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Thank you for this video. It helped me alot. I took alot of notes.

Finding anyone with empathy these days is about as rare as winning the Lotto.

My mother is a 16 year old in a body of a 75 year old. In an Asian community all bad behaviour is accepted due to her age, so there is no chance that she will have the wish to get a better mom to me. At least now I know what the problem is. That helps me so much!

This speak facts but I can’t let go of my ex, It’s been a few weeks since the breakup, what if he is my soulmate and I just lost him

Interesting--I am definitely more an externalizer and my brother the internalizer. However, I am absolutely not the type to 'just blame everyone else'. I think about things and blame myself a lot. But, I also stand up for myself even if Im scared to. My brother is much nicer, sweeter, and gets along with pretty much everyone. I also worry that he stuffs his anger and hope that he is ok because he really intellectualizes his emotions.

yeah, I got the 'old soul' thing.

O.M.G!! My mom literally had a bizarre breakdown when I finally got through to her that she was not allowed to just come into my room, without knocking, and start a tirade of negativity. I have no doubt of her immaturity now.

I love Dr. Lindsey. Her books have transformed my life. Thank you for interviewing her :)

This video was like breathing pure air. Thank you for this video. I struggle with DID, too. This video is quite validating for me. ❤

I Wonder what should I do if I definitely know I was traumatised in certain relationship but I don't feel anything toward that person or period. I mean I don't feel even protectors. It seems like there are no protectors. And I'm sure there are protectors and a super traumatised exile. But it seems like a wall or a rock. I just can't approach even the protectors, they just don't show up. How do you work with a wall like this?

Great video. ❤ I hope you could invite Dr Schwartz again and again. ❤

Andrea Ashley who runs the adult child podcast Community is a total covert narcissist and I watched people get hurt left and right in there. I was nothing but kind and respectful to her but after 6 months, and me contributing a lot to the group, she turned on me as well. That place needs to be disassembled. People keep getting hurt.

Brilliant.

If you're like me you might mot be able to delve right into these parts. Breathwork with stomach muscle involvement, calm, quiet and dark areas will help. Meditate trying to feel or embody the 8 c's or just pure gratitude and love. THEN try to approach these parts. You might find great success like I did.

How might being emotionally immature person over lap with having an avoidant attachment style

Omg....you have just helped me understand i am not crazy....my mother mever as how i am, despite knowing some of my challanges, who i am, what is going on...nothing...she asks me nothing...and even if i tell her how i am and what is happening, some heavy soul crushing stuff...she totally disregarded all....first i thought i was crazy for noticing the pattern and then i thought i was crazy for wondering if rhis was normal....its not never is never was...i was just thought it was the way it is and what i deserved

Love Lindsay Gibson. So compassionate and insightful, and so reassuringly calm and matter of fact.

6:32 36:24 two ways

I am the youngest child of an emotionally immature parent and EI only sibling. I am also a HSP and more intellectually mature than either. This discussion resonates so deeply with me! I'm the go to person to fix, to sort, to solve, to advocate, was the carer for 7 years before my mother moved to Aged care. I also have an emotionally immature child. Some days I feel like I'm drowning, I'm in therapy now and wow what an eye opening process and journey I'm on! I've been self employed, a single Mum, fascinated with human behaviour. What I once perceived as weaknesses and failings have become my super powers! Meeting others where they are is not always easy, but knowing they are not currently capable of an emotionally mature relationship with me helps with the disappointment and feelings of unimportance. Thank you for adding to my journey.

Love your book and this amazing interview! Wondering what is the process of learning to rely and feel secure in yourself?

Resources to help adults who had these type of parents and now parenting (displaying similar traits)?!

Love you and your book!!!

Will you do the emotionally unsafe father next?

Thank you for this heartful conversation. My conscious parenting journey has also involved a lot of inner witnessing and work. Grateful that such conversations are happening ❤

Excellent podcast!

Thankful to see this!

Sorry, but I see so much of circumvention for all the questions/ discussions it is hard to truly follow/ understand the crux of the discussion.

Wow, this was so helpful! I have read Lindsay's book but gained more insight with this podcast episode. Thanks!

Lindsay Gibson makes some good points here, but is not correct about everything, unfortunately. Some emotionally immature people do have empathy, and do have the ability to see things from other people's perspective. In fact, some of them are mainly able to consider other people's feelings, before considering their own feelings. I heard good things about her book, and I was looking forward to exploring her take on this subejct. But this was dissapointing, She's missing a lot of stuff.

I felt and described a feeling of having a black hole in my heart, the immense and intense loneliness I felt from such a young age. I have healed so much of that by learning who I am and how to be in safety.

Thank you Dr. Lindsay Gibson, not the book, or anything specific. Just thank you. We are grateful that we walk on this earth in the same time with you.

This episode stopped me in my tracks. My world stopped. Thank you so much.

Yes I had a break through. Thank you. 🎉

I’m wondering why my emotionally immature mother treated my younger sister a bit differently than me. Mother seemed to have more empathy towards her and would have what seemed to me “normal” conversations. She definitely fits the profile and I saw myself in the Dr Lindsey’s book but hmmmm…..why the difference?

