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What kind of books can I read as an INTJ to improve myself massively and sort of speed run my improvement?

Pro Tip: people’s sexuality is on a spectrum, your advice about getting a female friend if you’re male and vice-versa to help understand the opposite sex is good, but you’re gaining better mastery when you reach the level of you’re straight and with a gay male wingman, lol, because he can translate between BOTH sexes quite easily. If you study tribal societies you see this throughout human history, the queer person is the sage, the advisor, the couple’s therapist for the tribe.

Te idiotyczne reklamy Lenor powinny byc zabronione!

I began to play chess because of you, and I adore it!

21:36 - Only an INTJ could blurt something like this out loud and be so matter of facts chill about it 😂😂😂. This is (one of many reasons) why we ENFPs appreciate INTJs so much, as you are so naturally honest, authentic and not afraid to ruff some feathers when the truth needs to come out. As regards to the intelligence, I'd say Sensors have this practical type of intelligence that can, for example, make them healthy in a long run because THEY REMEMBER TO EAT HEALTHY MEALS, SLEEP, SEE THE SUN 😂 and can also be academically great, but what I have noticed is that the Intuitives are endowed with natural wisdom that they use throughout their lives in every sense, therefore making their lives very harmonious, peaceful and meaningful. Anyway, just wanted to chip in with my confirmation that INTJ men are truly the epitome of masculinity that comes very natural to them. And I agree with your observations of ENFPs as well - well done!🎉 To me, INTJs are like the most magnificent rose in a garden, but does the rose have the eyes to marvel its own beauty and rarity? So this is maybe why you folk appreciate ENFPs, as we can see and appreciate how special, one of a kind and unique you are. And I'm speaking from experience, as an INTJ expert of sorts 😅 as I am happily married to one for the last 10 years. Best years of my life so far.❤ Sending my love and appreciation to all INTJs out there! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I am a female INTJ & this was so helpful. I have been facing these exact same problems recently! Especially with people & relationships. I feel like I am terrible at understanding people. Most of the time I am just studying them & then I get frustrated & isolate myself. But i understand people are more emotionally driven than logically. Also, for INTJ's we really don't wanna get hurt. Emotions are sometimes too much & you don't wanna be vulnerable & feel stupid again. I mostly struggle with that. Please make a part 2 of this video!

33:18 Are you kidding me?! I love watching this! I’ve actually googled several times this exact keyword phrase hoping to find this! I’ve always been very attracted to you all adorable nerds 🤓 and sometimes wish I would open an introvert adoption agency! (J/k but low key kind of interested in how that idea would play out). But *sigh* yes, I know we are an absolute lot. I exhaust myself. There’s something so comforting about your steadfastness yet openness at the same time.

Thank you for this. It’s been refreshing to hear your thoughts about my personality type. Eye opening really. Listening to you brought up memories of my past relationships with a new understanding of my part in the continuation of some and the ending of others. I realize this is an old video, so I’m going to watch some more of your content. But I wanted to thank you!

I end up speaking like Elon Musk when he's nervous. It's hard to find the words, even though I can see what I want to say internally.

More videos about chess? and INTJ? your fan community from Europe is looking forward to it...🙂

As a male INFJ, my sensitivity primarily relates to the feelings and emotions of others (Fe), rather than my own emotions being affected, especially not by someone else. Coupled with a lifetime of deeply observing, analyzing, and understanding emotions and behaviors (Ti), I tend to process my own feelings logically, rather than truly feeling them emotionally. That said, I do experience emotions, probably deeper and more complex than most. Though they are primarily in response to someone else and/or their situation, when absorbing what others are feeling or even when I just imagine what someone might be feeling. -- But almost never about/for myself. Someone might be able to make we question/doubt something about myself (which isn't necessarily a bad thing) - But it's impossible for anybody to either hurt my feelings or insult/offend me. Only a very select few might reach the point of me specifically giving them that type of influence - But those few that would be able to do that, wouldn't. So, I guess depending on how you look at it, you could say I’m either highly sensitive or not sensitive at all. Just not in the way most might think. :)

I want to tell you that I think your collectors items are cool.

I'm amazed with your speaking style. You’re incredible!!! - An infp lady (that appeared out of nowhere)

Oh we are so living in a simulation, you know, like an experiment, but meant for something profound.

