Using condoms would solve a lot of these issues. Like, what did you think was gonna happen as a result of casual, unprotected sex. And my statement is not regarding couples that “didn’t work out” i am specifically and exclusively talking to sexually irresponsible people.
Thank you! Like I don’t even let no man get me pregnant. I’m on birth control as a back up. I’ve also had men say they wanted us to have a kid and things be this and that way. I ain’t agree so I moved on.
@@Idkwhattoputhere24-m8v marry before you impregnate Marry before you carry comes after the Impregnation and you don’t want the woman to CARRY the pregnancy to term . Is the black community ok with promoting abortion now? For a while y’all was shaming black women for killing black babies.
Why should a man have to even take it that point? Why as a mother especially to a black boy force him to have to do that KNOWING the affect it has on black boys not having a father? But moms care tho right? Not to mention WE(black men) and society already knows how the court n justice system views us and treats us yet OUR own women help them do it then claim they protect black men no tf they don’t not the way they think
Child support is a government run racket. Just like the debt collections you see the mobsters doing on Sopranos. It’s racketeering. The government does not care if a woman takes the entire child support check and spends it on a purse. There is no system in place to even verify the money was used to support the child. Once the state and the federal government take their portion, they could care less if the children starve tbh. It’s racketeering and needs to be abolished ASAP
@Wishful96 bro use your head . He said the father should have ACCESS to see where the card is being used and purchases that are being made with the mother transactions . Tf selling food stamps gotta do with this . The child support money is ALREADY CASH 😵💫😵💫😵💫TF . yall be so lost I stg and worried about the wrong things . ATP Its RIDICULOUS smfh. DR UMAR FOR PRESIDENT 💪🏾💯💯💯.
This issue is not just a black issue it’s a man/ father issue. Men across this country need to unite and need to push our representatives for a Fathers bill of rights legislation. A bill that mandates a child at birth is tested for paternity ( hey if a man signs a birth certificate knowing that the child is not his then it’s on him afterwards ) , 2 a father’s right to have custody when a child comes of a certain age especially if the child is a boy , 3. Invoice of all expenditures , 4. Taking turns in filling for the child tax credits, if you have any more ideas please post them below.
Automatically give 50 50 custody at birth, give each parent a chance to do right. Who can't hold their end of the parenting duties up, they lose their 50% of custody and giving visitation...But at birth, both 50 50 to start out..!! Give the man an opportunity to be a father without robbing him and disabling him financially..
Mothers are already doing the hard work of cooking, cleaning, laundry. disciplining, teachings appointments, driving, doctors appointments, helping with home work, teacher meetings etc. etc. The fathers are doing none of this. For them to send money without the extra responsibilities without having to do all the Invisible labor women do and get no credit for on a regular bases should be done with ease. Umar is suggesting that they shouldn't even do that... it's ridiculous!!! And what values are we teaching our children. That women are 100% responsible. Men are in fact making (or forcing) themselves not to be needed. But then men get mad when women say they don't need a man. Maybe this idea comes from little girls who saw that their father's paid no child support. Little girls who saw their mothers do all the work all by themselves. Maybe they came to a conclusion that men are not needed to survive. Men get so mad when women say they don't need a man. But men who refuse to pay child support are in fact saying that they are not needed.
@@veganbutterfly3652 which work you talking about even when men want to take burden off the women they refused all to prove to innocent children that their mother are alpha and omega in their lives I am talking from experience
@olumideilesanmi8292 I speak from experience too... you're not the only one with experiences. MOST men I witness 1st hand just disappeared from their children's life. The majority of men do not pay child support. For the ones who do, the majority of them are not doing any of the invisible labor that women do. The INVISIBLE labor that mothers do not get PAID FOR!!! It is a huge insult that Umar is suggesting an EBT CARD type of card track how mothers use the child support money!?! How about tracking the fathers to see how they are using their money... when they claim that paying child support is a burden. Mothers do 90% of the labor with their children. Fathers and absent fathers do next to zero. I witnessed this, and it is rare to see a father take an active role.
I'd like to know if Dr. Umar has considered the non-financial costs of raising a child. For example, how much does it cost to set up appointments, attend PTA meetings, drive a child (and their friends) back and forth to practice, dances, competitions, and places of worship? Not to mention urgent care visits in the middle of the night or on weekends. These responsibilities fall on the custodial parent also. Therefore, a "virtual ledger" could not account for these costs.
That still doesn’t call for destroying another’s life in the name of child support. A good number of men are in prison in the name of child support and it’s crazy
But you are living for free, rent free, food stamps, utilities for free, etc!! The woman sits back and collects! While the man is near suicidal 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is why it’s important to know who u are having a child with this is one of the most important decisions us men have to make no matter the race. If you don’t see a future with that woman do not have a child with them💯
@@uncletonyg ever try teaching the young dudes the importance of making up and taking care of your responsibilities so you won’t be taken to court ? How about raising a generation of Accountable Black Men and Women for a change?? Let’s try that shall we ..
My son is 31 and I still get back pay because that fool NEVER pd me or his only son. I don’t feel sorry for a man that makes children and punish the kids financially because he no longer LIKES / or IS With the mother! This is NOT an isolated issue. There are millions of men who DO NOT take care of their children they help create.
@@steppababynupe bitter?? What? We have a great relationship and he calls me, yes class me every now and then to see if the money is actually making it to my account. We live in different states. Not bitter, factual. You sound like you sit around and play video games on your gf couch at HER place. Cuz those are the ones who never seem to be able to let another man know he’s wrong.
I got $300 a month. My mortgage is $1800, electric $300, garbage & water $250, food $500+, tutoring $300 monthly and everything else is more. So what is $300 really doing? Y’all must not pay bills for real.
This happens in every community. I had to pay $600/mo dor a child I was never allowed to see and I've never been in trouble with the law. This was 35 years ago and it killed me!
@@BookuRackz I can't respect racism and I can't respect him hating on ppls happiness it's 2024 love whoever tf you want you don't owe "your ppl" anything
@@BookuRackzoh please🙄. Umar just pushes that nonsense narrative tobpander to insecure ghetto black women who get angry about seeing high value black men date beautiful wonen of other races.
I never asked for child support. Even gave up the other government benefits and held my own because in Texas if you received govt assistance it was mandatory for the father to be on child support... ALL I asked of that man was that he be a father to his child and form a relationship with them... Still couldn't get that🤦🏽♀️ Said child is now 23 and we are both blessed, prosperous, and happy. God got us and makes sure we are good AMEN.... I never wished bad on him and just went on with my life.... Idk how he's doing, last I heard he got shot 🤷🏽♀️
Ain't these the same men talking about they are providers and protectors? but the minute they have to actually protect and provide they start whining smh. Then they get the Prince of fleecing the black community to comment on child support. Umar is that school fully operational yet? Grown men whining about child support meanwhile they ain’t worried about if their child ate today.
It’s hard to sympathize with fools who keep doing things that they already know the outcome of. If you know women are used to destroy you, why keep getting them pregnant?🤦🏾♂️
@@Diverse-rb4ps but this particular “vice” has inspired this enormous thread of comments. If it’s that damn bad, exercise some self control. Umar himself has two children out of wedlock but is sitting here preaching about the horrors of the child support system. Y’all volunteered for the misery you’re complaining about now.
man, I've been saying this since the beginning, men keep saying why lay down with a man unprotected, then turn around and say women are gold diggers, if you know they are gold diggers why lay with these women unprotected, it's crazy cuz they say women don't accept accountability, when this is something they could prevent as well
Wouldn't it be better if his message was to tell men if you cannot afford a child stop getting women pregnant? That way you don't have to argue about child support?
