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the battle to be authentic
hey, in this video i talk about my battle with authentictiy and pushing the genuine version of me out to the world..
these videos are raw and unfiltered.
tom
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dont take a gap year... heres why
Просмотров 2,7 тыс.19 часов назад
In this video i weigh up and talk about my negative experience of taking a gap year and not pursuing university education sooner... regardless games the game kind regards, tom
you should stop gaming.... heres why
Просмотров 52619 часов назад
this video explores my thoughts on fortnite and it being a distraction from growth. tom haden fortnite lol games the game
im 19 and lonely...
Просмотров 1,2 тыс.21 час назад
#lonely #authentic #advice this is raw unedited content... male lonliness is a huge thing... i hope you can find relatability in my thought process. kind regards, tom game is the game.
University Tier List UK (honest opinion)
Просмотров 1,7 тыс.21 час назад
Welcome to my ultimate UK university ranking video! I’ve taken a deep dive into EVERY UK university to bring you the most comprehensive and honest ranking out there. From the historic and world-renowned University of Oxford and Cambridge to the bustling student hubs at the University of Manchester and University of Bristol, I've covered it all. In this video, I'll be sharing my thoughts on the ...
The issue with OG Fortnite Reload…..
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In todays video i hop into FORTNITE OG RELOAD testing out and seeing what I think. Frfr i play better off camera no cap full boxed.
The M2 Air Sucks....
Просмотров 3,5 тыс.14 дней назад
I honestly found the ipad a bit underwhelming for the price tag... heres my review... Socials - IG - @ tomhaden_ main channel @tomhaden
The Issue With Battle Passes
Просмотров 20 тыс.2 месяца назад
#fortnite #documentary #battlepass In this video I explore Fortnite's thrilling bombardment of battle passes, why? Because it sells. They have neglected you the player and this needs to change. If you want to support me consider subscribing or using code 'HADEN' in the item shop or on epic games #epicpartner Alternatively check out my main channel @tomhaden Kind Regards, Tom
EVERY SEASON RANKED!
Просмотров 3253 месяца назад
In this video I rank every single season of Fortnite battle royale highlighting the good the bad and the ugly. Sadly... I have played Fortnite from launch and hold the ability to make this judgment. This is a new RUclips channel feel free to subscribe, Kindest, Tom @tomhaden #fortnite #chapter5 #gaming
Getting Rejected By My Dream University
Просмотров 2954 месяца назад
Facing rejection is tough, especially when it comes from your dream university. In this raw and unfiltered video, I open up about my own experience with university rejection. I share the journey I embarked on after not getting into the college of my dreams, including the decision to take a gap year that didn't quite go as planned. Life after rejection can be challenging, and I didn't always mak...
Why You Don't Have Control.
Просмотров 3666 месяцев назад
From a long desire to get more done in my life, escape a rut, and a constant cycle of nothingness, I picked up a camera and spoke my mind. Here's the result. I want to make this the beginning of a continuous era of creating content online - this is just part of my goals to be authentic and share raw videos but also to create video essays, and comedic videos of which I can be my true self. This ...
UCAS DECISIONS 2024 | Bath, Exeter, Cardiff, Loughborough …
Просмотров 13 тыс.Год назад
Today's video is a big one. All of my live reactions to the universities decisions for 2023. Did I get into University of Bath, University of Exeter, Loughborough University, Cardiff University and Bath spa University? Let's find out... Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 0:52 - My Stats & Overview 3:55 - Loughborough's decision 4:56 - Exeter's decision 5:57 - Cardiff's decision 6:44 - Bath Spa's d...

Комментарии

  • @afiandure6744
    @afiandure6744 День назад

    I’m 21 and been working since I was 18, I feel u about it being hard to make friends when you want to meet people but u aren’t sure if they are the type of people you want to be around if they smoke, drink etc. it sucks forever sure. I’ve not been to uni and I can’t really afford to go so hearing my friends who I’m still somewhat in contact with talk about the new friends and relationships they made makes me feel like I’m missing out a lot.

  • @am34
    @am34 2 дня назад

    The fact that you recognize the importance of taking action (and understand what it feels like when you don't) so early in your life after only a year makes it not a waste in my view. It doesn't just apply to gap years either. Many people go 2, 5, 10+ years in that situation / feeling. Progress is not always linear so one bad year doesn't mean the next year(s) will be also be bad (and one good year doesn't ensure the success of the next). Taking action towards the things we want for ourselves is a lifelong task.

  • @abhisheknath2344
    @abhisheknath2344 2 дня назад

    Never make a video again, and if you make a video, don't post it...

