How to Avoid Lulls in Conversations

If you don't watch the whole video - here's what I hope you remember. Your life will be much better when you talk to people! And that can be hard - especially cause COVID kept us away from each other, we have screens frying our brains, and every day it seems like life gets more stressful. But, it's important that we prioritize it.
The methods I refer to in this video are HEFE, time framing, prompting, and conversational threading. Conversations don't have to end at dead ends - I'll make sure of it.
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[@bowed305]

This was very informative and helpful. Two suggestions:
1. Could you turn the volume up on your end when recording? You've got a fairly quiet voice, so I've got to almost max out the volume to hear you well, especially if there's any competing noise when I'm listening.
2. Could we maybe go with "break it down more" instead of "dumb it down"? Just sounds better.
Again, truly appreciate these videos. Please keep doing them.

[@talktochrismiller]

Great feedback - I didn't normalize the volume on this one so I'm glad you pointed it out cause I'll add it to my post production checklist!! and I agree - phrasing is important. Thanks for watching and looking forward to creating more.

[@zacharyharrisnc]

Number 2 is definitely my problem--I feel like the king of awkward town during small talk!
What is interesting, Chris, is that "Hey how are you" is treated by most people as a close ended question--"good, how are you?" is the expected response and anything else comes off weird! I wonder what other linguistic calls-and-responses there are in history or modern day--where it is custom for one person to say one thing, and the other to respond, as a form of greeting. The first example I think of is the Arabic greeting, "As-salamu alaykum," which calls for the response of "Wa alaykumu s-salam." What is interesting about "hey, how are you?" is that it is a question, technically, instead of a statement.

[@talktochrismiller]

hahah, 'king of awkward town' is hilarious! Yeah - totally agree. "Hey, how are you?" is definitely a part of the script with an automated response (most of the time). And I remember when I learned those phrases in Arabic - it's like a call and response, which is an interesting rhetorical tool to initiate conversation.