Me - self awareness, self control, focus, attention, We - empathy, collaboration, active listening, communication, perspective taking Why - exploration, curiosity, asking good questions Will - grit, perseverance, self-motivation Wiggle - physical and intellectual restlessness, go getter, reach for the star Wobble - agility, adaptability, learn from failure What if - possibility skill, innovative, creativity
Almost teared up when she said toddlers can begin to sense empathy, because my 1.5 year old saw/heard me coughing (I was choking on my spit lol) and he immediately walked over and started rubbing my back. 🥰
Yes, children learn best from what they observe and experience around them. I remember my nephew at two years of age quickly pulling a piece of tissue from the box when he saw his grandad began to drool (grandad had Parkinson's and he had often observe grandma doing this). He would also put his hand on his arm and "talk" to him as he had seen us doing the same.
QI, IQ and EQ etc are no doubt essential. But never forget the most crucial which everyone need to have in their hearts is love, compassion, altruism, morality and justice.
Tony Lau thank you for that. Intellects think of on intellect things, but the lack of love, morality, compassion, justice this world would not be complete. Thank you for that.
@@lancemorin3967 you're right, but unfortunately the school system dumbs us down to think only as we are taught and therefore many of us lose sight of this. I praise God he has opened my eyes to these truths and I will guide my children differently.
Wow this video holds such brutal brutal honesty but that’s what I need. Me skills - mindfulness. We skills - relationship skills, corporation Why? Inquisitiveness, the important thing is to never stop questioning Will- can do, drive and determination, grit, perseverance, inquisitiveness motivation Wiggle- physical and intellectual health can be hand in hand, try not to stop creating, it’s okay to work hard when your not feeling well but give wiggle room when you absolutely need it Wobble- face, over come, learn failure. Adapt. Fail now, fail often, fail forward. What if - possibilities, creativity, don’t limit their potential.
Videos like these should be made mandatory to all new/upcoming parents. Imagine what the next future generations would look like....more peace, more love, more of what humanity has to offer.
it's will probably happen gradually but not after a few generations still. It's hard to properly parent children when the parent themselves are broken kids as well. Generational trauma is really hard to deal with and younger generations now are just starting to heal for the better.
This is so true. One of the reasons I am totally into gameschooling. We allow our learners to be children while giving them opportunity to explore and learn from outside experiences.
Wow. Amazing. The first six years of child's life is very important before commencing their formal education . And Parents must put an effort not only in their nutritional nourishment but also in their brain nourishment.
So important, thank you so much. The importance of this message is , strive , choose, and grow. Wiggle and wobble simply means to STRIVE , if this element does not grow in the child , it is hard to achieve anything. Awesome job thank you so much.
Self management skills and problem solving are absolutely critical. For success in a future were vast amounts of information and technology. It's what you do with that information and the ability to navigate and be aware of details.
really inspiring. i started applying some of your techniques with my own very spirited children and noticed an immediate difference. fantastic. standing ovation!
Why thank you - so nice to know/hear!!! Like Joan below, I would be very interested to know (and you can always share more details about your thoughts/applications of QI Skills thru my website (drlaurajana.com) as I'm most interested in real-world feedback and applications!!!
What an awesomely inspiring speech!! So very relevant! Can resonate with all the Qi skills listed by Dr. Jana, so accurately and simply shared. Every word spoken is precious and rightly placed. Brilliant… standing ovation! Salute🙏
This is a great reflection on skills and I am of the view that in order for these skills to be effectively functional and productive we need to create a conducive work culture which is free from the flaws of politics in work places.
wow - thanks for taking the time to post this. As you might imagine (but many people seem to forget/overlook), writing a substantive/meaningful TED talk while keeping it within a set/short time limit is not easy, especially for a broad topic. I tried hard to capture the essence of a much bigger picture/discussion, and am so glad to know it resonated with you!
@@laurajana4611 So very true! I remember thinking this while I was watching the video :D I can totally understand since I speak too.. Thanks once again!
Why thanks, Doris! The whole reason I created the QI Skill framework and gave this talk was to not only help everyone understand just how important these skills are in a shared language that resonates all the way from the early childhood world to policy makers/Fortune 500 CEOs and everyone in-between, but also recognize the importance of early childhood and the opportunity to foundationally support their development for all children and far earlier than most people realize!
@@laurajana4611 Thank you for replying! Early childhood is in fact more important than most people realize. If one day I have a child your lecture will have to play a big role in the way I raise them.
@@doris4469 my pleasure, as I am always interested in constructive comments/feedback. And should you be interested (now or in the future), I expanded quite a bit on this topic in my book, The Toddler Brain: Nurture the Skills Today that Will Shape Your Child's Tomorrow!
I’ve just read an excellent book called The 12 Golden Rules. It’s by a guy called Ed Wright. It points out the dozen most important personal skills that a young person needs to master in order to have an effective life. It made my think deeply.
