After listening to this audio for just a few minutes by myself last night, I was able to implement understanding the request behind the emotion, and I got beautiful results. I know one night didn't fix everything, but I am confident that this information will continue to be useful in the future.
A thought, financial insecurity, I imagine has a signaficant impact on verbal skill and emotional intelligence/skill. Just a thought, to invest in becoming financially savvie, build skill to grow wealth, must be closely linked to emotional well-being, emotional intelligence, conflict resolution. Did you see the resent stats on how many % of the world's population are ready to retire financially free at retirement age? Maybe the focus areas for healthy relationships needs to be widen?
😊😊😊😊😊 Recognition that when flooded people may not be listening 🎧 Soothing each other regularly Compromise Accepting influence....be open minded Meditate together Finding common ground Which problems , each gives solutions Point out which solutions you can compromise on 5:49:00
Focus on how you feel about the situation and not criticise Your partner is not a mind reader, communicate Let your partner know how you feel about situations you can't let go or you need addressed Do your repair attempts get through to your partner? Recognition of the message over tone in difficulties 5:32:20
Harsh set up: contempt-criticism, sarcasm, blaming If harsh set up at beginning of conversation, it will end on a negative note regardless if there are many attempts to make nice in between. You can predict outcome of conversation by the first three minutes of the conversation.
00:36 Chapter 1 - Inside Seattle Love Lab 45:42 Happy Couple’s secret weapon 51:00 Chapter 2 - How I predict Divorce 55:54 The Four Horsemen 1:36:38 Chapter 3 - Principle 1 “Enhance your Love Maps” 2:05:45 Chapter 4 - Principle 2 “Nurture your Fondness” 2:34:29 Chapter 5: Principle 3 - Turn towards each other
1. Friendship fuels the flame of love ❤ - prevents fights from getting out of hand 2. Four horseman - criticism on personal level rather than compliant . Contempt. Sarcasm. Defensiveness. Stonewalling. 3.repair attempts- failure of repair attempts increases dicorce into 90%. EG Apology, goofy smile etc . Quality friendship determines repair attempts success rate. 4. Rewritten history is a bad sign. 5. Ask how was your day to allow partner to destress and not allow it to seep into relationship . Spend 20 to 30min. Use active listening. Do not judge. Don't give unsolicited advice. Let her know you empathise with her. Show genuine interest. Communicate your understanding. Take your spouses side.take a us vs them attitude. "This is really stressing you out I can understand why" 6.make a detailed map of your wife's world. 7.keep intouch with your adoration and fondness for her. 8. And communicate 7 by turning toward her in daily actions. 9.accept wife's influence. Share power in marriage. 10. Always raise issues with soft start up rather than harsh 5:12:00 11. Take 20min break as part of repair attempt. Allow to calm down. 12. Compromise 13. Create sense of we -Ness. Take spouse side always 14.share house work 15.understand how partner's background affects current behaviour and views. Understand partners dream and honour their dreams and background. Compromise if dreams and background clash.
bout an hour and a half in and it feels like all this has done is tell me, "okay, if you and your partner are doing this, this, this, and this.....(me, checks all 4) your marriage is already hosed. Does this ever turn around with a bit more optimism or give advice on positive adjustments that can be made to improve the situation?
I know this is an old comment but it's technically never too late to stop all bad habbits and develop new healthy ones if your partner is willing to do so. I would suggest focusing on what you can personally control in your relationship and seeing if they come around and reciprocate
2:37:20 emotional bank account
After listening to this audio for just a few minutes by myself last night, I was able to implement understanding the request behind the emotion, and I got beautiful results. I know one night didn't fix everything, but I am confident that this information will continue to be useful in the future.
Thanks for this. Would u be able to post the table of contents in the description as well please.
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2:40 important 3:00 important
A thought, financial insecurity, I imagine has a signaficant impact on verbal skill and emotional intelligence/skill. Just a thought, to invest in becoming financially savvie, build skill to grow wealth, must be closely linked to emotional well-being, emotional intelligence, conflict resolution. Did you see the resent stats on how many % of the world's population are ready to retire financially free at retirement age? Maybe the focus areas for healthy relationships needs to be widen?
Extremely relevant for all the couples, there's nothing but lessons to learn.