Obviously Tyrese can afford the child support which is why he is being taxed. But in general that is a stupid comment of you to make, because duh if you can't afford a child man or woman you shouldn't have one, but this conversation is about ways to make the child support system fair for fathers and mothers.
He is. He says he pays his child support “in bulk”. That means he doesn’t consistently financially support his children. Which is crazy because if he done the school thing correctly, he could’ve been making money hand over fist and he wouldn’t have an issue with child support
He is and he’s been arrested multiple times and his licensed revoked for not paying. One of his daughters is grown and he currently has a balance of over 20k owed. He stopped paying child support for the younger child because he didn’t want to do the supervised visitations that the court made a requirement. He is in neither of his children’s lives. This is particularly the reason why umar doesn’t have a real job despite being licensed as a psychologist. Some of the funds raised for his non-existent school was spent paying back child support but he still hasn’t caught up. 2 things can be true at once….some women abuse the child support system and should be held accountable…but…. Some men deserve and need to be on child support because they won’t take care of their responsibilities unless made to do so.
The average child support payments comes to 4300 a year, and most women only get 1800 on average a year😂 yall all in the comments thinking all these women getting all these lavish things for themselves, based on what cryeses a 1% earner makes.. what a way to deflect from his so called school not opening.. crying over financial providing for your childs is nasty works.. go get full custody fir your children and stop crying as a collective group of men 😂
Let the child stay with the father then and make the mother pay excessive child support, and we'll see if you feel the same way. Child support is for the child. It's crazy that fathers have to take care of themselves financially and pay more money on the child when the child visits them, and has to pay child support to the mother. But a mother gets help financially while child is with her and when the child is with the father.
Also, once you're in the child support system, those people treat you like another deadbeat dad who don't wanna provide 4 their child or children. Absolutely no respect, even if you're a good father.
@@RapOvrDos I've listened to other men who have joint custody and still pay child support, and listened to some men who put themselves on child support. Your account is not the only account there is
@@filmadcamp1512 again you haven’t experienced it so you still wouldn’t know from firsthand experience which is very different and the world is much bigger than the few men that you know
No politician will touch it. Women show up to the polls, unlike men. Covertly racist Dems bow down to women and Reps are too openly racist to unite on an issue that would help all men. No good options
Umar knows y'all not gonna push no legislation. I don't know why he's wasting his time. He couldn't even get BM to do the repair work on his school. He eventually had to hire WM.
@@filmadcamp1512, so you’re one of those sistas that love to generalize, huh? The “all black men are dogs,” “all black men are this and that..” type, huh…. You don’t know me, like I don’t know you, so you can’t speak on me as if you know. True, there are some of us men that would attribute to your description, but what would YOU do, push to keep it the same? “All yall black women wanna use the support money to fund your lifestyle, and tell the kids their dad doesn’t care about them…” see how ignorant that reads? Adult up, if you can’t add anything positive, you can stay off my comment.
@@LifesGood-nu6rd How many men, especially black men are actually even getting married nowadays? or even have the mindset of staying with and having children with one woman?
It's easier to blame the woman instead of just not having children. If you do get married and divorced, then you have just as much right as a woman to request full custody.
I guess men should live a life of luxury and leave mothers to be single parents and be financially responsible for the kids and the men live Scott free 🙄
I only know broke baby mamas, I don’t know broke baby daddies. Moms almost always suffer the most and hold the biggest burden. This is why i stopped dealing with men 5 years ago.
Ok, lets address something right quick. Child support is determined by a worksheet considering both parents incomes. The majority of MEN on child support are paying well within their means. If you don't want to pay the child support, file for custody of the kids and sue for child support yourself. This is only an issue when people are behind or the man is a celebrity. Condoms also work. And I paid support for 15 years, while being very active in my daughters life.
Children form deep emotional attachments to their fathers and their mothers, and when they are emotionally attached to both parents, they do better and have less behavioral and emotional problems. Legislation on shared parenting is an attempt at family court reform to make shared parenting more common at the expense of sole custody, so that children of parents can maintain a close daily relationship with both their mother and father. Simply put, Presumed 50/50 custody should give you and your child's mother the right to share your biological child's attention and contribute equally throughout their lives.
Tyrese has been boasting online about going places and spending money at the same trying avoid his duties. Many dads don't do that cause they know it will come back to them.
He hasn't bragged about not paying. He was already paying. The ex realized he got some new money from TV and movies and had the child support revised to get more money. FYI he has other baby mommas he's been paying for the last 18yrs.
But when that outcome cannot be met it doesn’t mean the women can demand ridiculous sums of money that clearly is way more then needed to bring up a child.
I think he understands that the system is flawed but he’s simultaneously advocating for the mass organizing of black fathers to induce radical change to the system via new legislation. 🤔 Learn how to keep up Brutha
Tyrese wasn't arrested because he had a shoot. That doesn't even make sense. He was arrested because he keeps ignoring the judge's orders. He was ordered to pay child support to his ex-wife, not even alimony but child support and he refuses. And she has had to go back to court multiple times because he keeps disobeying them. A bunch of adults said they had the same issue but their mom never got the child support even though it was ordered because a lot of woman don't have the lawyer or the energy to keep running behind men for it. Stop pretending he's a victim. Just how Dwyane Wade's ex wife lost custody to Dwyane of their sons - for consistently disobeying the court's orders and then having the audacity to not show up to court.
A woman that will make a man who GENUINELY wants to be in his kids life, and is generally a good father, basically go through hell and high water just to gain any percentage of custody of THERE children, is the worst type of mother to her children. She’ll rather deprive her children of continuing in their father’s life and vise versa, for whatever her reasons are, then to make it as easy as possible for that relationship to continue to function as properly as possible. It’s a shame, worthy of a deeper investigation, how much the court system unfairly treats fathers.
@@kenneyp.9456 pretty much because this is the internet fam. My father grandpa and uncle’s are the men I look up too for advice not random people I don’t know on RUclips.
What do yall think women gona do with 50 to 200 weekly or monthly for child support 😅😂😂😂😂 and as far as seing the child if u abandon kid why would I trust u to be alone with them😂
For real even as a guy that pay’s child support that is nothing . For example I tutor high school students in math on the side . For calculus I can charge 45/hr and some students do two sessions a week . So that is $360/mth on just tutoring. My cheapest rate is $30/hr for elementary students . There are so many costs involved in raising a child . I have watched many do this alone after their ex husbands screwed them over so much they refused to fight in court and do it all alone
@@francisikwueme1688 they really delusional to think that we getting all this money to live lavish and that’s if u even put them on child support .. my thinking always been. Why the fuck should I have to force you to take care of a child that you created..so I just couldn’t do it and I’m just a normal blk woman in the world ..the ones u don’t hear about …yet we get grouped in this dumb ass narrative that we would rather take a couple hundred than have a full time father …the delusion is at a all time high..we not famous lol ..
They spend it on weave, nails, wine, etc. The downbad ones spend it on crac, heroine, cigarettes, & fent. I’ve witnessed it, in thehood its especially prevalent.