  • @infamous_9521
    @infamous_9521 3 дня назад

    What are those tiers? One down from "goated" is "okay". Bizarre

  • @marth_lowel
    @marth_lowel 5 дней назад

    nah bro, you speaking facts, just sold my ps5 and tryna lock in with real life and making money, w video

  • @heroismy
    @heroismy 5 дней назад

    why you look like you gonna cry

  • @Tenzerotwo912
    @Tenzerotwo912 5 дней назад

    Don't worry mate. I left college in 2019 and only started university in 2021. 2 gap years with lockdowns on top! As you can imagine, I didn't really get up to much. I was absolutely miserable and shared the exact same sentiment as you during those years. For me, seeing all my peers develop far past me sucked as I have a competetive nature. Despite the misery, I wouldn't say I regretted it. I think I wouldn't have been able to succeed in my degree without the maturity I gained; I simply wouldn't have taken it seriously enough. Nowadays I have graduated and got a degree-related job I'm passionate about. Going into uni you will be more mature than others. Turning your frustration at "wasting" this year into a drive to make the most of the next 3 at uni is the move. You have your offer; you've lost nothing. In fact, I am sure you will appreciate and make more of your undergrad than the vast majority. Best of luck!

  • @traqzl_tiktok
    @traqzl_tiktok 5 дней назад

    My Thoughts At 2:AM Pretending That I'm Talking Infront Of A Huge Audience Of People.

  • @theabnormalpenguin8150
    @theabnormalpenguin8150 5 дней назад

    none of this is to do with the gap year, so many of my colleagues are 30+ "wasting their years away" post uni and this is just life where nobody holds you accountable for what you say vs what you do

  • @FaDeZzFNBR
    @FaDeZzFNBR 5 дней назад

    *I have a important Message, Fortnite and Gaming should not be your Main Focus in live* As if that wasn't obvious

    • @tomhaden_
      @tomhaden_ 5 дней назад

      does everyone act with this mentality.... nope

  • @LarfOutLoud
    @LarfOutLoud 5 дней назад

    so true

  • @AbdullahJawad-en8ey
    @AbdullahJawad-en8ey 6 дней назад

    pls get a life my friend

  • @MATTEBanks7487
    @MATTEBanks7487 6 дней назад

    As a recruiter mate, no one cares about your degree (Sorry) - A year of experience trumps a degree any day of the week in the working world. All you will be doing is becoming more in debt, more unemployable, and more upset that there has been time wasted. Discipline, none of us have it. Do the best you can in the smartest way you can.

    • @dracp792
      @dracp792 5 дней назад

      That is such a stupid lie, no one cares about a degree for a shitty job with no career prospects or sales/recruitment where you need no skills other than the ability to work hard. Anything that requires technical knowledge requires a degree or for you get very lucky. Don’t be foolish

  • @code_tropicaldiz
    @code_tropicaldiz 6 дней назад

    No Fortnite life ✌️😎

  • @Ben-bf5lf
    @Ben-bf5lf 6 дней назад

    I've just finished uni (without a gap year but I did a placement year working) and I can tell you that there is no right option. All experience can be used in a good way and it's about sustainability not immediate success. The grass is greener and appreciating the moment is what it is all about imo. Go to uni and take all the opportunities to better your life that you can, you're young and on a good path

  • @goldenninja9053
    @goldenninja9053 6 дней назад

    Okay...well I'm just gonna keep having fun on Fortnite and games in general lol. It's not a bad thing to do.

  • @din8486
    @din8486 6 дней назад

    I dont know man its a bit of a stigma.

  • @Wkskkwwjen
    @Wkskkwwjen 6 дней назад

    😂😂😂😂😂 get a life mate

  • @Wkskkwwjen
    @Wkskkwwjen 6 дней назад

    Completely your fault mate. Things ain’t gonna happen for you

  • @trydowave
    @trydowave 6 дней назад

    Good job on not drinking. I have all my life, trying to fit in with this f'ed up world. All it does is give you a few moments of fake happiness and a whole lot of pain afterwards. At the same time I think its important to create the life you want. And that doesent necessarly mean what everyone else is doing. Good luck.

