I like how often.. much of what you say ..is largely unscripted. It flows well. No mumbling,, not buts….no rrrrr’s…..just continuous talk. Very good. 🥂
My philosophy is that if you have problems it is because you are alive, so problems are the salt and pepper of life.i love therefor problems. I realy enjoy your programs
Dad used to tell me "dress like a bum, and you"ll get treated like a bum." Dad was right, but blunt. You delivered the same message only much more diplomatically. Well done!😊
Ash, I too am a retired Police Officer, starting my career after a stent in the military. I found all your information spot on, especially when you spoke about image. In the Marines and in law enforcement, we referred to it as "Command Presence". Sometimes the mere presence of a uniformed officer was enough to quell a potentially violent situation. Of course your observations on the fitness of the officer is spot on as well. Fat over weight coppers with stains from his lunch on his shirt can have the opposite effect. Thank you for all your excellent videos.
Great advice. I remember as a 12 year old in the early 1980's watching Margaret Thatcher on tv around the time of the miners strike. Living in a mining village north of Port Talbot and seeing first hand the cost to families, I said to my late grandfather, (who was watching with me and had been a former miner), to switch it off. He said it was always important to listen to other people's views even if you disagree with them. That has always stuck with me even now.
Ash. I so appreciate the balance that you bring to every topic you discuss. I look forward to the day when your audience is in the millions because your message and advice are so spot on-and needed.
Great advice here. Re: Communication skills. I this regard I have learnt one key lesson over the years, namely, "slow down." I grew up in North Wales. In North Wales you really had to talk quickly or you would never get into the conversation. Moreover, the "fast talker" was viewed as being clever, witty and articulate whilst the slow talker was viewed as the village idiot.. Yet the very meaning of the word ‘articulate’ means the very art of separating words and sentences and in making these divisions distinct. Think of the articulated lorry. So I thought that I might sound clever with the speed of my delivery, yet when I moved to the States I simply baffled many Southerners. They simply could not keep up with the pace. Michael Caine talks about playing Peachy Carnehan in my favourite film "The Man Who Would Be King." John Huston, who wrote the screenplay and directed, was directing Caine in one scene and gave him some sound advice. He said to Caine: "Slow down Michael. Remember, you are playing an honest man." Yes, "fast-talking" has deservedly got a bad name. I learned that Churchill, in conversation, was slow and ponderous and would choose each word as if it were a ripe piece of choice fruit. You give yourself time to apply the “tact filter”; you save yourself from ever (again) ending a sentence with the phrase “you know what I mean?” It does this because you have told them already exactly what you mean so that this phrase becomes redundant. Thus, slow pace not only conveys honesty, not only does it allow for more precision, not only does it mean you avoid putting your foot in it, it also gives you more natural authority. Why? Because you sound calmer and more rational. A by-product is that you also speak with more of a bass/baritone and so your voice sounds more attractive, particularly to women. These were important lessons for me to learn. In fact, to be accurate, it meant that I had to unlearn what I had learnt in my early days. Now I actively work at not just talking more slowly. More than that, it has helped me come to realise that there are those moments in my life in which I should live and think in slow motion, just so as to enjoy, cultivate and savour such fleeting gems that will never return. Keep up the great work.
You are correct sir, good diction is indeed an underrated aspect of one's appearance (sic) to the world. You can be as well dressed as you like, but if you speak poorly the impression left with others will be lacking. I may cover this subject in a future video. I have a similar experience coming from the valleys of South Wales, where slang and lazy diction habits has caused an accent that is grating on the ear and one which I have sought to discard my entire life.
Back in the 90tees I worked in London. I asked a Bobby the way to Denmark-street. I guess I was bit shy. But I shaped up and it was very clear that the policeman saw this and we talked for a long time. When I told him that I came from Denmark, we had a laugh before I went my way to Denmark street. To this day this short meeting with this polite man Is one of my best memories from that time.
I also think…to be careful how you judge people. I worked for an American private company. Now sold for $1.7 billion US$. H.B.Fuller. Adhesives. A company meeting. Americans are very tall on average. Standing next to me was a small man..in his 60’s.. corduroy jacket.. scruffy trousers and shoes… I thought he was one of the gardeners. He introduced himself to me. He was Harvey Fuller. Grandson of the founder. Hahahahahahaha. I learnt… be cautious how you judge people.
