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"Aren't you tired of being nice" No I'm tired of everyone being mean!

2 month later , boycott didn't age well ,lmao. Also Ororon ≠ Oloron , not even same name that's goes for other characters, it's not counterpart characters and never been. It's start of the region, there can be more characters like Iansan (cute character already)

I hate it when people are treated like this! I have a few NB friends that use they/she or they/he and it just bothers me so much when others have never used they when talking to or about them. Some people do switch up what pronouns they are using for them but when ppl have never even tried to use they for them I will follow it up by excessively using they when talking about or around those people to try and drive the point home and remind them its THEY(preferred)/she. I hope everyone gets better for you and all the other NB people just wanting to live your lives.

Thank you for sharing, you said a lot of very relatable things. I have stopped telling new people I'm non binary + they/them pronouns unless it comes up specifically in conversation - I list my pronouns on my socials and business card but I will no longer correct people when they she/her me because it's just too damn exhausting. Despite efforts to look' androgenous' I'm still read as a woman which annoys me, but it is useful to be allowed in woman's spaces as a lot of their struggles overlap with mine.

I just don’t ever feel included when people make sweeping statements about women. “All women want this” or “all women tend to experience that” I never feel like anything that brings solidarity among women actually… does anything for me? I still like flowers… but in a botanist type of way? There are feminine things I like? But i don’t ever feel in the group with women

i feel the same im a biological male and it sucks sometimes i relate to this a lot we are here for you mate

I am a guy. This wont change even if I wished to be a girl. Even if I dress like a girl (which I do sometimes behind closed doors) but I will always be a guy. He/Him. And nothing can ever change that. 🫤

omg furina and arleeeee

To bring me closer to center when I am read femme, I started using he/him pronouns. Not that I'm a man, but it's a way to eliminate being treated like a "girl". My gender journey has been a part of my life since my childhood (over 45 years ago). I went from stealing my little brother's toys, to graduate high school as a butch lesbian. Except I'm not a lesbian. I mean, my partner is female, but my sexual orientation is...well, queer. I kinda hung out in genderqueer for a while, but the first time I heard "non binary", it just sounded like the best way to express what I feel inside. It's hard more often than it's easy. But here's the hitch - you gotta be true to who you are inside, because living a lie is so much more painful.

Frankly, I guess I get what your saying. I was born a biological male, but I identify as non-binary. However I still just consider myself a guy. (I guess.) I say I'm non-binary because I've always felt really odd about gender. Ever since I was young, I've always noticed I have a weird similarity to all the things stereotypcally "girl," but in the end of the day, I'm practically just a guy. I feel like I especially relate to the "standing out" feeling as compared to your biological gender. Here's to hoping we'll all understand ourselves someday. What I'm saying is I get the confusion, and the uncertainty of gender. (Also, I may not have mentioned it, but that voice training thing is so relatable 😭)

I hear a lot of self-doubt, as if you needed to be a "good" cis woman, as if you were inherently a "worse" cis woman by some (frankly imaginary) standard... I am sorry you feel this self-doubt (you don't need to) and I hope it gets better.

In Italy they/them doesn’t exist and every single word is gendered. I’m a Demigirl so I’m okay with she/her but it still annoys me a lot

I'm an amab but I've identified as non-binary for a while now, my thoughts of course differ from yours on certain subject matter but ye do a good job explaining things nonetheless Good job

Hey! AMAB Gender-fluid person here, I feel like this shit is like just so utterly frustrating. I mostly present as a guy, and honestly some days I like how I present and think I look good. But then SOME DAYS i’ll just look in the mirror and just be like UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Idk it’s kinda just frustrating, and I do have that same lingering thought of just “dude you’re basically already cis why are you making your life harder than it needs to be”. Thanks for the video, also you have a great voice!

In this scenario. It really depends for different people. Its basically the difference between aaron burr and alexander hamilton. It is good to have boundaries, to have rules but to also make sure you are open minded enough to allow people into your life, even those that make you uncomfortable. Because unfortunately, they will never truly go away. So yes, deal with the problem, confront it but dont be so close minded as to just reject anyone that might not realise they are making you uncomfortable.

YOU. YOU UNDERSTAND. SUBSCRIBED TO A FELLOW GENDERLESS ORB OF SENTIENCE

Sometimes there's a question I have, is it too harsh to just immediately block people all the time for the tiniest thing? It usually bites me when there's an inclination to unblock and check to see if anything has changed so it keeps reinforcing this immediate defensive response. After a little reflection, it is clear that I am in the right for continuing to have a hair trigger on the block button.

