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Mary Francis
Добавлен 16 окт 2010
Providing Videos and Information for people who have lost a loved one or someone close to them.
Speak Your Memories
Speak your memories - a memory might not have been so funny at the time it actually occurred, but this is where you can craft it into a really good story, a story that can be given as a gift to your family and friends.
Speak your memories, tell your stories, be kind to both yourself and your man. Memories told in stories show that you can laugh at yourself and that your memories will not be lost.
Speak your memories, tell your stories, be kind to both yourself and your man. Memories told in stories show that you can laugh at yourself and that your memories will not be lost.
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Take Time For You
Просмотров 7714 дней назад
You are worth the "time for you", life is worth all that it takes: one idea, one choice, one step, one act of kindness are all enough to start a chain reaction of caring that changes your world. When we are grieving it seems like other people have it all together and like everyone's life is better than ours. But that's not true! There's still so much for you to live for.
Frustrated Widow
Просмотров 162Месяц назад
Are you a frustrated widow? It becomes so easy to dwell on what you could have done, what others did or did not do, and why you feel so alone. The feelings of frustration, of not knowing what to do next, having no sense of control and feeling guilty because your still here and yet they are gone - does this all sound familiar to you?
Don't Grieve Without Support
Просмотров 882 месяца назад
We were married but now we are single and our lives are forever changed. It helps to get support from other widows and professional counselors. If you are having trouble than support groups can do two things for you. First it gives you a chance to listen to others that are grieving. You pick up on their feelings and it helps in your own recovery to hear their opinions and experiences. Second, y...
Little Bits of Joy
Просмотров 1172 месяца назад
Bits of joy are hard to come by, and not what widows are expecting in their lives. But, there will come a time when bits of joy will break through into the darkness of your life. When was the last time you felt real joy - that pure tingle of pure delight? Joy is more than contentment, it’s a feeling so vast it almost overwhelms us with gee. I know you may be fighting against “joy” as it doesn’t...
Interview Grief Counselor
Просмотров 843 месяца назад
How Do I Interview a Grief Counselor? You need to feel comfortable with any Grief Counselor that you’re considering hiring. Ask lots of questions in your search to find someone that fits your own life style. Pick the questions that you want to ask and the responses should help you assess whether he or she is a good fit for you. This list is a great way to locate a person or an organization that...
Loneliness - You Are Not Alone
Просмотров 2583 месяца назад
There are broken hearts and wounded widows everywhere, you are not alone in your grief. Some are healing and moving forward, some are still in shock and some are stuck in their grief and anger. As a widow you will encounter many lonely times, times when you feel like you’re the only person on the face of the earth. For me it was so strange to go from a house with a husband to a life alone. I kn...
Sex The Forbidden Topic
Просмотров 4,2 тыс.4 месяца назад
It doesn’t matter how old we are - sex is the forbidden topic that no one wants to bring it up. Most of us widows are still interested in sex, but are scared of dating and how we will react emotionally. A widow often finds that sex can be a stumbling block when starting another relationship. After years with a spouse our sexual life gets comfortable, and it certainly takes us out of our comfort...
Love Yourself First
Просмотров 1524 месяца назад
If the center of your love is in your spouse and he dies, the center is suddenly removed and that is what makes our grieving so painful. We may end up feeling unloved and spend time looking for another love immediately to heal our wound. Many confuse sex and love, so in the beginning it is wiser to go easy on love relationships. Invest in friendships until you have healed and learned to love yo...
Fresh Goals and Being Teachable
Просмотров 865 месяцев назад
I recommend the book “The Wealthy Barber Returns” by David Chilton. It’s all a reach for me, but this book made sense and had me laughing as I read it. I love this quote from the book “Recognize that charge cards are the great enabler of our addiction to spending and don’t always carry one with you.” What - it’s that easy! Just leave the cards at home, I love it. Maybe right now you can’t see h...