Ha ha - that's what I tell people too. This talk was presented live to an international audience, so I intentionally spoke slower than usual (which in my case tends to be much faster than this!)
In a fast changing environment, we will need to work towards just-in-time learning. We have to learn to skills when we need them. This will require us to constantly learn new skills and it must be done at a much faster pace than today. We will be in an unstructured environment but we need to simulate a structured environment. This is the one skill that must be developed. It will also require infrastructure support.
Wonderful talk, woke me up to something I have been finding challenging, thank you Dr. Jana. One of the best points that I picked up from this talk, was that being the best parents we can be is not to maximize their possessions, but their potential. I love this point because there are only so many possessions we can provide them with (perhaps some more than others, depending on wealth levels, but as Steve Jobs had once said, before he died, that after all that success and wealth he had built, he realised that he could bring nothing away with him...and that ultimately, it was the relationships and experiences that mattered.), so as long as we provide the children with the necessary 'possessions' to enable them to build their potential, it's their potential that can take them way beyond what anyone would be able to imagine, and THAT, is the best gift we can give them!
Thanks Maria - so glad to know you liked it as it was challenging to try to get across all I wanted to share in less than 15 minutes (and extremely jet-lagged)!
It's like introducing the new "programming language" to practice on future children. Raising children is usually on the base of instincts and love, noone can be so counting to raise their children so perfect as a computer
The higher a person's IQ, the more they need to occupy the part of their brain they are not using so that that side will not interfere with the focus on the part of their brain they are using. Therefore, they doodle, fidget, have music going, bounce their knee, etc.
@@virginiamoss7045 Makes complete sense, thank you! That is very helpful, interesting I have been schooling myself on giftedness but what you just shared I haven't heard. Do you have any sources I could look up?
@@MountainMaid238 - Wish I could help out here, but I've been knowing that for many years. It's part of the enormous trove of brain research that has been researched for the past 20 years. Seems like I came across it in relation to either education or autism or ADHD. My memory isn't what it used to be.
Never say never...there are plenty of times when what is perceived as bad (fidgety, restlessness) actually represents inquisitiveness, curiosity, especially in young children whose enthusiasm for hands-on exploration and understanding can be "mis-judged" as disobedient and distracting. Not always, but far too often!
Skills, yes like dressing yourself! I wonder if she knows the literal meaning of the word “success.” It means literally “to go under.” It sounds like she is developing an inner person, but she is not! Basically she is talking about what one needs to do to satisfy the external world to secure a job! Remember the song, “get a job, da da da da, da da da da da....” Even rock singers in the 50’s saw through that! She seems like an innovative thinker, but she is just a Common Sense thinker. Let’s all be successful! Let’s all “go under.”
Thank you for this awesome talk. It makes total sense to teach these Qi-skills while the children are young. However, I believe we ought to first teach and train their parents. After all, how can the parents teach their young when they have not mastered the Qi-skills themselves? It's like expecting something for nothing, right? Thanks again.
Totally agreed, the only way to effectively train these into the young, is by having the adults first at least exemplify these skills, as young children don't do as you say, they do as you do!
Agree totally. Children learn best from what they observe around them. Children Learn What They Live By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty. If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn patience. If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children live with sharing, they learn generosity. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. If children live with fairness, they learn justice. If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them. If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
If anyone has "will" skills, are all of those immigrant kids in our schools who learn English as a second language so that they can be incorporated into American culture and feel motivated to succeed....
Humans need the freedom to develop the whole of who they are, what they think and the effects of their actions, they need time to play, engage with one another, explore their feelings and understand their environment, learn eye to hand co-ordination, free play, and much more, and a strong sense of self and confidence in their own ability. They could learn to do simple actions around the home, how to handle relationships of parents, siblings, and once they are ready, perhaps to start learning maths and english and other subjects once they feel positive about their own individuality, they will know how to handle their feelings, they can relate how they are feeling with what appropriate action to take in a loving way, they learn facial expressions and body language before coming into a classroom. A teacher will see when a child is engaged in the subject, when the child is giving 100% attention to it, and joyful expression. Its very difficult to engage a child who isn't interested in a subject, and is bored, and they are more able to articulate this as they are more able to express themselves. Play needs to play a bigger role in the early years perhaps they will be ready by 10 years plus. I think we need confidence in self first and then the joy of learning can begin, with more life skills in the curriculum, and maths and english be secondary, if only at a basic level.
yes - definitely a "plot twist" in that learning/cultivating these skills is not the focus of many traditional education systems, while at the same time you are absolutely correct that they can be learned/cultivated outside of formal school settings
so kids need to be creative and social so they can do business and so that will keep consuming the planet. Kids need to be more human, more empathetic care less about consumption more about cooperation so everyone can have a nice life no millionaire goals
Not the point, as I actually do not personally measure a child's success in any sort of business terms. Rather, these are skills focused on being more human, interacting well and being empathetic towards others, etc, and my point is that even the business world is recognizing that having long undervalued them, these (human) skills are fundamentally important. I agree completely about less consumption, cooperation over competition, need for empathy, etc.
kids dont need brainwashing ... kids need to be a good human being and self satisfied with themselves ..... kids dont need what you think is good for them ... give and provide them whay they think is good for themselves
One skill I know is necessary is mastering money. Luck does not create money. Hope doesn't either. Only Financial education will teach kids to master money. If they don't master it, they will be broke their entire life.