I think the most valuable advice is at 11:20: Learn to protect your mental 'hygiene'. It's probably so important as there is still a stigma ("weakling" or "nut") attached to it. From my own experience I can tell that physical exercise is very important (it will save you from becoming fat too.) Just a bit, not too much, don't overdo it. A brisk walk will do. And it will make you thoroughly tired at night as well. And skip the TV.
This first advice is way more important than you might think. I am in a mathematics degree and had a presentation of a one-month project the other day. Usually I'm barely above the average of the class when it comes to marks. However this time (and it's partially thanks to you) I mustered the courage to wear a blue suit, a white shirt, a striped tie and dark-brown shoes (I obviously was the only one who went through the trouble). And even though I worked as I usually do, my teacher told me afterwards that I got the best mark out of the entire class for the presentation. It is mind-blowing what a good outfit ( !!! WHILE KEEPING A MODEST AND HUMBLE ATTITUDE !!! ) can bring to your life.
What an amazing story of the power of positive dressing. I am so pleased you have been able to harness the confidence that a simple suit can bestow upon a gentleman. Best of luck with your continuing studies - at least you now share my own super-power.
Congrats and well done. Presentations are never easy, but you put thought into it and now have a winning formula to handle other scenarios you may encounter!
Great video. Even in fiction and TV, British police seem held to a much higher standard. The portrayals seem spot on. In the U.S. they try to intimidate in almost any interaction, regardless of how mild.
Police Officers in the United Kingdom have got to be some of the best communicators in the world. I have so much respect for them as they do their job largely unarmed. I would love to attend a seminar where British Police talk about their training and experiences.
I truly believe that British television is missing a great opportunity by neglecting to cast you, Ash, in your own detective mystery series. I would certainly make it a point to not miss it!
Excellent as always Ash. Having been in "Green" uniform for a significant part of my life and subsequently Police Staff in "Blacks". I can relate to much of what you say. I now work in further education (again) as I needed an "out" for my Mental wellbeing . It has been commented upon by many people (mainly my wife), that it is obvious in the way I hold myself and my gait (and speed) that I have served. Appearance and bearing are, in my opinion, vital in being a role model to my students. Though they probably don't realise the subliminal education piece of this. I am still physically active as a matter of need. I'm not getting any younger, the fitness testing regime I am subject to has just become more demanding and, as you mentioned, for my mental health. Life only heads in one direction, I concur. There are but two certainties in life. Death and Nurses...
I would have never imagined you as a police officer, but i'm happy to be so wrong. Thank you for your service in both the military as well as the civilian service. This is why your videos are so good and truly legitimate. I have always enjoyed your videos, but now they mean so much more. Ash, you are the man !! May you be well.
Excellent advice, great video. Great to see you talk about Mental Health - the toll working in law enforcement takes on people is enormous, but often over looked. A couple of things I always try remember - Everybody is important to someone, treat everyone with respect, your personal appearance in the job is important and shows respect to officers that have gone before you and those that will come after you. I joined the Police Force as a mature age recruit, and it was a great experience. Like you say being able to communicate with people is just so important in getting a good outcome and not having to use force etc etc. It does make you appreciate life more, as there are many people struggling everyday.
Everyone wants to feel confident & brave but many of us are unsure of how to break negative thought patterns and make this mind-set a reality. As Ash has demonstrated, it doesn't have to be this way!
Having communication skills is rarely natural mostly acquired. But it takes a lot of time and dedication to achieve it. I know I tried but my breathing and my unclear voice due to nasal physical problem makes it difficult. Not to mention to memorize all what one would like to say isnt easy plus the natural fear of being in front of many people increases the level of difficulty. Still learning.
I watch a lot of RUclips on a variety of topics, and I rarely comment, but dang! That was the most true, thoughtful and helpful talks I've seen in quite awhile. I appreciate it, Ashe. Thank you!
Interesting to listen to your thoughts, particularly those on speaking to others. We do indeed all share a common destination - as a clergyman I recognise that what you say in this video is invaluable for those of us that have to speak to bereaved families and conduct funeral services. Thank you for posting.
