Pathological Lying Vs Normal Lying? How To Tell the Difference
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- There isn’t an established, official definition of pathological lying because it’s not considered a mental disorder. Instead it’s observed as a behavioral disturbance that is present inside other disorders like some personality disorders like antisocial personality disorder and some brain disorders like Korsakoff syndrome which is brain damage from alcohol.
Lying is defined as the deliberate attempt to get someone to believe something you know is not true. There are 3 types of lying: normal lying, prolific lying and pathological lying.
Pathological lying is still seen as a different entity that takes lying to a different level. But normal lying and prolific lying were considered behaviors that were non-pathological.
Normal lying was defined as telling less than 5 lies a day. This video discusses the differences between normal, prolific and pathological.
References
Serota KB, Levine TR, Boster FJ: The prevalence of lying in America: three studies of self-reported lies. Hum Commun Res 2010; 36:2-25
Serota KB, Levine TR: A few prolific liars: variation in the prevalence of lying. J Lang Soc Psychol 2015; 34:138-157
Drew A. Curtis and Christian L. Hart, Pathological Lying: Theoretical and Empirical Support for a Diagnostic Entity. Psychiatric Research and Clinical Practice 22 June 2020
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this is embarrasing but yikes, this is me. like I DONT HAVE ANY REASON TO LIE but i still do it, even before realizing what i'm doing
Then stop.
@@kjsfl386 not how it works..
@@aidenbradford4440 Adult people can monitor the words they say. If you begin to speak an untrue word...stop and just be quiet. We can Restrain and reteach ourselves
@@kjsfl386 bruh as someone who legit lies for no reason it’s not that easy. its literally natural for me and i hate that but it’s not as easy as you’d think it is. i don’t lie to hurt people but it happens sometimes and I’m assuming you don’t lie constantly you wouldn’t know how hard it is to stop 🤦🏽
@@user-nt6gt6yf9l I’m sorry you are compelled to lie. You must be a special person to admit your fault and that you want to stop. I can only encourage you to ask God to help you. You seem to have a strong conscience and a type of honesty of self to build on. You can change. We all have things we need to work on. 😊
My sister pathologically lies all the time but shes also a very genuinely caring person at the same time. Call her out on an obvious lie and she will spin it until you give up. People are weird. Just make sure you avoid the ones that use lies to harm you for their pleasure. Ive met a few of those in my life
I know a pathological liar who is now on a "I'm depressed" kick. Nothing annoys me more than some depressed loser posting repeatedly about mental illness on social media. Jesus Christ. There is real harm in that too because of the risks of a self-imposed self-fulfilling prophecy.... It makes her insufferable though. I have no clue how any guy would deal with her crap. That stuff wears thin on me real quick.
She’s probably either very insecure or a ppl pleaser. She sounds like me. I lied all the time bc I was a ppl pleaser and hated saying no to ppl but didn’t want to go at the same time so I’d lie
Same , my half siblings are like that
My ex lies all the time and wants to be back in my life. She told me that she’d lie to keep me around: sick!
It’s for good reason… did she give you the gotta protect brother at party story? @@meritorioustechnate9455
People, if you have this problem... please get help for it. Pathological lying is scary. I have a sibling that is a pathological liar and they have hurt so many people by doing this... even ruined a life. It isn't right, this is a problem that needs to be addressed more often in our society.
How? How do I get help for my partner? It seems to me this is a trait that will never change, and I need to keep my walls way way up.
@millhouse313 I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this, especially with a partner. It must be very difficult. The best option for pathological liars due to some sort of underlying mental illness is psychotherapy, but the therapist must be good and qualified for the job. However, it is not always one of the symptoms of a mental illness. Some people just lie because they're awful, and the lying helps them get to where they want to be. In that case, you have to decide what is best for your own well-being. I wish you the best either way.
Trust me, I learned the hard way. But I'm on my path now of recovery
I used to be really bad about pathological lying and it was because I hated myself and hated my life and it was a form of escapism from my reality to tell all sorts of lies and many of them were wild adventures and creating an alternative reality for myself. I never meant harm in them, I just wanted to create a different reality and be someone other than myself. However time went on, I got diagnosed with Autism and found a community of people like me. And that enabled me to accept myself and love myself as I am and be with people who are like me. Before my diagnosis, I felt like I was a total freak. I knew I was very different from those around me and no matter how much I tried to fit in, I always felt like an uncover alien observing the world cuz I was so socially clueless.
But being with other autistic people, I feel “normal” and i embrace my quirks and weirdness now. I have no more need to invent an alternate world to escape from myself.
Every person I’ve ever met who does pathological lying, i find there is a very shattered sense of self and deep self hatred and it’s a form of escapism. So my suggestion to fix it is to work on the root issues of self esteem and self concept.
This is how I feel. I just need some therapy
Being able to identify this in yourself is major, there is hope. My kids dad is a pathological liar and it’s extremely annoying.
It is very frustrating to be a friend to someone who tells lies. I use my strength in God to forgive them as God has always forgiven me.
I could’ve written this myself, I actually scrolled up to your username to see if it was me who wrote it lol! The alien part hit me so hard and I actually said the same thing in a post I made after being diagnosed. I’m happy for you that you’ve found a community and doing better now! Life without insane amounts of masking is so much better 🥺🩷
That actually helps me alot, I'm working on getting better now.
Parents of lying children...
Get that problem resolved ASAP.
My older sister lied CONSTANTLY when she was a child. Our mom actually grew to dislike her. All that lying made all of our lives miserable. As a child, I barely wanted to talk to her. Every time she opened her mouth, she would tell lies and sometimes, she would LAUGH as if to mock our exasperation. She would ditch school and lie about it. She would throw food out and lie about it. She would hide ROTTEN food under her bed and lie about it.
She's forty now.
No friends. Two cats. She lives alone in some sort of small town in the south. Supposedly, she might be homeless soon?
Parents, TALK to your kids. You don't want them to be like her.
No one likes a liar.
leave the cats out of this, they make great companions 🤣
I needed to see this!
Ever considered why she’s like this?
@@kikispsychie Gee. I wonder why someone would go out of their way to lie about everything??? She's going to be forty-one this year and she needs to get a grip. Sooner or later, she will have to wake up. She might hold onto excuses and labels, but honestly...no one wants to deal with excuses and labels. Excuses and labels don't pay the bills. They don't make people like you. They don't make anything easier.