@@ssmfetti 😂😂lies nails and weave cost way more than these ninjas can afford ..shit can’t even get them nothing past some bootlegged shit in the hood where u live 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 this narrative is fried and tired
Family Courts is crooked. My son turns 13 today, & his mother ignores our court order & violates my visitation time with him. I've never spent time with my son on his b-day, but if I refuse to pay child support, jail time. She refuses visitation, nothin happens, even if I report it..
I can vouch for this. Same thing happened to me!!! Once that was thrown in my face, i didn’t dwell because, ik AMERIKKKA., I barely pay on time but manage to keep her paid MY WAY. Play the game ♟️
on other women and kids lol my child support went towards his private schools, daycare, clothes, shoes, asthma meds, Disney trips, eye glasses, food, shelter....when he turned 18 he had his own bank acct savings and I got him a car for graduation ...
Men to fight for a better system, I am a woman and find it unfair to the child and the father. Children will soon be taking their moms to court. WHAT DID YOU DO WITH MY MONEY.
No they won’t. Child support is a government funded racket. The government does not care if a woman spends the entire payment on a new purse and the child goes hungry. There is no system in place to even verify the money was used to support the kids. It’s racketeering. The state and federal government take their portion of the money and then turn their heads.
The child support system is the way it is now because mofos wasn't paying the ish. Ninjas was moving out the state and everything to avoid paying. It is what is, you make your bed you gotta lay in it.
Men just need to get vasectomies. The procedures are reversible and it only cost a fraction of a fraction of what it costs to raise child from birth to age 18. 🙋🏾♂️My $.02
If a poor man can keep his obligation to his child. Why would I feel sorry for a well-off man not keeping his obligations. Especially when they have more resources to fight in court.
I personally think if the father has to pay 20k in child support than he should have custody of the child cause clearly the mother can't provide what she asking for, so give the child to the parent that can provide for it.
I’m with umar on CS being transparent, I think every mom on it should get a card that can only be used for daycare payments, clothes, food, & school supplies & medical/medicine. Anything else card declines.
@@blackpowerpuff6155 Yea and you're not married either nor no man take you seriously enough to be committed to you otherwise you wouldn't be triggered under this post
Too many women now a days are having child support babies, i just got off child support a few years ago, i want a son but i refuse to go back on child support so my ass is celibate
I agree!!! Trifling women have multiple kids with different men for streams of income! I’ll never understand how a single mother with 4 kids and 4 different fathers, can get 4 different child support cases 🤷🏽♀️. How is that legal??? It opens the door for them to keep having children and never being responsible for their reckless behavior as a woman! There needs to be a law for women that do this! If you have multiple kids with multiple men, you should only be able to get support from the first case….unless there was a marriage after. This is just trifling on all levels as a woman! No morals, No shame, No accountability, No Structure, No Dignity, or Decorum! Just Deplorable and Common
That makes no sense. Why should the rest not have to pay but the first one does? Why should the first have to take care of multiple other children that aren’t even his? How about just end chilesuppo altogether & only then will we see change. A lot of womn purposefully get pregnit just for the check. Pathetic.
@@ssmfetti you’re right! The new BD isn’t the one to pay for the other man’s child(ren) it’s the responsibility of the mother. This will make them stop having kids to get more support for kids they can’t afford outside of marriage. A woman who keeps bearing children should be solely responsible, as a woman the choice is hers.
Here in East Africa, we do not tolerate such nonsense that is common in the UNGODLY west, even our laws are well structured to punish such badly behaved UNGODLY lazy women/feminists. As a man you are obliged to take care of your offspring/family directly without having to send money to the third party individual. The third party individual must ensure that the offspring are raised well with good morals, spiritual values, love for fellow human kind & good work ethics. Period!!
I don’t think it’s a matter of “they don’t want to see black billionaires”. I think there’s a lot of black billionaires that don’t take no accountability for their actions. Can we be hones, who told Kanye to marry Kim Kardashian knowing the type of women she is. Nobody forced Diddy to do the freak off, no accountability that’s all I keep hearing
He only says this because he's on it himself. As for women being used to destroy men... many are all too willing conspirators, so what's his point? If it were about healthy nuclear family to them, it would be of no significance or bearing.
This is a very sensitive subject in our community. One thing is for certain, the judicial system will hold us & our family, with equal contempt.. *Steel Talk*
Dr Umar, I respect a lot of views points you be having. The separatist mindset sometimes go too far. A black man having a child with a white woman means he should suffer from child support? Either you’re pro black or not. That statement constantly places you in a grey area. Last time I check that man is still black.
Umar says he has no mercy on the men that date out but then complains about kobes wife not giving to black people. Why do people take this dude serious 😂
Having a vasectomy or having full custody could prevent child support 🤔. I agree with the visitation rights ( long as there's no history of abuse), DNA testing and accounting of expenses. However, if you don't like child support, then advocate for men to request full custody. Or choose not to have kids.
Dr. Umar come on now. If a father says to a mother the only way that you will get support is if you sign me up for child support. There are fathers out here paying less than a $100 per month. I’m not about to itemize spending on a $100 when I have most of the financial responsibility. Hold these brothers accountable. What can a mother do for a child with $100 per month.
My child turned 18 on January but I’m still on child support with a $30,000 back end that I have to pay before getting off child support and my drivers license is currently suspended 🇭🇹🍼
I got a novel idea, as brothers, why don't we figure out a way, to Build with the women that produce children for us? That would crash that system. *Steel Talk*
Why don’t you pick the right women to build with and start off with marrying her. No man should be a baby daddy and no woman should be a baby mama. Most men aren’t on child support because most men don’t even have kids. Salute to the men being responsible with their seed.
So when the mother pays rent/mortgage, electricity, gas, internet, phone, food, etc, how is the apportionment of these bills to be calculated, assuming you could put a portion of these bills on a credit card. Men who have to pay child support just pay it, and look at it as your financial contribution to your child , because that's what it is. Stop worrying about how every cent is spent because it's nearly impossible to track and ultimately as long as your child is being taken care of it's none of your business how every cent of child support is spent. This is another silly video from Dr. Umar.
Child Support is a bad attempt to teach men that children are not free. I know some men have been done wrong but some men have got to understand children are not free and is not the sole responsibility of the mother.
So basically the white or non black women should get as much money as possible, but the black women should be capped out on child support, and made to show where the money is being spent?
Umar is not lying we do need to do something about this child support stuff for real because I can understand why a lot of young guys in my generation which is Gen Z don't want to get married
You know this is sad because situations like this keep a lot of good men from wanting to procreate they don't wanna get caught up in the system and as a successful BM in his late 30's with no children I can't blame them!!💯
That’s exactly why child support was created. 😂 To prevent men from being reckless since they don’t suffer any other tangible consequences from pregnancy.
@@daddydiavolo8378 no that's not why child support was created it was actually created by the federal government i.e. the state treasury as a way to gain money for every dollar of child support collected they could careless about your child it's always about how much money they can squeeze out of the American people and that's how it's always been why do you think most people go to prison both men and women mostly men because there indebted to the "system" aka the federal government use your brain!!🧠🤔
The most annoying thing is paying child support to a woman who in turn is spending the money on another man😂😂😂
Sadly, some of these women spend it on weed liquor and go lesbo and spend that child support on their woman.
It has to be annoying for Ye paying child support to a billionaire
that part..