I rarely comment on RUclips but have to admit the last point resonates with me (originally form the Balkans). I’ve learned to stop and reflect and look at that bird or smell a flower and embrace the life. P. S. I only discovered your channel recently and been binge watching. Greetings from down under and keep up the good work
I'm glad you disclosed your experience that there's more than meets the eye, and than an unfortunate event will have meant that they are on the streets looking to survive. You've identified the humanity in folk. Tony
Another excellent video Ash I like you served in the forces, for me the army and have fir the past sixteen years been a pcso in the police service. Both these occupations have taught me so much and formed me in to the man I am today. Despite my life skills I've taken on board many of the things you have imparted through your videos and would like to share with you some affirmation that what you say is true. I had a life changing event last year with cancer but thankfully am now cancer free. This lead me to a change if direction in my life and I looked for a new role.and using my life skills and tips from you I attended an interview and was successful on my application. They noted how I presented myself and how I came across and was impressed with my knowledge of the role and what my skills could bring to the role. The tips you imparted along with my learnt skills were instrumental in obtaining my new role. I'm sure if others follow your advice they will succeed too.
Good to hear that you have bounced back from your ill health and great to hear that you were able to harness your inner chap and open new opportunities for the future - I love to hear of chap's embarking upon new challenges in life. I wish you all the best for the future - let me know if I can ever assist. Ash
Thank you for sharing. I've been finding myself having to deal with several druggies and/or homeless lately and find my tone depends on how they look, meaning how lucid they seem to be. The more drugged they look the more I have to put up a hard front to get through the fog and show I mean business. The more lucid ones get a polite but firm reply. For us civilians, one must always be aware of any blow back from such people as we don't have an entire department behind us, (when seconds count, police are minutes away) so starting soft but firm is best.
I'd like to reiterate on what's transcribed in multiple comments under these videos. These videos entice quick change : I decided to stop display anger & considered wearing ties after 1 month watching these videos.
Life lessons for anyone and everyone to partake in. I'm really impressed with how clear and coherent you were during this entire video. Have a good day.
I spent a number of years as a police officer in Chicago and I agree with what you say about how people perceived law enforcement, at that time........jump forward 50 years, and now I wouldn't do that job (in Chicago) for any amount of money. Our country has developed a malignancy, and it manifests itself by its treatment of law enforcement. We are on a very slippery slope in regard to the disappearance of civility in our society. I'm in my late 70s and still dress, for the most part, as you do. I get quite a lot of compliments, and very few negative comments.
Great stuff Ash. In 25 years you must have seen some dreadful things. After having served 28 years in The Army, point No. 5 is especially poignant to me, but equally I have seen so many mental health problems develop into deeply sad endings. Got to keep those demons away!!
This is my favorite video you've made so far. I greatly enjoy these wisdom/philosophy videos. Thank you for sharing. It would be great to see you do a follow up video expanding on effective mental hygiene habits.
Great tips Ash. I’ve always admired the patience, discipline and communication / dispute resolution skills of our law enforcement community. It’s often a thankless job but it takes a headstrong and highly trained individual to serve and protect.
Good video, and although my career was nowhere near law enforcement I would endorse these as good points for anyone. But when I started out, no-one in the workplace took any time to tell me, (or anyone else) about such matters. Particularly in the case of mental health/balance I guess it was talked about much less then. Thank you for raising such issues - they are important.
Beautifully communicated and thanks for the wise words sir! Everyday is a gift…..that is a beautiful statement and I’m going to use that in my daily journey through life
LIFE LESSONS (IN LAW ENFORCEMENT): 1:27 - I. Image is important. 4:37 - II. Be open to the values of others. 7:31 - III. Practise effective communication. 11:15 - IV. Protect mental hygiene. 14:21 - V. Every day is a gift.
Ash Great advice as usual. Thanks for your prolonged service to your country and community. I always aspired to try to communicate with people on a personal level. And I have much appreciation for law enforcement they do a job that many cannot and will not do. It's sad that in my country because of a couple of bad apples an entire vocation has been judged wrongly. I also agree strongly with your opinions on Mental Health. It seems more recently especially with covid people are dealing more with that and it seems as though the old stigma it's been lifted. Although some older people still struggle with trying to get help. Keep up the good work. Cheers Ron
25+ years here in the US, ready to retire July 1. Would not start that career these days due to political dynamics and public apathy. Agree with what you said.
Excellent advice, Ash. If you look the part and feel confidant, you radiate that. People will react to that accordingly. Second, your comment about homeless people really hits the mark. You should treat everyone with the same respect. That being said, you didn’t have to add the special effects of sirens and smoke. The videos are good as they are 😉
The Chap's Guide - I made the comment because “strident” generally carries a negative connotation - it means: loud, raucous, unpleasant, aggressive, combative, shrill; whereas, “stringent” is defined as, precise, exacting, rigid, strict, firm, confident.