(If anyone's wondering about an update, she is living with a distant relative(?) A relative who obviously doesn't like her. Maybe she's helping her out of pity? One cat died (sick?) and the other one was put out; the husband hates cats. She has no job. She insists, "I'm waiting on a call from the Dollar General." It's been almost a year. They are not going to call her. I hope they will, but...)
@@vintage_peace I think cats are autistic
I would call my husband on lies and he would say, “What difference does it make?”. It made a lot of difference to me.
I have an ex like this I tried to reconnect with him for old time sakes and I started to feel like he was using me to spring all his lies on. I wasn’t looking for a romantic relationship however every time we would talk he would say I wanna take you here and do this or come visit with no intention of doing that. When I would confront him he would then blame me and say “you never said I could come over” which would be a bold face lie. The moment I would stop talking to him he would give it a couple of days and call to say “oh you don’t love me anymore “ and start the lie cycle all over again. I give up it has become very annoying at this point
I've found that people who love you will lie to you because they're usually trying to protect you in some way. If they cheated on you, they're going to lie so your feelings don't get hurt. If they lie about having a serious illness it's because they don't want you worrying. There's probably way more reasons, but this is bad. Honesty is the best policy in most situations. The truth almost always hurts, but I couldn't stand for people to lie all the time. Once I found out the lies I wouldn't be able to trust them again.
I was a "victim" of a pathological liar, and being a trusting, gullible person, it took me a very long time to put two and two together. Even when the "stories" were unbelievable, I wanted to trust this person! They lied 98% of the time and just for the sake of lying! Voluntarily lying with far-fetched stories. When questioned, this person would talk in circles so as to confuse me further. A circle talker. I was so ashamed and disappointed in myself that I "fell" for it. It also made me feel insecure about my judgment or lack thereof of people. I have thought about writing a fiction book based on the fabricated stories I was told. It would be quite entertaining!
Don't feel bad. I had a good friend who introduced me to her boyfriend. Soon after, they started living together. I and my friend, Lisa started hanging out with them. Going to lunch, to the movies, ect. Anyway, he started telling some very interesting stories about his life. And, as time went by, these stories became more intricate. He was obviously very intelligent. He said he grew up around dictionaries and encyclopedias and he was very adept with different languages as well. And if he couldn't speak these languages, he could copy the accents very well like an actor.
Anyway, at first myself and Lisa thought possibly these stories could be true. I mean, some people live crazy lives. So we gave him the benefit of the doubt.
But, soon afterward, the couple split up and his lying got worse. I honestly think, in his situation, he was very insecure and he felt like he was an important person by telling these fabrications. Also, I think he lied so much that he even began to believe his own lies. Myself and Lisa caught him in a few of these lies. And she was afraid to call him on it but not me: I called it and he got extremely angry trying to not only defend himself, but to also back his lies up one way or another. I just decided it was better to let it go than to start an argument. However, Lisa started to fall for him romantically. Even though he never showed any interest in her. And, btw, he still doesn't show any interest in her whatsoever and he even told me one day. So Lisa began believing his stories again. She believed him so much that when he split up with our friend, he got Lisa on his side and then Lisa would no longer have anything to do with her. He convinced Lisa that she was an absolutely terrible person. Which I never believed and still don't.
He used to tell me that someone should write a book about his life since, of course, it was so outrageous. He even wanted me to write the introduction to it. And I thought, you know actually I really don't think you would want that because, frankly I wouldn't make him out to look so good and to look so important.
So I know he's definitely a pathological liar. There's no doubt about that. It's a shame Lisa can still not see it. However, I just got to the point whereas I just couldn't stand all the lying and I considered it a toxic relationship. Not just because of the lying. But because he started trying to get stuff out of me and Lisa that he shouldn't have been asking for in the first place. For instance, he'd say they messed up his check at work and he needed money. Or that he had extreme back pain and 'would we please give him one of the pain pills we (me and Lisa) were prescribed?' It was really getting to be too much.
As for his biggest pathological lying, an example would be that he told us he had a mafia hit out on him. Somehow, to this day, the mafia have not made good on their supposed promise. He also tried to lure us in with stories that part of his family was in the mafia and he even went so far as to say that they made him kill someone and he felt guilty about it. Oh, and at that time, he asked for a xanax. Sorry, but I just don't buy any of it. He really did not act like he actually murdered someone. I think he actually wanted a xanax and a pain pill. Which he got from Lisa and he proceeded to squash both pills and then take a straw so he could snort them.
Luckily, I got away from him. But, also to this day, he still is in touch with Lisa and she still thinks he's a great friend to her. I asked her recently, "do you really see him as that good of a friend?" Unfortunately, she said yes.
So please don't feel bad. I have to admit this guy somehow really sounded legitimate. He is a wonderful con man at lying and getting people to believe his bs. For my own mental health, I felt the need to get away from him. Frankly, I have enough of my own problems and I don't make the time anymore to hear his lying problems. So just think of this as one of life's lessons. And, yes, be cautious of people like that. But don't let it bother you so much that you don't let new people into your life. Just be careful. That's my advice. I hope it helps you to know you are not alone and this can happen to anyone. Be strong and be safe. My best to you.🙂
@@lucakat9262 Thank you for sharing your story and for your supportive words. I have become bitter since my experience. But you're right that I should view it as a life lesson and be more cautious in the future. I'm glad you ended your toxic friendship and I hope your friend sees him for who he really is and gets as far away from him as possible.
@@patteegee9506 you're welcome. And yes, I hope my friend will get away from him too. And you know what? He really hasn't got any friends left. So maybe that is why he has latched onto Lisa so much. Idk exactly. But I know he has burnt a lot of bridges with his friends. For instance, he was actually in a rock band at one time. And since they broke up the band, he has lived off all of the band members at one time or another but they always seem to literally kick him out. So I'm sure they're most likely, sick of his lying too. He's living with his mother now and he hates it. So, to get away from her, he's been going over to see Lisa a lot. Plus, I think he still uses her for her prescription drugs.🙄 I hope she'll see the light one day.😳 But, of course, it's up to her if she wants to keep him around or not. She still tells me about him and his current circumstances. But I just avoid him.😏
Good luck to you! I sincerely hope that you will find someone who will be really good to you one day and not lie. But I know what you mean in the fact that it gets hard to trust people and, yes, one can certainly become bitter after knowing someone like that. But at least we can learn from our mistakes and to be careful not to make the same ones again.🤔Anyway, I wish you all the best life has to offer.🙂
If a pathological liar subjects someone else to significant lies, they are not just a pathological liar but probably a highly manipulative person with a personality disorder. They were probably gaslighting you, not just lying to you.