  • @cluttrfnk
    @cluttrfnk 6 дней назад

    mate, i had my gap year partly bc my predicted grades were hot ass, but my actual were much better so i had to apply w them. be grateful you have a job at least, i personally with some travelling haven't been able to really find a job recently since June. But try and perceive what you actually learnt about life. Because when I can sit down and actually reflect, I feel much more mature than before, and i'm still grateful for it. Don't get me wrong, it was a drag as hell

    • @liammhodonohue
      @liammhodonohue 5 дней назад

      @cluttrfnk and OP - I can echo this. I graduated in 2008 when the GFC was unfolding. Ended up teaching English for a year (7 months actually) then doing a MSc. Waiting for the English teaching job to materialise was a drag. Be careful with TEFL - it can help to sustain some intentional travel but it's famous for exploiting teachers. Partly because native English knowledge is the only qualification - don't be a "loser back home". Party is over in China for TEFL /@serpentza aka Winston had alot of fun and learnt Chinese at the same time. Now TEFL in popular destinations do look for some formal teaching experience. Create a plan ahead of time - be "smart". Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time focused.

  • @Inspireworkshop
    @Inspireworkshop 6 дней назад

    You are just getting started bro. You will have setbacks, ruts, successes, wins and losses. Life is not linear and it sounds like you have experienced this first hand. You may not have come to these conclusions if you went straight into university. I didn't have my first major rut until 23-25 and then again at 28-30. I am 31 now and feel like the world is at my fingertips. I have no doubt I will fuck up again and feel like a failure but this is part of life. The lessons we learn in these ruts take us into the next phase of our life with valuable (but harsh) insights that we won't discover otherwise. Something you said stood out. You mentioned the importance of having a plan. I couldn't agree more. You had goals for your gap year but you never had a plan. How were you going to lose weight? What was your schedule for posting content? When were you going to travel and to where? How much money were you going to have saved and how much were you going to save each month? If you had decided these things before going into your gap year, you would've had a much clearer path. Again, this is a life lesson. Most people run off a standard plan of going straight into university after high school. The plan is laid out for them. What courses to take, what assignments and projects to do and basically a 4 year outline of their life. When they finish they are completely lost because they didn't make a plan for what came next other than "getting a job". Think of your future self and what career you want to be in. He will thank you for it ;)

  • @Tpbraut
    @Tpbraut 6 дней назад

    I'm 19 too

  • @SPIDER-MANEDITZ365
    @SPIDER-MANEDITZ365 6 дней назад

    hello skibidi fortnite fans...........................................................................................................................

  • @Frost8488
    @Frost8488 7 дней назад

    Just focusing on one aspect of your video, as a person who was obese and lost more than 30 KG, if I may give you a suggestion: If you want to lose weight, the only thing that you need to forget about is losing weight. You just need two things: 1. healthy eating habits and 2. regular exercise and forget about losing weight. Fuck that and DEFINITELY forget about forcing yourself to eat healthy or do exercise that you don't enjoy. That is not healthy at all... that just puts a lot of unnecessary mental pressure on you. Focus on finding healthy diet that YOU LIKE and regular exercises that you ENJOY. Forget everyone, forget everything and start exploring. Maybe you like boxing, maybe running, maybe martial arts, maybe dancing or maybe some niche unique traditional exercise for a small country that no one has ever heard of before. start educating yourself on how food industries sneak in weight gaining ingredients like sugar to certain stuff and start getting healthier options that you ENJOY eating. This is key! Anyone can break their sanity just doing difficult exercises and diets only to lose weight and then eventually either go back to what they were before or suffer for the rest of their lives. You shouldn't do that! You should explore and find the healthy options that make you happy and that make you want to continue eating them! You shouldn't eat unhealthy stuff but in small amounts, you should eat and get full but with healthy stuff.... start training your brain to find and listen to the voice of your body... by having unhealthy habits, we have forgotten that our bodies know exactly what it needs and can let you know. But we just need to train ourselves back to listening to our bodies. I wish you all the best and I insist: forget about losing weight, start exploring, the world is your oyster. :) (IN PARENTHESES: Do NOT be tricked by people who claim they have the miracle diet or the miracle exercise for you. No. You don't need miracles. Just change your life style little by little and don't be unkind to yourself or make yourself suffer)

  • @ZoltanSultan
    @ZoltanSultan 7 дней назад

    It sounds like you were trying to live your entire life in that gap year but you cant condense everything into 12 months.

  • @tomvoors8335
    @tomvoors8335 7 дней назад

    great video´s man, keep it up:)

  • @newginslab6993
    @newginslab6993 7 дней назад

    I think it’s good to be persistent on goals, however-the economy sucks right now just like post 2008 recession, and it’s very hard to find your career degree when no one is hiring. I know older millennials who where stuck in factory, retail, or warehouse jobs for years before they got into their desired career because of the job market, and its the same nowadays. Stocking shelves at Walmart might suck but it’s better to have a job than no job. And I don’t think it’s going to get any better in the near future. so all I can say is test the waters and look around, always have a back up plan because your degree career might not come as soon as you think it will.