Hello Ash, I’m new to your channel but really glad to have found you. You have great things to share and fantastic insight. Looking forward to going through all your videos and looking forward to new content. Thank-you for sharing your experience.
"Every day's a gift." How right you are, Ash (oh, and the correct adjective in this context is ineluctable - i.e. something which cannot be avoided - e.g. 'Death is ineluctable'; not indefatigable - the latter means, tireless!)
I really struggle to understand the attitude of my young officers towards dress and deportment. I my uniform was always pressed, and my boots polished. Once I came across a rookie scraping his boot toes on concrete steps. When I asked what he thought he was doing, he told me that he didn't want to look like a rookie with new boots. Sadly, we operational managers didn't have the support of administration to strictly enforce dress and deportment standards. I strongly believe that lack of standards was deleterious to officer morale, even if the officers didn't know or understand that. I also found that going up through the ranks very isolating in terms of self care. You lose a lot of the camaraderie that helps keep things light-hearted.
Wise words indeed. For some reason the first part of your talk brings to mind a saying of that good old proto-communist Robbie Burns; 'The rank is but the guineas stamp - the man's the gold for all that'.
You left out the most important lesson. The job is fckd. 😂. All joking aside the life lessons from the Police gave me endless opportunities on civy street.
I know this is eleven months ago but had to comment, the cops I’m seeing on the tv and very really on the streets look like security staff / bouncers at an event, flat 🧢 caps yellow jacket’s it just doesn’t look right. They really have lost the public over the last twenty years and l don’t see it getting any better going forward. Just my take on things. 🇬🇧
If Ash thinks back to all of the interactions he had with members of the criminal fraternity, I wouldn't mind betting that the vast majority of them were dressed in shiny shell suits and baseball caps. But....does that mean that the 5% or 10%% of crims that dress in a polished and elegant way aren't getting caught?🤔 I'm being a little tongue-in-cheek, of course. But I do sometimes wonder whether most criminals are people from a deprived social background and of lower-than-average intelligence; but the few who are more clever (perhaps typically fraudsters of one kind or another) may not even show up on the radar of law enforcement in many instances? And perhaps the first thing that these sub Professor Moriarty types have figured out, is that - if you are a criminal - it might be a very decent idea NOT to dress like one?😄
well if you look pour the cops with bother you all the time , and be less polite , if you are in jeans and t shurt with a old cheap car , you have more chance of getting stop that if are in sute with a new bmw or mersedes , and you have more change of getting your car serch if is a old cheap car , to the eyes of the police pour= criminal
I like how often.. much of what you say ..is largely unscripted. It flows well. No mumbling,, not buts….no rrrrr’s…..just continuous talk. Very good. 🥂
I agree
Ash makes it seem so effortless I hadn't noticed. But that's the skill isn't it?
Very well spoken.....refreshing.
My philosophy is that if you have problems it is because you are alive, so problems are the salt and pepper of life.i love therefor problems. I realy enjoy your programs
Dad used to tell me "dress like a bum, and you"ll get treated like a bum." Dad was right, but blunt. You delivered the same message only much more diplomatically. Well done!😊
Ash, I too am a retired Police Officer, starting my career after a stent in the military. I found all your information spot on, especially when you spoke about image. In the Marines and in law enforcement, we referred to it as "Command Presence". Sometimes the mere presence of a uniformed officer was enough to quell a potentially violent situation. Of course your observations on the fitness of the officer is spot on as well. Fat over weight coppers with stains from his lunch on his shirt can have the opposite effect. Thank you for all your excellent videos.
Great advice. I remember as a 12 year old in the early 1980's watching Margaret Thatcher on tv around the time of the miners strike. Living in a mining village north of Port Talbot and seeing first hand the cost to families, I said to my late grandfather, (who was watching with me and had been a former miner), to switch it off. He said it was always important to listen to other people's views even if you disagree with them. That has always stuck with me even now.
Outstanding advice from undoubtedly a great grandfather.
Ash. I so appreciate the balance that you bring to every topic you discuss. I look forward to the day when your audience is in the millions because your message and advice are so spot on-and needed.
Great advice here.
Re: Communication skills. I this regard I have learnt one key lesson over the years, namely, "slow down." I grew up in North Wales. In North Wales you really had to talk quickly or you would never get into the conversation. Moreover, the "fast talker" was viewed as being clever, witty and articulate whilst the slow talker was viewed as the village idiot.. Yet the very meaning of the word ‘articulate’ means the very art of separating words and sentences and in making these divisions distinct. Think of the articulated lorry.