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😊😊😊😊😊 Recognition that when flooded people may not be listening 🎧 Soothing each other regularly Compromise Accepting influence....be open minded Meditate together Finding common ground Which problems , each gives solutions Point out which solutions you can compromise on 5:49:00
See the attempt in the intended spirit... awareness of situation 5:35:17
Focus on how you feel about the situation and not criticise Your partner is not a mind reader, communicate Let your partner know how you feel about situations you can't let go or you need addressed Do your repair attempts get through to your partner? Recognition of the message over tone in difficulties 5:32:20
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I fucking love you Dan my Guru!
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4:09:15 The Two Kinds of Marital Conflict
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he also write 8 conversations it is a free audio on YOU TUBE too!
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1:16:00 Men and Women Really Are Different- Ch.3-How I predict Divorce 1:20:56 The Fifth Sign: Failed Repair Attempts- Ch. 3- How I predict Divorce
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Dan Lok talks like an alpha male for an Asian man, which is a good thing. There too many Asian women who are submissive to the White men.
2:05:42 Chapter 4: Principle 2. Nurture Your Fond and Admiration
Is it just me ot is Craig 4:57:00 just a POS?
He is SO rude!!! I feel so bad for his partner.
55:00 harsh setup, criticism and complaint
Harsh set up: contempt-criticism, sarcasm, blaming If harsh set up at beginning of conversation, it will end on a negative note regardless if there are many attempts to make nice in between. You can predict outcome of conversation by the first three minutes of the conversation.
48:30 50:05 downward spiral
Such a great book/audiobook! Thank you
This does not follow along with the book I have
Can’t believe this is free on RUclips!
yes I love that. I bought the book to read along and highlight key points.
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1:36:50 love maps
1:18:10 page 43
00:36 Chapter 1 - Inside Seattle Love Lab 45:42 Happy Couple’s secret weapon 51:00 Chapter 2 - How I predict Divorce 55:54 The Four Horsemen 1:36:38 Chapter 3 - Principle 1 “Enhance your Love Maps” 2:05:45 Chapter 4 - Principle 2 “Nurture your Fondness” 2:34:29 Chapter 5: Principle 3 - Turn towards each other
55:54 the four horseman
51:04 chapter 2 how I predict divorce
45:42 happy couples secret weapon
38:01 the Evidencie please.
Moral of the story everyone should marry women 😅
Ummm. Not really.
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1. Friendship fuels the flame of love ❤ - prevents fights from getting out of hand 2. Four horseman - criticism on personal level rather than compliant . Contempt. Sarcasm. Defensiveness. Stonewalling. 3.repair attempts- failure of repair attempts increases dicorce into 90%. EG Apology, goofy smile etc . Quality friendship determines repair attempts success rate. 4. Rewritten history is a bad sign. 5. Ask how was your day to allow partner to destress and not allow it to seep into relationship . Spend 20 to 30min. Use active listening. Do not judge. Don't give unsolicited advice. Let her know you empathise with her. Show genuine interest. Communicate your understanding. Take your spouses side.take a us vs them attitude. "This is really stressing you out I can understand why" 6.make a detailed map of your wife's world. 7.keep intouch with your adoration and fondness for her. 8. And communicate 7 by turning toward her in daily actions. 9.accept wife's influence. Share power in marriage. 10. Always raise issues with soft start up rather than harsh 5:12:00 11. Take 20min break as part of repair attempt. Allow to calm down. 12. Compromise 13. Create sense of we -Ness. Take spouse side always 14.share house work 15.understand how partner's background affects current behaviour and views. Understand partners dream and honour their dreams and background. Compromise if dreams and background clash.
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Do you have a love map?
Emotional bank account! Add to it! So in hard times you can have something to fall back on
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Oh god the AI voice, it's a good book but damn the hurts to listen
One of the best book. For couples who are COMMITTED to make their relationship work I see how it could help. Thanks for sharing.
36:21 To be continued after completing next 10 .. Thank you .. ❤
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bout an hour and a half in and it feels like all this has done is tell me, "okay, if you and your partner are doing this, this, this, and this.....(me, checks all 4) your marriage is already hosed. Does this ever turn around with a bit more optimism or give advice on positive adjustments that can be made to improve the situation?
I know this is an old comment but it's technically never too late to stop all bad habbits and develop new healthy ones if your partner is willing to do so. I would suggest focusing on what you can personally control in your relationship and seeing if they come around and reciprocate
Were you able to make it work
@@AlondraGonzalez-m6f we're still together. Whether or not it's "working" is debatable.
@@Jaystub I’m glad yall are and I hope I’m still with mine too I’m will to put all the work into this
Thank you for sharing