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Please visit my web site www.kristenulmer.com and reach out to me personally for options to learn how to do this. I'm here to help.

@@kristenulmer1970 thanks Kristen, will do!

@@madelyn786 KU 1970 is not me, fyi

Of course it is, science has proven that, but it has a consquence to it which you can learn about if you watch the video. xo

Thats us when we interpret fear as a bad thing. Just by shifting our thinking to see it as a good thing, the rest can follow

Thats a new perspective to work with but how do u deal with palpitations that are strong when fear comes is it safe to do physical activity in this state like does our heart body can handle it

@@Mmktrr27896 You connect with the fear thats in your heart in an intimate way, without thought, like a mother loving her upset child. Period. nothing more after that. Just keep doing it until it feels like a self love practice.

First of all i would really thank you and appreciate you answering me and giving me your time. Im now in a state where idm fear even though the feeling in uncomfortable to me but i still do what i have to do while im in this state i accept all symptoms and all intrusive thoughts and i never engage in these thoughts But u said something that really caught my attention but i didnt quite get what you mean or how to do it how to connect with my fear in an intimate way without though how do u practice with that

Fear doesn't feel bad nor hurt us in any way, it's our resistance to fear that feels bad and hurts us. Feel free to reach out to me if you wish to work togehter to undo this.

True. Problems need to be addressed or solved to reduce high levels of stress.

Google my name and listen to any podcasts on which I've been interviewed. There have been well over 130. Might help. Good content there

Silly rabbit, the title does not say stop doing breathing exercises, it says stop trying to breathe away anxiety.

I don't get paid for views. And, we're saying the same thing. Make sure you watch the video next time before commenting?

I said that because fear IS a good thing. It's one of the best parts of life, without it we'd be so bored! We just have to deal with it properly is all, for it to show up that way

OCD and being in your head is the result of kinking the hose on fear in your body. Read my book The Art of Fear to learn more, then sign up for my monthly support calls from there. www.kristenulmer.com/whats-next-support-calls-membership/ This is completely fixable. You just have to do the opposite of what you've been doing, is all. Starting a new habit at age 19 will be easier for you than someone who older. We got this ok? I'm here to help

@@kristenulmer1970 how lomg will it take to fix? I literally dont have the money for the book or group rn, i quit my job a few months ago for college and wont be able to afford anything until i get a new job. But i still wanna implement what the free resources say.

A day for some, months for others. Some people never make the shift though. If you have not enough money to buy my book then just keep looking at stuff from me online- over 140 podcasts. Happy hunting for answers and a practice. xo

That’s a step in the right direction, but next comes feeling your fear, leading to intimacy with fear being the goal and highest level.

Reminder: This is not about giving up anxiety this is about having intimacy with it, which is different. Good luck with your journey!

@@kristenulmer1970 Perhaps I was a bit unclear there - what I meant is that your teaching is to accept that anxiety might never go away and that's what makes it go away. So giving up on trying to avoid it and giving up on constantly trying to be calmer is the answer. At least that's how I understood it. One gets what one let's go, so we don't want that to be anxiety. :) Just the opposite.

@@BonafidesFromFinland Yes that's great. Language is import though so one more little tweak, instead of 'giving up' or 'letting go of' anxiety like we've explored, you also don't want to 'give up' or 'let go of' trying to avoid it either. Simplified- just be in flow with it all, even your resistance

It doesn't matter where you feel your breath, wherever works. If your anxiety is really bad, breathe in acceptance to the place where it exists and breathe out the hope of getting rid of that anxiety and see what happens.

@@kristenulmer1970 you are so awesome thanks

It does quickly become a form of spiritual bypassing. Which leads to toxic positive (google these terms). Instead, it's not a matter of "focusing" on negative, which is done with your mind and not advised, instead it's a matter of feeling your negative emotions in an honest way, having intimacy with them, so they feel seen and heard. www.kristenulmer.com for more info

Not exactly. Your word- "uneasy" is another name for fear. so if you want to be honest with yourself: Start by calling it fear. As for the second part: you do not 'let it out' which suggests you have control over it, which you do not. You, let it be. And feel it. Emotional are meant to be felt, not thought about. So here's the final re-work of your sentence: "when we feel fear, we be honest with ourselves, find where it is in our body and feel it." Hope this helps. To learn more go to www.kristenulmer.com. xo

@@kristenulmer1970 Right, so we feel the anxiety. Then what happens?