So I thought that I might sound clever with the speed of my delivery, yet when I moved to the States I simply baffled many Southerners. They simply could not keep up with the pace.
Michael Caine talks about playing Peachy Carnehan in my favourite film "The Man Who Would Be King." John Huston, who wrote the screenplay and directed, was directing Caine in one scene and gave him some sound advice. He said to Caine: "Slow down Michael. Remember, you are playing an honest man."
Yes, "fast-talking" has deservedly got a bad name. I learned that Churchill, in conversation, was slow and ponderous and would choose each word as if it were a ripe piece of choice fruit. You give yourself time to apply the “tact filter”; you save yourself from ever (again) ending a sentence with the phrase “you know what I mean?” It does this because you have told them already exactly what you mean so that this phrase becomes redundant.
Thus, slow pace not only conveys honesty, not only does it allow for more precision, not only does it mean you avoid putting your foot in it, it also gives you more natural authority. Why? Because you sound calmer and more rational. A by-product is that you also speak with more of a bass/baritone and so your voice sounds more attractive, particularly to women.
These were important lessons for me to learn. In fact, to be accurate, it meant that I had to unlearn what I had learnt in my early days.
Now I actively work at not just talking more slowly. More than that, it has helped me come to realise that there are those moments in my life in which I should live and think in slow motion, just so as to enjoy, cultivate and savour such fleeting gems that will never return.
Keep up the great work.
You are correct sir, good diction is indeed an underrated aspect of one's appearance (sic) to the world. You can be as well dressed as you like, but if you speak poorly the impression left with others will be lacking. I may cover this subject in a future video. I have a similar experience coming from the valleys of South Wales, where slang and lazy diction habits has caused an accent that is grating on the ear and one which I have sought to discard my entire life.
Back in the 90tees I worked in London. I asked a Bobby the way to Denmark-street. I guess I was bit shy. But I shaped up and it was very clear that the policeman saw this and we talked for a long time. When I told him that I came from Denmark, we had a laugh before I went my way to Denmark street. To this day this short meeting with this polite man Is one of my best memories from that time.
I also think…to be careful how you judge people. I worked for an American private company. Now sold for $1.7 billion US$. H.B.Fuller. Adhesives. A company meeting. Americans are very tall on average. Standing next to me was a small man..in his 60’s.. corduroy jacket.. scruffy trousers and shoes… I thought he was one of the gardeners. He introduced himself to me. He was Harvey Fuller. Grandson of the founder. Hahahahahahaha. I learnt… be cautious how you judge people.
I think the most valuable advice is at 11:20: Learn to protect your mental 'hygiene'. It's probably so important as there is still a stigma ("weakling" or "nut") attached to it. From my own experience I can tell that physical exercise is very important (it will save you from becoming fat too.) Just a bit, not too much, don't overdo it. A brisk walk will do. And it will make you thoroughly tired at night as well. And skip the TV.
This first advice is way more important than you might think.
I am in a mathematics degree and had a presentation of a one-month project the other day.
Usually I'm barely above the average of the class when it comes to marks.
However this time (and it's partially thanks to you) I mustered the courage to wear a blue suit, a white shirt, a striped tie and dark-brown shoes (I obviously was the only one who went through the trouble).
And even though I worked as I usually do, my teacher told me afterwards that I got the best mark out of the entire class for the presentation. It is mind-blowing what a good outfit ( !!! WHILE KEEPING A MODEST AND HUMBLE ATTITUDE !!! ) can bring to your life.
What an amazing story of the power of positive dressing. I am so pleased you have been able to harness the confidence that a simple suit can bestow upon a gentleman. Best of luck with your continuing studies - at least you now share my own super-power.
Congrats and well done. Presentations are never easy, but you put thought into it and now have a winning formula to handle other scenarios you may encounter!
Wise words. Much to reflect upon...
Great video. Even in fiction and TV, British police seem held to a much higher standard. The portrayals seem spot on. In the U.S. they try to intimidate in almost any interaction, regardless of how mild.
Police Officers in the United Kingdom have got to be some of the best communicators in the world. I have so much respect for them as they do their job largely unarmed. I would love to attend a seminar where British Police talk about their training and experiences.
Every moment is a gift, that's why they call it the present!
