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My mom has since moved like 3 times since leaving here, and is still unhappy with where she is, but no longer has the money due to retirement to keep moving.
From what you say i think your mother is probably a narcissistic pervers. Personnes who got mental diseases have sometimes (or often?) parents like that who drive crazy. You're right to tell her goodbye
Most of the trick to having friends as an adult is accepting all invitations and then subsequently showing up. Even if the people that invited you kinda suck you never know what could happen, but never going anywhere or doing anything reduces your possible event tree to nothing.
You are lucky that your mom wants anything to do with you to be honest. Your mom's a stranger to you because you won't allow her to be more than that. Did you ever consider? Maybe she's nervous talking to you? Maybe that's why she complains about random s***
Dude , every one tries their best to get along with you . As if anyone would really want you at their wedding , you’re blessed that they’d even want you there . Your narcissistic bullshit should be studied
Your mother is reaching out to you to create a relationship. You don't have to justify it, just know if you pass it up, you deal with the repercussions whatever that may be. It doesn't matter that she's needy if you can overlook that for the value of the relationship.
Yeah I get it. It’s hard not getting the attention you deserve as her child. I have a fake relationship with my mom as well and I just have accepted it will never change and we will never have a relationship I want to have. Having a baby changed our relationship as she focused more on the baby and was able to help a bunch with that. So I stayed talking to her for the help
Any relationship with your mother is better than none. When my mother got dementia; our relationship ended. Shortly before she died, she tried to claw my face. I've moved on from that memory, and I remember the good times when she was her old complaining self.
That conversational dynamic sounds a lot like covert narcissism. I’m very familiar with it myself. You are justified in limiting contact with people who don’t have the space to get to know you. It comes from a place of sadness in them too, but that doesn’t make it much easier to bear. Hugs to you. 😢❤
Hard to believe but maybe your mother is more needy than you! After everything you've done she is still there for you! She is your mother, she gave you life and supported you!
Maaan. I remember being in your shoes (sort of). I cut off all direct contact from my younger sibling this year (I'm 27). Long story, but I tried for nearly a decade to be a diplomat and emotionally ignore severely abusive events. It resonated with me when you mentioned feeling controlled and feeling obligated to act upbeat and make it seem to others that your family functions well. I know the blame-shifting is frustrating. I'm sure you'll also take heat for your decision, probably from your own subs, but I get it. Anyone who does not understand these things should consider themselves fortunate.
So it sounds like being personable and upbeat is not who you identify with, while you do identify with being someone who would make them (your mom and sister) and people at the wedding not have a good time? Have I understood you correctly?
i may as well be a criminal to them if i'm not happy, lively, and outgoing during the wedding. don't feel like faking and being forced to go places i don't like whenever they're around.
@@IsaacUncookedSometimes faking that you're happy actually can help you get happy. Maybe you do need "go outside and do things." When a person isolates themselves and thinks only about themselves, they get depressed. Go be around people and be pleasant, ask them what's going on in their lives. As an extreme introvert who struggles with depression, it helps my outlook on life when I interact with others, even finding positive things in my life to share when asked.
Nothing but love for you, young man. I wish that you felt that your family wanted to know the real you. It sounds like they're too self-absorbed to put in the effort. I trust you to know which relationships are healthy for you and which ones are not. That said, I don't think you give people in general (including ex-girlfriend) enough credit. You think that the real you wouldn't be appreciated, but what if you're wrong. What if ex-girlfriend does know the real you and still likes you? What if she is interested in learning who you are now? I think you're a pretty incredible person with a lot of good qualities. Maybe you shouldn't decide for other people whether they will enjoy you or not. Just be who you are and let them choose whether to stay or go. And if they go (like your mom did), then there's no reason to feel guilty because it was their decision.
Keep in my mind he's in his 30s he's not 19 or 20 he's a full grown man. You ppl need to stop treating him like a child just because you think he's sweet or attractive stop enabling.
@BuJammy he's delusions, clout chasing, and narcissist tendencies. He's said multiple times he likes manipulating ppl cos he's sees it as an art or a joke. But keep giving money to this guy. And making out like he's the most unique special person. Not my problem.
