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I have a friend he and his girlfriend will have a discussion and sometimes he will try to address certain things that he migbt want or need or things he might want to improve like she might not be affectionate or show her love towards him. She ignores what he says and does not listen as good as he thinks she could or that she is constantly on social media watching tv shows shopping on Facebook marketplaces and has her ear phones in and drowns the whole world out the majority of the time she is also on live streaming for hours having strange men ogiling her and commenting dirty things and if he addresses this and tries to say i dont like certain things you do she says why are you with me then? Whats all that about? I mean thats all she has to say? It does t seem like shes very caring or puts in much effort to want to make stuff work if thats her attitude. She also sometimes ignores his calls.

My wife is currently 11 weeks and 4 days pregnant. I’m so scared of a miscarriage that it’s so hard to enjoy how amazing this blessing is. My wife and sister brought it up to me that I need to relax and not let that get to me so much. It’s hard to manage it.

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People need to feel their emotions properly and own and process them. I think this video applys to people you actually care for or are doing therapy on, as for the rest they gotta focus hard on producing their own happiness like the rest of us.

I am desperately trying to get distance from my neighbor who is storming around full of herself while she doesn't ever make eye contact with me, but is always watching and disapproving of me. Her goal is to control me, make my dog imprisoned in a stupid fence I was bullied into paying her $885 for, but don't use because my dog is very well behaved. She really wants me to move out but I have 10 more months on my lease and I'm paid in full-- otherwise I'm starting to think I would like to. She actually looks into my cabin and saw me coming out of the bathroom again today. 😡 We're both complaining to the landlord but never talking it out. I'm the new kid here and she's got the owners thinking she's a good person when she's got the characteristics of the narcissist. I tend to attract them as an empath.

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I know that a lot of passive aggressive behavior comes from narcissists. And do a narcissist just enjoys the drama and chaos and putting others down. So even though calling it to attention might make them look bad, it probably won’t fix the situation or change the way they communicate

Some people be testing my moral and my belief in God I have to be honest it gets hard trying to be righteous and pure when people wanna be hard

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Oh my gosh ive done that in the past it didnt work. Instead narcissist says what you mean? You making something out of nothing. The narcissist says i not talking to you. So why you upset? This person is just awful.

My husband is dealing with drugs addiction, he has been clean and free for years . But he has been under treatment of one medication which is itself causing addiction. However he decided to become free and stop taking this medication and this is the second day. He became very very agressive and i just don’t know how to deal with this situation. Please advise

My experience with responding to p/a comments with, "What are you trying to say? What is it you need?" is that I get more defensiveness from then, like I should already know, OR they gaslight and say they don't know what I'm talking about. It's exhausting. So I choose what relationships are really worth that amount of effort.

I've spent my life being very compassionate towards people, sometimes to my detriment. I'm finally putting my self-care as a priority and no longer have the bandwidth to cater to passive aggressive people. I just call out the snarky behavior immediately with a factual, non emotional response. My boundary is, if you want to speak with me, be a kind adult. I let them know what I will or won't engage with.

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Try asking a passive man "what do you mean by that comment?" And you will get "nothing, it was a joke". They already have avoidance behavior. (Hence, the passive aggressive mindset) Then it will be your fault.

I am a recovering passive aggressive person and I saw what I was doing and wanted to change. I'm doing better and trying hard to be direct and kind.

Id rather deal with someone who is overtly aggressive rather than passive aggressive. At least you know where you stand with aggressive people. Passive aggressive people make me want to pull the hair out of my head.

Hey! I alreday have hobbies that used to make me happy, but I started to get more and more tired and unmotivated. I would like to turn my hobbies into my coping skills, because I don't have many friends, and I'm probably struggling with depression. I need help to feel motivated again, and I don't know how. Could you please help me?

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Stop labelling everyone else as a narcissist. It is dangerous.