And buying unnecessary stuff for herself
I was with women that spent child support on me and other bull crap. I was broke then.
Using condoms would solve a lot of these issues. Like, what did you think was gonna happen as a result of casual, unprotected sex. And my statement is not regarding couples that “didn’t work out” i am specifically and exclusively talking to sexually irresponsible people.
condoms break
Thank you! Like I don’t even let no man get me pregnant. I’m on birth control as a back up. I’ve also had men say they wanted us to have a kid and things be this and that way. I ain’t agree so I moved on.
@@stephanielove2662 Marry before you carry
@@Idkwhattoputhere24-m8v marry before you impregnate
Marry before you carry comes after the Impregnation and you don’t want the woman to CARRY the pregnancy to term . Is the black community ok with promoting abortion now? For a while y’all was shaming black women for killing black babies.
Being abstinence would really solve all of this. Waiting til marriage would solve it. Cuz atleast if u get her preg it's ur wife
A women can’t stop you from seeing your children. You can take her to court
But why though?…why should us men have to take the mothers to court just to see our kids,we’re already paying
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Why should a man have to even take it that point? Why as a mother especially to a black boy force him to have to do that KNOWING the affect it has on black boys not having a father? But moms care tho right? Not to mention WE(black men) and society already knows how the court n justice system views us and treats us yet OUR own women help them do it then claim they protect black men no tf they don’t not the way they think
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You lying woman stop father from seeing his child
That child support card is genius 💯💯💯💯
it’s really not that’s the sad part. that should’ve been the case since 1998.
Yeah it should be like the EBT food stamp card that's a great Idea actually!!🧠🤔💯
Child support is a government run racket. Just like the debt collections you see the mobsters doing on Sopranos. It’s racketeering. The government does not care if a woman takes the entire child support check and spends it on a purse. There is no system in place to even verify the money was used to support the child. Once the state and the federal government take their portion, they could care less if the children starve tbh. It’s racketeering and needs to be abolished ASAP
@@DGotty yeah but that's illegal and the government knows how to crackdown on such activities!
@Wishful96 bro use your head . He said the father should have ACCESS to see where the card is being used and purchases that are being made with the mother transactions . Tf selling food stamps gotta do with this . The child support money is ALREADY CASH 😵💫😵💫😵💫TF . yall be so lost I stg and worried about the wrong things . ATP Its RIDICULOUS smfh. DR UMAR FOR PRESIDENT 💪🏾💯💯💯.
This issue is not just a black issue it’s a man/ father issue. Men across this country need to unite and need to push our representatives for a Fathers bill of rights legislation. A bill that mandates a child at birth is tested for paternity ( hey if a man signs a birth certificate knowing that the child is not his then it’s on him afterwards ) , 2 a father’s right to have custody when a child comes of a certain age especially if the child is a boy , 3. Invoice of all expenditures , 4. Taking turns in filling for the child tax credits, if you have any more ideas please post them below.
that aint gonna happen cuz alot of men dont want custody
@@BologneseJonesnot full, joint cool though
@@christopherm202dcfinest2 seee. most men dont want full custody
Automatically give 50 50 custody at birth, give each parent a chance to do right. Who can't hold their end of the parenting duties up, they lose their 50% of custody and giving visitation...But at birth, both 50 50 to start out..!! Give the man an opportunity to be a father without robbing him and disabling him financially..
Yes y'all should. So why don't you? Waiting for a woman to do it I'm guessing.
Mothers are already doing the hard work of cooking, cleaning, laundry. disciplining, teachings appointments, driving, doctors appointments, helping with home work, teacher meetings etc. etc. The fathers are doing none of this. For them to send money without the extra responsibilities without having to do all the Invisible labor women do and get no credit for on a regular bases should be done with ease.
Umar is suggesting that they shouldn't even do that... it's ridiculous!!! And what values are we teaching our children. That women are 100% responsible. Men are in fact making (or forcing) themselves not to be needed. But then men get mad when women say they don't need a man. Maybe this idea comes from little girls who saw that their father's paid no child support. Little girls who saw their mothers do all the work all by themselves. Maybe they came to a conclusion that men are not needed to survive. Men get so mad when women say they don't need a man. But men who refuse to pay child support are in fact saying that they are not needed.
WOW! I completely agree with your wonderful comment. It's so sad our Mothers are not valued enough. We're so resilient! I love us pass this life!
We all know it ain’t that SIMPLE… It’s millions of SELFISH MOTHERS OUT THERE 🙄🤦🏾♂️
@@veganbutterfly3652 which work you talking about even when men want to take burden off the women they refused all to prove to innocent children that their mother are alpha and omega in their lives I am talking from experience
@olumideilesanmi8292 I speak from experience too... you're not the only one with experiences. MOST men I witness 1st hand just disappeared from their children's life. The majority of men do not pay child support. For the ones who do, the majority of them are not doing any of the invisible labor that women do. The INVISIBLE labor that mothers do not get PAID FOR!!! It is a huge insult that Umar is suggesting an EBT CARD type of card track how mothers use the child support money!?! How about tracking the fathers to see how they are using their money... when they claim that paying child support is a burden.
Mothers do 90% of the labor with their children. Fathers and absent fathers do next to zero. I witnessed this, and it is rare to see a father take an active role.
@momoneymovementz8644 There are billions of unselfish MOTHERS OUT THERE!!!!
I'd like to know if Dr. Umar has considered the non-financial costs of raising a child. For example, how much does it cost to set up appointments, attend PTA meetings, drive a child (and their friends) back and forth to practice, dances, competitions, and places of worship? Not to mention urgent care visits in the middle of the night or on weekends. These responsibilities fall on the custodial parent also. Therefore, a "virtual ledger" could not account for these costs.
For real, These dudes are so whiney!!
That still doesn’t call for destroying another’s life in the name of child support. A good number of men are in prison in the name of child support and it’s crazy
Exactly
Ya, so much for me being able to get a 2nd job cause I'm too busy with my kids. While Dad is saving for his early retirement.
But you are living for free, rent free, food stamps, utilities for free, etc!! The woman sits back and collects! While the man is near suicidal 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is why it’s important to know who u are having a child with this is one of the most important decisions us men have to make no matter the race. If you don’t see a future with that woman do not have a child with them💯
agreed
Facts. Then we try to tell the young dudes about our misstep and they do the exact same thing. Cycle continues.
That’s why it’s important not to be a Deadbeat Dead so you won’t be taken to court .. how about that !
That’s why it’s important not to be a Deadbeat Dead so you won’t be taken to court .. how about that !
@@uncletonyg ever try teaching the young dudes the importance of making up and taking care of your responsibilities so you won’t be taken to court ? How about raising a generation of Accountable Black Men and Women for a change?? Let’s try that shall we ..
My son is 31 and I still get back pay because that fool NEVER pd me or his only son. I don’t feel sorry for a man that makes children and punish the kids financially because he no longer LIKES / or IS With the mother!
This is NOT an isolated issue. There are millions of men who DO NOT take care of their children they help create.
And this definitely ain’t a blk only issue
I'm sure that is false and maybe you are bitter
@@steppababynupe bitter?? What? We have a great relationship and he calls me, yes class me every now and then to see if the money is actually making it to my account. We live in different states. Not bitter, factual. You sound like you sit around and play video games on your gf couch at HER place. Cuz those are the ones who never seem to be able to let another man know he’s wrong.
