Basically low investment: she's hot and cold, love-bombs you one minute, ghosts you the next, reappears after weeks of silence saying she's been thinking about you a lot then disappears again, calls you when she's lonely, you notice certain nights/days of the week she's bored and that's the only time she calls/texts. Notice how it makes you feel too. You'll be confused, don't know where you stand, you'll feel hooked/addicted because you get a fix of validation and then she's gone again. Bottom line is if someone really cares then their actions will match their words. Good luck guys.
True, Unfortunately there seem to be many, many women who are non-committal just to initially meet up. It really is like pulling teeth. You shouldn't have to feel like you are bending over backwards for her attention. But such is the way now that a lot of women are just attention seekers and are soon distracted by another guy, then another, then another... It is like a losing battle to keep a woman's attention that you simply can't win.
4 Signs She's Wasting your Time. Courtney Ryan 1- Texting buddy 2- 3:43 A Fresh Breakup 3- 5:05 The LJBF(Let's just be Friends) 4- 6:14 She has a Boyfriend
It's pretty simple, if a girl is constantly messaging you and doesn't want to hang out. Move on! Like how many millions of other women out there. Don't get hung up guys.
@@kjhuang If none of them want to hangout with you, than perhaps it's a personal issue that isn't being addressed. Perhaps you're not making a strong first impression or portraying attractive qualities. Also, you have to ask yourself why a woman would want to hang out or go on a date with you in the first place -and it has to honest. Number one.
@VNB Slash Also, goes back to honesty with yourself. Day to day, how many women do you interact with? How do you engage with women, and are you showing interest in the right ways? In dating, you'll face rejection and for men generally we don't like that. We want to win. But the 1st or 2nd women you talk to sparks may not fly and that's just probability. Not a means to be discouraged.
She’s so right. For me whenever I have to question anything it’s never a good sign. When things just flow naturally and never have to question anything and just act on things that’s a good sign.
‘She’s got a boyfriend’...usually a bad sign 😂 Seriously though, I wasted time on an attention seeker in my very early twenties. Must be even harder for the young generation these days.
Probably easier to fall for all the games etc when young as you lack the experience to read the signs and recognize the patterns. Sometimes we just learn the hard way sadly.
"She's gotta boyfriend is a bad sign" ?!? Try "I've gotta a husband ... " Best love making I've had. Why wasting time? Dump the women who have no moral foundation. Even if the moral foundation is an "oral" foundation; the inspiration from good talk, a good mind can be very helpful.
@@urlauburlaub2222 when girls talk to guys as a emotional boyfriend when they have a boyfriend, often times it means that their boyfriend isn't doing their job properly. The second guy is doing the things that the girl wishes her boyfriend would do so its actually a good sign that you are boyfriend material however she won't commit
This WHOLE CHANNEL is eerily relevant to my current situation. Just ended a three year relationship with a woman that used me just to get back with her narcissistic ex.
If she has a boyfriend, fiance or husband do not get involved in any way. Have some self-respect, do NOT be a beta orbiter in the friendzone. Its a waste of your time and energy.
@@cbrown6848 Yes, I am aware of that. I think most have just started their journey of understanding. How basic is it to say "don't date a cheater", but a lot of young guys don't get that. Don't date women with emotional problems. Men can't fix broken women.
Yeah what is with that? If she is in a relationship you can never build a solid one with her since the (emotional) risk is all on you. Move on. Plenty of others out there
@Face ME If she is getting a divorce why get yourself in the middle of that trainwreck? This is called a rebound relationship.and they are guaranteed to be messy and unstable. It takes time for both men and women to recover from a failed marriage. Just a bad idea.
I actually appreciate the fact that there are women out there trying to help out guys and letting them know the issues they could be putting themselves into.
Thank you for making this one Courtney. I think your videos are great, and this one really hit home for me. I had been getting to know a girl I work with, and I felt that she was giving me a lot of special attention and clear signs that she liked me (my therapist agreed). So I started flirting back a little, and after about a year I was falling for her pretty hard (and thought she felt the same😔 ). Then I found out all this time she was in a relationship, and is now engaged. It felt like getting punched in the stomach. I will never pursue someone who is not single (it's not my style), but it still hurts since I grew attached and felt we had formed a strong bond and found chemistry with one another. Your video is helping me find closure from the situation. If she flirts with other guys while engaged, she probably isn't the most loyal partner. I'm still struggling with my feelings, but your words have helped me remove my rose-colored glasses, so thank you.
I’m kinda in a similar situation like yours but this is with a guy 3 years older than me I used to know from uni. Same thing. He gave me some special attention for many months. Only to find out he had an S.O. and worst part is that he planned to get engaged to that person. I may be a girl but Courtney’s video gave me closure as well. I am never the type to pursue someone who is taken. The fact this guy never told me he was in relationship to begin with is a RED FLAG 🚩
I had one who did this, and she was even sending me a selfie every day. She would also act upset if she didn't get to see me. She'd also often say that we should do certain things together, but would never actually do any of them with me.
I was talking to a girl for 6 weeks long distance and I became invested in her; she later ghosted me. Found out she's sleeping around with married men. Not worth it.
Same, got played for 2 mouths by one of those damaged goods with an army of guy "friends" around her from a long distance, the funny part is she ghosted me on both telegram and Instagram but a year later and she still follows me on Instagram watching my stories, i just kept her to feel sorry for her own broken ass later seeing my life going fire and kickass lol.
Dude the same thing happened to me recently! I don't know about the sleeping around part, but I was talking to this bombshell on snapchat; She seemed like a real compassionate person, thought she was really into me, said she wanted visit me (she was even the one to bring it up first), agreed to be in a relationship with me, we went on and on about how much we liked each other and all that good stuff and then - Boom. Nothin'. Total silence. And without even any warning really; nothing too weird had happened leading up to that or anything
I was in highschool I used to like a girl. She also seems to like me back. She used to talk me almost Everytime but while texting when I asked her to go out or hangout but She immediately made unbelievable excuse. Thanks Courtney for helping with amazing tips.
women wanting to go home with a guy after talking to him for a little is a girl wasting his time. i've met several of those type of women. they start talking to me and are willing to go home with me less than an hour after meeting them. i'm not about that since i know that it's not going to lead to anything but a one night stand. they are either fresh out of a relationship or wanting sexual type of attention to get back at her man for not satisfying her. i actually had one woman tell me she was living with a guy she was practically married to and she had kids. she said the guy was too busy into playing video games and wasn't giving her enough attention and wanted me to give her what he wasn't. i'm glad i avoided that. there are a lot of other women i've met like that. still hoping to meet a normal woman in the world.