It’s okay to have resentment for family members, even family. If you have no value in talking to her, do you have a goal for yourself continuing the phone calls with her? I suppose you value the extent of the relationship via phone with her? That is pretty lame your mom blames you for not asking her to stay
Isaac, When you point a finger at someone there are 3 fingers pointing right back at 'ya! 👉 👈 They are trying to reach out to you. Stop playing the victim all the time.
Me and my mother have a tumultuous relationship. If anyone knew some of the crazy things she says to me then they would know how narcissistic she is. I almost couldn’t take it anymore until I moved out of the house with her. 😅
Maybe your mum ( sorry mom,I’m English lol) is on the spectrum so that is the reason she can only connect on a superficial level? If not there may be other issue’s as that’s what the moving all the time suggests to me. Trying to find something ( happiness)? But never managing to find it. Anyway you obviously know your mum better than I. Just don’t do anything you may regret when she’s no longer here. Wishing you all the best.
Man, I miss video responses. I would love to chat with you about mother wounds. It's so interesting how in these kinds of parent-child dynamics, the onus is almost always on the child to maintain the "relationship". I've never understood it and I still don't. I've had a hard time reconciling the mother I needed with this stranger who blames me for our estrangement. Weird shit.
Good for you. Block whoever tf you want. There are so many flying monkeys in your comments, lmao. People who really analyze their relationships and decide to modify or discontinue them are smart. People who don't do that are not as smart and often codependent.
Hi, Isaac. It's great to see you posting a video of this topic. I truly can relate to that. I've had traumatizing relationship with my Mom through the years starting at age 12 when I lost respect for my Mom who I love so much. To say this in a nutshell, through the miracle of God healing our relationship, we are once again building our relationship one day at a time. I hope you can forgive your Mom inasmuch as from what I hear that she was expecting too much from you when she caused you the broken relationship that you have now with her in the first place. You're still a good son. I lllllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooovvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeee yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyoooooooooouuuuuuuuuu, Isaac!!!
Your mother sounds just like mine especially conversationally. By what you say She is incapable of being there for you. I’ve stopped expecting anything from mine and it really helps . Do what you want to do.
You done what? She is your mum after all. I am sorry, but it is so narcissistic of you. Come on, you still can improve your relationship with her. You need to be more forgiving in general, but especially to your mum. That is exactly what a real Alfa would do. You are adult, not a kid anymore. Oh, and give a call to your sister, she is getting married!!!! How can you not attend? And, please, don't ruin their big day! For once,try not to be such an egoistic person! Just try, and maybe, girls would stop telling that they don't know you, they will not be afraid to spend their life with you and they'll not be afraid to raise a kid together with you. I don't hate you at all,i just wish you the very best
Reread your comment and you will see an "egoistic" person lmao, you meant to say _egotistical._ You don't know his life from his videos. He's allowed to be no contact with his mother, and him not attending his sister's wedding isn't "ruining" it 😂 lmao. You're very clearly a toxic enabler.
Obviously a shitty parent yourself. Your defensive and nasty tone gives you away. Maybe take your time to get your own shit together, not troll strangers.
Im sorry you are having these issues. I hope you can heal the abondomwnt issues. Matbe you need to ket someone special in.... to rebuild trust. Im aire yourmom didnt mean to do this, but im also sure it wouldve left you feeling alone in the world.
My mom has since moved like 3 times since leaving here, and is still unhappy with where she is, but no longer has the money due to retirement to keep moving.
From what you say i think your mother is probably a narcissistic pervers. Personnes who got mental diseases have sometimes (or often?) parents like that who drive crazy. You're right to tell her goodbye
No person close to him is safe from being dragged on his channel. But he's not the problem. This man is literally the new Onision.
It really gets old, doesn't it? Narcissism comes in all forms.
Most of the trick to having friends as an adult is accepting all invitations and then subsequently showing up. Even if the people that invited you kinda suck you never know what could happen, but never going anywhere or doing anything reduces your possible event tree to nothing.
