For those condemning Billy Graham, I think it is important to remember that most of the generals who have gone before us may not have had the information we have today. Now we have a better opportunity to learn from their remarkable impact and also mistakes through the many platforms and channels available
I love her transparency and honesty! She’s going to help free so many people from denying the actuality of wounds in their hearts. God bless you sister Graham.
My mother was in the kitchen and my dad came in my room about 11:00 PM, woke me up when I was 10 years old and said "I'm leaving". I thought he was going to work because he had odd hours as a railroad engineer and I said "Ok, I love you and I'll see you when you come back". He said "No, I'm leaving". He did wait until my brother came home from a date. It was right before Christmas. He had a mistress waiting across town to drive to another city where he was working at and never came back. There are stories throughout the years, and I even tried to talk to him about this night, but was shut down. We did get to talk for many hours because he developed bone cancer and passed 4 years ago. When he passed though, I strangely had an emotional peace about the abandonment from that night and the following years, because I knew it could never be fixed and I let it go through God's help. I think I was trying all my life to "fix it" and there was no more reason to try to do that with him. I did have my Grandfather, that was an AMAZING man. My dad did find the Lord Jesus throughout the years, so I know he will have eternal life. I have forgiven him and I find a lot of peace from that. If I could tell my 10 year old self anything, I would tell myself not to define your life through anyone else but Christ. He will direct you and will never leave you nor forsake you.
Yes it is so hard to grow up with out that support of a father. My dad came back as an angel to save my child and grandchildren from a fire. My grandson told me later my dad had visited him in their new home. He said Papa told me he would always be with me. I said Jacob what does that mean then he said. He said i was a peacemaker. My dad would be his guardian angel. He also told him he wished he had stayed with my mother and my family. Divorce is never easy. He came back from the grave to apologize for leaving. Love your parents for we all make mistakes. None are perfect we are all born with a flaw.
We have been with Ruth as she shared her journey, and there were few dry eyes as she told of her own struggles and missteps. We have all had our own battles and learning experiences. Praise the Lord for His gentle kindness and mercy toward us!!! This is a humble, sweet woman! We loved hearing her share.
Military kids go thru this too. Our dads are gone a lot and we just went on with our lives with our moms, siblings and friends. We moved on average of every 3 years.
Very good and honest interview. Very well spoken by Ruth Graham. Respect her boldness to share something very true that I am sure someone can relate to and receive healing from. I am sure the book will be a good read.
om..God !! this was incredibly relatable incredibly poignant incredibly needed incredibly honest incredibly refreshing God knows what He's telling those who choose to serve Him when He says.. COUNT THE COST!!! the anointing isn't cheap!
This short interview brought tears to my eyes. Too many little girls' hearts are broken and they don't mend and this affects all their relationships. 😢💔
I can understand. But, I usually went with Daddy everywhere he went for a long time. But there were MANY times being a PK left me and my needs unnoticed, more because my Mother shielded Daddy from us kids over several years when he was too busy to slow down and recognize while he built a church building and ministered to others, his own kids were so in need for a Father and a Pastor. Those wounds have impacted us in m9re ways than we could have ever imagined. I dearly love my parents, and the time for picking at scars is passed. Daddy has been promoted to Papa, and though many people call him that, I know I was his first child and tell him so occasion, just to keep the record straight.
I was married to a man whose father was a minister and put that before his kids which took its toll on him. Conversely my father was also a minister but never put us 2nd which made all the difference. I get this SO much! Thank you for sharing your story Sister Graham!
Thank you for sharing this. Thank Ruth for sharing her story. It truly is comforting to hear such a testimony. It is also wonderful to see how Ruth models and keeps honor and dignity towards her father but is still honest about her pain. Thank you and God bless you dearly Ruth. In Jesus name, Amen x
Thank you for your honesty and bravery!! So many people want to tell us "you should be grateful for ...." Yes we should be grateful, but that does not mean that the hurt did not happen. Forgiveness is wonderful. Your message is powerful.
Love the Graham family & Ruth! She’s honest! It’s so important that she is sharing the message of the importance of fathers & pastors be there for their families first and foremost! This is in God’s will! Fathers be there for your children!
So sad for you. Ever think he might have gone through the same thing with his father? History repeats itself. Now you have a heavenly father to look after you. Just remember God loves you. Love your father if he still alive though. Someday you will understand why. We are looking through a dark glass trying to see the other side.
I can relate to abandonment. It is still a struggle I have to seek Jesus as my father. Since I didn't have a father, I don't naturally trust God in that way. It's been a total disaster in my past relationships and still affects my marriage but thankfully I know the truth about why I am the way I am and just need to keep pushing for healing. Its never too late.
Thank you very much Ruth Graham for your honest and vulnerable sharing of your heart. While admiring, loving and respecting your dad, I have often wondered how life was for you kids. I think you’ll never know how many you have helped by sharing. You’ve touched my heart.
Ty for sharing this, my parent's were divorced before I began elementary school, and I was abandoned by him and searched for that relationship ( in all the wrong ways) most of my life, then I met my heavenly Father through Jesus and I am no longer abandoned.
I love that I have a purpose in God. When we discover our relationship is with God then all our decisions are a reflection of what he is teaching us. We have family and I know that when we put things into perspective we can understand how it goes when every situation presents itself. Never think you bow down to anything dsyfunctional but you must give it the grace it so needs. So dont make it worse by doing the same badness over and over. Change or atleast leave it until the time is right. Patience and being good are just a few valuable tools we have it make it the best it can be.
Many of us have been abandoned...fathers in the military is a big one. My dad was there...in his body; Emotionally he was long gone. The war killed his spirit even though he was a believer.
It's so important to deal with them, not just denie and burry them. We are allowed to lay them in front of God for to receive his healing at the right time.
Awe ❤❤ how interesting as a mom of 4 unmarried, knowing the calling on my life of ministry especially for woman & mothers and hopefully directily having a positive impact on there children,and I'll be stepping into that role very soon , however God bless social media and the internet because for now as a mom I know that's where I'm called to, to hopefully reach as many hurting woman as humanly possible from home!! For someone who has never had the opportunity to travel, I know the opportunities will arise & I WILL remember this and Thankyou Ruth!!! It took Alot of courage to share your experience but like always God turns it around for our good to help someone out!!!
Wow the first few minutes of this really helped me. Society tells us that women who grow up without fathers look for love in men. Like Ruth I grew up as a preachers kid although my dad isn’t famous but like Ruth I struggled looking for love( never married though ) goes to show this feeling can happen to anyone.
Parents FIRST ministry is their family. Thats the ministry to lead, disciple and train and that is love, attention to children. Their is a time for everything, one just needs to learn how to administer their time before God. When we recgonize that our family IS OUR FIRST MINISTRY , and we do it for God, that Glorfiys Him.