Financial literacy is absolutely important, and falls into the category of what I referred to as "IQ Skills" (along with literacy, numeracy, etc). As a group of skills, these make up 1/3 of the skills the World Bank (and many others) have recognized as critically important to success in the 21st Century. So I agree with you in that regard.....this talk was just focused on the "other", 2/3rds of the important skills that are all too often ignored/disregarded or considered less important. Additionally, without the QI Skills (most notably ME Skills), it's very difficult to "master money" (in the sense of controlling one's impulses, thinking into the future and planning one's actions/saving accordingly, etc)
Maybe a word about the title of the speech "Skills Every Child..." It's a great speech, however, the majority of kids will not be in developed countries within the next decades, but living in developing, low income countries! So may I be allowed and add to this another fact of details: over the past decade, aid funding for education (in Africa) has declined to less than ten% (10!) percent of global official development assistance, leaving much of the financing to national governments in Africa already strained by conflicting priorities. The Education Commission estimates that intl. financing for education will need to increase from current levels of 12$ billion/year to $89 billion per year by 2030 to cover the basic(!) education costs in low-income countries! Furthermore, approx. 120M kids are yet not in School in Africa alone! Aside of this, we teach and prepare children not for the challenges to come. In this respect, Solar Schools, and smart farming initiatives are of utmost importance to create a new form of education to prepare children in Africa (and elsewhere) for the 21st century and the challenges to come.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful post! My efforts/goals actually extend well beyond the "developed" world as I am committed to advocating for investments in all children, and my "skills" focus is not exclusive to those taught formally. It's actually much more about recognizing (and funding/supporting) efforts that ensure safe, caring and nurturing environments for all children.
@@laurajana4611 Namaskaar Laura ji again. We are working on the same matter as Africans are going through. In India we have Banvasi Raksha Parivaar who is continuously helping Aadiwasis ( people living in dense woods) in all ways- respect, dignity, self employment, culture, heritage and lot more. Please let me know if you are interested in meeting.
Loved the talk which gave a great perspective on bringing up kids. Question - Isn't Allowing kids to give into their wiggles is in direct contrast to me skills which is meant to teach kids to keep control on their impulses? How should one keep this balance?
This is a great question, and even better because you recognized that it's a balance! For the concept of WIGGLE, what I based it on is the understanding that things like creative thinking and engagement are enhanced by physical interaction and movement, and also on the recognition that some children literally can't sit still well, and if they are forced too when it's not necessary, it actually detracts from their ability to think/concentrate/learn. What I also also tell people in the (longer) talks I give on this subject is that letting kids WIGGLE does not simply mean let them bounce off the walls, since they clearly don't learn that way either. The example I like to use with respect to young children is when a child has a hard time sitting still to listen to a story, and all too often ends up distracting others, being scolded, and certainly not retaining much/engaging well with the story/book. In this case, I tell parents/teachers to try seeing if perhaps the child simply needs something to "fidget" with (small, handheld, non-distracting). For others, who really don't sit still well, letting them stand up and/or choosing to read them a book that allows them to interact physically (my common example is "Jump, Frog, Jump" - let kids get up and jump). If you think about adults, by the way - think about the recognition that hands-on activities/manipulatives on tables at conferences make them way more engaging, and that people are turning to walking meetings and treadmill desks, etc. As for the ME Skills - they come into play when you try to help children put their WIGGLES to work (ie not just bounce off the walls, when/where acceptable, find ways to be abole to move/interact without disruption, etc). Hope that helps, and thanks for your comment and thoughtful question
If it's a business it would be the fault of the customers for demanding a certain style of education. Businesses that don't cater to their customers go out of business.
Dr. Laura i am from india working as science teacher in high school dealing physical science, always I am also thinking on these grounds but the problem is how can we inculcate these skills into the the lives of children that is the big question? if possible cite some references-thank you
Thanks for your comment. I actually created this QI Skill framework based on all of the evidence suggesting not only that these skills are increasingly being recognized as important/valuable, but also on research related to how/when they develop (including the brain science), as well as educational efforts/learnings around their cultivation and impact on outcomes (both related to QI Skills, but also on their complement, the IQ Skills). Instead of an entirely new theory requiring its own set of (new) references/studies, think of the QI Skill framework as a translational lens thru which you can look at current trends, educational (and workforce) strategies & evidence and more easily see, categorize, understand and interpret. Examples for areas/bodies of research include everything from mindfulness and executive function research (ME) to the network(s) in the brain such as the default mode network related to creativity (WHAT IF).