Most pathological liars are very annoying but rarely as harmful as it seems the person you have dealt with. They're similar to a hypochondriac really.
@@Bonzi_Buddy Wow! I read a bit about gaslighting and you're absolutely right! I was being gaslighted. The psychological trauma has been very damaging to my mental health. I can't even begin to understand why someone would do this to another person. I guess it's like narcissistic supply. It's empowering to the gaslighter. They take great pleasure in watching someone squirm.
Pseudologia fantastica. Sounds like a Harry Potter spell
Ha ha I hadn’t thought of that! I guess that’s why I like saying it. 😃
@@DrTraceyMarks doctor I never been ill befor I drank overdose and that symptoms made that they diagnose me as a schizofreen am I schizofrenic just because of pills reaction. Please can you just clarify this to me please.
@@DrTraceyMarks doctor can tablets cause schizofrenia.
@@DrTraceyMarks cause I have the same symptoms as a schizofreen
In Spanish, fantástica means fantastic/wonderful/ amazing.
I had a friend that I stopped being friends with because of the lies. Insane stuff like buying her house at 15, she lived in a relatives spare room. Saying she had been places she hadn’t. Making up really bad accidents that she or a member of her family had been in. That she was adopted, that her house caught fire and was being rebuilt. That she is in the “British mafia”. It was just too exhausting even to just ignore it. Latest I heard is she is telling people she is a doctor.
Have a friend like that right now he lies so much it’s just frustrating because they know you know they are lying and they still continue to tell their stories 🤷🏻♂️
What’s that former friend’s first name if I may ask? Those stories sound awfully familiar with a person I recently cut ties with.
No matter what it’s lonely living with someone like this. They never ever really care about anyone but themselves.
Some of the “big” lies ought to depend on whether you’re dealing with narcissists etc.
Ding ding ding! Absolutely. A narcissist will lie often to manipulate, but they're not considered a pathological liar. They lie very specifically to accomplish their manipulations and will blast people with rude truths to manipulate them as well.
Covering for someone who stole 500 dollars doesn't seem like a small lie to me... and pretty unhealthy behavior to say the least.
Fr there's no one in the world I would cover for someone who took that much money
true and i feel like lying about liking someone is a little lie, not a big one
Absolutely agree
She always seems to upload just when I need it.
So glad we’re on the same page. 😊
i’ve only started actively trying to stop lying very recently, and it’s insane how much lying intertwined w my relationships. i’m better off now and much happier being honest to ppl
Who tf I got marry to brought me here
That was very interesting. I have several people in my life who just lie all the time. it seems to come from a place of entitlement. They lie to get what they want, to control people, and to put forth a certain image of themselves.
@@grandmastermario3695 your a liar! Lol. I've never been dishonest to my children
I have to say Dr. Marks, your video quality has really improved! I love the new editing style and I really appreciate all the time you take to make educational and well made video about mental health.
Thank you Dr. Tracey This is right on time. I needed to hear this. Have a good day 💙
You’re welcome glad you enjoyed it
@@DrTraceyMarks 😊💙
A LIE IS A LIE...
Dr. Marks, I love your energy. You have helped me so understand so much with your videos which are just as entertaining as they are informative and well researched.
Oh awesome Kathryn. Thanks so much for that I appreciate hearing that.😊👍🏽❤️
When I was younger I pathologically lied because I was scared and mentally abused by family member...
Now it’s ok, I try to remove this trauma and live my life in the best way
(Sorry for my English, I am from Poland)
How you are able to remove this.....?????
liar, notice how nobody cared? Did saying that make you feel better? Looking for empathy or attention? Need a hug? You still lie these days?
I knew someone like that. He did have some mental health issues and brain damage from drug use but man he could come up with some windies! His name is James and he earned the nickname Scatter brain James because of his lying. I love your videos Dr. Marks. They are always so spot on. Are you accepting new patients? :) I have major depressive disorder with psychotic features but am being treated with Fluoxetine and that is really working great for me. I had tried so many meds prescribed by my doctor but nothing was working. It was looking like it was treatment resistant. But Lo and behold, My doctor introduces me to Prozac. I now have fantastic relief. I mean the depression is still there (I have suffered from it all my life) but it is so much easier to tolerate. For the psychotic features, he has me on Rexulti. The two medicines work fantastically. Sorry to ramble on Dr. Marks. I just appreciate your videos and your wisdom so much. Cheers from New Mexico.
Hi Scott thanks for the compliment. I’m so glad Prozac is working for you. I use Prozac a lot it’s still pretty tried and true. However I’m sure that Rexulti is doing some heavy lifting as well. I am taking new patients but I can only treat people who live in Georgia. Now that your doctor has your good combination, looks like things should be smooth sailing for you.
Thank you very much, I've been online platonic friends with a woman for 5 years, all she's ever done is lie - make up stories and read/hear what she wants to believe.
She literally lies and/or fabricates stories over nearly anything, even when people prove to her how she is lying, she refuses to take responsibility.
This sounds insane, but she literally lies more than any human being I've ever known, thank you for posting your video.
I'm a recovering pathological liar and I get SO much anxiety when I slip up and tell a random lie for no reason. I'm trying so hard to stop, and I have done for the most part, but I still slip up every now and then. I never lie about important things, I'm actually painfully honest even when it makes me look bad or hurts my interests or when I could have hidden it and nobody would have known but somebody else would have been blamed, I only lie about stupid stuff that has no benefit to me or other reason to even justify it. When I slip up I beat myself up about it so much and get anxiety for days about it.
How did you stop?
The most honest, comment section ever
My ex was like this it got to the point she lied about having cancer. Its a serious issue that needs looking into
I'm currently in a relationship with a Pathological liar. She always lie about her past, about who she is, she lies to the point that she believes her own lies, and to my perspective its hypocritical, like when she's dissing someone about their character or manners when in fact she acts like that or she is like that. And even when caught lying or cornered about her lies, shes going to admit some, but lies about almost 80% about what she's going to admit, it's an endless lies, it's like a Lie after Lie after Lie so and so on. Now my trust about her is almost non existent, I sometimes question everything she says in my mind if I should believe it or not. I don't want to ask her again about whether shes lying about something because she's also a master of mind manipulation, she can get in your head to the point like you will not see yourself as a victim but an attacker who destroys her peace. I developed way to defend myself about her lies and to whatever she has to say when asked or not asked, and that is to lower my expectations about her, and that includes trusting less, and doesn't care anymore to some of whatever she has to say. This Lies can really deteriorate a relationship or how you get along with each other, it's almost like the love is getting snared away along with trust when lies are kept repeated. And to anyone who was wondering why don't I just leave her, Answer is I can't, we have a baby, and I want my baby to have a complete family. Even if it cost me my peace.