Wow I truly appreciate her honesty. I think it can be really difficult to be honest with others as a Christian because we are trying to honor our parents, our spouses, not gossip etc. we should definitely treat people with respect, but we need to be honest about our pain. Yes, when parents fail to practically love their kids it creates a deep soul wound in them. It can be forgiven and the relationship can be restored if broken. But often there is very real pain for the child (looking for love in the wrong places, workaholism to feel secure). This is a very important topic-we need to strengthen the family rather than fostering childhood wounds that require more Christian ministry/counseling. A lot of soul wounds can be prevented.
I can see exactly what she's talking about. You wonder where is the plan we hear GOD has for us all. I lately have been looking over the past ten yrs. DONT SEE THE PLAN! STILL I LOVE THE LORD AND TRUST HIS DECISIONS!!!!!
We all make mistakes. We all commit sins. But God still forgives us. He still loves us despite all our mistakes. We only have to admit that we are sinners, we have to repent our sins and ask Jesus to be our Lord and Savior, we have to do this FROM OUR HEARTS. And God will changed us. He will give you peace and joy that comes from God.
Me too I went through about that same life Ruth God blessed me later we still make mistakes 😇. Sometimes we do the right thing than Wham! Something you did or not your fault but when faced with adversity. Get back up.
Evangelists are actually to equip the body and they do the work of the ministry. Billy Graham had to fill a void at a time. If we all evangelized where we are and more people were equipped, then many wouldn’t have to go as far and not as long. The focus needs to be on equipping for evangelists as the Bible says. 5 fold given to equip the saints to do the work of the ministry. Ephesians 5. We still need to go.
Am sorry to hear about your story Ruth. Isn't it weird to hear this yet Billy Graham was a man of integrity. I think it happens. He was right that he wished he could have spent a lot of time in prayer. Or maybe what he did. Needed to happen as the gospel was dying out and he revived it and he had so much power and energy in the gospel. God bless you and your father. You are both right. He was right to obey the call and you are right that you missed him that much. I just don't know how you can get fixed
People saw Billy Graham like some sort of wonderful evangelist pop star. They ignore that he abandoned his family and his children while building his career as an international preacher.
Hello, i am asking with a humble heart and spirit to pray for my 17-year-old son to forgive me and that God will capture his heart and he will have a forgiving heart. In Jesus' name, Amen, thank you, and God bless.
God created family first. Ruth is correct. Pastors old and new are forsaking their families for the church. It was wrong then, and it is wrong now. I appreciate Ruth's honesty. I would love for her brother Franklin to have the same honesty and integrity.
I like her honesty. Its not "religious" rules, regulations, traditions made by men, and groups. It's real. I think her being honest with herself, will help heal her, as she takes the truth to Christ, He shows her His truth, and by His stripes she is healed. Isaiah 53:5 King James.
That!s some wisdom about spiritual warfare! through forgiveness the Holy Spirit is invited in to the place that needs healing and had formerly been a place of dwelling for the enemy.
She said that sometimes 'pastors put ministry above family and it's "acceptable", but it's not'. If we're living according to God's Word, as we should, and one is called by God, as her father was, then why is it not acceptable. There is life beyond life here on earth. It's called eternity. There are eternal purposes for God to call some to do as Billy Graham did. I can't imagine the gospel spreading so quickly as it did if the Apostles had not put their ministry first. They each died for their dedication to it. We must learn to live for God's higher purpose, even if this present life may prove to be difficult. For her to say that, it seems she still doesn't get that. Jesus said in Luke 14:26-27: "Then said he unto him, A certain man made a great supper, and bade many: And sent his servant at supper time to say to them that were bidden, Come; for all things are now ready. And they all with one consent began to make excuse. The first said unto him, I have bought a piece of ground, and I must needs go and see it: I pray thee have me excused. And another said, I have bought five yoke of oxen, and I go to prove them: I pray thee have me excused. And another said, I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come. So that servant came, and shewed his lord these things. Then the master of the house being angry said to his servant, Go out quickly into the streets and lanes of the city, and bring in hither the poor, and the maimed, and the halt, and the blind. And the servant said, Lord, it is done as thou hast commanded, and yet there is room. And the lord said unto the servant, Go out into the highways and hedges, and compel them to come in, that my house may be filled. For I say unto you, That none of those men which were bidden shall taste of my supper. And there went great multitudes with him: and he turned, and said unto them, If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple."
@blackbarnfarm.. could the answer then be not to bring into the world what one can't cater for? Cos Paul mentioned that the single would be concerned about the things of God but the married about themselves..
@@heavenking5503 I think I understand what you mean by "cater for", but I'm not sure. I will say this, though, I know of a particular married couple, who have adopted 2 young boys, and just celebrated 35 years of ministry. He is one of the most godly men I've ever met, and his wife is so supportive and, when she can, goes with him in the ministry. They mostly do street ministry, passing out tracts and telling the gospel all over the country. They started and continue ministries in Africa and other countries, which he travels to, as well as to Israel. Their marriage is strong, and united in purpose. I believe with one heart for serving the Lord, it is most certainly possible for a marriage and for the children to be beautiful examples of how we are to live out our faith.
@@blackbarnfarm Thanks for the reply.. I believe as the Scriptures say that God is not the author of confusion..1Cor 14:33.. and since He's the author of marriage, we really shouldn't prohibit it.. 1Timothy 4:3, also He has said in His Word we should go preach the gospel.. Mark 16: 15-16, if we would wait on Him, not necessarily in fastings, but waiting more on His Word, He'll reveal the right way to go in ministry. I know many books have been written on this topic but it still seems like a mirage because each marriage has its own peculiarity. The LORD grant us more understanding, Amen!
Billy Graham was a mortal man and he may have felt he was doing what God wanted him to do. He chose to have children and probably should have been there for them. God is with him and his children so they are blessed.
Wow, so fantastic. I concur sister, it is unacceptable, as you said... somehow there must be a way! I greatly appreciated this. PS. What exactly does it mean to forgive ourselves? Sincerely asking...
She had the father I wish I had. Abandoned is what my father did. My father abandoned us,left never called and never provided. That's abandonment. SHE WAS NOT ABANDONED,HER DAD WAS WORKING LIKE MANY FATHER'S DO.
Robin Luich the point is that she FELT abandoned, from within herself as a child growing up. Now she had a wonderful mother in Ruth Bell Graham, who led the family so Billy could minister to the world. My dad died when I was five years old. I felt abandoned by him until I was 19 years old! I also had a fine mother, but a little girl needs her daddy. It was not my father’s choice to leave, but I still felt that void.
