ChatGpt's transcription of the text: I notice more men listen to you compared with other teachers because of my childhood. My character gets stuck on needing affection, love, and attention from women. This is perhaps what derails me the most, and it is exhausting at times. As the famous country song goes, have I been looking for love in all the wrong places? I really want to end my projection onto women. I see it all happening but can't stop it. Any tips? Yeah, this is a really interesting thing-the male and female divide. When I was in Angelo's talk, I was shocked by how many women there were and how many women were asking questions compared to my talks. When I do events, it's normally 50/50. In my book clubs starting next week, in every book club I do-three clubs with six people-there are two men and the rest women. But I've also had it the other way, where it's all men and just me or one other woman. That's interesting, the male and female divide, and the way that works. I think there are more women into spirituality. I don't know if there are more women into nonduality necessarily, but I know that more women are prepared to go to events and retreats than men are. That's generally the way it is. Men find it harder to be in groups or go to new events or retreats by themselves. There are men that do it, but it seems that, generally, women are more prepared to go out and be in groups than men. It's interesting how this works. I'd say that, generally, male teachers are more popular-way more popular-than female teachers. You get the occasional female teacher that's popular, but generally, male teachers are way more popular. I sometimes suspect that's because of the women. I think it's easier to go to the opposite gender for this subject, because, as you say, there are projections from other people. Men often find it easier to listen to a female teacher, and women often find it easier to listen to a male teacher. There are lots of females listening here, but I get the sense that that's just the way it is. It may be undone karma, like you say-wanting love and affection from that person, something that's not fulfilled and unconscious. Any tips on this? The ultimate tip is when you see beingness everywhere and in all things. The love that you seek is in all things. So, if there's an attraction to me, it's not really me you're attracted to. When you love something, when you appreciate something, the seeking stops. In the seeking stopping, the separation stops, so there is an intimacy with something. You can understand why it's easier to connect with the other gender. Not everybody is straight, but you can see how it's easier when there is admiration because it evokes love. Also, if there was missing mothering, it can be seen as remothering. In Tantra and Bhakti practices, loving the teacher is used as a reminder of the beingness. When you love the teacher, you love them with all your heart. Through loving them, that love in you is being brought out. Then, you move from the teacher to other things like the flowers next to the teacher or the room, the other people, and eventually onto yourself. It’s such a beautiful practice. It’s really not me that you're attracted to; it’s not me that you want love from. It’s yourself that you want love from. You want beingness; you want home. It's there in the very core of your being. It’s what you're seeing in me or desiring from me, but it's really yourself. Someone else commented on what you said and mentioned there might be more ego-trying with the same-gender polarity. I think that is really true. I can see how I might annoy women, and I can see how I would annoy men. But I can see how I would annoy women, and sometimes I might trigger women's shame or low self-esteem. Like, "I have it and they don't," and then they compare themselves to me. Whereas when you're with the opposite sex, there might be less comparison. The same goes for men with a male teacher; they might be comparing themselves. It might be harder for some men to take what I say from a male teacher, and it might be harder for some women to take what male teachers say from me. So, I think that's true as well. Ironically, most of the teachers who are really famous and popular in nonduality are men. I do suspect that it's women who create that, even though they value equality. It's ironic. I'm also not so motivated to do the business side of it, like some of the men. They focus on things like good thumbnails, introductions, and looking professional. I don’t really care about that, but I see that it's important to others. In a female nonduality teachers group I'm in, they all have this issue of not finding motivation to do promotion, editing, making things look nice, etc. Some people talk about masculine and feminine energies in awakening-not about men and women, but about these energies within each of us. What masculine and feminine represent in nonduality is that the masculine represents the consciousness, which I equate as the emptiness, and love is the feminine, representing the everythingness. The "I am" and the pure being are everything and the feminine. They both come together as one and the same thing-nothing and everything, emptiness and love. From a nonduality perspective, the emptiness is masculine, and everything is feminine. In awakenings of the body-mind mechanisms, some people are more in touch with the love side of things, and others with the emptiness. It often aligns with gender. Women tend to be more in touch with love, and men more with emptiness. But masculine women might be more in touch with emptiness, and feminine men with love. It's interesting, isn't it? I don’t have much to say about masculine and feminine in us, though. It’s a controversial subject right now with issues like transgender, transitioning, becoming nonbinary, and all these different things.