@@moodydude6790 read up on what I teach... anxiety- is fear. feel it and be intimate with it without any kind go goal (which is KEY), and just see what happens (wink).

@@kristenulmer1970 For all I know it boils down to what makes you anxious or guilty ect, basically each problem will be dealt with differently.

@@moodydude6790 What makes you anxious moment to moment is for the most part unknowable. 11Million bits of data per second, you try to figure out which one is making you anxious, you'll drive yourself nuts. Then you're in your head dealing with your emotions, intellectually, too, which leads to more anxiety. www.kristenulmer.com for more info. This is my last personal response. xo

Hi, OCD is undealt with fear stuck in your body, showing up re-directed as a phobia of sorts. Get back in flow with your fear the OCD goes away. www.kristenulmer.com for more info

Thinking won't solve emotional issues. Being in your head is what causes emotional issues. You need to instead learn how to feel. I can help. www.kristenulmer.com feel your emotions and you can also be in flow with them.

yep, exactly

Learn how to deal with your emotion (fear) by turning toward it and feeling it. Treat it like a good parent would with a child who is upset and needs your attention. Emotions (fear) want to be felt, so stop trying to get rid of it, and feel it, that'll solve the problem. www.kristenulmer.com for more info

The negative is firmly part of life, so what other choice do you have?

reach out if you need help

@@kristenulmer1970 The doctors don't help me. I can't take medication

@@annaberg1200 www.kristenulmer.com will show you options. If you're ready this work I offer resolves your anxiety, it always does. It's very different than anything out there. Let me know what option works best for you by sending me an email from my web site and let's get to work.

@@kristenulmer1970 I can't take it anymore..

Resistance to fear is what causes a panic attack. Intimacy with fear is what ends them, Try again

@@kristenulmer1970 how can you get intimate with the feeling you chocking to death?

@@SimsMoyal You started it. You tried to choke it to death. Now it is doing the same, retailiang back at you. If you caused this, you also have the power to end that war. Get to work on that. I can help if you want.

@@kristenulmer1970 i will be happy for any help - it ruined so many events that otherwise would be memorable For example I couldn’t find my fav clothes i wanted to wear for my birthday party and got such a jolt of anxiety that someone broke into my apartment and stole things otherwise how come they are not to be found anywhere? I ruined my entire birthday party 😭 i was blocked out from the world by it The next day i found out that my jackass brother took them for his date and failed to mention it

@@SimsMoyal It starts by no longer blaming it (fear), but blaming yourself for treating it so poorly. You've left fear no choice but to retaliate. I can help yes but note I'm expensive (but worth it). www.kristenulmer.com/private-sessions-with-kristen/. Hope to work with you soon. This is 100% reversible. In a very short period of time. xo

She literally doesn't know what she's talking about lol mindfulness is scientifically proven to greatly reduce anxiety

@@legions3092 Meditation can build grey matter in the brain. But best to figure out if you need intero-receptive vs extero-receptive because doing the wrong one has been scientifically shown to make anxiety worse. Also she said SOLVE anxiety. So what you're saying isn't really the same conversation. That's why we have nuances in life - not black and white thinking

@@jdt8983 what are you talking about? Gray matter determines how well a person can control their emotions and movement.

Glad you think so!

Happy to hear it resonated with you.

Replacing anxiety with calm is alas, spiritual bypassing

Holy wow this is exactly how I feel as well. Being too calm gives me anxiety

@@dagrizzla6252I swear. It's so dam confusing. Lol.

@@dagrizzla6252haha, not sure what you're saying or if you're perhaps being sarcastic, but that is not the message from this video. maybe re-watch?

By all means do yoga and qigong. But contrary to how they are taught, can you use them instead to connect with and feel your anxiety (aka fear) with the key being, you do this not as a way to get rid of them. To make sure you're on point see them as a person who lives in your body who is upset. Treat them with love and feel them. Period. Nothing more, even if the instructors suggests otherwise. That kind of attention to your fear makes it feel better, and because they've in your body thus you also feel better.

Yes, fear doesn't ever become a problem if you "allow" fear, which is a wonderful emotional, to naturally flow in your life. Then nothing gets weird.