@@Rockstar-hl9hb yep! I'm right and you're HIGHLY TRIGGERED 😂.
@@Rockstar-hl9hb @Rockstar-hl9hb yep! I'm right and you're HIGHLY TRIGGERED
“Wicked women using children to live on…”
- Pimp C
Church ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
@@unclericky5850 frfr smh
"She tryn to hate cause she kno tha thrill is gone"
I got $300 a month. My mortgage is $1800, electric $300, garbage & water $250, food $500+, tutoring $300 monthly and everything else is more. So what is $300 really doing? Y’all must not pay bills for real.
@@stephanielove2662 if it don't apply let it fly
This happens in every community. I had to pay $600/mo dor a child I was never allowed to see and I've never been in trouble with the law. This was 35 years ago and it killed me!
Good
Smh
@@aminah761Gold diggin Hœ
@@aminah761 you are pathetic....glad i do not have any kids.....and definitely glad nothing with a piece of filth lile you..peace
@@aminah761 God sees u... watch yourself..
So only black men who had children with black women deserve a child support pass???? LMMFAO where tf did this guy come from
Can’t blame him for being consistent. I respect his tenacity when it comes to Black on Black love.
@@BookuRackz I can't respect racism and I can't respect him hating on ppls happiness it's 2024 love whoever tf you want you don't owe "your ppl" anything
@@BookuRackzoh please🙄. Umar just pushes that nonsense narrative tobpander to insecure ghetto black women who get angry about seeing high value black men date beautiful wonen of other races.
He’s over here distracting black men from the school he created for them isn’t created. Nobody asks him that question.
@@jordanflores5687lol. Black men don’t have a community. Which is why they get no respect. Have babies with anyone.
Child support gets a cut also. That’s why they don’t want structure
The judges too
Easy money for the system.
That only if the mother is receiving some type of assistance thru the state!😮..
@@aliciawinston6507 duh, that's what we're talking about
@@yumjoystyle2 I'm entitled to say how I feel! Period 😗..
I never asked for child support. Even gave up the other government benefits and held my own because in Texas if you received govt assistance it was mandatory for the father to be on child support... ALL I asked of that man was that he be a father to his child and form a relationship with them... Still couldn't get that🤦🏽♀️ Said child is now 23 and we are both blessed, prosperous, and happy. God got us and makes sure we are good AMEN.... I never wished bad on him and just went on with my life.... Idk how he's doing, last I heard he got shot 🤷🏽♀️
Ain't these the same men talking about they are providers and protectors? but the minute they have to actually protect and provide they start whining smh.
Then they get the Prince of fleecing the black community to comment on child support.
Umar is that school fully operational yet?
Grown men whining about child support meanwhile they ain’t worried about if their child ate today.
👏
Well said! Umar is a joke
Nuuuuh, child support is for the child, not for the ex wife, the ex wife wants the money for herself not for the child
@@lordmchael8603 wtf your lil $100 gonna do lmao 😂😂😂
@@moniquejanelclaiming to br strong independent women and yet being dependent on alimony, dum generation
If 17% of your monthly income can’t go towards your child, you shouldn’t have one.
Quite the reductive statement.
@@FranG1214 Fitting that I’m a reductionist.
Funny he says there needs to be a ceiling on child support but not how many times guys go around making broken homes!
@@blackdiamond231a woman’s body should be moderated because y’all love going around f*cking everybody!
@@blackdiamond231It's your choice of the man you sleep with if he leaves you you made a bad decisions and you both created a broken home 🤦
It’s hard to sympathize with fools who keep doing things that they already know the outcome of. If you know women are used to destroy you, why keep getting them pregnant?🤦🏾♂️
Cause we not gay & we like coochie and want a family bruh wtf 😂😂😂
lol cigarettes, alcohol, gambling, fast food, etc... I’m sure you don’t have any vices
The cycle of life must continue, no? Humans are biologically prone to procreate… No matter the case or fate.
@@Diverse-rb4ps but this particular “vice” has inspired this enormous thread of comments. If it’s that damn bad, exercise some self control. Umar himself has two children out of wedlock but is sitting here preaching about the horrors of the child support system. Y’all volunteered for the misery you’re complaining about now.
man, I've been saying this since the beginning, men keep saying why lay down with a man unprotected, then turn around and say women are gold diggers, if you know they are gold diggers why lay with these women unprotected, it's crazy cuz they say women don't accept accountability, when this is something they could prevent as well
Wouldn't it be better if his message was to tell men if you cannot afford a child stop getting women pregnant? That way you don't have to argue about child support?
U missed the whole point
Obviously Tyrese can afford the child support which is why he is being taxed. But in general that is a stupid comment of you to make, because duh if you can't afford a child man or woman you shouldn't have one, but this conversation is about ways to make the child support system fair for fathers and mothers.
Umar is DEFINITELY on child support lol. He gotta be because he hella passionate about this topic 😂
Why it can’t just be something that he agrees on in the black community
You sound really stupid
Always someone negative you should be block off channel.
He is. He says he pays his child support “in bulk”. That means he doesn’t consistently financially support his children. Which is crazy because if he done the school thing correctly, he could’ve been making money hand over fist and he wouldn’t have an issue with child support
He is and he’s been arrested multiple times and his licensed revoked for not paying. One of his daughters is grown and he currently has a balance of over 20k owed. He stopped paying child support for the younger child because he didn’t want to do the supervised visitations that the court made a requirement. He is in neither of his children’s lives. This is particularly the reason why umar doesn’t have a real job despite being licensed as a psychologist. Some of the funds raised for his non-existent school was spent paying back child support but he still hasn’t caught up. 2 things can be true at once….some women abuse the child support system and should be held accountable…but…. Some men deserve and need to be on child support because they won’t take care of their responsibilities unless made to do so.
The average child support payments comes to 4300 a year, and most women only get 1800 on average a year😂 yall all in the comments thinking all these women getting all these lavish things for themselves, based on what cryeses a 1% earner makes.. what a way to deflect from his so called school not opening.. crying over financial providing for your childs is nasty works.. go get full custody fir your children and stop crying as a collective group of men 😂
For once, i agree with Umar.
Just once ?
Likewise. Usually he be talking out his ass and doing the most.
@@BP-el9zr I fully endorse your comment... he is a charlatan, all talk
That's becos y'all white.
Go check for brain cancer ..
Umar looking out for his fellow deadbeat dads 😂😂😂😂
I can’t support or back a man that tries to pay the least amount but can go out and party with friends. Make it make sense because it doesn’t at all.
Party with friends don't cost 70k like child support
Let the child stay with the father then and make the mother pay excessive child support, and we'll see if you feel the same way. Child support is for the child. It's crazy that fathers have to take care of themselves financially and pay more money on the child when the child visits them, and has to pay child support to the mother. But a mother gets help financially while child is with her and when the child is with the father.
Also, once you're in the child support system, those people treat you like another deadbeat dad who don't wanna provide 4 their child or children. Absolutely no respect, even if you're a good father.
They don't treat you like anything. Just pay your child support and keep it moving.
@@filmadcamp1512you can’t say how a man is treated by the system because you haven’t experienced it “just pay” is your only concern
@@RapOvrDos I've listened to other men who have joint custody and still pay child support, and listened to some men who put themselves on child support. Your account is not the only account there is
@@filmadcamp1512 again you haven’t experienced it so you still wouldn’t know from firsthand experience which is very different and the world is much bigger than the few men that you know
then get FULL custody !!