I feel a similar way. Like almost exactly the same. I just don’t want people to see me as a girl. Or a boy. I want people to see me as me. And I know I can just be me as a girl, but it feels so wrong to me. The gender binary seems so useless to me, but I understand that for others it’s everything. I absolutely hate the stigma that comes with being NB, like how people think I’m just a “quirky Tom girl/boy” or just don’t really see my identity at all. The awkwardness behind me identity is a struggle, especially when it comes to dating. But I remind myself how uncomfortable I feel when called a girl, when seen as a girl. I remind myself that being myself feels a lot better (despite it being awkward for others) than being someone I’m not

The perpetual disdain I feel deep down for my own body because I covet androgyny and gender fluidity, but at the same time my afab form is too curvy for an androgynous appearance. I sit somewhere around demigendered, and have been using "demifemme" for myself for a few years, but there are the occasions in which my brain wonders, "what if I had been born amab?" I still think I would've hated my body, anyways, because genetically I most likely would've wound up heavyset, anyways. I don't covet being slim, either, though...not quite. It's more of the longing to have a greater balance for my body and my identity, if that makes any sense. I don't quite know how to properly explain it in writing, never mind that most people I speak with IRL likely wouldn't get it, either.

I resonate with “woman who uses they/them so much” I’m one of those NB’s who’s gender expression aligns with their sex, and I kind of hate it. Because I look like a girl, and everyone sees me as a girl, everyone except me. All of my family and friends are super supportive, but I’ll always be a daughter, sister, niece and granddaughter. I wish there were more close feeling gender neutral terms because child and sibling don’t feel as meaningful to me. I’ve been out for 5 years and I’ve never doubted it but I’ll always be a girl who goes by they/them. Thanks so much for this video, I didn’t realize how fed up I was, and it feels so good to hear others with the same feelings

Oop, someone already commented what I was going to say, soooo I will say something different! I really appreciate the subtitles on screen! I've maybe said that before, but it's still true! :D

as a non-non-binary person, this was really interesting to listen to! i wish i could send this to the people in my life who are less understanding of non-binary people (alas they don't speak english that well lol). i feel like those people often think a non-binary gender identity comes from a place of entitlement, when in reality so many non-binary people just (have to) accept being misgendered all the time for the sake of others and their own well-being. hope i'm not being disrespectful with this comment. props to you!!

5:00 god damn good line “If you don’t have boundaries, you won’t have anything there for people to respect”

I think the only way to solve this problem is to stop caring what others percieve you as. Most people would be lying to you if they called you by they/them pronouns, because most people don't believe in the concept of innate gender identity that is entirely separate from someone's body and not affected by environment. The non-binary identity depends on that belief, but since it's not scientifically verifiable, you will never be able to convince everyone that it's true. You still have the right to hold that belief regardless, but it will always suck if you keep relying on others to affirm it.

Huh, I thought your voice sounds fairly androgynous, at least in this video. Maybe seeing 'non-binary' in the title had me slightly biased, but still. But yeah, being non-binary in a society that doesn't even acknowledge that concept, and at the same time puts SO much importance on gender sucks. Usually the closest thing to getting gendered correctly you can get is 'are you a boy or a girl'. Like... I don't need people to know my gender (honestly I think it's a kinda person thing that personally I don't *want* people to know), but I also don't want people to constantly assume a gender for me and then change how they treat me depending on their assumptions? Thank you for sharing your thougths :)

I am enby too, and i really agree w/ what you said, anyway, really keep being you no matter what ppl say, and i wish you a good luck

I recognise a lot of what you say, but "from the other side", as an AMAB non-binary person... I do actually go out of my way to dress femininely, I'm even on HRT (and it's wonderful!) so my body is also changing to a more feminine shape, but still pretty much everybody apparently sees me as "a guy in a dress". No! I'm not a guy! Don't refer to me as he/him, that's not me. Sure, the beard probably doesn't help either - but I don't see my beard as a gendered thing. It's part a part of me, I like the aesthetic of it, and it doesn't signify that I'm a man. At least not to me... What you said about non-binary being seen by many to be some sort of "woman light" is also true. Like when there are events for "women and non-binary people", what they really mean is "only for people who we perceive as feminine". And guess what, they don't perceive me as "feminine enough" even though I'm wearing feminine clothes and I've got actual breasts growing on my chest (and I love those babies!). But even for non-binary people who /are/ accepted at those venues, it's totally invalidating, because they're obviously perceived as "women light" in order to be included. So, yes, it sucks being non-binary. But still, pretending to be a man sucked a LOT more. I've done that for 40+ years, so I have put quite some mileage into that... I will never willingly go back to that hellscape.

