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Thank you for your channel. I lost my husband of 43 yrs, the absolute love of my life to Lewy body Dementia, Parkinson's which we were doing well with and then acute leukemia entered the picture and ended his life in a few weeks. I'm so broken. Everything you said about no longer being loved, touched, listened to laughing with...feeling adored and adoring him disappeared in that moment. There feels like there is no me without him. I understand I have been changed forever but I don't want to be. I keep saying I want my husband back. I appreciate what you are offering. I related to when you said you wake in the morning reminded it's real and not a nightmare. I do have faith in God but right now he even feels far away.

A year ago this month, a propane gas explosion in our kitchen gave my wife fatal injuries, caught the interior of the house on fire destroying our furniture, the curtains, my books, my artwork and giving my three dogs 2nd and 3rd degree burns. My neighbors took my wife to the hospital. She never had a chance. I was in town having lunch with a friend. When I arrived at the hospital, my wife was screaming. I had never heard her scream in 50 years of marriage. She was disfigured. I fainted. I awoke in shock. The doctors never said I had this last chance to speak to her. Once anesthetized, to aid her breathing with a tracheotomy, she was unconscious. I never had a chance to tell her I loved her, and could not thank her for every little thing she had done for our family. I have had a wonderful grief therapist for the last year. I have spent 90 hours with her in sessions. I can function all right, and have reacquired my ability to organize keys, glasses, wallet, cell phone, etc. It has taken a year for me to acquire the psychological strength to light the oven. I have had my house restored and I have nursed my dogs day and night until they healed. I regained my ability to speak Spanish after four months (I live in Mexico). I have procrastinated settling all the details of her estate. But I still struggle with acquiring hope, resuming social relations with women for sharing, and am concerned I have lost the ability to love again. I cared for a woman last summer. Her friends online were advising her that widowers were needy, were eager to rush a woman to the altar and wanted a replacement wife. They said Widowers were going to grieve for an unreasonable time as if my dear wife were not worthy of grieving. My therapist unpacked all of this for me. The woman I cared for no longer wanted to see me. Her grown children and her brother all poisoned our relationship. My friends were rooting for us…I had introduced her to all of them. Since that break-up, I have now gone out with four widows and they seem frozen in their life, unable to move on and entertain a relationship. I have gone out with two divorcees and they seem embittered and angry and insecure financially. I understand I will always grieve my wife. But I just want a normal life of sharing my life and loving a woman. Eating a meal alone, planning and cooking that meal are the fuel of emptiness that is driving me to eat at restaurants. I see many couples out for the night, walking together, talking, and enjoying themselves. I can only dream of this. I am sick to death of being told there is a reason for my wife’s death, or that I will find someone soon. I went to Spain to escape this for three weeks. There was no relief; I only talked to wait staff, cab drivers and museum guides. Now home alone again. I have stopped dating, to give it a rest. No one, in 6 months, had invited me to their house even after several dates for a home cooked meal. This will take a long slow time. This is worse than Covid when people became so separate. Your shows online inspire me. Bill

Every word is just how I feel😔

This describes me to a T! Losing my husband after 45 years so suddenly on 9-11-24. Nobody can ever understand unless they have experienced it. The indescribable, excruciating pain, morning, and especially evening, that no one knows and no one can explain unless you've gone through it. You do feel like you are losing your mind and that you will never be whole or even close to being "okay" again.

My wife died 30 days ago, we met in 1975 she was 15 and I was 13 years old, she was my everything, I can't express how much your words help today. Bless you!

Thank you. ❤everything you described is how I felt and still feels

Thank you for sharing your time and effort regarding grief. I lost my wife of 51 years to pancan. I did not know this level of sadness existed. I know now there are somethings I cannot fix but must be carried. Best wishes to you and this group.

Your experience of grieving which is also my experience on this the 79th day of losing my dear husband, is leading me to believe that most people only want to superficially try to show empathy, in doing so this puts a limit on how much they want or have to listen to us. It is like a rejection of us, as heartbroken people, Furthermore, it is a symptom of living in an uncaring society. What is truly shocking for me is both my late husband and I have been fully engaged in human rights work during our almost 40 years together. I am still trying to continue this work. with a very heavy heart. Thank you for this valuable and truthful reflection.

Im 10 months in after loosing my wonderful husband roy of 50 years he was 70 everything you say is so true i dont feel so alone after listening 💔 x

My husband abandoned me after 37 years. I feel like the pain will never go away.

110 days since the love of my life departed to walk eternally with Jesus. Life is like chewing on something dreadful, it’s tough, it’s bitter, it’s unsavory, it has terrible texture, and yet it’s impossible to spit out. I feel more broken by the day, yet feel the heavy weight of keeping it together. How is it the prime of our life can be so painful and alone. Appreciate your channel. It helps to know we are not aliens.

This is so true. Sooooo true.

I’ve recently discovered your channel. This video resonates with me, my Wife passed from MND. Hers was bulbar onset so she lost her speech first. We developed a one blink for no and two blinks for yes system as her voice banking was of very low quality. I’m 14 months into loosing my Wife thanks for your channel it may help me and my Son find our way.