Be You
Просмотров 2475 месяцев назад
You know what? Sometimes you can do everything right, but things can still go wrong. You must stop taking responsibility for everything that does go wrong. I understand that you are hurting, lonely and afraid, but don’t let it stop you from “being you”. Don’t try to put on a “mask” for others, just be real. Be brave enough to let the real you step up and show itself. You’re a wonderful person, ...
Forgiveness & You Matter
Просмотров 2056 месяцев назад
Friends and family may say some pretty hurtful things around the holidays. You could hold onto to your hurt or you could forgive them. If the relationship matters to you then give them some Grace and Forgiveness. While grieving we will lose some people because we are no longer part of a couple or because they just don't understand what we are going through. We need to hold on to the others beca...
Tips from Holiday and Special Occasion Guide, page 16
Просмотров 2236 месяцев назад
My Holiday and Special Occasion Guide was created because it’s hard to get through the special occasions and holidays while grieving the loss of our loved one. This guide will help you to do some planning and it’s the perfect map for your journey through all the occasions, with all their emotional up’s and down’s. Special occasions can be a time of joy and anticipation but for people who’ve rec...
Start of Holidays & Empty Chair
Просмотров 1807 месяцев назад
From Thanksgiving to Christmas to New Years Eve, Widows grieve and often do it while hiding behind the mask of, "I'm doing fine". There is an empty chair at Thanksgiving and Christmas where their husband should be. There is a start of a New Year and we have not yet figured out who we are now that we are no longer a "wife".
Widows Helping Widows
Просмотров 2157 месяцев назад
I believe that you can write out goals and try to do a vision statement, but it wouldn’t move you to heal as fast as reaching out and helping others in need. Widows Helping Widows is a powerful healing tool. There are lots of great online resources, but not all are free or without ads/marketing. As a widow I have spent the last sixteen years building up resources for widows that are free and av...
I had a similar story when time when I was having a hissy fit because I had so much to do. I asked Dan why he was not helping me. He replied that I had never asked. Believe me, I learned from that moment on to ask for help.😅
Thank you for sharing this story! I am laughing now at similar situations I had with my husband. I will continue to share with my adult kids. It will be 3yrs ago September my love passed.
Thank you Ms. Mary❤ Im not a Widow however, your channel is very therapeutic and reassuring. Its like Chicken Soup for the soul.
I want you to take it off. I wanna taste your vinegar. On my. Lips👄👄👄👄
Mary you are simply amazing and so helpful. Your channel is very therapeutic and relaxing.
Thank you Mary for doing these videos. I truly appreciate you.
Thank you Mary.😊
I had a beautiful relationship with my wife one that you never had to think about being separated or been unfaithful .I don't believe that some people never experience that beauty I guess thats why they say those hurtful comments because they just havent worked it all out And once they have gone the world keeps turning but the closeness doesnt have to be forgotten
There are some peoplle out there that just dont know how not to be nasty
My husband would have been 82 this year. I wish he hadn't smoked - he'd probably still be here! :(
I was told that I’d never get over my husband’s loss if I kept visiting him. I had people I didn’t know send me books about getting through grief.
He died doing something he loved smh
I just lost my wife she was only 56 miss her so much she passed may 1 my name is bob I'm 60 I hope that I can find a lady that will love me I went my wife she was 14 and I was 16 my life time sweetheart 😊
I just recently became a widow. It has not been a month yet. I plan to wear my wedding ring until I die. I also took his and re-sized to fit my pointer finger. I feel naked it without my wedding band.
Doesn’t matter anymore without my wife
It does. Your life matters.
So much insensitive stupidity.
I have not taken off my rings and I will wear them to the end of my days. We met at 16 married at 18 57 years married.
If the grieving is not enough for you, make yourself even more miserable by resenting well meant comments.
I know exactly what you mean. After my wife passed, literally one day later a "friend" told me I should go live in an elderly care facility because of all the many women there who would enjoy having a man in their company. So hurtful.
Another hurtful thing to never EVER say is “I know how you feel. I’m going through a divorce/breakup.” I told one person who said that she understood what I was feeling after my fiancé died because she was going through a very nasty divorce. I just looked at her and said “Matt isn’t dead” in a cold voice and just left.