Really good advises.
Regards from a German Police officer
I truly believe that British television is missing a great opportunity by neglecting to cast you, Ash, in your own detective mystery series. I would certainly make it a point to not miss it!
Excellent as always Ash.
Having been in "Green" uniform for a significant part of my life and subsequently Police Staff in "Blacks". I can relate to much of what you say.
I now work in further education (again) as I needed an "out" for my Mental wellbeing .
It has been commented upon by many people (mainly my wife), that it is obvious in the way I hold myself and my gait (and speed) that I have served.
Appearance and bearing are, in my opinion, vital in being a role model to my students. Though they probably don't realise the subliminal education piece of this.
I am still physically active as a matter of need. I'm not getting any younger, the fitness testing regime I am subject to has just become more demanding and, as you mentioned, for my mental health.
Life only heads in one direction, I concur.
There are but two certainties in life.
Death and Nurses...
I would have never imagined you as a police officer, but i'm happy to be so wrong. Thank you for your service in both the military as well as the civilian service. This is why your videos are so good and truly legitimate. I have always enjoyed your videos, but now they mean so much more. Ash, you are the man !! May you be well.
Thank you, Ash - even with nearly 60 years “life experience” behind me, there were some very valuable takeaways for me within this video.
Excellent advice, great video. Great to see you talk about Mental Health - the toll working in law enforcement takes on people is enormous, but often over looked.
A couple of things I always try remember - Everybody is important to someone, treat everyone with respect, your personal appearance in the job is important and shows respect to officers that have gone before you and those that will come after you. I joined the Police Force as a mature age recruit, and it was a great experience.
Like you say being able to communicate with people is just so important in getting a good outcome and not having to use force etc etc.
It does make you appreciate life more, as there are many people struggling everyday.
Everyone wants to feel confident & brave but many of us are unsure of how to break negative thought patterns and make this mind-set a reality. As Ash has demonstrated, it doesn't have to be this way!
Having communication skills is rarely natural mostly acquired. But it takes a lot of time and dedication to achieve it. I know I tried but my breathing and my unclear voice due to nasal physical problem makes it difficult. Not to mention to memorize all what one would like to say isnt easy plus the natural fear of being in front of many people increases the level of difficulty. Still learning.
I watch a lot of RUclips on a variety of topics, and I rarely comment, but dang! That was the most true, thoughtful and helpful talks I've seen in quite awhile. I appreciate it, Ashe. Thank you!
Interesting to listen to your thoughts, particularly those on speaking to others. We do indeed all share a common destination - as a clergyman I recognise that what you say in this video is invaluable for those of us that have to speak to bereaved families and conduct funeral services. Thank you for posting.
It's a pleasure listening to you. Thank you for your life experiences.
I rarely comment on RUclips but have to admit the last point resonates with me (originally form the Balkans). I’ve learned to stop and reflect and look at that bird or smell a flower and embrace the life. P. S. I only discovered your channel recently and been binge watching. Greetings from down under and keep up the good work
Welcome to the fold.
I'm glad you disclosed your experience that there's more than meets the eye, and than an unfortunate event will have meant that they are on the streets looking to survive. You've identified the humanity in folk.
Tony
Thank You for Your service Ash.
708. Your words are really helpful. I highly appreciate it. Taras from Ukraine.
Another excellent video Ash I like you served in the forces, for me the army and have fir the past sixteen years been a pcso in the police service. Both these occupations have taught me so much and formed me in to the man I am today.
Despite my life skills I've taken on board many of the things you have imparted through your videos and would like to share with you some affirmation that what you say is true.
I had a life changing event last year with cancer but thankfully am now cancer free. This lead me to a change if direction in my life and I looked for a new role.and using my life skills and tips from you I attended an interview and was successful on my application. They noted how I presented myself and how I came across and was impressed with my knowledge of the role and what my skills could bring to the role.
The tips you imparted along with my learnt skills were instrumental in obtaining my new role.
I'm sure if others follow your advice they will succeed too.
Good to hear that you have bounced back from your ill health and great to hear that you were able to harness your inner chap and open new opportunities for the future - I love to hear of chap's embarking upon new challenges in life.
I wish you all the best for the future - let me know if I can ever assist. Ash
@@TheChapsGuide Thank you
I worked as a corrections officer here in the States. I can vouch for the point about understanding the values of who you are speaking to.