We're already aware of these 4 things. Just as we are guilty of still putting up with them at one time or another. But more so guilty of knowing not to put up with them, and still doing so. If she's hot, we're just dumb sometimes. And we still need someone to put it all into perspective...since we obviously don't always listen to ourselves and gamble with our own emotions knowing the odds are definitely not in our favor. Solid vid.
No, she is the worst. She has sold SIMPs like you the lie that all women are perfect, flawless, innocent, flawless angels who are never shallow, judgemental, dishonest or mean.
This video really made me feel better! I was talking to this girl for months and she always made excuses whenever I asked to meet her. Last week in a heated argument, I told her I am leaving country and she hangs up and blocks me everywhere. Should I feel guilty? I don't know but I have decided to not reach her out at all. Courtney Ryan thank you🙏
I think the best sign is to listen to your intuition. Once you've been with a couple of girls who have 'burning desire' for you, you can benchmark behaviour. Sure, not all girls are the same but you can't fake true desire or how far someone is willing to go for you.
I had the attention situation happen with me . A friend of mine was in a relationship with a good looking girl, long distance relationship with her. The relationship ended she started looking for attention and I was the one she picked. This video clears my mind and answered my question. Thanks again Cortney I feel relief because I always wondered why she was seeking out attention.
Good video. I was in a relationship with a girl for a couple months. After breaking up I why no contact, and when she said she wanted to her friends, I thought "why not". Well it turned into her always complaining about her life, every day. I was expected to sit there and listen, but she would never hang out, always talked about herself. It was like being a bf without getting anything out of it that I wanted. *DO NOT RECOMMEND*
A lot of women string you along as a backup or fill in between guys they want.sometimes they just want to get their ex jealous and is playing both of you
You continually amaze me with your depth of understanding on relationships. Thank you for sharing your gift. It has immensley helped me understand my emotions, failings and motives of my ex partner.
Ohhh I wish I saw this video a few years back, All the points you just mentioned in the video were so much accurate, I have been friends with this type of girl. She already had a bf who dumped her eventually, She said let's just be friends while flirting and giving mixed signals (That confused me a lot, and I was dumb). Whenever I asked her out, she always made excuses. Whenever we both sit somewhere in private in college days and whenever one of our friends spotted us together, she would get uncomfortable acting like we are not together we are just chatting, etc. Anyhow, I had good friends, they tried to help me too. And I also closed my trust and attraction to her. The funny part is that I started to like her cause I thought she is a loyal, simple, and beautiful girl and her bf doesn't deserve it because he doesn't give her attention. But, I guess her bf also got annoyed by her and that's why dumped her. After that incident, I just got more serious in my studies and career. But, I can identify these types of girls easily.
I use to be this guy with girl’s always friend zoned or even being that guy who would talk to a girl who had a boyfriend especially because I was the good nice guy and they would come to me for all the advice and problems in their relationship but after awhile it gets annoying. But I’m an introvert and comfortable on my own but me and my girlfriend are long distance and she sends me videos and pictures and love letters all the time I plan to visit her that’s my end goal but we also plan dates such as watching movies together yes we text back in forth but I like talking to my girlfriend and she enjoys our talks as well. Great video Courtney 😊❤️❤️
I recently had a girl message me out of NOWHERE who I barely know and basically was hinting/ telling me she wanted something with me and complimenting me nonstop. Def red flag of a girl looking to rebound.
It happens all the time. But you can check one obvious sign about hanging out.. If she is not making a genuine effort to make time for you, she’s full of it. This is deep down why I’m not a fan of texting and social media because 9/10 times I know what time it is And after she agrees to make time,if she is making time for you, here is sign 2. If she is not genuinely engaged in the moment with you, there are other places she would likely rather be and she is likely there for some other reason (ie foodie call) Those are the two big ways to screen them out and if she passes those two, keep vetting for the other flags, if any. But those two will allow you to weed out an overwhelming majority of the low quality. Don’t feel bad about seeing it that way. There’s a good chance they think the same about you but who cares. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind
This Video is 2 years old and yet has found me at the perfect time randomly somehow, I’ve been talking to a girl for like 2 months now we talk pretty much all day everyday but she has a boyfriend she claims she doesn’t want to be with anymore and has said a few times she wants to be with me but hasn’t actually made the effort to make that happen, she claims she feels trapped with him so feels like she can’t leave and yet I’m the “2nd choice” if that makes sense, we have met up loads had alot of fun and been intimate, but recently more so as well I’ve had the situations of “oh I’m waiting for him to message me but if he doesn’t massage me I will come see you” so this video has made my situation so much clearer thank you. I need to get out of there asap.
In a way, the only difficult part of dating is finding someone who is not playing games. Because when two people who are fully committed to following Christ, are ready for lifelong commitment, and are willing to pursue each other in an intentional, God-honoring way, that kind of relationship is going to be successful 100% of the time. Be that kind of person, find that kind of person, and get married already.
It sucks when you don’t know you’re being used solely for attention and she has zero intention of meeting you. I used to get really bummed out when that happened, but now I view it more optimistically. When I see that behavior, I know we’re not compatible and I move on. Thank you Courtney for helping us men out!
Still have trouble not focusing on one person at a time. My mistake is: People move fast and I try to take it easy, but my feelings get involved too fast. I think valuing my time more means not waiting on one when I can talk to another, but that also means acting fast.
If your texting/chatting with a woman and she doesn’t want to hang out or always has other plans after you try and plan something, you should have a one strike rule in effect. It’s done and don’t respond when they message.