  • @jaybryan2298
    @jaybryan2298 7 дней назад

    should got into a job and sack uni off now, i also took a year out after college, still a year behind on salary because uni is kind of pointless unless its certain stem subjects

    • @jaybryan2298
      @jaybryan2298 7 дней назад

      oh and also uni is far more lonely than at home, if that's your issue, trust me, get a job and stay home, i couldn't wait to get back from uni. You are with people, but its not proper like family is; very unlikely you will click with 95% flat mates

  • @lloydjones3801
    @lloydjones3801 7 дней назад

    Liverpool is a better city than the majority of these places

  • @Hashterix
    @Hashterix 7 дней назад

    Mate you didn't waste a year of your life at all, much the opposite. You spent a year learning important lessons, about life and about yourself. There is no set path, and one of the most important lessons to learn is that the expectations that society seems to set are not realistic or even real, everyone is unique and life is not a prescribed A, B, C of achievements. What you've experienced is actually very common when coming of age, everyone experiences the loss of friends and familiar faces when leaving school, it's common to feel lonely at that point in life. You've learned that planning things is perhaps not as important as doing them. I also did a gap year (though slightly differently, I never went to uni, did an apprenticeship and then quit after 3 years to travel when I was 22), and even though I'd had planned out some big trips and had ideas of how I'd do it, I ended up just making sure I had a chunk of money in the bank and jumping on a plane without anything more than a few days booked at a hostel in one country and two weeks booked at a hostel in another, from there I spent 9 months just going with the wind - and that's how life is. You find that most of the time, when you plan things, they don't ever work out the way you envisioned them. It's important to plan, but it's more important to learn to go with the flow and tackle situations as they arise. On the contrary to your thoughts, you will now go on to do your studies, and indeed you could work part time while you study, but when it comes to getting a job having that real world experience on your CV will help you more than you realise. Completely regardless of the field you end up in, no matter how specialised it is, a years' work experience coming out of school even in hospitality or retail says to a recruiter "this person is employable". You still have time to travel, if that's what you want to do (and it's a good idea, broadening your experience and horizons is always a good idea), you could still get a short backpacking holiday in before uni starts in September (really, even on a budget, no harm in grabbing a budget flight and hostel hopping around Europe for 6 weeks), or indeed just save and do a bigger trip in a few years which will give you something to work towards and look forward to - and being a few more years into adulthood will give you that bit more confidence and ability to carry yourself in sometimes risky situations you may find yourself in as a backpacker in far flung places. You should consider your finances. I don't know how many hours you've been working your minimum wage job, but you said you're living rent free currently and with your meals provided too. So where's all the money you're earning going? If you're working like 16 hours a week, it's understandable that it evaporates, but if you're doing a 36 hour week that's £15k annually after tax - that's plenty of money to get going with. When it comes to working on yourself, say going to the gym, once again it's all good and well having a plan, but the plan is the least important bit. The most important bit is just getting in the door. The rest doesn't even matter, because it will all follow naturally. Just make your goal to get there 3 days a week and do what you can. Getting up is the hardest bit, after that the rest is easy. Same with all of it, actually. Getting started is the hardest bit. So don't think about it. Just get up one morning and do it without thinking, because what's the worst that could happen? Good luck with it all!

    • @xJawsQuickScoper
      @xJawsQuickScoper 6 дней назад

      I really appreciate this comment and the advice you gave, since it's pretty similar to my situation. Thanks for writing this.

  • @FarisNyan
    @FarisNyan 7 дней назад

    I took a gap year out of college and then, I realize I shouldn't stay too much on my comfort zone and start studying for dmv so I can drive to college or earn money to live in a dorm which is the most hardest thing for me I couldn't do all of those is cuz of the over-comfortness of my zone is becoming a real issue for me and my mentality rate is starting to degrade (insanity) due to unhealthy habits I'm doing. Want to change that and pretty much touch some grass regain a healthy life style habits (good mentality) back like who I once before than just sitting around doing nothing, just making videos to try to get money n profit.

    • @FarisNyan
      @FarisNyan 7 дней назад

      My comfort zone is gradually becoming too severe

  • @jibbily
    @jibbily 7 дней назад

    You've still got time till September. If you have saved a little bit of money, you can still do some travel. Buy an interrail pass or plane ticket, go wherever you want to go, stay in random hostels. Doesn't matter if you travel for a week for a year, but do it while you can.

  • @MemoDaDog
    @MemoDaDog 7 дней назад

    good luck bro

  • @jaeteejee343
    @jaeteejee343 7 дней назад

    <3

  • @Aengulfel
    @Aengulfel 7 дней назад

    Felt that put yourself out there bro, or move. Im in the process of both. Itll make your world trust me. And if not you gain people skills in the process.