Well said,;it is my journey. I do what I want when I want. Everyone is different , God bless , it is hard enough😢
I lost my mother several months ago. What has helped me is griefshare. Many people in the group are widows.
Yes. I alwsys think should have. Could have
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Your comments are good for anyone who dies people are not knowing what you have been through god bless
My husband died two weeks ago. We were married 26 years. He battled cancer for 7 years. This past year he lost so much weight that his ring was too big. I bought him a silicone band and he was buried with that one. I have his ring ( way too big for me) in a special box. I felt like our rings needed to be together since we can’t be so I put mine in there with his.. like we are still joined together somehow.
Take great heart but you need to compliment pliz I might make one
Yeah, I’m a widow of 10years. Folks may think they’re trying to help. But I can’t just go out & replace a person who was a huge part of my life.. Thanks for your message. Still single. 😂
My husband died 6 1/2 years ago after a 52 year marriage. No one gave me bad comments….The Family all ignored me and our daughters. We suffered through this time all by ourselves. Guess what list those people are on.
Я всегда говорю то что чувствую
1⃣ Насколько жизнь горька или легка? Если вы хотите ответа, подумайте о жизни, но не просто смотрите на нее своими глазами, посмотрите на нее глазами человека, лежащего на тротуаре, у которого нет даже самого необходимого для жизни, посмотрите на нее своими глазами . Человек, живущий во дворце. У кого есть все, кроме ласки, любви и искренности, увидеть жизнь глазами больного человека, которому врач говорит, что он хочет жить, но жить успевает. Будьте меньше, а затем посмотрите на жизнь глазами больного человека, у которого есть лекарство от болезни, но он настолько устал ждать своего выздоровления, что больше не может жить.
Ты сказал очень милую и правдивую вещь
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I'm a 61 year old widower of 16 months now. I'm just now starting to think about relationships but not nearly ready for one yet. Not sure how long it will take - maybe everyone is different.
I am a widow. Relatable.
66 year old man here, while I would love to meet someone to spend the rest of my life with I am content to live alone if that is my fate.
After one year, I am content to sit out my remaining years solo. Lots of friends and family and discovering new hobbies and fulfilling a bucket list. That doesn't mean this is 100% "off the table," (for me) It just means I am not ready to visit it at this time. It is hard enough to deal with the grief, let alone adult children expecting to have a voice in the rest of your life. If you find love again - Good for you! it took a lot of courage o get to that point. Bless your heart for doing the work to get there!
The minute the sentence starts with “At least…” it’s toxic and wrong.
So true mary..a very different and difficult time...and time goes by but stays very difficult
How are you I have a question I want to marry a disabled woman Will you answer?
Why would y take your wedding ring off y are not divorced i would never take my ring..off As im 78 i wont meet anyone else. I will wear the ring.till i die. I never even knew some people take their rings off when widowed
Talk to a friend and let it all out I have 2 widows I help out .
Yes love yourself and then show your love and family is always first.
Yes toys and a man good .toys on the clitoris you can both that does vagina .there some for clitoris. Use lube if your dry.yes ladies keep doing it with toys up to 90 if you can life is short
You do a good job thank you wish I had a good friend
You go girl !! Respect is key.!! We all need love ! What ever form it takes.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't give up.
Great video it's very educational
My husband just passed a little over two months ago, only three weeks before our 40th anniversary.😭. I am not taking my wedding rings off because in my heart, we are still married. And I am not wearing them on my right hand either, I don't care what anyone else thinks.
Your are so right - it has been 4 years since I lost my husband. we married at 18 & he 21 and had 63 wonderful years - I feel blessed but it is tough living without him - I cherished our life together.
Pleas help I have morning sickness every morning I have to vomit I can't accept that my husband is gone
Your physical health is being affected by your grief. You need therapy to help you deal with this. Talk to your doctor and see if he can get you the help you need.
@@MaryFrancis I talked to my pshyatrics and psyhologist ,they didnt give me any solution..they told me that I am sick of my life...