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Thoughtly
Добавлен 11 июл 2021
thought·ly
/THôtlē/
adverb
Our thoughts are:
The root of our being
Idea generators
Reaction deployers
A way of seeing the World
To be t.houghtly means we developed the ability to re-think the world & how we show up in it.
i.e. expanding capacity to be with how people show up, broadening emotional range, building confidence in ability to manage conflict and confrontation, deepening relationship with others, etc.
Welcome to our Channel!
/THôtlē/
adverb
Our thoughts are:
The root of our being
Idea generators
Reaction deployers
A way of seeing the World
To be t.houghtly means we developed the ability to re-think the world & how we show up in it.
i.e. expanding capacity to be with how people show up, broadening emotional range, building confidence in ability to manage conflict and confrontation, deepening relationship with others, etc.
Welcome to our Channel!
Ep 37: Sparking Joy: The Transformation of Letting Go
In this episode of Unhooked, we dive into the transformative power of physically letting go of items through the lens of Marie Kondo's timeless question: "Does this item spark joy?" More than just a decluttering mantra, this simple filter is a gateway to discovering what we truly desire, enabling us to live beyond the confines of being "kind," "nice," or "good enough."
We explore how the process of evaluating our possessions reveals deeper truths about who we are and what we value, helping us break free from the obligations and expectations that no longer serve us. Every decision to release an item becomes an act of self-trust, teaching us to listen to our instincts and honor our own inner...
We explore how the process of evaluating our possessions reveals deeper truths about who we are and what we value, helping us break free from the obligations and expectations that no longer serve us. Every decision to release an item becomes an act of self-trust, teaching us to listen to our instincts and honor our own inner...
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Ep 36: Out of Alignment: How Anxiety Reveals the Truth
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Ep 36: Out of Alignment: How Anxiety Reveals the Truth
Ep 35: Hijacked: The Moments That Take Us Off Course
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Ep 35: Hijacked: The Moments That Take Us Off Course
Ep 34: Stress vs. Anxiety: Tools, Truths, and Real-Life Stories
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Ep 34: Stress vs. Anxiety: Tools, Truths, and Real-Life Stories
Ep:30 Stuff It or Manage It? The Real Deal on Emotional Control
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Ep:30 Stuff It or Manage It? The Real Deal on Emotional Control
We Cling to Ideology When We’re Insecure
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We Cling to Ideology When We’re Insecure
Ep 28: Breaking Free from Micromanagement
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Ep 28: Breaking Free from Micromanagement
Overcoming Fear (and Still Lying to Myself)
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Overcoming Fear (and Still Lying to Myself)
4 Steps to Changing Your Experience With a Troublesome Teammate
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4 Steps to Changing Your Experience With a Troublesome Teammate
When We Come FROM People DO Care, We Show Up Differently
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When We Come FROM People DO Care, We Show Up Differently
Ep 27: No More Excuses: Intentionally Choosing
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Ep 27: No More Excuses: Intentionally Choosing
How to shift your relationship to feedback #leadership #peopleproblems #confidence
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How to shift your relationship to feedback #leadership #peopleproblems #confidence
Ep 26: Break the Cycle: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behaviors
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Ep 26: Break the Cycle: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behaviors
What People Who Say Nothing Are Telling Us
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What People Who Say Nothing Are Telling Us
Why Are Judgmental People Unaware of Their Inner Dialogue
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Why Are Judgmental People Unaware of Their Inner Dialogue
Ep 25:Real Talk: Overcoming Partnership Challenges Live
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Ep 25:Real Talk: Overcoming Partnership Challenges Live
Worried about what people think of you?
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Worried about what people think of you?
My brain and body both speak different languages 😂
Thank you💜
You are sooooooooooo, soooooo right <3 Come a long ways. May you have a wonderful day <3
Prophets and mystics have been predicting the future for eternity
Yeah that my mother was a master at that and she's dead now because she gave herself a stroke.
I'm sorry to hear that. I have a lot of compassion for folks who are trying to distract themselves from pain and discomfort.
Really good reminder!!
Your boundary is for you NOT them. It’s your job to take action if you need to create space.
How can people be expected to respect your boundary if they don't know what it is?
Get a job.
Your epiphany sounds spot on to me and its so spot on that it makes perfect sense that it caused a shift in me that I had to let you know that it helped me in my way of thinking and looking things in a different way. Thanks ❤
I’m so glad hear that this epiphany was helpful! Thanks for sharing. 🙌❤️🔥
So right. I was anxious watching a you tube short and noticing there were no comments yet. I regret not making that comment. But i was so caught up in what ifs and was overwhelmed..... if only i made that comment.
Hi, this is kind of random, but oh well. Jesus is God, and he paid for our sins on the cross so we don't have to. Please turn to him to be saved. God bless ❤.
Thank you
You're welcome!
You are amazing and lovely ❤❤❤
Thank you!
Thank you !
what?
