, you wouldn't even have thought it on ur own
Why the hell would 2 tops get together? That's just dumb. HOW ABOUT COMMUNICATING WITH EACH OTHER??
I’ve been waitin to see him react to this shit.
I’m sorry i get being emphatic for certain situations, but if you need to sugarcoat and/or layer your words every time you speak with someone then that friendship/relationship isn’t for you
factual fact
So true. Obviously there is a fine line between directness and rudeness but on the flipside there is also a fine line between empathy and walking on eggshells.
Shawn called bruh Billie Eilish yoooo I'm dead.😂
16:08 that dono got it lmaooo
Lmaoooo ⚔️
I am in no way, shape, or form surprised that Rae said yes to the better sex question
If you can’t make compromises in a relationship, you better find someone that thinks and operates almost identically to yourself. If you know someone’s “love language” is different than yours and you are unable to fulfill their wants, that’s something that needs to be communicated EARLY into a relationship. In fact, lack of communication is the biggest time waster in society today
Thanks for tha video
Shawn was lowkey talking js to talk man he shouldnt be commenting on relationships as a jealous emotionally disconnected guy but whatever
TWIST IT!
Talking bout some come cuddle.
Shawn is a Red flag of death
I actually had to turn the video off. Bro loves hearing himself talk
I saw your comment before watching the video, and I’m really interested in your perspective tbh. This could be my biases talking since I aligned with a lot of what Shawn expressed, but I didn’t see jealousy or emotional detachment. I’d argue that the notion that you should basically be connected at the hip to people you date in order to show love is the real maladaptive practices. A healthy level of detachment and separation is good for a relationship. That comes from a place of choice rather than codependency. But meh.
@@Iaintcreativeso Im on a holiday trip rn but ill get back to you!!
The cuddle talk was JOKES😭😭😭but uhn uhn girlies catch feelings like that, brodie trippin
lmao 8:12-8:47
“Do not trust latinas chat”
“she’s Asian?”
“Do not trust latinas chat”
W Ceeman
W vid
them lez
Oh this is messy. 👾
Luna a 10 and homie fumbled that
Imagine fumbling just because you couldnt be an adult and do some household chores. He over here writing her songs and shit, meanwhile the plates are piling up in the sink.
Ceeman
This episode from jubilee was toxic AF.