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My ex-husband: 1. Informed me right before we separated that his motto was "me first and everyone else second". This included our young children. 2. He was a no show for over half of his visits so I stopped telling the kids he was coming. He hated that he was a surprise and wanted them "eagerly anticipating" his visits, so he took it upon himself to tell them during phone conversations. He still skipped over half of his visits. 3. Any time he went out anywhere he complained about the service he received because it wasn't what he deserved. My Mom said, who does he think he is? The Prime Minister? 4. He bragged to me, in front of the kids, that he and his girlfriend had a fight then she said she was going to kill herself, grabbed her medicine, and went to their bedroom. He went out and bought them each a coffee, leaving hers on the table as some sort of alibi (?) before falling asleep on the couch. But she apparently didn't take enough pills (his words) because she woke up in the morning. He never once checked to see if she was okay. 5. He joined the Mormons because the missionaries praised him and gave him lots of attention. He wasn't interested in their religion and smoked a joint, had a beer, and smoked some cigarettes after his baptism. 6. He told my son that he was going to hang out with him. He told my daughter that he'd bought a bike from a local gang then it got stolen that night so he wasn't going to pay them. Now they were coming to shake him down. If he didn't call her by morning he was dead. Then knowing that both kids would be calling and people were going to panic, he turned the volume off on his phone and went to bed. 7. My daughter got completely fed up with him and cut him out of her life. He left her a note saying that he hoped her newborn would die of SIDS so she'd know what it was like to lose a child. There's so much more but I don't need to write a novel here. I definitely have my suspicions.

When your PA person is goofing you uo by being late it becomes necessary to be a manipulator yourself to keep them from messing things up. You have to say, "We need to get to the funeral home at 12:00 because we have a lot of stuff to arrange." even though the funeral is at 2:00. Then they will be there in time. Not fun, but you gotta do it.

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There's nothing wrong with being passive aggressive as long as you are making a point. But it is very important to make that point clear and obvious. You need to say upfront why you have that attitude and how you feel.

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Normalize, Communicate, Values! Good stuff. Thanks.

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When it is obvious that we like each other and when we had a flight he said 'if you dont like me, that is fine'. Is that passive aggressive?

For me, I had to learn to detach from my inner guilt to take a stand. There was a meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome Guilt by Harper Daniels that helped.

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OK, so I have a very passive aggressive partner. I have done what you suggest for years. My response is almost always "nothing is wrong" or "I don't need anything from you". I try to guide the person into expressing why that passive aggressive attitude was how she communicated which ends in stonewalling, ignoring or a full blown argument which goes nowhere. I really have no idea where to go at that stage, and usually just say that she is right and I'm wrong just to get her to settle down. I know this is the wrong approach I'm taking but I really have no other idea how to deal with it. Any advice would be very helpful! Thanks and Love from Dublin Ireland 🇮🇪

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Just this year I've discovered the Sigma Empath- finally an explanation of why I feel and behave as I do. ❤🎉

Actually, Ive been on my own since 1997 with my dogs. STILL love the peace, solitude, emotional freedom and unconditional love ❤️ They are so much fun and so cuddly❤❤ No desire to accumulate humans. Only 4 people have access to me. One of them is about to go.😂

There will NEVER be another significant other. Theres not enough time left in etetnity to navigate their BS. I enjoy being happily uncoupled! Idk why its SO hard to communicate honestly . Treat me with honesty, respect, kindness, be truthful with your emotions. I don't fulfill magic wishes, read minds or correctly assess SILENCE.

