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I follow Dr Ham for a while and watched some of is stuff but this video really hit me. I was shocked to find out the couple broke up. I keep thinking if I did those things to my own exes, pushing them away and expecting them to 'fail' in the relationship. Will those with intense emotional neglect (like me) ever heal?

Very informative and compassionate understanding. So helpful!

فیلم سکس کوتا کم حجم سایت قمبل دادکام صدای نفس زن مرد دررابطه جنسی مشاهده فیلم تماشا

This was beautiful and YES drop the politics.

Amazing

Thank you for sharing.

Make love to yourself?????

Maybe i'm old fashioned but i assume any lady would be upset finding photos of other women~ Women are conditioned to be territorial by society with comparing how we look to others~ magazines and t.v. with unattainable beauty standards. I have found a few photos of other women in books and i just allow myself to be jealous in the moment but realize its a primitive emotion and choose not to react on it. Sort of like getting kicked in the nut's but just feeling it and release. I have sever past trauma as well but i'm able to realize if i'm projecting it onto my partner.

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I think I could maybe describe exactly what she is feeling beat by beat in this moment in the room with her partner and Dr. Ham, when she is alone in the apartment and ‘finds’ ‘evidence,’ and when she is being reassured and comforted. I feel an indescribable level of affinity with her. I think her impression that she isn’t being treated completely fairly in the room is not a hundred percent off. But I think she is perhaps misinterpreting an inability of her therapist and boyfriend to completely understand and attune with her as them not being sympathetic or as them being deliberately unfair. Her ability to handle this experience and stay in the room throughout and later when she came to Dr. Ham and showed such insight and humility is incredible to me. It seems perhaps to illustrate the extent to which our attachment patterning can take over and how little control we have in the moment when it happens. I wonder if if her boyfriend could have been more educated about attachment or educated in a way that would have allowed him somehow to stay connected to the part of her that is separate from her attachment reactivity, if their relationship could have lasted. I admit I feel conflicted about what is happening in that room because, on the one hand, I feel supportive of the idea of pushing someone if it can help them, but on the other hand, I feel literal physical pain when I listen to it because I know so deeply exactly how blind those reactive moments are, and how indescribable painful they are. I wonder how things would have proceeded if they had approached things slightly differently. Not making allowances for hurtful and abusive behavior but taking into account that who she is is also somehow separate from that behavior. I don’t want to make it seem like I lack self-insight, being defensive, or have blindspots about the level of damage such behavior can cause - I was abused through my childhood and teens by parents with this patterning and other complications - it’s just that I think perhaps done nuance is being lost in how she is approached and interacted with here. It seems perhaps to illustrate the extent to. I admit I feel really I wonder how things world have proceeded if they had approached things slightly differently. Not making allowances for hurtful and

Tack you for this.

15:40 The most important Question to ask.? 42:01 can’t get mad … Cinderella 42:51 three phases for asking for what you want.

Esther is a treasure.

Nothing like your therapist colluding with your boyfriend and gang up on you. Ugh.

Thank you very much for all these great interviews. This channel is really underrated. Wish more people knew about it and had access to your great archive. Very helpful, thanks a lot for all the effort you put into it.

Great interview but I have to admit that growing up gay, I always felt like I didn’t fit into the prescribed gender binary of acceptable behaviour so while I find Terry’s ideas insightful, I’m always left feeling like there is a whole range of relationship dynamics that aren’t a part of his descriptions of men. Homosexuality has much to bring to the table regarding men, relationships and mental health and like feminism, I think it is very relevant to be included in the conversations on relationships, gender and mental health.

you're insight into sex scripts and the power of the partner as empathetic witness to trauma load changed my clinical practice for the better - thank you

Wonderful conversation, thank you very much...

This was an amazing convo. Such a fresh and helpful perspective

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Thank you for this, Dr Nagoski is such an engaging talker! Loved it! A big romance lover myself here...

With my partner for 14 years here!! We still flirt and play around like we did in our 20s when we started dating. In fact, I think our bond and connection is more magical than it was back then because now we have this level of comfort with one another so we don’t hold back. Every session of intimacy is like the very first time except better!! It’s amazing 🤩!! However I will say that I do have to pursue and work my magic to get him worked up to the point of being ready to GO!! Haha he’s a very active and motivated person so he is go go go all day. He is usually tired by our bed time which people have come to think that is the time for sex but why?!! When we were younger and before kids of course, we didn’t care where or what time haha sooo we have held on to that mentality. We both work from home now which makes it easier but still even before that we seized whatever opportunity presented itself. Thinking outside the box has saved our relationship and kept it alive!! And I also like to joke that leaving marriage out of the equation has a lot to do with it too 😝