SCL75: Yes especially those adults who are anonymous-timid and yet full of fantasies about how dangerous their words might be to those in power, fantasies about being rebels who take no risks.
Me - self awareness, self control, focus, attention,
We - empathy, collaboration, active listening, communication, perspective taking
Why - exploration, curiosity, asking good questions
Will - grit, perseverance, self-motivation
Wiggle - physical and intellectual restlessness, go getter, reach for the star
Wobble - agility, adaptability, learn from failure
What if - possibility skill, innovative, creativity
thank you for the summary
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Thank you for the summary! Always valuable ❤️
1) Me skills : Self Control
2) We skills : Social skills
▪︎ Me skills + We skills = Emotional Intelligence
3) Why skills : Exploration, Curiosity
4) Will skills : Drive, Determination, Perseverance
5) Wiggle skills : Physical and Intellectual restlessness
6) Wobble skills : Agility, Adaptability, Ability to face, overcome and learn from failure
7) What If Skills (Possibility Skills) : Innovation, Imagination, Creativity, Out-of-the-box Thinking
Thanks bro!!
Thank you so much
Thank you so much
You nailed what you heard. Great
Thank you!!!
Almost teared up when she said toddlers can begin to sense empathy, because my 1.5 year old saw/heard me coughing (I was choking on my spit lol) and he immediately walked over and started rubbing my back. 🥰
I can almost imagine the scene. This is so adorable👶😊
Yes, children learn best from what they observe and experience around them. I remember my nephew at two years of age quickly pulling a piece of tissue from the box when he saw his grandad began to drool (grandad had Parkinson's and he had often observe grandma doing this). He would also put his hand on his arm and "talk" to him as he had seen us doing the same.
I would have teared up too! So sweet! ❤
If you ask me, “make the most of it in life” is a universal skill-for both grownups and children-in itself
QI, IQ and EQ etc are no doubt essential. But never forget the most crucial which everyone need to have in their hearts is love, compassion, altruism, morality and justice.
This is what people have forgot
Tony Lau thank you for that. Intellects think of on intellect things, but the lack of love, morality, compassion, justice this world would not be complete. Thank you for that.
It doesn't take a doctorate degree to know there real human qualities that make all the difference in the world.
@@lancemorin3967 you're right, but unfortunately the school system dumbs us down to think only as we are taught and therefore many of us lose sight of this. I praise God he has opened my eyes to these truths and I will guide my children differently.
Also Wisdom and Courage since that also important to humanity.
All of these skills require dedicated parenting - which the corporate world undermines by demanding all of the parents time.
Yes, Parents that share the same skills.....
Me - self awareness, self control, focus, attention,
We - empathy, collaboration, active listening, communication, perspective taking
Confidence is one of the most important qualities. The ability to go after whatever they envision without a feeling of apprehension.
Yes you are right
Wow this video holds such brutal brutal honesty but that’s what I need.
Me skills - mindfulness.
We skills - relationship skills, corporation
Why? Inquisitiveness, the important thing is to never stop questioning
Will- can do, drive and determination, grit, perseverance, inquisitiveness motivation
Wiggle- physical and intellectual health can be hand in hand, try not to stop creating, it’s okay to work hard when your not feeling well but give wiggle room when you absolutely need it
Wobble- face, over come, learn failure. Adapt. Fail now, fail often, fail forward.
What if - possibilities, creativity, don’t limit their potential.
This is important knowledge for me as a grandparent to a preschooler! Thank you!
Thank you. I am on my journey of reparenting, relearning new patterns that i missed out on as a child. This was insightful.
Videos like these should be made mandatory to all new/upcoming parents. Imagine what the next future generations would look like....more peace, more love, more of what humanity has to offer.
it's will probably happen gradually but not after a few generations still. It's hard to properly parent children when the parent themselves are broken kids as well. Generational trauma is really hard to deal with and younger generations now are just starting to heal for the better.
This is so true. One of the reasons I am totally into gameschooling. We allow our learners to be children while giving them opportunity to explore and learn from outside experiences.
Wow. Amazing.
The first six years of child's life is very important before commencing their formal education . And Parents must put an effort not only in their nutritional nourishment but also in their brain nourishment.
Well said
I don't have children; however, my inner child survived, and I'm so grateful for her. This was an amazing talk! Thank you!
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Tyffany Howard Children don't fear to make mistakes and be judged as a result. They almost don't care what people will think of their actions.
Why thank you!
You're most welcome!@@laurajana4611
If only every parent could understand the necessity of Life Skills. One of the best ted talks ever heard.
Why thanks, Swati - so glad to know you found it interesting/worthwhile!!!