Dear Ruth, with deepest respect - I am a Roman Catholic convert with 3 protestant priests in our family. Could it be you are hearing a call to the Catholic faith? For example, forgiveness is a choice, but it is also a sacrament.
Matthew 10:37-39 "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me..." "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me.
Their are 3 things every human has to do in life grow up physically, spiritually, and emotionally, if your stuck on one of these then your walk with Jesus by your side isn’t 100%. Your journey called life is different for each person. You are blessed when Jesus is your savior!
This is considered CEN Childhood Emotional Neglect. It can happen even with a parent or both parents in the home. My mother was home but she was very negligent emotionally and physically. Also psychologically abusive. Some parents are negligent of their children because they never saw a healthy relationship. We heal when we forgive and stop blaming, it does not mean they did not have a responsibility to their children or before God as a parent. That is something they must deal with God about.
I had a miserable father(unsaved alcoholic and worse) and my mother was not right either. A lot of abuse in the family of 6 children. But I got saved through the Billy Graham ministry. And was able to minister to the whole family and now we r all saved. PTL!
@@songbird3649 That is wonderful! Sadly my toxic family is involved in church each to some degree. The most cruel ones are the most religious, I do not think they are saved as I have never seen any repentance love or humility. Only pride, arrogance and ripping others down to make themselves look more important. God sees their hearts but their actions would turn me away from God if I did not know him personally. I pray for them and stay away.
@@zaviahopethomas-woundedsou9848 "The most cruel ones are the religious" - My experience too and not sure why. Keep abiding in the Lord and may nothing separate you from his love.
@@zaviahopethomas-woundedsou9848 My heart goes out to you Sister"... Sounds like to me" Some people are PRE/ CROSS only"! they believe in JESUS Who was under the LAW! MATT 5V17. others"believe ... Post/ CROSS!... John 19v30. Our APOSTAL PAUL" PREACHED the finished " Work if the CROSS! ...My opinion "... Pre/ CROSS people.. Are meaner than hell" NO JOY NO peace NO HEAVEN. Please read GAL chap 1" Again" ( THE EARLY church didn't Know about the eventual CROSS"...They were about a KINGDOM message) Please read.... HEBREWS 9v14 again.. It tells about the blood.. That cleanses our consciences"... That we may serve the LIVING GOD😄 ..FYI"... 30 YRS AGO.. I BELONGED TO A CULT In San Francisco "... ..now I lead WORSHIP ..at a local RESCUE MISSION. ... GOD BLESS YOU...☺
PRAYING JESUS, HELP US RECEIVE YOUR COMPLETED GREAT WORKS, WISDOM AND WONDERS YOU HAVE PLANNED AND PURPOSED IN OUR PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIVES,,, JESUS HELP US TAKE YOU OFF THE POTTERS WHEEL AND STOP TRYING TO MAKE YOU THE GOD WE WANT,,, JESUS PLACE US ON THE ''POTTERS-WHEEL'' AND ALLOW YOU TO-SHAPE AND RE-SHAPE AND MAKE US THE VESSEL YOU HAVE INTENDED US TO BE, TO POUR INTO, TO FILL-TO OVERFLOW,,, JESUS TEACH US TO POUR OUT, ''RIGHT WHERE WE ARE'' YOUR BLOOD AND WATER THAT WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS, KNOWN AND UNKNOWN,,, JESUS ''IT SEEMS'' YOUR BLOOD AND WATER IS YOUR LOVE, YOUR FORGIVENESS, AND YOUR PRAYERS, HELP US BE YOUR ''VESSEL/SHIP'' OF SON-SHIP, FRIEND-SHIP, AND FELLOW-SHIP,,, JESUS WE RECEIVE YOUR ''PERSONAL/PROFESSIONAL REVIVAL'',,, I AMen
Your father reached millions and millions for Jesus Christ. God abandoned His one and only Son for the world. For you and me. That’s why Jesus said, unless you can carry my cross come and follow me. Why do we question especially knowing your father offered and promise to go where God wants him to go? You’re stopping the gospel to be preached? Is it you? Or the he who is in this world behind you?
JustnLisa You are in delusion. Jesus was never abandoned by the Father! Read the whole Psalm (22) Jesus references in His words from the Cross. It is a prophecy of God’s approval of the Son in every way and acceptance of His Self-offering. Calvinist “Penal Substitution” theory perverts the gospel to this day and it has infected the whole of Evangelicalism from the very beginning. As a result of its perverse vision of “God” in His “wrath”, thousands despair of the love of such a “God” and become atheists. So sad because Jesus is our perfect picture of the Father, and He taught us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us. He prayed for the forgiveness of those who crucified Him from the Cross after having taught that He uttered not a word except that which the Father gave Him to say. Christ is the Savior of the world and He never needed Billy Graham to accomplish this.
I am going to disagree with her on the idea that "emotions don't tell the truth". Sometimes they do! Emotions must be processed and if they are telling the truth, it must be heard! This in no way contradicts Scripture.
I think preachers miss the mark too while leaving their children for ministry because your family is your first ministry if you are a pastor, teacher, apostle, prophet or evangelist that travels outside of home. Work life balance is important!
The abuse, the drunken rages of my father, the drunken screaming of my mother in her sex acts with my father, us 3 girls could hear everything that went on, it scarred us for life, but after we were adults we never confronted our parents what we lived with as children? None of knew why we did not. I have not told all of what happened to us as three scared little girls, and as scared three teenaged girls. We buriedi t. We all have Jesus in our livesit, tried to forget the pain, the bad memories. Excuse the mistakes, emotions kicking in.
Forgiveness is amazing! I just wonder about the street kids (boys and girls) who never knew their Dad and forced to beg in the street. If not being abandoned, the kids were sold to prostitution after having used their kids as sex object and as cash cow to financed their substance addiction. She's talking about an absentee Dad whom she has to forgive!!!
My biological father was/is the LEAST of these. I wish I'd NEVER KNOWN the guy. I've heard the Graham children discuss this before. I WISH I'D HAD REV. BILLY GRAHAM FOR A Daddy❗❗❗ I've been saying that for around a quarter century💁
This is my life! Thank you, Ruth for speaking out about this. As a child, how could I argue that I was more important than God’s work? I now understand why I have gone from marriage to marriage, and my desire to be loved and feel loved has caused me to ignore the red flags. This one video opened up a door to my healing in God, thank you!
May God help my child to forgive me for all the pain I caused them, all the absence and not meeting their needs, promising and failing them, help me to forgive my dad for promising and not doing, help me to forgive others from my heart, and finally to forgive myself in Jesus might name, Brethren pray for me to encounter God in Jesus name.