God bless you for your sacrifice for your child. But if her lying behavior starts messing with your mental health. You need to leave because of your daughter. Because if you become totally distress over the lies, that too can affect your daughter. And trust me I know the feeling. I'm currently going through this with my husband and don't know if I could ever come to a point where I just don't care. Which means if it was to continue messing with my mental health I would have to leave. Because stress can cause major health problems. I pray for us both that we can make it in these relationships and/or if God sees it that we remove ourselves, that the Lord would give us strength & peace to do so. Amen!
I am kinda like a pathological liar, but I always wait for the reaction and then I few seconds. They then say: Really? And I say: No, but it would have been cool. And everyone laughs.
Lame
You can easily tell if you are dealing with a pathological liar by their answers. They will literally have an answer to everything you question them on because unconsciously pathological liars don't think when they are being put on the spot. It's that simple. In order to save face a pathological liar will have an excuse or answer for everything because they are ashamed of admitting the truth thus by providing an answers to all your questions they believe they are convincing you that they're right.
Damn
I need the help on this?
ReesaTeesa brought me here.
same now im intrigued
Same
I liked the video, thanks. I struggle with this on some level. One thing you didn’t mention, and I’m not sure whether it would fit in with low level, or high level....telling a lie to avoid a certain situation. I have GAD, and Social Anxiety. I will make a commitment to attend a party, for example, and then at the last minute, find the thought of going so anxiety-producing and overwhelming, that I will make up something, such as a fictitious family concern, or a migraine, I always feel guilty afterwards.
I be feeling the exact same way
I think this would be considered pretty normal. You’re only lying because you don’t feel comfortable explaining your emotional well being. That’s no one’s business anyway. Now my guy… is a big ass liar!
There's a workmate of my wife's and she's constantly lying. Big lies like her being accused and arrested for murder and little lies about her lifestyle. She has told so many it's unbelievable. It's hard to socialize with her because of her constant lying.
She forgets her lies too. An example is when she said her dad poked the eye out of an ex boyfriend and then her dad gave it her as a gift. She forgot that lie and went and shown a recent photo of her ex with both eyes fine. When confronted she gets really angry when she's found out to the point where she's threatening violence.
I know someone who lies, then expects you to be onboard with them. They insist you back them up. The strange thing about it is there is no reason or threat involved to lie in the first place. It's almost a normal way of life. I had to distance myself because I refused to be a part of it.
The most common "normal" lie:
"I'm fine."
But is that a big or a small lie?
I was a pathological liar, I did it so I could be someone I wish I could be that I didn’t think I could become. I thought nothing of it, I thought it was harmless since I didn’t lie about my actual character. I still loved and cared for my friends but I didn’t know it would hurt as bad as it did. I betrayed my morals and my family. They know and I’ve even gotten death threats from one of them. I know I deserve it but I’ve stopped. I don’t want to hurt anyone anymore, I never wanted to hurt anyone in the first place. Now I’m seeing someone, and I haven’t lied to her and I never will. I want to tell her about what happened so I can be truly honest with her, I really do like her and the last thing I want to do is betray her trust. How should I break it to her?
I've been lying about having a father for the past 3 years to my friends...what kind of lying is that?
I'll admit I used to be horrendous with lying, reflection allowed me to see the endless damage it did.... but, lately though I just don't socialize, simply clam up or internally remind myself nothing is worth lying to any person for or about.
My new personal reminder "Remember. You gotta call a screw a screw, not a nail."
Being related to someone who is a pathological liar & having to deal with it on a daily bases, I feel it on so many levels
My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in Texas months ago, we have been in a long distance relationship for some months, he has been avoiding my calls and i got suspicious of him cheating.I asked my husband about it and he told me that he is always busy and working ,We had a big argument about it, this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr John a PI/Hacker who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husband’s Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husband’s phone. where i found so many evidence and proof in his Text messages, whatsapp,instagram and other social media including pictures that my husband has an affair with his co-worker. I have sent all the evidence to my lawyer. I just want to thank Mr John for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof for my lawyer, You can contact him on Gmail (ultimatehack003 ) or WhatsApp +17202954268, i Feel so sad about infidelity.
I can feel you
I love your robust description with the references. I’ve been enjoying your channel, thank you for being so thorough!
I met a guy who lied about everything. I mean everything! His name, his nationality, his family. But it was funny because he didn't remember his lies. He told me his brother was a plastic surgeon in LA but then didn't remember telling me. He lied about his name 3 times. Then, he lied about changing the colour of his eyes. Or that he broke his leg in the military when, in actuality, he was in a car accident where the driver (perhaps him) was drunk. I also met a girl in university who claimed her father was a neurosurgeon just so that she could boost her story that a professor of ours was 'crazy'. Then, she introduced me to her father who managed a discount bookstore. I thought, either he's really down on his luck or she has two fathers. She told other people he was a neurosurgeon also. I had to correct them citing that she did, indeed, introduce me to a bookstore manager as her father. This seemed innocent at the time, until she became president of our university culture club (which she had no actual ancestry to tie her to) and used it to get a $10,000 donation that she would later use to treat herself and her friends to a trip to Europe. My brother in law at the time recognized there was something wrong and made sure I, as vp of the same club, took my name off as signing officer for the club's bank account. I'm glad I did, otherwise I would have been the fallguy for sure.
Thanks Dr Marks, something is concerning when prolific lying overcomes an individual's need or ability to cope or distinguish with the truth. Those filters people apply to incomming information often make an obvious distinction for their compulsion to lie, when and what they are compelled to lie about, what they hope to achieve. Yet as you get to know them it becomes less distressingly, less of a dissapointment (like someone didnt care or continued time and time again to let them get off the hook) and that is usually rooted in the conditions or failures in their upbringing/social networks. Development missed in trust, esteem, accomplishments repeal the integrity of the person, they might no doubt use it as fun or to deny/evoke feelings of shame and betterment. Being clever and outfitting, some might thrive over lingering feelings of betrayal.
