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Public speaking anxiety is incredibly common with some research indicating it is shared by 85% of people. Matt Abrahams’ work is so valuable for helping us all manage that fear. I’d suggest checking out his books and videos which offer many different strategies to combat it.

What an interesting observation! It points to the fact that your body speaks loud and clear even when you don't realize it... and may be saying something you hadn't intended. In this case, I think Matt may have just been glancing down at his notes or even perhaps tilting his head to try to heighten his listening skills, removing the visual distraction. His responses to my questions were definitely spot on, so what may have been perceived as him being distracted could've been just the opposite. We can easily misinterpret body language, especially on camera, when there's no context for the action. I often tell a story of a client who went through a hiring process that was completely virtual. On the final call with the hiring manager, she was disappointed when the manager never looked at the camera at all but rather looked down the entire time. My client assumed she was bombing the interview. Lo and behold, she was hired for the job. A few months later, she mentioned her impression of that call to her now boss who was flabbergasted. Her boss said she was simply taking copious notes because she was so impressed by what she was hearing. Two people in the same meeting - two very different impressions of how it went. How can you eliminate a misinterpretation? Provide context for your actions. If you are taking notes and looking down (or off to the side where another monitor sits) let your conversation partner know that, so they can make sense of what they are seeing on the screen. Otherwise, they might think you are not paying attention to them. However, when you speak, always reconnect with the camera lens which serves as the de facto eyes of your conversation partner. Thanks so much for watching and for your thoughtful comments!

@@karinreed6533 Thanks for your reply and great insight. Yep, I read the body language and made an assumption. Apologies for that. You're right Matt's answers and his engagement when speaking were spot on indeed. Also, setting the context upfront goes a long way to mitigate the assumptions, although it is still difficult to overcome our physiological responses. Anyway, great show. Thanks.

I truly appreciate the interest in watching and for the engagement. It’s always valuable to receive feedback - especially when it allows you to look at something from a different vantage point. Thanks again for watching!

@@karinreed6533 Thanks so much Karin for sharing this illuminating client story! As a career & leadership coach who often helps clients prepare for interviews, I often advise them to be careful not to make assumptions based on an interviewer's body language. The story you shared is such a pertinent example and one I may highlight with coaching clients. Loved this episode and look forward to more in the future! Thank You for sharing your wisdom and expertise with the world.

Not pursuing perfection is very freeing. I love when he says "Maximize your mediocrity!" It's excellent advice and does wonders to tamp down that pesky public speaking anxiety that we all face at one point or another.

So glad you found it valuable! Please do share it with others you think it may help as well!

Indeed. She’s an excellent example of someone who leaves her audience with takeaways to ponder through both substance and style.

Matt is one of my communication heroes! I’ve had the pleasure of lecturing to his classes at the GSB at Stanford and always learn so much myself.

So glad you found it valuable, @hipharpist

It's gotten more complex with the advent of virtual and hybrid meetings. We are sharing useful information on how to get this right!

Sorry for the confusion - Speaker Dynamics is a communication training firm.

High praise coming from you, Cat! Thanks so much for the shout out!

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