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Had a man ask me to go in my purse and return the date he gave me…… I dropped him

this is great info, however temporarily I'm in between blessings and not able to dress feminine atm. I have sporty clothing, and I take very good care of myself. would this prevent me from attracting that provider man?

I love this message. "Men desire us based on how we make them feel." A guy I was dating who was a provider type said I was so emotionally mature and that he just wanted to be around me. I noticed how relaxed he was and he opened up about things that were intimate (not sexual) about his family, etc and I'd just listen and comment if that was necessary. I could tell he felt at peace with me. Not to be confused with 'I was his peace' BUT that he felt at peace with me. We laughed, joked, had serious conversations too. It felt good and he liked that most.

3:42 I thought masculinity was more logic…that’s what they say…their feelings shouldn’t have any baring on how they carry themselves… 4:29 If a woman don’t respect him…it’s HIS fault… 5:30 That ish is lame… 5:46 Show me don’t tell me 6:00 It is…bragging is so juvenile…I don’t find that ish attractive at all…it’s off putting… 7:25 That is the du mbest ish I’ve ever heard…cuz at the same time we’re blamed for ‘choosing the wrong one’

That ish don’t work…and if it does it’s temporary…I haven’t even gotten in the video but I’m already knowing…it’s basically self sabotage your dignity and respect and become a doormat…🙄

I needed to hear this - thank you so much for sharing

If she is a "trophy" like you describe, she HAS TO be a classic beauty. Everyone cannot pull that off....only a select few women and they don't have to listen to this advice because they're already living it. If she doesn't fit the societal standard other men aren't going to react to him having "her" on his arm. You're contradicting yourself.

If you don't look mixed and exotic with a pear shape, forget it...You'll have better luck creating your own wealth/lifestyle.

Thank you so much for this video! Giving me clarity on this perspective! I have recently been telling myself to become the woman my husband deserves because essentially it's the woman I want to be anyways! This video ties into that so perfectly! It's not about him or doing it for him more than it is about me doing it for me and because it's who God called me to be from the beginning!🥰🙏🏾

Surrender is the absolute key to all things femininity. God will show you how much surrendering means to him, it’s a part of our obedience It can be very hard… the things you have to be willing to lose to get what God really has for you Anything that you’ve acquired without God and of your own doing may have to fall away What God wants you to have will prevail, only God’s plans prevail and give you the desires of your heart Not your strong hands holding onto material things that can be replaced and God can multiply ❤

20:42 yes! This is what ppl think when they see you with him, like how did he get her??? Where she come from??? Are there more like her?? Where can I find her??! Damn! 😅 I think this is how men and on watcher think. When you are a natural charismatic and femininely energetic woman.

The guy that found me keeps saying he can not believe that I am single… this tells me he is truly smitten and interested. It’s a great feeling knowing he’s pursuing… and invited me to show effort or reciprocal along the way. ❤

I love your videos! This is true! No matter what life looks like for you, you have to: -find your personal style -find your maintenance routines -stock up on your go to things that make you feel great (body creams, scrubs, bath bubbles, scrubby gloves) -signature scents -signature nails -master who you want or don’t want in your circle -master your lifestyle -pick your hobbies and interests and pursue them. -keep working on mental and spiritual wellbeing… journaling, reading scripture and understanding them, get therapy and discuss your goals and how to get there. It will all pay off. I started from over weight… I loss weight and then got depressed and gained more weight than I ever had before. I had to accept that and go buy clothing that fit me and my personal style- it made me want to lose weight again -now still in the same personal style…at a larger size, I’m losing weight and I am looking for to rewarding my journey with smaller sizes. Cultivating my femininity consistently has drawn the provider male, and he doesn’t care what size I am because I accept myself as I am now… and accepts him as he is now. I live in the moment and have no expectations… I keep my carbs low and take nature walks and rest This peace, acceptance and restfulness is attractive. ❤

11:52 this is what I’m hearing from the new guy I’m vetting right now… He was married, put his wife through nursing school, had 3 children within his marriage, his brother died, he adopted his 2 nephews with his wife support, he’s driven, he has 3 bio and 2 adopted… 2 grown and 2 almost out of grade school, 2 older college graduates. He takes care of his mother on dialysis and his wife gets cancer and dies 2020 during the worst time Covid and having a 5yo daughter. His wife has passed 4 years ago and he desires to remarry When I listen to him, I hear… I cook, I owned a food truck before (I DON’T NEED YOU TO COOK FOR ME AND MY FAMILY!!) He is driven to start his food truck business again… He has had same job 10yrs. that pays well. I hear (I DON’T NEED YOU TO WORK AT ALL, I HAVE TAKEN CARE OF EVERY ONE UNDER MY ROOF) I think he just wants a safe place for his family, a female presence for his 9yo daughter and someone that is peaceful and able to follow his lead. He is simply a home body outside of work and a family man. I am willing to enjoy what he has already been doing… and be a support. I am a nurse professionally but it will be on the back burner, do it when it’s convenient for me. Because being a nurse puts me in my masculine and renders me unavailable to the energy he desires. I wrote his characteristic down so many times over the last 10+ years and he finally came. I wanted children and to be one big family. I cared for his mother in a rehab, he expressed interest when he left his mother told me (he has a great job and goes to church every Sunday… she said ASK ME ANYTHING! 😂)Upon his mother’s discharge he asked for my number. I like that he was never divorced and how strong he is for everyone. He is taller than me and easy on the eyes and fit. His wife was 230lbs before she got sick. He doesn’t mind a little makeup and doesn’t mind wearing wigs, weave or whatever. Encourages low maintenance like locks… which I told him I was considering. He supported that idea. Bless us all ❤