My ex-husband was passive agressive. He would not say he was upset about something, he would wait until I was counting on him to do somethingband he WOULD NOT DO IT. Examples-#1- I worked at night, he was supposed to pick up the 2 younger kids from daycare- 7:30 PM the daycare called meat WORK to come & get them. They charged $5 for the first 5 min after 5 pm then $1 per minute for each minute afterwards PER CHILD. $200 !!!! All because his infantile inability to be direct was non exitistant!!! Furious!! #2- I left for work asked him to bring my Samoyed dog inside in the air conditioning before 11am- heat index 105!!!! At noon After my meeting at work I called to check on my dog. He had ripped 2 of his toes off trying to get out of the fence -AND WAS DEAD FROM HEAT STROKE !!!! While he and his daughter watched a movie head him barking feverishly as did the neighbors and NOBODY DID ANYTHING!!!! Wanted to kill him!!! My son and I were devistated😢. I cannot imagine his pain. My son was at work with me, it was his birthday, and he got permission from my boss to be at work with me, just as his daughter did on her birthday. What CRUEL INCONCEIVABLE BIRTHDAY GIFT TO MURDER YOUR CHILDS DOG. I LEFT HIS ASS. WILL NEVER ENGAFE WITH ANOTHER MALADAPTIVE POS LIKE THIS AGAIN EVER

Very interesting! I wonder what you do, if when you are direct with a person and ask them what they are wanting or needing, if the answer is, nothing! I'm fine! This is what I am getting.

Vegetarianism is a core (or moral...?) value for my girlfriend. She wants her partner to not eat meat, but I'm learning autonomy is important to me, and I don't feel comfortable with someone imposing a dietary restriction on me. Autonomy is a core value of mine that I did not recognize until I got into this relationship with her. It has been very difficult navigating since this is the only core value I've identified that we have not been able to compromise on. Is there a difference between moral and core values?

Wow, such a great video! I have caught myself making so many passive aggressive comments to my family in the past. This was definitely an eye opener.

This was so insightful and such a good message.

Confront these people logically with no emotion and challenge their statement. Through time they’ll learn you’re not an easy victim because you are calm and have control over your emotions

What do you do if they are clearly being passive aggressive but when you confront them or ask for their needs they deny being passive aggressive and pretend like they are perfectly fine when they are clearly not. I see it a form of gaslighting almost.

Me and my wife are starting counseling next week I am hoping the no secrets policy plays out in my favor as my wife loves to talk I may possibly find out more than my wife ever told me? Even if it hurts I want to know anything she may be holding back? It will be the only way to move forward or make the ultimate decision to call it quits

This was a very informative and good video. Thank you. the thing about asking them to clarify themselves is something I haven't been doing, just jumping straight to anger about what I think they're talking about

There have been many times in my life when I have been hanging out with a group of people, and one person says: "I love Gabby, even though a lot of people don't like her or find her hard to get along with, I still love her." So many times, I have been the recipient of hearing that while hanging out in a group of people. I was lucky to have a friend recently shut that down with: "Things we don't need to know for $5000." It's just hard for me to know how to respond without further making myself look vulnerable or weak. I don't want to know who specifically does not like me. I am not trying to entertain negative energy or feed into the negative or passive aggressive energy in that moment. Should I pull them aside and respond with: " Hey I love the first part of what you said and glad you feel that you love hanging out with me. As per the 2nd half of your statement, with all do respect, we all have haters and I am not interested in knowing who hates me. I probably am already aware of these people and not trying to change anyone's mind about me whose mind is already made up. If there is something that you specifically would like to see me change and want to discuss that, I am open to suggestions. I just prefer to not be reminded that I have group of haters that are known/unknown where I have no control over these peoples negative opinions of me either way." I could say the above. Do you think that will shut down that person ever saying something like that again? I somehow always find that when I come up with the perfect line to respond with when receiving a passive aggressive comment, somehow the Universe congratulates me by never putting me in the situation again where I never even have the opportunity to use that perfectly constructed response. Its almost like the Universe does not want me to get the thrill of seeing the look on the persons face when I respond that way because it knows I will be successful in shutting it down. I just need the perfect shut down line if the one above is not what I should use.

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What they want or need is usually not my problem. I will deal directly with the rudeness rather than trying to analyze them. The passive aggressive person won't have the insight into their behavior or they will, but think 1. Others don't see it, or 2. They don't care. Either way, the behavior is unacceptable. I will speak up and ask them what their problem is or tell them they're being rude without asking why.