So important, thank you so much.
The importance of this message is , strive , choose, and grow. Wiggle and wobble simply means to STRIVE , if this element does not grow in the child , it is hard to achieve anything. Awesome job thank you so much.
Self management skills and problem solving are absolutely critical. For success in a future were vast amounts of information and technology. It's what you do with that information and the ability to navigate and be aware of details.
really inspiring. i started applying some of your techniques with my own very spirited children and noticed an immediate difference. fantastic. standing ovation!
Can you give an example of what you did?
Why thank you - so nice to know/hear!!! Like Joan below, I would be very interested to know (and you can always share more details about your thoughts/applications of QI Skills thru my website (drlaurajana.com) as I'm most interested in real-world feedback and applications!!!
Communication skills are the most important
Will be watching this with my 11 year old daughter. Thanks!
Thanks for the speech
What an awesomely inspiring speech!! So very relevant! Can resonate with all the Qi skills listed by Dr. Jana, so accurately and simply shared. Every word spoken is precious and rightly placed. Brilliant… standing ovation! Salute🙏
This is one of the most precious, valuable Ted Talks I have heard!
This is a great reflection on skills and I am of the view that in order for these skills to be effectively functional and productive we need to create a conducive work culture which is free from the flaws of politics in work places.
Just love the very clear speech . I mean when she speaks each words is so clear.
Hence this means the 21st century Education should be about ATTITUDE, CHARACTER OR INNER STRENGTH
I'd like to add that 'what if' skills show critical thinking and examination of risk vs. benefit in situations or presented opportunities
This is very educative, plus the tone of voice with which the speaker uses, makes it easy to listen to also.
na her tone of voice was boring me to oblivion 10 mins in lol
Excellent Presentation - Forward thinking.
This was the most insightful thing I have ever seen! Amazing
I really liked this talk Dr Jana. You kept it clear and simple and actually something that is attainable fir us and our children... thank you.
comprehensive list of skills...
restlessness is what I am unable to map on to known skills...
Woww.. I haven't heard a better TED talk where every word is so so insightful.. Thanks so much!!
wow - thanks for taking the time to post this. As you might imagine (but many people seem to forget/overlook), writing a substantive/meaningful TED talk while keeping it within a set/short time limit is not easy, especially for a broad topic. I tried hard to capture the essence of a much bigger picture/discussion, and am so glad to know it resonated with you!
@@laurajana4611 So very true! I remember thinking this while I was watching the video :D I can totally understand since I speak too.. Thanks once again!
Anyone else here for school? After COVID-19 Pandemic?
English for some reason
Fabulous ..each word is to be grabbed and implemented...so precise...thanks
thank you Dr. Jana
This definitely should have more views. It's just so important.
Why thanks, Doris! The whole reason I created the QI Skill framework and gave this talk was to not only help everyone understand just how important these skills are in a shared language that resonates all the way from the early childhood world to policy makers/Fortune 500 CEOs and everyone in-between, but also recognize the importance of early childhood and the opportunity to foundationally support their development for all children and far earlier than most people realize!
@@laurajana4611 Thank you for replying! Early childhood is in fact more important than most people realize. If one day I have a child your lecture will have to play a big role in the way I raise them.
@@doris4469 my pleasure, as I am always interested in constructive comments/feedback. And should you be interested (now or in the future), I expanded quite a bit on this topic in my book, The Toddler Brain: Nurture the Skills Today that Will Shape Your Child's Tomorrow!
Excellent.... I have been thinking exactly on these lines and she's verbalised it and condenced it beautifully. Would love to hear more of her
Listening to this opened my mind to new horizon of learning even in raising and relating. Thanks to the TED talks team.
Anthony Afonrinwo "The Talent Code" is a good book with many good ideas about learning which can be used by children and adults alike.
I’ve just read an excellent book called The 12 Golden Rules. It’s by a guy called Ed Wright. It points out the dozen most important personal skills that a young person needs to master in order to have an effective life.
It made my think deeply.
the family and environment are important factors in the developmental stage of children specially at a young age.
This totally make sense .. Thank you for your informative talk
Exactly what I needed to listen to today. Thank you Dr Laura
Preparing kid's for careers that might emerge in future ... wonderful
What a great vision. Thanks for the inspiration.
Change the speed to 1.5x if u want to save time for more productivity XD
Ha ha - that's what I tell people too. This talk was presented live to an international audience, so I intentionally spoke slower than usual (which in my case tends to be much faster than this!)
@@laurajana4611 yes, u are right
@@laurajana4611 Did you volunteer to give the talk or were you invited?
@@laurajana4611 You should upload this video to your RUclips channel!