Thank you for sharing. I've been finding myself having to deal with several druggies and/or homeless lately and find my tone depends on how they look, meaning how lucid they seem to be. The more drugged they look the more I have to put up a hard front to get through the fog and show I mean business. The more lucid ones get a polite but firm reply. For us civilians, one must always be aware of any blow back from such people as we don't have an entire department behind us, (when seconds count, police are minutes away) so starting soft but firm is best.
Beautifully and eloquently said , Ash ! Good on YOU !!
I'd like to reiterate on what's transcribed in multiple comments under these videos.
These videos entice quick change : I decided to stop display anger & considered wearing ties after 1 month watching these videos.
Complete respect for you Ash. Great talk and thank you for your service. Keep up the great work.
Life lessons for anyone and everyone to partake in. I'm really impressed with how clear and coherent you were during this entire video. Have a good day.
I spent a number of years as a police officer in Chicago and I agree with what you say about how people perceived law enforcement, at that time........jump forward 50 years, and now I wouldn't do that job (in Chicago) for any amount of money. Our country has developed a malignancy, and it manifests itself by its treatment of law enforcement. We are on a very slippery slope in regard to the disappearance of civility in our society.
I'm in my late 70s and still dress, for the most part, as you do. I get quite a lot of compliments, and very few negative comments.
Great stuff Ash. In 25 years you must have seen some dreadful things. After having served 28 years in The Army, point No. 5 is especially poignant to me, but equally I have seen so many mental health problems develop into deeply sad endings. Got to keep those demons away!!
This is my favorite video you've made so far. I greatly enjoy these wisdom/philosophy videos. Thank you for sharing.
It would be great to see you do a follow up video expanding on effective mental hygiene habits.
You are so right! Everyday is indeed a gift.
Stellar advice, particularly no.2 and no.5 - very well done indeed!
Awesome reflection. Thanks, Ash. ☘️
Great tips Ash. I’ve always admired the patience, discipline and communication / dispute resolution skills of our law enforcement community. It’s often a thankless job but it takes a headstrong and highly trained individual to serve and protect.
Good video, and although my career was nowhere near law enforcement I would endorse these as good points for anyone. But when I started out, no-one in the workplace took any time to tell me, (or anyone else) about such matters. Particularly in the case of mental health/balance I guess it was talked about much less then. Thank you for raising such issues - they are important.
Thank you Ash for a very inspirational message.
Beautifully communicated and thanks for the wise words sir!
Everyday is a gift…..that is a beautiful statement and I’m going to use that in my daily journey through life
Your police uniform is cool Ash, and your Royal Air Force uniform as well 😀
LIFE LESSONS (IN LAW ENFORCEMENT): 1:27 - I. Image is important. 4:37 - II. Be open to the values of others. 7:31 - III. Practise effective communication. 11:15 - IV. Protect mental hygiene. 14:21 - V. Every day is a gift.
Great video!
Thanks very much for this Ash.
I wish everyone could listen to this,Ash.Very true,very profound.Take good care.
Very well done Ash. Thank you for sharing some on you insights and life lessons. My best to you!
Ash Great advice as usual. Thanks for your prolonged service to your country and community. I always aspired to try to communicate with people on a personal level. And I have much appreciation for law enforcement they do a job that many cannot and will not do. It's sad that in my country because of a couple of bad apples an entire vocation has been judged wrongly. I also agree strongly with your opinions on Mental Health. It seems more recently especially with covid people are dealing more with that and it seems as though the old stigma it's been lifted. Although some older people still struggle with trying to get help. Keep up the good work. Cheers Ron
Superb advice, Ash. Your life experience and positive outlook on life can be such a help to others. Really enjoyed this video.
Thank you. I’m going to share this with my son.
You have a wonderful channel. I am very happy to have stumbled upon it!
I like your personality , really genuine
Very up lifting and inspirational. Great advice. Thank you for all your professional service.
Excellent video ash . All so true
Hey it was my B day yesterday when you uploaded this. Love the channel very valuable lessons for sure. Keep up the good work sir!
25+ years here in the US, ready to retire July 1. Would not start that career these days due to political dynamics and public apathy. Agree with what you said.
What a gift! Thank you for this video. I found it quite inspirational, particularly the last two points. I hope you will make many more!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I like this video a lot. Very informative and all true. Definitely taken all on board.
¡Gracias!
Excellent
My video so far was your Christmas lunch in the open, with a glass 🥃 of whiskey. Terrific slightly eccentric charming and very British
Really excellent ... best yet
Glad you think so!