You are lucky that your mom wants anything to do with you to be honest. Your mom's a stranger to you because you won't allow her to be more than that. Did you ever consider? Maybe she's nervous talking to you? Maybe that's why she complains about random s***
Dude , every one tries their best to get along with you . As if anyone would really want you at their wedding , you’re blessed that they’d even want you there . Your narcissistic bullshit should be studied
Is it possible that your mother suffers through some of the mental agony that you do?
Your mother is reaching out to you to create a relationship. You don't have to justify it, just know if you pass it up, you deal with the repercussions whatever that may be. It doesn't matter that she's needy if you can overlook that for the value of the relationship.
Yeah I get it. It’s hard not getting the attention you deserve as her child. I have a fake relationship with my mom as well and I just have accepted it will never change and we will never have a relationship I want to have.
Having a baby changed our relationship as she focused more on the baby and was able to help a bunch with that. So I stayed talking to her for the help
Any relationship with your mother is better than none. When my mother got dementia; our relationship ended. Shortly before she died, she tried to claw my face. I've moved on from that memory, and I remember the good times when she was her old complaining self.
Exulansic? Is that you? 👀
That conversational dynamic sounds a lot like covert narcissism. I’m very familiar with it myself. You are justified in limiting contact with people who don’t have the space to get to know you. It comes from a place of sadness in them too, but that doesn’t make it much easier to bear. Hugs to you. 😢❤
Your mother making a connection, she rings you, you deem it not personable but it's a connection.
Isaac seeming pretty cooked ;P
Hard to believe but maybe your mother is more needy than you! After everything you've done she is still there for you! She is your mother, she gave you life and supported you!
You're a flying monkey for narcissists. He's allowed to block wtf he wants. Do you say"OOH OOH AH AH" a lot? Maybe you should start it'd suit you.
You do. Your life, actually @BannedMiloClips
You don't owe your mother anything. I haven't spoken to my "mother" in 4 years. My life is much happier!
Maaan. I remember being in your shoes (sort of). I cut off all direct contact from my younger sibling this year (I'm 27). Long story, but I tried for nearly a decade to be a diplomat and emotionally ignore severely abusive events. It resonated with me when you mentioned feeling controlled and feeling obligated to act upbeat and make it seem to others that your family functions well. I know the blame-shifting is frustrating. I'm sure you'll also take heat for your decision, probably from your own subs, but I get it. Anyone who does not understand these things should consider themselves fortunate.
So it sounds like being personable and upbeat is not who you identify with, while you do identify with being someone who would make them (your mom and sister) and people at the wedding not have a good time? Have I understood you correctly?
i may as well be a criminal to them if i'm not happy, lively, and outgoing during the wedding. don't feel like faking and being forced to go places i don't like whenever they're around.
@@IsaacUncookedSometimes faking that you're happy actually can help you get happy. Maybe you do need "go outside and do things." When a person isolates themselves and thinks only about themselves, they get depressed. Go be around people and be pleasant, ask them what's going on in their lives. As an extreme introvert who struggles with depression, it helps my outlook on life when I interact with others, even finding positive things in my life to share when asked.
Nothing but love for you, young man. I wish that you felt that your family wanted to know the real you. It sounds like they're too self-absorbed to put in the effort. I trust you to know which relationships are healthy for you and which ones are not. That said, I don't think you give people in general (including ex-girlfriend) enough credit. You think that the real you wouldn't be appreciated, but what if you're wrong. What if ex-girlfriend does know the real you and still likes you? What if she is interested in learning who you are now? I think you're a pretty incredible person with a lot of good qualities. Maybe you shouldn't decide for other people whether they will enjoy you or not. Just be who you are and let them choose whether to stay or go. And if they go (like your mom did), then there's no reason to feel guilty because it was their decision.
Keep in my mind he's in his 30s he's not 19 or 20 he's a full grown man. You ppl need to stop treating him like a child just because you think he's sweet or attractive stop enabling.
@@Blue.velvet.0124 enabling what?
@BuJammy he's delusions, clout chasing, and narcissist tendencies. He's said multiple times he likes manipulating ppl cos he's sees it as an art or a joke. But keep giving money to this guy. And making out like he's the most unique special person. Not my problem.
