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It’s not betrayal. When my ex broke up with me it was a narcissistic discard. It was a nightmare and I forced myself to date. DATE. Not f*ck. I ended up dating a man for 10 months and we didn’t have sex for 6 months. He courted me traditionally. Was it a rebound? Yes. I wasn’t over my ex and still am not. Was it a distraction? Yes. I needed that. My ex obliterated my heart and this new man was respectfully putting it back together. No it’s not betrayal when they break up with you.

Thank u so much for taking the time to share ur experience through this process. I took am going through this journey only I am a woman and yet ur words are still very relatable ! Men and women are different yet heartache is a experience that doeant matter what ur gender is ! It's just hard if ur trying to do it right and respect urself and the love u had for someone. I appreciate ur time to share ! 8 needed to hear all of these !

Looking like a young Leonardo Da Vinci, glorious!

shoutout to all class clowns, misifts, neurodiversies and weirdo acid heads

To be angry is not to be in raged ..anger can be a righteous anger ..rage is the absence of love Only God can change her heart ..just ask ..and do nothing more ..but focus on Him ..He will do the rest ..that which is best for YOU You must forgive her and love her with a sacrificial love not just an unconditional love ..only God can give you this ..it is not in and of ourselves. Once you do ..the pain will turn into love Take her off the pedestal and ask God to put Himself on the pedestal

On May 12, 2024 I found out the love of my life cheated on me. 8 years gone to shit in a matter of seconds. I will NEVER take him back. He chose temporary pleasure over me and that’s something he’ll have to live with for the rest of his life. I’ve blocked him everywhere and will remain no contact forever. He calls me daily. I have an app that unmasks private callers so his name and number shows up every time I get an unknown call. Just the thought of him still reaching out makes my blood boil. The absolute nerve after you betrayed me. I went no contact with the intention of healing & starting a new chapter in my life. I will never understand people that go no contact to win an ex back. Seems like a game to me but to each their own. Thank you for this video! Going to subscribe and check out the rest.

I agree 100% with you said.. once that happens it’s gone, dead. Hard truth

Yago, does your ex have a personality disorder?

I really needed to hear this, and your whole channel. Thank you so much.

My ex downgraded (physically, financially, and personality) and made sure to rub it in my face, yet she's trying to recreate me by someone she can control.

Beautiful set-up in nature and splendid narrative 🙏✌🏽

"I was trying to figure out a way to bend space and time." Ouch. So true.

I came to the conclusion I have no motivation to become higher earthly status because I prefer the more genuine love of lower status people like myself, not which boxes are ticked or putting numbers on people or making lists of things you like and dislike about someone (a repulsive practice, to me, personally). But it is not for everyone. Perhaps this plays a part in separations.

Good vid. Agreed. There is a difference between a cheating mistake and betrayal. Not to minimize a cheating mistake but conscious prolonged betrayal is worse. Like slow murder. One of the last things I said to an ex: "Your solution to betrayal is permanent betrayal."

I am delighted to have found you

Thanks!!

Irritating he keeps saying she… men do this too!

A lot of guys in here seem to share the same opinion so I have a question for y'all. My ex and I broke up a year ago due to stuff going on in both our lives (I initiated the break up). It was sad and I loved him and when I saw him about 3.5 months later we talked and I asked him if we could try again (at this point neither of us had dated anyone else or even talked to anyone else). He said he didn't want to close the door but he was working on his career and wanted to improve his finances before he dated again and that I deserved better and I should try online dating (but not sleep with them 🙄) The fact that he was OK with other men having access to me crushed me. I had no interest in online dating but when we texted a couple of times a few days later he ghosted me. So I got hurt again, and that made me mad enough to sign up for online dating. I ended up meeting someone on Tinder a month later (had some other dates and didn't even give them a goodnight kiss). 6 months went by and I never heard from my ex (I reached out twice during that time) I'm not commited to the man I'm dating because he's planning to move in a year and I can't follow him. He was basically a built in rebound. He knows he's not my boyfriend, I've been very clear with him and he understands, so don't worry about him, he's not going to be hurt... Anyway, my question is. If you were my ex in this situation would you still feel the same way about the fact that I slept with someone else? I'm only in the relationship because he told me to date other people and then ghosted me! Just curious to get male perspectives

Great perspective! Finally someone who sees it as something huge and not just something you should ”understand and accept because it’s a coping mechanism”. It’s really being stabbed in the back and in the heart at the same time. My ex rebounded with his neighbour three weeks post breakup. He did the slow fade on me. Didn’t even end the relationship but said we’ll just take one day at a time and suddenly he ends up with her. To me that’s cheating even if, probably according to him, we were over (because that’s how he breaks up, pulls away with no closure). It feels like he really did his best to burn all bridges. Would you say it’s the same when a man rebounds as when a woman does because men can sleep with women without an emotional bond/loving them or are they equally unforgivable?