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I do NOT understand this talk about rape fantasies women supposedly have? I cannot imagine a more horrific, demeaning, lifethreaning experience than to be raped...although it's thankfully never happened to me, that is how I imagine it must be for a rape victim. What could *possibly* be sexually exciting about something so utterly horrifying and life threatening; that would make me want to vomit...from pure terror. I simply do not get rape fantasies at all, and it's so entirely foreign that I can't relate to how someone else COULD find "rape" sexually exciting. It's so nwarped, it's actually sickening. I mean, if the woman is a violent psychopath, or a malignant narcissist, it makes sense to me that they would find rape sexually arousing...because it's largely psychopaths and malignant narcissists who rape, along with sociopaths. This is a DISTURBING and DANGEROUS mixed message to send men. This is the kind of shit that allows ego maniacs like that dick who was appointed to the USSC by trump.

Female narcissism often ENABLES, SUPPORTS, and STANDS BEHIND all those disgusting males that get away with the shit they get away with all the time. Think about it...how many FEMALES do you see standing behind Trump, or any other male narcissist supporting them. Think about how many people of color you see standing behind Trump, or any other male narcissist in the public eye. These delusional individuals...the females and the people of color...think the male narcissists admire THEM, but it's the reverse...only they fail to recognize it. It's just sad, sad, sad. Incredibly informative interview. As the adult child of a violent, female narcissist, I wouldn't wish a narcissistic parent on ANY CHILD. They should be sterilized for their lack of empathy.

American women need to beware; there is this trend of them pushing down on their vocal cords when they speak. It does not sound good, does not feel good, and could be detrimental to them in the long run. Grrrrrr way too much gravel. That's for the form, otherwise, the content is great! Keep the voice off of the vocal cords. self-awareness. Not easy but worthwhile. compare various speakers, you may see what I mean. Big love

Beautiful conversation-

Great conversation with Dr. Clemmens. Thank you for posting this.

What Terry says at 18:00 is genius. The feminine serving to absorb the disowned pain because energy doesn't evaporate - it has to go somewhere.

From your example, I think "horrified" would better describe how one would feel losing control of their hand.

Wonderful session. Thank you all and the couple very much for sharing this with the public. I know just how the woman feels. For the life of me I couldn't understand why I was so heart-stoppingly afraid all the time of things going wrong. Now I do. At the end of the interview Dr Ham says the way through is to sit with the guilt and fear of abandonment. I take something from that today. Although when I have done that, it didn't insert anything positive to replace it. All I was left with was the reality of endings and damages. I believe some positive experiences are necessary to replace the bad history, even if that's done only in the mind alone. It is too much for the person who's been so fundamentally betrayed to bear the burden of guilt and fear alone, yet again. There needs to be love and redemption.

Brilliant.

This is packed with a lot of useful perspectives!! Thank you!

Thank you, really helpful Dr H, ….from Ireland!

While reading Stephanie Foo's book " what my bones know "...Dr.Jacob Ham is mentioned in her book...& after reading her book ,binged on RUclips videos listening to Dr.Ham . How he chooses his words and his content is clear and useful. Recently listened to a podcast by Rich Roll who interviewed Dr.Andrew Huberman....also Brilliant.

I realllllyyyyy enjoyed this! Thank youu sooo muchh for sharing!❤️❤️❤️❤️

Great interview, thank you!

Amelia seemed rushed in this podcast!? Also, what's with the 30ish minute podcasts? I mean I really appreciate and like the content, but really, how much do you expect people to learn in 38 minutes? Lol

A moving testimonial to a life well-lived. Thank you.

As a listener of Jordan Peterson, I notice that these "parts" he's talking about as well as the "Self" seem to be of the psychoanalytic school of Freud and Jung. No judgement, just observation...🤷🏼‍♂️

I do think it's quite unreasonable for couples to expect to be together forever. In truth, people get exhausted of each other. Life is also lived in phases as people constantly change, grow, and evolve. Thus, people should enjoy each other as long as it last. Then once, they can't tolerate each other, they can say goodbye amicably. It's much better and reasonable than people struggling to stay together; till death do them part.

These ideas will change the world…

Amazing ideas… you might have struck gold as to figuring out finally how we all make things work as men and women. While it starts in the realm of relationship, it is so applicable to almost every aspect of life. I’m speechless.

Just wanted to suggest taking off that the high pitched weird music in the beginning.

"women want sex" meanwhile me an asexual woman listening to this 💀

Thank you for this video. So many good and challenging things said that give a hopeful direction forward individually, relationally and socially.

13:37 What do sex mean to you? Where do you go in sex? 22:00/ 27:00 about infidelity, why man cheat and how to heal it. starting a second marriage which each other

Everybody should read and listen to Esther’s work. Our relationships would be so much more fulfilling. People lose desire in their relationship and look for it elsewhere 🥺