Shut up and walk away. They dont want you bothering them
Say more.
I am a high school teacher and I am watching all of your shorts, and gaining valuable insights. First, I just wanted to leave a comment because I see that not many people have actively engaged with you and I really appreciate the content. Secondly, I couldn’t find your name anywhere :) I ended up on one of your interview videos and someone called you Allie, so hi, did I spell that correctly?
I got told this last week. If you dont show your hand, people struggle to see what you have.
Thanks for sharing. What was this statement referring to?
The entire video. It's really easy to want to show everything we can do immediately. It's not showing of but being proud of our sense of self. However if people only see 20% of your iceberg they will assume that is all that there is. You decide a lot of people's expectations of you.
No i like to meet some that like to meet me
That’s usually a pleasant experience.
do you have any tips to stop talking? I always ramble and I hate it
You bet! Ask a question. Have 2-3 questions in your back pocket that you want to ask. This creates curiosity for you and helps others to engage in the conversation.
@@thoughtly thank you!
As a listener, I enjoy the radom multi hour long monologs some people put out. But I know there is a time and place for everything! Honestly it's a skill to be able to constantly chatter! If you can't help yourself or you enjoy speaking look for creative ways to make use of the skill! But make sure to have enough empathy to listen when needed!
If you listen more you learn more
I completely agree talking too much is just a bad overall habit for you and others because you become annoying while others think your annoying
Lastly, I wanted to listen to this on Spotify yesterday, but realised this episode was yet to drop, so watching it here, I feel I would have missed out on so many things if I had listened on there, example, I won't be able to see the drawing board and Mia's make the sound effect and many more. Moving forward, I think listening/watching it here is perfect for me.
Yes, the Spotify and Apple podcasts are usually delayed by a day or two. Glad you found the youtube helpful!
I must first say, when Allison said she wakes up 2am everyday for a week, I checked my time and it was exactly 2am, and guess what? Am laying beside my snoring husband...lol Wow!!! Getting a shout out is sweet, I can't even lie 😂😂, Thank you guys. The calendar is big, I had also never done it before, never seen any reason to, but now, I feel motivated to. Mia's sound effect was hilarious.. I can relate with Mia's idea of what gets in the way, my head is filled with what had gone wrong in 2023(it's about to be in the past), also, I love Allison's point too, what about the people that thinks our plans are wierd? Regardless, I plan to try creating my own vision board, mine would be written or drawing, and playing is my favourite, so am sure it's going to be fun, but Mia talked about the action part and I was like, there we go. Take away. 1. Seeing how long it takes Allison 50 years for a breakthrough, how about I go slow with my self and enjoy the process. 2. Playfully sketch out my vision board. 3. Build a tiny practise on a daily basis that can help me get there. 4. Get supported. Personally, I hate to make commitment, because I get bored of old things and always love to spice things up a little, so I am present to a little bit resistance in doing it, but I am going to do it, and I heard Mia said it's okay for the plan to change, that's refreshing. Also, Mia's talk about swimming makes me want to go learn how to swim, maybe I might have her same experience, who knows!!! Hmmm, that would be on my vision board, I love water. I am present to so much joy, and ease on your faces... It would be hard to understand what I had written if you didn't watch the show. Needed to say that. Love you both.
Sherifat! Thanks for your feedback and your commitment to doing your work. You'll have to send us a photo of your vision for 2024!
@@thoughtlyI will gladly do so before the month runs out.
I admire how you both could agree and disagree gently and with love..2 beautiful mothers and leaders, it's always an honour to spend this hours with you... I am begining to look forward to seeing Tracey on the show soon someday(not sure if I spelt it well, but I meant your friend). My take away is same as Allison's...Honouring my stand regardless of that person's choice. Not sure I have emphasise this enough but I loveeeeeee your chemistry!! Thank you
Thanks Sherifate for sharing your takeaways.
Just when I was about going for a jog, I heard Mia said it's been 3 weeks she's been to the gym (not sure if I heard it well) but am definitely listening again..What a coincidence and motivation
Beautiful and colourful shirts!! Wine & Blue.
Mia says yes:: Because she believes people to only ask for reasonable things, so saying "No" cannot have been a choice to their brilliant request. Mia's view of the world when they say No. I said it brilliantly in a beautiful way, how could they have said "No", that makes them bad, just like how she feels bad when she is at a No. Allison says Yes to everything: Because it's automatic(From a place of no access to her own desires) and secondly, to fit in. Allison's view of the world when they make requests... Look at that, common, you could have done that yourself , exactly how she feels when she ask for what she want. Take away:: 1)We judge people operating from the opposite lense 2) the only way we can be at choice is when our goals/desires are clearly defined. 3) our desires are deeply inside of us and can only come to the surface through support, except ofcourse one is a genius, well am not. 4) Without support, we would only ask or have desires that are reasonable. Which leave's me with the question of What am I condemning that person for? As a start point. Comment I am always amazed at how you guys discuss difficult topics with so much ease, I am so happy for your friendship and grateful that I get to experience a glimpse of your experiences through this podcast...Thank you and weldone. Ps:: Acknowledgement is a Must for me, Its done out of the love I have for you both and the art..Don't get tired peeps. Lastly...My shoutout!!!!!!!!!!!hahahahaha, wasn't expecting that, I was shocked, honoured, grateful and filled with smile.." perfect way to end the show" Love you both.