We were 21. He got into a car accident. I had chose someone else. Realized he was the love of my life. Since we were 5. I feel like life took a shark bite out of my chest that doesnt stop bleeding. Im still so mad and heartbroken and its been 2 years

My husband passed away last night from stage 4 cancer. We thought we still had a month or a little longer. I took him to the hospital for uncontrollable pain and they had to give him so much medication to control it that we lost him. I'm still in shock that we lost him like that. I had expected a more peaceful at home passing..he was only 48 and i am 37. We have young kids. My knees feel weak and i am physically sick to my stomach. I never want to remarry but the idea that i am now alone for the rest of my life, and will never touch him or talk to him again until Heaven, is impossible to come to terms with. The pain of missing him is horrendous but i can't stay in a dark place of mourning for my children's sakes. We are all broken over this.

It’s all true what you say still it’s so painful

Everything you said (other than the adult children part) absolutely hit the nail on the head about my situation. My wife died September 3,2024 and it’s the hardest thing I ever had to go through in my life. She was only 33 and I’m 34, we never even had a chance to even become grey. I feel so lost and hopeless. She was the only person who got me and now I am alone.

Thank you for being with me on my grief journey. I am coming up to the 1st year without my husband. Still can’t believe he is gone. It’s been a hard couple of days. I have hope that my grief will keep evolving and my feelings will change as you stated.

I just lost my wife two weeks ago. i have no clue what I am to do now. She was my day by day. I am expected to go back to work but I don’t want to do that. This is awful.

My wife passed away on the 26th of January 2024. I am in agony and pain. I am also in pain emotionally because my 29 year old son is hospital being treated for mental illness From Ronald Wilson

My beloved husband and best friend - in my heart and my life since my teens- the one person who loved me unconditionally because I am me- died two months ago. I cannot get my head round it at all. Time doesn’t ease the pain - each passing day re affirms my loss- and confirms he has gone forever and I will never see him again. I will miss him forever. Not interested in finding anyone else. Just wish I could make that clear to married ‘friends’ who don’t like lone women near their husbands and suddenly stop inviting you to things that have been going on for years. Unbelievable behaviour. Why would I be interested in their husbands - the same men that I have known for decades!! ??? Pathetic. Trying to make new contacts and acquaintances with people who understand. Can’t use the word friend anymore.

Thank you its so true my sister said he must be ok as his smiling litle did they now how you hide behind it, rushing to get home to feel close , but knowing its a empty house❤❤❤

Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts, you are a beautiful person, i would love to be a friend to you , you are a lovely sole, hugs to you 🤗 ❤

this all resonates except I don't want someone to tell me that I'm "going to be ok"... when people say that to me it feels like they just don't get the level of sadness and loss I've experienced... it will never be ok.

My husband died in May 2024. I am fearing all the firsts without him coming soon. I have experienced death before in my family, but the loss of my husband of 42 years has been the deepest cut of my heart.

Just found your channel. I have anticipatory grief as my only son fights a recurrence of stage 4 brain cancer. He’s only 34 and full of life. I totally agree that grief is a very lonely process. People don’t really want to know. Friends you thought would be there aren’t. Thankfully I do have a small group of friends that stand by me no matter what. I see a Bowen/Somatic therapist every week.

Thank you for this video. I can relate to everything you have said. It is just over a year since I lost my Darling husband of 30 years. We did not have children so now I am truly on my own, except for my dog and my parrot. I am so utterly broken and completely changed. I no longer recognise myself and feel stuck in a long dark tunnel with no hint of light. I pray that God will one day take this horrific pain away so that I can just remember the happiness that we shared.

My husband of 25 years died suddenly and I found him. He was the most athletic in shape person I know. Ate healthy, constantly moving, no body fat, lifted weights for over 35 years. We were at a point where we were in good financial shape and looking towards a fun future. I was 59, he was 66. My entire life changed one year ago when he passed away. I’m left with so much responsibility with our home and I didn’t even have time to grieve in the beginning. A year later it’s gotten slightly easier but I feel like I have a huge hole inside and I hate being alone. People say the most ridiculous things, he’s right there with you, know he’s watching out for you, have favorite drink and meal to feel connected to him. I withdraw more and more from people or don’t answer them back.

My Husband passed a week ago, suddenly and quickly. No one can believe it, he was so healthy and took impeccable care of himself, he was only 62 and we had SO many plans and dreams to look forward to. The Coroner could not find the cause and we are hoping to find an answer soon from further testing but it won't bring him back. Thank you for this video, the grief and disbelief is beyond measure

Thank you so very much for this video... My Husband of fifty one years passed away five weeks ago... I had Kept myself busy trying to prepare for his Memorial celebration that we had two weeks ago... I wanted it to be. The best I could make it as a tribute to my wonderful husband's life... But now that it is over and his Ashes are Scattered in our favorite place in nature, I don't know how to move forward with my days... In. The beginning you keep reassuring people that you're doing okay to spare them from the discomfort of your grief... I guess i've done a very good job at convincing people, Because no one seems to feel the need To check in with me Now... I feel That grief, it's a huge dark cloud that is trying to Burrow into my Soul, And that I will completely crumble if I allow it to get too close... I feel so lost. And the loneliness is beyond anything i've ever endured... I am so very sorry for everyone who is dealing with this as I have read these comments... May we all be given the grace to find some healing and peace❤

Thank you, this video has helped me. I think of Sean and my other loved ones as having Gone Ahead to heaven and I have the hope to be reunited with them. I am happy that I had shared this idea with Sean before he joined our loved ones there. This entry is done on his laptop. I am Belinda Stratton.