I have a friend like Courtney - calm, straight look, not that emotional, serious, earth ground vibe personality. Courtney is a good girl. I watch this channel because of the host not that of the topics because 80% I know the info by myself and sometimes she say something that is interesting to me.
I was the number 3. She didn’t has a boyfriend, but first she was okay with me cutting the cord but when I was ready to talk with her, she was super fucking mad. I dodged a bullet.
The situation where you plan something and the girl is accepting the plan doesn't even show up just happened to me and each time something like that happen I'm becoming closer and closer to just start pushing all women out of my life at this point since this is the only thing I get when tryoing to just meet a woman
Went through this twice the last couple of years. The one a couple of years ago was the first time it really happened to me, hit me hard. The second time,, a different girl, and ongoing, I am of the opinion that if she texts me I'll text back but I won't put any feelings into it. I figure if she really liked me or cared, she would find excuses to hang out with me instead of ghosting that message to meet up.
I just went through this !! I needed to hear this, even though it still smarts. At least I did have an end goal which finally led to us parting company . Thanks Courtney.
This video is definitely true. At the same time though some guys also want attention too, human beings are social creatures. In my opinion, if you know a woman is talking to you only for attention, take advantage of it, have fun. BUT DON’T SPEND MONEY ON HER OR GO OUT OF YOUR WAY FOR HER. Don’t become some reserved asshole and distrust all women if you get played, just get smarter to know the signs and get something out of the situation. After all, hating all women because you don’t want to “simp” is just another way of saying you had your little heart broken so badly you don’t want to try again and be smarter about who you devote your time and money to.
Pro tipp: If you know a girl has a boyfriend and is still hitting on you, run away. She belongs to the streets and would do the same when you're together with her.
Girl who I was interested said she had a boyfriend, which I should’ve known because she wasn’t responding to my snap dm’s. Long story short soon as she said that I deleted her from my line of sight. Just move on brothers there’s better and more important work to complete.
I lost 50lbs in about two years, got it he gym 4-5 times weekly, and have a solid job and in school full time. I don’t waste my time with girls who want me to be their simp or emotional tampon. If she likes me, I like her and their is mutual chemistry and respect, she will get the gift of my time and admiration. My confidence boost has made realize what I like like in a girl.
I’m reminded of that song “ I know what boys like” by the Waitresses. Listen to that one a few times, that’s what they really think. She thinks you’re a sucker.
Some how some way I kinda found myself in similar predicaments in regards to this topic, jus had to let em go and accept them for who they are … as much I had to swallow up my pride, it was for the best .. thx
The LJBF scenario is a good one bring up as well. This one out of a lot of them already designates where someone stands. That's what I tell my buddies at work when they talk to me about some girls they are "talking" to. Simple advise I gave them is that if they see her more than just a friend, they should reject the offer and part ways. Don't want to compromise yourself or anything else over something you can't have but will still actively pursue. Basically, just move on
I finally accepted to cut the cord between me and my interest. We had good chemistry, good rapport, make her laugh everytime I see her and all that. Her bf broke up with her and her best friend told me to ask her out in a months time. However when I did she made excuses or ignored me. The message is loud and clear but what is weird is she gets jealous and visibly upset when I talk to other women or laugh too much with them. When I became more distant she asks me why I am not making her laugh or talking to her frequently. The last thing she did was get very upset I didn't say hi within literal 2 seconds of seeing her, told her I wasn't feeling my best and put her hand on me and comforted me. As she walked by someone called her out and stopped beside me and grabbed my waist across my back. She does so many things that most typical women do to men they like. She doesn't want to hang out/date but desperately wants to keep me and is possessive of me like I'm her attention chew toy. Yesterday one of my female friends overheard her complaining to her best friend that I need to stop hitting on her and asking her out and her friend says she has but it's literally the exact opposite. She hypes me up and tells me all about her as if I have a chance. I hate this! I can't agree more than to make your intentions very clear and never to form any emotional attachment until you're officially a thing or else it becomes so hard to forget and ignore her but I must. Say "NO" to these chicks and their toxic friends.
I truly appreciate you Courtney making this video because it's something that happens a lot and now i can easily spot these type of girls. That 1st sign/point you made helps so much. But yeah it's definitely attention amd that's why i literally had to distance myself from like 3 girls this summer. Sadly so many girls are like this nowadays and it just sucks. But that's usually cuz they have a bf or tons of options too. Anyways i feel better and now i can move on to better girls. Have a great day 💖
Thank god for the red pill, let's chase greatness. By the way there's something about the music on the background just like 2 notes but put me in a peaceful mode, keep up the good work Cristine👍.
Courtney I just had this happen to me girl from work was dating a guy and work flirt with me every day we even hung out together alone and gave each other birthday gifts. She lead me on heavy and I developed feelings for her but was major confused all the time thinking she felt the same way about me but was keeping it a secret. Things escalated and she spun it around to say that I’m to emotionally involved and blah blah like she did nothing wrong and now I can watch her at work not a week after this flirting with 5 other guys. I don’t get what part of some girls think it’s ok to put a guy through hell. I’m a shy guy and not great with women so I couldn’t pick up on the signs she was just using me.
Attention and Rebound, JBF Men do it as well, to be honest. I do not know about You Guys, but I stay away from dating apps. Call me old fashion, but I prefer meeting people in Person. 75% of the Communication is non verbal.
I think I’m doing slightly better in the real world. It is funny that I’m on a dating app just for kicks and saw a girl I know that viewed my profile. She shot me down probably 7 years ago via text. Now she’s “separated” and has two kids. If she hit me up I’d hookup but absolutely couldn’t date her seriously all things considered. Call me mean but I’m the only one considering my own benefit.
Ouch huge pill to swallow . I was wondering why my crush texts and flirts then cancells last minute . She begs me to take her out then Saturday comes and " I'm too sleepy today". So I gotta remove the one girl I like from my life great....