Really looking forward to your analysis of Pathogical Lying, it might be bigger but in a real teany weeny way 🙏
I wish she gave examples of pathological lying like she did with the other two types
I had a supervisor from work lie to me for about two years about where he lived. Then one day he was forced to invite me over to fix a piece of equipment. When he gave me the address it kind of blew my mind because it is not where he had been telling me. Then I caught him lying about work related matters. Now I avoid him and scrutinize everything he says.
Can you talk about the relationship between lying and bipolar disorder? It’s not definite in the DSMIV but anecdotally seems to have a very strong correlation. Is this related to delusion/reality distortion, substance abuse, or something else? Thank you!
Due to my constant masking, I'm sure I do a lot of the tiny lies whenever I have to deal with/talk to people.
Usually just stupid stuff, like, "I'll have to see if I'm available that day," because I need time to process their request, invite, or suggestion first, but mainly I need time to come up with a polite but assertive way of saying "no."
Which is usually another small lie, because "I just don't want to" or "I really can't stand you" would likely just cause more problems than it would solve.
Thank you for the video. Would like to see your take on the connections between narcissism, NPD, neurological malfunction, confabulation and lying. In short, confabulation fills in the memory gaps caused by the malfunctioning (delusional) brain of a narcissist. Therefore, they never believe - nor are they capable of believing - they are lying at all.
Your professional opinion and research could probably expand this into an interesting topic.
Thanks again.
So this answered the questions I've been asking to myself. I've been doing this since childhood. And it becomes worse until I grow up. I feel bad.
But I have a question, what if I begin to make a scenario/thought/character in my head and I begin to act like that, talked to myself in the mirror, or just to myself...I've been doing this for a long time now. And Im disturbed as hell.
can I ask what kind of character your talking to? I think I do something similar. I talk to my younger self. And whenever I’m said or upset or crying I hold my hand and say “what’s wrong/ I’m hear for you” because I’ve never had someone say that to me when I was younger and it helps a lot. So when I apply that to lying I ask myself “why did you lie?” like I’m talking to a child and it can bring so much clarity. I think it’s called Inner Child Work and I’m 16 but it’s never too early to start. it really helps & I recommend it :)
@@lilly2123 Oh I see. There are instances that I act like that but mine's just out of the blue, like unconsciously I begin talking to myself with no particular reason.
I do this too
Are you lying when you said you are disturbed?
Is it like playing a character, like acting?
This video deserves million of views
Pathological liar or not, the experience I had was very damaging.( i don’t know what they were thinking or doing, but they are now a bragger, and now that our relationship broke she’ll go out of her way to say things that she knows hurt me, she talks down to people thinks she the best the list goes one) but what she did was so incredibly wrong, this was during covid-19 just started school back up.we were in cohorts you wouldn’t be able to interact with the other kids so friend picking was hard. I met this girl and we kinda instantly bonded she did so weird things (like make a nickname for me and then only call me that nickname name to everyone even her parents, it was “snapdragon”) I found her to be very nice and exciting to hang out with. About two weeks into knowing her she introduced me to her friend that lives in Portland over instagram. Over a month or two I started talking to him, we talked every single night, I was definitely emotionally attached to him and her. But his background became more and more unbelievable, his name was Damien he had a scar over his eye he was abused etc and he suddenly got health problems when I would say something and complain about being in pain. Serafina always would explain that he had it worse, I had it he had it worse. But I was very very attached so I believed it. Everything we did was about her or Damien. I told things to Damien that I would have never said. At some point she got clingy,annoying and she loud and she would do things that oblivious made me annoyed. For months I denied that he wasn’t real but one day my friend helped me send that message to deliver that finally push for her, she then said to my other friend that she didn’t know what she was doing and she too thought he was real, she also made a lot of other “side characters”. She definitely knew what she was doing, she would drag information out of me and use it to her closer to me. She apologized over the phone I said that I would need a in person one which never happened , I was in fact the only one who had to work for an apology in that situation. I’ve tried being nice to her and try to atleast not hate each other . She’s also is be coming worse with her attention seeking ways. She kept a whole person going for at least a year, a whole year I was talking every night to some one who doesn’t exist.The worse part is that karma never comes for her, she is getting what she wants constantly. Luckily the only class I have with her is choir, but she sings so loud and sticks out like a sore thumb, she thinks she’s the best one in the entire choir (shes not, and I’m definitely not) but apparently shes gotten into the advance choir l, i don’t know if that’s true quite yet, but she will most likely never shut up about it and be even more confident, and most likely publicly shame me more.
I recently quit my job. There are a few times where I had to call in sick to stay home and have a metal health day. I wasnt physically sick but I was mentally suffering. I worked for a animal rescue and there where days and weeks that where so difficult. Not just with compassion fatigue with the animals but also difficult and mean staff members. At one point I was dealing with sexual harassment and a very toxic work environment. My father in law is a doctor and told me I needed to have a mental health day and take care or myself. I called into work sick and just focused on myself and relaxed. If I had called into work and told them I needed a mental health day it wouldn't have gone over well. It's so diffrent if you say mental health or you are physically sick. It's not excepted by many businesses to take mental health days.....so how do you go about taking a mental health day when it can make things worse at your job.??? But you have to take care of your health expesually in a toxic and emotionally draining work enviroment? I feel so bad that I lied but I thought it was ok because i was taking care of my mental health and it was none of their business giving that they where not supportive in the first place.... is it bad that I lied in this situation.????...😞
No, it’s okay. You have nothing to worry about. I’d do the same if I were you. You didn’t lie because you needed a break and it doesn’t matter which part of your body was suffering as long as you were suffering.
that i would put under a small lie. i hope youv'e found a job that you enjoy by now because it sucks you had to lie to avoid such terrible working conditions. so sad.
Most liars wanna impress people with money, status, protect their ego/character & lies are a easy was to “attain”. One thing I find is liars speak more than necessary cause they want there story to sound believable. Also sometimes the truth is right in front of use don’t think about it to much remember if it’s to good to be true it probably isn’t….
I am a pathological liar, and I really want to stop. I will lie just for the heck of it, no reason at all, basically every word I speak to someone is just fiction. I don't feel remorse for the lies I've told, I should, but I don't. Sometimes I'll think back on huge lies I told and just think about it and wonder what would've happened if I told the truth. Other than those huge lies I told to people, I never really think about the lies I've told. But, recently, I wanted to stop, I've been lying compulsively my entire life and I finally think it's time to stop. I'm going to be 15 soon and I think that's when you're really starting to feel what life has to offer, high school, puberty, love, driving permit, and jobs. I need to stop so it doesn't affect my job, or my partner if I ever find one. I don't think this will be easy, but I really want to try
i think thats a trait of narcissism. i dont mean to offend.