Again, only an INTI would think this was a good idea, follow through, and be correct. -INFJ (p.s. I love those nato straps…) and who cares if people can’t read you? Screw ‘em…

Oh my God, only an INTJ would think this was a good idea for a video, follow through on it, and be correct. -INFJ

P.S. we are more sensitive as it relates to others, than we are regarding ourselves. You guys have FI, so you tend to take things personally, in a way we don’t. Our FE means that we relate to the external world, by gauging the overall emotional state of the group, or the person, in order to effectively work with the group, or the person, so that we meet our objective. It is rather cold and detached, in a way.

We rule. -INFJ (p.s. so do Intjs) also, have you been in an argument with your INFJ yet? If we care enough, “biting” is an understatement. That’s why we like you guys; you do it whenever/wherever, and can get away with it, in a way we can’t. Not the INFJ. So we save it up, until we are furious, and then we unleash hell. But this is not common. Also, you guys are more cuddly and affectionate, when you are close with someone, and we are surprisingly less so. We are both misunderstood. Jordan Peterson cries way too much, in my opinion, and gets baited into arguments too easily, but I generally agree with him, as a person. I am married to an INTJ, and think you guys are the best. -INFJ, AGAIN

Well, they are fun. That’s how you fall for them. Plus they are so darn lovable.

He did the dishes!!!!! =.D Thats hot.

I actively am seeking out information on INTJ & ENFP chemistry. I (ENFP) have an INTJ father and am seeing an INTJ romantically. I'm so fascinated by the chemistry our types have. So surprise! My ADHD and hyper fixation is freaking my INTJ out. But he loves that I care. 😊

Great work man, you earned yourself another INTJ subscriber. Very helpful insights!

This was very good & interesting! I'm a "mature ENFP." I think u can only get that with time/age..

ENFPs do come off as shallow, first impression.

I’m INTJ (discovered mtbi recently and yes, still in that god complex meme mode) and my partner is an infj. Our differences are very obvious. If I ask him why he liked doing the things he do, why did you like that game, why did you like that book etc. his answers will always start with “I dunno… I guess i just like it” and then give me a bunch of wish washy things that don’t make sense to me, cuz he remembers the feeling he felt, not really the content. Where as I can give the exact reason why I enjoy what I enjoy. We talk at length every day and we never run out of things to talk about. We love talking about physiology history religion politics. And because I’m a bit older, I’m the one who has better social skills, I just don’t care about most people.

Funny as an INTJ I do have ENTP friends and we protect each other most of the time they protect me by arguing instead of me with people. And I protect them by solving their financial issues. 🦾

From my experiences INTJ support ENFP ENFP wife : My dog bites my shoes. I really love this shoes. It's the most comfotable and super cute shoes. I'm gonig to cry. I luvvvv this shoes so muchhhhhh. INTJ husband : You are adult now. Adult not cry for broken shoes. Just buy new one. ENFP > stop emotional and realized that ther is another way to fix the problem which is not crying. ENFP support INTJ INTJ husband : My coworker go to study in Sub-spacialist. And I think my hospial may want me to go for subspacialist too. If I go...... If I'm not... start talking abot plan A-B-C If he not go for sub-spacialist. and possibility to move to another hospital and more possibility and plans. ENFP wife : Nah...lots of your coworker still spacialist and dont have any plan for subspacialist. Do not think too much. Come on sleep on my lab. I will sing a song for you. INTJ > may not stop thinking but more ralax.

I'm almost 50, my advice to my younger self: - yes you're weird and nobody understands you, get used to it. when your mom says you're special she means you ride the short bus. - learn how to interact with normal people. this will take several lifetimes. - chill out and relax, you don't need to be "on" all the time. - more likely than not, you're working harder than everyone else. keep working harder anyway.

Enfp being firmly religous is also probably stereotypical.

This is insightful. I have enjoyed friendships with both ENFPs and INTJs. I am an INFP also in my 40s. When I look back on my life, there is one ENFP and one INTJ (they did not know each other) who I really regret not staying connected with. Most people come and go, but both of these types had levels of depth and originality of thought that I now treasure and wish I had more of in my life. One critique for INTJs: I felt pre-judged by my INTJ friend. While I respected his mind and asked lots of questions (because I love learning), I did not feel the same curiosity and respect back. He was interested in me but seemed to subtly want to maintain dominance. Maybe it was a cultural/gender thing. Or maybe it was my fault for being reserved and not wanting to brag about myself to prove my intelligence or accomplishments. But if he had shown more curiosity and openness, I think he would have been surprised. ENFPs, on the other hand, are much more positive/gentle in their treatment of new people, and especially sensitive people.

enfp here, i saw that ant man mask behind you, does it work?