afab enby here!! being on spanish-speaking countries hasnt be the greatest for me (since spanish does not have gender neutral pronouns and the neo pronouns made to fill that spot are seen as "weird" or "cringy"),,, i do not have a lot of clothes so i tend to present on a rather femenine way . which sucks . and i try to hide by boobs as much as possible . which also sucks . (planning on buying a binder to fix that issue,,) ive been thinkimg of using masc pronouns and presenting on a masc way irl since i feel like ill be accepted more if i say im a trans guy rather than an enby,,,. but im still scared to do so since ive heard classmates say transphobic insults . (my school is full of shitty people as you can see lol) . people here push a lot the gender binary and everytime i am reffered by fem pronouns or by my deadname i just kinda like die inside . i have a massive fear of comming out since my family is very religious and my school bashes on enbies a lot . so im kinda just , stuck here for now lmao . (srry for the akward wording and bad english,,,, im stupid and not a native english speaker lmao,,,)

if i want ANYONE to not call me a girl or "her" i have to constantly look out for and correct people when they mess up, and i HATE IT!!! WHY should it be MY responsibility that others RESPECT ME??

As someone born AMAB and is non-binary everyone even a lot of non-binary ppl still see me as *MAN*. The way I see this is the whole pronouns thing but also that in my university when things for non-binary people are placed in bathrooms they only do women's bathrooms and never men's. I have to constantly state my pronouns, wear skirts (which Im not a fan of), and present more feminine because I am not seen by most as non-binary even within the community.

I feel very represented by your video. Im also a Non Binary AFAB, who is not really androgineous presenting ( in fact, only my closest friends and some family knows I identify as NB, most people just treat me as a girl) Even those who do, treat me as a girl since I dont really care what pronouns they use on me, I just need to feel Im not.. broken? Since I've always felt I was doing "girl" wrong, I'm pretty masculine, what you could call a butch, but I'm not a lesbian. I feel I'm not a girl, but I dont feel completely as a boy either so NB is for me I guess? I always feel like people think this NB thing is a fad, something I say just because "I dont want to be like other girls" but it is really not. I've felt like this since I have memory. I guess it is the struggle of being neither a boy or a girl. Im just.. me.

this! I really wish I had more people to talk to about this. I have maybe one person I can be open with.

being an amab non binary and dating another non binary surely is something, Brazil don't have any type of neutral pronoums so the community just created their own, but the majority of people don't respect it and even joke about it, i kinda "evade" this because I use any pronoums but I still get very unconfortable when someone perceive me has a man. Me and my enbyfriend are always corecting other people for one another cause we are afraid of people skajskajskaj, but basically, being non binary sucks if it was a choice i would just be cis because its easier, unfortunatelly thats not how it works. I wish all trans people a great day and a great live, remember that you are valid :>

wait no but hang on they have a point- this is exactly what i've been experiencing, even in my close friend group (who is basically the lgbtq+ group in the sschool lol) keep mis-pronouning me and it's just gotten to the point where i feel awkward tryna correct them and i just deal with the little bit of pain every time.

I’ve been wondering if I’m nonbinary, but I think it’s hard because I do identify with womanhood to a certain degree, so I’m not sure if I’m actually nonbinary or just a gender non-conforming woman.

this totally speaks to me as an agender person, i've always said i'm totally fine just existing as me, but when i go outside that's when things get complicated. i've wished on many occasions that we could all just become floating orbs of light and nobody could tell anything about gender anymore, because it really is just all about how other people perceive me. in my mind i'm nothing, but to everyone else i HAVE to be something, and it's always been such a struggle. for people to see you as someone trying to be different when really you're just being as true to yourself as you can be. humans like categories and labels instinctually to keep themselves safe and i get that, but i also wish it wasn't the case. i don't want to be seen as a quirky girl who's just trying to be different. i'm just ME, like how a robot just exists. it can really suck sometimes.