Thank you for your honesty. I've seen ministers' kids who go through so many issues. As a PK, I grateful my parents chose us over ministry. I know my dad could have done so much more in the ministry, but he preferred to stay home with us. That helped us in our relationship with God But boy did he admire Billy Graham!
Billy Graham was and will forever be the messenger of "the Gospel" that changed the lives of millions of souls. Son's and daughter's of Billy Graham will forever live on. From North East India Nagaland.
So is there a way if I can't forget the damage consequences that my heart is bleeding from childhood abuse lifelong abuse what do I actually do when I continually feel anger towards the person that wounded me everytime I look at my circumstances the consequences
Thank you for the truth! Makes me tear up because people needed to hear what you went through. I feel broken after 2 failed marriages. Thanks for the comfort.
Erica Jones Yes like Derek Prince travelled around the world with first wife and 12 children, after she died he travelled with his second wife. And he taught an amazing teaching about the role of a man according to God's will. Here is an education about the role of a man by Derrek Prince What it means to be a man of God - ruclips.net/video/_5TGVflufSE/видео.html Husbands and fathers part 1 = ruclips.net/video/6eH_AKkJnSs/видео.html Husbands and fathers part 2 = ruclips.net/video/5r8tLUiCmTU/видео.html
Luke 14:26 "If you want to be my disciple you must by comparison hate everyone else-your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters- yes even your own life" .........Billy was being a true servant of The Lord.
I can relate because my father has been a godly man all his life but has emotionally abandoned me since birth. I have four siblings and can't speak for them. But for me I'm still working on forgiveness toward him. Thank you Ruth for your testimony.
I understand the emotion of these feelings, but I also recognize that these feelings affect the parent as well. One of my biggest regrets, as a father, is that it was very hard working long hours to meet all their preceivedneeds. Looking back I wish I would have spent more time with them. I justified my action, by telling myself, at least I made it possible for their mom to stay home. Thankfully my daughters hold no hard feelings. I just have to forgive myself. My final word to all soon to be or currently parents, make every effort to put God first, then your family. It is so hard in this country to do the right thing in our materialistic society and culture that puts families last. Perhaps we need a paradigm shift to occur in our false reality of what is truly important in life.
Richard Mooney Thank you for your transparency and sharing your revelatory wisdom. I wonder, have you shared this with your children? Do they understand what you've learned from hindsight?... Praise God that they didn't hold against you what you felt you had to do at the time. 🙇🏽♀️👀👂🏽👆🏽💞
I didn't like the bit where she said she had to forgive God. God knows best we will never understand why things happen the way they do, but we are created beings , not nice hearing she had to forgive God; such foolishness. God knows way better then us. Have mercy Lord; We love you Lord God. You know everything we know nothing without you. 💜🙏
Gina, what you're saying is accurate. However, please listen again to her testimony. She said forgiving God was not theologically correct. She mentions forgiving God, because she is being transparent, to what she felt a need to do. Truly, many people are bound up in unforgiveness and need to have a revelation, that they also, need to forgive God. It is when we choose to forgive Him, (if need be) that we then mature to the place you speak of, and HE gets all the glory for growing us up. HE already knows what is in our heart and what needs cleansing by the Holy blood ❣. ABBA FATHER, natures His Children with mercy, and He understands why His Child takes the road they take. HE forgives if we REPENT with a sincere 💝. May FATHER bless you, In the LOVE of YAHUSHA MESSIAH by His HOLY SPIRIT 🕊
Neither did I, that is blasphemy; God was not responsible for her choice of men nor her father was. She misused the greatest gift of all, that is the FREEDOM OF CHOICE/ FREE WILL that was given to mankind at creation; which Eve too chose to defy!
Ruth. I was just thinking of a preacher I knew that was so dedicated and always dwn at the church to help. ....... one day when the family was getting ready for church.... the son would not get ready. The son said. He hated the church and everything about it. The son said the church stole his dad from him... and he said he would never go to church again. It shocked the father/preacher.and he immediately went dwn to the congregation and said he would have to cut his time dwn at the church or he would lose his son to ever wanting to go. It helped.
My wife, born and raised in South East Asia, and her family became close friends with a missionary from New Zealand. A kind and Godly man. Long after we got married and settled in Australia, my wife made contact with the gentleman, kept in touch, and we eventually met him on a couple of occasions. On the final visit, not long before he died, we thought that his adult children would give him a glowing reference. They spoke of the burden of their mother, raising kids in a country town on her own for weeks at a time. Time after time. My wife and I were really taken by surprise by the deep hurt within the family. I hope Ruth Graham's message can be of assistance to families like this.
Jason Ayres As a former MK, I can say this is how it was for many. Everyone’s dad was off doing God‘s work, which conveniently also happened to mean he could just abdicate all family responsibilities.
For those condemning Billy Graham, I think it is important to remember that most of the generals who have gone before us may not have had the information we have today. Now we have a better opportunity to learn from their remarkable impact and also mistakes through the many platforms and channels available
I love her transparency and honesty! She’s going to help free so many people from denying the actuality of wounds in their hearts. God bless you sister Graham.
My mother was in the kitchen and my dad came in my room about 11:00 PM, woke me up when I was 10 years old and said "I'm leaving". I thought he was going to work because he had odd hours as a railroad engineer and I said "Ok, I love you and I'll see you when you come back". He said "No, I'm leaving". He did wait until my brother came home from a date. It was right before Christmas. He had a mistress waiting across town to drive to another city where he was working at and never came back. There are stories throughout the years, and I even tried to talk to him about this night, but was shut down. We did get to talk for many hours because he developed bone cancer and passed 4 years ago. When he passed though, I strangely had an emotional peace about the abandonment from that night and the following years, because I knew it could never be fixed and I let it go through God's help. I think I was trying all my life to "fix it" and there was no more reason to try to do that with him. I did have my Grandfather, that was an AMAZING man. My dad did find the Lord Jesus throughout the years, so I know he will have eternal life. I have forgiven him and I find a lot of peace from that. If I could tell my 10 year old self anything, I would tell myself not to define your life through anyone else but Christ. He will direct you and will never leave you nor forsake you.
This is heartbreaking but thank you for sharing 💜. I'm glad you've found peace through it all
Yes it is so hard to grow up with out that support of a father. My dad came back as an angel to save my child and grandchildren from a fire. My grandson told me later my dad had visited him in their new home. He said Papa told me he would always be with me. I said Jacob what does that mean then he said. He said i was a peacemaker. My dad would be his guardian angel. He also told him he wished he had stayed with my mother and my family. Divorce is never easy. He came back from the grave to apologize for leaving. Love your parents for we all make mistakes. None are perfect we are all born with a flaw.
Hallelujah and AMEN😇
HolyLand Fan I have a very similar story, thanks for sharing. It helps to know others have been through similar things.