What happened to your hair 😮

I think INFJs are great so long as they don’t attempt to make me abide by their Fe. I generally find Fe detestable & aggravating, so trying to control me with _their idea_ of “proper conduct” is a short path to a nuclear scale argument.

I’m INTJ and not shy or a recluse. If it’s a passion or I’m wronged- well, you will hear from me. I talk out big deals and wife is INFP - 31 years Respect for alone time makes the difference.

There’s an excellent body language book titled “Sexual Body Talk” by Susan Quilliam.

TLDR alert ‼️ As an enfp I’ll comment on your first weakness of enfp’s bottling issues up. As part of the P I tend to rather observe and see if something is a pattern before reacting or giving feedback (big picture I guess?), and for that I give the benefit of the doubt in order to continue observing the person before drawing a conclusion on the interaction) we don’t want anything or anyone disrupting our internal peace so a weighing the pros cons of a slight or issue will determine if it’s worth addressing. If it’s not, it’s not unusual for an enfp to distance themselves from situations or people who don’t align with them but maintain a cordial relationship bc we are prone so social masking. To your second weakness point- believe it or not, enfp’s see the world a lot like intjs do, we recognize the same problems and issues with the world and can be supreme strategists but we prefer to maintain a cheerful optimism bc we don’t fight against the reality of things. We embrace problems as an opportunity to use our out of box problem solving to establish new ways of doing things. We revel in what’s new, unique and unprecedented and will take on a new challenge as an opportunity to conquer it creatively. Not oblivious to the reality of something, but believe I have the power to recreate it to adjust to my idealization of how it should be. It’s a constant struggle between spending energy toward practical outcomes versus our larger than life hope and optimism - we tend to value potential more than what just is. I can understand how we may be perceived as flighty but really this is our way of maintaining our positivity and mental energy bc as you mentioned in your video, we are the more introverted of the E’s so naturally we need to retreat inward for clarity and self preservation.

INTJ+INFJ can be interesting. Usually the only point of conflict is Fe vs Te. Not sure if it can be solved or you just make a few compromises and get used to the rest of it. 🙂

I'm pretty sure you're talking a lot about INFPs when talking INFJs in this video. This is the most common mistype in MBTI. This probably comes from the lack of understanding of what Fe function is in MBTI. Fe has nothing to do with emotions or empathy, it's about group feel, social intellect and manipulation. In my experience it's pretty easy to figure out if that's an INFP or INFJ. INFPs are probably the most introverted type around. They love being in the feely world and healthily engaging with Ne doesnt require social interaction. INFJ on the other hand is probably the most extroverted out of the introvert types, as engaging with Fe requires socializing. Also, if you see an emotional INFJ - yea they're playing or it's an INFP. I'm of the mind that it's useless to look for similarities between types based on letters in their acronym, it's better to look at functions. INFPs and INFJs dont have a single shared function. They're somewhat similar but they get there in completely different ways. INTPs and INTJs - same thing. Both nerds, but underlying composition is totally different. But yeah INFJs are fun. They remind me of a young myself before I got infested with the doomer/critic virus. So intuitive yet so idealistic. In my experience INFJs do not mesh well with INTJs, but we do with INFPs :P

INTJ female in her early 20s here! Both by uncle and my mom are INFJs and with our Ni in common I feel like they are the only people I have a true connection with. It's always interesting discussing topics with them and the hours pass by so quickly XD Then, I've also noticed their way to take things personally oh so often which has made me more careful with what I say. And I feel like I've helped them with setting boundaries for themselves and getting them to realize that they do not have to always be a people pleaser haha.

I'm almost 30 but never had any romantic interest in anyone. I think even while being INTJ I'm still notoriously unemotional. Now I don't meet a lot of people so I'm not actual even sure which gender I would fall in love with. I know it's rather anomalous. This is pretty severe alexithymia, I hope everyone can find someone but for myself I've accepted that I'm just not the person to be in a relationship like that, they just aren't for me. INTJ's in general feel misunderstood, sometimes like an alien and that seems a bit extreme but I really feel like that sometimes.

My infj ass landed here to find out how to find an intj ❤

I would love a Q&A video with you & your wife! Getting some insight as to how your 2 dynamics work & where you both feel you could improve, would be interesting.

