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Oldest..fighting inconsistent parents emotional absent parents. My memories differ from the younger siblings. Then continued life experiences with maladaptive response caused more piled on trama on repeat thru to current age 65. Cant fake the mess i am anymore.. Gonna buy the book this week..i need answers..

This is such an eye opener

i had more abuse from my mother in my 20’s, 30’s and 40’s.

3:34 distraction techniques. Any type of intrusive actions of any type of addictive behavior equals distraction technique

How would bessel treat hpa axis dysregulation?

Not being able to predict, what is going to happen can be very traumatic. But observing the signs in an abusive parent and just waiting for the next assault to come is hard too. As a child I would provoke (unconsciously) my father to molest and torture me because just waiting for the enevitable was worse. Thank you for this video and all your great work.

It was news to me to learn that if you're born with a small hippocampus, you're more susceptible to traumatic stress😢i previously thought early childhood stress is cause for shrinking the hippocampus...this is not welcome news.

The ultimate cruelty about life is that we come into it completely helpless and dependent and at the mercy of our caregivers. Thats why i feel so stronly about NOT having children. Unless you're absolutely sure you have it in you to sacrifice your time and efforts to this demanding work of being mothers. I wasnt...

Theater programs for traumatized youth is brilliant. "We're healing trauma without anyone ever mentioning the word". If they had a program like that for elders, i'd sign up. But pls not Shakespeare.

The Body talks about “internal managers” that keep one functioning and getting along. Oddly, many of Bessel’s patients are doctors. These people were deeply traumatized and acting out, yet able to look after patients. I totally can’t relate to that. I had ADD and trouble learning which is often the case when home life is disturbed and chaotic. Almost daily I was slapped in the face before school for some minor infraction, which caused nosebleeds and made me late. I apparently did not have “internal managers” that allowed me to study and learn in my youth.

“Genetic factors predispose some to develop traumatic stress”BINGO! I strongly believe that happened to me and my offspring. Sadly, I did not win the genetic lottery, and neither did they. No one is to blame, except maybe our creator.

My adverse childhood abuse was 16 yrs of physical and psychological torture. They mercilessly, blamed, shamed, and denigrated me in private and in public. I never thought of it as trauma until I read books on the topic. I just thought I had a bad childhood. 17:27

12:30 Bessel says scientists work hard to discover genetic factors that predispose people to develop traumatic stress (page154), but no solid answers yet. My father had a low tolerance for stress and very anxious..and i'm the same way, or was before the SSRI. So, i believe it is epigenetic.Not everything can be scientifically proven...some things are just intuitive.

What is never mentioned is that lifelong stress due to trauma shortens telomeres, and therefore, lives. Read The Telomere Effect and take steps to lengthen your telomeres. A lot is made of exercise, but nothing about good nutrition and nutraceuticals. The body is complex, and we need to fight the effects of trauma from all directions.

I am trying to find out if Bessel ever mentioned HPA axis dysfunction..,I have it as a result of severe, lifelong stress due to parental abuse the first 16 yrs of my life. I’d like to know what he says about it. It is a debilitating condition 😢

Sooooo much info on trauma...it makes my head spin: where to go what to do, etc, etc, etc.....

I’d really love to know what Bessel thinks of Primal Therapy...I did Primal in the mid 70s and found it helpful. It is based on the Primal Scream by Arthur Janov. You get down on the floor and scream your pain out.

Bessel seems to be better qualified than Gabor Mate. I think i will read The Body keeps the Score.

"the best gift parents can give their children is a childhood they DON'T have to recover from"

Thanks, so very good for all to hear.

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Yes I Damien 💪🏽

Thank you ❤

I have 10/10 ACE’s. I live with CPTSD, Bi polar disorder and a plethora of other debilitating physical health issues such as ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia. My body has most definitely been reacting to the trauma and neglect I suffered since infancy.

Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful knowledge. I have your book and I studied on line via lap top, out of my comfort zone. I am so pleased I did as I can speak to other people online - visually. ACE in UK I didnt even know what it was and dissected full meaning. Counsellors and therapists do things for their agenda, their time, their fixing of things. To sit with a person and let them have their silence, gaining trust in therapist, allows them to grow. I love the fact that you are so intelligent from studies, also that you listen to the people. Text books and certificates are brilliant but I found voluntary work whilst studying as a mature student, the very best of understanding people also dogs, that's another chapter. Thank you for feeling and healing others.

Can you please investigate how male genital mutilation affects the brains of baby boys and ultimately men?

Listening to this woman’s voice gave me constipation.

Fa bene a cuore ascoltare questo dottore.

Just checking to see if anyone is out there feeling so alone, with tears in their eyes, wishing they could get rid of the pain inside so they no longer want to die!??

Thank you, wonderful! I made notes, and watching this video again. Life changing. Thank you.

Wow! This was very informative! Thank you for sharing!

magnific.. great and beatiful exposure

here in the states good luck telling any doctor about this type of issue

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A few yrs ago I had botched up surgery that caused me to almost die, I went down the tunnel it was dark tunnel, u.was put into a coma. And when I was in the hospital if the doctors didn't kill me the nurse were trying to kill me. So I had to have one eye open at all times in the hospitals. I'm told I have PTSD but I don't know how to stop it. I .just have or feel safe. But I'm frightened to move to another state were the crime is the worst. . I need to feel Ave but am terrified of moving to ATL. Son lives in beautiful family area. I'm scared.

I'm planning on watching and listening to every video you have made. Thanks so much!!

i feel like i was more abused by my mom as an adult more than as a child. she controlled me financially and i wasn’t able to hold a job. i’m 50.

The ACE study is one of the most important contributions to trauma treatment and validates how many problems people present with are symptoms of early life trauma. What I wish this study would add is the impact of medical trauma - kids born with medical problems requiring time in a NICU or surgeries or some other major intervention. But even circumcision can be a defining physical trauma wired into the brain. Sadly the greatest work to add the impact of medical issues has been silenced by the broader medical and mental health community. Dr. Louis Tinnin's ITR (instinctive trauma response) along with the ACE and the work of van der Kolk should be required for all practitioners

My life has been destroyed because of my childhood traumas and neglect. I'm 74 and still going through terrible anxiety and fear.

Has your work been assessed long term ??? How many sessions and at what cost... ??

you can know what happens next in a consistently toxic environment. This perpetrates C-ptsd. So it's not inconsistencies that create issues. It's the quality of the consistency.

What about loss at young age of family members mum and brother, then sister? Is this info for abused kids?

Yes!! This man has brought me to tears multiple times today. Embrace the golden rule to treat others as you wish to be treated! Don't stand for abuse and neglect!!! Peace!

This applies to my baby. He has formed an eating disorder from feeding trauma due to a untreated severe posterior tongue tie.

I was guided here by my therapist to listen to a previous video based on Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk’s work. I am 54 and live in a constant state of chronic pain and fear. When I looked at the ACE questionnaire I had 7 ACEs I was completely shocked but not surprised to learn that someone who has so many ACEs has a life expectancy less 20 years due to the trauma that they suffered. My question is can I claim some of those years back ? Can I become a living person instead of a terrified person ? I am very glad to have been directed here because for the first time I really truly understand why I am the way I am. I am reassured to that our commitment to our children and grandchildren was to break the cycle of abuse in our family and to make sure to create a loving playful safe environment for all children who we know I think we manage that and it was very good to have had those actions affirmed. Can anyone help me with the questions I have ? I have always said to myself that the day I survive the multiple abuses I have suffered is the day I die and become released I would love so much to be released from those abuses and the painful consequences I suffer in this life. Love to all who pause to read this and to all who have suffered the world does not know our pain. ✨✨✨

Need a book for spouse's trying to support.

I am so sorry for you. After a long line of incompetent professionals, I’m glad the body keeps the .score has helped you. Blessings to you

I did yoga with my abusive parents and it didn't help a thing...better alone or with other ppl

Dr Bessel, you are the Indiana Jones (so Harrison Ford look alike) constantly on the conquest of human minds.

I thought this was excellent, it really helped, thank you! I must get your book! :)