HolyLand Fan thank you for sharing. Many will be blessed by your story.
So bold - speaking of and recognizing her little girl heart. It’s not as much about her dad as it was her heart needs.
I appreciate her openness and transparency. God created the family first.
We have been with Ruth as she shared her journey, and there were few dry eyes as she told of her own struggles and missteps. We have all had our own battles and learning experiences. Praise the Lord for His gentle kindness and mercy toward us!!! This is a humble, sweet woman! We loved hearing her share.
Military kids go thru this too. Our dads are gone a lot and we just went on with our lives with our moms, siblings and friends. We moved on average of every 3 years.
Very good and honest interview. Very well spoken by Ruth Graham. Respect her boldness to share something very true that I am sure someone can relate to and receive healing from. I am sure the book will be a good read.
If I don't get married God will still remain God. Society is just focused on me, myself, I.
Cuz society has SWALLOWED THE HUMANISTIC , satanic mantra " to Thy OWN SELF BE TRUE!" very sad!!
om..God !!
this was incredibly relatable
incredibly poignant
incredibly needed
incredibly honest
incredibly refreshing
God knows what He's telling those who choose to serve Him when He says..
COUNT THE COST!!!
the anointing isn't cheap!
This short interview brought tears to my eyes. Too many little girls' hearts are broken and they don't mend and this affects all their relationships. 😢💔
I can understand. But, I usually went with Daddy everywhere he went for a long time. But there were MANY times being a PK left me and my needs unnoticed, more because my Mother shielded Daddy from us kids over several years when he was too busy to slow down and recognize while he built a church building and ministered to others, his own kids were so in need for a Father and a Pastor. Those wounds have impacted us in m9re ways than we could have ever imagined.
I dearly love my parents, and the time for picking at scars is passed. Daddy has been promoted to Papa, and though many people call him that, I know I was his first child and tell him so occasion, just to keep the record straight.
I was married to a man whose father was a minister and put that before his kids which took its toll on him. Conversely my father was also a minister but never put us 2nd which made all the difference. I get this SO much! Thank you for sharing your story Sister Graham!
Thank you for sharing this. Thank Ruth for sharing her story. It truly is comforting to hear such a testimony. It is also wonderful to see how Ruth models and keeps honor and dignity towards her father but is still honest about her pain. Thank you and God bless you dearly Ruth. In Jesus name, Amen x
Thank you for your honesty and bravery!! So many people want to tell us "you should be grateful for ...." Yes we should be grateful, but that does not mean that the hurt did not happen. Forgiveness is wonderful. Your message is powerful.
Love the Graham family & Ruth! She’s honest! It’s so important that she is sharing the message of the importance of fathers & pastors be there for their families first and foremost! This is in God’s will! Fathers be there for your children!
I have abandonment issues and my dad lived in the same house, just never knew him.
So sad for you. Ever think he might have gone through the same thing with his father? History repeats itself. Now you have a heavenly father to look after you. Just remember God loves you. Love your father if he still alive though. Someday you will understand why. We are looking through a dark glass trying to see the other side.
RL Edwards amen! Romans 8:28
Join the club. Same here
I can relate to abandonment. It is still a struggle I have to seek Jesus as my father. Since I didn't have a father, I don't naturally trust God in that way. It's been a total disaster in my past relationships and still affects my marriage but thankfully I know the truth about why I am the way I am and just need to keep pushing for healing. Its never too late.
I wish I'd NEVER known what I had👎👎
The flesh is always a battle. Know that so you understand that Gods purpose is above what man wants.
Disagree in fact 1 timothy 5:8 its says the man who doesnt take care of his own is a infidel....children and wives need more than daddies paycheck
Thank you very much Ruth Graham for your honest and vulnerable sharing of your heart. While admiring, loving and respecting your dad, I have often wondered how life was for you kids. I think you’ll never know how many you have helped by sharing. You’ve touched my heart.
A lovely lady and an inspiration to many people 🙏❣️
Ty for sharing this, my parent's were divorced before I began elementary school, and I was abandoned by him and searched for that relationship ( in all the wrong ways) most of my life, then I met my heavenly Father through Jesus and I am no longer abandoned.
Penny Milligan beautiful testimony ❤️
I love that I have a purpose in God. When we discover our relationship is with God then all our decisions are a reflection of what he is teaching us. We have family and I know that when we put things into perspective we can understand how it goes when every situation presents itself. Never think you bow down to anything dsyfunctional but you must give it the grace it so needs. So dont make it worse by doing the same badness over and over. Change or atleast leave it until the time is right. Patience and being good are just a few valuable tools we have it make it the best it can be.
Fathers are SO important to their families!! Please, wives, encourage your husbands to be all they need to be!!
Nunya Bizness better yet, pray for them to be all God wants them to be ☺️
Many of us have been abandoned...fathers in the military is a big one. My dad was there...in his body; Emotionally he was long gone. The war killed his spirit even though he was a believer.
Thank you. I’m dealing with many disappointments.
It's so important to deal with them, not just denie and burry them. We are allowed to lay them in front of God for to receive his healing at the right time.
I think disappointment fits this more than blame.
Awe ❤❤ how interesting as a mom of 4 unmarried, knowing the calling on my life of ministry especially for woman & mothers and hopefully directily having a positive impact on there children,and I'll be stepping into that role very soon , however God bless social media and the internet because for now as a mom I know that's where I'm called to, to hopefully reach as many hurting woman as humanly possible from home!! For someone who has never had the opportunity to travel, I know the opportunities will arise & I WILL remember this and Thankyou Ruth!!! It took Alot of courage to share your experience but like always God turns it around for our good to help someone out!!!
Wow the first few minutes of this really helped me. Society tells us that women who grow up without fathers look for love in men. Like Ruth I grew up as a preachers kid although my dad isn’t famous but like Ruth I struggled looking for love( never married though ) goes to show this feeling can happen to anyone.
Wow! This was an eye opener for me!
Thanks for your honesty
Imagine having Billy Graham as a father and feeling the need to forgive him. It’s hard to fathom.
Thank you...this needed to be said.
Parents FIRST ministry is their family. Thats the ministry to lead, disciple and train and that is love, attention to children. Their is a time for everything, one just needs to learn how to administer their time before God. When we recgonize that our family IS OUR FIRST MINISTRY , and we do it for God, that Glorfiys Him.
Wow I truly appreciate her honesty. I think it can be really difficult to be honest with others as a Christian because we are trying to honor our parents, our spouses, not gossip etc. we should definitely treat people with respect, but we need to be honest about our pain. Yes, when parents fail to practically love their kids it creates a deep soul wound in them. It can be forgiven and the relationship can be restored if broken. But often there is very real pain for the child (looking for love in the wrong places, workaholism to feel secure). This is a very important topic-we need to strengthen the family rather than fostering childhood wounds that require more Christian ministry/counseling. A lot of soul wounds can be prevented.