Another fine episode ash. I really enjoyed this one.
Interesting and thought provoking. Loved the video 👍
Great video Ash! So much of what you said rings true. Really great advice!
Glad you liked it!
A compassionate and good man Ash, refreshing video that is very much in line with my own thoughts. I will watch it again later to refresh my mind.
Glad you enjoyed it!
16:04 - You must mean inevitable or inexorable, not “indefatigable”.
Excellent advice, Ash. If you look the part and feel confidant, you radiate that. People will react to that accordingly.
Second, your comment about homeless people really hits the mark. You should treat everyone with the same respect.
That being said, you didn’t have to add the special effects of sirens and smoke. The videos are good as they are 😉
I wish you'd been my local Bobby. I would've robbed a bank just to get to speak to you.😉 So calming. 🙂
Sound advice as always 👍
Glad you think so!
great video g
Love your Chanel
Thank you sir
2:27 and 4:13 - Presumably, you must mean stringent rather than “strident”.
No. I mean strident.
The Chap's Guide - I made the comment because “strident” generally carries a negative connotation - it means: loud, raucous, unpleasant, aggressive, combative, shrill; whereas, “stringent” is defined as, precise, exacting, rigid, strict, firm, confident.
Hello Ash, I’m new to your channel but really glad to have found you. You have great things to share and fantastic insight. Looking forward to going through all your videos and looking forward to new content. Thank-you for sharing your experience.
Welcome aboard!
WHAT'S ALL THIS THEN!!?!? (I apologise, ... Monty Python has scarred me for life)
"Every day's a gift." How right you are, Ash (oh, and the correct adjective in this context is ineluctable - i.e. something which cannot be avoided - e.g. 'Death is ineluctable'; not indefatigable - the latter means, tireless!)
Danke!
Thank you sir
Furthermore ... Everyone should revel in their (very short) Time on this Earth ... Nothing else matters at the end of the Day.
Amen to that!
I really struggle to understand the attitude of my young officers towards dress and deportment. I my uniform was always pressed, and my boots polished. Once I came across a rookie scraping his boot toes on concrete steps. When I asked what he thought he was doing, he told me that he didn't want to look like a rookie with new boots. Sadly, we operational managers didn't have the support of administration to strictly enforce dress and deportment standards. I strongly believe that lack of standards was deleterious to officer morale, even if the officers didn't know or understand that. I also found that going up through the ranks very isolating in terms of self care. You lose a lot of the camaraderie that helps keep things light-hearted.
Great channel Great guy.
You are a true poet 😎
Wise words indeed. For some reason the first part of your talk brings to mind a saying of that good old proto-communist Robbie Burns; 'The rank is but the guineas stamp - the man's the gold for all that'.
You left out the most important lesson. The job is fckd. 😂. All joking aside the life lessons from the Police gave me endless opportunities on civy street.
Very good advice, very good video 👍🏻
Thank you! 👍
Are you kidding me you were a police officer I didnt even know I could like you more hahaha
I wish i could subscribe twice !
You must have been one of the decent ones that frequent the police force
When did we adopt the term Law enforcement in the UK? Another expression from America.
I know this is eleven months ago but had to comment, the cops I’m seeing on the tv and very really on the streets look like security staff / bouncers at an event, flat 🧢 caps yellow jacket’s it just doesn’t look right. They really have lost the public over the last twenty years and l don’t see it getting any better going forward. Just my take on things. 🇬🇧
If Ash thinks back to all of the interactions he had with members of the criminal fraternity, I wouldn't mind betting that the vast majority of them were dressed in shiny shell suits and baseball caps. But....does that mean that the 5% or 10%% of crims that dress in a polished and elegant way aren't getting caught?🤔
I'm being a little tongue-in-cheek, of course. But I do sometimes wonder whether most criminals are people from a deprived social background and of lower-than-average intelligence; but the few who are more clever (perhaps typically fraudsters of one kind or another) may not even show up on the radar of law enforcement in many instances? And perhaps the first thing that these sub Professor Moriarty types have figured out, is that - if you are a criminal - it might be a very decent idea NOT to dress like one?😄
well if you look pour the cops with bother you all the time , and be less polite , if you are in jeans and t shurt with a old cheap car , you have more chance of getting stop that if are in sute with a new bmw or mersedes , and you have more change of getting your car serch if is a old cheap car , to the eyes of the police pour= criminal