It’s okay to have resentment for family members, even family. If you have no value in talking to her, do you have a goal for yourself continuing the phone calls with her? I suppose you value the extent of the relationship via phone with her?
That is pretty lame your mom blames you for not asking her to stay
Isaac,
When you point a finger at someone there are 3 fingers pointing right back at 'ya!
👉 👈
They are trying to reach out to you.
Stop playing the victim all the time.
Healthiest repper
Don’t let these people shame you bro I’ve blocked my mom as well she’s been nothing but HELL I rather keep my peace !!! God bless you Isaac 🙏🏽
I can relate. I'm ot comfortable talking about
Me and my mother have a tumultuous relationship. If anyone knew some of the crazy things she says to me then they would know how narcissistic she is.
I almost couldn’t take it anymore until I moved out of the house with her. 😅
Maybe your mum ( sorry mom,I’m English lol) is on the spectrum so that is the reason she can only connect on a superficial level? If not there may be other issue’s as that’s what the moving all the time suggests to me. Trying to find something ( happiness)? But never managing to find it. Anyway you obviously know your mum better than I. Just don’t do anything you may regret when she’s no longer here. Wishing you all the best.
Man, I miss video responses. I would love to chat with you about mother wounds. It's so interesting how in these kinds of parent-child dynamics, the onus is almost always on the child to maintain the "relationship". I've never understood it and I still don't. I've had a hard time reconciling the mother I needed with this stranger who blames me for our estrangement. Weird shit.
Good for you. Block whoever tf you want. There are so many flying monkeys in your comments, lmao.
People who really analyze their relationships and decide to modify or discontinue them are smart. People who don't do that are not as smart and often codependent.
I totally get you
Hi, Isaac. It's great to see you posting a video of this topic. I truly can relate to that. I've had traumatizing relationship with my Mom through the years starting at age 12 when I lost respect for my Mom who I love so much. To say this in a nutshell, through the miracle of God healing our relationship, we are once again building our relationship one day at a time. I hope you can forgive your Mom inasmuch as from what I hear that she was expecting too much from you when she caused you the broken relationship that you have now with her in the first place. You're still a good son. I lllllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooovvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeee yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyoooooooooouuuuuuuuuu, Isaac!!!
How old are you isaac
old
@@IsaacUncookedI feel that.
Infantile is what he is
Your mother sounds just like mine especially conversationally. By what you say She is incapable of being there for you. I’ve stopped expecting anything from mine and it really helps . Do what you want to do.
You done what? She is your mum after all. I am sorry, but it is so narcissistic of you. Come on, you still can improve your relationship with her. You need to be more forgiving in general, but especially to your mum. That is exactly what a real Alfa would do. You are adult, not a kid anymore. Oh, and give a call to your sister, she is getting married!!!! How can you not attend? And, please, don't ruin their big day! For once,try not to be such an egoistic person! Just try, and maybe, girls would stop telling that they don't know you, they will not be afraid to spend their life with you and they'll not be afraid to raise a kid together with you. I don't hate you at all,i just wish you the very best
Reread your comment and you will see an "egoistic" person lmao, you meant to say _egotistical._ You don't know his life from his videos. He's allowed to be no contact with his mother, and him not attending his sister's wedding isn't "ruining" it 😂 lmao. You're very clearly a toxic enabler.
Do you know him or his family ? 😂 like who tf are you ??? Lol y’all be trippen you have no idea what they put that boy through very ignorant of you !
Obviously a shitty parent yourself. Your defensive and nasty tone gives you away. Maybe take your time to get your own shit together, not troll strangers.
@jamespain2138 well he tells a lot about his life on here so anyone who's been watching him a while will know quite a bit
The narc vibes do be vibin with one
Im sorry you are having these issues. I hope you can heal the abondomwnt issues. Matbe you need to ket someone special in.... to rebuild trust. Im aire yourmom didnt mean to do this, but im also sure it wouldve left you feeling alone in the world.
I didn't know you were in nm..its beautiful and absolute garbage lol
Albuquerque, yeah it sucks but i never go outside so idc
@@IsaacUncooked It’s gotten so bad. I get it. Especially since there is no such thing as hobo stab insurance…😰
grimy-ass state