I just discovered this site tonight after attending an advent event with Cathy Lorezel last week. However, I can't seem to find out much about what you offer, resources etc. I have a PC and no social media really, except FB, but I have a few questions about what I might be able to access. I am dissociative and have severe complex PTSD from church abuse that started at the age of 60. I am retired and living in total isolation now due to all of the misunderstanding and rejection of three churches. Is there a contact #? I'm not even sure where I am. There are so many resources available, and I'm an avid listener to Adam Young, just went through a cohort with Brian Lee (Broken to Beloved) but I keep hearing of others that look good like Tears of Eden and the Healing Trauma Podcast. I've read a lot of the authors you have interviewed and they are all so good. There is a lot of overlap The main thing for me right now is that BECAUSE I am totally alone (no family, no church and a handful of friends - mostly long distance), and have chosen to isolate for two years due to misunderstanding and abuse that I just couldn't live with anymore (I'm 17 months into it) I'm just looking for resources to educate and support me on this now-almost 8 year journey that started with a stroke in 2016 and the rejection of my church and craft group.

Absolutely soooooo comforting knowing that Dr Linsay has such a great understanding and support in this area where one feels emotionally challenged. Realising that I have the right to do in my life the things that make me happy. Parents have such an awful control on their children when they themselves are emotionally immature ....... thank you both for such words of great comfort blessing and love very grateful.........

Thank you sooo much Adrian and Monique. Adrian, inspiration, if I may, the word that came to mind..your presentation.. thank you!! Some thirty four years ago I became aware of the phenomenon of DID, then yet revered to as MPD. My initial read, a booklet written by two clinicians working with DID clients, was followed with “More Alike Than Different” authored by Margo Rivera, one of the clinicians. More or less a “light bulb” moment some several years later, when I self diagnosed as having DID. About this time I has an epiphany like experience. This helped me tremendously..more than tremendously..such that my world view became one of acceptance..acceptance for my person and a desire to know him fully. Wow and then some..how does one survive such as brings about this DID phenomenon..I do not know, but I do know I have!! Love to you both, love to us all!! ❤️🙏

Excellent interview. Wise insight. The observations about 'parentified children' are especially poignant. The strange reversal of the child having to study and navigate the parent's emotional minefield, to learn not to set it off, and to help the parent 'feel good about herself'.

Great episode!! Love the pod❤️

Who cares about the labels.

Does this mean that people who are emotionally immature like this is the result of a personality disorder? Is that what it is?

The topic of high functioning autism spectrum is missing from this conversation. I hope viewers look up high functioning Autism, and other terms that go with it like, “mind blindness”, “Theory of mind“, and “ Alexathymia”. It is a bit shocking to me that the clinical psychologist does not discuss this as a possibility for all the symptoms that she is talking about. My father had high functioning autism and had a very late diagnosis at age 82. It explained why he didn’t lean in and take an interest in us kids, why he was not comfortable with other people‘s emotions, Seemed to lack empathy, would become defensive at criticism, Yet he seemed to hold it together better in front of strangers And acquaintances, but not all the time. His high functioning autism would still bleed through because he had mind blindness and could not empathize. Much of this is genetic trait baked in. And some of it can be ameliorated through counseling to be more aware. I’m not saying that all parents have high functioning autism. Some have accompanying different comorbidities just like we all have, which would impede them from Being able to relate with their children. But it’s not uncommon for high functioning autism to be in tandem comorbid with narcissism due to The parent, having to mask their entire lives, which can come off as arrogant and dismissive behavior. It’s very complex. To simply talk about symptoms is one thing. But to understand, the origin is another. I think it’s a bit dangerous that the signs of high functioning autism are not being discussed here. The steel face experiment is the only smoking gunn symptom that doctor Gibson talks about that even remotely touches on autism. That is exactly what it can feel like to be with a high functioning autistic person. They can be still faced and unemotional with flat affect and seem not to care about your needs.

Great information for clinicians and civilians alike. Badly needed with so much misinformation. Thanks for your courage. It can't be easy to disclose on the internet with potentially millions of viewers. Paul Falstad, CDCA

EVERYTHING that came out of her mouth sounded like compete B.S. EVERYTHING! It honestly sounds like you or your team didn't verify her story. Secondly you and her referring to the small things as trauma REALLY EXTREMELY just minimizes when people do go through real trauma. Like a scrapped kneed being equated to a fractured skull. Its just insulting to those who have suffered real trauma. I speak from real experiences with actual trauma and being adopted as well. Not to mention my childhood friend was in a similar boat except the levels of trauma we went through. In truth it yall just sound like the stereotypical basic divorced white women, always wanting to be the biggest victim around. Its simply revolting.

Being friends with your nervous system - I love this!

Love “going downstairs into our body”

Love your new intro!!!

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First class

Yep we have DID and it can get messy because it was born from trauma and so yeah you can’t make everyone happy. When you do fuse at least with us we let it happen naturally but we are doing the functional multiple thing you can say. Good video.