Such a beautiful message. Thank you maam
james stephen Hey hey gender assigning is a violation of RUclips’s rules 🤣
Thank you this was life changing
I love your terminology. I’d love permission to use your terminology as a mindfulness educator
In a fast changing environment, we will need to work towards just-in-time learning. We have to learn to skills when we need them. This will require us to constantly learn new skills and it must be done at a much faster pace than today. We will be in an unstructured environment but we need to simulate a structured environment. This is the one skill that must be developed. It will also require infrastructure support.
以下是七种关键技能的详细总结：
1. 我技能（Me skills）：这包括自我意识、自我控制、专注和注意力。这类技能强调情商，帮助孩子掌控自己的思维、情感和行为。这也包括培养孩子的自我管理能力，如情绪控制和专注力。
2. 我们技能（We skills）：这些是人际交往技能，包括沟通、协作、移情和积极倾听。孩子通过这些技能学会与他人互动、建立关系和理解他人的感受，对于社交和情感智力至关重要。
3. 为什么技能（Y skills）：这涉及好奇心、质疑、探究和提出问题。在信息时代，提问的能力变得尤为重要，因为它有助于孩子理解世界，激发创新思维。
4. 意志技能（Will skills）：这包括毅力和坚韧不拔，以及激励和动力。这类技能帮助孩子坚持不懈，克服困难，追求目标，鼓励内在动机而不是外部奖励。
5. 扭动技能（Wiggle skills）：这指的是身体和智力的不安和活跃性。孩子需要有机会通过身体活动来探索和学习，而不是过于约束他们的行动。
6. 摇摆技能（Wobble skills）：这包括敏捷性和适应性，以及面对、克服和从失败中学习。孩子需要学会如何处理挫折和逆境，以适应迅速变化的环境。
7. 假设技能（What If skills）：这是创新、想象力、创造性思维和跳出常规思考的能力。这类技能鼓励孩子想象世界不仅仅是它现在的样子，而是它可能会成为的样子，培养创新者和梦想家。
Quite sure my Grandma raised me with these Qis - yay Grandma 🙌
Simply brilliant. Thank you so much for the insightful talk. I am an early childhood educator and I can totally connect with what you shared 😍
simple and constructive method to handle and control situation
Wonderful talk, woke me up to something I have been finding challenging, thank you Dr. Jana. One of the best points that I picked up from this talk, was that being the best parents we can be is not to maximize their possessions, but their potential. I love this point because there are only so many possessions we can provide them with (perhaps some more than others, depending on wealth levels, but as Steve Jobs had once said, before he died, that after all that success and wealth he had built, he realised that he could bring nothing away with him...and that ultimately, it was the relationships and experiences that mattered.), so as long as we provide the children with the necessary 'possessions' to enable them to build their potential, it's their potential that can take them way beyond what anyone would be able to imagine, and THAT, is the best gift we can give them!
Great message!
Thank you ! You speech is awesome!!
Thanks Maria - so glad to know you liked it as it was challenging to try to get across all I wanted to share in less than 15 minutes (and extremely jet-lagged)!
Jane analysed child skills wonderfully...
Amazing talk!
Fail forward...love it!
It's like introducing the new "programming language" to practice on future children. Raising children is usually on the base of instincts and love, noone can be so counting to raise their children so perfect as a computer
Wrong. Love don't pay the rent.
@@justrosy5 Wow i guess you buy your own "Greatest Mom" cup ha?
Wonderful!
Fidgety and restlessness are never positive. Agile body and stable mind is the key.
When I'm thinking through something creative and complicated, I tap with my left hand. Always works
The higher a person's IQ, the more they need to occupy the part of their brain they are not using so that that side will not interfere with the focus on the part of their brain they are using. Therefore, they doodle, fidget, have music going, bounce their knee, etc.
@@virginiamoss7045 Makes complete sense, thank you! That is very helpful, interesting I have been schooling myself on giftedness but what you just shared I haven't heard. Do you have any sources I could look up?
@@MountainMaid238 - Wish I could help out here, but I've been knowing that for many years. It's part of the enormous trove of brain research that has been researched for the past 20 years. Seems like I came across it in relation to either education or autism or ADHD. My memory isn't what it used to be.
Never say never...there are plenty of times when what is perceived as bad (fidgety, restlessness) actually represents inquisitiveness, curiosity, especially in young children whose enthusiasm for hands-on exploration and understanding can be "mis-judged" as disobedient and distracting. Not always, but far too often!
Great lesson ma'am... Many things for learning.
Thanks, Aarush - appreciate the kind comment, and glad you liked it!
Beautiful lecture
Informative and inspirational talk. Thanks Dr. Jana.
Better reading,speaking,hygiene, proper dress,manners,patiencd,love,punctuality,master all these everything piece of cake.🍰🎂
Skills, yes like dressing yourself!
I wonder if she knows the literal meaning of the word “success.” It means literally “to go under.”
It sounds like she is developing an inner person, but she is not!
Basically she is talking about what one needs to do to satisfy the external world to secure a job! Remember the song, “get a job, da da da da, da da da da da....”