He said some essential information. We DO need to push this legislation.
Men don’t unite to demand these things unfortunately
No politician will touch it. Women show up to the polls, unlike men. Covertly racist Dems bow down to women and Reps are too openly racist to unite on an issue that would help all men.
No good options
Racist words makes me not care what he says.
Umar knows y'all not gonna push no legislation. I don't know why he's wasting his time. He couldn't even get BM to do the repair work on his school. He eventually had to hire WM.
@@filmadcamp1512, so you’re one of those sistas that love to generalize, huh? The “all black men are dogs,” “all black men are this and that..” type, huh…. You don’t know me, like I don’t know you, so you can’t speak on me as if you know. True, there are some of us men that would attribute to your description, but what would YOU do, push to keep it the same? “All yall black women wanna use the support money to fund your lifestyle, and tell the kids their dad doesn’t care about them…” see how ignorant that reads? Adult up, if you can’t add anything positive, you can stay off my comment.
Dude shouldn’t speak on child support. Especially since he’s allegedly always behind.
Take off the cape, simp
If you don't want to pay child support, then stop creating broken families.
You don’t have a clue as to what you’re talking about. It’s the women who are breaking up the families, feminism at work
Women file for divorce 90% of the time
@@LifesGood-nu6rd How many men, especially black men are actually even getting married nowadays? or even have the mindset of staying with and having children with one woman?
It's easier to blame the woman instead of just not having children. If you do get married and divorced, then you have just as much right as a woman to request full custody.
@@SarahLynn-c4k you're deflecting from my previous statement. It's black women who file for divorce 86% of the time and creating the broken home
I guess men should live a life of luxury and leave mothers to be single parents and be financially responsible for the kids and the men live Scott free 🙄
I only know broke baby mamas, I don’t know broke baby daddies. Moms almost always suffer the most and hold the biggest burden. This is why i stopped dealing with men 5 years ago.
Or women can stop opening their legs for a nigga
@ericagibson747 so give the child to the father then since the baby mama broke it'd not about that it's a control method
@@deshawnpayne6096that part
Probably should give the child to the father of you can’t support yourself it’s really that simple
Ok, lets address something right quick. Child support is determined by a worksheet considering both parents incomes. The majority of MEN on child support are paying well within their means. If you don't want to pay the child support, file for custody of the kids and sue for child support yourself. This is only an issue when people are behind or the man is a celebrity. Condoms also work. And I paid support for 15 years, while being very active in my daughters life.
The edits is so smooth, appreciated it!
Children form deep emotional attachments to their fathers and their mothers, and when they are emotionally attached to both parents, they do better and have less behavioral and emotional problems.
Legislation on shared parenting is an attempt at family court reform to make shared parenting more common at the expense of sole custody, so that children of parents can maintain a close daily relationship with both their mother and father.
Simply put, Presumed 50/50 custody should give you and your child's mother the right to share your biological child's attention and contribute equally throughout their lives.
Excellent point about tracking child support related expenses. That's a good idea. Ensures transparency, accountability.
I still have the calendars from my CS days. Every box written in. End of the day, though, a lot of judges don't care what the man says or does.
@@uncletonyg Some changes definitely need to be made.
Tyrese has been boasting online about going places and spending money at the same trying avoid his duties. Many dads don't do that cause they know it will come back to them.
how is spending money and going places avoiding his duties? u know what hes doing 24hrs of the day? if so then your not doing your duties clown...
He hasn't bragged about not paying. He was already paying. The ex realized he got some new money from TV and movies and had the child support revised to get more money. FYI he has other baby mommas he's been paying for the last 18yrs.
How do you know that? Where’s the link to this???
WTH are you're talking about?!😂
And the money comes out of an account so how is he ducking it
He fails to understand that the overall objective is to keep our family structures dysfunctional.
It's not you black dudes a target it's all men's family structure.everyman is a target.there is a war against men period.sick of the tribal nonsense
But when that outcome cannot be met it doesn’t mean the women can demand ridiculous sums of money that clearly is way more then needed to bring up a child.
I think he understands that the system is flawed but he’s simultaneously advocating for the mass organizing of black fathers to induce radical change to the system via new legislation. 🤔 Learn how to keep up Brutha
You can have a dysfunctional family under one roof. Trust me 😅
Tyrese wasn't arrested because he had a shoot. That doesn't even make sense. He was arrested because he keeps ignoring the judge's orders. He was ordered to pay child support to his ex-wife, not even alimony but child support and he refuses. And she has had to go back to court multiple times because he keeps disobeying them. A bunch of adults said they had the same issue but their mom never got the child support even though it was ordered because a lot of woman don't have the lawyer or the energy to keep running behind men for it. Stop pretending he's a victim.
Just how Dwyane Wade's ex wife lost custody to Dwyane of their sons - for consistently disobeying the court's orders and then having the audacity to not show up to court.
A woman that will make a man who GENUINELY wants to be in his kids life, and is generally a good father, basically go through hell and high water just to gain any percentage of custody of THERE children, is the worst type of mother to her children. She’ll rather deprive her children of continuing in their father’s life and vise versa, for whatever her reasons are, then to make it as easy as possible for that relationship to continue to function as properly as possible. It’s a shame, worthy of a deeper investigation, how much the court system unfairly treats fathers.
All facts !!!
They attempt to destroy your love and desire for your children. I don't know it the system was designed to do this but this is how it plays out.
condoms boo lol
Facts but will shame n condemn fathers who ain’t in the child’s life yet do everything to hinder the father who wants to be 😂
Soooo the bunny can have as much money as she wants for child support but the black woman is limited???????🤔🤔🤔🤔
Bruh if it was up to me regardless of what color they are THERE WOULD BE NO CHILD SUPPORT
Did u listen?
That’s all you got from this video 🤨?
@@kenneyp.9456 pretty much because this is the internet fam. My father grandpa and uncle’s are the men I look up too for advice not random people I don’t know on RUclips.
What do yall think women gona do with 50 to 200 weekly or monthly for child support 😅😂😂😂😂 and as far as seing the child if u abandon kid why would I trust u to be alone with them😂
For real even as a guy that pay’s child support that is nothing . For example I tutor high school students in math on the side . For calculus I can charge 45/hr and some students do two sessions a week . So that is $360/mth on just tutoring. My cheapest rate is $30/hr for elementary students . There are so many costs involved in raising a child . I have watched many do this alone after their ex husbands screwed them over so much they refused to fight in court and do it all alone
@@francisikwueme1688 they really delusional to think that we getting all this money to live lavish and that’s if u even put them on child support .. my thinking always been. Why the fuck should I have to force you to take care of a child that you created..so I just couldn’t do it and I’m just a normal blk woman in the world ..the ones u don’t hear about …yet we get grouped in this dumb ass narrative that we would rather take a couple hundred than have a full time father …the delusion is at a all time high..we not famous lol ..
@@francisikwueme1688You don’t pay chilesuppo so you wouldn’t know.
They spend it on weave, nails, wine, etc. The downbad ones spend it on crac, heroine, cigarettes, & fent. I’ve witnessed it, in thehood its especially prevalent.