I can see exactly what she's talking about. You wonder where is the plan we hear GOD has for us all. I lately have been looking over the past ten yrs. DONT SEE THE PLAN! STILL I LOVE THE LORD AND TRUST HIS DECISIONS!!!!!
We can't find perfect father or mother ..ONLY the Father in Heaven is perfect father ..He never leave us nor forsake us ..Always with us ..
We all make mistakes. We all commit sins. But God still forgives us. He still loves us despite all our mistakes. We only have to admit that we are sinners, we have to repent our sins and ask Jesus to be our Lord and Savior, we have to do this FROM OUR HEARTS. And God will changed us. He will give you peace and joy that comes from God.
Me too I went through about that same life Ruth God blessed me later we still make mistakes 😇. Sometimes we do the right thing than Wham! Something you did or not your fault but when faced with adversity. Get back up.
Thank you very much Ruth, so true!
Evangelists are actually to equip the body and they do the work of the ministry. Billy Graham had to fill a void at a time. If we all evangelized where we are and more people were equipped, then many wouldn’t have to go as far and not as long. The focus needs to be on equipping for evangelists as the Bible says. 5 fold given to equip the saints to do the work of the ministry. Ephesians 5. We still need to go.
Amen!
Great point!
At 6:00 - exactly what helped with my relationship with my mother. I'm sure it will work with my father too
Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏🏻❤️
Am sorry to hear about your story Ruth. Isn't it weird to hear this yet Billy Graham was a man of integrity. I think it happens. He was right that he wished he could have spent a lot of time in prayer. Or maybe what he did. Needed to happen as the gospel was dying out and he revived it and he had so much power and energy in the gospel. God bless you and your father. You are both right. He was right to obey the call and you are right that you missed him that much. I just don't know how you can get fixed
I once heard “Jesus is the answer but what’s the question”? Fits what she is saying.
God’s word is perfect and He never calls us to obey in one area that causes us to disobey in another area.
People saw Billy Graham like some sort of wonderful evangelist pop star. They ignore that he abandoned his family and his children while building his career as an international preacher.
Hello, i am asking with a humble heart and spirit to pray for my 17-year-old son to forgive me and that God will capture his heart and he will have a forgiving heart. In Jesus' name, Amen, thank you, and God bless.
Good for her. This is her truth.
Humans are imperfect Billy Graham too.I trust God.
God created family first. Ruth is correct. Pastors old and new are forsaking their families for the church. It was wrong then, and it is wrong now. I appreciate Ruth's honesty. I would love for her brother Franklin to have the same honesty and integrity.
I like her honesty. Its not "religious" rules, regulations, traditions made by men, and groups. It's real. I think her being honest with herself, will help heal her, as she takes the truth to Christ, He shows her His truth, and by His stripes she is healed. Isaiah 53:5 King James.
Short message but powerful!
Jesus first family second, ministry third.
That!s some wisdom about spiritual warfare! through forgiveness the Holy Spirit is invited in to the place that needs healing and had formerly been a place of dwelling for the enemy.
She said that sometimes 'pastors put ministry above family and it's "acceptable", but it's not'. If we're living according to God's Word, as we should, and one is called by God, as her father was, then why is it not acceptable. There is life beyond life here on earth. It's called eternity. There are eternal purposes for God to call some to do as Billy Graham did. I can't imagine the gospel spreading so quickly as it did if the Apostles had not put their ministry first. They each died for their dedication to it. We must learn to live for God's higher purpose, even if this present life may prove to be difficult. For her to say that, it seems she still doesn't get that.
Jesus said in Luke 14:26-27: "Then said he unto him, A certain man made a great supper, and bade many: And sent his servant at supper time to say to them that were bidden, Come; for all things are now ready. And they all with one consent began to make excuse. The first said unto him, I have bought a piece of ground, and I must needs go and see it: I pray thee have me excused. And another said, I have bought five yoke of oxen, and I go to prove them: I pray thee have me excused. And another said, I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come. So that servant came, and shewed his lord these things. Then the master of the house being angry said to his servant, Go out quickly into the streets and lanes of the city, and bring in hither the poor, and the maimed, and the halt, and the blind. And the servant said, Lord, it is done as thou hast commanded, and yet there is room. And the lord said unto the servant, Go out into the highways and hedges, and compel them to come in, that my house may be filled. For I say unto you, That none of those men which were bidden shall taste of my supper. And there went great multitudes with him: and he turned, and said unto them, If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple."
@blackbarnfarm.. could the answer then be not to bring into the world what one can't cater for? Cos Paul mentioned that the single would be concerned about the things of God but the married about themselves..
@@heavenking5503 I think I understand what you mean by "cater for", but I'm not sure. I will say this, though, I know of a particular married couple, who have adopted 2 young boys, and just celebrated 35 years of ministry. He is one of the most godly men I've ever met, and his wife is so supportive and, when she can, goes with him in the ministry. They mostly do street ministry, passing out tracts and telling the gospel all over the country. They started and continue ministries in Africa and other countries, which he travels to, as well as to Israel. Their marriage is strong, and united in purpose. I believe with one heart for serving the Lord, it is most certainly possible for a marriage and for the children to be beautiful examples of how we are to live out our faith.
@@blackbarnfarm Thanks for the reply.. I believe as the Scriptures say that God is not the author of confusion..1Cor 14:33.. and since He's the author of marriage, we really shouldn't prohibit it.. 1Timothy 4:3, also He has said in His Word we should go preach the gospel.. Mark 16: 15-16, if we would wait on Him, not necessarily in fastings, but waiting more on His Word, He'll reveal the right way to go in ministry. I know many books have been written on this topic but it still seems like a mirage because each marriage has its own peculiarity. The LORD grant us more understanding, Amen!
Billy Graham was a mortal man and he may have felt he was doing what God wanted him to do. He chose to have children and probably should have been there for them. God is with him and his children so they are blessed.
Four marriages, she is human and FLAWED-aren’t we all?
Jasmine Nahigian-Channing
Wow, so fantastic. I concur sister, it is unacceptable, as you said... somehow there must be a way!
I greatly appreciated this.
PS. What exactly does it mean to forgive ourselves? Sincerely asking...
She had the father I wish I had.
Abandoned is what my father did. My father abandoned us,left never called and never provided. That's abandonment. SHE WAS NOT ABANDONED,HER DAD WAS WORKING LIKE MANY FATHER'S DO.