Weeks? I have had a chat relationship with a woman for 4 years, and we never had phonetime or facetime. I asked her at least 50 times for one or the other and she always says her management does not let her have phonetime or facetime
Totally agree with all your points.. spot on, went through the experience of being the 'filler guy' Never again will that happen. On a side note, I still cant believe you are 25 years old LOL. you are very mature for your age.
people do that? The new-school dating game is borderline sociopathic. I'll move to a remote location and become a struggling author. (proof that I watched the video wrong and got nothing from her wise words)
I have cut off women in the past after 3 times they cancel (one of them was without ever meeting the girl in person) just calling to get attention with the intentions to flake on both of them
Oh man… this is hard to watch. I admittedly did ALL of these things in my early twenties. Luckily most of us women mature and find healthy relationships. ❤️ Good luck guys ❤️
I got the girl but my ex was this type of girl, so even if you get them, it's still a waste of time as your attention will never be enough and she will always be seeking it from somewhere. You need to find a mentally secure\stable woman but these days women aren't told to work through their issues or improve themselves, but rather find the kind of guy that will put up with them. Honestly the dating market right now is quite toxic, so the lesson in it all is to be more selective and don't waste your time on people that need to still take time to work on themselves.
I wish that I should’ve seen this video from 2 years ago but my ex crush has hurted my feelings so badly and doesn’t value me because of that I was doing struggling in my studies and I suffered from months I’m currently trying recover and succeed my goals and do things I love doing, doing very well in my studies, becoming a scientist and becoming a content creator in the future
1. Never take another mans girl and 2. If you’re reaching out via text or social media more than her…she’s not as into you. Should be about 50/50. If she’s single and it just flows naturally that means there’s something there and you’re compatible.
It's how the game is rigged. You can thank 50 years of feminism for most if not all of this mess. Teaching a certain group of people that they don't have to be held accountable for whatever actions they partake in is a recipe for disaster.
Blame hookup culture and social media for that. You'd have a better chance of winning big in the lottery than finding a high value woman that doesn't have a high body count.
Totally agree with you, gents, even the most loyal woman can get corrupted with this "modern culture". It's like a kid at a candy store with endeless varieties popping everywhere they look.
@@ericv5435 YIKES Just go to nice places instead of dating apps, bro. Meet through mutual friends or community service or something. Of course people want to hook up on hook up apps. Also, even if someone has slept with many people, if they choose you, they choose you. That isn’t a commentary on their ability to be loyal and loving.
@@mintyhippo8125 I deleted all dating apps last year. All my friends are either nerdy guys who don't know women or women who aren't interested in me. The only way I can meet women is at work
This girl in the gym would go alone to the gym and for 4 months never did I see her bring a partner to the gym. She would talk to me and get by me when she could, I decided to straight up ask her out I did not ever asked for her number or anything. When I asked, she was supposedly “engaged”.that told me everything I needed to know.
Basically low investment: she's hot and cold, love-bombs you one minute, ghosts you the next, reappears after weeks of silence saying she's been thinking about you a lot then disappears again, calls you when she's lonely, you notice certain nights/days of the week she's bored and that's the only time she calls/texts.
Notice how it makes you feel too. You'll be confused, don't know where you stand, you'll feel hooked/addicted because you get a fix of validation and then she's gone again.
Bottom line is if someone really cares then their actions will match their words.
Good luck guys.
Well put
Sounds almost borderline.
Well said!
@@NicolasWilson1986 With BPD they're either love-bombing or hate-bombing, they don't just ignore you IME.
Sounds like male lead (bad boy trope) on Wattpad. 😂 I'm sorry but I have to say this.
If it feels like pulling teeth to get her to hang out with you, you're wasting your time
Been through that shit before it sucks when I didn't know. Constant excuses and sidelining, just let her go she's not that interested in you.
@@bricklayerlzdp9825 Thank God for that.
Trust us,..... She's not worth the "Knutt"!
But what if you are her dentist and she may have cavities.
True, Unfortunately there seem to be many, many women who are non-committal just to initially meet up. It really is like pulling teeth. You shouldn't have to feel like you are bending over backwards for her attention. But such is the way now that a lot of women are just attention seekers and are soon distracted by another guy, then another, then another... It is like a losing battle to keep a woman's attention that you simply can't win.
4 Signs She's Wasting your Time. Courtney Ryan
1- Texting buddy
2- 3:43 A Fresh Breakup
3- 5:05 The LJBF(Let's just be Friends)
4- 6:14 She has a Boyfriend
U r Legend. The next hit movie, featuring You.
*She IS the boyfriend
It's pretty simple, if a girl is constantly messaging you and doesn't want to hang out. Move on! Like how many millions of other women out there. Don't get hung up guys.
Yeah "millions of other women out there" is useless if NONE OF THEM ever want to hang out.
@@kjhuang exactly what i wanted to comment
@@kjhuang If none of them want to hangout with you, than perhaps it's a personal issue that isn't being addressed. Perhaps you're not making a strong first impression or portraying attractive qualities. Also, you have to ask yourself why a woman would want to hang out or go on a date with you in the first place -and it has to honest. Number one.
@Ballystarr Have an abundant mindset. Know your self worth.
@VNB Slash Also, goes back to honesty with yourself. Day to day, how many women do you interact with? How do you engage with women, and are you showing interest in the right ways? In dating, you'll face rejection and for men generally we don't like that. We want to win. But the 1st or 2nd women you talk to sparks may not fly and that's just probability. Not a means to be discouraged.
A woman that wants to spent time with you, will do so. If not, let it be. It’s a hard lesson to learn guys but you will discover now or later.
100%. My first gf was begging to go out with me. When you experience this it becomes crystal clear when women want to spend time together
The timing of this video was eerily relevant for me.
That’s because we’re all wasting our time with someone currently
Fellas... young females have almost endless choices... thanks to society and simps... but it's not hard to tell how she feels
When she is flaking on a simp she is also simultaneously being played by the Chad she really wants... all while saying there are no decent guys left
There are literally dozens of males that would treat her well but she wants the hot Chad and dismisses the other males
🔮
Seriously some of this stuff is very disrespectful. Fellas please don’t tolerate the foolishness.
I’m glad this woman is trying to help guys out here.
The girls in these videos really need to grow up
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 it's better if you tell them face to face at least something might stick.
This info would have really helped me out about 30 years ago. God, I was such a simp!