  • @garrbearr
    @garrbearr 7 дней назад

    visit the fortnite dentist

    • @tomhaden_
      @tomhaden_ 7 дней назад

      in retail row?

    • @garrbearr
      @garrbearr 7 дней назад

      @@tomhaden_ i think he moved to greasy grove, he’s been making bank ever since durr burger opened

    • @tomhaden_
      @tomhaden_ 6 дней назад

      @@garrbearr heard slurp is bad for your teeth fr,, maybe ive had too much

    • @garrbearr
      @garrbearr 6 дней назад

      @@tomhaden_ that’s just propaganda to boost the slap juice sales #standwithslurp

    • @tomhaden_
      @tomhaden_ 6 дней назад

      @@garrbearr big agency are fuelling anti slurp propaganda... i bet they are funded by spillexx

  • @HasnaneArain
    @HasnaneArain 7 дней назад

    Hey Tom, I just saw this. I'd love to talk to you more about this if you'd fancy. I went to University in London and then went to UCLA. Would love to help out and mentor you if I can! I am only 24 so just got out of university.

  • @callumxo
    @callumxo 7 дней назад

    6:02 lmaoooo

  • @lau6438
    @lau6438 7 дней назад

    This is not the fault of the gap year. It's the fault of you. That realization is the first step towards a better life. I believe in you. The real question is, do you? You are able-bodied and young. Employ it! 😃

  • @jsvphz
    @jsvphz 7 дней назад

    is this video a joke or are you dead serious

    • @picaa
      @picaa 7 дней назад

      why would it be a joke lmfaooo

    • @traqzl_tiktok
      @traqzl_tiktok 5 дней назад

      @@picaa cause he stutters 671 times in every sentence, plus he has a entire gaming setup right behind him

  • @eggybread.
    @eggybread. 7 дней назад

    You'll definitely meet new people at uni, everyone will be in the same boat

  • @tr11_
    @tr11_ 7 дней назад

    Start self-improvement. I promise you won't regret it.

  • @clarence_claymore.
    @clarence_claymore. 7 дней назад

    Been my life for 5 years I’m 25 , save up for a mortgage. my dad said to me , the people you can truly trust you’ll be able to count on one hand… this is true. If you wanna chat or socialise go to the pub the losers there will make you feel better when you know you have your s together. Most people settle down but I can’t be asked to join a rigged system like marriage. Stay strong 💪 the establishment/ government system deliberately done this to communities like church

  • @peterdd593
    @peterdd593 7 дней назад

    I felt this way when last year, but things are getting better. It can be a long road, but if you keep on walking you will get there!

  • @itsme-sn5gi
    @itsme-sn5gi 8 дней назад

    Dude did you say Queen University Belfast is in Scotland? It's in Northern Ireland!

    • @tomhaden_
      @tomhaden_ 8 дней назад

      @@itsme-sn5gi I also got Dundee wrong too haha Whoopsie

  • @jontalbot1
    @jontalbot1 8 дней назад

    It’s more like 120 plus you can study for a degree at a lot of FE colleges. More important in terms of career outcomes is the subject you study not the institution.

  • @h4lplays932
    @h4lplays932 8 дней назад

    never rank again

    • @tomhaden_
      @tomhaden_ 8 дней назад

      @@h4lplays932 what would u change

  • @digitalbaptism
    @digitalbaptism 8 дней назад

    I get what you mean man. Im not a guy and i obviously dont truly understand male loneliness, but i am lonely and have been for like, most of my life because for women as well, love or acceptance is conditional, relying on what we provide (although what people want from us is different). I get how shit things are and how tough it is, and I hope things get better for both of us. We're there for you.

    • @jaeteejee343
      @jaeteejee343 7 дней назад

      you're gonna be okay. and you're gonna make it through. you always have and always will. sending love <3

  • @KingNChakky
    @KingNChakky 8 дней назад

    i took a gap year because i failed my a levels , dont listen to the dross the guidance counseler said, they know nothing about your situation. All you're doing do joining the workforce early I was lucky enough that the year I graduated I made 100k. so that more than made up for whatever lost time I had before. A year out was the best thing that ever happened in my life

    • @abrahamshaji2236
      @abrahamshaji2236 8 дней назад

      did you take a year out and redo your a levels to go to university?

    • @Chepperz
      @Chepperz 7 дней назад

      @@abrahamshaji2236 hey there, I was in the same position as this guy and retook my a levels, got into physics with a foundation year and i'm basically 3 years behind now and going into year 2 of my degree. I have big ambitions and plans now and hopefully the type of graduate salary I could make will more than make up for those years.