ChatGpt's transcription of the text:
I notice more men listen to you compared with other teachers because of my childhood. My character gets stuck on needing affection, love, and attention from women. This is perhaps what derails me the most, and it is exhausting at times. As the famous country song goes, have I been looking for love in all the wrong places? I really want to end my projection onto women. I see it all happening but can't stop it. Any tips?
Yeah, this is a really interesting thing-the male and female divide. When I was in Angelo's talk, I was shocked by how many women there were and how many women were asking questions compared to my talks. When I do events, it's normally 50/50.
In my book clubs starting next week, in every book club I do-three clubs with six people-there are two men and the rest women. But I've also had it the other way, where it's all men and just me or one other woman. That's interesting, the male and female divide, and the way that works. I think there are more women into spirituality. I don't know if there are more women into nonduality necessarily, but I know that more women are prepared to go to events and retreats than men are. That's generally the way it is. Men find it harder to be in groups or go to new events or retreats by themselves. There are men that do it, but it seems that, generally, women are more prepared to go out and be in groups than men.
It's interesting how this works. I'd say that, generally, male teachers are more popular-way more popular-than female teachers. You get the occasional female teacher that's popular, but generally, male teachers are way more popular. I sometimes suspect that's because of the women. I think it's easier to go to the opposite gender for this subject, because, as you say, there are projections from other people. Men often find it easier to listen to a female teacher, and women often find it easier to listen to a male teacher.
There are lots of females listening here, but I get the sense that that's just the way it is. It may be undone karma, like you say-wanting love and affection from that person, something that's not fulfilled and unconscious.
Any tips on this? The ultimate tip is when you see beingness everywhere and in all things. The love that you seek is in all things. So, if there's an attraction to me, it's not really me you're attracted to. When you love something, when you appreciate something, the seeking stops. In the seeking stopping, the separation stops, so there is an intimacy with something. You can understand why it's easier to connect with the other gender. Not everybody is straight, but you can see how it's easier when there is admiration because it evokes love. Also, if there was missing mothering, it can be seen as remothering.
In Tantra and Bhakti practices, loving the teacher is used as a reminder of the beingness. When you love the teacher, you love them with all your heart. Through loving them, that love in you is being brought out. Then, you move from the teacher to other things like the flowers next to the teacher or the room, the other people, and eventually onto yourself. It’s such a beautiful practice. It’s really not me that you're attracted to; it’s not me that you want love from. It’s yourself that you want love from. You want beingness; you want home. It's there in the very core of your being. It’s what you're seeing in me or desiring from me, but it's really yourself.
Someone else commented on what you said and mentioned there might be more ego-trying with the same-gender polarity. I think that is really true. I can see how I might annoy women, and I can see how I would annoy men. But I can see how I would annoy women, and sometimes I might trigger women's shame or low self-esteem. Like, "I have it and they don't," and then they compare themselves to me. Whereas when you're with the opposite sex, there might be less comparison. The same goes for men with a male teacher; they might be comparing themselves. It might be harder for some men to take what I say from a male teacher, and it might be harder for some women to take what male teachers say from me. So, I think that's true as well.
Ironically, most of the teachers who are really famous and popular in nonduality are men. I do suspect that it's women who create that, even though they value equality. It's ironic. I'm also not so motivated to do the business side of it, like some of the men. They focus on things like good thumbnails, introductions, and looking professional. I don’t really care about that, but I see that it's important to others. In a female nonduality teachers group I'm in, they all have this issue of not finding motivation to do promotion, editing, making things look nice, etc. Some people talk about masculine and feminine energies in awakening-not about men and women, but about these energies within each of us.
What masculine and feminine represent in nonduality is that the masculine represents the consciousness, which I equate as the emptiness, and love is the feminine, representing the everythingness. The "I am" and the pure being are everything and the feminine. They both come together as one and the same thing-nothing and everything, emptiness and love.
From a nonduality perspective, the emptiness is masculine, and everything is feminine. In awakenings of the body-mind mechanisms, some people are more in touch with the love side of things, and others with the emptiness. It often aligns with gender. Women tend to be more in touch with love, and men more with emptiness. But masculine women might be more in touch with emptiness, and feminine men with love. It's interesting, isn't it?
I don’t have much to say about masculine and feminine in us, though. It’s a controversial subject right now with issues like transgender, transitioning, becoming nonbinary, and all these different things.
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