She’s so right. For me whenever I have to question anything it’s never a good sign. When things just flow naturally and never have to question anything and just act on things that’s a good sign.
‘She’s got a boyfriend’...usually a bad sign 😂
Seriously though, I wasted time on an attention seeker in my very early twenties. Must be even harder for the young generation these days.
Probably easier to fall for all the games etc when young as you lack the experience to read the signs and recognize the patterns. Sometimes we just learn the hard way sadly.
As a teen, this is true. You can’t even have a genuine friendship with most girls because what they want to do is use guys for attention.
"She's gotta boyfriend is a bad sign" ?!? Try "I've gotta a husband ... " Best love making I've had. Why wasting time?
Dump the women who have no moral foundation. Even if the moral foundation is an "oral" foundation; the inspiration from good talk, a good mind can be very helpful.
Im in my early twenties. It is.
@@urlauburlaub2222 when girls talk to guys as a emotional boyfriend when they have a boyfriend, often times it means that their boyfriend isn't doing their job properly. The second guy is doing the things that the girl wishes her boyfriend would do so its actually a good sign that you are boyfriend material however she won't commit
It’s ironic because the woman that want attention but doesn’t want to hang out are the same women that cries ‘where’s all the good men at 😢’
She want Alpha, but she is not good enough for that boy. 🚮
Don’t victimize yourself just accept it as it is and don’t waste time thinking about it
This WHOLE CHANNEL is eerily relevant to my current situation. Just ended a three year relationship with a woman that used me just to get back with her narcissistic ex.
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry that happened to you!
*Knowing when she’s just keeping you on the hook, like only reaching out when she needs something, is a huge step in valuing yourself!*
Good to see someone calling out toxic behavior in women! Thank you!
It's never a waste of time when you're watching a Courtney Ryan video!
Simp 101
If she has a boyfriend, fiance or husband do not get involved in any way.
Have some self-respect, do NOT be a beta orbiter in the friendzone. Its a waste of your time and energy.
Most dudes on this channel are beta simps if you haven't noticed 😅🤣😅🤣
@@cbrown6848 Yes, I am aware of that. I think most have just started their journey of understanding.
How basic is it to say "don't date a cheater", but a lot of young guys don't get that. Don't date women with emotional problems. Men can't fix broken women.
Yeah what is with that? If she is in a relationship you can never build a solid one with her since the (emotional) risk is all on you. Move on. Plenty of others out there
@@rickyaz8640 I think we are saying the same thing. I am just making it super clear for unaware newbies.
@Face ME If she is getting a divorce why get yourself in the middle of that trainwreck? This is called a rebound relationship.and they are guaranteed to be messy and unstable. It takes time for both men and women to recover from a failed marriage. Just a bad idea.
I actually appreciate the fact that there are women out there trying to help out guys and letting them know the issues they could be putting themselves into.
Just friend-zoned someone and am beyond burned out. I can't go on anymore after all these years. It's no longer healthy for me. I tried.
are you single now?
Thank you for making this one Courtney. I think your videos are great, and this one really hit home for me. I had been getting to know a girl I work with, and I felt that she was giving me a lot of special attention and clear signs that she liked me (my therapist agreed). So I started flirting back a little, and after about a year I was falling for her pretty hard (and thought she felt the same😔 ). Then I found out all this time she was in a relationship, and is now engaged. It felt like getting punched in the stomach. I will never pursue someone who is not single (it's not my style), but it still hurts since I grew attached and felt we had formed a strong bond and found chemistry with one another. Your video is helping me find closure from the situation. If she flirts with other guys while engaged, she probably isn't the most loyal partner. I'm still struggling with my feelings, but your words have helped me remove my rose-colored glasses, so thank you.
I'm in the same situation now... I hope I'll get over it, it's been 10 months
I’m kinda in a similar situation like yours but this is with a guy 3 years older than me I used to know from uni.
Same thing. He gave me some special attention for many months. Only to find out he had an S.O. and worst part is that he planned to get engaged to that person.
I may be a girl but Courtney’s video gave me closure as well. I am never the type to pursue someone who is taken. The fact this guy never told me he was in relationship to begin with is a RED FLAG 🚩
I had one who did this, and she was even sending me a selfie every day. She would also act upset if she didn't get to see me. She'd also often say that we should do certain things together, but would never actually do any of them with me.
I was talking to a girl for 6 weeks long distance and I became invested in her; she later ghosted me. Found out she's sleeping around with married men. Not worth it.
How’d you find out?
@@ciegosanchez5289 Had a friend that works with her tell me.
That's disturbing. Sorry things ended up that way but you definitely dodged a bullet with that one😰
Same, got played for 2 mouths by one of those damaged goods with an army of guy "friends" around her from a long distance, the funny part is she ghosted me on both telegram and Instagram but a year later and she still follows me on Instagram watching my stories, i just kept her to feel sorry for her own broken ass later seeing my life going fire and kickass lol.
Dude the same thing happened to me recently! I don't know about the sleeping around part, but I was talking to this bombshell on snapchat; She seemed like a real compassionate person, thought she was really into me, said she wanted visit me (she was even the one to bring it up first), agreed to be in a relationship with me, we went on and on about how much we liked each other and all that good stuff and then - Boom. Nothin'. Total silence. And without even any warning really; nothing too weird had happened leading up to that or anything
I was in highschool I used to like a girl. She also seems to like me back. She used to talk me almost Everytime but while texting when I asked her to go out or hangout but She immediately made unbelievable excuse.
Thanks Courtney for helping with amazing tips.
I love how Courtney tells it like it is. She gives straight facts
she's awesome
I've only asked out one woman in my life. And she laughed in my face, since then I won't ever ask another ever again, if they want me they can ask me.
As always good advice. Also, don't be the guy doing this to women yourself. You don't want to be played or used, so don't play or use yourself.