August 2023, I lost my wife Margaret after 4 days short of 50 years of marrige. My life my soul mate, one minute there the next gone. Experience they say is everything. But there is no way on earth, anything can prepare you for the loss. I have two wonderfull daughter's and there husband's. Five grandchildren and one great grandchild. My family mean everything to me. But they have there lives to live. Some how it is down to the individual to move forward. The loneliness and emptiness and the loss can paralise your every day decitions and that ability to move forwards. Positivity somehow has to prevail. Stephen

I lost my husband on June 21, 2024. We were together 35 years, married for 27 years. He was only 54. I miss him so much.

Everything you are saying is exactly me right now. My inside is totally empty. I miss my husband so much. He is the only one that could calm me down. It's hard

My husband has been gone a year. Its the hardest thing i have had to deal with. All i do think about him. Grief is hard. I just can't handle it some days

My wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer at around 4pm on a Wednesday afternoon in our local A & E department. She was moved to a ward, but died at just after midnight on the Thursday morning. If I hear oh you'll get over it, you have to move on, I swear I will scream. Still trying to get my head around the fact that my beautiful wife has gone. Do I want to go on, no, not really, as I feel that I no longer have any purpose to my life. I am truly looking forward to my end.

Thank you , I lost my wife four months ago after she had a very short illness, we were married for 41 years , I am just devastated , we were so happy She was my beautiful wife, soul mate, mother, granny Your pod cast help me once again thank you kind Regards Michael x

I lost my wonderful wife of 54 years on June 3 of this year. We were a force of strength and confidence when we were together. We were always on the same page when planning trips or gatherings. I felt as though half of me had been ripped away and it left a wound that will never heal. I have lost that strength that we shared. I question every decision that i make now and I worry about things. What a different world I live in now without my beautiful wife. My faith is stronger than ever and I believe that she is living in heaven as a perfect being that’s made of love and light. I am looking forward to joining her someday and this time it’s forever. My life is hard but I need to be strong for my children and grandchildren. She would want me to be happy and bring joy to our family. I am so great full for the years we had together and for all of the blessings we have received from God. This helps me tremendously.

It will be 13 months tomorrow that my husbsnd passed away. I javent progressed any. My kids think i shouldn't be crying and they don't want me going to the cemetary. Bit o go all the time. Thats my place i talk to him. I don't care what anyone says

My husband passed away 13 months tomorrow. I dont feel like i have progressed at all. I just camt get it in me he's gone. My family doesn't understand😭

Grief sucks...

Thank you for these words.

My husband passed away 8 days ago. I'm still in shock, he went to the hospital to have surgery and died within 24 hrs. After the surgery, I was expecting him to come home to feel better, I was going to take care of him. I am so sad, so Lost now. Today I am so sad Please if you could pray for me as I trust in God to go thru this, my husband was my Love, I've known him since grade School, my heart is so Broken, today I feel so Tired. Plez pray for me.😭

This is just how i ferl. My family doesnt underdtand. You have to go through it to know. But i'm missing him. I'm still in disbelief. It doesn't feel right. My life will never be the same😢

I lost my beautiful wife of 40 years 7 months ago. I miss her so much and just manage each day anyway I can. The pain of losing her is immeasurable!

Until it happens many people have no idea what grief does to a person including myself. After losing my wife of 65 years 9 months ago, I sure know now what a disabling condition grief is.The normal symptoms are totally foreign to the average person who first becomes grief stricken over the loss of a loved one. It is a pandoras box of mental and physical tricks which can make a person feel they are going absolutely mad.. But with patience and understanding this can result in a way to live with our grief and move on with it.

I lost my wife of 38 years a year and a half ago and I have a gaping hole in my heart that I will never be able to fill. Life is extremely difficult for me but I am trying to move forward.

Lost my beloved husband two and a half years ago. Now praying for courage and strength daily. It’s time to sell our house and move closer to my brother and sister. Big change is so frightening because I don’t feel competent but being on my own is pushing me into the courage to make changes that will bring me closer to my family. Scary but necessary! Your video was so helpful; I’m glad to hear that grief also pushed you into bravery🙏🏻

That picture….describes me perfectly. 6 years this week since I lost my husband, the rollercoaster ride for these years has wounded me ~ on top of the loss and the early grief. Don’t know if I will ever find my place or ever find the “normal setting” in my life again. 74 years old.