Anyone else here from Reesateesa?
i used to tell lies to make myself look cool as a kid (when i was 5-10) but when i grew up i stopped. idk if i was a pathological liar or not.
Hey Doc, excellent video (as always!)
Where you mention people whose lying has more of a compulsion / anxiety aspect and thus may be alleviated or assisted by taking an antidepressant similar to those that would be prescribed for OCD...
I became curious as to whether there might be any benefit for people whose lying stems more from an addiction with regard to impressing people / storytelling / enhancing their own perceived self image / mental stimulation, and who might feel dull, bored, restless, depressed and empty if they DON'T lie...like maybe ADHD meds or the meds that can target issues relating to addiction (like the meds that seem to stop people having cravings).
Hi Lady Baa Baa. That’s a good thought. I don’t think we have enough understanding about what drives the compulsive lies enough to target areas in the brain with medications. Addiction is a different mechanism and therefore we target cravings with medications. But compulsive lying can be personality-based versus brain injury. And even in the people where it stems from a personality issue, The reason behind the lies still may be too complicated to target with a drug. That’s just my raw thoughts. it could be that someone is trying to find an addiction model for it. It’s still fairly poorly researched though.
Hey Dr.Tracey Marks,
I been dating this girl for 5 months now, and I been and recently noticed something wrong with her, and I cannot tell what kind of behaviour this can be!
When I saw her for her birthday few days ago, I noticed many things!
To begin, it was my first time formally meeting her mother!
During our conversations, I have spoken to her mom about how my girlfriend and I had a big connection, since we both been to Africa! Then her mom looked confused, and looked at my girlfriend and said “but you never been to Africa” Then my girlfriend said that she felt the relation, since her father used to work in Africa, and her half sister have been there! And my girlfriend had told me that she’s been to Africa, but then I find out from her mom that she never went!
A little detail, I remember when my girlfriend and I starting talking, she was the first one to bring up the topic about Africa, before I did! So that makes me confused, as to why her mom said that she never went!
Here are other things I noticed about my girlfriend!
1. I told her that her hair looked nice when it’s down, and asked if it’s her real hair, and she said yes. (Usually she wears extensions) and then she was sure that she wasn’t wearing any, when in reality she was. (Maybe she didn’t pay attention but that was strange to me how she was convinced that she wasn’t wearing any extensions and it was her real hair)
2. Then I told her mom how my sister in law is pregnant and will give birth in December, then my girlfriend says to me in front of her mom “Oh yeah I met her sister in law, she was super pregnant!” When in reality, she never met my sister in law, nor my niece! When confronted, she was still sure that she met my niece, and told me that she heard noises down stairs! Reality she never met them!
3. My girlfriend and I were hanging out in her room, cuddling and stuff, then I told her that we should be careful since her mom is in the backyard, then my girlfriend told me that no, her mom ain’t there, and left! When in reality, her mom was in fact in the backyard watering the plants! Then when she looked outside and saw her mom’s car parked in front the house, then she said “oh shit yeah, my mom is here!”
In all this I know that she suffered trauma before in her past relationship, and while I was dating her, there was 2 events that shocked her!
First one:
She told me that her ex boyfriend wrote a suicide note related to her because she didn’t want to get back together with him, and then he commit suicide!
Second one:
When she did a get away with her half sister, her sister met this guy at the resto bar, who ended up hanging out with my girlfriend and her half sister, and he ended up sexually harassing her (because she defended herself it didn’t go too far)
She also has a problem with alcohol, and been doing therapy and is on medication to control the drinking as well! Could the medication be playing with her mind or behaviour? Because I never seen her talk/act like that before, when we were having conversations us 2, or with other people!
I need help understanding what kind of behaviour this is? I thought about pathological liar, or Scisophrenia?
Dr. Marks, You are simply terrific. A much needed explanation.
To anyone who knew me reading this I need to confess to lying, I've lied a lot in my life and I'm very sorry for it, I'll never do it again I should have known better I'm very sorry to anyone who I knew in school or in life that I've lied to or lied about, I'm sorry I shouldn't have lied and I feel so guilty about it and so I'm confessing cause I'm scared it'll come back to me one day, please forgive me and forget about it. It just digs a deep hole that you can't get out of and I don't want to be known as the one who lies. I'm sorry if my lies have given anyone trouble in their lives. Please I beg for forgiveness.😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏
I lie to protect and benefit myself. This makes me question mysef
You really called me out with the mental health day
Hi Dr. Marks! I thought it was just called compulsive lying, I didn't know it had a more specific term. When I was little, I would lie a lot to protect myself plus being raised by adults who told white lies or didn't keep their promises didn't help. Also having trust issues. I personally have OCD, PTSD, Chronic Anxiety, and Clinical Depression, but I don't take any medication besides Deblitane, which is a birth control. Some people have asked if I'm Bipolar or have ADHD, which could actually be possible, but if I am, it doesn't affect me to where I can't function normally. It's my Chronic Anxiety. My question to you is, how can it be determined Chronic and why am I completely okay with socializing and not being afraid of other people?
Chronic just refers to it being president long term. It’s not a specific cut off for what is long-term. But this is a cute anxiety which is more recent onset that may only last hours or a few days and resolve. Bulk and have anxiety and still be OK socializing. Not all anxiety affects socialization. I did a video talking about social anxiety Here ruclips.net/video/QJuSm4R8N4E/видео.html
First time watching your channel in my opinion, simply amazing! I appreciate your hard work Dr.
This was so interesting! I loved learning the 3 types of lies :)
Hey Doc very good at educating, got some serious legal problems with ppl addicted to shopping addicted to lying sucks.
LMAOO the lying at 2:41 was too funny I’m sorry
Some of these big lies, calling in sick when you feel fine and calling it a mental health day and pretending you were too busy to take a call seem pretty small and insignificant to me. If Veronica likes to talk on the phone for three hours at a time and I'm too busy to talk to her cause I'm watching tv, that's not a lie. Telling your husband, he's the father, when you know he's not is a big lie, not taking a mental health day.
Depends on if it is a genuine, mental health day and you are feeling genuinely stressed and overwhelmed, or if your just having a day off for the hell of it!