I knew about this already... but i needed a voice of clarity to keep me moving
women wanting to go home with a guy after talking to him for a little is a girl wasting his time. i've met several of those type of women. they start talking to me and are willing to go home with me less than an hour after meeting them. i'm not about that since i know that it's not going to lead to anything but a one night stand. they are either fresh out of a relationship or wanting sexual type of attention to get back at her man for not satisfying her. i actually had one woman tell me she was living with a guy she was practically married to and she had kids. she said the guy was too busy into playing video games and wasn't giving her enough attention and wanted me to give her what he wasn't. i'm glad i avoided that. there are a lot of other women i've met like that. still hoping to meet a normal woman in the world.
We're already aware of these 4 things. Just as we are guilty of still putting up with them at one time or another. But more so guilty of knowing not to put up with them, and still doing so. If she's hot, we're just dumb sometimes. And we still need someone to put it all into perspective...since we obviously don't always listen to ourselves and gamble with our own emotions knowing the odds are definitely not in our favor. Solid vid.
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Good vid for guys who haven’t learned yet about how women collect orbiters for attention/narcissistic supply.
Everyone's favorite big sis uploads again!
She's a gem ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Not simpin but she's seriously high quality.
Yeahh...... She just saved me from making a huge mistake... 🔥🔥🔥
@@ThatShitGood that's not simping, that's just a compliment
Courtney is the best thing that has happened to us on RUclips.
No, she is the worst. She has sold SIMPs like you the lie that all women are perfect, flawless, innocent, flawless angels who are never shallow, judgemental, dishonest or mean.
@@Mogamishu another insecure lonely man. Get lost dude. If you hate her gtfo of her channel.
@EJ Everlast I'll ask you the same, show me a video where she says women are perfect, flawless, innocent, flawless angels.
Never clicked so fast. Needed this now lol.
This video really made me feel better! I was talking to this girl for months and she always made excuses whenever I asked to meet her. Last week in a heated argument, I told her I am leaving country and she hangs up and blocks me everywhere. Should I feel guilty? I don't know but I have decided to not reach her out at all. Courtney Ryan thank you🙏
I think the best sign is to listen to your intuition. Once you've been with a couple of girls who have 'burning desire' for you, you can benchmark behaviour. Sure, not all girls are the same but you can't fake true desire or how far someone is willing to go for you.
I had the attention situation happen with me . A friend of mine was in a relationship with a good looking girl, long distance relationship with her. The relationship ended she started looking for attention and I was the one she picked. This video clears my mind and answered my question. Thanks again Cortney I feel relief because I always wondered why she was seeking out attention.
Good video. I was in a relationship with a girl for a couple months. After breaking up I why no contact, and when she said she wanted to her friends, I thought "why not". Well it turned into her always complaining about her life, every day. I was expected to sit there and listen, but she would never hang out, always talked about herself. It was like being a bf without getting anything out of it that I wanted.
*DO NOT RECOMMEND*
She wanted you to be her emotional tampon.
That means she does not respect you as a guy.
A lot of women string you along as a backup or fill in between guys they want.sometimes they just want to get their ex jealous and is playing both of you
You continually amaze me with your depth of understanding on relationships. Thank you for sharing your gift. It has immensley helped me understand my emotions, failings and motives of my ex partner.
Ohhh I wish I saw this video a few years back, All the points you just mentioned in the video were so much accurate, I have been friends with this type of girl.
She already had a bf who dumped her eventually,
She said let's just be friends while flirting and giving mixed signals (That confused me a lot, and I was dumb).
Whenever I asked her out, she always made excuses. Whenever we both sit somewhere in private in college days and whenever one of our friends spotted us together, she would get uncomfortable acting like we are not together we are just chatting, etc.
Anyhow, I had good friends, they tried to help me too. And I also closed my trust and attraction to her.
The funny part is that I started to like her cause I thought she is a loyal, simple, and beautiful girl and her bf doesn't deserve it because he doesn't give her attention.
But, I guess her bf also got annoyed by her and that's why dumped her.
After that incident, I just got more serious in my studies and career. But, I can identify these types of girls easily.
I use to be this guy with girl’s always friend zoned or even being that guy who would talk to a girl who had a boyfriend especially because I was the good nice guy and they would come to me for all the advice and problems in their relationship but after awhile it gets annoying. But I’m an introvert and comfortable on my own but me and my girlfriend are long distance and she sends me videos and pictures and love
letters all the time I plan to visit her that’s my end goal but we also plan dates such as watching movies together yes we text back in forth but I like talking to my girlfriend and she enjoys our talks as well. Great video Courtney 😊❤️❤️
I recently had a girl message me out of NOWHERE who I barely know and basically was hinting/ telling me she wanted something with me and complimenting me nonstop. Def red flag of a girl looking to rebound.
Fax
Pump and dump
Eye Opener. Stay strong, gents.
I wish there were more Courtney Ryan's in this world.
It happens all the time.
But you can check one obvious sign about hanging out.. If she is not making a genuine effort to make time for you, she’s full of it. This is deep down why I’m not a fan of texting and social media because 9/10 times I know what time it is
And after she agrees to make time,if she is making time for you, here is sign 2. If she is not genuinely engaged in the moment with you, there are other places she would likely rather be and she is likely there for some other reason (ie foodie call)
Those are the two big ways to screen them out and if she passes those two, keep vetting for the other flags, if any. But those two will allow you to weed out an overwhelming majority of the low quality.
Don’t feel bad about seeing it that way. There’s a good chance they think the same about you but who cares. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind
This Video is 2 years old and yet has found me at the perfect time randomly somehow, I’ve been talking to a girl for like 2 months now we talk pretty much all day everyday but she has a boyfriend she claims she doesn’t want to be with anymore and has said a few times she wants to be with me but hasn’t actually made the effort to make that happen, she claims she feels trapped with him so feels like she can’t leave and yet I’m the “2nd choice” if that makes sense, we have met up loads had alot of fun and been intimate, but recently more so as well I’ve had the situations of “oh I’m waiting for him to message me but if he doesn’t massage me I will come see you” so this video has made my situation so much clearer thank you. I need to get out of there asap.
Accepting that this happened to me, just makes me bow my head.
In a way, the only difficult part of dating is finding someone who is not playing games. Because when two people who are fully committed to following Christ, are ready for lifelong commitment, and are willing to pursue each other in an intentional, God-honoring way, that kind of relationship is going to be successful 100% of the time. Be that kind of person, find that kind of person, and get married already.