Vision in Advengers 2 is to me a prime example of INFJ. The religious side is actually not such a good indicator in real life. Most INTJs I've met were the religious ones actually. INFJs will tend more to be interested in religious principles and how they positively resonate with social dynamics rather than the belief aspect I think. Actually, the INTJ hurting INFJs feelings after some time can also be true the other way around. Sometimes when I gave logical responses to INTJs I really deeply hurt them by mistake and I regret it. Stereotypically it's more INTJ but it can really go both ways and I was very surprised by that. Regarding INFJs being tired with people that's very true but despite that INFJs can't just reject people because they're aware of this greater potential people are capable to reach when they work together. Keeping good relationships maintains cohesion in society and INFJs are more aware of these complexe dynamics. So even though people take dumb decisions, they know staying an approachable and social member of society and fitting in means not rejecting people. You just can't ignore others forever. It will backfire in one way or another someday. Support won't be there when you'll truly need it the most if you don't keep your relationships alive. INFJs just know that continuing to like people no matter what and staying connected to them is logically the right thing to do in short. It may seem contradictory at first glance but it's really not in the end. I know sometimes it looks like INFJs actually want to be mean towards people and they're not brave enough to do so but it's not really lecturing it correctly. In fact it's just their impulsivity but that's not really what they actually want deep down. INFJs don't interpret daring to be mean as being brave but rather bold and weak I think cause it's letting others impact your emotional state and lose your tempe. It's just interesting to see them react that way and for curiosity. They just don't want to be mean deep down no matter they're hurt, that's not who they are despite the fact they're pissed of with people on the moment. They'll always regret it later even if they feel good in the moment. INTJs usually have a hard time getting the INFJ nature and this profound positivity. I heavily disagree with the planning point tho, INFJs are also great at planning. They can easily envision what they want to do and how to achieve it step by step. Especially with planning things for people and social events. I've noticed INTJs as well as NT types can jump to conclusions as well in conversation because they can overinterpret your words sometimes and then say you contradicted yourself later on or you meant something really mean according to them while in reality you never implied such things but they create their own story with what you said pretty much and then use it to assume things about you that have simply never been what you think. Regarding the fact that INFJs can think the grass is greener on the other side, I think it's more a misunderstanding of INFJs' emotionality and mood. Being more in touch with their feelings means sometimes INFJs know having the right environment can really impact their mood and put them in a betrer mental state to deal better with something. And I've noticed that from relatives and some INTJs around me that they can struggle to get how their environment can actually impact their emotional state and make them more stressed without them realizing it's the cause of their sudden lack of productivity for example. They can struggle to see they don't feel right and something goes wrong with their emotional state. Overall I've noticed that all thinker types tend to have difficulties with conveying their intentions about what they say. It seems they don't see the context of delivery can truly impact the reception of their message, the point in saying it and help communicate something better to be listened to stop complaining about others not listening to you. But people won't listen to you if they think you want to humiliate them and not actively help them. But to INFJs emotions actually make a lot of sense and there is a spectrum of emotions you could have in reaction to specific things implied. It's just not binary but different potential answers. If emotions wouldn't make sense at all, it wouldn't be weird for someone to laugh when they're hurt for example but of course that would be weird because it's not an expected reaction according to the situation. I just think INFJs and INTJs capacity to go deeper only relies on their ressources but both are definitely equally capable to go deeper in things. It's probably that it doesn't feel like it is the case for INTJs because they tend to be very decisive people, and that's not how INFJs appear to them but INFJs rather advance more thoroughtly in depth I would say by not missing steps and acknowledging each point and make sure to solve every single one of them to never have to reconsider their insight later or the least possible.

Totally do ufos!

Hi 👋 could you please talk about how have better relationship with people as an intj

In psychology, people traditionally talk about hurt feelings. On the other hand, the damage caused by babbling logical nonsense is not discussed. The feelers don't seem to have something like this on their radar.

Do you as an INTJ and your wife as an INFJ experience sensory overload? I read that these two types can struggle with that.

Speaking of AI: It does recognise humor, which is not a logical thing. If you send a text to AI and ask if it is humorous or not, it will answer the quuestion. Also, AI can not only SUMMARISE a text , but also draw CONCLUSIONS from it, which is a total different story.

The relocation for IN types might be important, since you can find surroundings more suitable to your type. IN-types have much more in common and get along better with French than Swiss German, (for example) who are rather S-types. (it was like this in my case). Any location has obviously its own problems, but there are some issues that are not relevant for me which would be relevant to an S-type.