Robin Luich the point is that she FELT abandoned, from within herself as a child growing up. Now she had a wonderful mother in Ruth Bell Graham, who led the family so Billy could minister to the world. My dad died when I was five years old. I felt abandoned by him until I was 19 years old! I also had a fine mother, but a little girl needs her daddy. It was not my father’s choice to leave, but I still felt that void.
Great book.. Seems she talk about myself..
Story of my life.
Dear Ruth, with deepest respect - I am a Roman Catholic convert with 3 protestant priests in our family. Could it be you are hearing a call to the Catholic faith? For example, forgiveness is a choice, but it is also a sacrament.
I forgive myself
Matthew 10:37-39 "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me..." "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me.
Their are 3 things every human has to do in life grow up physically, spiritually, and emotionally, if your stuck on one of these then your walk with Jesus by your side isn’t 100%. Your journey called life is different for each person. You are blessed when Jesus is your savior!
Richard Jordan or John Verstegen San Juan Capistrano,Ca teaches Gospel of Grace!! ♡
Scripturly we are love GOD more than family Mathew 10:37
This is considered CEN Childhood Emotional Neglect. It can happen even with a parent or both parents in the home. My mother was home but she was very negligent emotionally and physically. Also psychologically abusive. Some parents are negligent of their children because they never saw a healthy relationship. We heal when we forgive and stop blaming, it does not mean they did not have a responsibility to their children or before God as a parent. That is something they must deal with God about.
I had a miserable father(unsaved alcoholic and worse) and my mother was not right either. A lot of abuse in the family of 6 children. But I got saved through
the Billy Graham ministry. And was able to minister to the whole family and now we r all saved. PTL!
@@songbird3649 That is wonderful! Sadly my toxic family is involved in church each to some degree. The most cruel ones are the most religious, I do not think they are saved as I have never seen any repentance love or humility. Only pride, arrogance and ripping others down to make themselves look more important. God sees their hearts but their actions would turn me away from God if I did not know him personally.
I pray for them and stay away.
@@zaviahopethomas-woundedsou9848 "The most cruel ones are the religious" - My experience too and not sure why. Keep abiding in the Lord and may nothing separate you from his love.
@@zaviahopethomas-woundedsou9848
My heart goes out to you
Sister"...
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Who was under the LAW!
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That we may serve the
LIVING GOD😄
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@@ogpeta7819 I agree!
The Bible states that we are to put God before EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE.
PRAYING JESUS, HELP US RECEIVE YOUR COMPLETED GREAT WORKS, WISDOM AND WONDERS YOU HAVE PLANNED AND PURPOSED IN OUR PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIVES,,, JESUS HELP US TAKE YOU OFF THE POTTERS WHEEL AND STOP TRYING TO MAKE YOU THE GOD WE WANT,,, JESUS PLACE US ON THE ''POTTERS-WHEEL'' AND ALLOW YOU TO-SHAPE AND RE-SHAPE AND MAKE US THE VESSEL YOU HAVE INTENDED US TO BE, TO POUR INTO, TO FILL-TO OVERFLOW,,, JESUS TEACH US TO POUR OUT, ''RIGHT WHERE WE ARE'' YOUR BLOOD AND WATER THAT WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS, KNOWN AND UNKNOWN,,, JESUS ''IT SEEMS'' YOUR BLOOD AND WATER IS YOUR LOVE, YOUR FORGIVENESS, AND YOUR PRAYERS, HELP US BE YOUR ''VESSEL/SHIP'' OF SON-SHIP, FRIEND-SHIP, AND FELLOW-SHIP,,, JESUS WE RECEIVE YOUR ''PERSONAL/PROFESSIONAL REVIVAL'',,, I AMen
Your father reached millions and millions for Jesus Christ. God abandoned His one and only Son for the world. For you and me. That’s why Jesus said, unless you can carry my cross come and follow me. Why do we question especially knowing your father offered and promise to go where God wants him to go? You’re stopping the gospel to be preached? Is it you? Or the he who is in this world behind you?
JustnLisa You are in delusion. Jesus was never abandoned by the Father! Read the whole Psalm (22) Jesus references in His words from the Cross. It is a prophecy of God’s approval of the Son in every way and acceptance of His Self-offering. Calvinist “Penal Substitution” theory perverts the gospel to this day and it has infected the whole of Evangelicalism from the very beginning. As a result of its perverse vision of “God” in His “wrath”, thousands despair of the love of such a “God” and become atheists. So sad because Jesus is our perfect picture of the Father, and He taught us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us. He prayed for the forgiveness of those who crucified Him from the Cross after having taught that He uttered not a word except that which the Father gave Him to say. Christ is the Savior of the world and He never needed Billy Graham to accomplish this.
I am going to disagree with her on the idea that "emotions don't tell the truth". Sometimes they do! Emotions must be processed and if they are telling the truth, it must be heard! This in no way contradicts Scripture.
I think preachers miss the mark too while leaving their children for ministry because your family is your first ministry if you are a pastor, teacher, apostle, prophet or evangelist that travels outside of home. Work life balance is important!
Does God makes mistakes so you can forgive him?🤔God never sins..it we need his forgiveness..
The abuse, the drunken rages of my father, the drunken screaming of my mother in her sex acts with my father, us 3 girls could hear everything that went on, it scarred us for life, but after we were adults we never confronted our parents what we lived with as children? None of knew why we did not. I have not told all of what happened to us as three scared little girls, and as scared three teenaged girls. We buriedi t. We all have Jesus in our livesit, tried to forget the pain, the bad memories. Excuse the mistakes, emotions kicking in.
Judge not lest ye be judged
Forgiveness is amazing! I just wonder about the street kids (boys and girls) who never knew their Dad and forced to beg in the street. If not being abandoned, the kids were sold to prostitution after having used their kids as sex object and as cash cow to financed their substance addiction. She's talking about an absentee Dad whom she has to forgive!!!
The FIRST duty of all pastors are to LEAD & DISCIPLE their OWN wives and children in Christ!
My biological father was/is the LEAST of these. I wish I'd NEVER KNOWN the guy. I've heard the Graham children discuss this before. I WISH I'D HAD REV. BILLY GRAHAM FOR A Daddy❗❗❗ I've been saying that for around a quarter century💁
4 marriages? Never knew that...
John Froelich I have an aunt that’s been married four times...
@@ladyhathor2499 yeah and if i met her i would run...
John Froelich 😂😂😂
How come little kids feels abandoned....?? It's adult staff
She's a beautiful witness to deep honesty. She's a credit to the Graham name. The Lord is so good to us. May the Lord bless her and hers abundantly.
How many children wanted their parents when the parents went off doing what they thought was best? I think many share in her abandonment issues.
Yep. Not just a 'ministry' issue.
All my parents did was work...lonely
@John Days did not say i wasnt grateful
God is first. The 12 left all...