We are thrilled that you are finding value and inspiration from our podcast Sherifat!
My key take away is that, in life, if I want to go far, I must put people on a pedestal..I just can't see it otherwise. Thanks to you both for creating this art.. Always sooooo much fun to watch (for me)
But, I put you both on a pedestal and that's not even from fear... I give you guys some extra special power, cos what you have is unattainable, not in a bad way, but I mean, like you guys are doing your work and not stagnant, so you would always be ahead & that's Motivation for me. Saying this to maybe humbly oppose Allison, that we play this way to be safe...oh, I think she said "Sometimes"
Thanks for sharing here Sherifat. Putting people on pedestals is normal, AND it costs us something. When we see ourselves as better or lesser than someone else, we've greatly constricted our options. Possibility is diminished. I wonder what would be possible for you if you related to all people through their essences?
@@thoughtly hmmm! Beautiful, more connection and freedom am guessing..Thank you for asking.
The begining of this call was so hilarious...Good way to start a show! The fear on Allison face, "We are, you know we are recording" then the laugh" so funny. And also, the part where Mai finished sharing and Allison said, well, everyone have had that experience..and Mai's quick response...Of loosing a pant? That question got me.... Baddest combo. I always enjoy coming here...
"I don't know shit" copy that
Thanks for watching Sherifat!
Allison looks so cute as she shared. At a point I was scared especially when she kept saying "if I just die" like she is ready, don't die..you can't die. Giggled and laugh alot...and I was just clapping for you guys in between and at the end of the chat like you won some trophies..which to me you did. Am giving you guys your flowers...Mia and Allison, this is beautiful beyond words.
Watching this was so fucking interesting...I deliberately chose to come pass time with this, so I came prepared... Thank you Mia. Thank Allison for doing this.
I love Mia I love Allison. Thank you for the vulnerability, thank you for doing this...I always enjoy watching u both. U guys are doing amazing. 2 beautiful and gorgeous woman..love u both
Thank you for your feedback Sherifat!!
Your video popped up on my YT feed and I felt there was something relevant to my current situation in it. My dad is currently experiencing a dark night of the soul and is in denial about it, despite many people around him becoming increasingly worried. As I fly back to be by his side tomorrow, the message of faith and trust really landed in me. Choosing to believe in the wholeness within each of us, while having compassion for the other and ourselves. It's profound, it's difficult, and it's beautiful at the same time. The eternal question of how we support our loved ones in periods of crisis. This reminds me of a quote from the Bible: "And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." We may not be able to change others we care about, but we can show them how much we care, love, and believe in them. Much love to both of you and your families 🙏❤
Thanks for sharing. Thank you for supporting your father during this dark time.
Could self-expression be, in its purest form, be a result of any sort that stems from the core of one’s being.
Great insight Joanna. I think it’s definitely a part of the self expression picture. One’s being expressed from core essences. 🙌
Do you think that when we detach from outcomes fear dissipates?
Great question! I would have to say that yes sometimes it can work that way. Other times I notice the fear dissipates because I am desensitizing myself to it by facing it repeatedly. And I also have some fear that never changes in intensity, like claustrophobia. What do you notice?
So, so, so appreciative of the vulnerable authenticity. Thank you. ❤
Thrilled to have you join our adventure!
I think you were peacocking perfectly by showing that even the proud, successful peacock has fears, insecurities, and constantly fears failure.
Yes! Like does the peacock secretly worry that his feathers aren’t good enough?!
I wanted to be a high school math teacher because I wanted to prove to my math teacher that girls could be just as good or better at math than boys.
Great example Jody!
The fear doesn’t vanish when I jump off the diving board. The fear intensifies and I instantly regret the decision to jump.
Yes that can happen too. I face my fear only to find I'm still really afraid.
love this!
Thanks, Rachael! Your get a mention in Episode 3 😘
I don't know who this lady is I'm pretty sure I like the grandma better
My mother is like the man from the story 🤣
I am always self aware of my behaviour, attitude and what not. So i am constantly trying to perfect my behaviour while talking or eating, etc. But is there something like too much self awareness? Sometimes i correct myself on things even though they might be quite normal which others would point out to me.
Great question! I don’t believe that there’s an “appropriate” level of self awareness. Rather I believe it’s our relationship to ourselves that warrants how much we can improve in ourselves. For instance, if we use self awareness to beat ourselves up, then I doubt we can be better. Make sense?