I just opened my RUclips and saw my face on here. I don’t even have one single person hollering at me 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

What kind of man is in my corner: Who dismisses people when they give me compliments. Eg. An old couple told me am so pretty, I look like I have Indian blood in me, he goes.. Oh no maybe it's the wig she has on and the makeup... 😮 Who asks me to look less when I dress up and look good. E.g dress ladylike, femininity check and he goes, and say, Why are you dressed like an old woman, It's just the mal.... 😢 One that doesn't tell me am beautiful, If I ask he says I know am beautiful. Talks marriage only around certain people hesitantly, yet dismisses marriage talks when alone. This man Provides Money, provides well between sheets.. Please help me understand

Thank you for the gentle reminder. If you want to attract and have THE BEST, you have to be YOUR BEST, FIRST 🙏🏿!

As a first born child I'm always in survival mode, I really needed this. Thank you.

Great advice

Love yourself unconditionally. Don't wait until a later date to love yourself.

Take care of yourself and give yourself the best because you deserve it now

I really liked this video! I’m interested in coaching.

This is for normal men, not cheap man whose stingy even to himself

Kendrick said “I rather you TRUST me than to love me”.

Listening to this every day for 30 days! This was so helpful as your other lessons are also! Yes, they are lessons! Thank you for your channel! ❤

lol why don’t you provide for yourself. ? Why do you need a man to provide to a grown woman?.

"You are deserving of the best of the best now!" 🥰🙋🏾‍♀️

Great content.😊👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Idk what it is, the more I prioritize myself in my health, fitness, beauty, and self worth, the men come easy & willing to treat me just as well. Partner or not, you have to do this

This video was everything!!

Thank you for this rethinking

I just met someone and i was feeling undeserving of it. But i realise you know what,i am😊 Thank you for these words❤

I need your help

Your videos are perfect, you can truly feel so much genuineness and love being poured into them. Thank you for sharing your heart.💕

I have to thank you, I’ve never fully thought about how much men talk about their finances and what they can accomplish with me in full depth, but you opened my eyes. It use to be vastly unappealing but now you’ve opened me to seeing it in a different way. I use to ask my cousin do I have gold digger written on my forehead like what’s happening here…😡 It was just so extreme~

Love this discussion sis . Ubsmart ❤😂🎉 I'm on the right path.

This is awesome thanks

I needed to hear this

I need to hear this, thanks you ❤

Great video!!! 👏🏽

Alllll true!!!!

Hey girl we need more !!!! Excellent work thank you !!!

I truly enjoyed and appreciate this video. I would be interested in some coaching.

Very well said.

I need your help.

You really have great advice and insight ❤ and I love the video that has accompanied your beautiful words but please try not to repeat the video many times, it becomes a little monotonous ❤

A lot of these comments are not helpful. I have been happily married to a provider for 25 years. I didn't start dating for marriage until 27. My mom and dad helped me assemble a list, and I manifested. My mom made me accountable so that I could only continue to date the men who matched the things on my list. So, yes, I did the list before Ciara. I was engaged by 28 and married at 29 to a good man. We are empty-nesters now, and I have lived in my dream house for 15 years. We have 3 successful sons. They date well and thoughtfully. They all look forward to being married and are emotionally healthy. While dating seriously, I told the men I wanted my job to be optional because I wanted the option of staying home if I wanted to because I had a severely handicapped sister and experienced my mother not being able to stay home with her, so I wanted that for myself. My husband is a successful doctor, and I have a Ph.D. Although I am a former professor because my middle son has dyslexia, I left my tenure track path and stayed home and became a full-time volunteer and educational advocate. He is now in school to be a doctor and follow in his dad's footsteps. And I now own a consulting firm. I had 2 other experiences of a man wanting to marry me. So, I had options and chose my husband. The men I dated seriously were good men, just not for me. I attract men because I have never been negative about dating. I always knew I was a prize. Even back when I was a teenager, I knew it then. And I have always been in self-development, so I bring a lot to the table. My friends and other women have always been like, "How in the hell did she get all these men." I have asked men from high school, and they said that I was always sweet and smart, and they knew I was a wifey. Both college boyfriends said they were too immature for me, but I made them better husbands to their now wives. I asked my husband after watching this, and he said he agreed with this video, and I am like this. But I learned it from my older sorors in college, my dad, my guy friends growing up, and some older women who mentored me in my first job and had been married for 50+ years. As it relates to me, my husband said, "he liked that I am independent, but still makes him feel like I need him; I watched out for his money when we were dating, and I had never brought my dating baggage into our relationship." I went out with a single woman, and she had 0 men approach her, while I had 3. I showed them my ring. My friend is gorgeous, but she doesn't attract men for some reason. She is also negative. So maybe the vibe? Hope this helps women who are dating. Just passing what I learned and worked. Good luck; I am rooting for your happiness and the good man as the cherry on top, sis.

Be Careful with Stroking His EGO... Some Men Will USE YOU to Boost Their EGO Only to Show Up for Someone Else While Using YOUR ENERGY. NOW YOU Got Him Thinking If He Can Pull YOU That He Can Pull ANYBODY. & He Will Play In YOUR FACE!!!!. While Collecting A Roster.

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Thanks for sharing ❤