She is low-key roasting Trump.
LMAOOOOO! 😂🤣
I feel so fucking terrible.
I lied to a girl i met 2 years ago on a videogame i talked to her because we were cosplaying both for a videogame we were different characters but we got along well for her to add me then i began lying to her one lie to another lie to another lie. For no reason at all. And it always had to be some sad shit i came up with until we got way to close and ended up getting in their contacts we did a voice and face rev and it was all good at that time i stopped coming up with the lies but one day i wanted her to have a a valuable item in a game we both played she kept refusing and i came up with knee surgery lie yet the biggest lie i ever told her she got worried for me and texted me everyday checking up on me and sending me a lot of memes always thats when i realized she was a true friend and i never had someone treat me this way ever so i kept on lying. I lied that i had immunodeficiency the Iga deficiency one and i lied about the count of my siblings i told her 6 but i only had 2 and i lied about being sexually assaulted by all women it was a guy and 2 other woman that actually assaulted me kept going on and on with these lies and now to the present i realized how much i fucked up she isnt responding to any of my texts and she always has a offline status which is super weird because back then she would always be online and has been ghosting me for a couple of days and i am crying and having breakdowns because of it maybe she realized how much bs i kept saying to her and eventually got sick of me and left i feel like our friendship is falling apart and i know that i deserve it all. If she ever finds out about this comment. I am sorry i am sorry for making you worry for me when it was a lie i am sorry for being such a horrible person to you, you don't deserve to go through this at all and seeing how life is right now shit for you makes me feel super terrible. i am crying a lot now i have been crying for a hour and half i was such a prick to you when you were so nice and kind with me and if you do find this comment we should probably end this chaos now. I dont wanna hurt you more seeing how much your hurt right now. end this friendship and live your life happily and please dont think about me and get hurt I am so sorry.. i shouldn't have ever done this to you at all and i am way to scared to tell you.
EDIT: we ended it on good terms but i never told her those were all lies i came up with.
I really recommend that you see a counselor or therapist if possible to get to the underlying issue of why you felt like you needed to lie to have a real friendship. Otherwise, you may continue to have issues with this and carry the guilt for your deceptions
@@sharpeningtheaxe its not just friendships doctors too i dont understand why i do all of this.
@@nocturne3220 try keeping a journal of when you do it and what purpose you think it might serve each time. Ask yourself what would happen if you hadn’t lied. Be mindful of when you feel the urge to lie and what feelings come up if you resist the urge. Try to start correcting your lies immediately after telling them, little by little. Most people will be much less bothered if you correct yourself right away instead of letting them build and them ending up feeling suspicious or finding out you were lying so much down the road. A good therapist could still be helpful to you, even if you lie to them as well. Just tell them that you have a problem with that and then even if you lie to them, they can help you learn not to if you’re ready to work on it.
No way this is 7 months ago that felt like 2 years ago omg we got back together and i just accepted my flaws and i am still trying to change myself for the better of my friend and other people that are dear to me
Hi, Dr. Marks. I adore your channel ☺ you're really helping a lot of people with these videos. I have some ideas\ requests for future topics. If any of them appeal to you, I'd be so grateful if you could make a video 😊
-Learned helplessness
- "control issues", what makes a person become a "control freak"
- flashbacks & "emotional flashbacks"
-body memories
- Somatization, especially with depression
- Repetition compulsion (i.e. why are victims of trauma more likely to be drawn back into situations reminiscent of their past trauma)
- When does anxiety begin to veer into the territory of delusions or paranoia
- is depression caused mainly by a chemical imbalance or by painful life experiences and circumstances
- I'd love to hear your thoughts on the "chemical imbalance" theory of mental illness in general as I personally believe that a lot of mental illness stems from childhood issues or trauma, but it seems this view has fallen out of favor, with more people opting to use medications instead of therapy and insurance companies being unwilling to pay for long term therapy sessions. Nowadays mental illness seems to be viewed largely as an imbalance in the brain that needs to be resolved with medicine. As a psychiatrist, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.
Thank you!
I'm still laughing at those little lies 😂
I love the Boogie Man one! 😂
those examples came a little too easy for me 😀
@@DrTraceyMarks 😂😂😂😂😂
Yes 👍 👍
@@ladybaabaa3294 same 😂😂
i used that many times and other scary situation and characters to save my wallet from my nephews and nieces 😂 sometimes works, but kids are way smarter nowadays 😂
What about people lying to frame someone to damage that person reputation or to destroy relationships with family or friends
When I lie I lie to my parents on purpose bc I don’t feel like arguing with them about what I should be allowed to do, OR to soften the blow for someone not ready to hear something. Pathological liars drive me nuts bc it’s so counterproductive. Everyone notices ur lying.
This disorder is kind of messed up because I work with a guy who I know constantly does this. I didn't realize it until he was so convinced that he received a higher pay than us as a new employee and we all know he did not. But you could tell that he had confabulated so much about it that he really thought we were all wrong. He has lied so many times about things, that his disorder has literally made my brain jump through hoops and honestly he has now gotten to the point where I don't want to really even speak to him. My mind is bouncing all over the place just thinking about some of the crazy unrealistic shit he has said.
Imagine it being your partner .....it's a nightmare!!!
There are SO MANY undiagnosed/addicts that do this. It’s caused me to withdraw from the world.
I tell lies because I’d rather say what I wish the truth was
I lie because I was taught to when I was younger. I was taught there are moments when you need to make up a story to cover up. I have to keep running to survive. I’m tired of running it’s time to make a change.
In the future, would you consider doing a video on PTSD in the African American community relative to social trauma and anxiety? That would be tremendously helpful at a time like this. Thanks!
thanks Justin for the question. I saved it for future reference. It might be a bit big for me to cover though because theres a lot of angles and approaches to this. Let me think about it.
I found what you said about prolific liars tending to be men in managerial positions. I have been "managed" by some of them and they made my life hell!
Dr. Tracy you are young beautiful and super intelligent and physically beautiful so you understand more so about encountering the oppressive and destructive individuals who will try to demolish at all costs of you won't reveal that truth that is why you can be so authentic and successful
I had a colleague who told me they had antisocial personality disorder kind of jokingly. As a non-professional I found them more borderline than antisocial. At the beginning they would tell a lot of stories with contradictory details. Other colleagues also picked up on this. After I confronted them once about the lying, the details of their stories start to corroborate with earlier versions or at least one of the versions. I was very cautious with them at the beginning but there were no signs they would take advantage of me. We no longer work together but should I stay away from them?
yes!