My friend I feel you, my goal isn't androginy but the feeling of not being understood and listened to is horrible. Thanks for sharing. P.S: love the art, are you a Genshin fan? Aether was my gender awakening LOL

its absolutely incredible how much i relate to this video. i am afab nb but i havent really changed anything drastically about myself from looking like a girl - and sometimes i really wish i could just be a girl and avoid all the talk around not being one - especially in my country which is very conservative and mostly does not understand anything beyond someone being trans - and that still is being incredibly judged and people hide it from the world aswell, plus additionally my language does not offer a good option for a singular they so people really dont have any other choice but to refer to me as a she/her in that language anyways. everything you said here was what my thoughts have been like for the past few months and im so grateful to you for sharing your experience because its basically identical to mine, and i really felt alone in it all this entire time.

I'm NB as well but fairly androgynous in appearance and voice so people have a hard time with my pronouns, and although I have have they/them/it pronouns I usually just go with whatever the person think I am and just go with it, it goes like this, "Ma'am! You forgot your bag!", "Your order sir.", "See, she agrees", "Is that a boy?". I never knew this was a problem people had, I was never really bothered about being misgendered but that's my personal experience.

i kinda figured out i was nb pretty recently and it just feels right. i was never comfortable being a girl but i didnt wanna be a boy either so i just assumed my self esteem was crap (which, to be fair, it was). my parents were supportive but kinda had an its a phase mentality. im scared im just making it up because im young. and being nb is really hard because i always feel annoying or in the wrong for asking people to use certain pronouns. as an ace nb i always feel kinda invisible. i really feel like we're not really mentioned as much as a lot of other people in the queer community so this video was really nice to see. thanks and it's good to know people with similar experiences exist :)

Pro tip from an enby after 5 years on HRT. Androgyny in the eyes of the cis is impossible. They will always choose a binary gender to inflict upon you. So just figure out a way to present that makes you the happiest.

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Thank you for your raw honesty and awesome art! I'm an amab enby but have lived a big part of my life socially as a woman, so I feel like I relate both to amab and afab trans people somewhat. Right now I'm half comfortable with my gender presentation, I float around somewhere between fem-leaning and masc-leaning androgyny, but mostly I get seen as a woman. The rare times I get seen as a man are kinda funny, but I would love for the gendered expectations to not be put on me by society. Sometimes I question my identity but everytime I return to agender with dysphoria (also called neutrois). The journey to find some kind of peace has been long but I've finally created some kind of peace within myself. Being enby is an endless struggle, but I couldn't be any other way!

I know that you're probably right that people think your voice sounds feminine, but it honestly sounds very androgenous to me for most of the video But also super relatable, a lot of people don't really understand the whole non binary thing, I present myself as a trans guy to most people because it's just easier to explain, less effort, and it's better than them thinking I'm a girl

I'll be honest, people who choose not to respect it are just kinda awful people. It's not all that difficult to just look at people as non-binary

I feel almost the exact same lol, I'll probably get on hrt at some point because my voice is way too high for me to sound androgynous without having to do voice training or add a bunch of dudebroisms to the way I talk

I also identify as a-gender. I've told this to multiple people, all of them refer to me as she. I don't care what pronouns people use for me. But it is interesting that if given the choice to use any pronoun for me, people always go feminine.

I often feel dysphoric about my voice (I’m afab) and it helps me to think, that younger boys in cartoons are often voiced by women, and you couldn’t tell their gender just from their voice either, plus a lot of people thought I was an underage kid in videogame vcs so honestly that sometimes helps

Ok fr tho 🙏 I have some friends that I came out to who don’t know much about lgbt but support. I explained to them how I didn’t fit the gender binary and how I wanted them to call me by (insert my name) instead of (insert deadname) they do the name and pronouns thing, but they really know what being non-binary *means.* Like, if there was a thing where it asked my gender or it was split by gender they always said “Oh, well (Insert my name) is *both* so they get to choose” and it’s like your actually so far off I’m neither (There are other things but I’ve ranted for long enough and no one will see this comment anyways)

Huh, this video reached me just at the right time! I realized I'm non binary very recently, the signs were always there but i only stopped to think about it now. In a way i feel that i would be way less anxious about it if i never even bothered reflecting on that and just kept being myself without finding a label for my identity. But on the other hand, seeing other people stating and expressing with confidence that "Yes, i am not a man, i am not a woman, i am myself and these labels don't fit who 'myself' is." always makes me happy and a little emotional, it's something i still am building up courage to be able to do. This is all still very new to me, and although i always felt a really strong kinship with androgynous presenting people and characters, i don't know if this is something i have the want (or even courage) to express. It's somewhat comforting to know I'm not the only one going trough these anxieties. Thank you for this video!