Yes! Thank you very much! I'm 19 now and this is exactly the mindset I have
It sucks when you don’t know you’re being used solely for attention and she has zero intention of meeting you. I used to get really bummed out when that happened, but now I view it more optimistically. When I see that behavior, I know we’re not compatible and I move on. Thank you Courtney for helping us men out!
Still have trouble not focusing on one person at a time. My mistake is: People move fast and I try to take it easy, but my feelings get involved too fast. I think valuing my time more means not waiting on one when I can talk to another, but that also means acting fast.
If your texting/chatting with a woman and she doesn’t want to hang out or always has other plans after you try and plan something, you should have a one strike rule in effect. It’s done and don’t respond when they message.
I have a friend like Courtney - calm, straight look, not that emotional, serious, earth ground vibe personality. Courtney is a good girl. I watch this channel because of the host not that of the topics because 80% I know the info by myself and sometimes she say something that is interesting to me.
I was the number 3.
She didn’t has a boyfriend, but first she was okay with me cutting the cord but when I was ready to talk with her, she was super fucking mad.
I dodged a bullet.
Your tone is more passionate in your recent videos and I’m here for it 🔥
going thru breakup, im just at my worst, courtney really made me feel better
The situation where you plan something and the girl is accepting the plan doesn't even show up just happened to me and each time something like that happen I'm becoming closer and closer to just start pushing all women out of my life at this point since this is the only thing I get when tryoing to just meet a woman
Went through this twice the last couple of years. The one a couple of years ago was the first time it really happened to me, hit me hard. The second time,, a different girl, and ongoing, I am of the opinion that if she texts me I'll text back but I won't put any feelings into it. I figure if she really liked me or cared, she would find excuses to hang out with me instead of ghosting that message to meet up.
This video is so true. I have been in many of these situations as discussed by Courtney . Thank you Courtney for this beautiful video. Really helpful
the power of your indifference will help a lot.
THANK YOU. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE DOCTOR ORDERED!
I just went through this !!
I needed to hear this, even though it still smarts. At least I did have an end goal which finally led to us parting company
. Thanks Courtney.
This video is definitely true. At the same time though some guys also want attention too, human beings are social creatures. In my opinion, if you know a woman is talking to you only for attention, take advantage of it, have fun. BUT DON’T SPEND MONEY ON HER OR GO OUT OF YOUR WAY FOR HER. Don’t become some reserved asshole and distrust all women if you get played, just get smarter to know the signs and get something out of the situation.
After all, hating all women because you don’t want to “simp” is just another way of saying you had your little heart broken so badly you don’t want to try again and be smarter about who you devote your time and money to.
She is wasting your time
1. The texting buddy
2. A fresh breakup
3. The LJBF
4. She has a boyfriend
Thanks for the summary..✌️
Pro tipp: If you know a girl has a boyfriend and is still hitting on you, run away. She belongs to the streets and would do the same when you're together with her.
Girl who I was interested said she had a boyfriend, which I should’ve known because she wasn’t responding to my snap dm’s. Long story short soon as she said that I deleted her from my line of sight. Just move on brothers there’s better and more important work to complete.
I lost 50lbs in about two years, got it he gym 4-5 times weekly, and have a solid job and in school full time. I don’t waste my time with girls who want me to be their simp or emotional tampon. If she likes me, I like her and their is mutual chemistry and respect, she will get the gift of my time and admiration. My confidence boost has made realize what I like like in a girl.
Your consistency is amazing , content was always great 😊❤️
I’m reminded of that song “ I know what boys like” by the Waitresses. Listen to that one a few times, that’s what they really think. She thinks you’re a sucker.
Some how some way I kinda found myself in similar predicaments in regards to this topic, jus had to let em go and accept them for who they are … as much I had to swallow up my pride, it was for the best .. thx
Courtney this video is def a huge reality check 2 years of my life was wasted im a fool trying to make it work when it never was total waste of time
The LJBF scenario is a good one bring up as well. This one out of a lot of them already designates where someone stands. That's what I tell my buddies at work when they talk to me about some girls they are "talking" to. Simple advise I gave them is that if they see her more than just a friend, they should reject the offer and part ways. Don't want to compromise yourself or anything else over something you can't have but will still actively pursue. Basically, just move on
If you are watching this video, it means you at least have asked out or have started talking to that girl you like. Proud of you gentlemen.
I finally accepted to cut the cord between me and my interest. We had good chemistry, good rapport, make her laugh everytime I see her and all that. Her bf broke up with her and her best friend told me to ask her out in a months time. However when I did she made excuses or ignored me. The message is loud and clear but what is weird is she gets jealous and visibly upset when I talk to other women or laugh too much with them. When I became more distant she asks me why I am not making her laugh or talking to her frequently. The last thing she did was get very upset I didn't say hi within literal 2 seconds of seeing her, told her I wasn't feeling my best and put her hand on me and comforted me. As she walked by someone called her out and stopped beside me and grabbed my waist across my back. She does so many things that most typical women do to men they like. She doesn't want to hang out/date but desperately wants to keep me and is possessive of me like I'm her attention chew toy. Yesterday one of my female friends overheard her complaining to her best friend that I need to stop hitting on her and asking her out and her friend says she has but it's literally the exact opposite. She hypes me up and tells me all about her as if I have a chance. I hate this! I can't agree more than to make your intentions very clear and never to form any emotional attachment until you're officially a thing or else it becomes so hard to forget and ignore her but I must. Say "NO" to these chicks and their toxic friends.
I truly appreciate you Courtney making this video because it's something that happens a lot and now i can easily spot these type of girls. That 1st sign/point you made helps so much. But yeah it's definitely attention amd that's why i literally had to distance myself from like 3 girls this summer. Sadly so many girls are like this nowadays and it just sucks. But that's usually cuz they have a bf or tons of options too. Anyways i feel better and now i can move on to better girls. Have a great day 💖
You just give excellent advice and so smart you are Courtney. Congrats on having over 170,000 subscribers
I don’t know if the background music is new on this channel but it blends perfectly, nice job
it definitely has the "Courtney Ryan vibes" thing to it haha, everytime I hear it now I jus think of her intro
Thank god for the red pill, let's chase greatness. By the way there's something about the music on the background just like 2 notes but put me in a peaceful mode, keep up the good work Cristine👍.