@John Days oh shut up pleeeze
This is my life! Thank you, Ruth for speaking out about this. As a child, how could I argue that I was more important than God’s work? I now understand why I have gone from marriage to marriage, and my desire to be loved and feel loved has caused me to ignore the red flags. This one video opened up a door to my healing in God, thank you!
May God help my child to forgive me for all the pain I caused them, all the absence and not meeting their needs, promising and failing them, help me to forgive my dad for promising and not doing, help me to forgive others from my heart, and finally to forgive myself in Jesus might name,
Brethren pray for me to encounter God in Jesus name.
I wish all parents could have this heart. To acknowledge the wrong they did to their kids
Forgiveness is more then a decision; it is a process that has to be done many times over.
"emotions don't tell the truth.......The scriptures tell the truth." Love that point! So true.
delancye12 Absolutely!
Ya in the King James Bible NOT the plethora of apostate Alexandrian \ Catholic Westcott and Hort Bible per Versions ...
Bruce Dressel True. Which is why they are trying to do away with the KJV.
Thank you for your honesty. I've seen ministers' kids who go through so many issues. As a PK, I grateful my parents chose us over ministry. I know my dad could have done so much more in the ministry, but he preferred to stay home with us. That helped us in our relationship with God But boy did he admire Billy Graham!
Billy Graham was and will forever be the messenger of "the Gospel" that changed the lives of millions of souls. Son's and daughter's of Billy Graham will forever live on. From North East India Nagaland.
Amen and amen
Praise God for her HONESTY!!!😘
Amen!
Amen! I need this honesty.
True freedom can only be found in forgiveness.
So is there a way if I can't forget the damage consequences that my heart is bleeding from childhood abuse lifelong abuse what do I actually do when I continually feel anger towards the person that wounded me everytime I look at my circumstances the consequences
Amen ❤
The phrase: “Nobody’s perfect!”, takes on a new meaning... wow! Just wow!! JESUS WAS AND IS: PERFECT IN ALL OF HIS WAYS🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for the truth! Makes me tear up because people needed to hear what you went through. I feel broken after 2 failed marriages. Thanks for the comfort.
I think he should have traveled with his family.
Erica Jones Yes like Derek Prince travelled around the world with first wife and 12 children, after she died he travelled with his second wife. And he taught an amazing teaching about the role of a man according to God's will. Here is an education about the role of a man by Derrek Prince
What it means to be a man of God - ruclips.net/video/_5TGVflufSE/видео.html
Husbands and fathers part 1 = ruclips.net/video/6eH_AKkJnSs/видео.html
Husbands and fathers part 2 = ruclips.net/video/5r8tLUiCmTU/видео.html
Sunshine Baker
The Bible does not say that is the role of a man. If men think that way, they are not getting it from God.
Luke 14:26
"If you want to be my disciple you must by comparison hate everyone else-your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters- yes even your own life"
.........Billy was being a true servant of The Lord.
I can relate because my father has been a godly man all his life but has emotionally abandoned me since birth. I have four siblings and can't speak for them. But for me I'm still working on forgiveness toward him. Thank you Ruth for your testimony.
Gracefully done!
I acknowledged my [mistakes] to You…and You forgave [them].
Psalm 32:5
I understand the emotion of these feelings, but I also recognize that these feelings affect the parent as well. One of my biggest regrets, as a father, is that it was very hard working long hours to meet all their preceivedneeds. Looking back I wish I would have spent more time with them. I justified my action, by telling myself, at least I made it possible for their mom to stay home. Thankfully my daughters hold no hard feelings. I just have to forgive myself. My final word to all soon to be or currently parents, make every effort to put God first, then your family. It is so hard in this country to do the right thing in our materialistic society and culture that puts families last. Perhaps we need a paradigm shift to occur in our false reality of what is truly important in life.
Richard Mooney
Thank you for your transparency and sharing your revelatory wisdom. I wonder, have you shared this with your children? Do they understand what you've learned from hindsight?... Praise God that they didn't hold against you what you felt you had to do at the time.
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@@holyroyalprincess no worry they now understand how hard is to provide for a family, especially now they are parents. 🤗
@@richardmooney7948
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That will do it!!!
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Well said!!!👏
Amen. Help with your childrens children.
I didn't like the bit where she said she had to forgive God. God knows best we will never understand why things happen the way they do, but we are created beings , not nice hearing she had to forgive God; such foolishness. God knows way better then us. Have mercy Lord; We love you Lord God. You know everything we know nothing without you. 💜🙏
Gina, what you're saying is accurate.
However, please listen again to her testimony. She said forgiving God was not theologically correct.
She mentions forgiving God, because she is being transparent, to what she felt a need to do.
Truly, many people are bound up in unforgiveness and need to have a revelation, that they also, need to forgive God.
It is when we choose to forgive Him, (if need be) that we then mature to the place you speak of, and HE gets all the glory for growing us up. HE already knows what is in our heart and what needs cleansing by the Holy blood ❣.
ABBA FATHER, natures His Children with mercy, and He understands why His Child takes the road they take. HE forgives if we REPENT with a sincere 💝.
May FATHER bless you,
In the LOVE of YAHUSHA MESSIAH by His HOLY SPIRIT 🕊
@@TriumphantInChrist1 Thank you. I think I know what you mean 🙏
Neither did I, that is blasphemy; God was not responsible for her choice of men nor her father was. She misused the greatest gift of all, that is the FREEDOM OF CHOICE/ FREE WILL that was given to mankind at creation; which Eve too chose to defy!
She meant she had to come to grips that she was mad at God for not making her life the way she would have liked.
Ruth. I was just thinking of a preacher I knew that was so dedicated and always dwn at the church to help. ....... one day when the family was getting ready for church.... the son would not get ready. The son said. He hated the church and everything about it. The son said the church stole his dad from him... and he said he would never go to church again. It shocked the father/preacher.and he immediately went dwn to the congregation and said he would have to cut his time dwn at the church or he would lose his son to ever wanting to go. It helped.
My wife, born and raised in South East Asia, and her family became close friends with a missionary from New Zealand. A kind and Godly man.
Long after we got married and settled in Australia, my wife made contact with the gentleman, kept in touch, and we eventually met him on a couple of occasions.
On the final visit, not long before he died, we thought that his adult children would give him a glowing reference.
They spoke of the burden of their mother, raising kids in a country town on her own for weeks at a time. Time after time.
My wife and I were really taken by surprise by the deep hurt within the family.
I hope Ruth Graham's message can be of assistance to families like this.
Jason Ayres As a former MK, I can say this is how it was for many. Everyone’s dad was off doing God‘s work, which conveniently also happened to mean he could just abdicate all family responsibilities.