Even rock singers in the 50’s saw through that!
She seems like an innovative thinker, but she is just a Common Sense thinker.
Let’s all be successful! Let’s all “go under.”
Go under your deepest core and find what is there....are you talking the real success is self realization
Parvez Sherani:
Who are you addressing? And are you making a statement or asking a question?
Jay Warren Clark sir to you
Parvez Sherani:
Still no reply?
What, Sir, is the formal nature of what you are doing here? JWC
Jay Warren Clark I am making a statement
it gave me ideas to write an essay on my given assignment... well said!!!
abdul faizal khan : tell what you wrote?!?
Sorry I need help on my essay so.... yea
Thank you for this awesome talk. It makes total sense to teach these Qi-skills while the children are young. However, I believe we ought to first teach and train their parents. After all, how can the parents teach their young when they have not mastered the Qi-skills themselves? It's like expecting something for nothing, right? Thanks again.
You are right
Totally agreed, the only way to effectively train these into the young, is by having the adults first at least exemplify these skills, as young children don't do as you say, they do as you do!
Agree totally. Children learn best from what they observe around them.
Children Learn What They Live By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
This video actually goes on to educate parents. Do not expect preschoolers to watch this video
@@MultiQuesithanks❤
If anyone has "will" skills, are all of those immigrant kids in our schools who learn English as a second language so that they can be incorporated into American culture and feel motivated to succeed....
Humans need the freedom to develop the whole of who they are, what they think and the effects of their actions, they need time to play, engage with one another, explore their feelings and understand their environment, learn eye to hand co-ordination, free play, and much more, and a strong sense of self and confidence in their own ability. They could learn to do simple actions around the home, how to handle relationships of parents, siblings, and once they are ready, perhaps to start learning maths and english and other subjects once they feel positive about their own individuality, they will know how to handle their feelings, they can relate how they are feeling with what appropriate action to take in a loving way, they learn facial expressions and body language before coming into a classroom. A teacher will see when a child is engaged in the subject, when the child is giving 100% attention to it, and joyful expression. Its very difficult to engage a child who isn't interested in a subject, and is bored, and they are more able to articulate this as they are more able to express themselves. Play needs to play a bigger role in the early years perhaps they will be ready by 10 years plus. I think we need confidence in self first and then the joy of learning can begin, with more life skills in the curriculum, and maths and english be secondary, if only at a basic level.
Amazing! Thanks a lot!
Plot twist: many of us are students and kids who want to learn this skills on our own😂
yes - definitely a "plot twist" in that learning/cultivating these skills is not the focus of many traditional education systems, while at the same time you are absolutely correct that they can be learned/cultivated outside of formal school settings
@@laurajana4611 yeah absolutely true
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Yes
Very nice talk.
Nice talk. Sad, there are only very few people in the audience.
Yep. People underestimate kids.
Excellent talk.
so kids need to be creative and social so they can do business and so that will keep consuming the planet. Kids need to be more human, more empathetic care less about consumption more about cooperation so everyone can have a nice life no millionaire goals
Not the point, as I actually do not personally measure a child's success in any sort of business terms. Rather, these are skills focused on being more human, interacting well and being empathetic towards others, etc, and my point is that even the business world is recognizing that having long undervalued them, these (human) skills are fundamentally important. I agree completely about less consumption, cooperation over competition, need for empathy, etc.
kids dont need brainwashing ... kids need to be a good human being and self satisfied with themselves ..... kids dont need what you think is good for them ... give and provide them whay they think is good for themselves
@@laurajana4611 thanks for the wonderful session!!
Amazing talk! I love the 'Other Skills' so important and so neglected. I too had similiar thoughts but you have worded them so well.
this is excellent
Yes I'm need all classes right now
One skill I know is necessary is mastering money. Luck does not create money. Hope doesn't either. Only Financial education will teach kids to master money. If they don't master it, they will be broke their entire life.
Financial literacy is absolutely important, and falls into the category of what I referred to as "IQ Skills" (along with literacy, numeracy, etc). As a group of skills, these make up 1/3 of the skills the World Bank (and many others) have recognized as critically important to success in the 21st Century. So I agree with you in that regard.....this talk was just focused on the "other", 2/3rds of the important skills that are all too often ignored/disregarded or considered less important. Additionally, without the QI Skills (most notably ME Skills), it's very difficult to "master money" (in the sense of controlling one's impulses, thinking into the future and planning one's actions/saving accordingly, etc)
Good explanation
QI = Quite Interesting, a light-hearted quiz show in Britain.
The Wiggles = an Australian children’s TV show. Yes, it’s restless fun.
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Fantastic talk about emotional and social importance. Spot on!
7 skills:
1. Me
2. We
3. Why
4. Will
5. Wiggle
6. Wobble
7. What if
Yg
Maybe a word about the title of the speech "Skills Every Child..."