@@ssmfetti 😂😂lies nails and weave cost way more than these ninjas can afford ..shit can’t even get them nothing past some bootlegged shit in the hood where u live 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 this narrative is fried and tired
Family Courts is crooked.
My son turns 13 today, & his mother ignores our court order & violates my visitation time with him.
I've never spent time with my son on his b-day, but if I refuse to pay child support, jail time.
She refuses visitation, nothin happens, even if I report it..
Nobody forced you to unzip your pants buddy
I can vouch for this. Same thing happened to me!!! Once that was thrown in my face, i didn’t dwell because, ik AMERIKKKA., I barely pay on time but manage to keep her paid MY WAY. Play the game ♟️
So your child's mother is just like Tyrese - ignoring court orders.
That is your problem, you chose her and procreated. Next time pick better
My child support ends next year but will continue to support my kids their mother has a husband not her
Who gives a damn
@@keithen8708 🤣🤣🤣
Why did you have kids by her in the first place?
Good for you.
@@keithen8708lmaooo😂
NAAA DR UMAR THESE BLACK MEN STICKING THERE WIENER INTO ANYTHING WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES..THEY NEED TO LEARN RESPONSIBILITIES
Or a woman can close they legs. Goes both ways
When he is not paying child support... where is his money going too???? Men are the ones who need to show where their money goes.
on other women and kids lol my child support went towards his private schools, daycare, clothes, shoes, asthma meds, Disney trips, eye glasses, food, shelter....when he turned 18 he had his own bank acct savings and I got him a car for graduation ...
@@peacefaith2939 as where it should go. You're taking care of your child... good for you.
He’s absolutely right about this and it gets deeper too.
Men to fight for a better system, I am a woman and find it unfair to the child and the father. Children will soon be taking their moms to court. WHAT DID YOU DO WITH MY MONEY.
That's a good idea for the sons to do, but noticed you didn't say the daughters, who will probably be the ones doing it the most.
Talk about it
No they won’t. Child support is a government funded racket. The government does not care if a woman spends the entire payment on a new purse and the child goes hungry. There is no system in place to even verify the money was used to support the kids. It’s racketeering. The state and federal government take their portion of the money and then turn their heads.
You are so ridiculous. $100 a month? Any child that asks for their support should be given the money and then nothing else monthly. Are you insane?
@@mysexpressions9604 go play with sex toys 🙄
Stop having children outside of marriage
Marriage is also a trap in the white man rulership
The child support system is the way it is now because mofos wasn't paying the ish. Ninjas was moving out the state and everything to avoid paying. It is what is, you make your bed you gotta lay in it.
Dr Umar i argree with you 1000% percent on the child support topic
But he is still calls most Black women "queens"?!! But acknowledges they do the most scamming when it comes to this? I'm confused with dude.
Men just need to get vasectomies. The procedures are reversible and it only cost a fraction of a fraction of what it costs to raise child from birth to age 18. 🙋🏾♂️My $.02
The problem is some people don’t believe it’s a weapon unless it got a trigger on it.
If a poor man can keep his obligation to his child. Why would I feel sorry for a well-off man not keeping his obligations. Especially when they have more resources to fight in court.
i have no words but anger. I rest my keyboard
Exactly.
we men needs to get together to form lobbying team to go against this child support system
What do you propose to replace it?
scared to go to jail..
The only person who can keep a family system dysfunctional is the adults involved.
You men need to get together to restore families
@@aprillee2593 how⁉️🤷🏿♂️🤷🏿♂️ if yall keep on destroying yall families with said system
I’m sure Dr. Umar gonna lose some women fans after this 😂😂😂
The truth hurts 🤷🏽♂️
Art gotta keep umar on
LMAOOO Bruh said he got no mercy for bunny hoppers.... LOL he dont let up for nothing!
I personally think if the father has to pay 20k in child support than he should have custody of the child cause clearly the mother can't provide what she asking for, so give the child to the parent that can provide for it.
Zip up your poverty pants of you can't pay up for your kids
Yep, but then the child support grift that funds lawyers, courts, judges, and social workers would come to an end, so TPTB don't wanna do that.
I agree now watch how many men don't want their kids
@@aprillee2593 Tyrone, Pookie, and Dekwan probably won't, but a lot of other men would.
Most men don’t want to be bothered with their on kid! 😮
I believe in monogamy. One black man one big black 🖤 woman as a baptized Devout Christian.
Great idea by Dr. Umar. Child support money should definitely go on a card that can be tracked.
I’m with umar on CS being transparent, I think every mom on it should get a card that can only be used for daycare payments, clothes, food, & school supplies & medical/medicine. Anything else card declines.
Slaves don't get to think.
Here comes the bitter BMs who has yet to be married filled with trauma they haven't handled 👀
Can't complain about the women never being married if the men aren't either getting them pregnant.
@@blackpowerpuff6155 how many BDs you have? Are you married?
@@steppababynupe I don't have any children.
@@blackpowerpuff6155 Yea and you're not married either nor no man take you seriously enough to be committed to you otherwise you wouldn't be triggered under this post
@@steppababynupe Are you married?
Its called taking care of your kids umar, but you don't know nothing bout that
Child support does NOT equate “taking care of you kids”….
It'd plenty of men that take care of their kids , without having to go to court and get other people involved on the say of their child
Child support is only pampering these heffers. It doesn't take thousands a month to support no kid
@@unclericky5850 so what does NOT paying child support equate to?
@@lydiablake-simon7555 i never said there wasn't, but umar ain't one of em
Too many women now a days are having child support babies, i just got off child support a few years ago, i want a son but i refuse to go back on child support so my ass is celibate
Have a surrogate baby. You get to keep it since you paid for it upfront, a preordered baby.
Go overseas. There are decent women there, plus the child will get your citizenship and be able to see you and your family here.
I feel the same way. My daughter 17. Ion wanna ever give a fonky bi**h that much power over my life. Once they get mad. War. Lol
Men too
Thanks for being accountable. That's sounds like the most logical answer to me. No kids, no child support.
Bruh I just got hit with this bullshit they takin more then half my check! The fuck they doin
That's actually a good idea he proposed
I agree with Dr. umar
Go get yourself a brain scan coz you definitely got brain damage ..
I agree!!! Trifling women have multiple kids with different men for streams of income! I’ll never understand how a single mother with 4 kids and 4 different fathers, can get 4 different child support cases 🤷🏽♀️. How is that legal??? It opens the door for them to keep having children and never being responsible for their reckless behavior as a woman! There needs to be a law for women that do this! If you have multiple kids with multiple men, you should only be able to get support from the first case….unless there was a marriage after. This is just trifling on all levels as a woman! No morals, No shame, No accountability, No Structure, No Dignity, or Decorum! Just Deplorable and Common
That makes no sense. Why should the rest not have to pay but the first one does? Why should the first have to take care of multiple other children that aren’t even his? How about just end chilesuppo altogether & only then will we see change. A lot of womn purposefully get pregnit just for the check. Pathetic.
@@ssmfetti you’re right! The new BD isn’t the one to pay for the other man’s child(ren) it’s the responsibility of the mother. This will make them stop having kids to get more support for kids they can’t afford outside of marriage. A woman who keeps bearing children should be solely responsible, as a woman the choice is hers.
This!
Use condoms fellas. They can't get pregnant without your active participation!