One day she had given me already 5 so different versions of the same setting. So, I asked her to sit down next to me, then I posed the following question: can you tell me which one of these 5 versions you told me today is false?
Her laconic answer was: I truly do not know anymore what is the truth! 😂😂😂
Months later when I had made a brain scan of her and told them how closely related to a Psychopath she was, she made yet another laconic statement: WELL DONE! 😉😉😉
And finally, when I told a friend just a single story about her, my friend laconic statement was: this is SURREAL. 😆😆😆
That day was the day I decided to write fiction stories about my last 2 years with this INCREDIBLY SURREAL woman. 😆😉😂
May Allah bless you. I also have headaches from pathological liars. When you literally challenge them, they go left and right and they become stupid and the problem is that these people don't have dignities. You humiliate them all the time and they just take the humiliation and continue with the same arguments all over.
This!
My mom is suffering from memory loss but at the same time her lieing is getting more and more outrageous. She accuses us of not inviting her to her grand children school events (lies) we can present evidence and still she refuses to see reality. Today she lied to my face and said I was diagnosed in my teens as a schizophrenic. A complete fabrication. Im suspecting she is altering reality when she watches courttv or investigation Id. My fear is she shares these outragious stories as truth to neighbors and friends. It’s very disturbing
I know someone who makes up the smallest details about where she was and what she was doing. So and so called and was suicidal , details on all of it , and there was no call. Scary
Mi abuelo tenía mentira patológica(probablmente en el marco de un trastorno de personalidad).
Él no terminaba de diferenciarlo de la realidad, al final. Algunas historias valía la pena escucharlas, luego de asumir su caracter más ficcional que real...
My grandpa always said ! Tell the truth son and you won’t have to remember a thing ❤
I have a little brother who pathologically lies all the time, our mom enables and sides with him at all times, he cries when I call him out on his fantastical stories. I always get told to "leave it alone" or "Just leave it" he cries for minutes on end and stomps around the house when i don't believe him. What do i do? He won't stop, he keeps telling me these crazy stories and always plays it off as "I learned it on RUclips shorts" I don't even want to hear the stories they are awful.
I was in the car with my ex one evening and I said to him, “your headlights aren’t on” he quickly turned them on, then he said “lucky I noticed my headlights weren’t on before I turned onto the main road”. I was like, “what do you mean, I just told you they weren’t on” but he truly didn’t believe me that I’d said it even though he definitely heard me and responded. He could lie to himself and was 100% convinced it was the truth. Did it with other situations as well. Strangely, he’s not much of a liar otherwise.
as soon as she said "i never lie" i turned it off lol what a liar.
Another excellent video. I appreciate you so much.❤
Ngl i wish i could be friends with the creator of this video.
She would be a really good friend.
If you see this comment you're videos help me because a lot of the things that I've been going through Its been tough for me and going to your videos have really helped me learn about my disorders and other people.
I kind of wishing you could reach out to some of your viewers cuz i think you're really cool.
Thank you so much for the videos. Because of you i been doing better at times and these videos give me hope for my bpd and bipolar 1.
❤😂🎉😅😊
My thing was I started to lie
Because my family is very toxic and I could not do anything unless I really lied
I was also afraid of making people sad or mad at me if I told the real truth
But I am working on getting better
My mom has been diagnosed with Bipolar since 2004 but now 2023-24 mom outwardly lies to her niece Debbie M. Every day up to several times a day , will it ever stop ? I and my wife are my mother’s legal Rogers Guardian which the Rogers is updated every year . If you listen to her version of the day it looks bad but if you actually was part of it you don’t even recognize the day she explain’s !
I find it difficult to outright lie but when I do lie I do it by only telling part of the truth or diverting the conversation so I don’t have to lie
The partial truth...I see. 😊
Thanks I think I have BPD While I watch your video I feel comfortable Good job
I never tell any of these lies, I've lived an interesting life so I don't need to lie in order to have a good story to tell. I also don't do things like small lies, I'm just kind of blunt in that sense but it's also because I'm Dutch. I notice other people lying like that often so I came to this video to figure out what lying looks like. Now I think there's something wrong with me for not lying and I'll probably trust people a lot less.
Actually, this question has nothing to do with the current video... but could you do a video on internal/hidden borderline personality disorder? Also, another good video would be on pure OCD. I think I may have both and it would help me tremendously if you could explain those two disorders to me and I think this would benefit others suffering from one or both. Please reply back, Dr. Marks, if you see these comments from me. I know you get a lot of questions, texts, emails, ect. So I understand if you don't always see everyone's comments. Thanks in advance for any help you can give me.🙂
Having a Mother that's compulsive liar , I used to think it was hilarious until they don't take accountability and that's when it got frustrating
My father is a pathological liar. It is hell for family. He can't contain it. About 90% of what he claims is either a distorted version of what reality or straight up a lie. It can be a lie where there is no reason for. For example: 'I didn't buy the batteries I needed' and then 3 minutes later he says 'I did get the batteries' and shows them. There was no reason to lie about it. When I asked why he lied, he said: I can't stop it.
Problem: the doctors that 'treated him', didn't know that he is a pathological liar, and believe his versions and lies. I then try to inform the doctors that he is a pathological liar, but they don't believe it and he orders doctors not to contact his family. So, he always gets the wrong diagnosis and escapes being exposed.
And I'm very sad to say it: most psychiatrists are doctors who refuse to doubt their own diagnoses because then they feel like they have to admit that they made a bad judgement.
This leads to insane situations. Studies in the Netherlands have shown that 50% of the diagnoses is completely wrong for psychiatric patients. Realise that these diagnoses change the life of the patients.
Psychiatry should take a very humble and sceptic approach, knowing those numbers. But doctors are people who thrive on their titles.
Imagine if cardiologists made 50% wrong diagnoses. That doctor would be fired and even lose their license. But in the field of psychiatry, this does not happen. Why?
I’m here to share that I realize I have a lying problem, and I want to change that
Wow, you’ve just explained my brother in law to a T. This week alone he’s lied he’d seen No Way Home at the cinema before it had been realised, a Christmas delivery hadn’t arrived, we had the signed confirmation! He’s been a black belt in karate for years, no photos, trophies, or friggin belts! COVID positive when it suits him. Pathological? Or just a prick? 🤔