Courtney I just had this happen to me girl from work was dating a guy and work flirt with me every day we even hung out together alone and gave each other birthday gifts. She lead me on heavy and I developed feelings for her but was major confused all the time thinking she felt the same way about me but was keeping it a secret. Things escalated and she spun it around to say that I’m to emotionally involved and blah blah like she did nothing wrong and now I can watch her at work not a week after this flirting with 5 other guys. I don’t get what part of some girls think it’s ok to put a guy through hell. I’m a shy guy and not great with women so I couldn’t pick up on the signs she was just using me.
When Courtney said she had a video to show us, I got a Mint Mobile ad with Ryan Reynolds and epic voiceover guy 🤔😆
Hit the nail on the head with this video.👌
If I only saw this video years ago, I would have avoided so many mistakes!
Attention and Rebound, JBF Men do it as well, to be honest. I do not know about You Guys, but I stay away from dating apps. Call me old fashion, but I prefer meeting people in Person. 75% of the Communication is non verbal.
I think I’m doing slightly better in the real world. It is funny that I’m on a dating app just for kicks and saw a girl I know that viewed my profile. She shot me down probably 7 years ago via text. Now she’s “separated” and has two kids. If she hit me up I’d hookup but absolutely couldn’t date her seriously all things considered. Call me mean but I’m the only one considering my own benefit.
I am glad you had already made this video.🙌
Ouch huge pill to swallow . I was wondering why my crush texts and flirts then cancells last minute .
She begs me to take her out then Saturday comes and " I'm too sleepy today". So I gotta remove the one girl I like from my life great....
I was just telling a guy about these things 2 days ago. Thank you for confirming that I was right.
90% of girls pretend they are single on Instagram
The girls that flirt usually have a boyfriend. The ones that don’t do something or the other that makes them seem even sketchier.
Im my experience the girls who give me the most attentions/flirt with me are in relationships but girls who are single dont even look at me.
You should do a video on dating online. That would really help me. I haven't seen one on that subject.
I SWEAR Courtney is the big sis I always wish I had. Thank you!
Weeks? I have had a chat relationship with a woman for 4 years, and we never had phonetime or facetime. I asked her at least 50 times for one or the other and she always says her management does not let her have phonetime or facetime
Totally agree with all your points.. spot on, went through the experience of being the 'filler guy'
Never again will that happen.
On a side note, I still cant believe you are 25 years old LOL. you are very mature for your age.
What’s up with girls these days.. is it the tik tok? All the attention from social media? Fellas we gotta do better with standards here.
Social media has definitely corrupted them.
people do that? The new-school dating game is borderline sociopathic. I'll move to a remote location and become a struggling author. (proof that I watched the video wrong and got nothing from her wise words)
I have cut off women in the past after 3 times they cancel (one of them was without ever meeting the girl in person) just calling to get attention with the intentions to flake on both of them
I use the one strike rule. In fact if she doesnt sound enthusiatic about the
date I dump her.
3 times lol, bro you are the prize. One and done.
@@westcoastfrank Baseball rule, 3 strikes you're out
@@johngonzalez4298 too each their own and I can respect your POV. I just have way too many options and abundance to give a girl that many chances.
@@westcoastfrank yep, three is two too many. If she flakes, unless SHE resets the date, she’s out.
Oh man… this is hard to watch. I admittedly did ALL of these things in my early twenties. Luckily most of us women mature and find healthy relationships. ❤️ Good luck guys ❤️
@@daniellehotsky1776 So do I, I’m 35 😄
I got the girl but my ex was this type of girl, so even if you get them, it's still a waste of time as your attention will never be enough and she will always be seeking it from somewhere.
You need to find a mentally secure\stable woman but these days women aren't told to work through their issues or improve themselves, but rather find the kind of guy that will put up with them. Honestly the dating market right now is quite toxic, so the lesson in it all is to be more selective and don't waste your time on people that need to still take time to work on themselves.
I wish that I should’ve seen this video from 2 years ago but my ex crush has hurted my feelings so badly and doesn’t value me because of that I was doing struggling in my studies and I suffered from months I’m currently trying recover and succeed my goals and do things I love doing, doing very well in my studies, becoming a scientist and becoming a content creator in the future
1. Never take another mans girl and 2. If you’re reaching out via text or social media more than her…she’s not as into you. Should be about 50/50. If she’s single and it just flows naturally that means there’s something there and you’re compatible.
Why are there so many landmines for guys when dating? Girls seem to not have to deal with this garbage as much if at all.
It's how the game is rigged. You can thank 50 years of feminism for most if not all of this mess. Teaching a certain group of people that they don't have to be held accountable for whatever actions they partake in is a recipe for disaster.
Thanks for the video but unfortunately the high value women are basically non existent in this generation
Blame hookup culture and social media for that. You'd have a better chance of winning big in the lottery than finding a high value woman that doesn't have a high body count.
Totally agree with you, gents, even the most loyal woman can get corrupted with this "modern culture". It's like a kid at a candy store with endeless varieties popping everywhere they look.
@@franciebrionesgallegos4784 they don't exist, get it through your f**king head
@@ericv5435 YIKES
Just go to nice places instead of dating apps, bro. Meet through mutual friends or community service or something. Of course people want to hook up on hook up apps. Also, even if someone has slept with many people, if they choose you, they choose you. That isn’t a commentary on their ability to be loyal and loving.
@@mintyhippo8125 I deleted all dating apps last year. All my friends are either nerdy guys who don't know women or women who aren't interested in me. The only way I can meet women is at work
This girl in the gym would go alone to the gym and for 4 months never did I see her bring a partner to the gym. She would talk to me and get by me when she could, I decided to straight up ask her out I did not ever asked for her number or anything. When I asked, she was supposedly “engaged”.that told me everything I needed to know.
Relationships are really complicated