It's a great speech, however, the majority of kids will not be in developed countries within the next decades, but living in developing, low income countries! So may I be allowed and add to this another fact of details: over the past decade, aid funding for education (in Africa) has declined to less than ten% (10!) percent of global official development assistance, leaving much of the financing to national governments in Africa already strained by conflicting priorities.
The Education Commission estimates that intl. financing for education will need to increase from current levels of 12$ billion/year to $89 billion per year by 2030 to cover the basic(!) education costs in low-income countries!
Furthermore, approx. 120M kids are yet not in School in Africa alone!
Aside of this, we teach and prepare children not for the challenges to come. In this respect, Solar Schools, and smart farming initiatives are of utmost importance to create a new form of education to prepare children in Africa (and elsewhere) for the 21st century and the challenges to come.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful post! My efforts/goals actually extend well beyond the "developed" world as I am committed to advocating for investments in all children, and my "skills" focus is not exclusive to those taught formally. It's actually much more about recognizing (and funding/supporting) efforts that ensure safe, caring and nurturing environments for all children.
@@laurajana4611 Namaskaar Laura ji again. We are working on the same matter as Africans are going through. In India we have Banvasi Raksha Parivaar who is continuously helping Aadiwasis ( people living in dense woods) in all ways- respect, dignity, self employment, culture, heritage and lot more. Please let me know if you are interested in meeting.
GREAT TALKKKK!
Loved the talk which gave a great perspective on bringing up kids. Question - Isn't Allowing kids to give into their wiggles is in direct contrast to me skills which is meant to teach kids to keep control on their impulses? How should one keep this balance?
This is a great question, and even better because you recognized that it's a balance! For the concept of WIGGLE, what I based it on is the understanding that things like creative thinking and engagement are enhanced by physical interaction and movement, and also on the recognition that some children literally can't sit still well, and if they are forced too when it's not necessary, it actually detracts from their ability to think/concentrate/learn. What I also also tell people in the (longer) talks I give on this subject is that letting kids WIGGLE does not simply mean let them bounce off the walls, since they clearly don't learn that way either. The example I like to use with respect to young children is when a child has a hard time sitting still to listen to a story, and all too often ends up distracting others, being scolded, and certainly not retaining much/engaging well with the story/book. In this case, I tell parents/teachers to try seeing if perhaps the child simply needs something to "fidget" with (small, handheld, non-distracting). For others, who really don't sit still well, letting them stand up and/or choosing to read them a book that allows them to interact physically (my common example is "Jump, Frog, Jump" - let kids get up and jump). If you think about adults, by the way - think about the recognition that hands-on activities/manipulatives on tables at conferences make them way more engaging, and that people are turning to walking meetings and treadmill desks, etc. As for the ME Skills - they come into play when you try to help children put their WIGGLES to work (ie not just bounce off the walls, when/where acceptable, find ways to be abole to move/interact without disruption, etc). Hope that helps, and thanks for your comment and thoughtful question
3.2=4
A wonderful talk.😃
Sorry! I say that school business is spoiling every student in the name of competitions with other schools.
The students love it and it is getting them ready for the competitive world
If it's a business it would be the fault of the customers for demanding a certain style of education. Businesses that don't cater to their customers go out of business.
@@jimmypchacko Few of THESE customers have control over the product. It is shoved down your throat
Yes the self management is going to be survival. FYI your children’s generation will be struggling to survive and not worried with a career.
A wonderful spoke
Dr. Laura i am from india working as science teacher in high school dealing physical science, always I am also thinking on these grounds but the problem is how can we inculcate these skills into the the lives of children that is the big question? if possible cite some references-thank you
Thanks for your comment. I actually created this QI Skill framework based on all of the evidence suggesting not only that these skills are increasingly being recognized as important/valuable, but also on research related to how/when they develop (including the brain science), as well as educational efforts/learnings around their cultivation and impact on outcomes (both related to QI Skills, but also on their complement, the IQ Skills). Instead of an entirely new theory requiring its own set of (new) references/studies, think of the QI Skill framework as a translational lens thru which you can look at current trends, educational (and workforce) strategies & evidence and more easily see, categorize, understand and interpret. Examples for areas/bodies of research include everything from mindfulness and executive function research (ME) to the network(s) in the brain such as the default mode network related to creativity (WHAT IF).
Awesome explanation... To the point... Thank You... :)
Before worrying about the future many young ppl n children dont even master the basic life skills need.
Like patience.....
Gracias por aclararnos algo tan importante. La ignorancia causa tantos estragos!!!!!
Parents and teachers have to participate to train children's brain
This is good for adults too
SCL75:
Yes especially those adults who are anonymous-timid and yet full of fantasies about how dangerous their words might be to those in power, fantasies about being rebels who take no risks.
Great talk
THIS IS GOOD FOR KIDS