Here in East Africa, we do not tolerate such nonsense that is common in the UNGODLY west, even our laws are well structured to punish such badly behaved UNGODLY lazy women/feminists. As a man you are obliged to take care of your offspring/family directly without having to send money to the third party individual. The third party individual must ensure that the offspring are raised well with good morals, spiritual values, love for fellow human kind & good work ethics. Period!!
I don’t think it’s a matter of “they don’t want to see black billionaires”. I think there’s a lot of black billionaires that don’t take no accountability for their actions. Can we be hones, who told Kanye to marry Kim Kardashian knowing the type of women she is. Nobody forced Diddy to do the freak off, no accountability that’s all I keep hearing
Umar holding black women accountable? This has got to be a clone.
I thought so too 😮
He only says this because he's on it himself.
As for women being used to destroy men... many are all too willing conspirators, so what's his point?
If it were about healthy nuclear family to them, it would be of no significance or bearing.
lol first time I heard Umar speak out on Black women.
@@BookuRackz Only because he on child support and angry.
@@TheEsquireOfSportsFSUlmfao 😅seriously
My License just got suspended for being behind $1,500 for child support 😠
How do they expect you to make payments if you don’t have a car, this system is designed to crap on men of all races and bring them down
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@@RawDogTVwhat’s your email
The question is: why were you behind? There are legitimate reasons and BS reasons.
How can we tell everyone to help support I got my taxes snatched n can’t even see my son we need a movie
Dr umar spoke nothing but facts
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You're not eligible for child support if you are married and in the same household as the woman and child.
Not true, I know plenty its happened too, child support benefits the State, they make millions off child support orders.
This is a very sensitive subject in our community.
One thing is for certain, the judicial system will hold us & our family, with equal contempt..
*Steel Talk*
I agree about child support. Also, 10% of the money should go towards a savings account or some custodial account that the mother can't access.
Dr Umar, I respect a lot of views points you be having. The separatist mindset sometimes go too far. A black man having a child with a white woman means he should suffer from child support? Either you’re pro black or not. That statement constantly places you in a grey area. Last time I check that man is still black.
He’s a simpp.
You aren't going to get Dr Umar to change his mind and support brothers who swirl. 🤷🏾♂️
They may not want to see black billionaires but nothing can be done to stop the creation of them. Y’all pay attention please
I agree with Umar great idea on the CS Card to track the expenses.. shit Child Support can go into your Bank and see what the father spends on
Exactly I’ll never forgot my case worker pulling up my bank account and check stubs I was so amazed 😂😅
@godson1253 bro me too they delivered who stack of files from my back, I was pissed.
Real talk
Umar says he has no mercy on the men that date out but then complains about kobes wife not giving to black people. Why do people take this dude serious 😂
No mercy if you bunny hopped 😂😂
Dr Umar told the black brothers to go to legislation change the law to see what y'all chicks buying.😂😂😂
Having a vasectomy or having full custody could prevent child support 🤔. I agree with the visitation rights ( long as there's no history of abuse), DNA testing and accounting of expenses. However, if you don't like child support, then advocate for men to request full custody. Or choose not to have kids.
Dr. Umar come on now. If a father says to a mother the only way that you will get support is if you sign me up for child support. There are fathers out here paying less than a $100 per month. I’m not about to itemize spending on a $100 when I have most of the financial responsibility. Hold these brothers accountable. What can a mother do for a child with $100 per month.
Invest in a compound dividend stock after 18 yrs they would have 25k minimum ..
Thank you for the Love and Support Brothers and Sistas. Peace and Pan-Africanism.
My child turned 18 on January but I’m still on child support with a $30,000 back end that I have to pay before getting off child support and my drivers license is currently suspended 🇭🇹🍼
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Shoulda pulled out 🤷🏽♀️
@@Laoriginal718 no you should have asked him to put on a condom
Stop dating keishas...
Or maybe a condom@@Laoriginal718
Facts Facts and more Facts!! He spoke nothing but the TRUTH! F Child support 😮
I got a novel idea, as brothers, why don't we figure out a way, to Build with the women that produce children for us?
That would crash that system.
*Steel Talk*
Facts 💯💯🔥
Why don’t you pick the right women to build with and start off with marrying her. No man should be a baby daddy and no woman should be a baby mama. Most men aren’t on child support because most men don’t even have kids. Salute to the men being responsible with their seed.
So when the mother pays rent/mortgage, electricity, gas, internet, phone, food, etc, how is the apportionment of these bills to be calculated, assuming you could put a portion of these bills on a credit card. Men who have to pay child support just pay it, and look at it as your financial contribution to your child , because that's what it is. Stop worrying about how every cent is spent because it's nearly impossible to track and ultimately as long as your child is being taken care of it's none of your business how every cent of child support is spent. This is another silly video from Dr. Umar.
Why do the man pay child support when he can care for the kid half the time as well... wake up!!!!
Because the vast majority of the time he doesn’t take care of the child as well.
Make it make sense smh
@@wakeelahmusic u had to be a woman.
Bm complain and wm pay higher child support than most bm. They just wanna plant seeds everywhere and leave women to take care of kid herself.
Bm complain and wm pay higher child support than most bm. They just wanna plant seeds everywhere and leave women to take care of kid herself.
2:40 Love this idea
Child Support is a bad attempt to teach men that children are not free. I know some men have been done wrong but some men have got to understand children are not free and is not the sole responsibility of the mother.
Has zero to do with the fathers taking care of their kids, the system is a joke and a fraud
So basically the white or non black women should get as much money as possible, but the black women should be capped out on child support, and made to show where the money is being spent?
There should be no child support period regardless of color.
Umar is not lying we do need to do something about this child support stuff for real because I can understand why a lot of young guys in my generation which is Gen Z don't want to get married
He ain't lying...on multiple levels
"Never should have dated outside the community." Christ, what is wrong with people?
Facts
It's true
@@collinsmcgriggs9773 I hope you fall in love with a beautiful, loving white woman. That'll show you 😂
Thank you so much!
Umar dressed like its 2001 and a child support online profile is crazyyyyy but smart😂😂😂
Brother dressed like B. A. Baraccus from the A Team. 😂
@@JefferyStewart-g9u😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am not in that situation thank God, because I don't have any kids but this man is speaking the truth on here today
You know this is sad because situations like this keep a lot of good men from wanting to procreate they don't wanna get caught up in the system and as a successful BM in his late 30's with no children I can't blame them!!💯
That's pt of the purpose
Population Control is always at hand
Yeah, I'm 35 with no kids because I dont trust a lot of women. I saw the child support game too many times growing up.
That’s exactly why child support was created. 😂
To prevent men from being reckless since they don’t suffer any other tangible consequences from pregnancy.
@@daddydiavolo8378 no that's not why child support was created it was actually created by the federal government i.e. the state treasury as a way to gain money for every dollar of child support collected they could careless about your child it's always about how much money they can squeeze out of the American people and that's how it's always been why do you think most people go to prison both men and women mostly men because there indebted to the "system" aka the federal government use your brain!!🧠🤔
To be fair, tiger woods destroyed himself. He was messing around with multiple white woman and got caught.
Conspiracy theorists are kooks. R. Kelly doesn’t own his masters. SMH. Also, Pharrell successfully sued the same company as Puff. Where’s his case?
You don’t know wtf you’re talking about
He has a point regarding child suppott $$$......
Casual Sex equal Children nobody is CRYING MAKING CHILDREN mama or daddy 🎉