I'm 2 months in to a break up - after 5 great months together, out of the blue she told me she was going back with an ex. Just like that. Whether she physically did or not I will never know, but I know emotionally she betrayed me because she was setting it up behind my back, ready to make her move. It's an absolute killer. Straight from me to him. I wanted her back at first, or rather my emotions did. My head says the opposite so it's a tug of war between rationality and emotion. This week my heart is moving towards my head and I'm feeling a little better, but I'm not sure that offsets the sense of loss and the fact that I still really miss her.

Yeah, i am very confused right now. My fiancé left me after 7 years. I've made mistakes but never cheated or violent, abusive. So I tried to get her back after a month of silence. She said she met a guy 2-3 weeks after the separation. She is only dating, no physical. Told me how hard it is for her to open up again and that she has no time to grief and just wants to be happy and finally marry and if possible get children. I find it very sickening and told her that's not a normal behavior after a 7 year relationship. Sad thing is, i can't never ever take her back, cause of that. She burned all bridges with her disloyal behavior. Showed no respect towards our relationship, me and herself...

So True. Miss . Linda 💯💯💯

We’re definitely not alone in these perceptions.

I was her support system and helped her through a bad phase of her life... hell, i even brought her friends and family closer. What amazing things she used to say and i thought i was the luckiest man alive!!! Just when things were going good and i thought i finally have a shot of some happiness in my life, she left me like i meant nothing. Makes me wonder - was everything a lie? Being used for your emotional availibilty is the worst feeling ever.

My ex went from me to him the same week. ..what stage of grief is she in?

I pushed her away I let her leave. I trusted her. I thought marriage was big boy stuff... Now shes with him living life No friends too talk too soo here i am

She left me for "the better man" back in december. 5 years married for 3.... She was with him the next day after we split. Shes still with him now.

Coming across this was almost a divine intervention, you make excellent points. Got a new sub.

And I thought I was the only person that sees these connections…thanks for posting

It is like going through fire, some say rejection breeds obssession. And when I heard from someone "just get over it" I got even worse

I think you do have a point and i also know that it would not be for me, but i do know people in a polyamorous relationship tgat are happy. You just have to both be very clear about the rules, step out of it if they are broken regardless and in general be on the same page about what is and is not okay

It's betrayal 100% Maybe it depends on the difference in morals and values, and for one it is betrayal and for the other, just normal life. That's why it is so hard for the one that got cheated on, people know in their heart that shit is done once the cheating happens. Who would get back with a promiscuous woman and not feel that he betrayed himself for doing so? What value does a cheater hold after the truth comes out? The answer is zero, all that matters is if you accept her zero value or not.

Are u Jesus??

Beautifully expressed

Yes, it is betrayal. I was his rebound woman. He still was in contact with his last ex and lied about the sex until our first date. 2 weeks after I found out he broke up. Relationship lasted a few months and left me devastated.

I never took the vaccine and im happy with that choice. It amazed my how people behaved during the pandemic. How easily controlled they were and how quickly they "othered" people based on lies

Pretty good break down, Scott had good intentions in the beginning and then turned it into some sort of crusade against him and definitely went too far with his cheap shots about the drinking, his family, etc. Enham definitely needs to go.

Complimenti per il video, hai spiegato tutto nei minimi dettagli.

Right you are sir!

Here a new follower. Nice video on something that is pretty straightforward and true: betrayal.

Fantastic! I needed this!

My ex rebounded from her ex-husband to her ex bf, then to me, so I wasn't surprised to find she did it after me. I absolutely would not take anyone back that has been with another man! She knows that's a line I will never cross!

You’re def not a nobody, sir. You are a teacher and if nobody told you this, I appreciate this message!

Yeah bro !!!! Truth! Thanks for sharing

Some truth right here. I've been caught in this rabbit hole of "no contact' and "how to get your ex back" on youtube. But the reality I'm thinking of is that I'm not okay with her being with other guys after our breakup and I'll never be able to look at her the same way. Even if she did come back, I'd question her motives, I'd want to know what she did while we were apart... And let's face it, she isn't obligated to tell me anything that went on. So because of that I'd rather just move on and find someone I can start fresh with.

Yeah. It is a betrayal. I can't really get over it. I've built a lot of resentment towards her over this. Its not like thats unfounded.

Thank you for sharing this it means a lot to me at this point in time

I believe I agree with you wholeheartedly. I'm right now going through a breakup. Or should I say going through it myself after it ended two weeks ago. Of course, I'm doing the no contact thing. There isn't much else to do when you're the one that got dumped. 5 years with this person., And I was a very good guy to her. She seemed to feel that we weren't compatible anymore, And the breakup was kind of like a way an avoidant would do it. Nothing really serious happened. It was just an about-face on her part. Things were getting off track for awhile So it wasn't a surprise but the coldness of it was. Anyway i've been thinking about this exact subject. What if she comes back? How many guys has she been with? If it's any more than 0, I don't think I can go there again. Because that would feel to me like permeditated cheating.. I've even heard women say, When they've gone out with somebody else, They will actually verbalize what we were broke up the time... OK well, maybe technically on paper. That looks correct, but the way that it's gonna hit somebody is that you planned to go out and do that. I mean basically if you go back with somebody that would do that, They are capable of doing it again and it would just make you a cuckold.

I agree 100%

Good point